#arohetero

[chadchadsonthesnail]

Hey! If you are queer and you don't think bi people, pan people, asexual people, or aromantic people are valid? Go fuck yourself! If you don't think Heterosexual Aromantic people and Heteroromantic Asexual people are members of the LGBTQIA+ community? Go fuck yourself! If you say "I wouldn't date a bisexual/biromantic person because they are attracted to/have dated [the opposite gender]."? Go fuck yourself! If I see any lesbian say that shit, I block them! Because guess what? There are also lesbians who have dated guys! I'm one of them! I did that before I realized I wasn't attracted to them! So go fuck yourself! If you say that trans people/people under the trans umbrella aren't valid? Go fuck yourself! If you think that alloromantic asexuals are not valid? Go fuck yourself! If you think that allosexual aromantic people aren't valid? Go fuck yourself! If you think someone isn't a valid lesbian because they think some men look pretty/are aesthetically attractive? Go fuck yourself! Same for the other way around with gay men finding a women pretty/aesthetically attractive! And anyone who says "oh you aren't bi/pan because you are in a relationship with a man/women, or because when asked you listed more men/women that you were attracted to than the other gender, so you are just gay/straight!" No! Go fuck yourself! If you say that being nonbinary, or having any gender identity other than trans man or trans woman doesn't make you a part of the community, and that the only valid gender identities outside of cis woman and cis man are trans woman or trans man? Go fuck yourself!

We are ALL facing hate, and we do not deserve to get hate from within! Because we are all valid!

If you hate on people like this, you are just as bad as homophobes and transphobes, because JUST LIKE THEM, you are hating on someone for their attraction, or for their gender identity!

It's fine if your attraction is mainly towards cisgender women or men because both the gender identity AND the physical body parts are part of your attraction. You didn't make that choice, you aren't excluding them out of hate. But if it's towards cisgender people solely to exclude trans people? Yeah, go fuck yourself. Because you don't control what factors into your attraction, so having something like that be part of your attraction is fine. If your attraction is towards both people who identify as female AND people who have a vulva, or vice versa, yeah, you do you, you didn't choose for the presence or lack of a primary or secondary sex characteristic, that's just a part of your attraction. But the MOMENT the intent is to exclude trans people, you are just being an asshole.

So yeah, if you think that any of the identities I mentioned aren't valid? Let me know so I can block you!

Everyone else, if you are part of any of these identities, as someone who falls under a few of these categories, (Asexual, Asexual Alloromantic, Falling under the nonbinary umbrella) I will always accept you. As long as you yourself are not being exclusionary. You are JUST as valid as anyone else!

Signed, an Asexual Lesbian Demigirl

[thereallyreallylatebird]

Forget about the stereotypes, the most annoying thing about being aroallo (specifically arobi) is having two super aesthetic pride flags who's color schemes don't go together.

Why am I here, just to suffer (and commit crimes against color theory)?

[realqueerpositivity]

The fuck do you think the A stands for?? This world is so normative of sex and romance that these people even get bashed in their own community. LGBTQ isn't just boykisser girlkisser!! Hope this helps 👍

Anyways I love you aroheteros. I love you aceheteros. I love you aroaceheteros. These people are assholes and I've officially decided that 2024 aphobia is cancelled

[wherefore-whinnies]

1, 19 for the arospec asks? (Only if you want to answer of course!)

1. when did you realize you were arospec?

depends what is meant! I was very insistent that I was not interested in romantic relationships ever since I was a tiny kid (literally as long as I can remember). there was a period in my life where I did attempt relationships and thought I was straight, but there was always weirdness about it so I still just consider myself as knowing I was aro since I was a kid despite that. I didn't actually identify as aromantic until like a couple years ago, though. before that I did feel some connection with the concept but was like surely that could not be me due to the aforementioned thinking I was straight. after my third mistake of a relationship I was like okay actually this is all bullshit actually. and at some point I started browsing /r/aromantic as a source of fine memes. and somewhere in there I started calling myself aro but I really don't remember a particular moment or anything.

19. if you are allosexual, what is your sexual orientation?

I call myself ace but as I think I've said a few times before it is very much for what exclusionists would call the "wrong reasons" and I always feel like if a few things were just a little different I'd be arohetero or however you would abbreviate it. something else that is sure to piss off the exclusionists 😎 (I'm perfectly fine elaborating on the specifics in private if any of my mutuals ever want to know about it, the only reason I don't directly answer it on my blog is because it feels like breaking a social norm about personal information lmao.)

(arospec ask game)

[eclecticelectriceccentric]

I had to combine arohomo + homoace + homorose, arohetero + heteroace + heterorose, aromulti + multiace + multirose because spacing; there are only allowed to be ten options and if I had the full options there'd be sixteen and I wanted the SAM non-aro/ace options to be included

[denkilightning]

i love how dsmp CCs saw cishetero- and amatonormativity and went "no 💚"

[shinyasahalo]

Arophobia (12/12/20)

Trigger warning for arophobia:

I had to unfollow someone on Twitter because they were saying arophobic things, specifically using the “aromantic men who sleep with women they don’t fall in love with get to call themselves queer” line.   It’s especially telling that they talk about aromanticism and then show the asexuality colors.  

This is especially hurtful to me because it’s implying both that aroallos, specifically aroheteros, only want sex and romantic love is the only type of love there is, and because it’s using the gender stereotype about men, it erases the existence of someone like me who is both aroallo and a woman.  

Heteronormativity isn’t just about treating heterosexuality as a default, it’s also about treating heteroromanticism as a default.  If you’re outside of that, you feel queer.  

[angeldna4]

Asi que... creo que tengo que explicar de que va mi cuenta, no? Básicamente soy un raro arohetero que aveces dibuja

Debido a la situación con respecto a Twitter decidí moverme a nuevos horizontes

Seguiré activo allí, eso es seguro, pero intentaré mantenerme aquí más seguro

Aunque aveces dibuje, recientemente me encuentro en un bloqueo muy fuerte, y llevo un año sin dibujar casi, así que si ven un dibujo por aquí, no va a ser precisamente detallado no bonito, aunque estoy intentando volver a ello

[chadchadsonthesnail]

Wow! I've already had my first aphobic reblog, and it has hints of either biphobia, panphobia, and/or transphobia!

(Checked the person's account and they are a fucking terf. :()

If any of these topics make you uncomfortable and you do not wish to read them, do not click 'read more'!

Also, if you want the name of whoever said this so you can BLOCK them, send me a message!

So here is the response

We're starting off with some aphobia that includes a blatant misunderstanding of what being aromantic and/or asexual are.

They seem to think asexuality is "not wanting to fuck", and Aromanticism is "not wanting an emotional relationship to whoever you are fucking" (in the case of being alloaro).

Neither of these are correct. Firstly, there are asexual people who want to have sex. It's just that in the same way a lesbian doesn't feel sexual attraction to men, asexuals don't feel sexual attraction to anyone.

Secondly, the belief that being aromantic is equivalent to just not wanting an emotional bond. Which is just bullshit. It is just not feeling romantic attraction to anyone, in the same way a gay man doesn't feel romantic attraction towards women.

To me, the fact that they still used "lgbt+" is hilarious. Because we all know. That plus? That includes aromantic and asexual.

So regardless of if they are also straight, they are queer. Because they differ from the societal norm of being cisgender, perisex, heterosexual, AND heteroromantic.

And I'm not even going to touch on the potential biphobia, panphobia, and/or transphobia present in the rest of this.

(And I want to add the hints of the biphobia/panphobia/transphobia were present in this person's tags)

Hey! If you are queer and you don't think bi people, pan people, asexual people, or aromantic people are valid? Go fuck yourself! If you don't think Heterosexual Aromantic people and Heteroromantic Asexual people are members of the LGBTQIA+ community? Go fuck yourself! If you say "I wouldn't date a bisexual/biromantic person because they are attracted to/have dated [the opposite gender]."? Go fuck yourself! If I see any lesbian say that shit, I block them! Because guess what? There are also lesbians who have dated guys! I'm one of them! I did that before I realized I wasn't attracted to them! So go fuck yourself! If you say that trans people/people under the trans umbrella aren't valid? Go fuck yourself! If you think that alloromantic asexuals are not valid? Go fuck yourself! If you think that allosexual aromantic people aren't valid? Go fuck yourself! If you think someone isn't a valid lesbian because they think some men look pretty/are aesthetically attractive? Go fuck yourself! Same for the other way around with gay men finding a women pretty/aesthetically attractive! And anyone who says "oh you aren't bi/pan because you are in a relationship with a man/women, or because when asked you listed more men/women that you were attracted to than the other gender, so you are just gay/straight!" No! Go fuck yourself! If you say that being nonbinary, or having any gender identity other than trans man or trans woman doesn't make you a part of the community, and that the only valid gender identities outside of cis woman and cis man are trans woman or trans man? Go fuck yourself!

We are ALL facing hate, and we do not deserve to get hate from within! Because we are all valid!

If you hate on people like this, you are just as bad as homophobes and transphobes, because JUST LIKE THEM, you are hating on someone for their attraction, or for their gender identity!

It's fine if your attraction is mainly towards cisgender women or men because both the gender identity AND the physical body parts are part of your attraction. You didn't make that choice, you aren't excluding them out of hate. But if it's towards cisgender people solely to exclude trans people? Yeah, go fuck yourself. Because you don't control what factors into your attraction, so having something like that be part of your attraction is fine. If your attraction is towards both people who identify as female AND people who have a vulva, or vice versa, yeah, you do you, you didn't choose for the presence or lack of a primary or secondary sex characteristic, that's just a part of your attraction. But the MOMENT the intent is to exclude trans people, you are just being an asshole.

So yeah, if you think that any of the identities I mentioned aren't valid? Let me know so I can block you!

Everyone else, if you are part of any of these identities, as someone who falls under a few of these categories, (Asexual, Asexual Alloromantic, Falling under the nonbinary umbrella) I will always accept you. As long as you yourself are not being exclusionary. You are JUST as valid as anyone else!

Signed, an Asexual Lesbian Demigirl