#antiBDSM

[prodigalwitch]

Women have been so gaslit by pro-BDSM pro-kink culture that they're unsure if acts that feel humiliating and degrading actually are...

[dollychic222]

Are their any radfem/rad leaning/anti porn ex consumers? I found it at 9 and consumed from 10, 11 something like that to 14 years old. I feel like im alone in this and idk. I feel ashamed of myself for thinking it was okay sometimes I cry about it. It consumes me. I'll be 18 soon

[dworkinlover]

I’m primarily an ed blog but I’ve kinda been radicalized. I want to speak to more radfems, but I don’t want to abandon any of my friends in the ed community. Do you have any advice? And if I don’t nuke all my posts would you mind if I still followed you?

Hi! I completely understand how you feel and want to firstly say I empathise 💜💜. It is a strange feeling to be sort of teetering on the edge where you see yourself as a radical feminist but aren't fully "in" as part of the community. I do want you to know that you are very welcome on radblr, and while I can't speak for everyone, I think most of us are very happy to see new faces.

I absolutely don't mind if you follow me, and honestly I doubt that anyone in your community will care enough to sift through everyone you follow and call you out on following a radfem blog or two. There is definitely no need to get rid of all your existing posts!!

That said, an option might be to create a sideblog that is fully dedicated to radblr. Another alternative could be looking for radical feminist communities on other platforms, on which you'd feel more comfortable following radfem-aligned content. I'll use this post as an opportunity to make some reference lists to three other social media: reddit, pinterest, and instagram.

Reddit: r/PornIsMisogyny, r/AntiPornography, r/AntiSexWork, r/AntiKink, r/AntiBDSM, r/4B, r/WereNotEmpowered, r/BanFemaleHateSubs, r/DeppDelusion, r/FourthWaveWomen, r/FemaleAntinatalism, r/RadicalFeminism, r/WGTOW.

Disclaimer: not all of these subreddits are completely radfem, because reddit bans radfem subs pretty often, especially where it detects anything mildly terfy (most recent example being r/FemaleSeparatists). There are also private subs like r/FemalePessimist. People sometimes start radical feminist discord servers and spread the word about them via reddit.

Pinterest: this is a bit harder because there aren't really accounts that I follow on there, but there definitely is a lot of radfem content (it's how I got introduced to it actually). Here is a link to my related saved pins - maybe if you save a few, the pinterest algorithm will stsrt showing you that kind of content.

Instagram: prowomyn, female.liberation, femaleradicalized, ogdyke, radfemlibrary, raddish.haggish, anticornfeminist, burningtheroots, gravvefem, labrysliterati, women.are.females, labryswrites, misandryisahoax, wmstonline, radfeminology, xxliberationfront, 4bmovement2024, 4bworldwide, radfemw1tch, xx_revolt, please_save_us_andrea_dworkin.

if anyone has any to add to these lists please do let me know!!

[tardigradetheking]

Youre assuming that all doms are men when they just aren't. No one is saying you have to be into kinks and bdsm. I am however saying that if you don't know much about bdsm and assume it's vial and discusting then you're the reactionary one.

mfs be like "actually im really punk and edgy and blablabla" because they are kinksters and "their way of having sex defies the original patriarchal-christian-far-right-child-bearing missionary sex" but dont realize that hook up culture, kink as a whole (specially domination related), open relationships (more often than not, doing it wrong) still serves to the patriarchy, you guys are actually just reactionary

[strezzedanddeprezzed]

A lot of ‘kink/bdsm positive’ people dismiss criticism against porn because they think it comes from conservative prudes who believe sex before marriage is scandalous when in reality most people who speak out against porn are former sex workers. But I guess it’s so much easier debunk someone who thinks porn and sex work is a sin against God than it is to dismiss girls who get trapped in the industry and see how things work firsthand.

[lovingdeathmetalbygendercritical]

I hate the way people talk about sex. I hate the way sex is seen by people. The fact that they think sex is about dominance and submission. That it is a relationship of dominance and submission.

Sex is – or at least should be – about exchange, trust, affection. Not about one person dominating the other. Sex is something that has all the potential in the world to be beautiful, but human beings prefer to turn it into something dirty, repulsive, dishonest, selfish, violent. This makes me extremely disappointed.

[tardigradetheking]

This is a false equivalency. Bdsm is like being on a rollercoaster, watching a horror movie, or reading a tragedy. None of these things are for everyone but they shouldn't have to be. I'm not going to explain the psychology of it because that's besides the point. All that matters is that some people are wired differently and that the motto of the bdsm community is safe, sane, concentual.

To clarify I totally agree about how pedophilic sexualizing 900 year old what evers that look like six year olds are.

Someone please fucking explain to me how "bro chill she's actually a 9000 year old vampire, she just looks 12" is considered stupid and no defence for being a paedo, but "bro chill she's actually just acting and she's only pretending to be raped/abused" is considered by so many to be a perfectly normal excuse for getting off from rape?

In the first case, the person saying this is a paedo because they're only attracted to the "9000 year old vampire" because it looks like an underage minor girl. Similarly, in the second case, the person saying this is only attracted to the "completely consensual fetish/kink" because it resembles rape/abuse.

If you find rape sexy, you're fucked up. It's not "just a fetish". You're sick in the head. End of.

[misfoldedproteins]

“You’re just anti BDSM because you’re a boring vanilla” Ok well when the other flavors are misogynistic shit-slurry and puke-piss pedophilic, I’ll take normal and loving vanilla thanks. Not to mention you just know half the dumbasses who spout that nonsense spend all day getting off to weird anime porn while not ever having any actual sex 💀💀💀

[anti-porn-unicorn]

[womenagainstsexbots-blog]

“Men like to repeat the intentional lie that sex robots are some type of collective punishment that is deserved by women...a sort of natural payback for women of the world's cumulative failure to properly submit to insatiable patriarchal desire for control and violence over women, our bodies, and reproduction. 

Sex Robots are the ultimate male fantasy of female submission as they represent a female that can not refuse or fight back against their patriarchal and misogynist desires.” 

-@XXagainstSexBot

[strezzedanddeprezzed]

selective wokeness

One thing that annoys me about people around my age (teens/ early 20s) is how aware and open they are about trauma and abuse but are somehow extremely supportive of porn/BDSM. I can see a tiktok about how to recognize signs of abuse in a relationship or one explaining love bombing and trauma bonding, then see a video from the same user about the essentials of aftercare or how to take care of your ‘sub’ after a rough session. It makes no sense to me.

[anti-porn-unicorn]

[wombderfulresistance]

The same person who tried to argue that DDLG wasn’t pedophilia literally tried inviting me to a BDSM group.... yeah no.

Fuck you.

If I’m not into DDLG, what the fuck makes you think I’d be interested in its parent cesspool of human depravity?

Literally fuck off edgelord prick.

[tardigradetheking]

So women have no agency even when tying up a man and ordering them around? Got it.

female empowerment in kink

Dressing in a ridiculous costume, performing a role for a man. The most empowering thing a woman can do apparently is exactly what some dude wants lol

[womenagainstsexbots-blog]

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