#anyone feel free to add your recs in the replies if u want <3

[onewingedangels]

I'm planning on getting a Steam Deck soon and thinking of checking out Assassin's Creed for the first time. Any recs on what game to get first to see if I'll be into it? I'm especially interested in the historical aspect of the series

i'm really bad at recommending anything tbh especially ac games bc there are so many dkgjdkl

personally my favorites are ac4, ac odyssey, ac origins, ac syndicate and ac brotherhood, but i think for starters the best would be Ezio Trilogy, and then after it you can choose and try the other games if you want :D

[annabelle--cane]

hii I saw your post abt not wanting sex and i was wondering if you had any tips for unlearning the feeling of needing to and feeling like the need to 'prove something'? hopefully this makes sense but anyway thank u for writing it, i felt really seen by it :')

that's a real bastard of a feeling to try and work through and I'm glad you could get something from my post, unlearning that stuff is an annoyingly long process and I hope it doesn't suck for you too much. I tried looking up tips for those feelings a few times when they were really hitting me a while back and didn't really find anything that felt right, so all advice I have is based on what I figured out for myself. (hello irls on this account, I'm gonna be a bit personal so if you see this no you didn't xoxo)

my experiences with this were greatly shaped by the fact that I realized I was ace while I was already a year into a relationship with an allo person (now 3 1/2 years into that relationship, hehe), and I think that made it both easier and harder. it was harder in that I had someone I really cared about right in front of me who I'd feel guilty about constantly rejecting, but it was easier in that, since I found the guts to explain everything to her, she's made sure to thank me for being honest every time I set a boundary or say no. but, obviously, "ask for support and reassurance from your partner" isn't something that's useful if you don't have a partner, so I have a few other things.

another thing that I found helpful was looking into asexual theory and nonfiction. blog posts, video essays, articles, books, etc. I'm a very academically inclined person so it may not appeal to everyone to try and look into, like, how asexuality influences contemporary feminist and disability theory on sexual politics, but I really appreciate seeing other aspec people talk about their identities and experiences as things with importance that add to the world. it helps to, sort of, normalize the concepts to me and provide reminders that there are other people out there having thoughts similar to mine, if that makes sense. a book rec I'd have for this is ace by angela chen (I have a few disagreements with one or two of its takes but overall it's very solid and provides a lot of good insights), and I haven't read these myself but I've seen the invisible orientation by julie sondra decker and refusing compulsory sexuality by sherronda j brown referenced a lot aspec lit circles.

I've also found it helpful to try and take a step back and figure out, socially speaking, where these impulses that sex is necessary come from. reading theory does a lot of this for me, but I also try and untangle it by myself. who does it benefit for me to feel like this? what social structures are reinforced through compulsory sexuality? historically, when did these beliefs start being pushed? if I can trace the idea back to root causes like structural misogyny or classism, I find it easier to reject; I know those things suck and were designed to hurt me so I don't want anything to do with them.

those are the main concrete things I can think of, but if anyone reading this has anything to add then feel free to reply/reblog

[antigoneblue]

hi, i just abandoned my old blog and started a new one to post my poetry like. last night and ik it takes a while to get exposure but do u have any tips for getting ppl to read ur stuff if ur new and have like 4 followers? (btw love love love ur poetry it just feels rly raw and emotional and ahhhhhhhh ur amazing!!)

hi!! this is something that everyone probably has different strategies on, so this is just my two cents. this got really long so i’m putting it under a “read more”

make your blog presentable & unique/true to your style. this might sound like a snobbish thing to say, but there are tons of people blogging on tumblr. if you want people to notice you and to linger on your page, try and choose a good username, a profile pic that fits your vibe, a theme that is clear and easy to navigate, etc. there have legitimately been times when i’ve wanted to follow somebody but their desktop theme has been so messy that i couldn’t find their follow button. make your blog look nice!! have a nice tagging system!! make it obvious that you put some amount of thought and deliberation into making it. 

interact with poets you admire. this does not mean that you shoot people messages like “follow for a follow”  though, like. personally, i never follow people who send me stuff like that. be sincere.  everyone loves validation. reblog their stuff and talk in tags about why you loved it. message them if they’re having a bad day and tell them that you care.  make rec lists with other people’s poetry & tag them in these. something i used to do was leave poets whose work i liked little poems i’d written for them in their askboxes, usually off anon. do things like that, but don’t expect anything in return. if someone feels like you are genuinely being supportive, they are more likely to want to support you too, as compared to the whole “follow for a follow” thing.  you’ll also make cool friends in the process!!

this should’ve been point #1 maybe but i’d suggest that you keep your poetry on your main blog. your main blog is what shows in people’s notifs for likes, replies, asks and follows. it is much harder to get your sideblog to be as visible, usually. however, i have friends who have poetry sideblogs and on their main blog title or bio they mention “PLS FOLLOW ME @ ______ WHICH IS WHERE MY POETRY IS.” which is fine of course, but i’m not sure how effective it is? i used to have a poetry sideblog in 2016. i had maybe 30 followers. it’s HARD.

use relevant hashtags. i’m going to be super duper honest, i don’t really remember which hashtags work best. i usually use spilled ink, poets on tumblr, free verse, poetry, and other arbitrary tags as well as network tags. see what tags poets you like use and try using those. don’t use tags that you don’t have any claim to use (like don’t use poc tags if you’re white, etc. but you probably already knew that. also some networks like soft poets society have closed tags, so don’t use those without their permission.) some poets encourage their followers to use tags they’re tracking (i track #antigoneblue, for example) so like. if you want to be noticed just see which tags seem to work! 

join networks. you’ll meet like minded creators, and you will also find yourself in a space where everyone promotes everyone else. networks are usually good places to get exposure, to get noticed, and also to grow as a poet! 

interact with prompts. some networks post discussions, like nosebleedclub used to (idk if they still do?). some users post prompts, like adam ( julykings ) used to. keep your eyes open for these. when you write for them, the prompters will usually check your work out, and if they like it, they may promote it as well! 

don’t feel bad about reblogging your own work. we’re all yelling into a void trying to get noticed here.

similarly - don’t feel bad reblogging posts like “i’m looking for more poetry blogs to follow, reblog this and i’ll check yours out.” do it!!  there’s nothing shameful about wanting to be noticed.

i can’t think of anything else, but i feel like i’m forgetting stuff. anyone from @inkflowsnetwork have anything to add? uhhh….. @avi-burton-writing - you don’t run a poetry blog but you’re a pretty active and integral part of the writeblr community, do you have anything else to add????? 

idk. if anyone wants to add something, or expand/ contradict one of my points, feel free to! all the best, anon!