#but I've seen it in like

[shaanks]

what's also kind of fascinating to me about the way the found family trope has gotten kind of militarized over the past several years, is the apparent idea that consenting adults can only have one type of dynamic with each other...and that one dynamic is the main indicator of what their relationship is.

like. that's just kind of wild to me. I know some of it is tied up in purity culture and the weird pearl clutching about what does or does not constitute a "problematic" dynamic, (read: people who think ANY age gap is pedophilia, or people who think that headcanoning people as found family means shipping them is incest. we'll set aside the people who think "problematic content" shouldn't be written at all for now, that's gotta be it's own post.), but it really feels like some of the reality of human relationships gets lost in these kinds of debates.

a decent example is like. when people treat friendship like a stepping stone to romantic love. as if one is supposed to naturally supersede the other over time. as if falling in love with your best friend automatically means losing that friendship, somehow. we're MEANT to have multiple, overlapping dynamics and relationships with people. you can bicker like siblings with your best friend who also happens to be your fiance. you can take leadership and guidance from someone in one aspect of your life who is fully on the same level of authority as you in another. these things aren't mutually exclusive, they don't cancel each other out.

I think mostly what I'm getting at here is that you can headcanon people as found family without flattening the type and depth of relationships they can have within and around that framework. "family" isn't a flat, pastoral, platonic ideal of a relationship. Pretending that it is, or pretending that any one person's personal headcanons should inform the way other people view those relationships, is both obnoxious and like. generally not useful commentary.

[kensatou]

i'll let phie-san say it:

[professionalchaoticdumbass]

(2012 minecraft parody voice) I am mining... there are no blocks of sand.... you are digging down with me.... hand in unbreakable hand... and I hope we mine.... I hope we both mine.......

[rhaenyrathecruell]

“Aegon the realm’s delight” is the saddest line ever. Aegon wants to be a daughter so bad. To be coddled and gazed upon with love and affection rather than distain and fear. Rhaenyra wishes to be a son. She wants the loyalty everyone has to be unwavering. She wants to be feared and respected like a man. They are truly two sides of the same coin.

[quibbs]

just had SO much fun with the fallout tv show... i love you missus okey dokey

[syn0vial]

[Astarion] is a cat. He's a black cat. There's a stray that comes into my house called Red... and he's quite feral. It took me three years before I could pick him up and hold him. He's totally cool with me now. Three fucking years. He gave me a lot of inspiration about Astarion.

- Neil Newbon, on developing Astarion's physicality and mannerisms

[sylvrndoodles]

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[caramelldansenu]

[ineed-to-sleep]

Collection of bg3 sketches I've been nibbling at over the month. teehee

[virtualmish]

...i'm sorry...

[gammija]

nothing personal but this kind of comment rlly exemplifies to me a disconnect between canon and popular fanon jmart characterization because they almost literally had this conversation in canon - except, their lines are swapped!

jon, for all his scared grouchiness, is a secret romantic, while martin, for all his forced optimism, is at his core a pragmatist

[emovulture]

"Noo, I don't have an opinion on what's going on in Palestine."

"I don't like politics so I'm neutral about all of that stuff."

"Don't send me things about the politics of Gaza or Palestine or anything like that, it just makes me really anxious and-"

Those are some real things I've seen people say before. You don't have an opinion on the literal genocide going on in Gaza and Palestine? The lives being taken? The atrocities Israel has done? You're refusing to educate yourself on all of this because it makes you anxious? (Boo hoo) That's disgusting to me. You can't be "neutral" about a literal war??

You're either with Palestine or not. I'm loud and proud about supporting Palestine, and if any of my mutuals, followers, friends or family who don't feel the same, please get away from me and this blog.

[ronanlynchbf]

tshirt that says NO LIVE ORGANISM CAN CONTINUE FOR LONG TO EXIST SANELY UNDER CONDITIONS OF ABSOLUTE REALITY

[azherwind-art]

"Tell your favorite creators that you like their work, people usually enjoy things silently, but hate tends to be loud"

This is a phrase I just heard from Dnd shorts that captures perfectly why I often try to make the effort of commenting on posts and telling people that I enjoy their work and why Even to small creators, I advice everyone to make the extra effort to tell them, I can guarantee it makes all the difference in the world, it's not cringy or obnoxious, it'll just brighten someone's day

[akanemnon]

We didn't even get an answer, and we never will (at least it's not determination)

FIRST - PREVIOUS - NEXT

MASTERPOST (for the full series / FAQ / reference sheets)

[sharkgirldick]

Some random guy online: Hey, wouldn't it be funny if I was a girl? Wouldn't it be hilarious? Like, as a joke. I would wear a dress and be pretty and people would think I'm beautiful. Haha, doesn't that crack you up?

Trans women: You say stuff like this all the time, maybe you're a woman? You could transition.

Dipshits, every time: HOLY FUCK can you people NOT? HE can pick HIS gender and clearly HE is comfortable as a MAN. He's joking anyway, he said so. Let people do what they want and don't pressure them!!!

Same random person: I'm a girl now. I realized all those jokes I made were covering up my actual feelings.

Trans women: ...

Dipshots: Wow! That really came out of left field. Of COURSE we support you, king. Haha, I mean queen.