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therapist told me today that maybe i shouldn’t go cold turkey on writing since it’s been such a key point in healing and coping in the past, so. im back and here.
#no promises i’ll post anything the rest of october it’s just been a rough month#i might still post the fics i wanted to for kinktober and we’ll just pretend november is kinktober#yall down for that? okay cool#also will probably write some comfort fics#maybe some silly ones?#are yall okay with me projecting hardcore again?#i still wanna write eddie teaching best friend reader how to kiss with a new lip piercing#also what about eddie getting a snake with you???#also been itching to write some astarion again#i have a few requests so ima knock those out before i try my hand at the moon will sing again#anyways#we’re so back with the ramble tags#i still feel a bit weird and disconnected but we’ll get there. slowly but surely
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Reminisce
Zedaph had convinced Tango and Impulse to join him for a new Zedvancement, one that he happily titled, “reminiscent of the past”, an idea that he had gotten from an old friend of his, someone that he had finally gotten in contact with again during the crossover.
A part of the reason Zed created the Zedvancement was to help motivate himself to finally finish “The Hall of All” before another update affected the server and his completion anxiety got worse.
Zedaph thought that convincing Impulse and Tango to help would go along with the idea of the achievement, bringing back some friends from the past (and maybe get them to stop focusing too hard on their projects and forgetting to take care of themselves.)
The challenge they were facing was relatively simple, all they had to do was collect every single drop that came from suspicious blocks! Including the Armor trims-
He had yet to tell Tango and Impulse this.
Well, that wasn’t entirely true! The two of them knew that they were going hunting for ruins, they just didn’t know why, or what Zed was looking for.
Zedaph had been pondering for a little too long, it seemed, because when his eyes focused again and he had no thoughts to think, a pair of vibrant red and orange eyes were staring into his.
He bleated in surprise, jolting back, and scaring Tango, causing his hair to light on fire with the abruptness of it all.
On his left, Impulse burst out laughing, confused yet entertained by their antics.
“Are you okay Zedaph? We’ve been standing here for a bit and you didn’t notice.”
Zed blinked, and that was when he realized he had gotten lost in his head. “Oh, sorry Tango! I got a little lost in my head there.” He giggled, and Tango started laughing as well.
“You're fine Zeddy, I just didn’t expect that.” Impulse pulled out a water bucket and dumped it over Tango, who ended up yowling, and the three of them broke down laughing again.
It took another five minutes for them all to calm down, and breathe. And another one for Tango and Impulse to remember that they had been called there.
“Oh, yeah! Zed, why did you call us here?”
Zed’s eyes darted away from theirs, and his stance became shy. They both knew in an instant that Zed had an A) complicated idea, or B) an extremely silly and hard idea.
“So… you two agreed beforehand, you cannot back out now-” Tango looked concerned and scared. “You two know that we are hunting for ruins, well, i was trying to get myself to focus on The Hall of All, and i was missing a bit after the update, sooo… yall are helping me with gathering all the items from suspicious blocks that can be existified!”
“Wait, we are what?!”
“What?!”
Well they were taking that well.
— — — — — — — — — — —
They hadn’t found one full pottery set after 5 ruins.
Including the suspicious blocks that weren’t in ruins, they had gathered at least one of every candle, a few emeralds, some different colored glass panes, and a friend pottery shard alongside a Burn pottery shard and a Relic music disk.
They were working on the 6th ruin, and although they had been joking most of the time, it was still relatively quiet.
It was Tango that changed that.
“Hey, do you two remember when Skizz got himself stuck in a redstone contraption he was making for us?”
Impulse snorted at the memory, turning his head towards Tango as he brushed the gravel.
“Of course I do. He messed up all the redstone in it.”
“Hey, Skizzle tried his best. Even if it was kinda failing-”
The three of them laughed, and quieted down again, but soon after impulse grinned. “Hey Zed, remember when you took some drowning damage at the beginning of hardcore hermits?”
Zedaph spun to Impulse, a look of betrayal painted across his face and Tango wheezed for breath.
“You- you traitoror! You- Heathen!” Zedaph stuttered, clearly at a loss for words, before he spun to Tango, and pointed at him.
“You have no right to laugh, Mister! I’m not the one who fell into his own mob farm!”
Tango let out a garbled wail, awfully reminiscent of a sound Impulse felt as though he had heard before. Maybe on a different server.
“Yeah, well I didn’t break a whole redstone contraption by forgetting to place one dust, huh Impulse?”
“Oh, you be quiet-”
They kept laughing, pointing out different embarrassing moments the three of them (and occasionally Skizz) had made throughout the years.
— — — — — — — — — — —
When the three of them returned back to the hole in the mountain, they were still quite a ways away from completing a Zedvancement.
Tango and Impulse had had enough fun that they agreed to join Zedaph again, sometime in the next week.
For Tango, it was because he hadn’t realized he needed an escape from decked out until he had it.
For Impulse, it was because he hadn’t taken time to just laugh with friends in a long while.
And For Zedaph, it was because of his Zedvancement, and being able to have team ZIT together again.
Zedaph found himself thinking, a few hours after they had left, that the title of the trophy had maybe had more of an impact then he had thought. Because although they had raided some ruins, found artifacts from whatever was here before, they had been reminiscing on their own pasts as they did it.
Maybe Zed should start dragging more of his friends into these.
And maybe he could use the ruins as an excuse to get a good photo of Tango and Impulse together.
He giggled at the idea, before grabbing a piece of paper, and started planning.
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A thought:
Martin doesn’t show his emotions very easily, but the ONLY movie that can make him cry every time is Lord of the Rings: Return of the King. I think yall can guess the reasoning 👀
#LOTR marathon at the JMart house#and by the end Jon and Martin are INCONSOLABLE#everyone else is like 😬 yall good...? should we leave#Martin hates the end tho#....okay that’s just me projecting tho#Sam belongs with Frodo the comphet ruins the mood every time#dont @ me I’m a hardcore SamFrodo shipper for all eternity#lyla’s talking again#martin headcanons#headcanons
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A Song You Listen To Together
Hihi!! So sorry for not posting much!! My brains dry and I've got no requests <\3 so! Heres a little short thing!! Mostly using songs I'm personally familiar with!! Whether you wanna view this as "oh this is the couples™️ theme" or the character's favorite song is up to you!! Im mostly going off songs that remind me of them and/or I feel they'd enjoy!!
Though I'm not against making entire playlists 👁
Winkwink nudge nudge
Slenderman;
youtube
Actually most Sheldrake songs remind me of him and his vibe!!
But I don't think this exactly would be what he would listen to, if he enjoys music (I personally hc he does because of an old fic i read years back and <3 maybe I'll go more into that one day!!)
The moss (also by cosmo sheldrake) gives me the vibe for him too!!
Laughing Jack;
youtube
Okay okay okay so hear me out
Its more so the tone of the song and the way its played and sung that reminds me of Jack, and less about the lyrics themselves
So songs that have this sort of sound I feel like Jack would enjoy!!
I feel like he'd also enjoy Icicles by the scary jokes!! Also for the vibe and sound the song gives off!
Eyeless Jack;
youtube
So if yall have been here and seen my EJ hcs, I think you can see why I choose this song
Again like the others, the overall sound and vibe of the song remind me of him, but I feel like the lyrics would be relatable to him
I feel like he'd also like Mother Mother!! In general really, but if I to pick a song I think his go to would be No Culture and Back In School!!
He also likes The Neighborhood!! Wires and Sweater Weather are his two favorite!
Tim;
youtube
He's a huge Hoosiers fan idk I just see it
Tbh I think that's just me loving the Hoosiers
Hardcore relatea to this specific song; actually I've had an itch to make an animatic of him to this song but never got to it
Up to no Good and Goodbye Mr A are two more he likes
I feel like he'd also like Radiohead and Coldplay idk why
Probably more self projecting on my part
Brian;
youtube
Enjoys the Orion Experience me thinks
Another Mother Mother fan, for MM he will absolutely jam to Dance and Cry, Bit by Bit, and Arms Tonite
I would trust him with the Aux cord tbh
Also listens to Necromancin Dancin by Bear Ghost
Hes bustin out the tunes
#creepypasta#creepypasta x reader#creepypasta x you#creepypasta headcanon#creepypasta imagines#crp#eyeless jack#laughing jack#slenderman#masky#hoodie#marble hornets hoodie#marble hornets brian#marble hornets masky#marble hornets tim#mh#Youtube
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adventure time wizard city liveblog
well here we go
my last adventure time liveblog, i havent actually done one of these in MANY years... probably not since 2014
this takes place at the same time as obsidian?
DID-- DID CHOOSE GOOSE JUST DIE
DID BUFO JUST KILL CHOOSE GOOSE
yeah i know that’s bufo, they only made it enormously obvious, tsk tsk
@spaceacepearl joked about us seeing choose goose get sent to hell but i diDNT EXPECT IT TO HAPPEN
This music is i assume by one of the many musical artists Adam Muto listed on twitter, it rocks. It’s not as hardcore as Obsidian’s intro, but it’s suitably chill for the scene.
“get offa my bus kid”
Those wizards in the left and far right groups appear to be new!
OH MY GOD--
HELP?????? NEW PROFILE PIC TIME
HAHAHAHAH
THE MUSICAL CON DID ME GOOD, I DID REALLY LOUD AUDIBLE LAUGHTER
i bet hanna and co had fun making these signs
my favourite is the cat with “FAMILIARS HAVE RIGHTS”
cadorka..... wow
We’re not even four minutes into the ep and peppermint butler has already killed someone in front of a large group of witnesses
“this smells of DARK MAGIC” “yall kids know thats illegal right” peps watches the other kids nod before later joining in, LOL
i cant believe pep started the great gum wars and got killed by golb
SOMEONE has been playing Overwatch...
i-- i still cant believe choose goose is fucking dead
how long was he stuck in hell for, or was that recent to together again after new death showed up
i have to admit im not a big fan of spader, too perfect, and not in that funny way either. i hope they give him some characteristics that make him stand out.
im getting flashbacks to OK KO and Owl House here...
Cadebra using music is a reference to Abracadaniel’s love of interpretetive dance in Play Date.
“they only laugh because youre different” “i know” “SO STOP BEING DIFFERENT” oh my god it’s like talking to my own parents cadebra is actually... a LOT like me, less in her hyperactivity but more in her nonchalant enthusiasm and almost acceptance of the inevitable bullying because it means more time in people’s consciousness
ahhh - it’s quietly revealed here that she is responsible and a skilled magician, she is just bored of magic! i like that she parents abracadaniel instead of being downtrodden by his ramblings.
PEP NO--- oh i see the problem, he hasn’t got his Bug Milk... sorry Martin Olsen fans, no Hunson today. At least we get one more Phil Face for the road!
candy people in their natural habitat
Ahhh that’s Doctor Calidoneus! The voice actor was at the recent Distant Lands panel alongside Pep and Blaine’s actors.
“pretty sure hes just trashcandy” - i like you, sassy antler lady
the mystery of how he gets clothes
and once again spader is proving to be the most irritating distant lands character of the lot, there is no subversion here. where is the subversion?
NANI
what is going on here? are pep and peppermint the same person or not? im sure they must be, but there is something going on here with peppermint butler’s soul being trapped in the body of his child self who hasn’t got the same memories.
OH, HYNDEN WALCH DID A NEW LINE yes this is what im here for, special over
peppermint butler cursed himself... of course he did - Shado was correct!!!
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA WHAT THE FUCK
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA WHAT THE FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK
ROCK STUDENT, BLESSED ROCK STUDENT, WAS THAT POOR GUY WHO LOOKS LIKE A JAWBREAKER
love the reference to astral plane, of course pep cant astrally project because cursed pep is still inside of him
wow, blaine, wow
they have a crush
LITTLE DUDE! COLE SANCHEZ!
i love the dynamic between cadebra and abracadaniel, imo so far it’s the heart of the special. im not really gripped by peppermint butler’s school troubles. i imagine someone else probably will be but i want to run past that shit as far as possible.
TRDGFYGHJH
WE
WE MADE A PREDICTION THAT WAS JUST LIKE THIS
PEPPERMINT BUTLER GETTING TURNED INTO THE FOUR COMPONENTS OF PEPPER MINT BUTT LURE WAS IN THE WIZARD CITY PREDICTIONS ART DRAW THAT HASNT BEEN POSTED YET
ILL SHOW YOU WHEN NICK POSTS THE VIDEO and then ill tell you who made the prediction because i... think it was nick himself, insanity
who plagiarized finn’s signature???
turns out pep really DID take over wizard city!!!!
i love this band
i understand your pain peps
you probably have a bit too much in common with your mother, and i imagine it isn’t easy being turned into a kid and not being able to do stuff that came so easy. you’re disappointing yourself! (he’s literally disappointing himself)
I’m less than halfway through the special, what the fuck. I wasn’t wrong when I said Wizard City had a lot on its plate. It’s noit that I’ve been particularly gripped up to this point, though to be fair I didn’t pause at all during the other specials barring Obsidian.
that... that poor kid is still a rock
and then the preview happened and bufo casually revealed to the audience that, yes, he killed choose goose
i dont know whats happening with pep but it seems he needs to be exorcised of... pep. which is a shame. i hope they learn to coexist.
i have to say the background work in this special is really good! like, really damn good.
WH
WHAT
DID SPADER JUST DIE
IS THIS WHY PEOPLE THINK PEPBUT KILLED HIM
oh thats right - abracadaniel is cadebra’s uncle! this must be abracadniels sister. sorry, folks, he doesn’t fuck.
Where are they? Is this anywhere near Wizard City? It’s an unpopulated prewar wasteland.
THESE ARE JUST HUMANS
OF COURSE SHE WANTS TO PERFORM TO MILQUETOAST HUMANS
my child
is this an art style choice or did they get the people from that one studio to make this
HANNA FINALLY GETS TO FULFIL HER DREAM OF INSERTING KANEDA INTO ADVENTURE TIME
the red jacket he wears and his head pill shape is a big kaneda reference actually, which i suppose makes sense considering he’s a rival to our protagonist, but it’s a bit on the nose
bufo killed one of his own students? but why????
“MY UNCLE’S A COP”
“no one likes a rat”
i actually really like blaine, though im confused. did their VA change halfway through the special?
HOW NATURAL, NO WASTE, IT IS AN ENDLESS CHAIN
did doctor caledonius steal the trophy,,,?
EVIL SNAIL EVIL SNAIL
MONMSTER HUNJTER DISCOVERY NOISE, this time it’s a tetsucabra
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
I HAVE QUESTIONS
god i wish this is what this special was about, i miss adventure time
these remind me of the comics with their art style :) i wonder who designed them? the one on the right with pb and pep, in particular, very comics-y.
fdgfhgf because he’s like 500
“pep can be kind of a jerk but he wouldn’t kill anyone”
sorry, cadebra, i have news for you
is doctor calednoius the true villain? if bufo’s out of the picture, she MUST be,
ANTS
oh no, he might gbe stuck in wizard city :(
HELP
the writing on the wall...
SPADER LITERALLY FUCKING DIED OH YM JESUS CHRIST
PEPPERMINT BUTLER’S OWN CULT????
THIS IS JUST OK KO NOW
okay im not surprised all the teachers at wizard city are cultists in worship of peps, maybe they killed spader and bufo because they bullied peps T_T
wait no, they thought spader had the potential, but sadly not
HE FUCKING KILLED HIMSELF
sorry, i was distracted by the pretty dope fight sequence and now the special is over????
fucking jesse, hes probably at least partly responsible for the cult nonsense
This credits art is by Maya Petersen!!!! Holy shit it’s adorable!
LRETGFDRGTFGMHGFHFG
LEAF MAN
DO YOU THINK THEY PUT HIM IN RETROSPECTIVELY
DO YOU THINK MAYA PETERSEN DREW THIS AND ADAM PUT IT IN THE EP RETROSPECTIVELY
HE LIVES
MAYBE THIS IS WHY CHOOSE GOOSE WENT TO HELL
okay, it’s over :)
first thoughts out of the way: not a big fan of this special. it’s like watching a completely different show. it’s not got the PZSHAHH of the normal wizard city stuff and there weren’t a lot of funny jokes or even hearty moments in the thing.
it suffers from a lack of invested character interactions, much like BMO did. there was not a single main cast member in the whole thing! and like i said before, much of peppermint butler’s character in the show is based on his very sweet relationship to his mother, princess bubblegum, so when they showed a single (hilarious) photo of them together it made me sad we didn’t get any scenes with them together. it would have STOLEN this episode. and they teased the hunson golf photo, and death!!! and jake appeared in a photo T_T last jake appearance.
it also suffers because Peppermint Butler is clearly not himself, imo he was way more entertaining in the Together Again special, where we seem him back to his “normal” self.
i dont think peps being a dark wizard was something to “kill off” exactly. i wonder what was going on there? was that actually peps, or was that a spirit he cursed himself with based on himself? we at least know in the future he does become a dark wizard again, and even princess :) this special didn’t answer those questions but lol.
THE GOOD STUFF, because yes, there was a lot of good stuff!
God, I’m with Aracle and Maya on this - I LOVE Cadebra and her relationship to Pep. I wish she was even in more of this - I would love to watch the adventures of Cadebra and Pepbut in their first year of school, like in the end credits.
That, imo, is where the heart of the special lay - Peppermint Butler’s attempts to impress himself, versus Cadebra’s self acceptance and desire to follow her dreams of being a goofy goober, no matter what other people thought of her.
It turned out that Cadebra is a responsible student and family member. I really liked that. Her scenes with Abracadaniel were, somehow, my favourite in the entire special!
I like that theres a lot of cool magic towards the end of this special, and a lot of HORRIFYING DEATH. It wouldn’t be adventure time if you didn’t randomly kill off child characters. Poor Spader, I hated you but damn, what a grim fate.
I like that Bufo and Caledonius had this crush/hatred thing going on, but they were part of the same cult in the end.
I didn’t like the giant peps scene at the end, the monster was extremely milquetoast compared to the madness we usually get in AT. Obsidian, for example, had the awesome Larvo design. Nemesis had some INSANE dark magic!!!! I wish they drew more from that episode.
Considering how much Steve Little appears in this special, I do feel bad for Mace (little Peps). He said he would have really benefitted from coaching, but recieved none. He had to re-record his lines 3 times! Judging from his description of events, Wizard City was a hard time for him.
The wizard school did remind me, heavily, of both The Owl House and OK KO. Personally I was hoping AT would offer me something more insane, but I do love both of those shows, and I know Wizard City was on a really tight schedule.
I think they should have spent less time on the school bullying plot, and skipped straight to MURDER.
We did have a cold opening, not on par with Together Again’s at all, but damn!
I am wondering where I would put this in the watch list? I do think it should sit after Obsidian as the third special. The intro scene makes it clear this takes place at the same time as Obsidian!!!
Well, that was it, the last ep of AT for the next few years at least T_T
i think together again was the better finale, definitely. but wizard city feels pretty detached from AT for me, despite the familiar characters it tonally isn’t like the show other than the awesome brutal death scenes. I thought the last 11 minutes was easily the best in the special! Which, honestly, is how it should be, though I do wish it gripped me more. Maybe I’m just not the target audience for Wizard City? It feels like something I would find very compelling if I was a bit younger!
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your mistake was expecting this fixation to "die out." the trap with kpop is that theyre Constantly Releasing More Content so you're stuck here till they disband, bro. kpops been my longest lasting hyperfixation and it only dimmed down (not even died out) when i doubled my dosage of antidepressants during a mass pandemic and had to violently project onto visual novels so i could Feel Something. as soon as i weaned myself off my meds the kpop brainrot came back Full Force. its been years. ive fully accepted that im never escaping this hell and so should you -felix bi anon
Look I went into this pandemic telling my bestie on the daily "ma'am I am sorry but I am not watching anime and I am not getting into kpop, anything that is even vaguely reminiscent of shit I wouldve gotten beat up for in high school is very much a firm NO from me, also my two fav artists of all time are Lil Kim and Lana Del Rey, I don't think kpop is gonna be my speed at all, it's just not gonna vibe w me okay. And also my Type™ is very much rock dudes who are skinny and pale like they're dying with hella tattoos and an attitude problem, I'm tryna meet a man at the hardcore show, them kpop boys are not the vibe" (OOP it was the western beauty standard brain rot in FULL force bestie 🙊) so like, the fact that I even started to stan skz was 10000% against my will 😂 the part of me that once wanted to work in marketing is absolutely fascinated by the structure of the kpop industry and how insanely effective it is, but I thought I was ABOVE THAT lmfaooooo and NOW LOOK AT HA. CRYING OVER SOME SHORT ASS LIL AUSSIE BOY SINGIN SONGS WHERE I ONLY KNOW ONE OUT OF EVERY 75 WORDS. I WAS TRICKED, I WAS BAMBOOZLED, I WAS HOODWINKED!!!!!!! Also every fuckin time I see some lil kpop boy struttin around bein hella goals I'm like "lemme check somethin real quick, lemme cover my bases," cause I am NOT tryna get bamboozled into stanning another bunch of FETUSES, LITERAL ZYGOTES, and every damn time Google is like "yeh bestie they're all of 21, you're about to go full cougar mode, pump the breaks, back it up bestie, exit the premesis, back away slowly" and so I do cause like yall I aint even old, I'm only 27, but that is On Deaths Door in internet land and I'm not tryna get cancelled, so I physically cannot allow myself to stan any other group lmfao 😂 I have made my peace with skz sneaking into my fuckin heart but NEVER AGAIN. ACTIVATING AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT STYLE!!!!!!! I have never been cool a single day in my damn life and I do NOT need to add the stigma of someone I work with catching me doing the full Back Door choreo in my car before I clock in 😂 my high school trauma will not allow it 😂 ain't no room for it, I'm baggin' and taggin' any other groups content and yeeting it 100 miles away from me, my ego can't take it, she's fragile, she can't take criticism, lemme go back to flying completely under the radar with my basic ass self, that's all I ask 😂 I don't need to go back to work and have a FULL mental breakdown on the sales floor because Chan posted a selfie, I don't need to have to try to explain to my coworkers that I need ten minutes to chain smoke and cry over some boy reading comments on a live chat 😂 LET ME OUT OF THIS FIXATION, BRAIN, PLEASE, I AM EXPOSING MYSELF AND SNATCHING MY OWN WIG ON THE DAILY 😂😂😂😂😂
#No but frfr I can't allow myself to enjoy things that other people think aren't cool because the RSD is STROOOONGK in a bitch lmfao#NOT ME GOING OFF MY ANTIDEPRESSANTS IN THE MIDDLE OF THE PANDEMIC OOP#VENLAFAXINE BEGONE YA LIL THOTTIE#WITCHA BRAIN ZAPS N NOT MUCH ELSE#asksteppie#felix-bi-anon
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Ep.4 Polysaturation
polyAM Radio Episode Four-Polysaturation
[Begin Transcript]
[Sophie]: Hello everybody and welcome to polyam radio the best show on the internet about polyamory that weird relationship thing you do with lots of other people
["Crazy little thing called love" by Queen plays]
[Sophie]: Hello everybody and welcome my name is Sophie Last-name-redacted
[Mara]: and I'm Mara Fake-last-name
[Sophie]: you are listening to polyAM radio which you already know because the intro just played
[Mara]: [laughs] just to remind you real quick about pronouns this is Mara's voice I use they them their pronouns
[Sophie]: this is Sophie I use she hers, Mara
[Mara]: yeah Sophie what's your problem
[Sophie]: wow, okay
[Mara]: [laughs]
[Sophie]: umm soo, uh yeah I got a problem though
[Mara]: whats your problem Sophie
[Sophie]: I got, ya know, the holidays are comin up
[Mara]: oh I know
[Sophie]: and uh ya know candlenights is great uh for those mbmbam beanos who celebrate it but uh I got a problem with presants
[Mara]: mmm, mhmm
[Sophie]: I got too many partners Mara, I got too many presants to buy for too many partners
[Mara]: I haven't even started yet Sophie
[Sophie]: oh god, see I'm making some of the gifts for some of my partners soo
[Mara]: and you're only starting now
[Sophie]: no no I already have started well I've started some of them now I've started one
[Mara]: Sophie there's only thirty four days 'till christmas
[Sophie]: oh god
[Mara]: thankfully candlenights is whenever you want it to be
[Mara]: [laughs]
[Sophie]: [laughs] I guess uhh ya know I uh I recently was talking online to some people about people that start their podcasts by doing skits and I'm not a huge fan of it just cause it feels really fake but umm ya know whereas we just normally just kinda pick a topic and go from there but I gotta say that I definitely see the appeal of avoiding a long awkward silence like that
[Mara]: yeah uh-huh having something scripted would really help with that instead of just pulling something out of our asses just now
[Sophie]: yeah that was supposed to be a long and entertaing bit about how hard it is to get christmas presants and stuff like that when you have so many partners and ya know whatnot uhh but
[Mara]: but we suck
[Sophie]: yeah we're not that good at this yet, I got to say I do want to say one thing I guess umm it's starting to feel real for me this podcast uhh I was on ya know I download the podcast and I listen to it actually the same as y'all are listening to it umm
[Mara]: I don't know how you can listen to yourself
[Sophie]: I acutally really
[Mara]: I hate it [laughs]
[Sophie]: I actually really enjoy it because I feel like it makes me better uhh because I can ya know if I listen to it a few times or whatever I can be really critical of myself and say okay these are things I need to do better
[Mara]: I don't know how yall are listening to my nasally Wisconsin accent Im sorry
[Sophie]: oh my gosh
[Mara]: oh my gosh
[Sophie]: oh my gosh
[Mara]: that can't be real plesant so props to you for listening I guess
[Sophie]: yeah but so I do listen to it and ummm ya know I was listening to some of the previous episodes and whatnot umm I was listening to some of the previous episodes and ya know it's starting to feel real like there's enough ya know episodes now that I have to scroll through my ya know in the podcast app on apple and uhh on like spreaker where we host it there's like three episodes now and we're recording the fourth and it's starting to feel like we actually got something here
[Mara]: it's pretty cool
[Sophie]: yeah like this isn't just something like ohh we're going to start and it's not going to take off and everything it feels real and kinda good
[Mara]: yeah yeah
[Sophie]: I'm really happy with how this project has turned out I hope you all are umm we actually our next episode is gonna be a little weird uh it's gonna be uh what did you call it Mara
[Mara]: happy poly day
[Sophie]: happy poly days yeah and it's basically gonna be about all the holiday struggles uh taht people have when they're poly and stuff like that so everything from uh what gifts to get for what partners and how to afford all of them to
[Mara]: families
[Sophie]: yeah families and this person is a really big part of my life and how do I introduce them as my roomate or something like that
[Mara]: or do I introduce them to my family too
[Sophie]: yeah I gotta say I am there's this couple I'm dating right now umm who are some of the most fantastic people in the world uhh and one of whom transcribes the show and is blushing hardcore right now as she hears this but umm they're just they're they haven't been in my life for all that long umm but they're really important to me and it's actually difficult kinda going into the holiday season like I wish that umm ya know I could introduce them to my family and everything and be like ya know both of them to my family and be like hey uh ya know these are some people that are really important in my life and I wish that with all my partners but I'm feeling that really hard with two people in particular right it's it's just kinda hitting me close to home umm not to say that I don't feel that way about the rest of my partners of course I don't wanna set up some weird dichotomy or whatever umm
[Mara]: if you have any uhh holiday struggles feel free to send those in to use
[Sophie]: oh got yess that would be marvelous
[Mara]: so it's not just us talking because we're two people and we have not experienced everything there is to experience in the world so tell us your poly-days struggles
[Sophie]: yeah especially about like coming out to your family as poly and stuff like that
[Mara]: cause neither of us have done that
[Sophie]: yeah neither of us have done that uhh we just have kinda chosen not too uhh our family's are on the conservative side and are barely okay with me being trans uhh like so
[Mara]: yeah we'll just leave that for now
[Sophie]: yeah they're like barely okay with a binary trans girl never the less a uh an enby so
[Mara]: which they don't even know about
[Sophie]: yeah so the fact that ya know we just kinda choose not to go there cause we don't want it to get ugly at ya know christmas and for the rest of our years be the ones who ruined the christmas of seventeen or whatever
[Mara]: [laughs]
[Sophie]: so we're just we're not dealing with it and that's our choice and it's valid and if that's your choice then it's valid too but if you have funny stories or uhh lots of experience and stuff like that it would be really cool to hear from you you can tweet at us you've got two hundred and eighty characters now so what more could you need it's @PolyAM_Radio with an underscore in there capital 'p' 'am' and 'r' or you could send us an email at polyamradio all lowercase all one word at gmail dot com uhh you've actually got that information on the cover art of your umm of this podcast now I put it on there when I updated it so it's pretty cool stuff
[Mara]: you should also check out our facebook page if you're not on those other websites as well
[Sophie]: we're gonna plug all the stuff again at the end of the episode so there's that to look forward to
[Mara]: [laughs]
[Sophie]: umm but so like I said at the begining of the episode and our ya know umm and I I guess what probably should have been a skit but kinda wasn't umm
[Mara]: that's just awkardly rambling
[Sophie]: ya know I'm having some problems with gift giving lately and uhh we actually got an email from someone who has a bit of a problem giving a gift of their own vis a vis love uhh ya know mentioned in a previous episode love is like a gift and you can keep giving it as long as you have resources to give those gifts and everthing kind of spoons and money and everthing and they actually emailed uh this person and with a really heartfelt and beautiful email I thought and uhh well why don't you read it Mara cause it was so moving we wanted to do an entire episode devoted to the topic with it
[Mara]: and I'm so so excited send us emails I think this is real real cool
[Sophie]: yeah absolutely we've gotten ya know this is only the third email we've ever gotten so this is real real exciting for us
[Mara]: Sophie and Mara let me first just say that I am so excited about PolyAM_Radio I've recently been exploring myself as a polyamours individual and it's scary at times listening to your show eases the fear and helps me to know what is healthy and valid this being said I need some advice ever since discovering that monogamy is not for me I have been falling in love with what seems to be everyone I know I can't give everone christmas gifts but gee it sure is hard to decide who I want to give my gifts to and how many I understand the answer varies from person to person and I already have a pretty busy life however I was wondering if you could tell me a general number that seems to work for you and others you know how many partner is too many how can I make sure that if I have multiple partners they're all getting the love and attention they deserve, enamored in Eagleton
[Sophie]: I'm gonna go and, wel they're probably too old now because the Matrix is an old movie but I'm gonna go find the bald white child umm from the Matrix the I think the second movie that was that
[Mara]: there is no spoon
[Sophie]: yeah there is no number
[Mara]: [laughs]
[Sophie]: there is no right number which makes this kind of a hard question to answer because I can't just be like six, or whatever umm
[Mara]: holy shit yeah there are probably people out there with six partner but for me oooh
[Sophie]: I uh I did the math I actually have six partner right now
[Mara]: oh my god you're nuts
[Sophie]: yeah so we're going to get into the number in just a minute here but uh we just want to mention a few things first like I said the reference to giving a gift and everthing uh giving everyone christmas gifts it's a refernce to a previous episode we talked about love is not a pie that you slice up love is a gift and you can give anyone a gift and people are just thankfull for the gifts that they get they're not like ooh I didn't get as many as them or whatever and that's important if you don't understand that what the fuck are you doing you're listning to the episodes in the wront order smack uhh I also wanted to uh there is no wrong number so I guess ya know I'll kinda edit out the five minutes you need to do the math on your fingers but how many partner do you have right now
[Mara]: I can confidently say I have three partners uhh four if you count some more causal comittments that I have that I haven't necceicarily moved forward with I have a couple of comets in my life so this be people who I don't see all that often but when I do it's great it's fun it's really nice so I think I will I'm I'm like ninety five percent certain taht I'm not leaving anybody out when I say I have three partners that I'm pretty comitted to right now
[Sophie]: yeah I umm right now I have uhh I would say four very comitted partners and then I have uhh like at least two if not three kind of comets like we talk about people who are kind of just on your peripherary it's not a super comitted thing it's not a super hardcore thing but when they're around you have a lot of fun and uhh ya know it's it's a really cool thing and that doesn't mean that the relationship is worth less or anything like that but if we're just doing like total numbers of partners I do have six or seven partners right now that's not including like people that I would just have casual sex with or whatever all though I don't really think there's anybody I have casual sex with right now ya know that's not including play partners or anything like that, that's like partners partners
[Mara]: for sure uhh and the most amount of partners I've ever had at a time has been five, five, and that was way too many for me umm that was way too many for me unfortunately it didn't end very well I was I wasn't giving people the amount of attention they deserved and I ended up going to partners and kinda saying hey I'm really sorry I got kinda swept up in this new relationship energy or I've just been so busy with other things that I haven't been able to give you the attention you deserve and I'm sorry, most of them are pretty understanding ya know they appriciated me coming to them and saying hey I'm really polysaturated and I'm trying to work on this but I need to just kind of ya know take a second and re-address some of these comittments that I've made so that it's fair and that I'm giving you the attention that I can and the attention that you want from me
[Sophie]: yeah absolutely I umm right now this is actually the most number of partn- ya know the greatest number of partners that I've ever had that having been said it doesn't feel like that right now because there was a time about a year ago I think or maybe a little less where, man, that really felt like I was just uh I mean I felt like ten pounds of shit in a five pound bag I mean I was just ripping at the seams uhh just with ya know how much and and how many uhh ya know partners I had and and how stretched thin I was to make sure everybody got time and eventually I kind of ya know grew into it and everything and ended up aquiring some more ya know some people come or some people became a little more tangential in my life some people ya know left some people came in umm so I don't wanna make it seem like I'm streched super thin right now because I don't presonally feel that way I don't necceicarily think I'd want to go adding another five or six right now ya know that seems like a lot uhh but ya know I I'm not at what I would call critical mass right now which is a good place to not be umm there's actually a word though for that feeling like you're just gonna burst at the seams like you're being pulled in a million different directions at once and that's called polysaturation umm and so we got this email about it like I said and uh we thought that polysaturation was important enough that we wanted to do a whole episode on it so tell me a little bit about polysaturation Mara
[Mara]: yeah uhh so it's kinda like you said when it when it's that feeling of being stretched too thin it's ya know you don't feel like you're getting the quality time that you want with your partners and you feel like they're not getting the quality time they deserve umm and I think the hardest thing about this is at different points in my life I'm a student right now I've mentioned that before I'm a student and I work and I'm getting ready to apply to grad school which is a big scary thing so the amount of time that I have during different times of the year vary and the summer I have a lot more time as opposed to like ya know right up against finals like we are right now it just it varies so I know that at different points in my life like ya know it's there are times where there's too many and right now the number that I'm at I'm super comfy ya know I know that even if I do get really busy even if I do have that time crunch I'm gonna be able to give the time and attention to my partners that they deserve uhh but it is a problem and it is something that I've dealt with before like I was talking about earlier when I was polysaturated ya know it it took a toll on a couple of my relationships and it was it was a really crappy feeling coming to my partners and saying hey I've been kind of neglecting you and I'm sorry that was something that's really really hard but ya know being able to talk to those partners really helped me to make sure that they were getting the attention that they deserved because if you don't talk to your partners you don't know what they need ya know it it's one of those talk to your partner moments
[Sophie]: you gotta commuunniicattee [drawn out]
[Mara]: you gotta commuunniicattee [drawn out] exactly it's ya know it it's really important to be on the same page as all of your partners and I think that's the best answer I have to your question how can you make sure that all of your partners are getting the love and attention that they deserve, talk to your partners know the level of comittment that they want know the level of comittment you want and then try to structure your relationships around that ya know I think umm unfortunately there's not a good way to know when when you hit peak partners until you're sitting there and you're like well fuck ya know just a trial and error ohh no I've done it again [laughs]
[Sophie]: well and I think part of the problem ya know there's not really ever in your life gonna be a rule as far as ya know oh well this is how many partners I can have because part of it a lot of it has to do in my experience with how many or or pardon me not how many partners uhh you have but with kind of who the partners are and how much attention they require and how much ya know how often they kinda wanna see you and are able to see you ya know uhh I date primarialy other students and what not or people who have been students uhh just that's who I'm dating right now and ya know I gotta say they're pretty understanding for the most part of my time and when I don't have much but ya know a lot of times I mean I see Mara every day because we live together ya know we're nesting partners we wake up next to each other umm ya know frankly if it wasn't Mara if it was someone else this would be a nightmare frankly but Mara's just special and wonderful ya know I'm able to do it, there are other partners I have where I'll go days without talking to them and that's fine, that's not a problem, uhh especially the long distance ones or whatever and then there are sometimes where we'll talk for hours and hours in a day ya know you kinda block your time like that ya know but even just this weekend I was studying for a huge exam that was monday night and I didn't really see you almost all weekend and especially the day of the exam monday I mean it was an evening exam so I basically like you came and saw me in the library at one point but ya know I just didn't have time and that's okay that's not a bad thing so ya know my partners for the most part understand where I'm coming from and where I'm at so I can have more because they're so understaning and because they're usually by in large or at least lately they're usually pretty low maintainence umm people that need more from you that require more from you that is absolutely fine that does not make them bad or toxic but you will be able to have less which again is fine more isn't better but ya know they're going to require more time and more energy and more spoons and more everything from you so that's going to affect your number too umm Mara even said it it also differs ya know the time of year over the summer and over the winter man I can have a million fuckin partners I'd be soo like ya know I'm just swimming in time and then the second the semester starts up again I'm in hell
[Mara]: [laughs]
[Sophie]: I'm in absolute hell and ya know I've had problems with that before ya know with getting in too deep during some of the off months and then going ohh tits
[Sophie]: [laughs]
[Sophie]: this wasn't I don't know why I thought this was sustainible but it is not and hindsight is great but now I have this cool thing that I don't want to end how do I resolve that
[Mara]: well and unfortunately in my experience a lot of it is just it's trial and error it's umm to thine own self be true a little bit know what you're capable of know what you want poly is polyam excuse me is a lot of work truly I think a lot of people look at polyamory like it's the the lazy I wanna avoid comittment thing to do but truly you are actively choosing and actively pursuing comittments with so many other people and so you're sitting there and you need to think about things a lot harder than you do in uhh at least I feel you have to think about things a lot harder than you do in monogamous relationships you need to have a lot of self refelction and that's hard and you're gonna make mistakes and they're gonna suck, making mistakes sucks, in my experience as, speaking as somebody who's made more than their share of mistakes, mistakes suck and they hurt and it might cause break ups to happen and that's not fun and we can probably do a whole episode on polyamorous break ups, but
[Sophie]: damn that's ac- that would be really good I don't have that, I have a list on my phone of episodes that I want to do and that's not on there and that would be really good actually that would be really good
[Mara]: yeah I feel like we could do just, we could talk into your ears for another full forty mintues or however long we tend to go about what breaking up when polyamorous is like
[Sophie]: well especially because recently and ya know it's still pretty fresh it still hurts a lot umm the truth of the matter is a few months ago we had a nesting partner leave us and it wasn't pretty, it was someone who we had comitted to heavily and who we kind of thought was always gonna be in our lives and umm ya know we gave them a comittment symbol and they literally in the they threw it out ya know and umm ya know it was it was hard on everybody and I'm not gonna sit here and slander anybody but uhh ya know that is kinda something we went through
[Mara]: yeah there there was a lot going on there to be sure but umm so anyways yeah no like know yourself talk to your partner and also this is the best the single best piece of advice I have ever been given by someone else who is polyamour it was actually uhh one of my current partners you have to treat yourself like you are dating yourself, you need to know when you need you time you need to know when you need to be maybe with this one partner maybe not spending so much time with this other partner and you need to be with other people who are good communitaters it's it's really important to surround yourself with with people who aren't toxic for you and and someone being toxic doesn't necceicarily mean that they're a bad person it just means that they're not the right person for you and so you need to be aware of that but I guess my best piece of advice is as you meet people you can add relationships I don't think I know anybody who ya know discovers that they are a polyamorous individual and then goes out in one day and comes back with five relationships that's not in my experience how relationships work and it might be for some people but I think often times it's this process of getting to know people
[Sophie]: [Mara]: [singing] geting to know you, getting to know all about you
[Sophie]: can you tell I don't know the song very well
[Mara]: [laugh] umm can you tell that I was a theatere kid in high school, probably um but you ya know you get to know people you get to know their relational style because everyone has different relationship sytles everybody has different umm I know there are people out there who don't think that the love languages exist or are a smart thing or whatever I personally like that I think it's a useful of explaining the way that people give and show love ya know and I umm I'm very much a quality time person, I I wanna spend time with people but if you know you're a quality time person and you are with somebody who is a words of affirmation person you need to learn how to relate to them or maybe that doesn't work for you and that's okay you just need to know that , so ya know know yourself as hard as that is to do uhh spend some time dating yourself getting to know what you want and what's important to you in a relationship
[Sophie]: yeah and I think that's really good advice uhh ya know and again I try to ya know this is a show by polyamorous people for polyamours people but I always hope there are things in here that anyone can take away that monogamous people can take away, that aromantic people can take away, umm ya know uhh and I think that really whenever you're in a realtionship ever you should always say yes I'm dating this person but I'm also dating myself or I'm not dating anyone but I'm also dating myself because you have to put time and energy and active thought into a relationship and you should treat yourself with time and energy and active thought you should be treating yourself well so I gotta ask ya know after all this uhh is this, how real is this problem, how serious is this and how serious should we be taking it uhh ya know is this something like new relationship energy where it's kinda a minor problem and it can make you do some foolish things and it can get you into a little bit of troube but it's not that serious as long as you know it's there and look out for it, is this something that it can really start to impeade your life if you don't pay attention to it or is this something that in your opinion doesn't realy cause a lot of problems
[Mara]: I think it's something that can really really mess with your life and it in any relationship ya know monogamous or friendship or whatever if you're neglecting somebody if you're not spending time with somebody you're just kinda like oh yeah yeah we're in a relationship but I don't have to spend time with you right I don't have to talk to you or give you any attention that's that's bad, that's bad for your partners that's bad for you and I think it is, it's a real problem I think ya know before it escalates to it it absolutely is ya know kinda like new relationship energy and being aware and wow I'm being a dumbass right now and I need to check myself before wreck myself kinda thing
[Sophie]: yeah absolutely I think that it's a lot like being stressed out or having a panic attack, it doesn't necceicarily it ya know it doesn't neccecitate that there is something wrong things could be fine there might not be a problem but even if there's not whatever the situation is you're not handling it and a change needs to be made even just for your health and well being even if you're not currently neglecting your partners you are stressed out about this and doing something different would probably be good that doesn't neccecarily mean ending the relationships but probably at this point certainly not starting any new ones right I mean
[Mara]: yeah
[Sophie]: if you're feeling polysaturated the best thing to do is give yourself some times say okay I'm not gonna date anybody new and if you meet somebody amazing and if you fall in love and if it's perfect and if and if and if tell them hey listen I just ya know I really like you but I just got into this new relationship and it's taking a lot of my time and energy and I want to be with you but we gotta put it on hold because I just need some time to adjust to this new thing and figure out where it's going and what's gonna happen ya know versus just ya know devil may care jumping into a new thing I think that's really foolish personally umm, is there a kinda of a a solution a cure-all a ya know cure-all cure nothing as they always say in sawbones but umm,
[Mara]: you're such a dork
[Sophie]: [laughs] I'm a McElroy fangirl I can't help it
[Mara]: ya know what it's okay because when we were talking about ya know if theres a rule as to how many people I almost said ya know it's not like a rule of two kind of thing
[Sophie]: [yells] yes! you don't even like star wars
[Mara]: no I'm just around it all the god damn time
[Sophie]: yes
[Mara]: [laughs]
[Sophie]: Mara isn't even in to star wars, they've just absorbed enough about the Banite Sith to know that the rule of two is like a really big deal from me reading the novels if you haven't read them go out and read Drew Kapershick's Darth Bane trilogy path of desctruction, rule of two, dynasty of evil it's amazing and then read Darth Plageius by James Lucino, holy crap mind blowing books, really really well written umm and if you like star wars at all you'll love these books the audio books on audible are amazing, they're not paying me to say that I'm just a fan
[Mara]: you're trash
[Sophie]: I'm trash
[Mara]: [laughs]
[Sophie]: I'm absolute trash
[Mara]: is is there a solution,commuunniicattee [drawn out]
[Sophie]: you gotta commuunniicattee [drawn out]
[Mara]: you gotta commuunniicattee [drawn out] yeah no talk to your partners know yourself, refelct [laughs] ya know uh think before you snack, act
[Sophie]: think before you snak
[Mara]: it's from mulan when she's got the umm caligraphy on her arm and shes
[Sophie]: ohhh
[Mara]: reciting the final admonition I'm also a huge Disney nerd umm but yeah ya know think think before your snack, act
[Sophie]: [coughs]
[Mara]: yeah no it's kinda we we've covered the solution a couple of times throughout the podcast, know yourself, know your partners, just spend some time thinking about what you need to do
[Sophie]: yeah and and I think that ya know I would say if I had to give a solution mine would probably be treat it like stress because that's really what it is it's just stress about the relationships and about being streched to thin and generally speaking when I feel stressed I often feel like I don't have enough time for anything and that's really really really bad because the soulution to that is to take more time to do things and to move very deliberately through your life
[Mara]: mhmmm
[Sophie]: umm take more time to do basic self care I'm not talking about giving yourself a fun ya know a bath with rose petals in there I'm talking about showering with a fucking uhh pumice stone and scraping three weeks of dead skin off your arms I'm talking about eating at all, I'm talking about drinking water, enough of it, you need to take more time to do these things when you're stressed, not less, you need to take more time to study if you're stressed about school than when you're not stressed and it often feels like you don't have any time and you can't do these things, that is your brain lying to you because it thinks you're being chased by a tiger and that you're going to die, my grandfather had a saying uhh that he he was a cartoonist and he used to write this saying on everything umm and ya know I think he had a really interesting perspective because he was I'm not big on the military I'm not big on imperialism and and and stuff like that but he was in the military uhh he was in the Korean conflict and umm [laughs] actually in his old age he used to say that he didn't wanna go on walks because he walked across Korea and that was enough for anybody, regardless he had a saying that the way to relieve yourself of a burden is not by refusing to carry it
[Mara]: mhmm
[Sophie]: the best way to relieve yourself of a burden is not by refuling to carry is the way to relieve yourself of this stress with this relationship is not by refusing to carry it and it's not by just saying oh well I'll give my partners more time and I'll spend more time and I'll go on more dates, no, the way to relieve yourself of it is to do the uncomfortable thing talk to your partners and then sink more time into yourself because chances are if you're feeling polysaturated the one who's not getting enough time more than anyone else is actually you, okay, and I'll just say that out there because pretty much anytime when you feel streched too thin by comittments and stuff like that and ogbligations generally speaking we drop things that we need first and it's important to take care of yourself and do the things that you need to do to keep going and to subsist
[Mara]: well and and Sophie you're kind of a ch-emist
[Sophie]: I am indeed a ch-emist ch-emistry
[Mara]: ch-emistry umm but
[Sophie]: I'm a bio ch-emist
[Mara]: you're a ch-emist [laughs]
[Sophie]: I wish I was a ch-emist I'm a wannabe ch-emist, chemist chemist for those of you who are having trouble figuring that out
[Mara]: with saturation when a solution is saturated it means that there's too much of one of the uhh of the solvent, no the solvent is the thing that, can you tell that I'm real real bad at chemistry
[Sophie]: can you tell that I'm not helping and that I'm just gonna let you flounder
[Mara]: uhh
[Sophie]: so when a solution reaches saturation I just said I wasn't gonna help, umm but when a solution reaches saturation basically you have your solution and you have your solute
[Mara]: solute! that's the word
[Sophie]: [crosstalk] and your solute is what is dissolved in the solution, and basically at that point you cannot get any more solute into that amount of solution it won't dissolve anymore it's just going to sit there at the bottom of the beaker stubbornly and not dissolve and you need to do one of two things if you want to get away from saturation and I think Mara's gonna talk about it
[Mara]: No I was gonna ask you what you do I just you really you kinda stole that from me
[Sophie]: sorry
[Mara]: I was trying to be clever
[Sophie]: I'm sorry I get really excited about ch-emistry
[Mara]: so what do you do when a solution is uhh saturated
[Sophie]: you can do one of three things, umm the first thing you can do is find a way to remove some of the excess solute that's in there by filtration or something like that remove some of the stressor, in our analogy, another thing you can do is add more solution if you have something that is taking up your time and whatnot and you lets say it's school and you graduate from school and all the sudden it's ah I've got so much more time it's wonderfull, great, you can sink that into your relationships if you want, you've added more to the solution, the third thing you can do is heat up the solution because a greater amount of free energy in the solution will result in a greater amount of uhh ya know solute being able to dissolve in there, I don't really know how that applies
[Mara]: set the things that are taking your time on fire
[Sophie]: yeah for sure
[Mara]: set it on fire
[Sophie]: light your obligations on fire
[Mara]: [laughs]
[Sophie]: I will say that it's actually very interesting
[Mara]: don't do that please don't do that
[Sophie]: yeah please yeah please don't do that
[Mara]: for the love of god no
[Sophie]: I do wanna mention there is something that can happen only with certain solutes in certain solutions uhh but you can reach a point called super saturation if you heat it up dissolve more than is natural to be in there more than is uhh kind of chemically comfortable to be in the solution you can reach a point of super saturation and then everythings fine as it slowly cools down and you can go type in super saturation into youtube and look this up but any disturbance say a finger poke in the top will cause tons of solute to spontaneously umm uhh umm uhh word to spontaneously percipitate out of solution wow I went to college to get stupid I guess, uhh but basically the metaphor equivalant of that will be is that if you try to super saturate your life it'll end poorly and I'll have like very little sympathy for you cause like I warned ya and you heard it on the podcast
[Mara]: so don't light your obligations on fire
[Sophie]: please please don't do that thing
[Mara]: uh oh
[Sophie]: oh go for it sorry
[Mara]: did, do you hear that
[quiet klaxon sounds, grows louder]
[Sophie]: what
[Mara]: in the distance
[Sophie]: in the distance, I hear it
[Mara]: it's getting closer
[Sophie]: it is it's getting louder, I think do we have a polyfolly
[Mara]: we have a pollyfolly
[Sophie]: son of a bitch we have a polyfolly fucking pollyfolly
[Mara]: [laughs]
[klaxon fades]
[Mara]: so today's pollyfolly is getting into too many realtionships too quickly which uhh this is like new relationship energy and polysaturation in one fun package
[Sophie]: yeah I umm I wanna mention that this also includes joining triads and things like that if you find a cool couple or if you find a cool triad or a cool polycule of any size that you think you wanna join that is cool I am happy for you but
[Mara]: check yourself
[Sophie]: it could get very bad very quick especially as the new realtionship energy wears off I would not be shocked at all to hear that someone in that situation would begin to feel polysaturated again doesn't make you bad doesn't make you wrong it just means that it's something you need to be aware of going into it that way you don't make an ass of yourself, get it, cool, also probably uh ya know you mentioned new relationship energy and I wanna throw this in there a lot of new relationship energy can convince you to get too serious too soon in a relationship that's definitely gotta be a big polyfolly
[Mara]: yeah well and if you haven't listend to that episode yet we have a whole episod-
[Sophie]: what are ya doing ya lis- doing in the wrong order
[Mara]: there's no order Sophie
[Sophie]: there is an order, no when I export these to m-p-three they ask me what the track number is and I put it in there
[Mara]: there's not an order, but yeah we have a whole episode that talks about why that's a difficult thing you should go listen to that that's why that's a polyfolly don't jump up that relationship escalator
[Sophie]: don't jump up a podcast escalator listen to it in the right order
[Mara]: all right, uhh also failing to get to know someone fully before getting comitted to them that is that is guilty
[Sophie]: yeah guilty
[Mara]: you can't see it , raising my hand guilty guilty as fuck
[Sophie]: can you tell, ya know these polyfollies we don't have like a magic book that we look into that somebody else wrote and we say ahh these where the polyfollies are if we're saying usually means we've done it and is usually means it went poorly
[Mara]: yeah so good to know people
[Sophie]: getting to know you [singing] getting to know things about you
[Mara]: a;lsdkfj not wrong, that's fine [laughs ] but yeah no get get to know your partners it's cool
[Sophie]: we're gonna have no downloads after this episodes because people aren't gonna want to listen to my voice
[Mara]: before you saddle that comittment monster [comittment monster growl]
[Sophie]: every fucking episode he's gonna be in now I swear
[Mara]: yeah he's a reocurring character well see it's the less than four times more than seven times theory so I'm sorry for the next few episodes you're gonna fuckin hate the comittment monster but
[Sophie]: oh but then it'll start to be ironically funny again
[Mara]: yeah
[Sophie]: yeah because we've doing it too much until we've done it sooo much that it just becomes funny again
[Mara]: mhmm
[Sophie]: got it okay
[Mara]: yeah
[Sophie]: now I understand
[Mara]: but before you saddle up that comittment monster get to know the person that you're saddling that comittment monster with because oh wow this is gonna get real real dark they might stab you in the back and ride off with that comittment monster
[Sophie]: they might steal your comittment monster and then you'll have to go find a new comittment monster
[Mara]: and I just nobody wants to do that
[Sophie]: breaking in a new comittment monster is a terrible line of work
[Mara]: [laughs] umm yeah so I think that's all we have for polyfollies today
[Sophie]: before we finish up I have a few points of order
[Mara]: is this a meeting
[Sophie]: this is well
[Mara]: I didn't know you're falling roberts rules
[Sophie]: roberts rules
[Mara]: roberts rules, meeting, no we don't have points of order
[Sophie]: uhh well we do have this point of order, umm I didn't pay much attention in my commuinications class that my college required me to take um I'm pretty sure I did actually go to college to get stupid but umm I just want to mention again like we mentioned at the begining we do have a twitter and a facebook but as you can also see on the cover art of this we have a patreon now which is really cool and uhh like I said the link should be in your cover art it won't work if you click on it but it's seriously patreon dot com slash polyam radio it's pretty easy and before you turn this off because we're asking you for money just hear me out for one second umm we have some really cool rewards that we're gonna be putting on patreon and it would really help us out seriously it starts at just one dollar a months
[Mara]: give us your lunch money
[Sophie]: yeah I'm gonna start out I'm gonna just read very quickly some of the cool rewards that we have on there you can go uhh ya know read them yourself on the link but I'm just gonna ya know briefly briefly umm kinda go through it so for the first level which is patrons this starts at just one dollar a month uhh seriously y'all that is fifty cents an episode that you're basically paying for this I think these ya know frankly I think these episodes are worth more than fifty cents a piece uhh but you're getting them for free right now and if you'd like to show your support but you're kinda straped for cash that's absolutely fine for just one dollar a month you'll get a personal shout out on this show probably on most of the episodes umm ya know that's a pretty cool thing ya know you can hear your own name and other people will know how cool you are and I think that's a really awesome thing uhh for partner that's partner of the show not partner of us, that's a five dollar a month tier and at this level you'll not only get a shout out on the show almost every episode but uhh you'll also get access to a few bonus episodes we're gonna record and post and those are gonna be cool topics that only our patreon users will have access to so that's some very cool stuff and ya know frankly I hope everybody ya know wants to support on patreon and I hope everyone is able to because these are gonna be really cool episodes that you're not gonna have access to otherwise and ya know it's not that we wanna keep things from other people we just wanna ya know those people that uhh wanna go the extra mile and support us that way we wanna do them a little something umm and then primaries this is the top teir right now for ten dollars uhh a month or more I wanted to make a glucose guardian slash sugar daddy level but all I could think of the reward was show you my tits and I don't think I'm allowed to do that especially over an audio only medium umm so basically at the ten dollar a month level uhh you'll get the shout out on the show you'll get the bonus episodes and uhh you will get all the episodes a week before they come out for everybody else so basically once we get some ten dollar basically what we're gonna be doing is over winter break I'm gonna create kind of a backlog of these episodes and we're gonna have a few of them stored up and I'll be posting them a week early on patreon for our ten dollar a month primary umm uhh patrons I guess our primary patrons umm so if you really really love this show and you wanna support it and you wanna get some early episodes and everything and see it before everyone else does and be the cool one at the bar who ya know knows what's going on in everybodies favorite podcast then that's a real good option I encourage you umm I made the descriptions of these levels very funny in the text I didn't wanna read them here because I wanted the surprise to be there for you but I encourage you at least visit our patreon give em a read umm maybe consider it and certainly share the link and tell your friends because umm we're looking at investing in some new recording equipment and stuff like that our microphone is really high quality but it's just sitting on the counter right now we don't have a mic stand umm we don't have a kind of a one of those cloth like pop ya know buffer things umm uh I'm sorry I've been really sick all week and yeah like I said sorry I'm getting sick and or I'm just getting over being sick rather and its reall- this is really taking a toll on my voice today umm but anyways umm ya know I know that umm uhh it would mean the world to both Mara and me if you would at least consider supporting and if you'd share with your friends so we can get more listeners right now this is only the fourth episode we're recording and right now we've got about twenty or so people who listen a week and I can't tell you how amazing that feels I know that's not much in the podcasting world when people have ya know six figures of followers but I'm an activist who does events at the colligiate level right now and when I put on a program if twenty people showed up uhh ya know I'm in heaven ya know that's great in my world truly umm ya know we love and appriciate every single one of your you're the absolute ya know I guess you're our fans I guess and like ya know not that you like bake us cookies and send us things and whatever but I still think you're the best fans in the world and I just I can't tell you how much we both appriciate this so like I said please consider supporting us and please this week if you could it would mean a lot to us tell at least at least one friend or partner about this podcast and just download it on their phone for them just give them that just say hey I'm just gonna do this quick and then ya have it and listen to it whenever you gotta because then they got it and they won't forget the name of it it would really help us out and it'll help us uhh ya know it would help our confidence and whatnot it would help us knowing that we're getting a wider reach and it'll help more people find this and hopefully it'll help more people learn more about polyamory because that's what this whole thing is about so yeah that's enough for the formal meeting portion of this and I think that's actually about all the time we have today so uhh have a nice holiday and remember don't date you're dad's best friend
[Sophie]: [Mara]: and don't date you're best friends dad
[Sophie]: see you next time folks
["Good old fashioned lover boy" by Queen plays]
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P: Rob Sellig
2:48 am / Thursday morning. Im listening to this new Tsu Surf & Mozzy project, thinking about this kid I grew up around. Ive been reading he passed away, which is such a shame. We grew up playing basketball together at St. Catherines in EK, middle school, high school, alternative high schools, programs together. Troubled youth. I have this specific memory of him from years ago. I believe I wrote about it in my last blog post, about watching somebody get curb stomped. I was a lost kid, me and my friends aimless, drifting from group to group. Ended up spending a lot of late nights in EK wandering the streets. This night specifically, there were about 7 of us. A homie of mine was interested in writing graffiti, and this was before music, so graffiti was basically my identity. So we met up at his house, where my friend had a group of heads over, and they were partying, selling, and just going off. He lived with his parents, which speaks volumes, because at this time in my life, everyones parents gave up...nobody gave a fuck, except mine, but they couldn't control me. One thing leads to another, my boy wanted to go bombing. So we leave his house with our paint, and just take the streets, 5 reckless kids fallowing us on skateboards and bikes. Wasted, loud, rowdy, reckless, but as an outsider, I found a silver lining in their terror....it was a middle finger to the society that never gave them a chance. It was a brotherhood. This specific kid, at this point, was in and out of county, witnessed him fighting over and over in school, and in the streets since day 1. We were walking tall through the backroads in EK....they were spray painting cars...houses...anything. No fucks given. Wasted...they were breaking windows...kicking dents in BMW’s. Playing music off the phone...they were all they got. Another group of kids ended up on the same block....and they went off. A fight broke out....and I have this specific memory of boy ripping his shirt off, passionate, raging with anger, to protect his brotherhood, his street crew, his family. Being around him since I was a little kid, school, ball, mutual friends....I never got to know him deeper than this...but I would always see him and just salute his pride, and his will to stand on his actions, and his will to fucking fight for who and what he loves. Rest In Power fam. A lot of homies reading this from EK who follow my music...yall know who I am talking about. I never got to know this man - but I salute him for how much of HIM HE REALLY WAS. I remember in 2006, I was a freshman in high school, and my cousin ended up in a fight with a senior over a friend who passed away. My cousin was intoxicated during this time, in school, and I ended up beating the dog shit out of this senior as a young kid. These EK boys were the only ones who showed love, who stood tall behind me, making sure I was good, safe, and assuring me I was doing the right thing. Cant let your family go down like that. Rest In Peace man.
Last year, days before Tsu Surfs album Seven 25 dropped, he doubled back and we hit the studio and recorded a song called “Make You Proud”. He dropped the album very shortly after and it went #2 on iTunes in under 24 hours, and I was sure I wasn't going to see that man ever again. A year later, here we are...a day before he drops this joint project with Mozzy...that debuted at #5 on itunes, were dapping up at a film set in Queens, NY to film the music video. A YEAR LATER, this man gave a fuck enough to pull up and bless my career with this video. That meant a lot to me. I specifically remember feeling alone, hopeless, in some of the darkest moments of my life. Just listening to his tape over and over and over....running laps at the track at Mader Dei Highschool. It gave me hope, it motivated me to get over the feelings that were weighing me down. My life was changing, and this eased the pain. Nobody likes the motions of change if it includes losing people you love....losing the ability to do things you love...and going places you love. You have to find new health, new wealth, and new routines. My new found routine was coffee in the morning...spending an hour studying the industry...listening to my podcasts...then immediately running laps listening to his tape. Anything after that was subjective. Nowadays its basketball instead of running laps....but it gave me health. Mentally and physically. I could collect my thoughts. I could hear real stories....being gunned down 5 times and bouncing back...then charting. Here we are. On set....once again with Rob...my brother on the directing tip. My new lovely friend Victoria, who's a beautiful, ambitious, ride or die artist of her own. Robs pops. Mike Oliva, who is a SAVAGE photographer and film maker himself. It was a trip. Over the past year, kids at bars, hardcore shows, normals, civilians, people from all over and the world have been DMing me about simply just a teaser and a photograph of me and Surf in a studio. With Albee Al, Casanova, Cage - its all a specific group of people. Mainly mainstream music consumers...radio listeners...people who are tapped into Instagram and culture. But with Surf - Ive had the pleasure of speaking to people from all walks of life. Old hardcore friends telling me how much his movement has touched their lives...so wild. I was late to his wave...Belv actually told me to tap in and do it, and that's my brother so I made sure I did for the team. We drank hot chocolate and coffee, listened to our favorite music so loud, have such great conversations, got amazing footage that im so proud of, and just overall killed the mission. Nothing makes me more happy. This was a moment for me....because for the first time...im not in silly poppy clothes...im myself...im spitting bars on it...I feel and look like the person who was painting freights in 2007. And that is very important to me. Sometimes you can get swallowed by the wave youre riding...and I am guilty of that. It influenced so much of me...and recently I said look...fuck all this. Fuck everything except for whatever inside me still lingering before back and forth. Because if those passions, those tendencies, those people, are still here and within me...theyve been growing all this time, strong, sticking by me, and that's me. Shitty hoodie. Airmaxes or vans, shitty hat, stupid hair, cutty as fuck, smiling. dirty skateboard kid just trying be great man. I miss my old Mercer Ave skate crew. Its been years.
Im starting to go through a new awakening where im witnessing the ones around me unfold in such a distasteful manner. Its pretty crazy to spend time with people, face to face, and have dinner, coffee, laughing with each other one on one....and in my head at the same time think...this mother fucker dead ass hates me. Wants to kill me. Wants me to fail. Fucks heavy with EVERYONE who has done wrong to me. Has talked shit behind my back. Has stabbed me in the back. And they are such fucking clowns....they don't know that I know...and they don't even comprehend that im being a bigger person and not addressing shit below me, because I don't have room for shit like that in my life. This is the time where people fuck with you one foot in, for opportunity, to hit a lick, to keep the link, to get to the people you fuck with. It is literally so easy to show love...and yet people close to you just won't. Its an interesting concept. I am fortunate in the sense that I am self made, self built, and already a black sheep. If everybody in my life turned their backs, it wouldn't touch my career. So therefore, I don't have this fuckery nature in my behavior. I don't fuck with you, I don't fuck with you. Thats it. Im learning you cannot trust people who fuck with you one foot in....because that means they're prepared to step away at any moment when you're down. They don't got your back. They are around people who drag your name through the mud, and they allow it. AT BEST...since they have one foot in....theyll tap in and say such and such said this....but why didn't you defend me? Why were they okay with these actions with you? Because your friend has their other foot with the opps. Fuck these types of people. Forever. Ive been seeing people put up with this behavior, and I figured id speak on it, because its been on my mind. You don't have to get treated like shit to fit in. Truth is, your friends are probably wack. Your friends probably hate you. Your friends don't want you to do better than them. And no, it doesn't matter how long you've known them. Most relationships stem and grow out of convenience, and lack of change, lack of ambition, lack of dreams and goals. I always thought, its actually very easy to be a good friend when they need you...in moments of tragedy and misery. Because that doesn't shake your foundation, and make you realize you aint shit. It doesn't challenge your framework. Its harder for most people to be a good friend when their friend is celebrating success, because the human nature is to compare, and sometimes that can be a mirror reflection of how you AINT SHIT. Recognize these people and cut this cancer out of your system. Or if you are this person, we all have been at one point, cone to terms with how wack you are and be a good person lmao. I want to see my plumbing friend look me in the eyes and go “im the best plumber in this area and im gunna kill this job and make a living for my family and buy a BMW”, just like I want to see my graphic designer friends believe after their hard work that they're qualified OVER SOMEONE ELSE for their job, to make a great living. Just like I want to see a musician, or rapper, talk his shit and believe in themselves, go platinum, and make a great living and buy a Range. Being around greatness inspires me, never scares me. I love being at the bottom, it amps me up. It gets me going. It gets me off. I love the fight, the grind, the game. Whether its music, or washing windows in the freezing dead of winter for commission to pay for fucking studio time to be where I am right the fuck now boiiiiiii.
Me and Belv have some crazy shit coming. That is all. Okay bye.
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