#autistic friends

[theangelblood]

I'm so done with being an autistic adult without a diagnosis, support and accommodations of any kind and no one around me who understands being autistic!

I'm so burnt out. I can't afford to go to therapy, a psychiatrist or get a diagnosis financially and emotionally. I can barely function at school even though I love it and want to continue studying to become a dental tech. I have no support from my family and I don't know anyone who's autistic who I could share with and ask for advice.

I don't know how long I can function like that but I need help getting help because I just can't do it on my own atm.

The only thing keeping me "sane" is maladaptive daydreaming.

I'm scared and want it all to be over.

[uefb]

Turns out I love mod AUs fml

This will be forever/never actually going up because this is a very personal project. And I’d very much like to finish Older, or Two Brothers and a Train Station first. But we will see! Maybe once I get it written up to the first plot ‘fall’ I’ll be ready to post it

[autistic-out-loud]

Autistic people make great friends

Ok so yeah, they can be awkward or talk about their special interest all the time and sometimes forget things or not like to go out to crowded places.

BUT

the weirder we are around you, it means we feel safe and trust you to be ourselves. And

We are thoughtful, sweet, helpful, honest, forgiving, non-judgemental, accepting and compassionate.

Most autistic people know what it's like to be treated like crap because of something out of your control.

We know what it's like to be judged.

We know people make mistakes.

We know people can be awkward.

If we do do something that hurts someone or is stupid, majority of the time we didn't mean it that way, probably didn't even realise and will be very sorry we did.

We know what it's like to have off days.

Most of us just want to fit in and have friends.

We want to be part of the world.

We want to be helpful.

We want to be understood.

We want to be valued and needed

This means some people do take advantage of us, and hopefully we learn from that (a hard lesson I've had a few times)

Me - as a friend is this (and I've been told by outside sources this isn't just me saying I'm all this): - understanding when plans have to change or be cancelled (life happens) - thoughtful, if I see something that I know my friend would enjoy I'll send them a photo or buy it - So non-judgmental that people tell me ALL sorts of things and I've even had friends who haven't felt the need to "come out" to me as they have with others because they know I don't care what their sexuality is, doesn't change our friendship at all. - unsure, so sometimes I ask questions, check if something's ok, like if I make a joke or something and they don't mind, usually think it's cute I'm making sure they're all good with it. - apologetic, when I do fuck up/say something awkward/disappear for a while, I always apologise, whether I figure it out myself or have someone point it out to me. - really chill if we haven't spoken for a few months, will pick up the friendship again like no time passed.

Honesty, there's also the fact that for more autistic people socialising is a nightmare and can be exhausting, so if they've chosen you, feel special. And please don't make assumptions, ask, never feel to afraid to ask the question, most of us don't care if society would say that question is too personal or some shit, just ask and we will tell you. Also remember we don't do things the way neurotypicals do, we try (and most of us have learnt the ways of the NTs) but we aren't perfect, so if we do something that seems like a dick move we probably didn't mean it (I've had things pointed out to me in the past that once someone explained they way they took what I said it really sounded like I was trying to be a dick, but I apologised and explained what I really meant - and didn't mean!)

And what it comes down to is this

Yeah Autistic people may be "different" "awkward" "weird" but at least we aren't fuckheads who purposely cause issues and hurt other people - and there's a lot of arseholes like that out there!

[biscuithoney]

Sooo a small update on bestie reading Shifting lines, since summer break is here they're continuing and is currently over 50 chapters in, on the third book.

This is what they have said about it and I find it really funny and sweet.

Shout out to @wishchthumblr and you can find them on twitter. I must give a big thanks to Tobi for writing this series, cause to quote my friend ", I can relate-".

Also hi Wish if you're reading this :>

[apogunia]

Oh im eating for two (me and my picky eater friend)

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

best thing about batman is that he's a superficially grimdark character, gothic & brooding & angst ridden etc..........but then it turns out he has a million hobbies, regularly goes on adventures with his besties, and has a dozen adopted kids he's raising with his devoted foster dad. good for him

[emirrart]

29,12,2024

allan's tone

[wanderingcritter]

god gives his most niche fandoms to his most autistic warriors

[homkamiro]

*heavys voice* entire team is BABIES!!!!!

[snailjo]

I don’t know what this is, OCD Alan is canon to me (projecting)

[sourlemonadez]

Congrats on YOUR autistic license

This whole thing was made because of the new interview of Kellen Goff (the dca's va). Said video is down here along with the link to it

[cyberwh0repuppy]

I can't tell when people are flirting with me I'd rather you just pin me to a wall and tell me how badly you want to make out

[leos-regression-cove]

Nursery/Daycare idea:

A growth-chart style graphic for Littles next to the door of the nursery that functions similar to a clip-chart so that Caregivers don't need to use cues from their Little to figure out how old they feel and so that Littles don't need to pick a hard number, but instead it's more organized by "height" (more like baby, toddler, preschooler, elementary school, middle school, middle and adult).

And then if you have two Littles you can have multiple clips and kiddos and move them around to keep track. This could also be helpful if you're a flip or are working with another flip!

Here's how I envision it looking :D

Original image from firstgradegalore.blogspot.com

[8irdies]

i love my plushies and toys so much i love being surrounded by little joy-filled objects who love me and i love them too and living in the middle of a little village (my room) filled with little friends (my toys) and i feel so safe with them and they will always be here for me just like i will always have a place for these little buddies i love.

[nocternal]

a moment of silence for all us disabled ones who had to watch each of their friends move on with their lives without you and get jobs, go to school, have partners come and go, get engaged and move house etc.

shout out to my fellow struggling people who are still sitting in the same bedroom they grew up in. the ones who can't get a job, can't make new friends, can't find a partner or partners, can't move house and can't go to school.

I hope one day we can all find someone to at least sit with us in our rooms. I see you and I understand... and I'm sorry we can't be that person for each other

[twinliches]

one true fact about me is that i never buy clothes i just trust that they will find their way to me and they always do. every single time i think well i might not have enough clothes somebody hands me a box of them and it all works out. it might be a bit of a self-fulfilling prophecy because everyone around who acquires clothing items in large quantities around me goes "well i know someone around this size who absolutely would take these off my hands without asking any questions" but it works.

i have been living like this for years. its a bit macabre but many of the wardrobes belong to dead family members which gives me an air of distinguishness despite my lack of initiative which i think is great! the only downside is that when someone compliments my outfit i have to go "thanks someone's grandfather died and they didn't know what to do with his clothes so i stole his drip" which is far more jarring than saying second-hand store even though it's the same thing! i just cut out the middle man