#as well as give something to the LGBTQ community as a straight ally

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[ritavonbees]

Diversity is a Family Value

There's been a lot of critique of the Born This Way narrative that I won't retread, but something I'm thinking about now is how its logical implications really never got belaboured to the people who needed to hear it. The right-centrist Family Values cultural sphere settled into a kind of "well they can't help being like that but do they have to shove it in my face" reluctant tolerance. But surely if you were taking family values seriously, the next step is... someone could be Born This Way in my family. In fact, the more kids I have the more likely it is that at least one of them will be some flavour of LGBTQ. What's best for my family if it turns out the diversity is coming from inside the house? Is it having all the diversity corralled in the designated diversity area where I don't have to look at it? Or is it a community that diversity is peacefully integrated into so my kids have role models for whatever kind of adult they're growing into?

What Born This Way ultimately demanded was to fundamentally give up the delusion of cast-iron control of your own children, the kind of delusion that can only be maintained by disowning or destroying any children that refuse to be controlled. And from here it looks like that just didn't take. But with or without that particular narrative, we need to keep trying to break the delusion, because that's what stands in the way of cis, straight, etc people's love for their family turning them into allies.

This applies to disability too, btw - imagine the power of the Autism Mom lobby if they learned to listen to autistic adults instead of pseudoscience peddlers. If you fully internalise the idea that you could have queer or disabled kids or grandkids, completely jettison the idea that there's always something you can and should do to avoid it, then you personally benefit from living in a community where queer and disabled people visibly thrive. At that point, it doesn't actually matter whether your gay uncle, or the trans lady who works at the library, or the teacher in the wheelchair was "born that way"/has tried hard enough not to be/etc. What matters is accepting that your child or grandchild could be fundamentally different from you in some way, simply on account of that's how humans work, and if that happens you will want someone to ask for advice, someone who's started the work of making your community accessible to your child, someone who just by being around proves to your child that it's worth trying to live through their teens. And if it doesn't happen to you it'll happen to your neighbour or your colleague or someone from your church. So why wait?

[nockstormbringer]

I’m not sure if you do this or not, but, in my opinion, it’s worth a shot. Got any Cabin 12 headcanons?

Cabin 12 || Camp Half-Blood

Synopsis → General headcanons for the children of Dionysus.

Warning → Mentions of alcohol, shakespeare, pepsi, odd food combos, spiders, snakes

A/n → oh my god I actually post something 😱

Word Count → 463

↳ I feel like a great majority of Cabin 12 kids would be alt, or into scene. Maybe grunge, but generally, their closets consists of darker toned colours.

↳ Adding to this, they’ve all definitely dyed their hair at least once and/or have piercings.

↳ They definitely love theatre, although all to different extents. Some would absolutely love musicals while others are into Shakespeare.

↳ They’re all definitely failing any social science related subjects (Geography, Business Studies, etc.)

↳ Cabin 12 definitely smells like juice, maybe apple, grape, apple black current, just juice. The smell isn’t all that noticeable, as it’s pretty subtle, but it’s still there.

↳ Nails are always painted, no doubt. Whether they’re done up because they like them like that or if it’s to keep them from biting them.

↳ Love fruit with a passion, but can’t stand vegetables. Vegetables are too bland and just are icky to them, while fruit is so good, it’s sweet and juicy.

↳ I feel like they would be good artists, whether painting, sculpting or whatnot. They can even write music and sing pretty well, so they would get along with the Apollo cabin.

↳ Because of their interests in the arts, they all major in something similar or do a subject at school like Drama, Visual Arts, Music, etc.

↳ They love pinecones, and no, I will not elaborate further.

↳ Every single child of Dionysus absolutely loathes Pepsi. It’s only the natural path. Children of Bacchus however…

↳ Cats of any size absolutely adore them.

↳ They make weird food combinations , like ham and honey, apples and cheese, and several other odds.

↳ Ariadne actually adores her step kids, and is quite nice to them all. Of course, every time Dionysus claims a son or daughter, she gives him the cold shoulder for a few weeks.

↳ I also feel that kids from Cabin 12 have obscure pets or want one, like snakes, spiders, crows or some other unique animal.

[I’m definitely not projecting the fact that I had a snake and a crow growing up.]

↳ Major ally’s or are apart of the LGBTQ+ community. Like they go hard in support of rights for equality amongst gays and straights, cis and trans, men and women.

↳ Absolutely hard core side eyeing and even outright calling out assholes, misogynists, homophobes, transphobes, and any other disrespectful little prick.

↳ Whenever they’re bored, they go around and cause chaos, but not towards other campers. Towards Mr. D. Since out of everyone, his own children are more likely to get off easier.

↳ Besides, you can NOT tell me that Dionysus isn’t an absolute ride or die for his children. He’s not great at expressing that love, especially since he can’t show favouritism, but all his children mean the world to him.

↳ Either love alcohol or refuse to touch the stuff. No in between.

thank you!! ♡

[valenschmidt]

Got to love people always assuming someone is straight. Heteronormative society. Oliver has as far as we know one long term female partner that he ended things with not too long ago (after nearly a decade it seems). That doesn’t automatically mean he’s straight. As mentioned by yourself, he doesn’t see a difference when having to kiss a man nor a woman. He also alluded to caring more about how a person makes you feel and if they bring happiness to you than gender (in the Men’s Health live from June). He also did a little interview from a few years ago where he said he loved Pose and wanted to be on the show. That is a show about black and brown queer characters in the 80s/90s ballroom scene in New York. The only white guy on that show was Evan Peters (who always works with Ryan Murphy) whose character liked trans women. Simply, if Oliver likes it, he doesn’t care what anyone else has to say.

Hello anon!!!

Right?!?!?! Bt mostly love to get Oliver into their argument saying that he is straight and that is why the kissing looks weird and bla bla bla and...

1st I didn't mention Oliver in that bucktommy post because He is definitely NOT the reason why that kiss (makeout session according to them) looks stiff and awkward

2nd Oliver actually confirmed he doesn't mind kissing men like he really said that it was the same as kissing a woman so the issue was not with him. If he has to tongue kiss a man he will absolutely do it

Also yes he has never actually confirmed his sexuality and even though we only know about his on and off for years ex Hannah, so we can't assume he is straight or not until he himself confirms it and until then, his sexuality is none of our business.

I will be using this post as well to make a clarification

I for one am straight so I never want to assume anyone's sexuality and I don't ever want to press someone to tell me because it is none of my business unless they want to tell me that. If someone is from the lgbtq community and wants to tell me I will be ready to embrace them and thank them for telling me and be as supportive as I can (I am quite literally called Valentina like the ally from that one video so it makes sense 🤣) so everyone from the community will always have a safe space in my blog to talk and I welcome any advice if I step over the line about something

Going back to Oliver, we should not assume he is straight but no one should ever question his sexuality now that Buck has been confirmed bi because he doesn't owe his sexuality to anyone so it pisses me off that bt want to excuse his fave lfjr being stiff while kissing a man by saying they are both straight so of course they are uncomfortable because they are actors but no. It shouldn't be like that... if they are not comfortable then they can say so and talk about it with the intimacy coordinator and Oliver has pretty much confirmed that he isn't uncomfortable so...

And on that topic I don't want a repeat of what Kit Connor went through so this is not for you anon this is just a general thing... If/when Eddie is confirmed gay and buddie gets together I don't want ANYONE talking about Oliver or Ryan's sexualities because they don't owe it to anyone to say anything.

Have a good day anon! Thank you for giving me the space to talk

[my-castles-crumbling]

Hi Cas :) I just need a lil advice if that’s okay. I’m straight but i’m proudly dating a trans man, and so we celebrate pride every year. 

I’ve had people come up to me recently and ask me why I’m celebrating pride. I don’t make it a trend to out my boyfriend to people I vaguely know, so I tell them I’m an ally. 

I celebrated pride before I met my boyfriend (about 3 years ago) and I am an ally now, but to be entirely honest (and i regret this now), I didn’t used to care that much. 

I used to say I was an ally- but I don’t think I really was. I just sort of, didn’t care. But now I can proudly say I am an ally :) 

Anyway, recently someone who me and my boyfriend have been like semi-friends with (I met him through my boyfriend actually) asked me why I celebrate pride. I told him i’m an ally. And he said “but like, you’re more than an ally right? Cause of *boyfriend*”

This confused me, so I told him “No? I mean *boyfriend* has definitely opened my eyes more to the lgbtq+ community since I started dating him, but i’m still an ally? What do you mean?”

Then he begun a rant on how people who date trans people ARENT ACTUALLY STRAIGHT. 

I am angered. 

I am very angered.

I’m not gonna say it was easy at first, I wasn’t very well acquainted with the lgbtq+ community, i had sort of a, live and let live, opinion I guess. 

But when I met my boyfriend I fell for him pretty fast (which isn’t my usual style). 

It threw me when I found out, but I never really did question that I’m straight?

And i’m not questioning that now or anything, I love my boyfriend, we’re actually engaged (as of two months, he proposed on the anniversary of the day we met) and we’re planning our wedding and going to pride like we always do and everything. (And in case you’re wondering, we agreed i’d carry on saying boyfriend instead of fiancé, until I can say husband, cause he says it’s one of the little things that’s gender affirming ❤️) 

I guess I just don’t really understand why people think that dating a trans person changes your identity. For example, my family found out he was trans near the beginning because my sister cyber stalked him, found an old photo and figured it out. And then she “accidentally” told our parents (she’s since apologised), and they were all cool with it (although I was irritated he’d been outed) but they all IMMEDIATELY assumed I was Bi? And that I just hadn’t told them. 

Usually I ignore this (and i’m not offended that they think i’m part of the community or anything) but I find it a bit… like it’s de-valuing him and who he is? I don’t know if that makes sense, but it’s like saying he’s not actually a man- cause I have to be something else to love him? 

It just pisses me off, but he never seems bothered by it. In all the years i’ve known him, and everything we’ve talked about, he continues to be unbothered by it, saying that he can’t change other ignorance.

And yeah okay he’s right, he shouldn’t have to explain himself and neither should I. But why do people feel the need to assume? Or worse, give me a SPEECH about how i’m “probably not straight cause my boyfriends trans?” 

Also, I seem to run into the same problem with his lgbtq+ friends saying that to me AS WELL? 

Most of his friends are genuinely so lovely, and they all adore me (cause i’m awesome) and I adore them (cause they’re awesome) but there’s one or two who consistently make jokes about me liking more than men because of my boyfriend?

If they make comments in front of the others they’re always yelled at, and my boyfriend always tells them to leave me alone. But he makes these excuses for their comments, like the environment they grew up and they lives they’ve had. And I don’t feel like I have the right to tell them what jokes they can and can’t make, but really? 

Why make a joke that I HAVE to be something other than straight to date my BOYFRIEND. Stop saying he’s anything less than a normal man? Like I don’t gettt ittt at all. 

Someone once told me the definition of straight was to only feel sexual attraction to the opposite gender and that’s why i’m not straight. 

And I told them he IS the opposite gender.

And they went, yeah but he’s not Cis.

(also can I add a real quick, you literally cannot be a feminist and transphobic. Because so many people have said to me that the difference is what’s in his pants. Why do you care what’s in his pants? Why does anyone? Isn’t that the whole point? It’s so annoying). 

OKAY I guess this is just a rant. I can’t ask for advice on how to get everyone to just magically stop being a dick. BUT WHY? Why are some people like this? 

Maybe if you don’t understand something, just leave it alone. Don’t keep harassing me about whether or not i’m straight and DEFINITELY don’t ask me in front of my boyfriend dipshit. 

Ooooo, this is WOW

Okay so...ugh. I'm trying to form my thoughts.

You are completely right. Dating a trans person doesn't change your sexuality. If you, a woman, are attracted to men and only men, then you are straight. It doesn't matter if those men are trans or cis.

I think the problem is, and I'm trying to word this correctly, SOME people who are arguing otherwise think they are doing so for a good reason? Like they're being allies? they want to recognize trans people as part of the lgbtqia+ community so much that they forget that trans people can be STRAIGHT, and so can their partners. It doesn't make trans people any less a part of the community, it just means that they're...straight.

By mixing up gender and sexuality, these people are essentially being the opposite of allies to trans people. They're not seeing trans men as men and vice versa. its hurtful and invalidating.

So yeah, you are completely in the right, and I think it's important to remember that even people in the LGBTQIA+ community are NOT perfect. EVERYONE needs to constantly work on being educated.

Also, shout out to you for being such an amazing girlfriend. You really seemed to be working to support your boyfriend and his needs.

Naming you straight anon <3

[stormblessed95]

Didn’t yoongi technically come out? Like I might be misremembering but didn’t he once say his type wasn’t restricted to girls, or something along those lines? I’ve been operating on the belief that yoongs was actually Out™️ for a while now 💀 rip if I’m wrong

LMAOOO friend, Yoongi comes out a couple times a year since their debut years (from saying his type isn't limited to women and even describing the type of man he would want, which macho, manly and with a beard lol) and the fandom still likes to pretend he is "just joking" or it's "translation errors" 😂 because of course. I have 3 posts about all of Yoongis queer/rainbow moments already where he is talking about it or wearing pride stuff. Which I'll link here:

My man is so unapologetically queer 🥰 he is just living his life and if you don't want to see, you won't. He doesn't care either way it seems. Lol but honestly, what a good excuse this post gives me to make another YOONGI RAINBOW MOMENTS post from even more things he has done more recently!!

On the D-Day tour, he wore a shirt that said the rumors are true from the LdSS brand which has an openly gay designer who has mentioned in interviews how their core fanbase is "quite queer, gay, and sex positive."

Again on tour, performing with Halsey (one of his besties) who is openly bisexual, under Bi lighting on stage

Seriously, the Bi lighting all through tour lol

The way he giggles over his guitarists and friends flirty jokes with him all the time 🥰😂 honestly, the reaction of falling on the floor giggling, blushing, and kicking your feet in the air when a man proposes to you before killing it on his guitar is both 💅🏼 and VALID

Ally Pup on his D-Day Tour Crew! 😍🥰

Rainbow cake in his Road to D-Day docu

Yoongis admiration for Merry Christmas Mr Lawrence. This Twitter thread actually explains it quite well and links to a video further in the thread too, so I'll just make yall go read about it from them. But do go read it

And going back in time just a little bit, when BTS was in Vegas for PTD and Yoongi got the marry me jokes again during the OT7 live stream and he said that marriages in Vegas are legal and possible no matter what your gender, I love him so much

I don't know what ANYONE else wants this man to do. This man is part of our community, like it's sooooo clear. I have 4 posts of him hinting at or out right just saying gay shit at this point lol Let the man live his truth!!

[shellxrls]

may i put my two cents in with this whole gay jj debate.

personally i dont think jj & john b would ever be gay for eachother. & its not homophobic to say that every character doesnt have to be gay. i think popes gay, jj & pope definitely have a thing, john b gives straight but ally. and jj and jb are like brothers. i think its a lil weird to say jj would take it in the ass from john b but hey whatever makes u happy after all theyre just fictional right?

everyone can have their own opinions and it’s not like i can stop or change them, and i’m fine with those opinions being different to mine as long as their not disrespectful. i get why you’d think it’s weird considering you view them as brothers, which i also respect and so i’m fine with you not being comfortable with me shipping them together.

however, i’ve never thought it was homophobic to say a character isn’t gay, i just think by saying characters being gay is ‘creepy’ or ‘gross’ it feeds into marginalising the community. no one wld call it ‘creepy’ if someone said a gay character was straight, they’d just call it incorrect. it’s ab the wording and the connotations that come with, cuz for decades the lgbtq+ community has been isolated from society under the xenophobic pretence that they are ‘different’ and hence ‘disgusting’, etc.

and i take wording very seriously as well as the way a person says it, bcuz being bisexual myself i srsly don’t want anyone with any capacity of homophobia on my blog, nor do i feel okay with any amount of homophobia in general. it doesn’t just anger me as regular hate wld, and its not something i can brush off so easily considering this is also a part of my identity, and i feel hurt and upset that we still live in a society where just by existing people feel ready to target anyone part of the lgqbtq+ community. so ofcourse my opinions are going to be stronger and less lenient, considering i take the offence almost personally.

[rumble-aint-a-rumble-without-me]

🪕 - 🅡🅘🅓🅘🅝🅖 - ships, tell me a little about yourself (personality, general description, likes/dislikes, gender preference) and i'll ship you with somebody from the outsiders!

I'm an average heighted female with pale skin (literally it looks like fucking milk even in summer😭). I have long wavy dark brown hair that is somehow always messy. My eyes are a mix between grey, green and blue and nobody (not even me) can make out their exact colour for the life of theirs since it seems like they are changing colour (from the light and perspective) at every second.

I am straight, but I'm an ally of the lgbtq+ community!

I am very fond of the coquette style of clothing, I'm an hyperfeminine girly that loves to doll herself up. I'm talking full on short white lacy skirts(with lacy underwear too lmao😭) with red heart-shaped sunglasses, cherry lipstick and pink tops with a white ribbon on my hair!

Moving onto my personality; I'm a very sweet girl, I'm the literal mom friend of every friend group I've ever been in. I'm always complementing and praising everyone lmao. I am so totally babying and spoiling the youngests of the group. (literally giving them princess/prince treatment and even paying for them, lending them my things, making sure they've eaten, drank water, etc).

I'm all up when it comes to nicknames, I don't care if you're a boy or a girl I'm opening my dictionary and calling you all the affectionate names written there. (I usually call friends baby, babygirl, babyboy, babes, babe, darl[ing], cutie, sweetcheeks, hottie, hotstuff). (with a partner I would go down more towards sweetstuff, , honey, hun, love/luv, angelcakes, babycakes, lovie, dovey, babylove).

I consider myself as a very touchy person, I like to hold hands, hang onto someone's arm, legs/shoes touching while sitting, hugs (a lot of hugs) and cuddling! I love cuddling! /all of this both with platonic friends and romantic partners. Though I will back off and tone it down if someone's uncomfortable with so much physicall or verbal affection and resort to gift-giving (hand-made trinkets or small things that reminded me of that certain someone, etc) as love-language.

I am a very sensitive gal when it cames to being gifted something, I will fr tear up 😭. I literally cherish every little thing that my friends give me, even if it's a fucking bubble gum wrap paper, it's getting a spot in my 'memory box' lmao.

Even if I'm sweet and have literally no idea how to fight, if someone tries to mess with my loved ones you bet your ass I'm gonna throw myself at them and try and beat them up as much as I can, even if I end up with my face all bloodied and pretty much more hurt than the other person 😭 (i just love my friends that much).

I laugh at almost everything, and I consider myself pretty much easy-going, I'm okay with every and any kind of plan as long as it's with my loved ones.

HOPE IT ISN'T TOO MUCH TEXT IM SORRY IF IT IS AND I HOPE YOU HAVE THE BEST DAY EVER

Sodapop! I think your softer personality would go well with him? He likes to try and nail down your eye color so if you catch him staring, don't be alarmed. He loves your clothes and that's all I have to say about that. Pet names and physical touch? He's in love. He's so in love. I'd bet money that he'd try to teach you to fight? But if push came to shove, he wouldn't mind fighting for you :)

[ni-kol-koru]

KnB 30-Days Challenge

Day 11 : Favorite Uncrowned King

Mibuchi Reo 👑✨️

No second-guessing or too much thinking was necessary here. I needed one second to decide who I am going to write about here.

Now, what do you mean an Uncrowned King? When I look at Reo, I see a King proudly wearing his crown! He really doesn't care about what anybody thinks of him, he knows he is awesome, unique, beautiful, a skilled player, and loves and respects himself! One thing I really admire him for doing in the 2010s Japan is expressing himself, more specifically embracing his femininity. Those times didn't really offer a lot of space or support for people who were different, but there he was, confidently being himself, pursuing his own happiness within himself by finding out what style and feel he was comfortable with, even though a lot of people considered him a 'weirdo'!

Finding his character was a big thing for me for a couple of reasons. I was always afraid of being seen as a 'weirdo' as a kid, and his character inspired me to be myself and not care about what others think of me. He also introduced me to the LGBTQ+ community! When I was younger, people with sexualities different than straight or genders out of the binary system were something I never heard of, so finding him opened really important doors to me, and my view of people and the world changed. I didn't know what homophobia was, but seeing the way some people treated Reo automatically made me an ally and a person who wants to fight for queer people and their rights.

Speaking of the way he was treated... He seriously deserved so much better. The show and the manga treated him horribly. It is obvious that the creator isn't a fan of queer people, but making his characters, especially Hyūga Jūnpei, who he claims is most like him, treat him that way and never having anyone stand up to protect Reo, just made him, the characters and the show look bad. Still, I am grateful that Reo at least has teammates who don't pick on him for being part of the LGBTQ+ community.

Now, I have to ramble about his personality and other qualities a bit. What makes him one of my favorite characters and my favorite Uncrowned King is his play style. Reo never felt boring on the court, and watching him always had me at the edge of my seat. Seriously, I think he is so clever, and his shooting forms are just genius. Also, the way he is so elegant and graceful, yet so explosive and percise... I am in love. His personality just adds more to my love for him. He often appears to be rather uptight, having the need to keep everything and everyone in check, but when he relaxes, he is sweetness itself. He is gentle, thoughtful and kind. He acts like a mother to his teammates, and has an obvious soft spot for Seijūrō! When I saw the end card where he made sweets for Sei-Chan, I just melted! Not only that, but when I listened to a special CD, and heard him talk about how he feels about Rakuzan's loss at WinterCup, I felt really bad for him. He really blamed himself for the loss, he even said he wasn't able to sleep at night because he instinctively jumped to block the ball and bumped into Jūnpei. Only after he was repeatedly told he didn't have to worry about because it's not his fault, he felt at ease. Well, that proved just how much he cares and how deep of a feeler and thinker he is.

I love Reo a lot. He seriously deserves the world, and if I could, I would give it to him. Everything the best for Reo-Nee!✨️

[ryugunou]

as it is pride month, I sit here still thinking about well...my own identity. I considered myself a straight ally for years now, but after having so many friends in the LGBTQ+ community, it got me thinking about myself.

To not beat around the bush too much, I'm currently questioning and considering aromantic. I never really had crushes as a kid. Either fictional or real. Maybe there were some that were close but I hesitate to call them a crush since well- I barely understand the feeling

But I still hesitate to give myself or accept myself with this identity. Because of this innate fear of me being wrong. And I do understand that if I do end up being wrong...it's ok. It's ok to be wrong. Still figuring things out and all that.

I also have thoughts of possibly being Demisexual. Because when I think about Sex, I only would wanna do it if it's with someone I have a deep and emotional connection with. There was a time when I scoffed at the Demi identity because I thought of it as "just having standards" But as time goes on, I think it's fine for those to identify themselves as such. Not hurting one at all.

And on top of that, I admit I don't really think of sex that often. Which I don't think should attribute too much. Not like every other LGBT or straight person just has sex on the brain, but I feel like it might be something considering as I piece the puzzle together.

So yeah, that's what's up with me. Trying to figure things out and just...have the confidence to go past possibly being wrong.

[booksandpaperss]

The fact that a lot of people are being so pressed and homophobic about byler *possibly* being canon when Robin x Vickie are practically canon onscreen already and no one is batting an eye tells me that

1) Straight ppl (and a lot of queer ppl too tbh) don’t take sapphic ships seriously bc there is a culture of literally ignoring lesbians and how special and equally queer wlw love is, so homophobes don’t see it as that much of a problem

and 2) The difference between having a queer ship as part of the main plotline between two crucial main characters, vs having a cute but relatively unrelated side queer pairing just for the sake of giving an LGBTQ character a love interest MATTERS when it comes to representation. There are so. Many. Cishet ppl who claim to be “allies” or just “okay” with the queer community until suddenly it looks like a queer ship between two MAIN CHARACTERS is going to be endgame *instead of the het ship*. A few minutes of screentime for Robin and the character put into the show specifically to be her love interest that showed up a grand total of three scenes in the entire season? Yeah, sure, that’s fine, but as soon as it becomes apparent that one of the main young teenage characters is in love with his best friend who is also a major character might actually be reciprocated? Ppl throw a goddamn FIT.

It is so telling that people are coming up with all of these excuses for why byler could never and shouldn’t happen, and why they’re adamantly against it:

“Mike has to be straight cuz he’s with el!” (bi ppl and comphet exist 🤨)

“It’s just not realistic, they’re just friends it came out of nowhere” (it’s canon that Will’s had feelings for Mike since season one so idk wtf ur talkin abt)

“M*leven is the main ship you’re just delusional” (they’re not tho??Are u forgetting abt lumax? Cuz they got wayy more attention and love in s4 than m*leven did. Also jopper and jancy exist)

“Mike isn’t obligated to like Will back” (literally no one said he was? It’s not that he’s “obligated” it’s just that he’s acting pretty fuckin fruity)

And ofc my personal favorite: “It’s the 80s it’s just not realistic for so many ppl to be gay” (if u rlly think gay ppl didn’t exist in the 80s I beg u to open a proper history book)

Translation? “I simply cannot bring myself to believe that a queer character on a show this big would be essential and well loved enough by the writers and actors to get a happy ending. This show was never stated to be strictly abt the queer experience (as opposed to something like heartstopper) so obviously my het ship will be endgame over the queer one, bc a major endgame relationship couldn’t possibly be queer. That makes me uncomfortable.”

Basically, straight people are getting upset about byler bc they’re used to queer ships being sidelined or just put there for clout.

They’re ALSO just used to seeing the main female protagonist end up in an endgame with a guy, bc god forbid a female MC gets to finish her arc single 🙄

We can acknowledge the difference between a queer side ship with one insignificant character and a queer ship between two major characters that is essential to the plot, while also talking about the fact that Robin and Vickie being relatively ignored both by homophobes AND the fandom is bc sapphic ships tend to get sidelined to mlm ships.

Sincerely,

Your local lesbian byler shipper

[radkindoffeminist]

Hey, I was just wondering what your position on the LGBTQ+ community is. I will do my best to keep an open mind and accepting. I'm honestly just curious.

The biggest problem, I think, is saying that we are all part of one big community when our goals are so vastly different. I understand why we are one due to history but that was different times with different goals. I support the LGB Alliance and separating sexuality from gender so that we can all focus on our own issues. I’ll talk more about that in a bit. But, more or less, I think the community should be split into three: LGB, Asexuals, and Trans/NB/gender stuff.

LGB people have been fighting for their rights for decades. They are just trying to normalise the idea of being with someone of the same sex as well as educating people on safe gay sex, getting legal protections against discrimination, same-sex marriage, etc. Their goals are simple but they are constantly talked over by the gender crowd and many of them are actively homophobic, calling gay men and lesbians who don’t want to date trans people transphobic, genital fetishists, and straight up disgusting (receipts on @tra-receipts). The amount of conversion therapy rhetoric I’ve seen twisted into being something progressive is honestly disgusting. And yet LGB people are expected to not only put up with that, but also believe that these people are our allies and we are stronger together and that it’s the cishets trying to tear us apart rather than the rampant homophobia within the TQ+ community which goes unchecked and when mentioned people describe it as a ‘small minority’ as a way to diminish it (because it’s not just a handful of people -there’s a lot of them) as if that makes any level of homophobia in the community acceptable. The LGB Alliance was set up so we have the space to fight for our own rights and we deserve to have that. If trans people can have trans specific charities and organisations, why is it wrong for us to have ours? Why are LGB people the only ones expected to compromise in order to keep the community together?

Next up is asexuals. A very small part of the community but I felt the need to mention them specifically because it doesn’t quite fit in anywhere else. I think that there are many people out there who are asexual (which to me means no sexual attraction and hence no interest in sex with anyone. I understand that there are people who are like ‘I am asexual but I love sex. I’m just not sexually attracted to my partner’ which is just… weird. If you want to have sex with someone, you experience sexual attraction to them?) and there are many radfems who think that this can only be the result of trauma, medical conditions, or medication side effects but I just disagree. I know a couple of asexual people and don’t have any interest in sex and there’s nothing wrong with that -that’s just how they are. Now here’s the thing: asexuals shouldn’t be part of the LGB because, despite being about sexuality, the goals of accepting people who aren’t interested in sex and those who are attracted to the same sex are different. Do they cross over somewhat? Probably, like many issues do but I’m not very educated on what specific asexual issues are other than lacking education making people not know that they can simply not have an interest in sex. Do asexuals deserve spaces to talk about their issues and being accepted and coming to terms with their sexuality? Absolutely! But I just don’t think that the right spaces for this is in LGB spaces because they’re such different things.

And then lastly we have trans and NB or TQ+. I have too many opinions on this topic and could go on for hours so I will give you a rundown of it and you are free to ask any follow up questions: the TQ+ is a homophobic and misogynistic movement which is reliant on progressive sounding language, slogans stolen from other movements, and reasonings/logic used by other movements (think trans women have been denied their womanhood like black women have; being gay was once seen as weird/immoral/wrong like being trans is; etc) in order to support themselves. They have accepted and continued to spread homophobia and conversion therapy rhetoric under the guise of standing against transphobia and daring to call them out on it gets you labelled a transphobe or told that only ‘a few’ people say this so we shouldn’t take this as representative of the entire community (despite almost never being called out on it and the rhetoric being widely repeated). There are so many people, especially trans women, who reduce womanhood down to a set of misogynistic stereotypes and ignore so much of the oppression surrounding women, especially as much relates directly back to being of a certain sex and reminding people that sex-based oppression exists is actually transphobic because everything is gender based. Don’t even get me started on the trans women who thing their digestive issues and cramps from HRT is actually a pseudo-period. Despite constantly denying it, so much of what gender is is seeped in stereotypes and no one can ever coherently define what it means to be a man, woman, NB, whatever other than using circular reasoning, stereotypes, debunked brain sex, or calling it a ‘feeling’. So many lies are spread around about trans people and the community and they are so harmful for so many people but no one seems to care: the average lifespan isn’t 30, the murder rate is lower than the general population, HRT but puberty blockers especially come with side effects and aren’t simply perfectly safe, there is no treatment which is 100% effective and HRT is no different in that regard and so many other things. Then there’s the cult like behaviours they exhibit which includes attacking detransitioners for making them look bad and for ‘faking’ what was wrong with them rather than daring to consider the idea that HRT is not 100% effective at treating dysphoria or even why someone might have considered lying to doctors for years in order to access HRT and why their lies were able to get them so far. And this is all before talking about the fundamental issue of trans activism: no amount of body issues (because what is dysphoria other than a severe body issue?) or hormones or simply believing that you are is ever going to make you into the opposite gender/sex or allow you to really experience what they have to. No amount of changing everything about your body is going to remove the male privileges or female socialisation that you grew up with, even if people treat you differently now.

[thecleverqueer]

Hey fellow gays and allies…. Listen up…

I’ve noticed a trend where queer representative media is being significantly downvoted on Google, Rotten Tomatoes, and the IMDB. A huge swath of the criticism is coming from homophobes whining about “the gay agenda” and “wokeness” or “politics”.

My fear is that this downvoting will ultimately result in less queer representation, when in all honesty, we need more. The big media conglomerates will use this as excuse to say, “well, we tried. Looks like heteronormativity is the only solution”… and that’s bullshit.

I’ve been emotionally overwhelmed by the influx of queer representation on the screen as of late… mainly because as a young queer woman, that representation would have been everything to me growing up. I grew up in a conservative part of the country. And, while I was in a city, I didn’t get to see or interact with openly gay people at all. I didn’t even realize that I was queer until I was 19, and I feel like I was kind of late to the party by that point. Once worse, however, I didn’t come to terms with my sexuality until my late-20s, and that was developmentally catastrophic. This wouldn’t have happened if I’d seen LGBTQ people in normal, loving stories. It wouldn’t have happened if I’d been exposed to queer identities earlier in my life.

I’d like to mention that not being exposed to LGBTQ people while being raised in a Christian conservative community didn’t stop me from being gay. It only served to make me hate myself to the core. It only caused me immeasurable amounts of grief and pain. It stifled my growth and development. It made me miserable, but it didn’t “fix” my biological attraction to other women. Queerness isn’t a communicable disease, or something people just decide to be on a whim. If it was, I’d be oblivious and straight right now. No amount of heteronormative media changed that. No level of ostracism, intolerance, or hate changed it. It’s still here. It isn’t going anywhere.

So, let’s give them a run for their money. Let’s upvote LGBTQ representation in media on these sites. I HAVE to believe that there are more of us than there are them. Those of us that support the LGBTQ community as a whole, accept us for who we are, and want our existence to be normalized. If we out-voice them, the corporate conglomerates will give us time on screen, and while it sucks to have to play into their little games, I don’t know one queer person that wouldn’t have benefited at least a little seeing someone like them on a visual platform.

Now… let’s go stomp some homophobes!

[blueberry-boy124]

Just some trans related reminders

• You never know a trans persons sexuality so don’t assume who they’re attracted to, there’s a lot of people that asume, for example (something that’s happened to me as a trans masc) that I am attracted to woman because I’m a ‘confused lesbian who thinks she’s a man’, or people asume I’m attracted to men because “I’m technically a girl”, just stop making assumptions about people

• on that topic, if you asume that a trans guy is a bottom in a mlm relationship just because they’re trans (“but you don’t have a ___ you have a ___ so how would you top-“ stfu) or cause they ‘seem/look more feminine’. don’t talk to me, stop doing that, cause wether they bottom or not is non or your fucking business (like who cares just let people do their thing), even if you were “just joking”

There are trans who joke or talk about being a bottom with each other and that’s okay as long as they first ask the other trans person if they’re comfortable with that sort of thing (if they say they’re not, respect their boundaries). But if you’re cis, just don’t. Don’t talk about that, like if some trans mascs are joking around about it and you (a cis person) start joining in- you’re ruining the moment, it makes a lot of us uncomfortable. (It’s like when queer people joke around and refer to themselves with the f slur, they can do it with each other (if you’re straight, obv don’t say things like this-it does fall into the slur category for a reason) the respect that, same thing applies to the t word. If you’re trans and can say it, you can refer yourself as that, but don’t use it to refer to another trans person, if you don’t know if they’ll be comfortable with it, so just like quickly ask.

• Also, remember to call people out when they say these things and tell them that they shouldn’t be saying these things. Even if you’re part of the lgbtq community, being part of it doesn’t give you a pass to do/say transphobic things, just because someone says they’re part of the community or that they’re an ally doesn’t automatically mean they’re not transphobic.

•Also stop the whole ‘lesbians don’t like dick’ ‘gay men are only into __ not, idk, breasts’. ‘Straight woman aren’t into __’ Someone’s sexuality isn’t being attracted to certain parts, it’s toward a certain gender/person, for example, if a cis woman is into a trans masc even if he’s pre op, she’s still straight. Saying she’s not and that she’s, for example, a lesbian, because of they guys parts, is transphobic.

• The two things I mentioned at first are commonly used by transphobes, but also people who say they’re supportive, so I’m here to tell y’all that if you consider yourself and ally and you do this, and ever after reading it you think “well I don’t see how doing this is wrong, I’ll keep doing it” and you keep making assumptions and jokes you shouldn’t be saying because you are cis even though trans people say they’re uncomfortable (especially about the second one), stop calling yourself and ally and reconsider where you actually stand on this.

[laynemorgan]

I think it’s awesome that you’re speaking out on killing eve, but where was this energy for the show you were actually a part of? it seemed like you were pretty indifferent then so it just feels a little off that you’re referencing it now in regards to a different show, I guess. in all fairness though it was years ago and I am glad you’re saying something now. what was it that changed your mindset? to your credit, I do also remember you directing people to another person who worked on the show who was incredibly kind, understanding, and willing to listen, and at a point when the people involved in the show who had straight up went on lesbian forums to gaslight their own viewers, showed no remorse and took no responsibility, he honestly did give me hope for future shows against all odds. I can’t remember his name, but he was amazing and genuinely helped a lot of people that were struggling. idk if you still talk to him or even remember what I’m talking about, but if so, tell him he’s a saint

Assuming this is about Lexa's death, nothing changed my mindset. I was as vocal as I could be back when Lexa died. Now, I'm as vocal as I feel comfortable being given how much time has passed and where my career is. I know that sounds frank and a little self preservation-y but It's always far more difficult to talk about shows you work on than other ones. Hollywood is a pretty tough industry especially for loud, vocal people making a stir, unfortunately. And despite it's progress in many ways it definitely is still the kind of club that doesn't love a splash. And many of the people high up in power are still stuck in very old school ways of what's acceptable and what isn't. It is incredibly difficult to move forward in your career and also not compromise your values. In some instances, I do what I can to support my community from where I am. At the end of the day, I have to keep doing my work where it's most important which is inside the rooms and in trying to move up the ladder to a place where I can make real change. If I had made a bunch of enemies in my first year in the industry, I never would be where I am now and so on. It's also considered frowned upon for assistants, staff members, etc to speak on behalf of the show or about the show or whatever in ways that can traced back to the show in an unofficial capacity. So that is why it was my instinct at the time to direct people to a higher up who had offered to speak on the matter. That's just the very complicated reality, unfortunately. And trust me, it's not the most fun position to be in especially when you want to be able to do more. But whether it's in the rooms, behind the scenes, on twitter, here on tumblr, or whatever, my eyes are always on trying to make TV better for the LGBTQ community in whatever way I can. I wish it didn't have to be so confusing. I wish there was a clearer way for us to be able to be clear about how we feel so that you can all hear support and voices reflected back at you that you deserve. But that's a place we aren't at yet, in my experience.

Also the name of the writer you're looking for is Javi Grillo Marxuach. He and I have been very very close friends since. He has always been my greatest ally and advocate in this industry and continues to be for you guys as well. I'm glad he was able to give you hope in that moment.

[rawralittlerawr]

An Announcement

About Whispers: The United States of Christ

After much consideration and careful deliberation - and in light of the ongoing malicious attacks on POC, Jewish people, the LGBTQ+ community, transgender people, drag performers/venues, and others, as well as the heightened white supremacist activity and terrorism in the US (and technically across the world) and an uptick in their disgusting propaganda, etc. - I have made a very painful decision to put a hold on the timely release of new episodes for my Kindle Vella Story, "Whispers: The United States of Christ."

I'm not going to unpublish it or even mark the story complete, because it is nowhere close to being finished or over. And I am not giving up on it entirely. I will continue to write new episodes and will occasionally publish those new ones. I just won't be following a schedule or doing weekly releases at this time.

First - let me say this and get it out of the way - THIS IS NOT THEM WINNING! I am NOT doing this because I'm scared of them (although they can be scary and are always dangerous), or backing down, or taking a seat. I will continue to stand up for what is right and will continue to speak out even when it's not easy or comfortable.

I am, in fact, doing this for these two reasons:

1. I've come to realize that sadly, the audience who I felt needed to read it (a cautionary story such as this one) THE MOST is likely not ever going to. (even if ALL the episodes were free) Those who have been on the fence, and unwilling to make a stand - those who have been silent and continue to remain silent even when their friends and loved ones or others in their communities are being attacked for simply being themselves or simply existing - are the audience I hoped to reach the most when I started writing this story. But as things progressively worsen in America (and across the world), they are STILL silent and unwilling, and clearly, they consider this story to be "too uncomfortable" for them. And I won't even go there with the "you know if something like this were to actually happen, it wouldn't just be "the gays" who would be targeted," comments by straight white people who didn't even take the time to read any of the free episodes, which would have answered their own darn question, before attacking me.😑🥴

2. The other reason is that in light of recent events - like the recent targeted killings of gay people and allies at a gay club in Colorado and the continuous and ongoing attacks on drag story time or drag shows (two totally different things btw, grr) in addition to the attacks on transgender people across the country, and the vile and dangerous racist and antisemitic rhetoric being spewed and the violence being pushed, "suggested" and encouraged by certain politicians and/or those in positions of influence or power - (in light of these things) those who ARE willing and want to read this cautionary story, can hardly stomach it right now with everything going on. I myself had to take a break in writing the next episode after what happened in Colorado. Episode 8 went live the night before I woke up to the news. And I still haven't been able to finish writing and editing episode 9 even though it's the episode introducing the "good guys."

When I had the idea for the story and began this journey, I did so as much for myself, as anyone else. I felt it was a better and healthier way to deal with and cope with the rage I felt (and still feel) in response to the injustices happening every day, rather than just rage posting on social media to vent.

As an individual, a woman, a gay woman, a white woman married to a black woman, a mother, and as a member of a two-mom family, it is easy to feel powerless against all the hate. Easy to feel like my one voice could never make a difference. And so this was just one way for me to feel a little more seen and heard. One way to make a difference. And hopefully, reach just one person who really needed to read this story as much as I needed to write it, and perhaps even help someone else find their voice.

And maybe one day that will happen.

Like I said - I'm not going to unpublish or even mark the story as complete. Because it is nowhere close to being finished or over. And I'm not giving up on it entirely. I will continue to write new episodes (it really has been a great way to cope) and will occasionally publish those new ones. But only occasionally, unless Whispers somehow gains a readership, at which time I will reconsider and take another look at my original plan/goal of dropping an episode or two a week.

Despite the fact that it's sometimes painful and challenging to write, I have really enjoyed peeling back the layers of the characters in this story and the troubling and dangerous world they are navigating. And in light of this decision, I have also decided to announce the main character's name even though the episode announcing it, episode 9, hasn't yet been finished.

My plan was to finally reveal the main character's name (the author of the journal entries) at the end of the coming episode. But what the heck! Readers already know that Amora Begay is a strong, fiercely protective, quiet, wise, skilled, unique woman and they know her wife, Mrs. Lexi Begay, the author of the journal entries, to be every bit as strong, courageous, and fierce as Amora. And now they'll have a name for this courageous woman, the author of the journal, which will play a much bigger role later on when the rest of the story unfolds.

If you're still reading, (I know this is a long one) I just want to say thank you to those who have been encouraging and supportive from day one, and again give a big shout-out to my biggest fans, for always believing in me and in this story. And to my wife, Christina Washington @darkaries for inspiring me, and helping me shape and name the characters (especially Amora)

It has been an honor and a pleasure to write Whispers.

So this is not a farewell. I guess it's more like a "to be continued at a later date" kind of announcement.

And as always, *these opinions/thoughts are strictly my own and do not express the views/opinions of the platform I publish my story on*

For anyone who may have been following the haunting story of Lexi and Amora Begay, and would like to connect or chat - Please feel free to contact me at ambroseawakened@gmail.com, until I get media accounts and author pages set up for my pen, Octavia Ambrose. (which is on my to-do list)