#autistic tommy kinard

[half-oz-eddie]

The autism of the coffee date

[louisferrignojr]

from a neurodivergent perspective. coddling the person you are romantically interested in is, in one word, unnecessary. i'm not going to lie and say i like the coffee, you don't know how i like my coffee, you didn't do anything wrong. if i'm going out of my way to show up to your themed event where i can't even drink because i might get called into work at any moment, you know, to go fight a wildfire, and i can't be wearing a ridiculous outfit when that happens. what are we doing here. this is me, if you like me, then you like me. i have no time to put on a show or play games. it's actually really fucking refreshing to me that tommy was unapologetically himself during the entire intricate rituals courtship between the two of them. and even better that buck likes him exactly as he is. yeah no wonder I'm insane about them.

[autisticbucktommy]

autistic tommy kinard headcanons:

Must wear slippers inside the house at all times, but no socks ever.

Makes the exact same coffee and breakfast every single day (he may change it up, every 7 years or so, if his safe food changes).

Cuts all the tags off his clothes. He only wears cotton or flannel, none of this rayon-polyester blend crap.

He is hypo-sensitive (sensory seeking) when it comes to food. He needs texture, crunch, spice, different flavors. And Buck watches on in horror whenever Tommy makes himself a sandwich and it has at least 4 different sauces, with chips and marshmallows. Buck swears that Tommy blindly chooses ingredients from the fridge and mashes together whatever will fit into his mouth.

He watches the same comfort romcom movies on repeat. He's seen "Love Actually" at least 200 times. It's comforting to play in the background while he does housework.

He hates hates when people bail on plans at the last minute or when they consistently show up late. It makes his skin itch.

He regulates his nervous system mostly through Muay Thai workouts, lifting, etc. but he also meditates every morning to help prevent burnout/meltdowns.

When he's on shift for 24-48 at harbour, his coworkers know to give him a wide birth of space between calls. He needs to carve out alone time or he gets snappy.

His intense feelings about social justice have gotten him in trouble more than once. He's always stepping in if someone is rude to a waiter or if he overhears a racist comment; he sees red and loses it. He's gotten better at handling his temper with age but he's still working on it.

After Buck and him get back together and have some deep talks, Tommy finds himself opening up to his boyfriend in ways he never has with anyone else. Evan quickly becomes his "safe person" who he can depend on when he's in a bad headspace. He gets in the habit of calling Evan's contact number, instead of hiding away and beating himself up over it.

Sometimes Tommy feels like he's vibrating out of his skin and the usual light-stimming (tapping his fingers against his legs, tapping his foot, etc.) isn't enough to tide him over. And so he just looks at Evan with this twinkle in his eye (Evan calls it his big scary monster look) before he attacks Evan with cuteness aggression; tackling him into the couch or bed with feral energy, as he growls and mauls him. Kissing him, squeezing him all over, wrestling him and pinning his arms above his head, and then fucking him, if the mood calls for it.

Buck buys Tommy a shirt that says "autistic and ready to fuck" as a joke gift one year for Christmas and Tommy wears it unironically around the house. And he thinks he's hilarious because sometimes he'll come out of the bedroom wearing it and nothing else, and then crook his finger like "let's do this" and Evan rolls his eyes every time because what a goofball?? What an absolute DORK of a man, he thinks, as he trips over his own feet to follow him like an eager puppy.

Tommy has an oral fixation. he loves eating Buck out. He'll do it for hours if Evan will let him. Tommy will come home from work, put his stuff away, and then he's yanking Evan's pants down and flipping him over and he's got his mouth on him. He loves lazily eating Evan out and he loves controlling if and when Evan can touch himself about it.

Tommy likes being in control in general, but especially in the bedroom. It's incredibly satisfying telling Buck what to do, because he takes it like a dream. So eager to obey, eager to please. And always so good for Tommy, which tickles his brain in the most satisfying way.

Tommy loves tying people up. He's been studying Shibari since his early 20's when he learned about it from one of his buddies in the army. There's something about working with his hands in that way, that puts him in a meditative trance. He's a regular at a few kink-rope events in the city and he will tie up various levels of kinksters who choose to volunteer. 95% of the time it's not sexual for him, unless he's doing it to his own partner. But even then, depending on the person, it can bring them so deep into sub space that he often leaves them (with supervision) to float in that euphoria for an hour or so, before working to untie and massage them; giving them after care and sweet kisses.

His favorite things to collect are work tools, bondage rope, and DVD's (the latter of which Evan relentlessly teases him about).

When he was a kid, Tommy's dad refused to believe the teachers when they suggested Tommy be tested for autism. And he made Tommy's life hell at home because of it. He knew Tommy was different and would do everything he could to try and "fix him", which would often leave young Tommy covered in bruises where other adults couldn't see them. "You can't scare the autism out of a child, but try telling my dad that," Tommy had said to Evan about his dad one day.

When Tommy needed minor surgery in the hospital as a kid, one of the nurses gave him a teddy bear named "Max" and he used to keep it under his pillow to hold when he got scared. Occasionally in adulthood, he'd pull Max out of his closet when he needed something to squeeze extra tight to make him feel better. He hasn't needed Max since Evan walked into his life though. Now he just squeezes Evan and does a happy wiggle under the sheets, nuzzling into the back of his boyfriend's neck with a sappy grin.

[jacki-daytona]

Tommy strikes me as that cool guy who doesn’t actually know he’s cool. He’s never once thought he was cool. Like, growing up, he learnt to keep quiet - and you know his pretty face just spoke to people instead. People said he was charismatic back then and now they call it rizz and Tommy is just…unsure why?

In his head he’s the weirdest guy around, and then you get Evan Buckley and his brand of weird and from the outside it’s like, oh sunshine and rain cloud huh?

Nuh. They’re two strange peas in a pod. Tommy’s a swan all graceful on the surface and legs racing underneath, and Buck is a whirlwind with a quiet eye in the middle of his storm.

I mean, picture a swan in a hurricane and tell me that’s not them.

[a7david]

Can we make the "adhd+autistic boyfriends" canon? I feel like it should be canon

[breathe-2am]

[kinardsboy]

Autistic Buck learning from an early age to mask because his parents weren’t gonna help and he sure as hell didnt want to put another burden on Maddie, he doesnt bring it up to the 118, he loves them and is sure they wouldnt care, but theres a lingering fear of being treated differently, more gently, given easier tasks, babied..

So when Buck comes home, so exhausted from masking all day, frustrated and on edge he’s so overwhelmed that he doesn’t know Tommy is home.

He sinks to the floor, hands in his hair as he taps his head against the wall, muttering to himself; until something breaks the silence.

“Hey there.”

Tommy. Shit.

“Oh- Oh hey Tommy sorry I just.. just am tired you know?” Evan immediately looked up, seeing his boyfriend standing over him. Damn it this was the last thing he wanted right now- he was so exhausted, so overstimulated, he could hear the buzzing of electricity from the lights, and whatever kitchen appliance Tommy had on.

“Evan.” Tommy’s voice grounded him from his spiraling thoughts and he looked back down at the floor.

“Yeah?”

“I know.”

Oh.

Evan didn’t say anything, he just pulled his knees closer to his chest and squeezed his eyes shut, preparing for the worst.

“I-..” Tommy began “I suppose, it.. takes one to know one, right?” He asked, and Buck suddenly realized Tommy was sitting on the floor next to him, noice canceling headphones in hand.

That’s right, with Tommy.. Evan was free.

[salty-autistic-writer]

I should talk more about autistic Tommy.

So: they see a chopper and Tommy starts to info dump about helicopter facts.

Eventually he gets scared, thinking he’s oversharing, but Buck says: it‘s so cool that you know so much, it’s also hot 🫠

And Tommy is like 😳 Because no one reacted that way before

[magniloquent-raven]

I keep having thoughts about what might've happened to Tommy to get him that spooked about the moving in conversation, and I figure maybe the last place he lived was an ex's house, but that's not the whole story.

And the place he's in now, it's important to him. There's a lot of reasons he freaked out that night talking to Buck, and a big one is the thought of giving up that little space he carved out for himself after the last time he got his heart broken. Because it wasn't just a breakup, it blew up his life. Maybe he came home to find his ex with someone else, maybe the guy just kicked him out with no warning and no explanation. Tommy spent weeks, months, trying to figure out why he wasn't good enough, throwing himself into work and not telling anybody he was living out of his truck.

He didn't really think of it as being homeless. He had his stuff, his job, he showered in the locker room and spent his weekends at the laundromat combing through realty websites and apartment listings. It wasn't like he was sleeping in a cardboard box or anything, he was...fine. Mostly.

He doesn't realize how Not Fine it was until he's three months settled into his new place, and he just spent four hours looking everywhere for a charging cable he's only now remembering got stolen out of his truck the day after his ex dumped him. It all hits him at once, and he breaks down.

The next few years are spent building. Turning the house into something that feels like his own. But using it to isolate himself. It's his, and no one else's. And that's what it will always be.

[asraindarkness]

we as a society don’t talk about how autism coded tommy kinard is! WE MUST DO BETTER!!!

[honestlynervousnut]

Tommy with sensory issues fidgeting with Buck's curls my beloved ♡

[half-oz-eddie]

It's my birthday so please enjoy this "Tommy can be read as Autistic" compilation I made (and an explanation below the cut)

One thing that was discussed with some others privately but I don’t see mentioned openly is how people find certain traits about Tommy unlikable that can be read as neurodivergent traits.

There are many people that read Tommy as autistic/neurodivergent and relate to him. There are people that read bucktommy as a neurodivergent queer relationship. (ADHD Buck and Autistic Tommy) I am def one of those people because of my AuDHD.

Tommy should smile more, Tommy is too serious, Tommy is insensitive, Tommy’s too blunt, Tommy didn’t dress up for the party, Tommy says things when he shouldn’t say them

Well. I dunno. I feel like I get everything about Tommy.

Dark/Deadpan humor. His bluntness. Taking things literally. Movie dialogue in the middle of a conversation. I like that he will say something about himself, mention how he’s jealous to relate to Buck and show that he’s listening/understands him. I like how he’s a little awkward and doesn’t get things sometimes. Constant "???" face. Finger guns. Finger guns.

Even down to the copying shitty personality traits from other people to navigate how to fit in their space.

He is autistic to ME.

[tedious-waffle]

Okay but the henren shovel talk has so much autistic!tommy coding lmao. Like yes dry humor but also dry humor stemming from being like “uhh? Im literally eating cake wdym?”

[daddykinkkinard]

autistic tommy i hope you have an awesome night my sweet pea whatever you say handsome

audhd buck i also hope you have a great life my honey bun i will do whatever you ask me to

[jacki-daytona]

When I purposefully/accidentally misinterpret what people say, am snarky bitch, sarcasm is my defence, flat face: MANIC PIXIE AUTISTIC DREAM CUNT

When Tommy Kinard breathes: *shit opinions censored*

[tommykinardismyautisticbbg]

Autistic Tommy Kinard is everything to me so in honor of him appearing this coming episode; I’d like to share my favorite Autistic Tommy headcanons!!

1.) Sensory Issues!

Tommy has this very specific pair of pink converse that he spent one of his first ever paychecks on, They are the prettiest blue pink Chuck 70’s. He has been wearing them for years straight because he has severe sensory issues, especially when it comes to texture and pressure it takes years to break in shoes to the point that he feels comfortable in them; Once they finally do feel comfortable, he never takes them off. He wears them everywhere so after all those years, they ultimately break on a call. He gets back into his bird and flies back. When he gets back all hell breaks loose,he’s so miserable and deeply uncomfortable because he has to change into a different pair of shoes that are so uncomfortable and tight so when Evan finds out he goes on an internet deep dive looking for these shoes and buys 3 pairs to make sure they last.

2.) If you asked Tommy what are the most used/loved things in his home he would say nothing but the truth is extremely soft but ugly T-shirt and his over-ear headphones. He loves the texture of that specific shirt its soft and worn down and hugs his skin the perfect amount. He can’t function without his headphones they give the perfect amount of pressure on his head without being too much and they are loud enough that he can hear the quietest background vocals in a song without being to overstimulating. This need of headphones no HIS headphones just got stronger when he started working at the 217 constantly having headphones on while in the air, so now whether they are playing something or not he’s always wearing them.

Sentimentality!

Tommy’s prized possession is definitely a stuffed dog who had been dubbed as Doggy that he’s had since literal childhood that his aunt got him before she moved away leaving him with his parents (he goes everywhere with him to the military because he cant sleep with out him he comes, to work with him every single day, even to the grocery store.Tommy has a secret photo album on his phone called Doggy’s Adventures and when Evan finds out he teaches himself how to sew and makes Doggy a mini flight suit. He also makes a physical copy of all of doggys photos and adds them to their family photo album when they ultimately start their family!

If you have any Autistic Tommy headcanons that you’d be okay sharing and allowing me to post on here let me know! Don’t Worry!! I will tag the owners of each specific headcanon!!

Tagging for those who requested to see this post!!

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