#being a women is terrifying
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Don’t wear both your earphones when you go out on a walk/run, don’t go out when it’s dark but if you do stick to main roads don’t use alleyways, lock your car as soon as you get in it, if anything is on the windshield don’t pull it off drive away and sort it out later, if you feel like someone’s following you pretend you’re on your phone or find a women around and go up to them, have you keys ready to unlock your front door and lock it straight behind you, if you go clubbing stay with your friends, don’t ever leave your drink unattended and don’t accept a drink from anyone unless it comes straight from the bartender, don’t get a taxi by yourself, if you go on a first date with a stranger go somewhere public and make sure you share your location with your friends these are genuine thing I have been told by my parents we have had these conversations and I have had these warnings numerous times but if you went and asked either of my brothers if they’d been told the same thing they’d say no
#and now our safe spaces are being targeted#being a women is terrifying#we have to take so much into account#I had a conversation the other day with someone about not taking a drink from someone unless you’ve seen it be poured#the guys that were with us were shocked that we even had to do that
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The fact that jk Rowling has become this figure head for (anti) trans issues to the point she's having meetings and sway with politicians is terrifying. It can be easy to forget sometimes in our online echo chambers how much influence over peoples opinions someone like that can have, and while she has a lot of people who hate her, there's a shocking number of people who still listen to her and respect her opinions
#properly terrifying#starmers labour is very anti trans he himself is against “trans identities being taught in school” or whatever and theres notorious terfs#like rosie duffield and yet thats apparently not anti trans enough for rowling???? the mask of her being anti trans in the name of feminisim#and women's safety and whatever other bs is just slipping further and further#uk politics
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bad news instead of getting out of class and watching the game i got side tracked with a lecturer good news she introduced me to the person who runs a bunch of sports media courses AND THEY WERE IN THE MIDDLE OF WATCHING THE LEAFS GAME and we chatted for . um. 2 hours about all sorts of hockey and sports stuff and it was very life affirming to meee <3
#seeing someone so happy and so excited in their field. knowing they took this path and#there IS a path. wow <3#i mean yeah shes a leafs fan but shes ALSO a sceptres fan so i can live with that . ykwim#we comiserated about being absolutely COOKED this season#anyway. anyway. VERY LIFE AFFIRMING#also the other lecturer is a man and i was kinda terrified about the uhhh misogyny of it all#(one of my mates walked out of a maths lecture because the lecturer was making weird comments about women ??)#but IT TURNS OUT!!! this guy is extremely invested in the womens sports scene and has like?? access to some kinda vip section#at our Caps games……..#so he fully like. covers that team and adores them. AND HES ASSIGNED A LIT REVIEW!!!#and i knooowwww its not gonna play well with the practical minded journo majors but EYE love those so bad#anyway. peace and love on planet EARTH#puckposting
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It is fascinating to me that Edward nygma is the only man who has someone in love with them kill their lover and justify it. Every time this happens to a character besides from Ed it happens to a female character. The fact his own desperation to not face responsibility for doing that action toward a woman makes this more tragic
#gotham#gotham 2014#gotham fox#Gotham tv#edward nygma#nygmobblepot#lowkey I’m probably gonna mute this post because I’m a coward lol#I’m terrified about how people will feel about me comparing Edward to women I really am I can see the backlash rn#”the arc was homophobic lunar!” Yeah and I’ve already talked about that. I’ve literally made a entire post in response to a article where#robin lord Taylor says he’s surprised anyone considered it queerbait. To deny it has no homophobic feel to it isn’t my intention here#I just think it’s interesting to consider the power imbalances here. I’m not going to let the homophobia be the only thing I can draw from#this arc I find that quite reductive personally since Edward being in Kristen’s situation but worse in power imbalance is so interesting#Oswald is his boss his only friend the only person who provides housing for him the only person who cared for him in Arkham it’s a lot#Oswald is practically his own support net so if Oswald doesn’t truly love him and only seeks to own him he has nothing!#idk I just find it more fun to acknowledge the power imbalances than to pretend their dynamic is equal in power and toxicity#this isn’t me saying Edward has done nothing wrong to Oswald. This is me saying Edward has less power than Oswald does in their relationshi#”this is you downplaying how badly Edward has treated women in Gotham” I’ve literally made a post about how Gotham never lets women not wea#Makeup in the show. I’m that kind of feminist do not paint me like this lol I gaf about female Gotham characters#lastly. I don’t think Edward deserves to go through what Kristen did but worse despite his actions. I just think it’s interesting that he#went through it after doing it to Kristen and pretty much remains the only male Gotham character to have their lover murdered like this#that is all. I know the tags are way longer than the content of my post here but I must explain myself just in case
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He never learned about gay people 😭
#fire emblem#fire emblem awakening#fire emblem engage#feh#lon’qu#kagetsu#imagine being terrified of women and not knowing about homosexuality#a hellish existence
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MY arcane alternate universe where silco teams up with everyone’s other favorite eloquent sharp-dressed morally grey deeply emotional yet projects coldness villain with offputting eyes—grand admiral thrawn, of course—and they win zaun’s independence and then save the chiss ascendancy from the grysks. hire me fortiche!!!
#imagine thrawn in arcane animation bro#would be the end of me#anyway I just finished arcane and silco on top of being an incredibly well-written character really scratched the thrawn itch#and I want to see an eye of zaun/chimaera crew link up#imagine eli interacting with jinx#he would be terrified of sevika#but she and ar’alani would be chill#both no nonsense women who have to watch over stupid men#I need to go to bed this is the chronically sleep deprived talking#I’ll delete this later#arcane#thrawn#silco#star wars
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"a dude in Texas legally changed his name to "Literally Anyone Else" and he's attempting to run for President against Biden & Trump" [source]
okay, but putting aside the comedic aspect of this, it is concerning the amount of people who are prompted to vote for candidates just because it's funny. I'm not the biggest fan of how his policy about the boarder sounds [Site], but I do implore anyone who is able to vote in the 2024 US election to please research other candidates.
The media is only going to continue pushing the idea it's inevitably going to be Trump vs Biden 2.0 and we have no other options, that we have to vote for Biden again because of Project 2025. Is that whole thing terrifying?
Yeah, fucking absolutely.
But voting for Biden will not solidify our safety from that. Biden is exactly like the rest of them. He always has been. You can't make the lesser of two evils argument when they're both just plain evil.
You cannot say that Biden is even mildly a better choice than Trump when he is currently directly involved in a genocide. That is not some little fucking thing. That in and of itself disqualifies him as a lesser evil. Biden is just as bad as him and he will not save us because he doesn't fucking care.
Cornel West [Site] is an Independent candidate running for President in the 2024 Election. [Policies]
Claudia De la Cruz and Karina Garcia [Site] are running for President and Vice-President as the candidates of the Party for Socialism and Liberation in the 2024 Election. [Policies]
There are options.
There are people trying to change the corrupt foundation our system is built on, but we have to help amplify them because the mainstream media will not.
#have you looked at what's happening in New York & the subways#There's so many reported shootings and deaths and it just seems to be getting worse.#I just looked up subway shooting ny because I wanted to check before saying something#There's reports from like 3 hours ago about someone getting pushed in front of one of the moving subways & there's so many others#or how about the like thousands of police officers that they've got stationed at subways in ny literally doing fuck all#or how everyone's going through a housing crisis and cant afford rent and cant get medical care because it can cost#$4000 to get a fucking ambulance and that's cheap. That's a ride to the hospital less than 20 minutes away probably.#or the rise in hate crimes and bigotry and all the shit they're now trying to censor with the kosa bill#or how terrifying places like Florida have became for anyone thats not seen as an equel by people who dont view most others as equels.#or how they're pouring billions into wars while we're in the midsts of a homeless crisis#suicide rates are at record levels in the us and it's only going to get worse. theyre pulling telehealth which will take away#life saving medical care for people who dont have the ability to go in person. people's ability to get therapy and meds being taken away#Is going to kill people. or how the Biden administration has fucked up their Covid response so goddamn badly#people are referring to the pandemic in past tense and have lost understanding for others who they'd have understood before#they've lied and they've concealed and its killing millions of people and disabling even more. but they will not take accountability.#long covid is ruining people's lives and they've successfully led the narrative that its not real or not that serious.#they will sit there and they will lie. they will say they've protected women's rights and that its a top priority.#they'll say that healthcare is a top priority but have suggested that they'd veto a healthcare for all bill because of its price tag#but will spend billions and billions and billions on a genocide that the majority is against. the system isn't going to begin collapsing#it already is.#its crumbled and we must demolish the corrupt remains and rebuild a better government that gives a shit about people#ALL people.#they use basic human rights as bargaining chips.#the Democrats and Republicans on a Venn diagram is a circle. wake up.
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10/10 is Lon'qu Day so here we go, a 10 out of 10 family.
#fe awakening#lonqu#nowi#nah#i really like a couple of their supports with others but i am just so weak for them#that i normally have to get them married#its the only nah support with her dad that im not really upset with bc#with lonqu being afraid of women but not terrified of nowi and just being like fine whatever we can play house#its way less weird to hear the guy scared of women tell his daughter that her mom has always looked young AND TRAIL OFF#in the support chain like any other guy saying well your mom looked young is really weird to me#but it makes more sense to me that hes at more ease around her than others even though she can just#turn into a dragon like ... no one seems too put off by it but its such a funny combo of not being scared of her#despite the female or dragon aspect#idk man i just think its really funny to watch him correct nowi on how to play house ok
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I’ve been seeing this float around on Facebook lately and it’s bugging the crud out of me:
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What is with everyone’s obsession with insisting it’s bad to need to be rescued? For as long as the human race has been on the planet, people have had problems that they needed other people’s help to resolve. Needing help is not a failing nor should it be the takeaway from these princesses’ stories as if it’s a bad thing that makes them weak. Yes, they do need help. Your point?
Snow White and Aurora were both under a curse that rendered each of them effectively dead. Were they supposed to magically wake themselves up? I’d want to be rescued if I were them. Plus, breaking it down to “she needed a prince” belittles the efforts of the Seven Dwarfs and the Three Good Fairies, who did most of the legwork in the resolution of their respective movie plots out of deep platonic love for the girls under their care. Then there’s Cinderella, who lived in an abusive household. It’s not a weakness that she wasn’t able to get out of that situation on her own, and once again, giving all the credit to the prince (and credit where credit is due, he did search far and wide for her and was able to take her away from that life in the end) detracts from the aid provided by the Fairy Godmother who enabled her to get out in the first place. All of these ladies had more helpers than just their princes, and it is because of the combined love and efforts of all of these people that our heroines were able to have their happy endings. There are plenty of great stories where the heroine is able to fight for herself, but these particular stories aren’t about that because these ladies are each in terrible circumstances where they simply don’t have the ability to do so. They do what they can, but in the end they can’t save themselves alone and there’s nothing wrong with that. These are beautiful stories about having people in your life that value you enough to fight for you when you can’t fight for yourself. Wouldn’t we all want someone to come to our rescue when there’s nothing we can do about our situation? Is it not a good and comforting moral to show that there are people in your corner who will show up for you no matter what the circumstances?
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Leia has to be rescued. By a man, and at that, one who could technically be seen as a prince. No one bats an eye at this, because it’s understood that she’s being held prisoner on the Death Star and couldn’t possibly be expected to get out of that on her own. It’s not seen as a weakness that someone had to come for her and take her away from there. Leia is awesome and is rightfully acknowledged as a great heroine, but she also needs help sometimes, because everybody does.
So WHY do people get so hung up on these princesses who also shouldn’t be expected to get out of their own prison cells of eternal sleep or abusive family by themselves? Why the strong negative reaction to girls needing outside help in such serious scenarios? For all that people say these stories teach girls to sit and wait for a man to save them, the stories themselves absolutely never try to say that, and frankly, with the opposite trend in recent years of fictional women who have to do everything on their own and can’t be shown to need help because they have to be the Strong Female Character, I’d be far more concerned about the impact that would have on girls. Far better to say you might need help at some point in your life than to instill the idea that you’re not a strong girl or not good enough if you can’t do everything by yourself.
Anyway. Justice for the classic Disney princesses.
#this is a disney princesses defense blog#disney#snow white#cinderella#sleeping beauty#star wars#sw: originals#leia skywalker#rant#and on a personal level? i’ve been in the position of feeling like an idiot or failure if i couldn’t do everything by myself#i was terrified for a long time to ask people for help because it felt like admitting that i was what i felt i was#if the modern stories where women being strong means they don’t need help had been a thing yet when i was at that age#it would have made me feel even worse#and as someone who has since that time also had to learn to live with chronic illness#and the reality that there’s not a ton i can do for myself#the stories of women who need help and are never looked down on for it but are seen as worthy of that help because they are loved#those are the kind of stories you end up starting to need at some point#give me more maidens in towers. i don’t care.#the idea that people love you enough to find you well worth their effort is what some of us need
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I think Slay the Princess is so popular partially because the *gets stabbed* "I'm in love" reaction is both intentional on the part of the developers and then they completely follow through on it.
#slay the princess#me @ the Razor: I love you so much and you're so hot and funny and– *gets stabbed again*#and then! the little Voices agree that they're kinda into it too! fantastic game! A+! kill me again beautiful woman!#they managed to make even the Princess's most terrifying grotesque forms the most beautiful fictional women I've ever seen#while never sacrificing the horror elements. if anything the horror and gore and monstrosity makes her even more attractive#like they get it. the inherent eroticism of being trapped in a time loop made with the sole purpose of getting one of us to kill the other#and then killing and hurting and dying and struggling together over and over and over until finally breaking free#she hurts us and we are but a receptacle for the pain. she hunts us like prey and swallows us whole. we beat each other to#death for the thrill of it and keep on going long past when we should've died. she torments us until our heart stops from terror.#we see her as a dominating goddess and she becomes one. she knows what our organs look like. her bloated corpse once drowned us.#we lie at the foot of the stairs to freedom with broken backs because we betrayed her so badly she could only betray us in turn#and don't even get me started on the amazing intimacy/violation of the Spectre/Wraith possession stuff#and we (both the player and the Long Quiet) love her for it and through it
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i don’t talk about bridgerton on here but just to clarify. i will not be having ANY eloise hate on this account. i will bite.
#eloise bridgerton they could never make me hate you!!#addressing the normal talking points one by one to get them sorted:#- no i don’t care that eloise called pen some names after the discovery. she was devastated and furious.#she can apologise in the future but in the moment of course she said it#- yes pen did write about eloise as a way to save her but that doesn’t mean it hasn’t possibly ruined eloise’s life#- similarly: eloise isn’t (just) angry that she was written about. daphne also went through whistledown and it very much terrified her#so have many other women including marina#- eloise is betrayed because she told pen everything and is realising pen told her nothing#(and she’s probably thinking about any secrets she might have said to her best friend that could now be used against the ton and her family)#- as claudio said: being regency gossip girl isnt a moral girlboss thing its deeply harmful tbh#- pen did have reasons to become whistledown! that doesn’t mean that she’s innocent or right!#- eloise isnt now friends with cressida to spite pen lmao she’s alone and scared and cressida was the last person who offered her friendship#she has no idea how to manage society by herself#(and she needs someone to improve the reputation of her and her family)#- im also convinced she has other ulterior motives for befriending cressida. like she’s keeping an eye on her or smth#- eloise didn’t just ignore anything pen said and that’s why she only just figured it out. pen deliberately didn’t speak like lw to hide it#the moment she did eloise was like huh that’s weird she doesn’t normally talk like that. and THATS when she figured it out#- eloise just found out her best friend has betrayed her and been hiding this massive secret#but she hasn’t told anyone. not even her own family. im not hearing out any accusations of HER of being disloyal#- also pen clearly wasn’t that upset at writing about eloise bc the moment eloise and colin upset her she went straight back to it lmao#side note but no i don’t think the queen is going to name her the ‘emerald’ or anything because she’s suddenly in the spotlight#eloise is tbh the only debutante she actually consistently recognised (for good or bad)#a new dress is not going to be interesting for charlotte to change her whole tradition#tl;dr i love eloise and i will die on this hill#eloise bridgerton#bridgerton
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I also have a real fear that I’m not going to be able to feel attraction to anyone on the apps because my only experience of crushes is seeing someone in person, quickly feeling attracted, and then never ever speaking to the person. But I don’t feel an immediate crush on most/any of these people, so does that mean I’m not into them at all? Or could I start to feel that in-person, and it’s just because they’re photos?
#what if I turn out to be ace or gay? I don’t want to use people to figure that out#I’m fairly sure I’m bisexual and allo with a low libido#but im TERRIFIED that I might be wrong#and have to hurt someone in the process of figuring that out#I know I feel attraction to men and women but I don’t know if that means I’ll like sex with them#and the concept of getting dumped by someone who realizes they prefer the other gender is WHY people are biphobic#(AN other gender im sorry there are more than 2 I was having a panic)#I will then BE the reason for more biphobes being created#being Schrodinger’s bisexual is safe and fun and easy#the minute I have a body count with one gender is the minute people can use that to invalidate me#regardless of if I’m bi or not#how am I even worrying about this#I know my experiences#and those are attraction across gender#but those are also not starting to have a sex drive at all until my 20s and being on ssris that suppress it as a side effect for years#and I have a big fear of dating someone I don’t really like because I wasn’t sure if I was into them until it was too late#which is stupid all id have to do is break up with them#being perceived is UNCOMFY#panic attack over
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never thought I’d be in a position of relating to former Drake or Kanye fans, but I do want to now take the time to clarify that Neil Gaiman being one of my most read authors for the last two years came from reading his work only prior to the news coming out about him now 🥴
#this is partially a joke because I do think it’s a big difference when an artist clearly supports these things in their work early on#(like Kanye and Drake both being creeps for many many years before their more recent scandals)#but Gaiman’s work NEVER felt representative of this stuff which is why I’m genuinely shocked by it#American Gods/Anansi Boys/Coraline/his Good Omens Work/The Sandman -#all of this stuff felt very uplifting and supportive of all kinds of diverse lifestyles of women#the last thing I read by him was an illustrated version of his ‘Art Matters’ essay#and that’s just SO opposite of everything I’ve learned of him since#genuinely terrifying how two-faced it all was
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for pride month I am haviiiiing. an itty bitty gender crisis
#ari speaks#it's like. am I a woman?? what the fuck even IS a woman??#bc if “woman” is “person who will bear and birth children” I'm already failing on that front due to medical reasons#yippee for pcos. ig#and then it's like. well then what IS a woman#and is that definition even useful??#like do I believe in the catholic gender essentialism I was raised with??#no. no I do not#but like if there's no Inherent Magic Difference between men / women / etc / then like what the fuck does it mean to be a woman#like am I or am I not or is this even a useful thing to conceptualize???#idk I just feel Disconnected from the Concept of womanhood#like I am a Gal and a Girlie but in the sense that Drizzt Do'Urden is my wife#in that it's not about the Gender it's about like. the Vibes#all I know is the pronouns are she/her#and like. maybe that's all I need to know#maybe that's enough#idk it's just. a Word would be nice. so I know I'm not crazy#maybe quoigender is the word?? for now??#idk it's like. my little queer self who forged her identity in the midst of The Ace Discourse back in 2017 is terrified of being accused of#claiming labels and spaces that “aren't meant for her” or whatever#and it's like. am I Not Cis enough to be here????#like she/her and “woman” is. good enough I guess#I can get by with it#but like.#idk#realizing that I kinda feel disconnected from the whole Gender thing in the same way I feel disconnected from sexuality and romance#and it's like. as a writer. I very rarely actually know what my characters' Genders are#all I know are the pronouns#and like????#[gestures vaguely]
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I don't like genital preference discourse because 99 percent of the time it's a cis person who made up a hypothetical pro trans argument and got mad at it.
#I'm sure there's someone somewhere saying YOU MUST HAVE SEX WITH A TRANS PERSON FOR WOKE POINTSS >:( but I'm not them so#if you're not listening to me and instead building a strawman and accusing it of being a conversion therapy advocate why bother ya know?#for me I have internalized the fact that trans people exist and there's a non zero chance that a woman is trans#so I just accept that#the only real difference would be how the sex works and that might be an issue for other people and I'm not saying that's bad or good#I would personally cross that bridge when I got there#and if we're not sexually compatible then we'll split the same way I would with a cis woman who wasn't sexually compatible#it's such a nothing burger for me but there are people's whose entire blog is this#I made jokes before but if you are so terrified of your partner having a peepee don't have sex until you Know for Sure#or vice versa but I mainly see the discourse centered around trans women given how they are more sexualized in our society
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Breaking Dawn Character Fun Fact #11:
Spreen hasn’t really talked with Roier since the. Incident. And he’s really bummed about that because Roier’s literally his best friend. Like, what?? Roier come on, be reasonable
But Spreen has talked with Melissa. And she terrifies him. There’s something in her eyes, man…
#monster au fic#inspired by Ro showing Spr Melissa for the first time and him just being TERRIFIED#because he is canonically afraid of women. except for Sally from Cars
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