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the tradwife movement is the same as it has always been - back in the kitchen, back to breeding - it just has better branding.
when i was younger, i hated pink. i was not like other girls. this is now something i'm embarrassed of - this was not me being a "girl's girl."
but it was expressing something many of us felt at the time: i literally wasn't what girlhood was supposed to be. this is a hard thing to explain, but you know when you're not performing girlhood correctly. it isn't as easy as "i liked x when girls liked y" - because there were other girls that liked x, too - but i never figured out exactly the correct way to like x, or to be interested in y.
now there is the divine feminine. this is the same rhetoric it has always been: women are biologically driven to like pink and ribbons and submitting to our husbands.
the problem is that the patriarchy found a better PR team. because yes, actually, i want every woman to have the choice to be a homemaker. i also want her taken seriously for her legitimate home-making labor. i want her to be recognized as also having a job, just unpaid. i want men to have this opportunity, too.
but it is no longer "i made this choice and I love it." instead it is a sixteen-paragraph rant about how selfish it is that my generation isn't having kids. instead it's long videos about how if you feed your children processed foods, you're going to kill them. instead it is "this is what womanhood is supposed to be. i feel bad for any other choices you're making."
the shame spiral is just prettier. it is large houses devoid of personality. it is the implication: if you don't have this, you aren't happy. the solid, everlasting assurance: women are actually supposed to be submitting. this is the default. this is the natural state of things. all other attempts inflict suffering.
but you can no longer say i'm not like other girls. you can no longer reject this image completely. you cannot find it revolting, even if you know that the underbelly is toxic and festering. sure, it is the same repackaged patriarchy. but the internet does not have shades of grey. you should support and reward other women! your disgust is actually internalized misogyny. not because you are seeing a vision of yourself the way they're trying to train you to be. not because you feel her ghost pass within an inch of your earlobe. not because your father will eventually ask you - why can't you be like her?
because they figured out how to make it beautiful: women will sell other women on this idea, and we will find the singular loophole in feminism. sure, she's shaming you in most of her videos. sure, she implies that a different life is obscene. but she just wants you to be happy! you'd be happier if you were listening!
and the whole time you're sitting there thinking: i'd actually just be happier if i had that kind of money.
#spilled ink#writeblr#warm up#this is an incredibly difficult idea to express#but i basically keep watching the same timelooped interaction:#someone makes tradwife content where she's like ''i think it's SO sad when ppl don't have kids EW''#and then the response is ''... go fuck yourself? i think ur life is miserable and bad ?"#and instead of being like ''oh we are all under capitalism huh''#the response is like ''you CANT say that. she made a CHOICE. she is ALLOWED to have KIDS and be HAPPY#unlike YOU who is UNHAPPY bc you don't have KIDS.''#like .... these are people who will throw the first stone. and then when you lob one back#they ask why you're so violent. they tell you that you're a bad activist.#and you're like. PARDON????? you implied being a woman meant i need to submit to my husband???#and they're like - well it's just my belief. so what if i'm invalidating your entire identity.
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THE GOOD PLACE (2016-2020)
4.06 — A Chip Driver Mystery
#michael realman#bad janet#the good place#tgp#tgpedit#thegoodplaceedit#sitcomedit#tvedit#*#WLECOME TO MY FIRST SET USING MY NEW LAPTOPZPZLXLX I CANT TELL IF IT'S OKAYY!!! THE COLORING IS WEIRD ON MY LAPTOP AHHH AND THE SHARPENING#IDKKKKK#and dude WHERE are my good place ppl at. WHERE ARE U ALL HIDING#myedit
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death is insane. wdym i’ll never see my grandmother again
#she’s in her chair in the den cant nobody tell me nothing ok#death tw#grief#what’s this house without my grandmother in it? (all the people she left behind)#i cried this morning while eating grits she taught my mother how to make. love is so big when i think of it like that#i thought i heard her walker clack in the hallway last night.#she wears glasses & we have to decide where to keep them#grief is so strange#i can’t keep crying by myself (i’ll be crying for the rest of my life)#love is carrying on. i think.
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silly comic based on a time i struggled to read live on stream :thumbsup:
context clip compilation below ASDASDFASA
(cw for brief mention of hospitals/strokes)
#in stars and time#isat#isat odile#isat siffrin#isat spoilers#<- not big ones but the convo this stems from occurs on 3rd floor before king act 2 so#cw hospital#cw stroke#<- brief stroke talk in the clip thats why#odile i am so sorry for making u deal with the fact that i cant read#or just input words?? where there arent any??? i dont know why i do that????#these streams have made me realize i sometimes just autofill words when reading SAFADDA#also random side headcanon i was thinking of while drawing this#is odile speaks alot with her hands?#idk why i just think its fun?#and kinda makes sense as someone who has travelled a lot thru different countries?#personal observation but you can convey/tell a lot without knowing a much of a different language via body language#as someone who grew up with family who spoke a different language that i do not speak LMAO#especially hands!! those say a lot!!#reading body langauge/tone helped me a lot when guessing if what was being talked about a good thing or not#tho tone to a lesser extent since uh it can be hard to tell at times i think ASDFDA#so it makes sense to me???#the art of pointing in general location is a universal skill i think?? yea#to a lesser extent i think siffrin might do this? but more subdued/under the cloak so#the cloak ends up getting in the way 90% of the time so no one can actually see that lmao#okay tag talk over#no stream time today because weather boooooo storms
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(nature au) you said that while dale dislikes dev using a cane in the house he doesn’t really care too much, but what if dev used a cane in public? i can’t imagine dale would be okay with that at all. he’d be pissed, like confiscate the cane kind of pissed
Originally the gag here was just going to be Dev clinging onto his dads arm for dear life while he shivers like a chihuahua but he is just. So small.. I couldnt get it to look reasonable
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#The horror of putting Dev in a situation where he would 100% be wearing his sunglasses#Like NOOO the perfectly construction expression of horror I was going to give him#fop nature au#fop#fairly oddparents#fop a new wish#fairly oddparents a new wish#fop dev#dev dimmadome#dale dimmadome#fop dale#fop peri#art#digital art#fanart#I cant tell if I got the tone right with this one#Theres a very careful balance I try to strike with comedy vs horror and Im not sure if I got it#I also try to keep a sort of balance when depicting characters that are just straight up awful#I dont like depicting characters as cartoonishly evil but I also dont want to make him seem overly sympathetic#or like he's 'deep down a good person' because he's straight up not#He's awful and selfish. What he's done to his son makes him deeply uncomfortable with himself#but that discomfort means absolutely nothing when he refuses to change or become a better person#and he does refuse to change. changing is hard#he still keeps hurting Dev at every turn and maybe to tries to justify it to himself as being for Devs own good#but regardless he is still refusing to listen to him and hurting him even more in the process#idk im rambling#I like to keep the abuse balanced out with these nothing little concessions on Dales part#tbh even this concession didnt come from the good of his heart he just wanted to avoid making a scene#also because the visual of Dale deciding CARRYING him everywhere is better than just letting him have his cane is very funny to me
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VERLAINEEEE as promised
#HE IS SO BEAUTIFUL WHAT THE FUCK😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭#YALL SEE WHERE CHUUYA GETS THE GENES FROM????????#BEAUTIFUL ELEGANT ETHEREAL TRAGIC SAD GAY FRENCHMAN#I CANT BELIEVE THERES PPL WHO DONT LIKE HIM WTF#PPL WHO DONT LIKE VERLAINE ARE EMBRASSING...........KEEP THAT TO URSELF😐#im actually so insane im im im im#i actually found a new brush and i've been absuing yf out of it if u couldnt tell the colorings a little different#anyway yea#bungou stray dogs#bungo stray dogs#bsd#bsd verlaine#verlaine bsd#stormbringer#bsd stormbringer#lotus draws
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Cang Qiong's No. 1 Scheming Worsties <3
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#my sister and I had to argue on whether or not sqq should put his hand at sqhs face#we settled on sqh having his hand by sqqs hair#inspired by the fic where cucumber kabedons the hamhua#i cant remember what fic it was#but THAT SCENE !!!#anyway someone PLEASE tell me about cumplane fics#shang qinghua#shen qingqiu#cumplane#svsss#scum villian self saving system#mxtx#my art
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MAJOR BOOK OF BILL SPOILERS‼️‼️
will say! reading this gave me a harsh reminder to how fucking scary bill can be.
#magic ramble shit#my fav part of the book fr#tell me why i felt a pit in my stomach reading the part where he couldnt even remember his own name#ford said ‘you cant control me!!!’ and it got bill all kinds of fucked up#gravity falls#the book of bill spoilers#the book of bill#book of bill#bill cipher#stanford pines
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Garrus' interactions with Shepard post-Thessia are so fucking well written. Everyone else is telling Shepard they're sorry or doing a soft sad voice asking if she's okay but Garrus has this moving little speech about how losing a fight isn't the end of the war and I just. He's so fucking good. He knows what Shepard needs to hear and has the experience to back up the things he says. He's so good to her
#post-thessia is sooooooooo fucking devastating#Shepard's stress is so high all her friends are trying to crack through the soldier to get to the woman to make sure shes okay#i LOVE the conversation with joker where he tells her Anderson wanted HIM to look after HER#in a galaxy that is on fire and these people trying to keep the firebreak maintained for just a little longer theyre all worried#ABOUT SHEPARD#and shepard knows she cant breakdown shes channeling all the stress and fear into action and anger instead of showing how scared she is#even when everyone around her is saying its okay to show that to them because theyre her friends and family but she CANT#i love mass effect#mass effect#mass effect 3#me3#shakarian#crazee talk
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merlin (immortal) giving arthur (pendragon) the only blade that could kill him
#they make me SICK#i hate them so much#if arthur had found out about his magic earlier and took it poorly…he’d be the only person able to kill him#merlin handing over the sword as a symbol of his utter trust in arthur#god imagine arthur finding out (au everyone lives) and being torn between wanting to cast the sword away but also wanting to keep it on him#he hates the weight of merlins life that now seems attached to the blade#he doesnt want it#but he cant cast it away bc what if someone gets their hands on it?? then merlins life is in their hands#he is BAFFLED that merlin would give HIM - uther pendragons son - the only thing that could kill him#he asks after days of fitful sleep and consideration and merlin is just like#‘its /you/ arthur.’ he says like its painfully obvious#NCJGSKSNSDIBSKSB TEYH MKAE ME VIOELTNT#bbc merlin#merlin emrys#arthur pendragon#excalibur#immortal merlin#merthur#im just thinking of percabeth when percy tells annabeth where his mortal point is and she is the ONLY person who knows#and she has to carry that tidbit of information around like its not the heaviest burden shes ever carried - more so than the sky#that one quote 'love is giving someone the power to destroy you but trusting them not to'#idk you get it#arthur and annabeth being the only people who can destroy the one they love#merlin and percy having unwavering trust and faith in their other half that they place their life in their hands#literally#sorry im done
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good luck, babes! 💙💛
maybe i should write a fic. hmm
(edit: if you wanted to know my personal interpretation... watch the can in bones' hand. and the colors mean things loll. i think i'll make an explanation tomorrow just for fun)
#star trek#star trek fanart#spirk#spirk fanart#k/s#k/s fanart#mcspirk#mcspirk fanart#star trek aos#star trek alternate original series#jim kirk#spock#leonard mccoy#bones mccoy#leonard bones mccoy#spirk angst#leonard mccoy angst#good luck babe#look interpret this however you want! im at that point where im completely overthinking the cues i put#do i need to make an explanation? do i not need to make an explanation? (shrugs) like. ive looked at this so long i cant tell#but it's whatever you see in it!#now the only question really is whether i should make it better or make it worse 🩵💙💛😌#we love some pining space gays ^^#总是觉得老骨头(尤其是aos骨)真是满满的抹布性格 呵#对不起老骨头 又要来三维象棋式让你单恋了(其实也不真的单恋 纯粹是金三角三人有点儿感情闭塞罢了🤣
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Better the devil you know than the angel you don't
#hellsing#integra hellsing#walter c dornez#alucard hellsing#alucard#walter is ANGEL of death#alucard is Zamiel a devil and personification of death#theyre both death in different ways#that makes hellsing something close to God since they kept both angel and devil#they act like the devil and angel on integra's shoulder#walter's hand covering his mouth so we cant tell if he have fangs or not#alucard would always shows integra his fangs tho#the idiom also fits them#forgot to mention but did anyone see the hair falling across integra's left pupil#i love sliding hint towards her losing an eye into art where she have both eyes#came back to say i intentionally depicted both walter and alucard boyishly looking#i have a feeling about the characters that integra is kind of more emotionally matured than the twos#despite her being the youngest in chronological age
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Can we agree that the "Thats two things" line from Mike was autistic as shit
#i love how William very clearly thinks he’s trying to play smart or something but. no he’s just like that#in general hes sooooo autistic. Same goes to Abby.#when aunt Jane noted how abbys meltdowns reminded her of mike I was cheering in my fucking seat#SO autism#fnaf movie#five nights at freddy's#Fnaf#five nights at Freddy’s movie#Mike Schmidt#can’t wait till this movie comes out anywhere that isn’t peacock. please I wanna watch it again but peacock doesn’t even have a free trial#also Just his general anti socialness??????? hello?#the way he just. walks off during the pharmacy scene#or the way he basically ignores max CANNOT be neurotypical#also with the former that his stand-offish nature is seen as rude#ALSO near the beginning of the movie where he tells his coworker about the dream theory-#-and he completely avoids eye contact and just fiddles with his Walkie-Talkie#like that cant be nt behavior
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idk how i want to draw him yet and not ready to make a srs attempt but here's a bad kdj phone doodle lol🚶🏻
#orv#kim dokja#omniscient reader's viewpoint#my art#oh yeah i didnt have ref for this fkdnfn was going off memory of the last (first) time i drew him#i cant do a serious attempt tho bc i havent read the novel so i dont have a clear image of him in my head yet...#(dont want to just copy the webtoon design hastily... if it matches my image thats fine but... idk yet)#my main opinion on the webtoon design is he's too hot/ikemen tho KFJDKDJ (this is what i thought since the beginning)#its like BONES mp100 anime reigen.... kdj is like manga reigen to me /j#but who knows maybe if i catch kdj brainrot i too will start drawing him like a kpop idol out of affection...🤷🏻♂️#like the webtoon artist prob draws kdj pretty bc they love him sm#just like how i draw jys pretty bc of my brainrot...#so who knows maybe that will happen to me too🤷🏻♂️ time will tell#my main opinion on webtoon yjh (no one asked): CUTE BUT WHERES THE T1TTY BEL- *voice muffled as i get dragged away*#(copied most of these tags from twit too lazy to retype the commentary)#EDIT: i call him reigen jokingly bc theyre abt the same age but#kdj is also mob core to me....#in that theyre both protags that dont look flashy and look more like extras/'mob charas'#yet r irrevocably unequivocably the protags of their respective stories#(just as everyone is the protag of your own life! sieze ur narrative! etcetc🖤)#also. both black haired bowlcut havers KJDJS#kdj is reigen coded (derogatory) and mob coded (POS)#hes also a 'con man like reigen..... yep hes def still reigen coded
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erm can we see more deer dale he's so silly
Deer Dale!!! Now with full antler face like I initially intended but could not figure out how to draw at the time
#you get a healthy mix of silly and horrific body horror with this one#fop#fop nature au#fop a new wish#dale dimmadome#dev dimmadome#fop dale#fop dev#body horror#art#digital art#fanart#wanted to do some mini frames of deer dale sort of like deliriously nuzzling dev#but since hes ya know covered in antlers Dev is just sitting there terrified that if he makes one wrong move hes gonna get skewered or wors#(that wouldnt happen often btw he'd be mostly too scared and erratic for that but i thought it would be a nice one off visual)#its kinda an apt summary of their relationship tho i think#even if hes not malicious. even when hes trying to be as gentle as he knows how hes still hurting dev or almost hurting dev#I think about the ep where Dale mentions his time in the lemon factory implying that hes trauma dumped to dev about it before#like my man. your son is not who you should be loading that information on to. get a therapist.#all this to say that i do think deer dale tries to avoid hurting dev and even tries to be comforted by him but like..#you are like a 400 pound animal blindly stumbling around covered in spikes#you cant tell your own CHILD you dont love them and then expect them to take on the burden of comforting you#again hes not fully there when hes a deer but this is all very metaphorical or whatever
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insp.
#twabbbiih's low quality gifs#dead boy detectives#edwin payne#charles rowland#edwin paine#dead boy detective agency#dbda netflix#dbd netflix#dbda gifs#payneland#dbda#painland#AND SO THEY DIDN'T LET EACH OTHER GO#they spent one night together as charles died and that boy decided Im never letting you out of my sight again and i am SO normal about them#yes I did contemplate using the scene where charles is holding edwins hand as he drags it off his mouth in hell but#it looked even worse than these do#apologies if the fourth is hard to read i cant tell how bad it is anymore because i know what it says so im praying it's readable
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