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[Omniscient Reader's Viewpoint] I wonder if people ever ask Han Dareum about her mother and she just points to Han Myungoh like this
It's been a while since I Wine-Auntiefied a middle aged corporate man.
Wah these were lots of fun to draw >_<. Even when I was incoherent from fever during the process on drawing these lol
#orv#omniscient reader's viewpoint#omniscient readers viewpoint#omniscient reader#orv han myungoh#dont worry guys. mother is mothering. you can rest assured#I was bored and sad from being sick but I didn't want to rest so I just started drawing him and somehow this all happened#thank you Pinterest
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Basically, my philosophy around disability fakers is: I would rather a thousand people fake a disability than have one disabled person suffer without care, aids, compassion, or any help.
#disability#disability advocacy#and there's a difference not many people seem to recognize between faking and realizing you don't have [x] problem...#...such as realizing you don't have [x] disorder because it is instead [y] disorder...#...or you haven't completely understood your care needs/your symptoms/what helps you...#...and some people see ANY change in your understanding of your disability as proof of maliciously faking...#...when i suppose in my personal experience people don't *maliciously* fake disability...#...i'm not saying it could never happen but that i don't think it's the *only* thing motivating people called fakers#i just think (like most everything) this is complex and nuanced because it's a *human* experience#like for me personally i /know/ i still have a lot to learn about my disabilities...#...like... i realized recently that my hands shouldn't be in AGONY when warm water is ran over them when it's SLIGHTLY cold inside or out...#...and i realized that i likely have a Noticable limb difference that needs checking out. does this sound like i'm faking...#...or that maybe i just didn't really explore my own needs and body because of a variety of factors?#i can assure you it is because i haven't really thought before about how i deserved to understand how to best help myself
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On Voting in America
So one of the most profound comments on routine chores that I've ever encountered was, hilariously, the Pickle Rick episode of "Rick & Morty," where (after a lot of shenanigans have already ensued) this therapist absolutely lays Rick out:
"I have no doubt that you would be bored senseless by therapy, the same way I'm bored when I brush my teeth and wipe my ass. Because the thing about repairing, maintaining, and cleaning is: it's not an adventure. There's no way to do it so wrong you might die. It's just work. And the bottom line is some people are okay going to work and some people, well, some people would rather die. Each of us gets to choose."
I think about this at least once a week — usually while I'm doing my laundry or sweeping or some other task that needs doing and won't get me anything more than clean clothing or a dog-hair-free floor. There's no Pulitzer for wiping down your microwave or scrubbing your toilet; no one's awarding you for getting all the dishes out of the sink. At best you have the satisfaction of crossing it off your list.
Voting is very much the same (and I'm talking about the US here, as an American). Sure, you sometimes get a sticker; but nobody's going to cheer for you. There's no adventure here, no potential for anything more than crossing something off of a list. It's a chore, something that needs doing in order to repair, maintain, and yes even clean. So I get why people don't like doing it.
And I've decided I don't give a shit.
Do it anyway. Your country takes astonishingly little from you — taxes, the once-in-a-blue-moon jury duty, and a theoretical draft that hasn't been used in over half a century and likely will never be again — but it asks you (asks! not requires! not demands!) to vote once or twice a year. It's not always easy; especially in conservative states, the impediments to vote can be ridiculous. But it is once a year and unlike in our nation's all-too-recent past, you will not die if you do it.
In fact, the worst outcome from voting these days is that the person or issue that you vote for loses — but you won't know if they lose until after the election. Polls are less accurate now, for a whole host of reasons; you cannot know until after the election who or what will win. This makes your vote more valuable than possibly ever before.
Use that power. Not because it's exciting or even rewarding, but because your vote is what keeps our country's metaphorical teeth from falling out and our metaphorical ass from stinking.
Brush, wipe, vote.
#ok the metaphor may've gotten a little gross but rick & morty chose it not me#anyway if voting didn't matter then rich people wouldn't do it#and I can assure you: they do#also: please don't think of voting like a reward for the person you're voting for#or as a punishment for the person you're not voting for#my mom's advice was:#think about the most vulnerable people you care about and vote for the person or issue that will make their lives better#and you'll rarely go wrong#yes there are often two bad options but if you're old enough to vote you're old enough to understand the difference between bad and less ba#anyway that's all the political lecturing I'll do this year#except maybe to complain about the 18-hour day I'll be having on Tuesday#oh also SIGN UP TO WORK ELECTIONS WE NEED MORE HELP#thank you#politics!
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[Zac] was just trying to tell me to be happy with the win, and I appreciate that about him. Because I can get lost in, just like everybody can, you get lost in the adversity of the season. You can't take winning for granted and I've tried to get better at that.
#important characterization notes#i do agree that they asked wayyyyyyyy too many questions about the outburst (if you can call it that)#and like....one question about the browns lol#but! i did think this was very interesting#because like. all zac was trying to do was be like 'chill out. we won. be happy!' and joe responding#FUCK THAT IT'S FUCKING EMBARRASSING!!! 😡😡😡#is precious to me#this lil perfectionist. never happy with just winning.#even in a season where those have been exceedingly rare#just like the raiders game! (and i do think it was interesting that he said he can let himself have these outbursts#when they have the game in hand. but they should be blowing out their opponents#like the raiders like the titans. but they aren't. but he feels comfortable anyway.)#verrrrrrry interesting#so calculated even when he seems to be 'losing it'#and then to tie it back to joe'marr. because of course. it's me.#thinking back to that ravens post-game insta live that ja'marr had#of joe apologizing for playing like shit (and not focusing on the fact that they. you know. won the division for 2 years in a row)#and ja'marr assures him he's good and all but doesn't tell him to just be happy#he tells him yeah. you did fuck up on some stuff. but you're good. you're good.#i dunno. ja'marr noted joe handler! versus how zac handled it lol#(also joe emphasizing that he didn't want the yelling all the time in your face coach.)#(let's not forget he dealt with that already with urban lol)#and even in this response saying that he appreciated what zac was doing#ANYWAY just rambling at this point#joe burrow#zac taylor#cincinnati bengals
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What?? Why on Earth would they bloodlet Machete when he's already anemic?
Anemia wasn't discovered until 1852, so his physicians have no idea. He's just moody and achy and visibly unwell and bloodletting happens to be the cure-for-all fix at the time.
I don't think I'm exaggerating when I say it was one of the most used treatments in western medicine from ancient Greece to 19th century (and even earlier than that in Egypt, for example). There weren't many ailments that a little bit of breathing a vein wouldn't alleviate, supposedly. This whole concept is based on humoral theory which is a fascinating cornerstone of medical history and also completely unfounded nonsense, look it up if you haven't, it's interesting. People believed that blood didn't circulate through the body, it was created, used up and then the bad blood would stagnate in the extremities. Having too much blood would disturb your humoral balance and create illnesses so removing it was beneficial to your wellbeing. Even completely healthy people would sometimes go get themselves bled a bit just to be sure.
You kind of need blood for your body to function so this treatment was completely pointless at best and life threatening at worst. If you were sick to begin with it would only weaken you further (and expose you to potential infections, which in the absence of antibiotics, wasn't great). The only viable use for it would have to be rare blood disorders where your body produces too many red blood cells, like polycythemia vera, essentially the polar opposite of anemia.
#answered#anonymous#blood#Machete#I think the only thing Machete is getting out of these bloodletting sessions is a vague sensation of lightheaded tiredness#created by the combined effects of bloodloss wooziness and a mild pain induced endorphin rush which is a very dumb way to get high#and maybe that's enough for him to mistake it as a good thing especially if his doctors keep assuring him it's effective and necessary#he'd have a lot more vitality if they didn't actively sap his literal lifeblood but what can you do#the cuts aren't big but they can be deep so he's got lots of tiny scars on his arms especially inner elbows#which was often the most common site you'd operate on#they're flat and white enough that you don't see them unless you're looking very closely#he's relatively fine with bloodletting but leech therapy really squicks him out
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THEY DEVASTATINGLY WALLOPED ME FOR THESE BRIEF FEW SECONDS
#leigh's magneto hours#THERE'S SO MUCH TO UNPACK HERE. ESPECIALLY THE ALMOST TOUCHING FOREHEADS BIT.#magneto's 'my path is too littered with error'#;WWWWWWW;#and rogue's 'you have to earn people's trust'#LIKE!!!!! AND THEN HE DIRECTLY GOES FOR THE 'ooooo i feared you'd do your best to avoid being alone with me.' WITH THE HAND GRAB!!!!#YOU FEARED???? YOU FEARED?!?! FEARED FOR WHAT. OLD MAN WHAT ARE YOU SAYING#AND THEN HE GOES TO TRY AND TAKE OFF THE GLOVE. AS IF WE DIDN'T JUST ADDRESS TRUST#dnvjdxbvjhdbvhdx. this man. i swear. you are giving me signals that you want to be more open and then YET YOU BRING UP OLD BAGGAGE#he's like 'oh i just got rejected. well now time to deflect.' LIKE AAAAAAAAA#this moment coupled with the moment at the end is making me crazy#sorry to my followers who never expected me to be into xmen???? im here now. im so ill with it.#i can probably assure there will be more rogneto on this blog here in the future. this is your warning#i just feel like ive been fucking SPOON FED oh my god. crossing my fingers we get more messy feelings between them.
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I can't see how the writers still think Skystar's a good person. Like, twelve year old me liked him and thought he was interesting, but I was like twelve. And even I knew he was an irredeemable asshole after Moth Flight's Vision. If a twelve year old can figure this stuff out I have no idea what these grown ass writers were doing.
DOTC has a thesis, stated in The First Battle, that really explains everything.
"Fear and Greed" is just a fake-deep way to reinvent a Good and Evil dichotomy. Because Clear Sky's abuse comes from a place of fear, it means it's not malicious, unlike a "greedy" cat.
He can be "soothed," ergo, he's a fundamentally good person.
Post-First Battle, the books are focusing constantly on his feelings, how sad it makes him to not be trusted, how happy he is when people are on his side. All while he continues to screech at people who tell him what to do, manipulate and mistreat his son, and even still beats and mauls those who offend him.
But because it's "fear," that doesn't matter. That's a justification, an excuse. The writers don't seem to believe in good and bad actions as much as they do good and bad people. True 'evil' comes from a person who hurts others for the wrong reasons, like 'revenge' or malice.
It's abuse apologia. Plain and simple.
The truth is that abusers don't think of themselves as evil people, and everyone, even you and me, is capable of being toxic or abusive. Talk to those who have been abused and we'll tell you; we often stayed because we "saw the good," or even felt responsible for them. Abuse can be passed down through generations because the kids come to believe the way they were treated was normal and okay.
If you go through life thinking that abuse only comes from evil/greedy people, you won't see it when it happens right in front of you. Fundamental good and evil is childish. Abuse comes from fear all the time.
Abuse is about power and control. Fear of rejection, of losing someone, of pain, those are all very common motivators as the abuser tries to stop them from happening before they even begin. It doesn't MATTER that your abuser is in pain too, you NEVER "deserved" what they did in an attempt to break your legs so you wouldn't run.
But... we can all change. Even the worst of us. It's never too late to stop hurting others, move on to a better life, but some people never will. Skystar loves his power, and he keeps that power no matter how many times he misuses it.
He has no reason to change as long as his cruelty rewards him with status and authority.
But the writers are incapable of recognizing that, because for this entire arc, they were stuck in an absurd view of the world in terms of Fear and Greed. Abuse can be excused if he did it for the "right reason," and that makes him "fundamentally different" from the truly evil villains, Slash and One Eye.
Hopefully, it now makes more sense to you.
#I am completely sincere when I say that I am legitimately concerned for the mental health of these writers sometimes#It's a lot of words to say. Again. That evil is really really simple.#It feels good to get what you want.#Power gets you what you want-- Security. Assurance. Respect.#Everyone wants these things.#It's not about having a twisted and sadistic soul#I'm sure those exist out there. But they're so so rare#And you will get hurt if you need to believe that the only person it's okay to leave or distrust or hate is a literal monster#You can leave anyone who tries to control and hurt you actually!!#Even if they're in emotional pain and insist that they NEED YOU#You didn't deserve it! You never did! It's okay! They didn't need to be a monster. And you're not one for leaving either.#Or resenting them. Or recognizing that they can't be trusted.#Of course... well. Clear Sky DOES act like a monster in this text.#Gouging out people's eyes and slaughtering innocent women#But most of the time irl your abuser didn't like. Kill someone lmao#At some point the metaphor breaks down#BUT!!!#cw abuse#dotc hate#Clear Sky#Skystar#Anyway casting spell of I Love You on every abuse survivor who feels a connection here#bone babble
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The thing that gets me, even 10+ years down the line, is that EVEN IF Harry and Louis were weirded out by people shipping them (which IS fair, but also: I think the blame can be shared 50/50 between fandom and pr people) to the point where it "ruined their friendship", we simply shouldn't have been able to notice it.
Like, that's the WHOLE POINT of having people who media train you and pr people: to present a nice image to the public. And 1D's image, like EVERY boyband out there, revolved around thinking the boys were all close, they were happy to be together forever. The reason people were so blindsided by Zayn leaving the band is that they had to pretend everything was fine and dandy even when it wasn't, and the public bought it.
I'm not saying that's a good thing, I'm not saying I'm happy with it, I'm saying that's the reason pr people and managements and every other behind the scenes part of the industry even EXISTS: to smooth out the wrinkles of the image presented to us. Boybands are supposed to be a UNITED FRONT. We as the public are not supposed to know about the skirmishes boys get into, because people would not root for a band where they know there's infighting.
If H&L were actually barely speaking during all those Years (and that's the thing that gets me, it was genuinely YEARS, not like, a bad week), as management their job should have been to force them into a Get Along Shirt and have them actually be professional and act like they did not have disagreements. It seriously makes NO SENSE to me after all these years that there were span of Months of interviews in which they barely interacted with each other and acted like the other one didn't exist, because if it was actually them not wanting to speak to each other, a good (by this I mean somewhat professional, not morally good) management would have said "suck it up and pretend you're still friends". That was their job! I cannot stress enough how this was PRECISELY a job for pr people! And they didn't do it!
So either they were so bad at their job they didn't even TRY to fix the public perception of the band, or having them pretending the other didn't exist was the best outcome. Which. You see how insanely suspicious that was? Like, even without taking into account whatever weird glances they threw at people in the crowd or the images of them hesitating to touch each other, the fact that the mainstream narrative was THIS and no one DARED to put a patch on it is insane in and of itself. It's honestly the dumbest thing whoever was in charge ever did for these boys' image
#twelve years later#one day i will elaborate on the fandom vs pr people because i think the fault lies on both parts#but today is not that day#dare i say#larry stylinson#anyway looking back on it its such a dumb approach to the rumors. both if they were a thing and if they weren't.#bc wdym they didnt even sit next to each other for YEARS???#i can assure you there is NOT that many permutation between five people.#and if they were actually together it looks like a poor overcompensation tactic#but if they weren't#and this was all h&l decision bc they didn't like each other anymore#those modest! people look EVEN WORSE st their jobs! like truly if your talent is being stroppy because they dont like each other#you tell them to suck it up and do their fucking job#and this one isnt even a 'the industry is evil and forces people to be fake' this one is COMMON SENSE BETWEEN COWORKERS.#like idc if outside of your job you roll your eyes at each other but if as a team you have to present a united front you WILL play nice#god knows how many coworkers of mine i could not fucking stand and yet. if it came down to i would have sooner died than let the kids see it
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T'Pel is pregnant! [Patreon | Commissions]
#this is a no thoughts caption bc it was a head empty drawing#I sat back after drawing this and thought 'oh you know Tuvok's meditating DAILY to not worry about her'#she is so small#bea art tag#T'Pel#st voy#star trek#star trek voyager#I drew T'Pel with a large bump here but I think it'd be fun if Vulcan pregnancies were more alien#like...if the infant had a shorter amount of time in the actual body but needed more intense monitoring/care afterward#what if Vulcan newborns didn't cry?? I can imagine Sarek calming Amanda down when she didn't hear Spock OR Amanda assuring Sarek#that its natural for a Human baby to cry right out of the womb#once a Vulcan baby starts to cry and interact with its surroundings instead of mostly just lying there blinking or sleepin it's a milestone#becoming aware of its physical body instead of remaining cerebral!! But now it's mostly like a Human baby so v_v get ready
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"I'm too busy to discuss this with you right now and I'm totally not repressing my feelings."
#stranger things#willel#will byers#el hopper#lucas sinclair#mike wheeler#my content#I was going to add text but El and Mike's conversation didn't flow quite the same#basically I just now noticed that both Will and El blow of Lucas and Mike when they were trying to apologize or explain themselves#I feel like Lucas's apology came across a little more genuine#his face at the end breaks my heart#Will is SO obviously trying to play it off but#I think Lucas can see that he's hurting so he's like#'Damn... we really hurt him.'#'What should I do?'#I LOVE LUCAS SO MUCH#OENELNWETW#Seriously he is one of the best friends a kid could ask for#He makes mistakes but you can rest assured he'll do anything to make things right#I don't think Will is really upset at Lucas which is the root of why he didn't want/accept Lucas's apology#but still it's clear Lucas wanted to fix whatever was going on and he got walled out#i need lucas and Will scenes next season pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeee#anyway#back to the willel parallels#I just find it interesting that when offered apologies#they blew them off#Will did it easily because Lucas could read the room and didn't want to push Will on the subject#El tried to blow Mike off multiple times because she didn't want to talk about it but he wouldn't let her leave#so she kinda unloaded on him a bit#though I'm sure if given the opportunity
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first art post of the new year!!! granted, i don't share my art here that much anyway, but– shhh.
hehehehhhooo,, here's something i've been working on for 'bout a month,, albeit not consecutively– took a few,, very very long breaks in between working on this,, but i managed to finish it in the end! am i satisfied with it? .......ehhhh? not completely, but if this took any longer, it might not have seen the light of day, so like. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯.
anyway,, made a little poster for my favorite fic, tommyinnit's services for villains, vigilantes, and various other vagabonds, by @scorpionoesit!!! it's really really good,,, and i've always wanted to make more art for it,, so i decided– poster! at least,, that's what it's mean to resemble,,, dkdmkdmdkd.
i will freely admit,, i'm... not the biggest fan of the fan-made logo i tried to design for it,, feels a bit boring, and could definitely have used a bit more pizazz, something to make feel more like the fic itself(what does that mean? you figure that out),,,, but– again, steam was running low,, dkdnksjs. graphic design is my passion. i do also have other complaints, but i'm afraid i already punched my one-use self-critique card,, oh well,,, dkdnkxjdkd.
regardless,, even with the flaws only i can really see,, this still turned out pretty okay!! hope you enjoy it, mx. scorpio and mx. alibi!!! and i hope everyone else has a wonderful new year!!!!
#my art#dream smp#services for vagabonds#tommyinnit fanart#tommyinnit#i don't wanna try tagging the rest of them so i'm just not gonna <3#anyway wrow i wonder who the skull guy and mysterious shadowy figure are....... could be anyone.#i was gonna try and fit in some sort of hero so i could check all the dots of everyone tommy's help#specifically either dr**m (derogatory) or phil#(was mostly leaning towards phil)#but 1) couldn't figure out a way to make it look good with the current set up#my first thought was to try moving the current characters around a bit; but then it would feel too crowded#my second thought was to have them appear from the smoke; somehow? a smoky figure?#but that only really looked good in sketch form and i didn't have the patience to figure that out properly#and 2) no clue what their designs look like. don't even know what their powers are; yet!#was also wanting to fit fundy in but it didn't work for the first reason#fun rapid fire character design facts: niki has a littol sharp tooth 'cause of the joker stuff!#i originally gave tubbo green eyes;; but i decided blue-green looked cooler#tech– [cough] i mean;; *orion's* cloak has a faint lil orion pattern on can barely see it but it's there i assure you !!!#(i tried my best for his design but i am. not the greatest at outfits;; especially hero/villain ones)#tommy has long hair bc it's *MY* art and *I* say he gets long hair. this definitely isn't canon to vagabonds i just like to do this#<- also why michael and tommy have freckles#tommy has a bit of green in his design(through the patch) due to a theory of mine :D#might have over-rendered the hair a bit but. fuck you i like it#anyway i think that's all i have to say about it? if you've actually read all these tags;;; have a cookie -> 🍪#pretend it's a peanut butter cookie#actually. no pretend it's both. you get two cookies. as a treat.#anyway have a good rest-of-your-day !!!!!!
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I just had the literal best meal I've had in ages: chicken salad, crunchy veggie salad, sharp cheddar cheese, sweet pickles, and Italian bread toasted and then fried with more butter to really make it good. Oh, and a cup over very strong Irish breakfast tea to wash it down. I just girl-dinnered like a boss. Stick a fork in me; I am done.
#personal#food#dinner#the funniest thing is that I don't even LIKE pickles#or I didn't until I started craving them earlier this week.#I can assure you that I am most definitely NOT pregnant
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This coming weekend will mark the first year anniversary of when I first drew the Sugar Rush Squad, Rascal's rag-tag team of beatniks, altogether— and seeing how close these candied caddies are to me, I decided to draw key artwork of them in their entirety for the occasion! 🍬🧡💙🧡🍬
#⭐ Star's Art ⭐#Star's OCs#Rascal#Rascal 1983#Rascal Arcade#Goofball Rascal#Jellybean Joe#Mr. Stackman#Sour Sally#Choco Chuck#Arcade#Arcade Games#OCs#My OCs#Coolness#Comparing this to the first time I drew them altogether... I find this year's iteration just OOZES with improvement all across the board#I think that may just be because the 2023 iteration had no color but it goes beyond that even#The lineart is smoother and I've finally found a consistent and stylized way to draw everyone#The original iteration of this drawing was also the first time I had drawn Choco Chuck's now-final design!#And while I didn't include said iteration I assure you his expression is almost 1:1 because it is just that funny#His design anniversary will be this Sunday and you can bet that I'm going to draw a silly doodle for it#Oafish as he may be... the man deserves a nice ice cream cake#''CHOCO CHUCK WANTS ICE CREAM!'' — Choco Chuck 2023
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i can't believe i live in a timeline where lucy is gonna feel prompted to tell tim she's in love with him after witnessing him fall unconscious and thinking she's lost him or could potentially lose him and only really realizing in that moment how either of their lives could change in an instant what with the line of work they're in.
#*carly catalogs#IT'S SO CLICHÈ BUT GOD I EAT IT UP#I EAT THAT SHIT UUUPPPPP!!!!!#like yeah she's seen him get hurt plenty of times#but they're officially dating now.... so the impact of either one of them witnessing the other get hurt is gonna be infinitely more INSANE#cause she wasn't there when he was dangling off that parking ramp with aaron#and she thought she didn't have to worry about his spinal surgery#and even though she was clearly very worried about him when she first entered his room#once he assured he was going to make a full recovery they picked right back up with their bantering#idk this just feels.... different... like so much more#especially if they're technically still in a fight#... like.... that fights not gonna matter anymore once it's light's out for that pretty pretty princess#the rookie#the rookie s6#tim bradford#lucy chen#chenford#otp: you know me so well#took an edible can you tell?????
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I think Americans would benefit from having naked statues in their streets and naked people on paintings in every schoolbook related to history/art. I think it would make them more qualified to talk about nudity in art without frying other people's brains.
#also can we talk about feet for a second. why. why is it that every time I see some fanart#reposted to pinterest#where a character is barefoot there's always weirdos in the comments going 'put those grippers/clappers' away#like. why are YOU making it weird. have you never seen feet before? never been to the beach?#you sound like victorian men glimpsing at an uncovered ankle#what the fuck#but this post was brought by mr noticing a stark difference in how younger usanians respond to nudity in art#like... it's not inappropriate for a minor to see a naked statue#here in Portugal we see naked statues simce we're babies#bonus points for the little boy who once copied a statue of a naked little boy pissing water onto a fontain and did the same thing#mother was horrified but it was funny#anyway I assure you the statues didn't traumatize anyone#same with paintings#nudity censorship in art is flabbergasting to me
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I'm really tired of situations where asexuality is mentioned like, casually in a way that kind of flattens the definition a bit for simplicity's sake (like just implying asexuality = no sexual interest) and someone feels like they have to jump in to remind us all that some asexuals can still have sex. like cool sure that's a true statement but it rarely comes across as adding nuance and instead sounds like you're saying "remember that some of us are normal just like you". well most of us aren't "normal" so maybe let people sit with their discomfort with that fact for five minutes before reassuring them that asexuals can be just like everyone else
#in the same vein: people who assure non-aces that aces can still have relationships like they do!!#like yeah sure they can but do you need to implicitly throw aro folks under the bus in order to prove how normal you can be?#it's just respectability politics and I think we should just give less of a shit about optics in general#let yourself be unrelable. unpalatable even#it's not on you to make people understand and respect you by sanding down the things they have trouble grappling with#the hatred of aces on this website 5-10 years ago really made folks so afraid to be 'cringe' bc of harassment and it angers me#but the secret is that the only aces those people didn't consider cringe are those that just shut up and didn't talk about it ever#vent your rage about compulsory sexuality a little you'll feel better#reilly.txt#asexuality
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