#boy advice

[traveller-of-the-knight]

[ohhowihatebeingagirl]

Dating In Highschool

The majority of people I know have already had a relationship(most of them not even serious ones). They've also gone on dates, had their first kiss, etc. I haven't had any. Kids my age are shocked when I tell them this. Is it okay that I don't have any dating experience? I'm worried that I'll bring this lack of experience with me to college, and then dating will be very challenging. Or is it okay and should I stay a kid for a little while longer? But it's hard to not feel left out when everyone around you seems to be experts at talking to boys. Any advice?

[twunk-thoughts]

Are you interested in that boys whole ass? Or his ass Whole? 🤔🤔🤔

Thinking emoji

[ultimateboy]

ive been considering swapping from fortnite to a more adult game, but my parents say rainbow six siege is too adult for me :( 12m

Have a talk with your parents about swapping to more mature games. You need to let them know that you can be responsible, mentally well, and stable enough to play mature games. You have to prepare yourself to play with adults who are not as nice and forgiven as the ones in Fortnite.

If you can't convince your parents to get you Raindow Six Siege, I have some other games that I would recommend telling your parents about. Apex Legends and Halo are both family-friendly FPS games that I would mention to your parents if you can't get Rainbow Six Siege.

If both of these methods fail, you still have other options. For example, you can always go look in the custom games for more adult content, or you can go to roblox. Roblox has a lot of customs FPS games available that are like Raindow Six Siege and still being more mature than Fortnite.

Here are some affirmations to say/keep in mind while trying to swap from Fortnite:

I have the strength to break away from Fornite

My parents will listen and understand me

It's going to be okay

I can always try again

I am mature enough

[westsidedolly]

I feel like he does care for me in his own little fucked up way…. Ik for a fact he really wants me to b sober but it’s sooooo 🫥

[mikithehands]

akira's been acting really strange lately and im genuinely concerned for him. it's like he's hiding something from me. the fact that he's in gay love with his other friend? i know this already. he doesn't need to hide this from me! how should i talk to him about this?

[fantarti]

Right so update for those who care, we've talked more over text and send pics of our outfits to eachother and I accidentally said I don't want to die alone while he was inches away from me, I gave him a mint and he was bragging to my friend about how I gave him a mint, omg I love him sososso painfully much and I want to hold his hand and stuff but i need like cold hard evidence that he really likes me back before i ask him out

Any advice will be taken on kindly

[stealingpotatoes]

heres a crappy venn (??) diagram explaining the dynamics in the tl4j time travel au bc it's easier than trying to write a full plot

[yet-another-heathen]

On conditioned whumpees...

Y'know, I think one of the things that people get wrong with conditioned whumpees is their rules. Specifically, when a whumpee was in long term captivity/training and they later get released or escape.

Most people write them as latching onto a caretaker or new whumper, and begging for new rules so they know they're doing something right. A new set of laws to live by, a new framework to behave to.

And that's... not really how conditioning works.

Conditioning means automatic reactions. Your body doing something that was trained into you without consulting your brain first.

There is no decision making. There is no choice. The trigger hits, and you are immediately performing the correct action regardless of anything else.

You're told to kneel? Your knees have already hit the ground. You're supposed to be standing in one part of the house when a certain noise is made? You've launched into movement before you even realize what you heard.

These rules are woven into the fabric of your body. And they are insurmountable. The conditioning overrides emotion, internal conflict, hesitation, beliefs, wants... everything.

Your whumpee may very well hate what is being done to them, and after the moment has passed they're cursing themself and their whumper. They're still a person on the inside. And that person is still very much alive. Most of the time, they will have some level of awareness that what's being done to them is wrong. They'll be angry. They'll be hurt. And they will hate that there is nothing they can do about it.

But the next time that trigger occurs, the response still hits them exactly the same.

So now take your whumpee out of that situation. They ran away, were rescued, were sold. They got out. Now they're with new people, a new caretaker, a new whumper. Or they're on their own and trying to make their own way in the world.

But those conditioned responses are still there.

There's no turning them off. You don't just replace them with new rules. They are in your every fibre. They have been built into the very framework of who you are.

The next time someone says the word "kneel", your knees are on the ground again. No matter where you are, or who you're with. The response happens before you can stop it. If they don't know why, everyone looks at you like you're insane. And you feel like you are.

Deconditioning is an agonizing process that takes more effort than I can even begin to describe to someone who's never experienced it.

Every time they hit that trigger, that response will still be there. Over, and over, and over, and over.

Breaking those rules down takes YEARS. And it is a constant effort that the whumpee has to choose to undergo every single time. Progress is measured milimeter by milimeter. You're told to kneel, and you kneel. You're told to kneel, and your mind catches up with the fact that you already did it— but a little sooner than it did before. Then a split second sooner. Then as you're doing it. Then you feel the impulse just before your knees hit the ground. Then you have a split-second of resistance before you go down. On and on and on and on, inching toward progress despite the fact that you're fighting with all your might. And that progress is anything but linear.

You don't just start obeying new rules. You don't latch on to your caretaker's new way of doing things and drop everything that you were conditioned to do before. These rules don't just get replaced.

Conditioning is not a belief system. It's a flinch response. Programmed deeper than the instincts you were born with.

You can be ordered not to obey the old command, and moments later when the trigger comes, you will anyway. Because in conditioning, the action comes before the choice.

These rules, these laws of your existence, come above everything else. And if your new whumper wants to replace them, they are going to have to beat the new rules into you so often and so severely that the pain becomes stronger than the old conditioning. At which point, the newly desired response will very, very slowly start to take over.

You're not swapping out new rules. You're layering new, worse conditioning on top of the old. And your brain will spend time stuck in that split-second between both responses before one finally grows stronger than the other. And even then, the change will not happen quickly.

That is what your conditioned whumpee is up against. That is what makes it such a horrible—HORRIBLE— and powerful tool.

[royaltea000]

he could not control the class 😔

[kugisakiss]

※Replacing Hakuba with Sonoko in the Gosho Boys and vice versa

Expectation:

Reality:

Hakuba's mildly terrifying love triangle // Sonoko's incredibly disappointing harem of boys

It took me a while to get to it but I've been sitting on this idea for the last 2 years after seeing these tags on an old post of mine by littlechibs, so shout out to them because they're right and I liked the idea a lot <3

Girl's Side | Boy's Side

[jakegyllenbaalz]

dead poets society, dir peter weir (1989)

[turtleblogatlast]

One of the funniest parts about the whole “Leo not giving Draxum any grace” idea is that Draxum is one of the ONLY notable older men in the show that Leo isn’t willing to give a proper second chance to OR really hear out in the first place.

No seriously it’s genuinely a Thing.

[katcantstopthinking]

or when you guys talk all night but he leaves you on delivered all day 👎👎 goddd is fine shyt rlly worth it guys

can I give an in depth rant abt this man yall he's got me acting all delulu

Okay...I need some boy advice!

Can someone please explain to me why a boy would bother sending you a Snapchat if when you reply he always leaves you on read. Like...it’s to the point where I don’t bother with him anymore but he’ll send me something, I’ll reply and just...fucking nothing.

WHAT THE FUCK IS THE POINT?!?

[ultimateboy]

i 26m am struggling to stay dedicated to my call of duty camo grind. do you have any advice on how to stay focused?

Are you dedicated to the grind or not? Ask yourself this, and you will find the answer to your question. But I will also add that you should keep in mind the end results of your camo grinding. Because when you finish your camo grinding, you will feel a huge sense of accomplishment and finally get the master camo. This makes it all worth it.

Here are some affirmations you can say to yourself/keep in mind while camo grinding:

I can do this

I can do anything I set my mind to

I will finish my camo grind

I will find the strength to finish my camo grind

It's okay to take breaks from my camo grind

[writerthreads]

Fantasy names ideas (with meanings!)

By Writerthreads on Instagram

I always have trouble coming up with names for side characters, so hopefully this can help you as much as it helped me! The names in brackets are additional ones that are similar.

Male Fantasy Names

Aldric – (Germanic) old ruler / wise ruler

Caelum – (Latin) sky / heaven

Druvan(/Dhruv) – (Sanskrit) steady / immovable

Fenris – (Norse) named after the mythical wolf Fenrir

Kaelen(/Kaelan) – (Celtic) warrior / mighty

Leofric – (Old English) beloved ruler

Maelor – (Welsh) prince / lord

Rurik – (Slavic) famous ruler

Torin – (Gaelic) chief / thunder

Zarion – (Hebrew) full of sadness

Baldric(/Balrik) – (Old Norse) mighty warrior

Garron – (Irish) strength / protection

Ithran – (Arabic) crowned / majestic

Jorah – (Hebrew) autumn rain / early rain

Oberon – (Germanic / French) noble bear, associated with royalty

Female Fantasy Names

Ariella – (Hebrew) lioness of God

Brienne – (Celtic) noble / strong

Elysande – (French) noble / gracious

Isolde – (Germanic / Celtic) ice ruler / beauty

Lyra – (Latin) derived from the constellation Lyra, lyre

Mirabel – (Latin) wonder

Seraphine – (Hebrew) burning one / angelic being

Taliyah – (Arabic) blooming / rising

Yvaine – (Old French) evening star

Althea – (Greek) healer / wholesome

Calantha – (Greek) beautiful flower

Elira – (Albanian) free spirit / liberated

Selene – (Greek) moon goddess / light of the moon

Eleanor – (Greek / French) shining light

Gender-Neutral Fantasy Names

Aeris – (Latin) air / ethereal

Elynor(/Aenor) – (Greek) light / shining

Lior – (Hebrew) my light

Orin – (Celtic) pale / fair

Rune – (Old Norse) secret / mystery

Selwyn – (Old English) good friend / companion

Vesper – (Latin) evening / evening star

Aenor – (Germanic) strength / honor

Ilan – (Hebrew) tree / oak

Soren – (Scandinavian) stern / severe

Next up, country name ideas?