#at least when it comes to sexuality

[catwouthats]

“I think Poolverine is one sided” straight people, who see it as Wade having a sexual thing for Logan (and basically any living thing) but Logan not liking him back.

VS

“I think Poolverine is (currently) one sided” polyamorous aroace spec me, who sees it it as Logan falling deep in to a romantic love with Wade by the end of the movie (but he realizes that Wade still only romantically likes Vanessa. Wade might be more than okay with having sex with Logan, or basically anyone for that matter, but Logan would never be able to agree with it. Such an intimate act would hurt him so much knowing they don’t see it the same way.)

[yarrowleef-babbles]

been hearing rumors that the "i'm always straight" lines may have been cut from the GN and IF that is true, I expect everyone will be super mad about that--and ngl i'd mourn the loss of it too because it has become iconic to me

But. i can't believe i'm playing devils advocate for this, BUT it is not entirely unreasonable for an adaptation of this work to decide it does not want to reference Ronan's sexuality yet......coming to terms with his sexuality is (one) part of his arc in the 2nd book. Adam Parrish being ~the 2nd secret he doesn't want to admit to himself~ , Ronan's catholic guilt homoerotic nightmares and the like, all characterize his sexuality as something he might vaguely be aware of but seriously struggles to openly admit. I don't think he even uses the word gay or any other word to describe himself in the whole series? (unless I'm forgetting something?)

So, idk, it's not unreasonable to want the (hypothetical) audience to also not be aware of it until Ronan is forced to directly grapple with his identity next book.

i think this is one of those things that has become very dear to the fandom over time, but if i look at it objectively without my feelings, i just.....i do understand why someone could conceivably decide that this off-handed bitchy "he's gay btw" joke is not of dire importance for the sanctity of the story 😭 in the 'pros don't outweigh the cons' sort of way....

[bird-likes-to-fandom]

infantilization of Ricky Potts my beloathed

[that-binchh]

as much as i love reading cherik fics, i do have to turn off my brain every time because every fic seems to have a line or two about how mutant issues is the most pressing social injustice. and like as a black person, that line is so tone deaf to me because racism in the x-men world is both visible and invisible, which is actually so true to reality that it lowkey makes me sick.

[opalsiren]

'sabrina carpenter is soooo male gaze-y' okay name one female public figure who doesn't have to cater to the male gaze, at least to some extent, in order to maintain their position in the public eye. if you don't like her make-up or costumes that's fine but don't act like it's some salient feminist critique to say wearing lingerie makes you an instrument of patriarchy when every single female popstar has to conform to a certain standard of femininity to reach acclaim. there is certainly room for a convo about why we only listen to music and watch films when the women creatives involved have flawlessly styled hair and a full face of make-up and impracticable clothes on 25/8, and how these standards implicate women in general. but critiquing this one single individual woman for being an arbiter of patriarchy smacks of weirdness. like just say you don't like her hair and go we don't need to act like sabrina carpenter herself invented patriarchy

[walkingstackofbooks]

I'm back to thinking about autistic aro-spec Julian Bashir and how he doesn't know it, and how desperately he tries to do romance "properly", and how it always feels just off of what other people describe, but many emotions seen to do that anyway...

And how he's completely convinced that finding his One True Love would finally unlock the key to happiness he's been struggling to find, because hasn't it worked for Jadzia and Worf and Kira and Odo and Miles and Keiko...? Even for his parents, who always seemed to understand each other so much more than they in understood him, who always told him he'd "understand when he's older"...

He's a little bit in love with all his friends but it's all mixed in with the gratitude he has that they even are his friends as he he latches onto any and all strong emotions in the belief that this is what romance feels like - at last! - and he never even considers the possibility he might be aromantic because he's been in love, hasn't he, and sure he might not really "get" the whole romance thing, but he's trying and anyway he has felt it before - must have felt it before, right? - even if he couldn't place his finger on it or on quite how or why it felt different. Or even if it felt different.

...He's just one of the many flavours of queer Julian that live in my head, but I do like him this way so so much.

[molalom]

oh uhh. happy pride btw,,, shoutout to the time my coming out was met with a "yeah i figured as much." like wow, mom... not even gonna pretend to be surprised?

[aroaessidhe]

2025 reads / storygraph

Vagabonds!

contemporary fantasy (with some horror, scifi)

many lightly interconnected stories about various queer/trans people in Lagos who are considered vagabonds/outsiders

a fashion designer and her magical daughter, a driver for a powerful corrupt politician, the romance of two lesbian sex workers, fairygodgirls who deliver books to people who need them, a spirit of the city observing it all (and many more)

explores the rich world of queer life and resilience and existence in Nigeria

[waterparksdrama]

I give it three days before he comes out as straight

he's no misha collins he's just never gonna label himself again - iz

[miru-mu]

today's warm up- disgaea catoblepas, my beloved… you deserve better and someday I will give it to you, I swear

[maliciousmoi]

honestly all this talk of that god awful new norm cartoon is reminding me of that horrendous 90's sitcom i watched a few years ago, unhappily ever after, probably because both are right-wing trash.

at least unhappily ever after pretends to be an entertaining sitcom... not that it succeeds.

the new norm's just a never-ending series of jokes shitting on minorities without even trying to pretend it has a plot.

[wow-an-unfunny-joke]

Why am I getting so many aro posts on my dash today???? Is it a sign?

[canisonicscrewyou]

I just think some of you don't actually care about trans rights and liberation for everyone. I'm starting to think some of you believe YOU personally should be left alone and respected.. But you also get to be the bully who's mean to other trans people and justified, encouraged even to do so, because oppression.

[seventh-district]

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[graysongraysoff]

hard to explain how therapy makes me feel these days