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When I first got married, I had zero concept of the difference between autism, CP, epilepsy, etc. Thanks to the toxicly [insert prefix for anything here]-typical environment I grew up in, everything "not normal" was lumped into one blob and shoved "over there" so "normal" people didn't have to deal with it, and since "normal" people don't have to deal with it, they don't have to learn about it.
(I've got a whole rant about how this relates to Purity Cults, but that'll be for another time.)
When I found out my (then future, now ex) wife had epilepsy, I started learning what I could about it, mostly from her, and keeping myself open to different types of epilepsy and discovering that no, it's not like autism or cerebral palsy or deafness or anything like that. This was my first exposure to my own ignorance of comorbidities and how the world I grew up in slammed a whole BUNCH of people into the category of "retarded" when they may just have been hard of hearing (not even medically deaf) and because they needed "special" attention were shoved into the same class as anyone else deemed "not normal."
(Insert flashbacks to being shoved in the "special ed" class with the low-functioning kids from a variety of neurodivergencies because I was ADHD, undiagnosed, with comorbid clinical depression resulting in a hideous intelligence and zero outlets for it. The teachers were treated as glorified babysitters and had no idea what to do with me because I clearly didn't belong in their class either.)
My ex used to be an Interpreter for the Deaf, which further fractured the previous mental image of neurodivergence that I had, even if I didn't know the words. Deaf people have the same capabilities and challenges that everyone else has...hell, most of them could be considered bilingual given that Sign is often a different language branch entirely from the so-called "parent" language.
(American Sign Language, for example, is based on French and has almost jack and shit to do with British Sign, and that's one example)
When my daughter came along and was at first deemed "developmentally disabled," I only really had memories of the horrible "special ed" class I'd been shoved in, so was panicked that she'd never have a happy, healthy life. The nail in the coffin, it seemed at the time, was when she was diagnosed as autistic. Because of the horrific lack of proper education of what that meant when I grew up, I had a specific picture of what that looked like and it was very, very bad. Said mental picture also did NOT match what I was seeing in my daughter. This was the final blow that shattered my idea of what it meant to be neurodivergent, and it took a couple years, but I finally accepted, literally decades after the diagnosis, that I was ADHD and maybe I shouldn't be beating up on myself for not being "normal enough" and just get my damn meds and start learning how to exist while ADHD.
(I've started having fun with it, I can get done 20 times what an NT person can in a fraction of the time by properly managing my hyper-fixations.)
I now live in a committed relationship with a wonderful girlfriend who's on the autism spectrum and has her own unique, sometimes really neat, often endearing, traits to her ND than what I have or my daughter has. I'm in an online relationship that is very likely to soon turn into an IRL relationship, and they're ADHD and their ND has different and distinct traits.
(Yes, I'm polyamorous. Yes, my life is complicated AF)
My daughter is at the age where "learning compassion" is taking a mental back-seat to "WTF is my body even doing to me and how do I know who, or even if I want to, kiss?!" so I give her some latitude when she expresses how much she doesn't like being lumped in with the lower-functioning kids in her class at the autism-centric school she's in. She knows better than to say it out loud and in the class, but she'll vent about her frustration with "the lower functioning kids" and express her disgust about their lack of control or understanding of their bodily functions. I give her this latitude because her other mother (my ex) is raising our daughter with the same mentality that she was raised with as a child with epilepsy.
(Remember that trigger warning at the beginning? Yeah, you thought I'd already triggered the conditions for it, didn't you? Well, buckle up, it gets very un-pretty at this point)
My ex is about 4 years older than me. If the environment I was raised in was toxic, what with the political situation of Colorado being fairly "purple" by today's metrics and catching the tail-end of the 70s by the time I entered pre-school, my ex was raised in the equivalent to battery acid. See, she had epilepsy, which meant she was "retarded." "Don't expect her to live very long," the philosophy of the doctors in the area and at the time was, "She's probably going to choke on her own tongue in her sleep or convulse her head into the pavement and kill herself during a seizure. Retarded children can't live full, productive lives, just keep her from experiencing enough Life to know what she's missing and make sure her last years are comfortable so when she does pass it's at least not traumatic to you or her siblings."
(I could spill more tea on that family, but I'm trying not to think about it for my own mental health.)
My ex knows better and I can see that she's trying not to perpetuate that particular abuse with our daughter, but she does fall into patterns older than she is quite often, treating our daughter as a "retarded" kid being crammed into a NT mold.
And she genuinely thinks that our daughter only wants to live with me because I'm "the fun parent."
Way way back I drew a comic explaining what we really mean by ‘The Autism Spectrum’ and posted it here back when Tumblr was Huge. Then the comic really blew up!! Last year I did a remake of the comic, with some updated language, and using Mia, a character from a graphic novel I made. Figured I’d share for Autism Acceptance Month!
#and what's wrong with being the “fun” parent?#As long as I teach her how to do her chores#excel in school#be ready to take a job or have a successful career#be financially literate#what harm is there in making learning to do all that fun?
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FNAF Mikes and Vanessas talk about money struggles,,
#myart#chloesimagination#comic#michael afton#fnaf vanessa#vanessa afton#vanessa shelly#fnaf vanny#mike schmidt#fnaf#fnaf movie#security breach#sister location#fnaf fanart#five nights at freddy's#let’s be honset none of these guys are in good financial situations#but Mike literally never got paid so far at his fnaf job so he has it worst#I made this whole comic for mikes punchline BAHA#These are just my guesses on how everyone is doing#fnaf is not a profitable universe to live in#unless you are the fazbear company itself pff#they struggle together 🙏🏾
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I'm sorry but the irony of Nico calling Max unprofessional is sending me so bad like sir there's an entire garage full of people, who were literally in the trenches trying to survive the Brocedes fallout while just doing their jobs, who might have a few things to say about your (& Lewis') level of professionalism at that time 😭✋️
#f1#formula 1#formula one#max verstappen#nico rosberg#lewis hamilton#brocedes#like niki lauda had to try multiple times to literally parent trap them to try and get them on speaking terms it never worked#because one would arrive they'd see the other and the other would leave#& if i remember correctly the garage crew would swap around from race to race as a like see we aren't favouring anybody gesture 😭#and thats no shade to nico because it was both of them contributing to that environment#his comment re max is just making me laugh#like if i was a part of the pr/media team - which is a part of the degree I'm working on irl - at merc that year i would've lost the plot#like its insane reflecting on it nearly a decade later but the poor souls just trying to do their job in the eye of that storm#truly gods strongest soldiers#ngl the professional comment irks me a bit because its not like max is engaging in inappropriate work place behaviour#he's engaging in another aspect of racing that his involvement raises awareness of & that makes racing more accessible#& we all know how inaccessible not only getting into racing is but also to continue to pursue the further along you go#theres so many stories of 1 sibling giving up racing so the other can keep going because the family can't afford for them both to race#its a huge financial strain & we only see a handful of drivers talk about that & try to do something to change it#and nicos fellow sky sports commentators are routinely unprofessional on so many levels#additionally max had a lot of valid reasons to be annoyed at his team today#but alas he's not english so he's ungrateful#i hate that drivers can't criticise their teams or car without immediately being branded as bratty & ungrateful#ESPECIALLY WHEN THEIR JOB IS TO GIVE FEEDBACK#you can see the double standards from sky when say Lando or George have complaints with their team/car v the likes of Max and Yuki#especially Yuki my god the things i would do to get the British media to leave him alone#this was a jokey post at one point and then became a rant whoops lmao#I'll leave it that before i write an actual essay here 😭✋️
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haikyuu is NOT realistic!!!! and it's not because of the underdog plotline or the insane athletic skill or funky character designs but because in the timeskip everyone gets a job that they are perfectly content with and more or less suits them to a tee and don't seem concerned for their futures whatsoever all before the age of thirty
#okay except maybe makki. but he's chilling so whatever#it is literally the thing i am most jealous about in hq#do i wanna be hinata with muscles that could smash watermelons in half and traveling the world to play volleyball??#no i wanna be a side character with a stable job and financial stability who has time to hang out with their friends!!!!#GOD i wish that were me#also hey guys sorry for awol!!#it was a little bit shit both inside and outside my life#and posting might be the only bit of nonhopelessness that i've got so!! going to slowly make my way back into it#haikyuu!!#haikyuu#sou says stuff
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well. here i fucking go again i guess i'm sorry i keep doing these y'all. hopefully things will change soon but in the meantime. i had to have dental surgery two weeks ago and while i was planning and budgeting for the extraction of one tooth only, the dr had to remove a second one & now i have a bill that i did not prepare for and i'm like. drowning in medical bills right now because of my assessment i had to take a few months ago (i'm autistic+adhd) and i just. i can't afford it at all. i have no fixed income because finding accessible jobs where i live is damn fucking near impossible, and most of the money i make is through commissions & odd design gigs.
i cannot take up commissions right now, but i have two different premium themes (one, two), free ones & a bunch of other things here. if any of these help you in any way, please consider helping me out? thank you so much.
pp.me / k0f1
$153/280
🥹 please don't tag this as s1gnal b00st as it tends to make the post lose traction. 🥹
#txt#mutual aid#financial aid#literally humiliated everytime i have to do one of these but well <3 its this or suicide so#if anyone wants it ill fucking ship the fucked up tooth that fucked me over financially its that bad like ill sell it to you
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the fact that they *can* quit in protocol is so everything to me because it immediately brings up the question of why the hell havent they? besides lena i don't think anyone has even suggested the idea of quitting the evil nightmare job that they all hate and whenever a way out is presented it's ignored or (shoutout gwen) flat out rejected which is sooo interesting to see after spending a whole 200 episodes following people doing everything they could to escape
#magprotocol#even colin was just placed on leave and hasn't quit and even came into work without lena knowing!!#every time i think about the implications of literally anything in protocol i black out#so fun to see how theyre still trapped even with an obvious exit#sam's burned out gifted kid bullshit. alice (prly) supporting her brother financially. gwen's rich. celia's psychological nightmare.#we've got it all
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everyone i see saying "omg oliver really said eat the rich!!!1!111!!!!" are COMPLETELY missing the point of that movie. it was not an "eat the rich movie", it wasn't about class in that sense AT ALL. it was very much about desire and obsession and consumption. not class!!
#saltburn#sure class plays a small role in it#but its literally revealed that oliver ISNT poor he isnt living a bad life in a bad home in wanting conditions#he has a middle class family that seems fairly stable financially#he literally makes up all the stuff about having terrible parents who were neglectful and drunk all the time#so it really is not about him infiltrating this family to steal their money and property#not at all!!!!!#yeah he becomes obsessed with a boy from a rich family but it is not BECAUSE he is rich#that has nothing to do with it!!#and people who look at this film and only see it as an 'eat the rich' movie are doing it a GREAT disservice#they are fundamentally misunderstanding it
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One of my perhaps unpopular opinions is being a full-time at-home caregiver (to a parent, a child, whomever) should absolutely be considered work and should absolutely be paid like having a conventional job.
Giving caregivers the financial stability and freedom to live as independently as possible is important, especially in terms of being somebody's caregiver. Both the carer and caree deserve to be stable, independent, and have their needs met.
#politics#us politics#i think it's very precarious to rely on one income in the sense of financial abuse#i for sure don't think this is a universal solution but i also don't think someone should be fucked over because...#...being a carer isn't a 'real job'. what the fuck is that line of thinking#caring is *the* full-time job. it's incredibly demanding work and so many places are... expecting that you can do it for free like#that's fucked up to me#it's great that *some* states have compensation for caregivers. it's not enough. yet.#i don't know why but this has been bothering me for literal weeks now
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There's absolutely no way people are now saying that all the gege-hate train is just an internal joke of the fandom. There's no way you're this out of touch with what has been happening.
I've been in the fandom since 2020 and it doesn't take a lot of smarts to see there's been a change in tone in the way some people say that in the last year. Since this new arc of history began, destructive criticism, massive hate and threats have overflowed into hundreds of profiles. It's no longer "oh, I hate Gege akutami" now and for a while now it's "I hate Gege akutami - his manga is horrible I'm gonna drop it (they never do) - he doesn't deserve popularity - he doesn't know how to write - he pretends to have an illness."
And yet, it's not normal to make jokes about wanting to kill someone, hon. Go check yourself if you find that funny, you're no better than let's-joke-about-sensitive-issues reddit incels
#you're all sick if you want to justify this now#it reminds me of the first hate train in 2021 when gege couldn’t finish the chapter and it went published as three normal pages + sketches#people went crazy that time#like you don’t understand#how out of reality some of you are#you treat people just for the sake of your entertainment#not as people#you dehumanize authors artists actors and you have the audacity to feel entitled to do so#touch some grass#also the whole discourse about gege faking an illness so the manga gains popularity hmmm WHAT#first of all this is not western culture#sencondly god forbid someone to fall ill#he was ill another times you just want to hate#and jjk is doing well financially like it was at its peak last year and still charts well#literally what are you yapping about#jujutsu kaisen#@meyers#jjk 262#gege akutami#—meyers»talks🌸
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help my cat maybe!
okay I was told to just do this even though i hate it.
but as some of you know i lost my job a while back and it happened at the same time that my cat began semi-frequent vomitting like once every other week to multiple times a week. he appears fine otherwise but it has continued on for the last few months and at this point I don’t think i can continue pretending like he is alright.
the bill for a proper scan and diagnosis is around 780 total which is sadly not affordable.
If it is possible kofi donations would be greatly appreciated so I can bring him in for an ultrasound and blood tests 🙏 the lnk is in my pinned
#i hate this i hate it so much#ive always been like dont get a pet if u can’t financially support them but it was also like not a forseen thing#it was literally woke up one morning to find out like 30% of the company was to be terminated#thats an exaggeration but it was a lot of ppl#deleting this later#i know i love talking about the most inane aspects of my life but this is like bigger shit which i absolutely despise#u guys are allowed to know i wear mismatched socks all the time bc theyre just socks#but not that im jobless#but a quick update on that#*stares into the camera with a forced smile and then leaves*
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Bridgerton states from season one, through Simon and Lady Danbury, to season two, with the Sharmas, to Queen Charlotte, from the beginning episode to the end spelled out clear as day, that racism exists in this world and many of the characters of colors have been impacted by it in some way. And, supposedly, I'm supposed to believe that Marina, that Kate and Edwina, that they all had more privilege and power than Penelope? No, I don't think so, a lot of things aren't right with that statement.
#bridgerton#kate sharma#edwina sharma#lady danbury#queen charlotte#penelope featherington#penelope stans and/or polin stans do not interact if you can't be respectful!#even with her family's financial situation they still have more privilege & power than marina and the sharmas#pen didn't have the weight of finding a proper match be the end all be all for her fam (like edwina & kate)#penelope does whisltedown bc she wants too kate had to do the things she did bc she HAD to to support her family#marina even with being cousin to the featheringtons was about to be passed off to a man older than her with little guarantee that he's good#or would treat her and her child as they deserved#the whole point of the marriage market was to find someone who can provide for u bc that's your only option#literally what marina does#a common theme of all these black and brown women having to work to provide for themselves out of necessity#pen was writing before her family's situation was even known and writing nasty things primarily about women#also the “kate is a bridgerton now” falls flat bc all of this happened before she and anthony married#even still the stuff that pen wrote about her was wrong (and racially coded too)#anti penelope featherington
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so this is why you dressed up nice today like fuck off
#this is one of the lines that pops into my head randomly throughout the day and does extreme psychic damage to me every time#if you know how i feel why would you say that etc etc#and every fucking line from the episode 7 hell scenes#like i’ll be going about my day and then BOOM orpheus and eurydice line slaps me in the face#the worst is when i get hit with sorry no version of this where i didn’t come get you is there#and we’ve got literally forever to figure out what the rest means like SHUT UPPPP#if you or a loved one have been personally victimised by charles rowland popping in your head and saying the most devastatingly romantic#shit you may be entitled to financial compensation#genuinely there’s NO REASON for him to be that romantic like WHO GAVE HIM THE RIGHT#girl who is NOT going to be okay#charles rowland#he is so perfect to me#i mean the only perfect did nothing wrong character is niko like genuinely she’s so perfect#charles didn’t believe women for like one episode like he atoned for it but it still happened#and then him detailing his hook up with crystal when he knew edwin was jealous wasn’t great#but other than that literally perfect did no wrong#yeet my deet#save dead boy detectives#renew dead boy detectives#revive dead boy detectives#dead boy detectives#dbdshow#yeet my deebd#dead boy detective agency#dbda#payneland#edwin payne#chedwin#charles x edwin
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ok but how the fuck did neil josten pay for college??? usually i see the "full ride" argument, BUT YOU NEED PROOF OF RESIDENCY AND YOUR ENTIRE FAMILY'S TAX INFORMATION TO EVEN ACCEPT A SCHOLARSHIP!!!! does this man even have a social security number???? did he bother to get a fake birth certificate??? i'm just picturing him in psu's financial aid office being asked his parents' driver's licence numbers and coming up with the most batshit excuse.
"my parents died over the summer"
"i still need their social security numbers"
"their uhhhh... their cards burnt up in a house fire. licenses too. and w2 information. OH! oh! and mine did too. it was very tragic"
"then i legally can't let you accept your federal financial aid???"
"BUT I WANNA PLAY EXY"
and then the book ends
#don't argue with me i'm literally at college in scholarship#it took me two months to get my paperwork in order#they literally want you to sign your life away just to get your financial aid#neil josten#nathaniel wesninski#aftg#tfc#trk#tkm#all for the game#aftg trilogy
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I'm gonna be straight with you all, I really don't know how people think that all the fundraiser messages flooding people's notes rn are real and not scams when I just got randomly @'ed by a supposed person looking for help in the replies of someone else's post.
I get that people want very desperately to help, but when the "fundraisers" use blatant scambot techniques for everything they do, at some point you've gotta accept that it's because they're scambots.
#i had never interacted with that post or the user before it was literally just a bit randomly @'ing people#also the fact that they're using replies to share their fundraisers is a huge red flag#as someone who has begged for financial help on this website before that is a stupid and useless thing to do#because you cannot actually share or spread replies except for screenshots#they do that because they're bots and they're throwing spaghetti at the wall until they hit someone willing to give them money
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hi guys. same situation as earlier this month but for november, my dad is a certain amount of money short from the total he has to have to pay off for my grandma's stay at the care home she's in, and as her sole caretaker (she's late stage alzheimer's and physically disabled so it's. A Lot to deal with) he's been struggling to make ends meet and he needs around US$120 to be able to total all of her care by tomorrow or friday at the latest and i cannot help him in any other way but this one lol, so if you're able to help in any way shape or form, i'll thank you forever & help my dad & my grandma out immensely. you can check out my resource blog for anything that might be of use to you, as unfortunately i cannot take commissions at this moment: @userbru
$120/120
pp / kf
pls don't tag this as s1gn4l b00st !!
#txt#mutual aid#financial aid#literally so sorry to make so many of these this month but its been. A Month. and my dad is kind of desperate at this point#he also said that if anyone of u guys want to order and commission decorations from him he will find a way to ship internationally lol
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wish i could re-experience the insane shock and horror i felt when watching the james somerton section in hbomberguy's plagiarism video for the first time. nothing like it
#literally it just got worse and WORSE#james somerton#it was like november 5th 2 for me#feel bad for anyone who supported him financially and shit tho
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