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people will throw the 'forgive them for yourself, so you can have inner peace' phrase around like it's a cure for the goddamn ptsd
#its not its victim blaming still#victims don't have to do ANYTHING#there's no NEED TO FORGIVE TO BE AT PEACE#NO NEED TO FORGIVE TO BE A GOOD PERSON#trauma from abuse#ptsd#cptsd#inner peace comes with safety and protection not forgiveness#forgiveness does not bring peace#you can forgive once you already are at peace and not a second before#appropriating forgiveness#you do not need to forgive#you do not need it for healing#you do not need to forget#you are right to rage and to want justice
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Thereās a very easy way to get around the fact that Assad is unable to pass for a teeenager if the show wants to adapt TVA and thatās to rely on the theme of unreliable narration. Armand begins retelling his history and according to him, he looked like he was in his early adulthood. No older than twenty four, for sure, but also not any younger than twenty. And then, just when the audience has bought it, just when this version of events has been presented as the truth for long enough, someone questions it. Asks if he really looked like that. Asks if heās being honest with himself. And for the briefest moment, we flashback to Amadeo, the age he was when Marius first saw him. Beaten, shackled, afraid. And undeniably a child.
#allows you to have a TVA storyline where an age appropriate performer is acting it all out#since we CANNOT have Armandās story portrayed by an actual child#but you just know Armand imagines himself as an adult. he blames himself. he was grown he had agency#but the truth is he was a child. a child who was abused and assaulted and forced to endure horror on horror#and this way you get the story AND the impact of āoh. you were a child. this happened to you and you were a childā#and you know heās lying but this time itās sympathetic to him. he lies because he has to#because admitting the truth will just shatter him#and I donāt think it should be Daniel to say āthatās not true. is it?ā#(personally I think it should be Louis. who knows him so incredibly well. and that can be the place for forgiveness#for a reminder that Armand is horrible because of the horrors. and Louis accepting that and being properly let in for the first time.#77 years but only now and here is when I properly see you. and now we can love each other right.)#iwtv#interview with the vampire#Armand#tva#the vampire armand
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Look, the bottom line is this. You're gonna be wrong and fuck up sometimes, that's just how being human works. No matter what you mean or how much you care, sometimes, you're gonna do something or say something that hurts someone or perpetuates bigotry you don't believe in.
The goal isn't to do no wrong, that's an impossible standard. The mark of "a good person" isn't that they always do good, it's that they're willing to admit when they've failed, done wrong, made a mistake, and they're willing to course-correct when they do.
It's important that you're trying. It's okay to be the bad guy. You don't need to get defensive, you don't need to stake your identity in "person who never does that kind of wrong." You just gotta be able to say "Fuck, my bad, I'm sorry," accept that your behavior didn't reflect your beliefs, and change your behavior so that it better represents who you mean to be.
The less time you spend lingering on whether it feels like people believe you are who you say you are, the more time you can spend getting better at being that person.
Some people will try to tear you down when you make mistakes, they'll try to pigeonhole you as a "bad person," someone whose very existence is defined by doing harm. This isn't your problem, and it's not your responsibility to prove anything to them. They don't have to believe you, and you don't have to appease them. So long as you're willing to accept when you *do* hurt someone, intentional or not, and you're willng to put in the effort to make reparations and change, you'll never "be a bad person."
Let yourself fuck up. All you have to do is course-correct when you notice your actions' impact have strayed from your intentions. The right people will notice that effort, and they'll be proud of you. And perhaps most importantly of all, they'll let you make that effort. Anyone who tells you it's too late to change, to discourage you from improving, or stop you from trying, is not your frend. You don't have to impress them. Ignore them, and let yourself change.
#I didn't manage to say it in the main text so you get it in the PS tag ramble#When you hurt someone by mistakeā it's okay to feel bad and scared and want to make sure they understand you didn't mean it#But you need to set that aside for the moment. You need to let it be about the other person's hurt.#You can ask other people for support with your feelingsā they don't make you a ābad personāā but they're not appropriate to put on the#hurt party. When you accept that you can fix your mistakes and that you're allowed to be upset toā it gets less scary to make them#You know there's a protocol for thisā and so long as you keep it together enough to follow itā you can mitigate the harm and fix things.#Don't get defensive. As tumblr saysā that's the devil talking. Defensive is never the right move when someone says you fucked up/hurt them#You can maintain that it was a mistakeā but keep that part short and sweet. Let them be hurtā let it be you that hurt them. It's hard but#I promise it'll make it better in the long run. People are more likely to forgive you if you let them be angry at you for hurting them.#It's normal to be upset when you hurt someone. It's normal to be upset when someone hurts you. These can and must coexist.#Let them be upset at youā apologize sincerelyā and no more than three to five times. Let it be about them. It can be about you#with othersā and when they've cooled down and approached you with a willingness to hear your side of things.#Sometimes you'll have to just sit with the feeling of having been wrong or seen as a hurtful person. It sucksā but i promise#it sucks so much worse when someone who hurt you is more focused on whether you hate them than if you're okay. Let them be upset#It'll be okay. I love you#mumblr#problemnyatic thoughts
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Resident Evil: Vendetta Concept art from artist Hiro Ueno's portfolio site
Bonus fun fact for me: He also did concept art for Sonic Forces. Small world!
#resident evil#resident evil vendetta#chris redfield#leon kennedy#rebecca chambers#glenn arias#forgive me the entirety of silver dagger#i wish i could tag all of you appropriately
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the perfect tumblr ecosystem is my dear mutuals put knights sitting cuntily on my dashboard and i turn them into pics of medieval AU Wolfgang : )
#illustration#original characters#oc art#art#medieval au#wolfgang#i think it was nat who reblogged the original pic so thank you nat#ive been deep in painting zone so it was really nice to break away from it for a quick little ink and watercolor illo#finally tested out some true grit texture supply ink brushes i got last month and found some favs yippee#the armor is not really period or region appropriate forgive me i was too lazy to look it up for this
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Happy (slightly late) New Year's to @fic-and-art-for-ships!!
This is my gift for @utsecretsanta 2023, I love circus AUs and the Circus-swap AU is so cute! I adore Frisks design so much ā” ļ½('ā½^äŗŗ)
#i really hope you like it!#also forgive me for the late arrival of your gift i had a huge incident with my shitty computer QWQ#but hey! I had as lot of fun redrawing it anyways haha! :D#my doodles#utss#utss 2023#undertale secret santa#underswap#us sans#circuswap#frans#i adore frans when frisk is aged up to an appropriate age and this is just mwuah!#so adorable i mean just look at them QwQ <3#their HAIR too augh i love it half up makes my brain go brrrr#this was genuinely so much fun thank you for your patience!!#underswap sans
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And the second of yesterday's stream comms: a pfp for @astraldragons of one of Don Quixote's alts. :3
#forgive me i'm gonna tag this as appropriately as i can i'm only familiar with the series through osmosis#my art#commissions#lobotomy corporation#don quixote#limbus company#blood#teeth horror
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Had. An extremely funny vision to revamp Moe's staff.
The design isn't super final, I can never really decide how I want the accents to look... trying to keep them in line with how the Askr trio's weapons look. Especially the signature color magic glow that's present in their special arts!!!
Anna has it too!!!!! You just don't see it bc her art gets cut off in game. Also, additional image bc you don't see the handle v well in her special.
Which is why, here, the green gem is most prominent on Moe's weapon.... geen....... idk if I'm keeping the other ones that look like the summoning circle orbs. It was just something I wanted to try out!
BUT. BUT. The Main Idea here is that Moe added its own touch to the staff. Yeah, the dangly halo was a Neat idea, but this concept is just so much funnier to me..... says SO much about Moe as a character... it is ALWAYS. Making and customizing things. I can also see Moe using the carabiner practically as well! Now, I wonder why it held onto those two feathers in particular... š¤
#moe tag#actually if i canonize the idea that those are hero feathers from alfonse and sharena that's gonna fuck up the timeline.#like i'm gonna have to invent Lore. about it. but the two dangly spinny twirly feathers were ALWAYS a part of moe's Concept#like before it got simplified for ease of drawing moe had a dangly feather earring along the staff decorations#IDK IDK I'M WAY TOO METICULOUS. if i just draw two feathers please forgive me. i LOVE LORE#AND I LOVE. WHEN CHARAS ARE SENTIMENTAL. IN SILLY WAYS. GET ATTACHED TO EVERYTHING ā¼ļøā¼ļøā¼ļøā¼ļø#but like. sometimes it Is just for The Look of it.... i'm so sorry#ANY WHICH WAY. as i was drawing i had a strong vision. of changing up the halo to be something else#a dangly handmade charm. then i had the REALLY striking idea of making it a dreamcatcher. the FORESHADOWING.#and the Theming. of complex relationship w spirituality. but. i... ended up thinking better of it tbh.#like. asking myself okay how do i be respectful and honor this. then realizing hm.#maybe the only way to be respectful of this is to Not Do That. like. just feels in poor taste as a white guy no matter what.#but it DID get me Thinking. about what moe Likes to make anyway. what are the things that are significant to It.#AND THE. THE VISION. if anything it's appropriating butches here its ass is NOT BUTCH.#but no harm no foul. slap some more punk ass trinkets to that thang!!!!!! the practical use ALSO GETS ME THOUGH#like. moe IS practical. it likes its diys to be functional as well as fun. ect ect!!!!!#fe anna#HONESTLY. what if i only tagged her just to not clog up the tags and also that art is a good ref for later#just might.#summoner oc#my art#moe ref
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btw i'm mad at slime again
#u just don't need to be calling kids obese. idek the kid but if he is actually unhealthy that's his parents n doctors business. not an#appropriate thing 2 use ur platform for imo like god the poor kid probably gets called fat every day by strangers on the internet#anyway just had to speak my truth. once in a while he does piss me off fr but i of course will forgive him by the time the next ep comes out
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thinking about the fact that in dick and bruce's (second) worst fight, dick still went to clark for help & guidance like!! even though that's his dad's bestie and he's currently on the outs with his dad, clark's still his family too and he'd always look out for dick šš
#like not just friends of friends. FRIENDS!! family dare i say like he was there to see dick grow up#and thank god he did cause i just know dick having to come up with his next hero name on his own wouldve been.... my own villain origin#but like dick didnt JUST go to his own friends who would obviously take his side he also went to someone#who loves and trusts bruce as complex as dick does and didnt worry about like... clark trying to get him to forgive him or anything#that one wing quote about how everyone thinks nwing is a bman reference when really its from supes dick said s/o to BOTH my favs#* i'd love to write but it's just not realistic / ooc.#*went to clark after the appropriate amount of moping and asking why does bruce hate me? (see: he doesnt)
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Flat colors down!
Now it's just line cleanup, hands, and shading.
#steam powered giraffe#spg#upgrade spg#the jon spg#art process#hoooOOOOOOOOOOOOO buddy#I'm not to nervous about shading the clothes#but I know the faces will take a hot minute#if I get to it every day#then i can finish this in 3 days#can't promise that it'll be in a row though#also trying to be better about appropriately tagging my own stuff because I only found out like a month ago that tags can be used to filter#through MY OWN content#forgive me for being slow#I used the wrong form of too in one of the tags but Iām on mobile so I canāt go back and fix it without trying too hard#my stuff
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Kandreil is like this: Andrew reminds Neil of Mary, both Andrew and Neil remind Kevin of Kayleigh and Andrew also shares strong similarities to Wymack. I donāt think either of them remind Andrew of Tilda or even Cass (well, feeling hopeful and hating it reminds him of Cass which is associated with both of them but not exactly what is being addressed here) but Andrew sees Tilda in the mirror every day.
#fuck Freud personally and scientifically but I will appropriate him for fictional analysis purposes when itās funny/accurate#Andrewās probable misogyny is forgivable to me because heās always doomed to end up being all the questionable maternal figures in the#narrative#aftg#kandreil#andrew minyard#kevin day#neil josten#andreil#kandrew#kevneil#s speaks#have had versions of this in my drafts forever
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(found)family dynamics ft. nose presets by @kashisunā š¤
YāALL i canāt wait for you to get your hands on these amazing presets - MARINE, you mfkināĀ DID THAT, OKAY?!!Ā *inSPIRED* had me up playin in CAS, making up whole damn backstories for sims i just met ~sigh~ they already got theme songs and nicknames cuz you had the NERVE to pop off on these wonderfully unique, character-filled, deeply customizable schnoz shapes ~ iām in love <3333
a lil scenario occured while i was putting the family together, learning their quirks and how they interactĀ with each other - an entire mess XD
in order of appearance :
vanity ; as āiām watching my showsā non-snitchinā witness / too pretty for this
snickers ; as accident-prone troublemaker crybaby / jealous heās not the baby
ariel ; as perpetually sick-of-this-shit scandalized younger sibling / good sport
hunny ; as not the mess but has something to say about it / lowkey accomplice
mamma neptune ; asĀ rough-edged at work, soft toward the children / the glue
#sims 4 cas#black simmer#simblr#kashisun cc#LOOK AT MY SON !! PRIDE IS NOT THE WORD I'M LOOKING FOR ; THERE IS SO MUCH MORE INSIDE ME NOW (hate hamilton now but there was a moment and#this song kept blasting through my head as i looked adoringly at my babies during creation lskjfsl i'll forgive myself; too busy doting)#mamma neptune had pretty girl rock by keri wilson as his theme song š
š¾ -tucks a hair behind his ear- he's my saltyseadog bbygurl i love#they have regular names but i thought the nicknames are more fun for the scenario#btw snickers calls himself that so he can yell back WHAT DID YOU JUST CALL ME?! at nonblack ppl when they say his name - he's a menace to#yt society; everyone clap - also he busted his face in a mosh pit and then proceeded to cry abt it while thrashing cuz ofcš let it out bb~#he's always pestering ariel and she threatens him back but it's all games - they ride for each other heavy ; ariel is actually older than#snickers but she's the last to join the family and hasn't been out as long so he acts like older brother and she doesn't mind; they're both#trans bbies -mamma neptune is cis by his definition but welcomes a faggy she/her as appropriate address to his person ~ hunny is moc/fluid;#vanity is everything darlingāØ they remind me of a friend so they feel extra special to me ; which wasn't intentional but i'm vibing ~#tired of typing now kthxbyeš#tw blood#probably
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i was tagged by the biblically accurate angels @cordiallyfuturedwight and @aprylynn for the september round up <33
i'm sure there's a perfectly reasonable explanation for this combination of tracks but i'm simply not privy to it. tagging favs if you fancy it: @thvinyl @btscontentenjoyer @spicyclematis @hoseeok @kimchokejin @jihopesjoint @eoieopda MWAH and always @monismochi !!!!!!!
#thoughts and/or feelings (delete as appropriate) as follows:#say you'll be there - and what can i say? it's a spice world and we're just living in it#de selby pt.2 - still has me by the throat. must be the domnhall gleeson of it all#pusherman - love love love but genuinely not a single idea as to where this one came from#talk tonight - potentially one of the dreariest oasis tracks and that's saying something#(i'm a manc so i can say this without risk of being clotheslined by a gallagher in town)#growing sideways - lord forgive me but i do believe it is the season of the sticks. i'm terrified that i might never have met me???#500 psychic damage#teardrop - cover of the century. exceptional. no notes#don't let me get me - because missundaztood is an album and a half#linger - and i will be letting it!!!!! fuck#for us - she's the stand out for me. though don't worry i have already developed an unhealthy obsession with the entire album#american teenager - please for the love of god give ethel cain a chance if you haven't already. no one else is doing it like this#as for the artists. paolo nutini making a strong bid this month. i will always have feelings for you#also something something about every fleetwood mac girlie also being an abba girlie. can't fault that logic.#unrelated i need that stevie nicks barbie so bad i don't know what i'll do#tag#receiptify#mwah mwah mwah#thanks for coming <33
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the backstory of vash and knives as kids is a lot sadder in the mangaā¦ i think stampede did a lot of things well but the way theyāve handled knives is a little weird so far, they make it seem like he was some little psychopath child right from the start but thatās so far from the truth? he loved rem and saw her as his mother just as much as vash did. if anything he was initially even more desperate to be with humans than vash was. he literally broke down into happy tears the second he received acknowledgment from a human who wasnāt rem because he was so relieved to be accepted as a being who could live amongst them once everyone woke up :( seeing all that actually makes his feelings of betrayal/anger and desire for vengeance once they find tesla even more understandable, and i wish they had shown more of his perspective, but maybe itās being saved for season two? they didnāt show this to us until like 8 volumes into the manga after all
#teslaās reports made me cry itās so awful#this series is difficult for me because i donāt think knives is a bad guy. heās the antagonist story wise but heās just not wrong#his feelings are justified and appropriate. if anything itās abnormal for vash to be so forgiving and patient knowing all he knows#trigun#diary
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Joining in because I do love to hate on kenneth brananagh. That being said, Emma Thompson is a queen and she carries that much ado film (which is probably his best shakespeare mostly because of her)
SOOOOOOOOOO FUCKING TRUE. we watched that much ado in my english class in high school and her fucking POWERS...
#max.txt#asks#i do think he was appropriately silly in the benedick role so i'm tentatively forgiving him.
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