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It is simply not enough to put Pavitr in my pocket, I want to gently fold him into a pretty origami paper swan...
#across the spider verse#across the spiderverse#spider man across the spider verse#spider man across the spiderverse#smatsv#atsv#spiderverse#spider man india#clearly i am very normal about this character#but does anybody get what i'm saying???#i had a rough few days if you couldn't tell lol#sweet boi#he's so son shaped...#pavitr prabhakar
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There are 60 million people in Britain. There are 200 million in America. (Can that be right?) How many millions of English-speakers other nations might add to the total I cannot even guess. I would be willing to bet, though, that in all those hundreds of millions not more than 50, at the outside, have read A. Roemer, Aristarchs Athetesen in der Homerkritik (Leipzig, 1912), a work untranslated from its native German and destined to remain so till the end of time. I joined the tiny band in 1985. I was 23. The first sentence of this little-known work runs as follows: Es ist wirklich Brach- und Neufeld, welches der Verfasser mit der Bearbeitung dieses Themas betreten und durchpflügt hat, so sonderbar auch diese Behauptung im ersten Augenblick klingen mag. I had taught myself German out of Teach Yourself German, and I recognised several words in this sentence at once: It is truly something and something which the something with the something of this something has something and something, so something also this something might something at first something. I deciphered the rest of the sentence by looking up the words Brachfeld, Neufeld, Verfasser, Bearbeitung, Themas, betreten, durchpflügt, sonderbar, Behauptung, Augenblick, and klingen in Langenscheidt's German-English dictionary.
The Last Samurai by Helen DeWitt, i, 1, p 17
#this is the first page of the first chapter. so not counting the prologue or the epigraphs#the start of the 'action' if you will#she goes on to translate the first 30 pages in this painstaking fashion (not for us. she just summarizes it for us don't worry)#at which point she figures out what his argument is#but it's such a patently stupid argument she thinks that can't possibly be right and reads the next 50 pages#at a faster rate because she's getting better at it#and no. he really is saying that stupid thing. so she drops out of grad school lol#my posts#the last samurai#apologies if there are any typos in the german i do not speak german. or even read the small percentage that the narrator does#helen dewitt is so fucking funny but it's impossible to excerpt any of her humor because it's all so dependent on#things that came much earlier (or later)#so every page i'm going oh my god that's good but i know i can't show anybody because it would lose something out of context#but since this is the first page i felt i could quote it. because there isn't actually much context at all at this point in the book#not sure how many other people will go wow this is hilarious but if you do: this book may be for you
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hi
#life update nobody asked for lol#I missed you guys my pookie wookie dookies#I deleted all my social media and life is so great wow#still a lot of mental health problems but I'm finally learning to deal with my emotions and not hate life (wow)#is it bad for me to say I'm so glad I left blr#I will probably never come back here lol but I think (?) today is txt's debut anniversary and since I am the self proclaimed empress of moa#downgrading to a flip phone actually#I unstanned txt and all the kpop peoples too (SHOCKER)#I do feel really nostalgic and sad when I think about them but I think it was the thing I needed most#delulu is infact not the solulu#daydreaming about beomgyu being the new student at my school and being soobin's bestie was never the greatest idea hey#it's so freeing to not care about them and focus on what's infront of me#if you need a sign to start growing out of kpop and start worrying about your own life here it is babe 😭 don't let anybody give you shit#Not to say kpop is bad or anything I just think for me it was getting a bit out of hand#As much as we all make fun of the delulus it's so easy to fall down that spiral when these idols constantly tell you they love you#The parasocial relationship was REAL istg these people felt like my friends#Hueningkai does not give a FUCK about me and he is so real for that#Thinking about deleting this blog but I'm logging off after this so I very well may forget it exists again#But I just wanted to share what's been going on#And I miss you guys a lot#I may have outgrown kpop and tumblr but you all still have a special place in my heart#I miss the good old days 😭 when discord let's me back in I might visit wme#Not much has changed with me but mentally I feel like a whole new person#But I hope you all are doing GREAT#Living your best lives and doing things that make you happy#You owe it to yourself more than you owe these celebrities anything#xoxo savie 😝🤟🤟🔥🔥🔥
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"Return of THE KING" about Moe as if. I'm not CONSTANTLY on my bullshit about it. I need to forcemasc it though the situation is so dire. LIKE. Exclusive it/its/itself user but also fucks with masculine titles/language. As part of its identity, but also an elaborate parody. Guy who's doing it Wrong ON PURPOSE. WITH INTENT. TO KILL‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️
#moe tag#moe lore#'it's dire' like. when i get dysphoric or when too many wires get crossed. i'm always so upset when it happens#but i end up misgendering moe. like. when it comes to the themes/dynamics i want to explore#and where it does stem from. not to put my issues on blast again god have mercy on my wretched soul#<- IRONIC STATEMENT. JOKE.#<- but also. what i mean to say is please. i've already hurt So Much.#like. does anybody wanna join me. on my journey. to forcemasc moe.#moe DOES have its own VERY distinct identity and that does not change. it fits!#but what i'm saying is we need to inject more gender into it. guy style. man style even.#like like boy def feels too cutesy. too young. there WAS a point where boy would have fit but moe has grown into itself now#also. i'm still here 'i'm a boy - no i'm a man / you can't take me and throw me away' ect ect.#sorry rereading the 'inject more gender man style' and i'm jusyt. thinking of n offshoot to a specific post.#alfonse injecting more gender man style into moe with his penis.#(post i was thinking of was originally about autism good post idk if i would ever be able to find it. so just trust me.)#really really good start though.#<- says this as if this is a new development and like. not already a part of moe's complex about alfonse.#really really good post though. let's hit the showers.
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okay i'm out of evil mode. peace love and a little bit of still-tired on planet earth lol 🧃
#just me hi#slept ! ! ! was it good? hell nah kfshvg#but i slept :D#wasn't allowed to go to bed for a couple hours cuz parents wanted to play a movie. it was good but it put me in a weird headspace lmsfh#//ooou my ear's doing the Thing#you know the thing. the thing it does. loll#ever since that ant was in there that one time (dear lird) when i wake up from laying on it it'll feel like. a bit inflamed on the inside ?#and kinda itchy. not good things but it's likely not going to kill me so 💥💥#'it's likely not going to kill me' <- things i likely said while pretending i couldn't see anything for like 3-4 years#oh but yea i'm going to assume it's nothing bc i was also getting phantom feelings and sounds for some weeks that caused panic so i'm not#even going to put weight on it. it's just itchy no biggy Kfshvhf :)#//anyway i think i also had a dream but i do Not remember those well At All lol#i know the last one had oath in it though so that one was cool. don't remember much else but that was sick Lmfsh :3#//Ohh it's rainingggg yippeeee :D <3#don't get much snow but we'll get tons of rain... i miss you michigannnnn <//3#//but anyway the dream thing just reminded me#so this detail may not be important but my oldest brother and i are joked to be twins. there's 2 years and at least a foot of height betwee#us (i am the short). people get our voices mixed up when we talk low and i think that's funny#we were also thick as thieves as kids. not a good thing for anybody else but Yeagh kfshvg#but there was this one time we'd both woken up and were talking abt both having had a dream the night before; giving details and such#and we had the same dream ? it's still kinda odd to this day but we had the Same Exact Dream on the same night. if not odd it's neat! :3#anyway so somewhere in the past year my brother (apollo) got a lunar on his right index finger#i kept forgetting tho and asking if it was a blood bruise (that is my bad boss ✋) and eventually the info stuck in my head#anyway so somewhere in the past two months i also got a lunar on my right index finger. i didn't even notice it until i was tryna wash my#hands and it wouldn't come off lmaoo#now that's going on ig. the timeline-clone theory grows stronger every day Kfhsvhfgsfg#//forgot what else i was going to say i went to go look into the phrase 'thick as thieves' lol#i don't understand how someone heard 'thick' and thought 'yeah. that means close now' kfshd#anyway it's old as you've prolly guessed. the earliest spot it's popped up was a newspaper that printed a letter that was written in 1827#but it mighta been used earlier than that. neat!
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hey, regular reminder that if you get someone in your inbox (that you have never interacted with before/has never been following you) asking you to reblog a post on their blog (sob story asking for donations, usually about a pet to make it extra guilt-trippy) and they specifically ask you to answer this ask privately (for a vague and weak reason, why wouldn't they want more eyes on this post?) and then you go to their blog and their account is days old at most (and they're even claiming they have an old account that got shadowbanned ((?? being "shadowbanned" on tumblr does not mean you can't still post from that account?)) but never mention the url of that old blog) and all their reblogs are straight from the op and not from anyone they might be following who reblogged the post first (indicating they just quickly searched a semi-popular fandom tag to reblog some innocuous fanart to make the blog seem lived in)-
this is probably a scam :/ keep your eye out for odd details, inconsistency, and a glaring lack of credibility. stay safe out there everypony.
#ugh#yucky#bad taste in my mouth#this specific format of ask has also just been previously proven to be a scam tactic#so anybody trying to use it legitimately to fundraise is begging not to be taken seriously srry#they've clearly been in other peoples' inboxes with the same guilt-trippy copypasta#bc the ~200 notes they got are filled with ppl saying they cant donate rn but will signal boost it#ughhh#i'm rereading the exact wording of this post and getting so mad it doesn't make any sense#one of the pictures included is a vet invoice but they say they haven't gone to the vet yet but also the cat is pictured in a cone already#it does not make sense#said vet is also “the only one in the area that will take donations over the phone” but “needs to be paid upfront”#so. you cant have taken the cat to the vet yet. bc you dont have the money. which you are asking to be donated directly to ur paypal#thats not over the phone. thats. what?#MAYBE they mean an online payment but like.#then why do u have an invoice and the cat is clearly bandaged and in a cone already!!#then they also say the cat is already on antibiotics and only has days left if they dont get further treatment#and then a paragraph later claim the cat needs antibiotics!#im SO tempted to email this vet#i wont#im gonna put this to bed now
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Lesson 17 Hard Mode Spoilers(???)
Just finished Lesson 17 Hard Mode ( Don't @ me. I'm taking anything I can get to stay invested ) and like.... Did Michael just love bomb the Angels? (ಥ ͜ʖಥ)
Maybe my ass just hates gifts cause I'm so difficult but like... Weird doting vibes- Anyways weirdly I feel bad for Raphael being caught in the middle of it all - He's so awkward I see myself in him (ಥ ͜ʖಥ)(ಥ ͜ʖಥ)
#obey me#obey me nightbringer#obey me nightbringer lesson 17 hard mode#obey me nightbringer lesson 17 hard mode spoilers??#obey me nightbringer spoilers??#Does this count as a spoiler? its literally two lines of dialogue... Interesting dialogue mind you but I'm not saying what it entailed.#I'm going through a phase of always loving men i cant have#I was obsessed with Simeon and Solomon but I feel like I get Raphael#Maybe I just dont like anybody and the fact Raphael dont like anything connects me to him#Imagine just trying to do your job as an Angel and Simeon makes it difficult - Like okay Karen take the kids and go LOL#I'm kidding Simeon's not a Karen I hope... He definitely makes life difficult for angels and demons alike#I like Simeon :>#No but like I don't try to weigh in anything with Michael cause we don't know him we only get pieces but this story bit...#I can't tell if hes mad doting with dad vibes that spoils every kid he meets or if he's someone who knows what hes doing giving gifts#I wonder if Michael and Diavolo would ever have a dynamic or ever conversed I feel like they are two people pulling Lucifer in directions#And of course Diavolo would be painted as the “good” option based on the angle of everything then Michael...#They'd probably either paint him as the opposite of Diavolo or similar to Diavolo except with darker elements under a saintly smile#Idk my mind's tired and rolling don't @ me#Still pretty odd huh.
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how to make a character who sucks so bad and nobody likes him but he is genuinely a good protagonist (good as in interesting, maybe on a rare day good as in decent but also, just like, an incredible jackass) . i need to make him worse i need to make him MEANER!
#i think the key to getting this kind of character right is that he can't try to be anybody's boss#that's not the fun and engaging kind of jackass that's just reminding the reader of all the bosses they've hated in their time#the engaging and likeable Guy Who Sucks So Bad is a loner who might CLAIM that he will take over the group or whatever and lead#but never actually has any intentions of doing so because part of the things he sucks re: is responsibility of any kind#he does however know that leaders dont like other people horning in on their territory so he will say things like#i'm gonna wreck your shit and then all your lackeys will follow ME! ouahahahahaha . despite having zero plans to follow up with that#the ideal engaging asshole protagonist is a rebel without a good cause: maybe he has a sad backstory; maybe he's just a dick#but if there's one thing about him you can count on it's that he is Opposed To Shit. doesnt matter what it is his primary entertainment#is picking a fight with it for no reason and then saying what the fuck ever i didn't care about it anyway (he didn't)#ideally this is all done in such a way that he is SEXY . but you'd never want to hang with him because he is deeply obnoxious#he is not bossy. he is not controlling. he is maybe even a bit of a wife guy except he hates everyone else and wants to make their day wors#because making someone else's day worse makes HIS day better . the ideal wife for him is the one from ordinary day with peanuts#by shirley jackson#and i have GOT to figure out a way to engineer this guy without copying examples of my favorite versions of him wholesale#i have the scaffolding. but because of my own confrontation-averse tendencies#im terribly concerned that i will never be able to actually make him the asshole he was born to be#q
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Sad posting in the tags, you're free to ignore. Just need to get it out of my system and twit circle isn't sufficing.
#I think posting someone else's art they did for me#To the same audience with all the same tags and thematic matter#And having their art get way more interaction than mine is the final straw to make me give up on art#I don't get any joy out of it#I don't find catharsis out of it anymore#I used to do art because it was like spewing my innermost workings on a page and saying to the world 'this is how I feel'#There was something very vulnerable with sharing that with people but#I wanted to make people understand what's in my head#A cry for help if you will#Or more like a cry for understanding#And it feels so hollow when people who get plenty of interaction say 'oh if you're upset by no interaction#Then you're doing it for the wrong reasons etc etc'#And for one it's easy to say when your stuff DOES get plenty of interaction#But for two as a teenager I was viral on deviantart. Thousands of followers and multiple daily deviations#Before I even turned 18#I literally grew up and am conditioned to thrive on external validation and I just don't get that anymore#Ever since I deleted my deviantart in 2014 because my abuser was literally using it to stalk me I haven't been able to hold an audience#I threw it all away and now I can't get it back. Not here not twit not insta not anywhere#So I'm giving up. That's it that's all. Not like anybody gives a shit anyways#It kind of feels like ripping out a piece of your soul#Putting it on display and then having no one care#I'm tired of destroying myself just to be ignored over and over again#I really did peak when I was 17 didn't I
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My right brain: They’re talking about me they’re talking about me they’re talking about me they’re talking about me they’re talking about me they’re talking about me they’re talking about me they’re talking about me they’re talking about-
My left brain:
#i'm going insane#i made this on desktop#does anybody get this#sometimes i think that my brain is just random pieces of media stitched together#which would explain a lot#I refuse to explain cause i need to know if other people remember what she says in this scene
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#one of the funniest realizations i had when i defended L from being called ugly and gross here recently is that#so many of the lawlight enjoyers who also enjoy calling L ugly and gross are Light kins#i just never put two and two together hahaha#i just assumed it was mostly people like me being like 'i'm roasting him bc he has similar qualities to myself' but no#so many people were like 'but i love that light is like showing he has a heart and lowering his standards for this creachurr' like ok???#that's weird hahaha#and a bit insulting to the people who really relate to L and his mannerisms and habits and looks#a very light thing to say don't get me wrong it just made me laugh#like ok sure maybe he's ugly and gross but why do you want to bang him so much then huh#what does that say about YOU light-kun#inb4 you say 'i don't want to bang anybody but everybody wants to bang me and i must do them a favour' because that's what light would say#so noble of you lito fr /j#p
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so i've been thinking about this a lot the past few days of playing xvi, and i suppose i would be classed canon-divergent / headcanon-based if i went along with it, but at the moment i'm feeling: i don't think i'll default to clive having romantic feelings for jill in any verse. when i get to completing my theme and / or carrd should i make one, i'll update this accordingly and such. i won't go into too much detail at the risk of spoiling things, but i'll just say everything i've experienced so far feels quite out of place and almost like a detriment to jill's character, which is a bit upsetting given how much potential she has as a character after all she's been through. my feelings could be swayed later on, but from what i've heard, it's not very likely to change. this doesn't mean i will never ship with a jill writer; only, like with any other muse, it will require chemistry between the muses and the writing.
#❛ OOC ( endwalker )#tbd //#i understand a good number of people don't 'default to romantic' anyhow but#i don't want to get caught off guard dhgs;#i don't mean to upset anybody should they enjoy the pair#but i have a lot of feelings right now and not many of them are positive#i have even gone so far as to say clive is giving me repressed gay man LOL#to be clear i'd probably headcanon him gray/pan#he loves jill certainly but i'm not sure i'm on board with the way the game is steering it#i could maybe touch upon him considering that what he feels might be romantic /#in a similar sense to how i wrote noctis' feelings towards luna#but i feel that it does both of them justice to just. recreate the beginning of what could be an intimate bond#should they have one
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Am re-reading Hogg's Private Memoirs and Confessions of a Justified Sinner and I know it's not a new or original thought but it's just striking to me again how young George (younger) and his brother Robert must have been during the tennis match and Black Bull mob scenes.
If the 'famous session' refers to the 1703 session of parliament (or even if it refers to the previous year's sitting which Queensberry also oversaw), and if old Dalcastle married in 1687 (or later), then at most George could have been 16 and his brother 15, and it's probable that both boys are younger.
I don't remember too many of the details from the first time I read this book so will have to finish it before I make any further judgement. However I don't think it detracts from Robert's culpability or nastiness in any way to take into account his probable age in the earlier portion of the narrative. I think makes for a more interesting reading when forcibly reminded that he's a young teenager. Even taking into account different social mores and expectations placed on children in both the period in which the novel is set, and the early 19th century when it was written, it seems to me that that's an element that will still have particular significance for readers in the 21st century, regardless of one's personal experience with extreme forms of Presbyterianism.
#I mean it's probably been said before I haven't read much analysis of the novel in a while- or at least not of the psychology aspect#But I do feel that the image you first get in your head is that Robert is at least in his late teens and early 20s#at the time of the tennis match nonsense- I.e. a grown up demonic genius albeit with a chip on his shoulder#I'd say he's probably about 14?#Idk if anybody else remembers being 14 but oh boy does that make sense#I mean he's still a very unpleasant teenage boy don't get me wrong but nonetheless#In our day and age even grown adults are regularly affected by all kinds of brainrot and conspiracy theory stuff#We live in the internet age but I'm not entirely sure that there aren't comparisons to be drawn#Between unpleasant child Robert - called a wonderful boy by his parents; convinced he is Elect#highly book smart but deeply aware that there is something wrong about his family#Being tempted continually by visions of the Devil and raised in an age of constant civil and religious debate and strife#Where every side is utterly convinced of the complete moral validity and right of their own particular views#And some kid today coming out with all sorts of absolute nonsense as a result of being exposed to internet brainrot#Be it fascism or misogyny or even political views that I agree with but can become dogma and conspiracy theory in the wrong hands#In particular Robert's been raised in a very dogmatic household but also told exceptions will be made for him because he's special#Also something something late 17th century print culture boom and propaganda wars vs 21st century internet etc is this anything#I'm not necessarily saying this is a story for our times all I'm saying is there are timeless qualities in it#(Obviously that's what makes it a classic it's just I tend to notice more the portrayals of ill-made marriage#or Edinburgh mob violence and was less interested in the psychology of Mummy's Little Fanatic on the first reading)#Possibly the early part of the novel accidentally gives the impression that Robert is slightly older#because of throwaway lines like George mistaking him for a student of divinity#Even if Robert had been attending the university though that doesn't track#Based on what I remember of early 16th century norms and what little I know of late 18th century stuff#It would be perfectly normal for university students in Scotland in this period to start around the age of 14#Some went even earlier- I definitely remember coming across lads who matriculated at the age of 12 or 13 or younger#Idk maybe I was the only one who had that particular image of him as a young adult in my head#Maybe I was the only one who was too stupid to work this out earlier and it affected my reading#But still if there's one thing I'm taking away from this re-read it's going to be 'Dear god that is a 13/14/15 year old boy'#That being said don't want to overdo it; as a former teenage girl I used to hate when reading the Crucible and people were all#Oh that's just OBVIOUSLY what all teenage girls are like so not trying to compartmentalise boys; but at the same time o.O
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love it when i meet with people and find out their sole purpose in life is finding me a husband 😔🙏💗
#becca.txt#and i mean this in the most sarcastic way possible#these people way too invested in my life#leave me alone#if i find someone who wants to go out with me that's cool#if i don't that's also cool#either way it's nobody's business#not my fault all of you married at 22 and are living unfufilled lives as a result#not saying you can't have a fufilling life having married young - you certainly can#but NONE of the people i'm referring to were in any way shape or form prepared to marry when they did#the only person i know in my circle w/a successful marriage met dated and married her now husband in <6 months#i have cousins who married at 19!!!in this day and age!#are you INSANE???#some of these people desperately needed to be told that your value as a woman does not depend on your status with a man#like what the hell this ain't the year of our lord 1662 go live your life you don't need a man to be happy???what the hell????#what's even better is when i tell them i'm not looking and they pull the 'oh don't worry i'm looking for you!'#please i don't want do get within 15feet of anybody these people 'find for me'#if it were up to me i'd marry closer to 30 and adopt a bunch of kids - which is another thing#if you don't think adopting children means they're YOUR children simply because you didn't birth them you can get fucked#i had an aunt say this to me over the holidays#everybody's so gung-ho about my fertility issues but i'm realistic so i tell everyone i'll adopt and save myself the trouble#then she pulls the 'oh they won't really be your kids tho???' like BITCH WHAT YOU MEAN???#I'LL BE RAISING THEM HOW ARE THEY NOT MY KIDS???like PLEASE#pls ignore i just needed to rant a little bit
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i've realized recently that much of the expressiveness of my eyes was just me trying to see other people's expressions. so now when i make faces my eyes stay Wide Open loll
#just me hi#that's so interesting but now i'm concerned about how i'm coming across bfhbah#like when i smile and laugh my eyes are like ◎v◎#//anyway if another person compliments my looks this year i'm going nuclear#stop. doign that fvshbfhs#i'm going to bury myself in the back and wait for the moss to take me. somebody save me sos sos sos#'anyway you ever see someone so stunning you kind of take a mental screenshot?' 'yea when i see you' 'you could at least blink when you lie#to me' leave me ALGEONE#and then it's always like the prettiest/handsomest people i know and they LOOK ME IN THE EYEEEEEEEEEEE and say 'oh no im not' i'm taking us#BOTH to the moss pit. take my hand mothertrucker. you're not getting away with this. you funkin. Idioit#absolutely disgusting behavior. you are lookin but you are Not thinkin <3#//anyway aside from the utter nonsense >:3#[leans towards the mic] i hav Prignles. Preyengles. thaz right. Prungles#[sits back] i am also sick again Hfvbshvs#idk i keep catching stuff man. maybe i was destined to be a collector but i didn't meet the quota and god is trying to catch me up idkkkk#i got sick SIX times last year!! is that ridiculous or What ? i think it's What. What Happened Man hfbshfsvh#and you know when you get sick sometimes and it's not the Physically worst thing you've ever gone through but it does something wrong to#your brain chemicals? yea.. yea#also- this is just my opinion (i'm right)- i don't think i need mucous membranes#just take them out man. i will Give Them Away. anybody want them? they're free :33#i am giving away not Only my membranes but Also just my entire head!! i'm thinking of replacing it with one of those fake plastic fish-tank#yea the really cheap ones. very gender to me. also my head would be Great for a frankenstein project!! i can't say it has experience Doing#that but ay. everybody gets a start somewhere! :D#and if anybody wants some legs (they are short- fair warning) i am also giving those away too. i was thinking of replacing them with bed#springs :>>#//anyway i am going to try to focus on my thingy now#i wanna draw. i wanna write. and i'm Going to use a taser on my brain :3#gl with your expeditions. no matter the matter !! :D
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#smile at people #a majority of the time people will smile back and you win Human Points #learn how to compliment people and do it often #Normalcy is a perspective that changes depending on who is looking but kindness and a positive attitude shows the same view to everyone #basic politeness with a little extra effort is amazingly difficult at times #but it goes MILES
Genuinely good advice from @aroace-get-out-of-my-face
can someone recommend some beginner normal behaviors for someone looking to become normal
#life advice#autistic stuff#and anybody who finds this hard which is pretty much everybody#would also add learning the functions and skills of small talk#yes i know i know it's evil it's horrible when nobody told you how#but get this: it's just social glue#it's the human equivalent of hyenas lowing to each other or crows clicking to each other#it's just “hello i exist you are in my social circle i accept your existence and please know that i don't hate you”#and it's got some fairly basic first-level rules too!! You intiate the greeting (Hello/hi/howdy/good evening/etc depending on context – yea#that dependency can be a bit trickier to learn but if you think of social structure it helps; e.g. this human supposedly ranks higher than#me and has not spoken to me before so i need to say “hello” instead of “wassup”)#and then you say “how are you?” or the less formal “how's it going?” (meaning: *I am initiating small talk*) and they will say “I'm alright#you?” (meaning: *I accept your move to small talk and value your input*) and you say “I'm okay” (NOT meaning: I am actually okay – but#rather *I appreciate your acceptance of my move to small talk and respect you so I will complete this ritual*)#in some cases people will go into a bit more detail – typically in response to “How's it going?” or “How've you been?” rather than “How are#you?” (in less formal contexts e.g. between friends) – and say something like#“Yeah I'm doing alright; had a lot of stuff on this week so I'm looking forward to a break!” and this is where you employ your Sympathetic#Vocalisation (“mm yeah” (solemn. nod head towards them at medium speed a couple of times)#BUT. you do not dwell on this. they will probably ask you “what about you?” afterwards and here you say something like “I'm good; I've got#some pasta I'm looking forward to eating tonight” (or any other bland mundane thing about your life. note: you CAN lie. not extravagantly#but you can say “Yeah I'm great; been busy too but gotta stay on your toes eh?” when you actually want to collapse right now#generally people react well to either positivity or wry humour at your negative experience#like: either bring out something that's a minor good thing and refer to that (see example character's “looking forward to a break”)#or if that's too fake for you you can mention something you're struggling with light heartedly (see: staying on toes example)#generally though people do not want to actually discuss each other's lives here. just social glue! just the “I acknowledge you and wish to#instigate/reaffirm a social bond in this situation so we can then get onto the real stuff or leave with stronger social connections”#anyway that's like the first basic step it; does tend to get a little less straight forward the further you go in#but I've found it a great skill to learn#and once I realised it was in fact a skill just like ice skating or acting or writing i was like ahah! i can learn this!!#and show off like a kid on a skateboard every single day!
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