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i've been getting more into judaism after being raised jewish. i was never bat mitzva'ed, so im wondering if i should do that? also wondering what other steps to take.
Well, I have great news! You don't need to have a bat mitzvah, you are a bat mitzvah! If you would like the celebration, you certainly can have one, but it isn't necessary.
I didn't grow up with really any Jewish observance, so I was essentially a complete beginner when I decided to connect. So, my suggestions come from personal experience and the experiences of some others I know who are baal teshuva.
Some more steps you could take to foster a stronger relationship with your Judaism is first to reach out to your local rabbi, and see what events or classes their shul has going on. Showing up to these opportunities can open doors to figuring out what feels right for you, and I've found that making friends who are at a level of observance that you strive to be at can inspire you to keep learning. If you get in touch with a rabbi beforehand, they could probably arrange to have you meet with someone who can show you around and introduce you to people. While this can be really intimidating at first, believe me when I say that many Jews will be happy to help you and won't pass judgement. Many Jews have been in your shoes, you're not alone.
Or, you can pick a few different shuls and just go to each one until you find one that feels right for you. Don't feel pressured to commit to one over the other. Don't get bogged down by the labels of movements. If you have a personal goal in mind or a certain aspect of observance you want to do, just start doing it, even if it feels awkward at first. Over time, it'll be easier. Find some local study groups, or join one online! During quarantine I joined a Torah study group from a shul hundreds of miles away from me. They didn't care that I'd never step foot in their shul before, they were just happy to have a fresh face who wanted to learn. You could also try Partners In Torah, which is a website that can connect you with a chavruta.
Chabad is always a great option for those who are looking to deepen their relationship with Judaism because they always have resources specifically for people looking to reconnect.
If you live in a place with a significant Jewish population, you could find a Young Jewish Professional's group that can introduce you to more people.
I would recommend getting a siddur with Hebrew and English, if your Hebrew is shaky. I would also recommend starting to read the parsha every week, or starting the Tanach from scratch and reading it like any other book. I suggest The Living Torah and The Living Nach by Rabbi Aryeh Kaplan because the translations are in modern terms and easier to read, and they have commentary by Rashi. I also can't recommend enough Joseph Telushkin's books Biblical Literacy and Jewish Literacy, they're incredibly comprehensive guides to living a Jewish life by forming a strong Jewish educational foundation. Seriously, I've mentioned these books a million times on my blog because I love them that much.
Also, you could just start small! Saying modei ani in the morning when you wake up, saying hamotzi or the birkat, or even just saying Shema before bed can be a great way to start the process of opening up.
This last recommendation might be a little out there, but I think that doing some traditional Jewish cooking or baking can help motivate you to keep learning. This is how I started. I bought a few kosher cookbooks and just started making anything I had the ingredients for. It's not necessarily a "standard" way to connect, but my soul felt like it was reaching through time and space and connecting with all the Jews before me who had prepared and eaten the same thing.
As always, if anyone else has suggestions for anon, the more the merrier! I want to express my sincere excitement for you. Enjoy the journey you're on, don't be so caught up on "but I wish I was more observant this way" or "I'm not Jewish enough in this way" because it's all nonsense. Reconnecting is an amazing and life-changing experience, so enjoy the path that you're on, not necessarily the destination. When I first started, I was so insecure about how much I didn't know and worried others would judge me, but I found most people genuinely just want to help. Learning was exciting, and in some ways I'm envious of all the new experiences you're going to have. I would have enjoyed it a lot more had I just relaxed and accepted that it's okay not to know things yet.
Good luck!!
#ugh this is my fav kind of ask#i seriously LOVE when people tell me they wanna reconnect#maybe its cause i go to chabad lol idk#but when a jew is like hey i wanna be more jewish#UGH MY NESHAMA SINGS#like yes yes yes yes! your ancestors are happy for you!#we are all happy for you!#judaism has so much to offer#we are a beautiful people with a beautiful culture#and i love it so much when i see other jews appreciating it#we have something incredible#and i love every jew#anyway end of soapbox#jumblr#judaism#frumblr#jewblr#ask Hinda
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it's a pet peeve of mine when ppl frame Andrew as hating Aaron and being needlessly cruel to him... bc while yes, their relationship is fractured and strained, Andrew genuinely cares about his brother and wants the best for him, he just doesn't know how to show that in a normal way.
like he might not know how to express it in a healthy manner but Andrew LOVES Aaron, like he truly just wants Aaron to be healthy and safe. It's like, his whole Thing. Aaron is one of the most important people in his life. Andrew wants him around. He'd do anything to protect him.
I guarantee Andrew wants to be emotionally close to Aaron too, he just doesn't have the tools to do that and the thought of letting someone in terrifies him. He also has no concept of what a healthy sibling relationship looks like, so he has no frame of reference to work from.
#i love bickering twinyards as much as the next guy but sometimes ppl write andrew has if he thinks aaron is a waste of space#and that just isn't true#andrew values his brother#he wouldn't insist on keeping aaron close if he didn't#when ppl do this is just so obvious to me that they're using andrew as a mouthpiece for their own dislike of aaron#and like ok yeah you're entitled to not like a character i guess#but it's just so wildly out of character to me for andrew to treat aaron like shit for no reason beyond Being Cruel#like yeah andrew can be mean when he's feeling defensive or trying to make a point#and yeah he can treat people like shit if he's got a reason to justify it like Keeping People Safe#but he's not needlessly cruel to the people closest to him without cause#like neil says#everything andrew does#he does For A Reason#even neil isn't needlessly mean to aaron tbh#like he doesn't like aaron much at certain points but if he picks a fight with aaron it's never without cause#and he's genuinely happy for aaron when things work out with katelyn in the end#and he wants aaron to have a relationship with andrew as well! like it's important to neil that the twins have a healthy bond!!#anyway im getting off my soapbox now this is just something i was thinking about today a Lot#aftg#all for the game#the foxhole court
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I was initially clipping this to capture the overwhelmingly accurate, absolutely devastating hilarity of "you went for realistic, and sadly, you nailed it". And then just kept recording because I really fucking love the discussion about how to balance the line between like:
You are trying to tell a story that feels good and gives you the kind of lift you might be looking for in an explicitly fantasy story,
vs
How to ensure it still feels grounded and rewarding in a way where you can "bring this good feeling back to earth" at the end.
Like they're talking about TTRPG's but they clearly make parallels to other forms of storytelling/worldbuilding mediums, like movies, and. like. Yeah. Yeah.
Like the framing of "you really recreated the feeling of powerlessness..." and wanting the fantasy element to manifest in there being the clearer, straightforward ways to solve complex issues, vs trying to ensure that you can have a victory and it feels feasible and substantial and applicable in some way, and has something you can take out of the fantasy world and hold with you back on "terra firma".
Its tricky! Its a tricky thing to balance, and I don't think there's a single "right" answer nor should there be because it depends. It depends on the story, and the intent, and the setting, and the medium, and etc. Big fan of this framework to explain it.
#dropout#zac oyama#adventuring academy#brennan lee mulligan#reaaaally like- like not even the specific takes as much as the framing of this. its part of why i think sometimes discussions about#good or bad or happy or sad or realistic endings miss the point a bit for me.#like whether an ending is 'good' or 'bad' or 'happy' or 'sad' or 'realistic' are often distinct discussions along w/ being deeply subjectiv#not to say that they're all COMPLETELY disjoint but assuming one EQUALS any of the others often flattens the discussion. to its detriment.#narrative meta#(?)#not cr#look ill be real im thinking about (among other things) some of the c2 ending discourse. not in a 'i cant see why people were unhappy' way#bc I totally understand why and I did have my own gripes. but also.#just like. man. some of those discussions were. happening in the same spheres and threads and all talking totally diff things. and migh#have really benefitted from this framing#anyway I looove adventuring academy. the Lou and aabria adventuring parties are ones I relisten to regularly. connie/jasmine's ones r also#vvvv good. I also typically love contested roll for the absurdity but in this case the specific discussion spawned is so good I don't even#mind the trade of the hilarity#anyway sorry. off my soapbox now. i just loved this discussion
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mouthwashing features a mc who rapes and impregnates a woman and then crashes a spaceship full of innocent people to cover that fact up when the news gets out to the ppl she confides in and the captain tells her her assaulter wouldn't do that because he "knows him" and the mc pretends like it never happened as he is haunted by the images of his lies and deceit and cowardice and the image of his unborn child and the sound of a child's cries and the captain who failed to act cannot move himself or feed himself or speak for himself or defend himself when the mc attacks him and berates him and blames him for every lie he's ever told as the captain loses every scrap of autonomy he has left. but yeah it's about fucking. capitalism and yaoi. whatever i guess
#rape tw#tw#pulls at my hair i just feel like theres so many stories about SA that revolve around and are so obviously about SA that people just want to#ignore#it means a lot to me#what a tragic and haunting and sickening story where sa is so... forward#the entire story is about autonomy - and the lack of it#from curly feeling like hes stuck in the role as captain and has no choice if he stays or goes#to jimmy and what he did to anya#to anya and her pregnancy#and curlys end of life state#jimmy attacked anya but he stole the autonomy of the entire crew and you see every step from his eyes. terrifying#i wish things can be processed as more than just... male feelings and men kissing. that's all. anya deserves better.#this isnt even scratching the title being mouthwashing which is obviously referencing the cargo but is also alluding to the action#usually the punishment#of washing one's mouth with soap after theyve said 'a bad word'#i wonder who it was in the story that said something to some particular people that ended in them being punished... hm....#anyway.#my soapbox
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oh im so glad courtney came in to explicitly say "this is an AWFUL game to try to learn controls from" because its true. and to hug amanda. and provide fnaf insights.
#smosh#also the little hug to amandaaaaaa.... courtmanda brain goes BRRRR#anyway this section (and imo the game) is not. Well crafted. and is ESPECIALLY unfriendly to people who dont play a lot of games#like the other games are relatively friendly to newcomers but this one utilizes a bunch of preexisting game gimmicks#very suddenly and. quite frankly. does not implement them very well.#like. i think it attempts to add too many mechanics in a way that detracts from atmosphere#and on top of that the gimmicks end up landing in the realm of 'frustrating' rather than 'challenging'#anyway. off my game soapbox because i need to go do my actual responsibilities#amanda lehan canto#shayne topp#fnaf security breach#whether its a good or bad game is probably up to preference but i think its objectively very different from the previous games in both#mechanics and atmosphere and that is Especially noticeable when you have someone like amanda who specifically liked the atmosphere and has#v limited experience with game mechanics#anyway. there are specific horror games i think amanda would really like. spencer/alex do not steer me wrong
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Older asny piece I never posted
#asanoya#nishinoya yuu#azumane asahi#haikyuu#fanart#artwork#I believe I doodled this for a pal in the hq fandom#asny is my ship of choice in hq#and it’s really hard for me not to gloat about how they had the most gay coded ending#THEY WENT TRAVELING TOGETHER#Is that NECESSARILY gay? No. BUT THE VIBES ARE GOING OFF#Also asahi went into fucking fashion#like I’m not saying furudate totally planned to make asahi lowkey gay but#no actually that’s exactly what I’m saying#let me stand on my soapbox and tell u why i think asahi is gay and why noya is bi#LEGITIMATELY the manga has moments that make me think this is intentional#anyway. leave me to my delusions#let me have this
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people conveniently like to leave out the bit where nesta tried to go after feyre in acotar when they talk about her not doing anything for the family. the fandom discourse is sooooo funny.
#and by funny i mean disgusting and hypocritical#’rhys did what he did to feyre under the mountain to survive!! so feyre could survive!!’#sorry and what part of nesta’s behavior pre being made is any different and need i remind you she was a fucking CHILD#rhys was 500 years old and assaulting a 19 year old ‘because she’s his mate and he loves her so!!!!’ be so fucking fr#no i’m never getting off my soapbox and i am once again tellin you that acotar is literally from feyre’s pov#its a one sided story we have no idea about any nuance to the sisters’ childhood we don’t know shit except what feyre tells us#shes an unreliable narrator at best!#anyway lets just acknowledge that all three archeron sisters are bitches but we can love that about them#the end case closed bye bye
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being taken over by the urge to write superbats set to the beats/themes of total eclipse of the heart
#superman#batman#superbat#but give it a happy ending bc#im just like that#anyway the eclipse/superbat fallout symbolism.....#bc Bruce I-am-the-night Batman is Clark's sun#I won't get off that soapbox anytime soon
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more designs!! princess of nohr soleil and dancer siegbert c:
#fire emblem fates#fe14#fe soleil#fe siegbert#this is once again implied xanlow so#xanlow#if not only for how this is a switch design based off their parents. 'princess of nohr soleil.' well.#i wasnt meaning for soleil to be like a wyvern rider i just wanted her to have a cute headpiece but tbh its kinda fun. its kinda fun.#her design is more subject to change tho so we'll see if it stays#siegbert was also fun. a very tall dancer...#this wasn't INTENDED to be a whole au but i ended up making one up along the way. as i do.#it doesn't have to be tho they're allowed to wear clothes#anyway i do have more to say but im so sick and it hurts to look at screens#but know im thinking abt them. i guess.#dots on the soapbox#dots draws
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i still think the term "ethically" nonmonogamous is stupid i wish we could get rid of it. there's nothing inherently ethical about it shut the fuck up
#i get that it's meant to signify like ... no cheating i guess?#but tbh the so called ethics of dating to me neither begin or end w cheating#also the lines of what constitutes cheating r so blurry like is it just sex. is there an emotional component#what about flirting does that count as cheating. some ppl would say yes but to me not rly#whatever this differs from person to person#horrible pet peeve of mine i hate seeing people use it#not even ethics of dating it's just like ethics of building human relationships overall#i would argue probably most of us r highly unethical in the way we form rlxnships to the pt the value added by#discussing ethics around it is almost null w/o consideration for social conditions#most of the times it's a completely empty moral claim#i'll get off my soapbox now#anyway. just say nonmonog lol
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I am so deep in the Tim Drake trenches I fear I will never recover
#he is constantly on my mind#he is so babygirl#he is my pathetic little meow meow#he is everything to me#i want to put him in my pocket#i want to put him in a jar and shake it#i want to put him in a blender#i want to put him under a microscope#i want to eat him#i have literally been devouring everything in the tim drake centric tag on ao3 and there is no end in sight#it’s been a while since i’ve stuck with a fixation like this but he is simply My Guy i guess#i used to be such a dick grayson girlie and i still love him but oh my god. tim drake.#anyways#i’m just a girl#who’s going insane#vee’s void#vee’s soapbox#|| tim drake
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Honestly…. I feel like explaining/deconstructing the complex dynamic Aegon and Helaena have is more interesting than the helaemond theory. I will be very perplexed if the writers actually do that
#I’m sorry but I had to say it and speak MY truth#maybe bc I am NOT seeing what others are#I feel like there is so much you can do with Aegon and Helaena and how they both got the short end the stick in this situation#Aegon not wanting to marry/convieve children with his SISTER… Helaena not getting a chance the way Alicent didn’t#how does this affect their relationship with their kids etc#I just feel like it is… [redacted] and people are using Helaena (who didn’t get her due in s1) as a [redacted]#and you can NOT telling those writers had helaemond in mind coming into s1#and something about tv writers that get paid very well just taking fan theories and plucking them in is just so… odd to me#anyway no shade to anyone. I just had to get it off my chest bc I’ve been thinking about it 😭#I feel like there are people out there that have well thought out theories/headcanons about it… but for every good one#I see like five that either just focus of Aemond or do it bc they hate alys#anyway just my hotd soapbox lol
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actually, that ship meme + talking to garrett has me thinking about post canon Lark and how important it is to her development that I point out she does not have her Urges nerfed or removed. She will live with them for life (and i'm purposely leaving it ambiguous as to whether or not she can die). She doesn't have Jergal pulling her from the fugue plane and yanking her from one divine cage to another, nor would she accept that.
#bg3 spoilers#meta.#all bg3 really achieved for her in the end is giving her the strength to walk away from structure and into having to figure out how to /#exist without it. it's /terrifying/#anyway. steps off my soapbox.#STEPS BACK ON. AND ANOTHER THING--#she can't- in the likelihood of a SHIP- give sb a picket fence and kids etc. she is a fugitive and will be as long as bhaal exists#more to the point. that's not the life she wants.
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Responding to someone's life-devaluing policies by applying to them an imprecatory psalm that wishes, among other things, harm on their children is not behavior that truly values life. We need to be better than this. We need to care more about the actual point of our values and how we live them out than unleashing hatred on those who oppose them. If you believe that all life has worth, that has to extend to even the people you don't like.
#random personal stuff#back on my soapbox feel free to ignore#this is about a controversial issue so I'm keeping my terms vagueish to avoid ending up in a tag#but anyway I observed this from someone I know recently and am concerned by it#this is the same person who was taking Our People Right Or Wrong stances a while back and I didn't want to argue#but I really worry about the circles that my friend and her husband have gotten mixed up in
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listening to sober to death and thinking about davekat top ten activities that make me ill (/pos)
#this is incredibly cold take obviously but jeeeesus jesus#anyway. we were wrecks before we crashed into each other#take my hands off your neck and hold on to the ghost of your body#every conversation just ends with you screaming not even words just ahh ahh ahhhhhhhh#don’t worry you and me won’t be alone no more#etc etc etc#I used to listen to tjis and think about davekat ALL THE TIME. specifically in 2021. it was a bad year for me#if you’ve ever read any of my fics (SPECIFICALLY what if I was but also soapbox to a lesser extent) you are REQUIRED to listen to this#i am cringe but i am free#davekat#homestuck#dave strider#karkat vantas
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Critics: ff16s story loses all coherence 2/3 the way through and its just magic bullshit
Most ff fans: so most ffs?
#;ooc#most FFs suffer this lol#shit comes out of nowhere and ur just 'oh okay'#i love EW but felt this hard after elpis#noctis needing to die comes out of *nowhere*#the oc.urria get introduced so late in the game in 12#8 is just *waves hand*#(and i love 8)#every FF loses its plots for the magic bs at the end of it#its literally the FF way lol#(oh and 6 literally having no story in its back half and u able to fight ke.fka once u get celes and sabin)#(WITHOUT GETTING ANYONE ELSE and 6 is regarded as the best)#anyway#gets off soapbox
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