#but I need some time to digest

[28whitepeonies]

Fucking hell I've just read a thesis on ‘why Larry can come out in 2023' and it made me really angry

There are three immediate thoughts I have on the first section:

If Harry wants to be Beyonce, how does he do that without the fantasy boyfriend market which would likely be destroyed by him entering into a public relationship with a man?

And how does Harry continue to sell out international stadium tours without that market? Because there isn't a comparable male singer out there who is doing it.

This whole thing centres around these fans perceptions of their success, and shows a real lack of understanding of how success in the music industry is actually achieved.

The audacity it takes to write shit like this: "HL and their teams seem to still be operating under the erroneous assumption that a public figure’s career will be over as soon as they come out." Truly, how could Harry, Louis or the experts on the industry around them possibly have a better perception of the risks associated with public queerness than you?

And this gem: "Further to this, fandom energy more broadly is also reflective of the level of stunts. This was observable how during heavy stunting by Holivia, the fandom was characterised by general exhaustion with a much reduced passion." - And isn't this period the same period in which Harry's fanbase had a total growth spurt? Stuff like this shows a really narrow lens and an over inflated sense of fandoms own importance

But be for fucking real with this: “Kit Connor - Prior to coming out he was the subject of controversy online for ‘queerbaiting’, which forced his coming out. However after coming out, the general public forgave him heartily, and he received such a huge energy of love and support. This was also extensively and positively covered in the media.” The kid was hounded and hounded into making a public statement about his sexuality. I’m sure he’s glad to know folk think he’s been forgiven and that it was all fine in the end.

And then by the point I got to this "- Top 5 regrets of the dying—the top two regrets were: 1) not living true to themselves, and 2) working too much. Harry and Louis are unfortunately doing both of these—by being closeted they are working too much with not being true to who they are. This is a life that people inevitably regret." I wanted to commit murder myself, imagine thinking you have the goddamn right to tell someone else what their regrets will be. Nevermind suggesting that you know better what the right life choices are of a stranger. That you know whether they’re being true to themselves or not and that you can pass judgement on that. I’m sorry to every single fucking queer person who reads that and this rationale of ‘omg the worlds not that homophobic any more you can come out now’ and internalises it. Nice job causing some real fucking harm.

So I’m having to finish this here and take myself for a walk before I yeet my laptop out the window x

[grimfantas]

you don't need morals, you need someone like you who can understand

[fromtheseventhhell]

Unlocked a new piece of "Arya can't control herself' lore and, apparently, people think her ability to control herself comes from her pretending to be someone else. So it isn't Arya who has self-control, it's Arry/Weasel/Nan/etc. and that's why she wouldn't be able to control herself in KL, cause she couldn't handle being "Arya". I am fascinated by people twisting themselves into pretzels to deny Arya's capabilities, at this point it's an unhealthy compulsion 😭

[coyotesinew]

Some recent thoughts about nonhumanity and my relationship to the community + my personal relationship with it that I cleaned up, my writing style is a bit disjointed, I would like to share more of my writing, if anyone would be interested in seeing that :)

[avizou]

back to the roots

[cathymee]

maybe it's to maintain a sense of tension & turmoil that would eventually reach an explosive peak, a sense of tug-of-war, a back-and-forth to hammer home the ideals they want to deliver and for the viewers to chew on, but although these arguments regarding hiroshi & his stance as a man torn between his loyalty for his country & the loyalty for his Filipino friends and lover is of course important, how they write these scenes & the points they present from this week alone is getting too repetitive...? literally the argument scenes from last night & tonight between adelina & hiroshi is basically the same; the ideas were the same, the dynamics were the same: the aggressive, radical adelina, bristling rage and fear over the injustices she's seen thus far, and the cautious, inspiriting hiroshi, all hopefulness and reassurance one moment as a lover, defensiveness and sternness as a japanese soldier in another. this debate will be ever-present ofc, it is one of the series' biggest conflicts, but it is unfortunately so easy to tell when it is a.) being pulled up as a main topic to move the plot along / be a necessary conflict for character development/introspection / be the conflict to deliver the morals & messages the writers want to send to their viewers, or b.) when it is being pulled up only for the drama and filler to pass the time. like watching the characters sit down to argue for 10 minutes, do other things for the plot for 2 minutes, then sit down again to argue for the next 20 minutes. lol.

[sinni-ok-sessi]

the summer holidays draw to a close and once again I must ask myself whether I can face reintroducing Hell Wednesdays to my life

(hell wednesdays being the series of bad decisions that mean I work my 9-5 job, do an online chinese class 5-7, leave the house at 7 to get a train to my 8-10 dance class, get back from that at 11ish and then I guess just die? idk, somehow I kept this up for two terms last year, but I'm another year older and tireder and I just. don't really want to. except that I do very much want to take a chinese class again and I love dancing and don't want to quit it, and I unfortunately don't get a choice about the job thing, so here I am :/ I am very much in the market for recs for small-group language classes though (cannot deal with 1:1 tutoring for reasons of I am very shy))

[brilliantfantasticgeronimo]

wild blue yonder

the tardis can regenerate itself...... !!! I mean, wait we knew that already kjhkjh but I just connected the dots now that... that means The Time Lords mined and mauled the child just to make their cars better, as well. Damn...

in classic who u used to have to use ur imagination to pretend everything wasn’t a wobbly set... now u have to use ur imagination to pretend everything isn’t a greenscreen :/

"is that who i am now?" the shocking thing isn’t that he is gay (that’s what donna interprets) the shock to himself is voicing how horny he is lol

Someone is gonna say gravity and that's gonna be fucking weird

"it would take trillion years to get that far” chills!

"no one is ever been this far. till us. and this ship" colonialism fiction dna shining thru

“you little streak” <3

"she'll move on" "not shaun, he'll go to that alleyway every year..." \ten at the alleyway to see rose parallel....

Ghost aroma!!!

blue and orange motif....…………… 13 aesthetic moments.... [13 and Swarm coded? / aka entropy/life coded?/donna and the doc...]

“maybe there's a tribe and they worship it… (…) time passes and the city falls... and there's the tardis" beautiful!! I'm could do somth w/ re: w/ the doctor and their companions. (eyes emoji)

"it got complicated" UNDERSTATEMENT OF A CENTURY #2

"The notion of shape is strange." "it limits" literally current architecture theory

This is so nofna solar system-core

love a classic “anti matter hates matter” story

[the no-bodies…?....cousins to the the could have been king ... with his army of never wheres…?]

This feels very [doctor trying to figure out their body in each regeneration] [intentionally?] this is so end of evangelion poster-core

"it’s strange enough my face coming back, but not this big" / [metaphor for reboots?]

This episode is like the clamoring for us to get a castrovalva 2 escher-like world again next season

"that's not gonna work either" i love these idiots

"why does it have to be one last trip?" rtd ringing moffat / gatiss / gardner / etc and being like like -

ok but follow this reasoning: if the doctor is the same person bc they keep their memories (as the show makes a point of.... constantly) ... and if the memories make the person ... then indeed an entity that copies the memories is the same person, is it not? Where do we draw the line between who’s “real” and who isn’t, in this scenario?

A CREATION I DEVASTATED / literally watched WoM two seconds before this w/ ten all "everything i do just makes it happen" sdjsdkf this is what i mean when i say the doctor has never Processed anythingggg since that Bottom Pit moment

"it wasn't your fault" "i know! (but it stil sucks!!!)" me at therapy like

"WHY DOES HE NEED YOU?" me, Pavlovian tone: because he is lonely...

“when something is gone, it keeps existing” → highlight this!!!! this is gonna be the new thesis statement about Grief!!! this is gonna be The Point for the next 4 years lol

It's very fun to watch this after marath6ning all of ten's era bc it's like... that boy never processed any of that shit. did 11 process shit? did 12? 12 maybe a little but really i think they just got even more trauma (bill ): ) dkdksks and don't get me started on 13. basically what im saying is the doctor Never did get a break on between waters of mars up until now... [and i guess to go further never did get a break after since like....... freaking ghost light skskskskkjkj seven is still There. we don't think about that enough.]

Donna being a clone fucker is not a headcanon ever thought i had but im glad its been confirmed now "donma doesn't think she"s stupid" im sure rtd has launched this exact same rant on so some unwilling family members while browsing ao3 "stop copying and make up your own minds" social commentary / commentary on reboots again / core "individualism > society" dr. who 101 messaging

The not things are kinda.... cute? skdksk if they weren't murderous they look like ppl to hang out w/ and play videogames......

"what do you want?" "you tell us" fundamental doctor-companion dialogue....

"love letters don't travel very far" put a pin on that...

ok.... ARGHGHGHH LET ME THINK THINK THINK skskks me failing at CBT be like

What if the doctor is from our universe. what then the doctor being like we have to mill ourselves immediately feels very 13

this is like "what if turn left and midnight but they go through it together this time <3" fic "where the walls are thin and anything is possible" eyes emoji

"that copy was 99% donna" so maybe re:earlier... what the show is saying between copy vs real is that it's all about the x factor, the 1%....

CONCLUSIONS! lived up to the hype! i think it's a bit 13-era vibe in that it's clearly influenced by all the prestige space-base-isolation scifi we see in the ~cinema now every year. the aesthetic is hitting that vibe (and going to the root, there's also a very clear Alien influence). kinda wish we had more one offs just like this one :( bc i feel the other 2 specials have too much Work to do, so there's not enough time to do.Fun like lore and character stuff. Execution wise is very successful. the switcheroos work. the callbacks work. there's a lot of character stuff happening ("I just realized I'm still working through that!") but it doesn't interfere w/ the adventure itself. My one grip is there's a couple shots that do feel too green-screen-y, but overall the ep is visually amazing. def only a story you could do now. also I love that the NMDs were like "rtd is gonna retcon the timeless child!!! everyone hated it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" and he was like "cool. now watch this" lollll king moments. rare moments where it feels like we live in the best timeline.

[goldkirk]

question: have any of you personally seen a dietician (not looking for experiences with nutritionists, only dieticians), and did you find it helpful or useful, and if you did see a dietician and you ALSO have seen a GI doctor, how did the experience compare for you in terms of helpfulness + how much you felt listened to and helped?

[themyscirah]

Some portrait doodles I did during my flight today

[komashkathesilly]

i just binged revue starlight show. that was crazy

[dlsintegration]

Lambs of God actually craziest show ever oh my god.

[inspiteofganon]

Transing Ganondorf's Gender?

I get like, really curious I'll admit, whenever someone has a headcanon that Ganondorf is transgender. What I really wish though is that more people would like... go into detail about it. Disclaimer of course that I am very transgender myself-- I like trans headcanons! I don't think there really needs to be any reason at all to portray or headcanon a character as trans. I've had several trans headcanons and considerings myself with various characters over time. It's something cute and sweet, and I enjoy seeing a Trans Dorf every now and then.

BUT the gerudo have such a thing about gender and physical sex baked into them with the whole "one male every 100 years, who is to be their king" thing they have, and that has potential for all sorts of wild societal implications for a transgender Ganondorf of any direction.

For simplicity's sake, and the subjects of this post, when I'll be talking about "trans Ganondorf"s I will largely-- if not exclusively-- mean Ganondorfs who were assigned one gender at birth, and at some point came to identify later as a different one. Whether that's "man", "woman", or some other thing. Ganondorf's potentially genderqueer-esque experiences of gerudo masculinity, Ganondorfs who are "girl" because they were raised that way and feel the same sort of gender-- effectively agender-- as the rest of the gerudo who are "girl"... isn't quite what I mean here.

Like, what of a transmasc Ganondorf? Does this imply that every hundred years there isn't a male, but rather one AFAB gerudo who just happens to transition? Or if there is a cis male, then socially speaking... what does that make the trans one? Because assuming he's validated in some way, but "our man is our king" is in place and only the cis one is royalty, then that's definitely still very 🤨 cis-preferential, you know. That has implications. Implications I don't really find explored. Would he have to prove his manhood in some way? Would other closeted transmasc gerudo see him start to come out, and come out all at once to vie for his place? If being a gerudo man is being a king, all kinds of drama could arise-- "Do you just want to be in charge of us? Be nobility? How do we know you aren't faking it? Do you even deserve it?" If being a gerudo man does not always equal being a king, and gerudo trans men are out and about, what's their place in society? ... and why wouldn't it be king, if the cis man gets to be so?

Where to even start on what a transfem Ganondorf could run into? "We're glad you respect women so much, but why wouldn't you want to be king?" Would she be considered a queen? Would "king" be gender-neutral and she'd just be a king who's a woman? Might she be thought less of for wanting to be so normal, when being a man is something so rare? Or would she be welcomed as a fellow sister, cherished for having such a spirit in common with her people? Would she, like... physically transition, or even desire to?

There's a lot of possibilities! Fantasy's fun isn't straight escapism for me, it's also catharsis and exploration. Whatever gender stuff the gerudo have going on doesn't have to be utopian and perfect for it to interest me. And if it is utopian, then well... I'd like to hear about how that works as well! It's still Society! All this hypothetical gender mess... possible transgenderism and its social implications for both Ganondorf and other gerudo... it's just more room for headcanons and worldbuilding! And I'd like to see it get taken more in-depth, personally.

[bilbotargaryen]

the flashbacks </3

[gxlden-angels]

I think it's so funny that I stayed mentally in the church for so long cause the pastor would go on and on about how anxiety stemmed from doubting the lord or whatever and I still ate that shit up as if I wasn't constantly shaking, crying and throwing up from anxiety like a neurotic chihuahua on caffeine from like 7 years old onward

[lettucedloophole]

hi apologies if youve alr made a post abt this (if u have, then maybe u can add a link to that specific post?) but i just wanted to ask for ur perspective bc this is smth i keep getting hung up on and i rlly only trust u to answer:

why would abolishing gender be harmful to trans ppl if transphobia stems from emphasis on traditional gender roles, and the abolishment would further their focus on relieving dysphoria thru physical sex change instead of relieving it by having to conform to sociological femininity and masculinity as a means to adapt in this patriarchal society?

thank you for taking the time to read and answer this <3

no worries! i haven't made a post about this before since no one's asked, but i'll answer it right here for you.

the answer is, it wouldn't be harmful. abolishing gender would ultimately be the best for everyone, but especially lgbt people & women. however... the contextualization of this point is what makes or breaks it. let me explain--

trans people have a negative reaction when people discuss abolishing gender not only for the same reason cis people might (a kneejerk reaction to protect the status quo), but also for the very valid reason of wanting to defend transness in a transphobic society. it's the same reason why some gay people will react negatively to the fact that homosexuality is a social construct, and therefore cannot be innate; most people use this argument to justify homophobia & patriarchy.

the thing is, to abolish gender, sex must also be abolished as it's the primary method of naturalizing gender. sex is a social construct-- it's not natural. however, terfs and any garden variety conservative will reify gender through the naturalization of sex. they'll say, "cis women and men are natural, but trans people aren't. therefore, they must be eliminated." similarly, "heterosexual people are natural, but gay and bi people aren't. therefore, they must be eliminated." eliminated can mean killed or, forcibly dissolved into the "natural" categories via bullshit self-loathing propaganda.

a really easy way to understand why this is so upsetting to trans people is just comparing their situation to gay people or women's, really, as they are so similar. if you walked up being like "wow i cant wait for gays to be abolished<3" ofc people will assume you mean it in a homophobic sense rather than a complicated, radical feminist sense, and if you're focusing on the abolition of minority groups in particular, it does likely stem from bigotry. not saying that you've said anything like that lol, but those examples are the best way i can illustrate the point.

also, everyone on the internet hates radical feminism, so regardless of how eloquently you explain your point & how sensible it is, if you associate it with radical feminism people will ignore what you say, misinterpret you so severely that it seems deliberate but could very well be internet stupidity, and also throw tomatos at you. 😭 radfems, matfems & a handful of marxist, anarchist, intersectional fems + womanists are the only ones i trust to not be covert antifeminists.

last p.s.: we don't know what a society outside of patriarchy looks like. assuming people will continue getting sex changes assumes the existence of a natural sex binary, though it's possible people may change "sex" characteristics as they please. trans people's issue is not only being forced into gender roles, but a hatred of transness which puts them into a catch-22 regarding survival under patriarchy-- they're "reifying patriarchy" if they transition, but plagued with dysphoria, martyrs to a post-patriarchal world centuries away from us if they don't. perhaps, a similar scenario would be if you told a gay or straight person to simply see people as gender/sexless and to experience attraction, to give affection as though we lived in a post-patriarchal society-- it just wouldn't be possible, and for the gay person who is particularly vulnerable under patriarchy, it would more likely be traumatizing. dworkin put it so succintly in woman hating...

i hope that wasn't too repetitive or long, i just wanted to be thorough. admittedly, this is kind of a loaded answer if you aren't familiar with sex as a social construct, so if you have anymore questions, feel free to ask!