#antlerkitty screm

[antlerkitty]

This! So many times doctors tell me “just do ___” and when I can’t, they start borderline insulting me and telling me “it so easy, just put in the effort!”

shoutout to other physically disabled people (esp. if you're also mentally disabled/ill) who are seen as not wanting to "help ourselves" because we can't make "simple" lifestyle changes,

who can't keep up with PT/OT on their own even if the exercises "just take 10 minutes" or generally can't keep up with regular exercise,

who aren't able to cut trigger foods out of our diets even if what they trigger is actively damaging our bodies/progressing certain things,

who use assistive devices, treatments, or aids that aren't technically "good for us" but they're all we have and we just want something, anything, to make our lives less miserable and aren't able to do much else

anything else where "just making this one change" would technically be beneficial but it's difficult to keep up with, or takes too much energy/takes executive function skills that we don't have, or conflicts w/ stuff in our lives that's not seen by others as important enough or significant (like sensory issues)

we're not "lazy" and we don't "just need to try harder," we're just not capable of "just doing" many of the same "simple" things that other people are, because we're disabled

[antlerkitty]

Me: Wants forearm crutches due to leg weakness and pain, especially with longer walks, fantasizes about it because I know it would relieve so much pain.

Also me: "Ehhhh, I don't think I'm disabled enough, I mean, I can still walk, I just have to sit every 2-5 minutes, I'm in a ton of pain, I struggle keeping up with everyone else, and have to take multi-hour naps after walking due to how much it exhausts me. But no, I'm not disabled enough, I need to be in excruciating pain to be worthy."

Not trying to throw shade (is that correct term?) at those with more severe disabilities and excruciating pain by the way. It's just sort of what goes through my head due to internalized ableism and being on the milder end of chronic pain and the moderate end of chronic fatigue. I don't really see anyone with mild-moderate (but still disabling) chronic pain.

[antlerkitty]

“Why didn’t you say that if it’s what you meant? Just be honest.”

Considering the fact that a good chunk of my vocabulary is borrowed words and concepts I barely understand, and I’ve been regressing in language for almost two years, and I’m cognitively and socially disabled, I think I’m doing fine, thanks.

[antlerkitty]

worst part about being a higher level autistic is that you get meltdowns from everything

and they're likely violent

and likely noticable

and likely very dissociative

and likely literal hell every time

[antlerkitty]

Every time people vent about “stupid people” I get a pit in my stomach and start feeling sick. Because that’s me. That’s MSN and HSN/level 2 and 3 autistics. That’s people with moderate-severe ADHD. That’s severely dissociative people. That’s intellectually disabled and cognitively disabled people. That’s nonverbal, semiverbal, and some demiverbal people.

That’s the term that most of us have been described as our entire lives. That’s the term that’s been screamed at us. That’s the excuse used to abuse and neglect us.

“Stupid people” are people! Believe it or not we are real, live, actual people with real feelings and real trauma around that term. Stop fucking venting about “stupid people”. Especially when you’re the most privileged disability-wise of a group. People see that shit. That shit hurts.

[antlerkitty]

Being on the aromantic spectrum is so confusing, because I hear people talk about romantic vs platonic love, and like… what is the difference? I always just thought it was a label. If you’re dating, it’s romantic. If not, platonic. But apparently it’s not that???

[antlerkitty]

Hello, I’m Antlerkitty!

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Tag system:

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Anti-radqueer, and accepting of all system origins. Not super into syscourse but will occasionally post something about it. Pro educated self-diagnosis for most conditions (not intellectual disability or autism catatonia).

~•~ About me ~•~ (PT: About me)

Norms:

I can and will type a lot due to hyperlexia. I will provide TL;DR and essay warnings if needed, but please do not comment on it. I also struggle to understand many things due to cognitive disability, please be patient with me.

Disabilities:

MSN autistic w/ PDA and have been MSN since early childhood. I also have ADHD combined type, OCD, dissociative identity disorder, and more. I have speech issues and often use AAC.

Dx unspecified connective tissue disorder (suspected hEDS), GERD + IBS, mild chronic pain, significant chronic fatigue, dysautonomia. I use a cane almost daily for a majority of the day.

Queer:

He/They. I identify as xeno/bigender cistrans, butch, T4T lesbian, altersex, and transmasc. I use mirror pronouns for our system, so if you say “we”, I will also say “we”, and if you say “I”, I will too.

Other:

I have movement-to-sound and duality synesthesia. I’m otherkin and fictionkin, my kintypes are primarily a cosmic shapeshifter goddess and secondarily Lion from Steven Universe. I’m also chronosian.

Plushies/kidcore are my comfort interests! Sideblog @starkitty-is-small for that stuff.

[antlerkitty]

Yes, this. I’ve gone from not physically disabled/only having episodes of being physically disabled (due to dislocations and such) to being physically disabled almost 24/7, chronic pain sometimes reaching a 10 where I was unable to move and had to take shallow breaths because everything hurt so bad. And it’s just been a lot of crying and frustration, especially lately as I realize the pain, fatigue, and “illness” is not going away like I hoped it would.

if you've spontaneously become disabled be gentle with yourself. it takes time to adjust to your new normal and that's okay. it's not a race to refigure out your life, you have time. it's okay to grieve and it's okay to mourn, it is a loss. your life is not over and you can get through this. it's hard and it's unfair but you will learn to live again.

[antlerkitty]

So upset that there’s an influx of abled/mildly disabled queer (white?) people acting like they’re one of the most at-risk groups during this election and they’re the most likely to die from this.

(This is specifically disability-related, do not derail)

[antlerkitty]

So badly want to apologize for yelling and kicking during meltdown, but then it leaves spot open for person I yelled at to be like “you’re a shitty person and I think you should just not have meltdown” or “I think you hormonal” or even “I think you should be institutionalized if this is how your meltdowns are”

(Usually hide during meltdowns due to PTSD)

[antlerkitty]

It fucking sucks to have one of the most impactful books I’ve ever read as a HrSN person be criticized by LrSN people for the character being too stereotypical and “outdated”. Am gonna reread it (read it initially 2 years ago and it really made me feel seen), and if it’s still good, I’m going to post about it.

[antlerkitty]

The lack of higher support needs main characters in media that actually have personality and interests and hopes and aren’t just a joke basically is really upsetting. And I want to see queer HrSN characters too! So many of us are queer but the little representation I’ve found so far is always straight and cisgender (and likely perisex though can’t be sure).

Every time I consume media with queer people it makes me a bit sad and upset because they’re usually not disabled, and if they are, they’re LrSN. Makes me feel like we have no place and no hope. This site is the closest I’ve gotten so far to having real hope that we can have good lives, because I actually hear about diverse experiences. But in my life, and in media, I feel like I’m falling behind. I don’t get to have the same hopes and dreams as my peers, I don’t get to have my biggest worries be getting a job or driving or whatever. I desperately want to just see others like me. Who made it anyway and who are ok anyway.

[antlerkitty]

Sorry that I totally ghosted you when you didn’t text me first, I live in my own little world where I don’t understand that other people are real.

[antlerkitty]

AAC process feels too fast. Will have to do the scary part soon where I use it. Have attempted so many times. But always ends in feeling mocked.

Just don’t know if am ready to accept high tech AAC, don’t know if am fully ready to admit I need it or deal with the ableism. Verbal regression was such a horrible traumatic experience. Catatonia was such a horrible traumatic experience. Don’t want to relive ever.

[antlerkitty]

I desperately need to see any sort of representation of higher support needs people dating other higher support needs people. Because I am struggling. With lack of representation it feels like dating my girlfriend (HSN) while being MSN is just impossible.

[antlerkitty]

Me? Grieving over being HrSN after subconsciously delaying my discovery of it and convincing myself I'm just a really broken LrSN person for almost a year??? Nooooo *laughs awkwardly* that's not me... not at all...