#autism things i guess idk

[thanishua]

Am I the only one who was expecting a T-Rex to pop out or did I watch too much Jurassic Park as a kid

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[ilikeflowey]

Okay. I'm going to be. Such a hater for a sec bcus like

I keep seeing this post around.

And like. As an autistic person I can see. How it's very easy to fall into this way of thinking. Because YES there is things we will never quite understand. And YES there is things that like. Neurotypical people won't understand. And whatever BUT. I THINK this is much more of like. A bad friend experience ?? More than ?? And autistic one? Like this is clearly just. Lack of communication especially since. This is about children. But also like. To me. It kind of feels like fear mongering yourself a little? And I just feel like it's really not the kind of thinking we should encourage within the autistic community as well bcus. There's so many nuances in friendships too? And like. How can you REALLY know. People from your childhood hated you? Did you ask? Did they really hate you? Truly? And like. Let's just. Not scare ourselves into "trusting our instincts" and then pushing people away/ not allowing ourselves to make new friends just because of one bad experience that. Honestly. Everyone has. This isn't an autistic experience, I fear. A lot of people get scared their friends don't like them. And a lot of people have had shitty friends. I'm not saying stuff like this doesn't happen. I just really don't think this is a good/healthy way to frame it. And. I know it can suck being disliked but let's not also act like people just. Aren't allowed to not click with each other. I just think we should be polite and open and able to communicate about it too. Yknow?

[gabrielsantar]

it’s truly what warhammer is missing the most re: primarchs. it’s boring if they all like each other, and it’s boring if they all hate each other; there should be an extremely complicated system of primarch relationships in which at least two of them fucking hate each other but sometimes have to tolerate each other because they all have a bestie in common

[titanrkive]

autistic aro/ace people of tumblr....... please please please share your wisdom with me. how did you realize and/or accept that you were also on the aro/ace spectrum???? i've been thinking about this for literal years but i just can't wrap my head around my own feelings and what they mean

(to clarify: i am questioning if i am aro and/or ace, but i just. don't know?????)

[coldflash-corner]

"Barry is a total idiot" literature is a classic and a staple in Coldflash culture, and never would I beg the creators who produce it to cease doing so nor would I ever dare say anyone is writing them wrong- just catering to their own preferences

However, my preference is

"Barry acts impulsively, and has to use his big smart brain to think himself out of the situations he put himself in, and is pretty good at the second part when not having a panic attack"

With a helping of

"Sometimes Barry doesn't get certain social cues, but figures everything out pretty quickly one someone tells him the thing he missed"

[charleemoon]

getting a little maybe irritated at how often i see autistic will being refuted because he "made himself out to be that way to avoid attention" ... ??? that's autistic. going out of his way to make yourself appear weird and unsociable so you can avoid socializing is. extremely autistic. lying and exaggerating about yourself out of fear of people getting too close and realizing youre a bad person is extremely autistic. the show honestly backpedals on will's empathy half the time, acting like it is only applicable when it comes to his job, but frequently showing that it isn't. in the first episode, hannibal literally notices his face getting red because they're near two people who are arguing. he's not exaggerating or faking his nightmares, his inability to deattach himself from others. yeah, he's got a complicated psychological profile that autism doesn't entirely cover or explain. that doesn't mean he's not still autistic. his person suit, the person he presents himself as to others, the choice to do that autistic masking. even if part of his masking is hiding behind being autistic in hopes it will make him less favorable to others and not further inspected, that is autistic masking. i think it is so insanely annoying that just because a character wasn't written with the intent in mind doesnt mean you cant accidentally write a valid representation of something anyways. fuller didn't intend on hannigram becoming as romantic as it did, but understood that it came along with the subtext anyways. acting like hes completely above fitting criteria of mental illness because he's "fictional" and has a "fictional" disorder that HIGHLY exemplifies autism is. incredibly stupid. and boring

[evelynpr]

I bet Deku watched one romance movie as a kid then absorbed that one idea of what dating is

[porcellune]

i find it kind of interesting that even among queer people it is difficult to treat trans characters with any sort of gender nonconformity ... i've noticed lately that there are other trans men who act like it is the worst thing imaginable to portray transmasc headcanons as feminine men, bottoms, or even pregnant - particularly with viktor arcane lately - despite these all being characteristics than we Can be.

i understand the aversion to that being the only way trans men are ever portrayed, but i feel like sometimes it is lost that these are not like, corporations or mainstream media portraying these characers like this - these are other queer people, very likely other trans men, portraying characters in a way that suits them and their perception of their gender and identity

like by all means if a cis person is out there only ever showing trans men as a fetish object to be feminized, then yea, get mad at them, but for a lot of queer afab people i think is generally pretty harmless lol

most of my OCs that are transmasculine are androgynous/feminine in their expression and bottoms. but my cis male characters are usually the exact same so LOL. it's just how i prefer to write my characters i portray and relate to.

idk i feel like we typically take the statement of "there should be more masculine/top portrayals of trans men" to mean "there should be less feminine/bottom portrayals of trans men" ... Which is like ... wrong. but it's also a general fandom attitude i notice from some people that in general having a feminine man in an m/m relationship is like somehow not woke enough and even harmful.

maybe if you are very blinded by being overexposed to portrayals of feminine men in fandom spaces you could think this is the 'norm' but in reality feminine men are still extremely marginalized ESPECIALLY IN THE IRL GAY COMMUNITY. it's so bad. masculine gay men are still considered the "better" version of gay men this has been the sentiment since fucking antiquity only a man who was masculine and on top and slept with other men was considered to still be a man and given respect

anyways i love fucking around with gender. these days my own gender's been weird. i still prefer being called he/him but i have never had any issue with fulfilling a "feminine" role in how others treat me i really don't gaf. i would just like to be treated as me and i sort of despite that the way people treat me and expect things of me has changed when they learn i am transmasc. like no nothing about me has changed except the pronouns and the tits i chopped off. im still a princess idgaf

[nabaath-areng]

I feel like a terrified animal on Bluesky and I just found out you can't make your profile private so WELP

[coderzxd]

Don't know how to answer people when they ask you a question? Get quiet or stressed because you kind of don't want to answer but you also can't explain why, lest you start to answer? Getting called secretive because you Just Don't Respond??

Might I introduce you... To The Cards!!!!

[la-principessa-nuova]

oh cool i can put off the thing i was feeling guilty about not doing until tomorrow now bc it’s too late

[aroaessidhe]

2024 reads / storygraph

Daniel, Deconstructed

YA contemporary

an autistic boy interested in photography and cyperpunk LARPing notices his soccer-star best friend seems sad after a breakup, and decides he should try set her up with the cool new kid he just met

(because he thinks she’d be better off hanging out with other cool people than his boring self)

but the matchmaking doesn’t really work out - he’s developing a crush on the new kid and his friend doesn’t seem interested, and he has to question what he wants out of his relationships

pan MC, pan nonbinary LI, aro bi best friend

[verytiredhyena]

Who is this man

Why do people keep tagging him on my stupid posts

Who is this poor clearly mentally ill (ADHD????) man ???

[robyn-i-guess]

does anyone else repeat what other people say when they think it's funny like. without thinking. and you dont realize until someone says "i just said that... are you stealing my joke?" and you're like NO NO I JUST. I JUST LIKED IT SO MUCH I HAD TO SAY IT AGAIN DO YOU NOT GET ME

[madtomedgar]

Apparently my straight girl roommate's stupid fucking boyfriend got all up in his precious little man baby feelings that i didn't like him (I don't) and so now, in order to keep things copacetic in our apartment, I am being forced to Hang Out with him and Make Nice.

I am, I think, well within my rights to report this to law enforcement as a hate crime.

[burningcomputerpersona]

the way spaces end up getting casually gendered is so weird. i normally try to get to my classes a bit early so i can choose where to sit and it's fascinating to watch how ppl will gravitate towards a certain spot depending on the gender of the ppl sitting nearby. by the time the lecture starts the classroom almost always has a visible distinction between the 'guys' section and the 'girls' section. and it happens individually too even when there's not a huge friend group clustering around the same place.