#autistics

[germplush]

6/5/24 | Nibble in a cute dress/skirt! we did some errands today can't really remember much but we did take thes photos! them with a fidget we were playing with.. cute!!

[samzier]

Aww la creature

[alterhumanblog]

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[im-adrienne]

Any other autistics feel this way?

People around you, like parents or therapists, tell you that "good people exist" yet every interaction you seem to have with others outside of your support system is nothing but combative, negative, full of disdain, and, at times, manipulative and shady. Just saying hello to some people gets you a nasty look or a choice word. It makes you feel like you can't talk to people or work with others.

When it starts to happen you get in your head like, "It's happening again" and "here we go" despite having done nothing wrong except show up, ask a question, or greet someone. Feeling it happen again brings on so much sadness because it shouldn't be happening.

It's like neurotypical people sense you're different and react to that in such a terrible way that it brings about a burn out trigger...and no one believes you when you tell them that you get treated differently.

[blueberry-sleight]

because autistics are different from each other, some of us can understand cues or subtext in conversation that others can't. What's more, some studies show that autistics are better at talking to other autistics than with allistics.

To be clear, I am not saying that I am better than other people at understanding subtext, but that I want to make a place to do it together.

[frogs-and-oscar-brainrot]

I wish we could like comments on tumblr. Like... omg someone commented and I feel honoured, but I don't want to spam with a reply when I don't have anything to say to you that needs your time to open it

[captainshazamerica]

Okay really specific question

*Stimulated

[invincible-selfxmade-punk]

Another Adult Autistic Question

As an adult, when someone teases you, or makes a joke at your expense, or tries to pull a prank on you, does it make you unreasonably Furious?

It's like I hit my limit of that when I was about 15 or 16 because people did that to me my entire life. It got around in a very small town that I was completely gullible ........ and I was gullible because I was autistic and did not know I was autistic until I was 45.

But now anytime I'm made fun of even the least bit, I cannot tell you the absolute Fury that rises Within Me against whoever it is. Especially my husband who loves to say sarcastic things and jokes until i am upset and near tears and then mumbles " You do know I was joking the whole time. Why can't you just take a joke?! I can't say anything to you anymore!! .

And about 85% of the time I do not see them as jokes, I see them as personal attacks.

It is just because of having that done to me my entire life when I was pretty much powerless to understand what was going on.

Does anyone else feel this way?

[arianblodeuwedd]

I know nobody'll read this, but I need to tell this somewhere.

I was diagnosed with autism, ADHD (without hyperactivity) and dyspraxia the 19th April 2023.

After 23 years, I have FINALLY a diagnostic.

But I don't know how to feel. Idk if I'm happy cause I have a clear answer, or... Sad? Disappointed? Idk, cause we know, my mother and I, what I have. Many professionals told to my mom she has a Münchhausen syndrom, she was crazy and many bad things.

Idk if I have to be sad or happy cause my mom cries when the psychiatrist tells her the diagnosis on the phone. (I was alone with them cause my mom working so I called her to tell her the answer).

I feel like I'm not in my body, like I feel... Nothing. Idk what to do, how to react, I know just a thing: I don't know.

It's so messy in my head, and at the same time it's not.

When they told me the diagnostic, I just said "oh, ok". Idk if I was shocked or just "ok, it's nothing".

I want to cry but at the same time, not. I feel guilty to be neurodivergent cause my mom had difficulties with me. She didn't know what I had, but she known something wasn't right. But she's a really strong people, she's never told me I was a difficult child or adult. She never said something hurtful to me. She's the only parent who is here to me, the only one who did her parent role. So, I feel guilty because I think "And if I wasn't born?", "If I was normal, she was need to live this fight".

When I told to one of my friend I can't do sport thank to dyspraxia, he said "I know people with that and they can do sport. You searched just excuse". He's also neurodivergent so maybe he doesn't know I was hurt by his words. It's juste... An ableist reaction and maybe I overacted? Idk.

I do a civil service (service civique in french) because I can't find a job but need money. I'm happy to be useful, but it's just stressful. There are many noises, smell, many people, I'm overstimulated and have shutdown. So, many I do "a comedy" like people say in France (meaning I exaggerating and it's nothing).

I repeat. I know nobody'll read this. And it's not important. I was just in need to tell this somewhere. Without someone has pitying of me or say "my poor!". I don't need that. I just need... Idk. I write this here because I feel comfortable and secure here. I have my routine here, I never see someone being mean and the community is really kind. So, thank you to be what you are.

If you read this, thanks for your attention.

I'm just an almost 25 yo french people who is lost in them head and doesn't know to speak English very well (I'm sorry to that).

[leam1983]

On the other hand, the best way to disarm slang the Alt-Right uses is to relentlessly embrace it, but in our own contexts. So, honestly, I have zero problems with Autistics calling themselves Pattern Noticers, because that's a use-case that is demonstrably more correct than anything the Alt-Right chucklefucks come up with.

Neurodivergents actually notice patterns and pattern-breaks. Ask any neuropsych - that's a fact. MAGAts, however, don't notice anything; what they call noticing, I call hallucinating.

Hello friends, there's a dogwhistle I've seen used a couple times on tumblr that I want to discuss.

Fellow neurodivergents especially, please listen-- towards the end of this post I describe how some in our community have been using it without knowing what it means.

A fairly common antisemitic dogwhistle used amongst alt-right circles on the internet is being a "noticer," "noticing patterns," "pattern noticer," etc. I've seen this from a couple Tumblr blogs I follow reblogging memes and such that use this term but don't provide any context about what sorts of "things" they may be noticing.

Here's the meme that I saw a blog I'm following reblog last night.

Seems pretty harmless, right? It's a meme with a cute cat.

In alt-right circles, what they are referring to "noticing" is the conspiracy theory that Jews control the world/"noticing" evidence of an imagined globalist (read: Jewish) world order/etc. If you see a meme that uses terms like "noticing patterns" that doesn't elaborate what those supposed patterns are-- just leaves you to fill in the blank yourself-- take a look at the types of things OP might be posting. The alt-right has an idea that it's forbidden to talk about who might be behind the "conspiracies" they talk about (again, the target is frequently Jewish people) so lack of context is often a red flag.

I sent the blog who reblogged this an ask informing them that the meme was a dogwhistle. If you see someone reblog something like this, check what they've been posting. If this seems like an isolated incident, the person probably reblogged it not knowing what the term actually meant. That's why dogwhistles are so effective-- to the average person they look harmless if you don't know what to watch out for!

Let's take a look at how alt-righters use this term.

Here's an alt-right definition of it from Urban Dictionary.

Oh boy, this one gets a bigotry bingo for all the dogwhistles used here. If I miss any, feel free to comment. Here are the ones I found:

-Noseticing: Noticing plus nose, based on the stereotype for Jewish people to have large noses.

-"those who cannot be named"/skirting around saying Jew: again the idea that it's forbidden to talk about who they think is behind their conspiracy theories.

-"world events and agendas": idea that Jewish people have a Globalist agenda etc etc

-Degeneracy: Nazi term to describe the behaviors/people they find undesirable.

-Early life: refers to the section in a person's Wikipedia page. If a person was brought up Jewish, it'll usually say so there.

-Oy vey: a Jewish exclamation of exasperation that Nazis have unfortunately co-opted when talking about Jewish people.

Here's probably the most obviously antisemitic meme I found.

The title and first bullet point include the "noticer" term. This meme also talks about a "group" who controls wealth. Who might the poster be referring to here?

Here's a Twitter account with many similar alt-right terms. Explicitly identifies as a Nazi and ethno-nationalist, etc etc.

A couple other pages. I clicked on them to see if I could find any more examples but the first seemed pretty blank and the second... Well, I don't have a twitter so I couldn't view.

Let's unpack these a little. The first one has "13 outta 52," a statistic used among white supremacists to depict Black people (especially African-Americans) as "savage": 13 referring to the percentage of America that is Black and 52 referring to the alleged percentage of murders in the U.S. that are committed by Black people. "109 countries" refers to the idea that Jewish people have been expelled from 109 countries during history. (Which isn't entirely true. Some "countries" in this count are actually cities, regions, etc.) Some white supremacists may use the number 110 instead to suggest that it should happen again.

The second one has a blurb alleging a global sterilization effort and concerns of fertility. This is likely in connection to pro-natalism for white people. If Nazis want a so-called "Aryan nation," they're going to want white people to populate it, and so they encourage white people to have babies for their cause. Nazi Germany employed this tactic as well, even awarding "Aryan" German women who had four or more children for their contributions to the Nazi cause.

The reason why I'm emphasizing that context matters is that some neurodivergent people have seen this and co-opted it into neurodivergent circles. As a person who is Jewish and autistic, this is pretty alarming to me. I'll show a couple examples from Tumblr:

And

I've left out the URLs of the OPs because I want to give the benefit of the doubt-- they both explicitly refer to being a "pattern noticer" in terms of neurodivergence. And it's easy to see why introducing this term to ND folks would be an easy way to get a dogwhistle passed off as harmless! Since autistic people often have analytical minds, we often make connections that others might not be able to see. But unfortunately, using terms like this only makes it much easier for antisemites to fly under the radar.

Stay safe and let's keep Tumblr free of this shit.

[suffering-and-misery]

adhd paralysis sucks bcuz im just sitting there and my brain is like

YOU ARE WASTING TIME YOU ARE WASTING TIME YOU ARE WASTING TIME YOU ARE WASTING TIME YOU ARE WASTING TIME YOU ARE WASTING TIME YOU ARE WASTING TIME YOU ARE WASTING TIME YOU ARE WASTING TIME YOU ARE WASTING TIME

no work done no rest gained. literally no point of this at all

(to everyone who reblogged, donate and share @olagaza's initiative!)

[2003-playground]

Can we stop using "still lives with their parents" or "unemployed" or "doesn't have a drivers license" or "didn't graduate high school" as an insult or evidence that someone is a bad person? Struggling with independence or meeting milestones is not a moral failing.

[sleeplessv0id]

what doesn't kill you makes you weird at intimacy

[gabrielora]

When I was younger and researching the autism diagnosis criteria and symptoms, I thought “oh I couldn’t POSSIBLY be autistic.” Because when I read “takes everything literally” I thought it literally meant EVERYTHING and I was like “I don’t take EVERYTHING literally, just most things!” And I just realized the other day that it didn’t actually mean EVERYTHING and that was an overstatement.

[reasonsforhope]

By the way, you can improve your executive function. You can literally build it like a muscle.

Yes, even if you're neurodivergent. I don't have ADHD, but it is allegedly a thing with ADHD as well. And I am autistic, and after a bunch of nerve damage (severe enough that I was basically housebound for 6 months), I had to completely rebuild my ability to get my brain to Do Things from what felt like nearly scratch.

This is specifically from ADDitude magazine, so written specifically for ADHD (and while focused in large part on kids, also definitely includes adults and adult activities):

Here's a link on this for autism (though as an editor wow did that title need an editor lol):

Resources on this aren't great because they're mainly aimed at neurotypical therapists or parents of neurdivergent children. There's worksheets you can do that help a lot too or thought work you can do to sort of build the neuro-infrastructure for tasks.

But a lot of the stuff is just like. fun. Pulling from both the first article and my own experience:

Play games or video games where you have to make a lot of decisions. Literally go make a ton of picrews or do online dress-up dolls if you like. It helped me.

Art, especially forms of art that require patience, planning ahead, or in contrast improvisation

Listening to longform storytelling without visuals, e.g. just listening regularly to audiobooks or narrative podcasts, etc.

Meditation

Martial arts

Sports in general

Board games like chess or Catan (I actually found a big list of what board games are good for building what executive functioning skills here)

Woodworking

Cooking

If you're bad at time management play games or video games with a bunch of timers

Things can be easier. You might always have a disability around this (I certainly always will), but it can be easier. You do not have to be this stuck forever.