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every black dresses song

Devi McCallion, mumbling: dream.... dreames come truth if.... dream come true if you really do......... if you really do...... if you really want...... if you really love....... iwht all ure fuckinG HEART ....!!!!! WITH ALL URE FUCKING HEARTH!

*the loudest noise you've ever heard*

Ada Rook: ENTROPY DEVOUR ME! HYPERSTITION ELAPSING! METAPHYSICS ELOPING! PISS STAINED FISHNETS!

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Okay, so when people try to speak on BIPOC's involvement in queer history, it is often simplified into just being about individual people like Marsha P. Johnson. While I am never going to say we should talk less about Marsha, I think it would be worth exploring more how BIPOC have a queer history of their own and often it's outside of just the context of the United States of America.

Prioritizing certain stories from QTBIPOC, can slip fairly quickly into erasure. So here is a reminder: colonial powers benefit when we only focus on individuals and erase the long complex queer histories of cultures that have been colonized. Cultures and communities that have been colonized deserve space in our discussions of queer history.

Maybe next time you hear someone boil down queer BIPOC's impact on the queer culture to the same short list of names, maybe question that. Challenge yourself to learn about lesser known stories, and even try to open yourself up to learning about cultural histories of queerness rather than just reading stories that are individual based.

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What better way to get my mind off of the new job than to draw some gay shit.

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Have a strong net worth? : Buy a social network :: Have a strong out breath? : Buy a social outbreak

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Devour Me and Courting Insanity, oil paintings by Kim Jakobsson

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hi, RE: that post u made about being very comfortable saying no and how necessary it is.

idk how to ask this but would u have any guidance about how to respond in the event of crossing someone’s boundaries and not realizing? and/or someone safewording during a hard scene. should you like… immediately break physical contact? what do you say? how do you measure their reaction? i’d of course thank them for saying something and reassure them but what’s important in that scenario?

(i’m autistic and just feel like i have no framework for this situation and want to be prepared. don’t feel pressured to give advice if you don’t feel like it :)

what to do when someone safewords!

a couple variations. if someone calls yellow, that’s just information. generally speaking, yellow indicates “i’m not tapping out yet, but if you keep doing that, i’m going to have to.” so sometimes when someone calls yellow i stop completely, sometimes i change up what im doing to put less stress on a specific point of pain or specific kink, and sometimes i just file away the information that they’re close to tapping out and keep going to see how much they can take. this last one is only rly advisable if you’re comfortable with your partner and rly know how they communicate and you trust them to tap out, safe word, or call red when they need to.

second situation, they actually do tap out, safe word, or call red. the first thing i do is stop what im doing. if its a specific fantasy im talking about i shut the fuck up. if it’s a way i’m hitting or otherwise hurting them, i stop immediately. generally speaking i break physical contact. pull out, hands off, move aside. clear indication that their call has been heard and is being respected. i usually also kinda go “oh woof what’s going on!” and give them a chance to communicate why they’ve safe worded if they can. if not, i ask simple yes or no questions, like, do you need water, is physical touch comforting right now, do you want space, do you want to talk it out. get an idea what’s going on and what they might need. be careful here to be gentle and listen carefully, you don’t want to overwhelm them or seem more panicked than they are. the last thing you want to do is make someone comfort you after they have called their safeword. sometimes it’s just oh that was too much pain but we can keep fucking, other times it’s oh no that was triggering we need to stop the scene entirely. once i’ve got an idea of what’s going on, i either keep going with a different tact, or i switch into aftercare and get them feeling safe or comfortable depending on the situation. no matter what, i make sure that once i understand where they’re at and what they need, i thank them for communicating their needs/setting a boundary/tapping out when they needed to.

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Penetration is a gender-neutral act. Topping is gender-neutral. Bottoming is gender-neutral. You are not more or less of a man or a woman depending on how you fuck. You are not “fake trans” for having sex a certain way. You are not any less masculine for bottoming or any less feminine for topping.

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alexa play moukawem by julia boutros

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actually i will never shut up about how post transition people love to fetishize the shit out of pre transition people and then immediately ditch us when we need anything more than half a sentence of advice and a quick fuck

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Bar stool:

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actually i will never shut up about how post transition people love to fetishize the shit out of pre transition people and then immediately ditch us when we need anything more than half a sentence of advice and a quick fuck

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sometimes I scream when I stretch, and i can't control the when and how

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On this Trans Day of Remembrance, please spare a moment to mourn trans people who died in the closet.

People who were misgendered in their eulogies.

People whose lives were cut short before they could bloom.

People whose secret clothes will be thrown out.

People who couldn't survive the oppressive forces of transphobia.

People who took their own lives because the suffering of the closet was too much for them to bear.

People who were forced from their homes or their jobs because of their genders and died on the streets, or in poverty, socially murdered.

People who could've lived if they had a safe, welcoming community.

People whose identities were disrespected, mocked, and hated both in life and in death.

People who died on a waiting list.

People who died before they could get on a waiting list.

People who were denied the opportunity to express themselves, to live as themselves.

People whose graves are desecrated with a deadname.

If you're out and reading this: Help your sisters, brothers, and siblings in the closet. Listen to them when they ask for your aid. Reach out to them. Buy them clothes. Send them money. Tell them things about your own transition. More than anyone else, closeted trans people need community and support.

Mourn the dead, fight like hell for the living.

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forcefemming a pretransition girl and accidentally making her safeword by holding her in my arms and telling her i love her and i’ll never abandon her and she has to tap out because she starts crying so hard and i just cradle her and tell her to let it all out

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its him

i like boys who dress like icecreams and ignore me for video games and get food all over their face so i can wipe it off and spoon feed and baby them esp when they are mean to me it’s garbage i know but i can’t help it

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