#blame the video

[inkskinned]

there's a video on instagram of a man kicking his partner's door in. the top comment is (with over 4 thousand likes): "how about you tell us what you did to make him that angry?"

barring emergency, nobody should be kicking anybody's door in. many of us lived in houses where it was always, somehow, an emergency. there is a strange, almost hysterical calm that comes over you in that moment - everything feels muted, and you almost feel, however incongruently, like you should be laughing. you are living inside of "the emergency." oh my god, you think. i am now a fucking statistic.

there is another comment with 2.8 thousand likes: "if this was a woman doing it to a man, nobody would give a shit."

do people give a shit now, though?

barring emergency, the door should remain standing. the emergency should be panicked, desperate - "i'm coming in there to protect you." many of us know what it feels like when the emergency is instead "i'm coming in there to get you."

1.5k likes: "and yet you post this for notes. glad to see being the victim has become your whole personality."

hysteria is a word connected to womb, from greek. what you're experiencing is so senseless and inhumane that you (a rational creature) try to find any ground within what is irrational and cannot be explained. one of the most frustrating things about staying in bad situations is that we also lie to ourselves. we also ask ourselves - wow. what did i do?

women can be, and often are, also abusers. abuse is not gendered. abuse is not just a "straight person" problem. abuse does not have a face or figure or sexuality. you cannot pick an abuser out of a crowd. an abuser could be actually anybody.

and then so many people rally behind the man kicking the door in. here is something nobody should be doing, right? you want to ask every person that liked that first comment: do you ask this because you side with him? do you ask this because it helps you feel safe from this ever happening?

in some ways, you're weirdly sympathetic to the top comment, because it is the same logic you see frequently. the idea is that the average, normal, sane person doesn't just break down a door. doesn't just shoot up a school. doesn't stalk and kill women. doesn't threaten sexual assault. doesn't run over protesters. doesn't shoot an unarmed black person. doesn't scream at underpaid walmart employees. doesn't just "lose it". something had to have happened, right? because the default (white. straight. cis.) - that is someone who is always, you know. "sane."

(right?)

on a podcast, you hear a sane, normal, rational person. "if you piss me off, i'm going to need to hit something. sorry but i'm not apologizing. that's just who i am that's how it is." his voice almost sounds like he's laughing.

you think of the door, and how you were almost laughing behind it, too. ironically, every real emergency in your life has almost felt peaceful in comparison. fire, car accident, flash flooding - these felt quiet, covenant to you. you'd stood in all of them, feeling them pass over and up to your chin, never actually overwhelming.

but when the door was coming down, you had felt - is there a word for that? there has to be, a word, right.

surely one of us has figured out the word for that, i mean. it's such a large fucking statistic.

[galaxysketches]

emmet in hisui

[nessa007]

#this kid has seen some crazy shit Jenna Ortega appearing on Recess Therapy

[batcavescolony]

I feel like comic writers and some fans have forgotten that Young Justice is mostly about the girls. The main storylines were about Secret/Greta, Cissie, and Anita. The boys were there but they had their own runs. Take Young Justice Dark Crisis, yeah it's all about the boys IF you only read the first 5 ish comics. After that it's either big comic events or about the girls. Really the girls are the main characters of Young Justice, the boys are there to draw people in.

[serial-unaliver]

The type of place i'm staying if my friend doesn't find me a fucking roommate soon

[dovewingkinnie]

tfw a creature attaches herself to your dying crewmate

[channnel]

The monochrome twink is older than Hatchet boi himself

[danandphilupdates]

USA TOUR LIFE! DAN AND PHIL HERE TO SAVE UR DEMOCRACY COME SEE US OR REGRET IT WHEN UR 90 dandphiltour.com TY LOVE U ALL

dan and phil insta post

(videos: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 / extra photo in reblogs)

17/10/24

[bizarrelittlemew]

Rhys Darby as Hamish (the night clerk at the Farhampton Inn) in How I Met Your Mother S9E7

[scipunk]

Blame! (2017)

[starryfictionalgirl]

Watcher announcing they’re leaving YouTube and putting all their new content behind a paywall via a new streaming service in a nutshell:

[iridescentis]

dan gives the prettiest looks at phil being entirely unhinged and hilarious because look at this man

then what he's looking at

never change guys never change 😭

[90s-2000s-barbie]

Sum 41 - We're All to Blame (2004)

[ryudaeng]

[conjuring-ghouls]

Ghaseball Copia ⚾️

[go-learn-esperanto]

So we all know the blog @/humans used by Staff to communicate with Tumblr users directly and yada yada.

They do this thing of liking posts relating to various things, a lot of times about problems they're resolving, people being positive towards Staff, etc...

But after some time they go back and dislike those posts, so those posts are only there temporarily. This is probably used as a bookmarking feature or just to tell the OPs of said posts that Staff heard them and are promptly removed from the liked page when the Staff members think that the message came across.

So over the last few months I've sometimes taken a peak at the likes, and the thing is that they usually clean the likes until a certain post. After that post they leave the likes untouched.

Now you're probably wondering which post Staff seems to refuse to remove from their liked page?

Well uhm.

I think nothing more needs to be said.