#and then they make wildly incorrect assumptions about me

[tidal-chaos]

on an unrelated note do yall actually want to be remembered after death? isnt death supposed to be a break from the horrors of being perceived. what am i missing

[grimtoucher]

Idk why y'all are so scared of being perceived. If I don't shout from the rooftops that I want attention from every stranger in my immediate radius then I immediately contract blacklung

[mochinek0]

Daminette December: 19-Asking Advice

INSPIRED BY THIS COMIC BY  @penn-dragon on tumblr

<The other day I was dying laughing at the thought of Zoro (first time feeling attraction) talking to Luffy (never felt attraction in his life) about his feelings for Sanji and them coming up with a wildly incorrect assumption about what's happening>

As six year old Damian looked over the books, his mother had brought him, he reread a part of the book. After three times, he had made his decision.

"Mother, I cannot be around my servant anymore." Damian declared.

'The servant girl?'

"Why not?" Talia questioned, "You are far more powerful than her. If she acts out of line, punish her."

"I'm allergic to her." her son responded.

'What?'

"Explain." she demanded.

"According to this medical book, my palm perspire, nausea, difficulty speaking or breathing momentarily, and tightness in my chest." Damian explained, "All of these symptoms are listen under allergies. There are severe symptoms as well, but I have yet to be that effected."

"I see." Talia replied, then smiled, "I shall have her removed."

"Thank you, Mother." Damian spoke.

Talia stormed over to the servant quarters.

'That little bitch thinks she can seduce my son. She thinks she can replace me? One of the older ladies must have put her up to it! They will learn to bow to us and they will learn to never disrespect us, again!'

Talia watched as the girl gasped for air, dragging her body out of the pit. It was the second time she crawled out. Talia watched as she walked over and sat in position again.

"Talia, enough!" Ra's commanded, suddenly.

"She is causing conflict with your heir!" Talia growled out, "She is weakening him! He-"

"Damian is a child. If you wish to be rid of her that badly, send her away." Ra spoke, "He will liekly forget she existed."

Talia looked down at the child and backhanded her once more.

'Lucky brat.'

When she woke up, she was in a hospital, hooked up to wires. She couldn't communicate with the staff until later. All she told them was her master hit her because she was wrong. She was unnamed and had no parents. A year later, she was adopted and given the name Marinette Dupain-Cheng.

"God, I really like this guy, Damian." Jon spoke, floating in his best friend's room, "He makes my heart flutter and my stomach gets into knots. Just looking at him, my breath hitches."

Damian rolled his eyes, "You're allergic to him. Stay away from him."

Jon laughed for a moment, but the look on Damian's face told him he was serious. Jon landed on his bed.

"No." Jon spoke.

"Yes." Damian corrected him, "You're experiencing-"

"Damian have you never had a crush?" Jon asked, "Well, I guess you haven't but-"

"Crush?" Damian questioned.

"Uh, attraction for another person. That is what I have been describing." Jon answered, "You just want to be near them or know what they are doing. You want to show off to them; you want to make them happy. The butterflies in your stomach feeling!"

Jon could read the confusion on his best friend's face.

"Shortness of breath just from looking at them." Damian spoke, "That's' not an allergy? You like them."

"Yep." Jon smiled.

"Mother, I cannot be around my servant anymore." Damian declared.

"Why not?" Talia questioned, "You are far more powerful than her. If she acts out of line, punish her."

"I'm allergic to her." her son responded.

"Explain." she demanded.

"According to this medical book, my palm perspire, nausea, difficulty speaking or breathing momentarily, and tightness in my chest." Damian explained, "All of these symptoms are listen under allergies. There are severe symptoms as well, but I have yet to be that effected."

"I see." Talia replied, then smiled, "I shall have her removed."

"Thank you, Mother." Damian spoke.

"You really need to work on your people skills." Jon declared, "I know assassins are suppose to be emotionless, but they can also read people and body languages; at least in the movies, anyways."

Damian nodded.

'I think I got my first crush killed.'

Damian sighed as they waited for the Parisian class that was coming to Wayne Enterprises. His father had don another ridiculous contest. One glance at his brothers told him they didn't want to be there either. He was seventeen and had finals to study for; he didn't want to play babysitter.

"Welcome to Wayne Enterprises." Bruce spoke, as they lined up in the entrance.

"Wait!" a voice called out, "Sorry! I'm here!"

They all turned and saw a girl carrying a lot of bags. Damian quickly recognized her and rushed over to hug her.

"I am sorry, Habibiti." he whispered in Arabic.

"Master Damian?" she questioned back.

"I did not know." he continued to whisper in Arabic, "I assumed you to be deceased."

Everyone froze in shock as the youngest Wayne hugged a girl. Quickly his brothers sprung into action and demanded the class to carry their own bags. Once that was all settled, Bruce walked up to his son and the young lady.

"Hello, I'm Bruce Wayne; Damian's father." He announced, holding out his hand.

"Oh!" Mari quickly shook his hand, "I always thought he looked like his mother, but I can see the resemblance."

Damian glared at his brothers, seeing them tense up.

"Uh, what is your name?" Dick prodded.

Mari smiled, "Marinette Dupain-Cheng."

"You can call me Damian Wayne." His son spoke.

Mari blushed and shrugged, "Seems your important everywhere you go, huh?"

"Doesn't make you any less important to me." Damian replied.

Marinette felt her face flame up, making the Waynes smile.

"How do you know Marinette?" Rose asked.

"Marinette and I grew up together." Damian answered, "The last time I saw her, she was five years old."

"So, you knew Mari before you met Lila?" Nathaniel prodded.

"Who?" he questioned.

"Lila!" shouted Alya, "She played at Wayne Manor-"

"I am to assume you are speaking of Ms. Rossi, in his scenario." Damian pushed back.

"Uh...yeah?" scoffed Kim.

"Ms. Rossi, step forward." Bruce spoke.

The class quickly shoved her to the front to give the childhood sweethearts a reunion. Damian gently pushed Marinette behind him.

"Hi." Lila blushed, attempting to look shy, "Damian."

"Ms. Rossi." spoke Bruce, "My son won't hesitate to sue you for slander and defamation of his character."

"Huh?" she spoke, "But."

She looked over to see Damian Wayne glaring at her.

"I never met my son, let alone knew about his existence, until his mother dropped him off with me at ten years old." Bruce declared, "My son never 'played'."

"Lila doesn't lie!" Alya pushed.

"If you had looked up about Damian, at all, most articles are about Bruce getting him at age ten. There has never been a mention of his mother." Tim announced, "Damian doesn't even go to galas because of how anti-social he is."

"Not anti-social, Timmy" Jason interjected, "Violent. Some girl hit on him at school, so he punched her."

Tim continued, "All evidence of this fabricated lie, could have been found through the simple use of Google. Even papers like the Gotham Gazette or the Daily Planet talk about Damian."

Dick grabbed Tim's coffee mug and sniffed it. He quickly handed it back and leaned towards Jason.

"Decaf." he whispered.

"So he'll be snippy for two more hours, then pass out." Jason whispered back.

'Go Alfred.'

Alya turned to look at Lila, "Why would you lie to us? We're your friends. You-You said he took you out to dinner. You told us you guys had steak and lobster."

"I would never eat steak; I'm a vegetarian." Damian growled, "I own a cow as a pet."

"You do?" Marinette asked.

Damian quickly pulled out his phone and showed her a picture.

"They look so soft! Do you have any other pets?" she questioned.

"Five. You must come see them." Damian declared.

"How about the tour first." Bruce interrupted, "We can get permission from your adopted parents about coming over or finding spare time so you may visit her."

"Adopted?" Adrien asked.

"Mother didn't do too much, did she?" Damian questioned, ignoring the question from the model.

Marinette simply looked down.

"Marinette?" Damian prodded.

"I woke up, twice, in the pools." she confessed with a sad smile, "Your grandfather told her to let me go. Next thing I knew, I was in a hospital in Paris."

"We can discuss the past in a more private section later." Bruce spoke in Arabic.

"Yes, Father." Damian answered in the same language.

"Yes, Mr. Wayne." Mari followed.

Bruce smiled, "You can call me Bruce."

Damian grabbed Marinette's hand and pulled her towards the start of the tour. The class followed, silently. They were unsure what to do. Marinette was smiling and had connections to the Wayne family. Lila was in the far back, embarrassed. She hadn't expected the Waynes to call her out, in front of everyone, or threaten her with a lawsuit. She could already hear the whispers.

"We should look up what Lila's been saying."

"I'm sure it wasn't....that many lies."

"Obviously we can't rely on our journalist blogger anymore."

"Yeah."

"Marinette's been calling her a liar for years."

"Do you think we messed up?"

"I hope not."

That night, Damian looked down at the phone in his hand. His father was waiting to hear back from Tom and Sabine about Marinette's new supervision adjustment. His finger hovered over Jon's name. He took a deep breath, knowing the only outcome that would be possible from him.

"Damian?" answered Jon.

"How do you ask out your crush?" the youngest Wayne questioned.

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[pages-and-1nk]

PLEASE IF YOURE A JILY OR JEGULUS SHIPPER READ THIS BECAUSE IT HAS TO FUCKING STOP U GUYS.

I’m done with the ridiculous conversation on Jily shippers harassing Jegulus shippers. (And vice versa, this one just covers Jily hate on Jegulus) Please read my breakdown response to the most common argument presented as to why Jegulus is bad.

🙏 PLEASE 🙏 .

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Oh okay jumping RIGHT into it. *Deep breath*

No. No it’s actually not. As a gay trans man, your take is incorrect and actually so fucking wild it astounds me you think that way. To break it down MISOGYNY is the hatred or prejudice against women. Someone taking two male characters- even if one has a canon gf- and shipping them together does not in anyway promote misogyny nor the erasure of the gf. Infact, implying that in order for Lily to be important or developed she has to date James is actually, ironically, misogynistic.

Now is that to say all jegulus shippers ARENT misogynist or have such views? NO, ofc there are bad apples everywhere- doesn’t mean the whole bag is spoiled. Misogyny is not preferring a gay pairing to a cannon heterosexual pairing. Thats frankly a stupid argument and you’re just attaching words with negative connotations to a ship you don’t like, to then make your ship seem more morally righteous and superior and discredit anyone who argues with you by labeling them as misogynistic. (That does more harm then good btw as it discredits and devalues actual misogyny in fan spaces)

As for fetishization, also not inherently. People enjoying a masc and a twink together is not fetishization inherently. Now, it’s a thin line to walk, and in order to do that you must have critical thinking and be able to understand THESE FAKE GAY MEN are not ALL REAL GAY MEN, but it being the dynamic of a ship you like is… not fetishization. Obsessing and harassing REAL gay men and being invested in their sexuality and sexual experiences is fetishization. Please understand the weight of the words you are using, and how throwing them around in such a context not only makes you look like a buffoon but also is wildly undermining to the weight those words hold.

Smh.

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Gonna go cry myself to sleep now brb.

But SERIOUSLY? Implying that Regulus is watered down to “James’ twink” tells me you have never actually engaged with Jegulus shippers before and have made broad assumptions about a ship you’ve never even given a chance.

Crimson rivers, choices, art heist baby, only the brave, teach them how to dream, whatever happened to the young young lovers, I COULD GO ON. All of them have well rounded character designs for Regulus- but because you can’t take your head out of your ass and are too focused on how bad of a ship Jegulus is, you’ll never read them!

(Which valid, you don’t have to like Jegulus Jily shippers, in fact- you can loath it as much as you want, but you can’t talk about characterization when you’ve uh… never actually read the characterization)

And those last few sentences? Oh man. James cheating on Lily is like SUCH A SMALL fraction of fanfic/works, such a small fraction. Unless you imply that James could stake a claim to Lily before Lily even agrees to them dating which uh… *cough cough*…. I smell misogyny again… *cough cough.*

Like bsffr rn. 😐

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Oh god I think I threw up in my mouth hold on-

First- yes. Jily is an amazing ship that can be wholesome and lovely, and is such a beautifully tragic form of love I will ALWAYS respect it and the people who ship it. Me personally, I don’t read fanfic with Jily, but I def engage with Jily related content bcs it’s GOOD.

But you see, people like you simply ruin it for those who are Jegulus shippers and want to Drabble in Jily because you are TOXIC.

No one is reducing Lily to a baby maker for Jegulus. In fact, I’ve seen more fics with TRANS REGULUS GETTING PREGNANT than I have with surrogate Lily. And even in the surrogate Lily fics, it’s usually well written and Lily has a personality beyond “baby maker” and is just a friend consensually agreeing to help a queer couple out with having a child.

There’s also fics where they co-parent Harry, and if that’s what you’re talking about AGAIN that’s literally normal. I’m a child of divorce, my parents co parent- that’s just how bloody divorce works it isn’t misogynist.

As for the canonical death eater bit- please tell me which part of the canon text refers to regulus being a blood purist. He joined Voldemort, correct, he also rebelled against Voldemort- correct. All of the reasons for him doing both of those things are ASSUMPTIONS MADE BY INFERENCES FROM A BIASED PERSPECTIVE.

Obviously you can have your own preferences on what regulus was like, as can I, because CANNON INFORMATION is LIMITED. Therefore, you can do what you want.

And even if it wasn’t you could still, do what you want BECAUSE ITS FICTIONAL.

Please, I am begging you, for my sanity and your own, just stop. All of it needs to stop. You get no where by tearing another ship down, it won’t stop and you just leave a bad taste in the mouths of people who want to ship Jily but are Jegulus shippers.

This applies to both sides BY THE WAY, Jegulus shippers have a problem with inserting themselves in Jily spaces, or within other ships, or feeling the need to comment on ships with Regulus or James in them and say things like “Jegulus is better” or “ew that’s so weird” (I saw this in particular with kittywater) We all need to realize that unless we just stick in our lanes and fuck off, we’re going to continue promoting toxicity in this fandom.

I love Jily, I love Jegulus, IM PROOF WE CAN LIVE IN HARMONY JUST KNOCK IT OFF, PULL YOUR PANTS UP, AND GROW TF UP!

Anyways thanks for coming to my ted talk, I’m really upset over this post and I just needed to rant. Please reblog this so it reaches more people.

(Also I have not tagged the creator of this post, because I don’t want harassment to befall them. Signed- the author)

[shinesurge]

Another much much bigger creator got an ask a while ago that I can't find now that was the fairly common "How do I become Friends with you" and their answer was very good imo, it basically boiled down to "if I make friends online it's usually with other creators, because we like each others' work" but also gently pointed out how uncomfortable that is to ask someone in general. I've sort of had this problem my whole life for complicated reasons even outside the context of my work but IN that context it's pretty straightforward at least. Probably a good time to remind everybody that the version of someone you're getting through their work (or social media) is always an incomplete picture, even if the part you're seeing is genuine, and also that even then the playing field is wildly unbalanced.

I basically go to work every day and display all my organs on the outside; it is carefully curated but still very vulnerable and Exposed. I'm okay with that, I signed up for this, and I'm very happy when people show up and appreciate the thing. But showing up to this event for a few minutes, guts still safely zipped up, and thinking we are on level footing to form a healthy relationship is incorrect. I also can't stress enough that the answer is not to spill YOUR organs all over the display, this would just make a mess and will not, in fact, bring us closer.

I know people mean well, and I've probably brought this on myself by interacting with my audience so much (which I'm still going to do, things aren't that dire yet lmao) but the vibe is starting to shift for whatever reason and I just wanted to talk about it a little I guess. It's certainly not impossible to make friends with random folks on social media, I do it all the time when things line up, but please try to practice some awareness of the imbalance going on when you're interacting with a creator based on assumptions you got from their work. I think it's cool you like what you see, I made it hoping that would be the case! And, in the channels I've laid out with boundaries for my own well-being, I am usually happy to interact in kind with the folks who make an effort to show up. But please don't forget there are a lot more of you than me, you know a LOT more about me than I do you, and even that picture is incomplete; almost definitely some of the gaps have been filled in incorrectly. I'm here to bring y'all my work, and outside of very specific situations that is the context I like to keep things in. Please don't follow me to my car after the exhibit is done.

[an-ruraiocht]

anyone else have people continuously make wildly incorrect assumptions about you because of your interests? for me as a queer medievalist, irish speaker, and folk musician, it's a) that people expect me to be interested in ttrpgs and i really really am not, and b) that they often think i'll be interested in more mystical/magical/superstitious things and i'm also really not that, i'm a deeply unmystical cynic who is at best vaguely agnostic towards a "cosmic force" kind of godconcept and doesn't vibe with personified god(s) of any variety

i do my best to be polite about both misinterpretations but boy sometimes people project their expectations onto you hard and by the time you've realised that they've fundamentally misunderstood your personality it can be pretty awkward to be like "i'm sorry but you have mistaken me for an entirely different genre of person"

[butts-bouncing-on-the-beltway]

hi, do you have suggestions for what kinds of thing to look for when looking for community food resources? i'm assuming not food banks, since those are the most affected by things like food shipment freezes? (i'm asking from the perspective of someone who can't do manual labor, which probably is different than someone physically abled since there's "grow your own" and "swap labor time for produce at a farm program" as options, but i'm sure some insight into how to find those options would also help for readers who do manual labor themselves and i'm not opposed to hearing about those as well. there's a pretty good manual-labor-for-produce program at a farm in my town, i've often wished they had stuff a full-time wheelchair user could benefit from because it's really cool!)

I get a lot of asks like this that seem to be trying to ask for advice about what they can do, but it is ALWAYS and EXCLUSIVELY framed from the perspective of the "can'ts" they have clearly already dismissed as possibilities before ever reaching out to me. This is. Becoming increasingly difficult to be patient with. Especially when there is an air of defensiveness to it where you already seem to know that the answers I will give are answers you will not interact with, even if you are, as you say, willing to hear about them.

I am having a hard time answering this question without becoming unreasonable to you, Anon, and I'm really going to try and manage that reaction in myself, but I need people to understand something.

Right now, there is a wheel chair parked in our garage near the car. This is because I have been reliant on it off and on for going on five years now. Right now as I type this I am dressed in three layers of high-compression medical garments so that it is AT ALL possible for me to even SIT UPRIGHT let alone stand. I am due for an infusion I cannot afford because my hypovolemia and malabsorption issues are so bad. These are not new issues for me, and I have struggled with them to some extent my entire life. I will struggle with them until I die.

Please hear me when I say that people like us are taught to minimize and sabotage our own capacity at every opportunity, rare tho they may legitimately be. It will NEVER benefit you to assert that you are unilaterally incapable of a term like "manual labor" which is a phrase so broad as to be meaningless in this context. I have harvested crops while wheelchair bound, I've known construction workers who couldn't walk without crutches and canes. I've known practically nothing but other disabled people my entire life, and I cannot convey to you how it makes me feel to read this ask. This is not a criticism of you anon. Certainly disability definitionally limits us in ways that disrupt our lives. But there is a pervasive and frightened helplessness in how this ask feels to read that sets my teeth on edge as someone who is painfully familiar with the way disabled people are subjugated, disempowered, and erased from community.

Anon I don't know how to answer your question. You haven't told me what you CAN do or even what you're INTERESTED in doing. I don't even fully understand whether you are asking me for advice on how to volunteer or on how to access food aid programs and the two answers are wildly different. You have spent so much time describing assumptions that would take paragraphs for me to explain how irrelevant and incorrect they are, and framed them AS your question, so I literally cannot answer this without saying things like "You Can Do Manual Labor If You Are Disabled" [true but out of context is absolutely laughably untrue and difficult to ensure context is not lost around] or "What Do You Mean You Assume Food Banks Being Most Affected By The Freezes Means You Shouldn't Use Or Work With Them???" [Condescending, likely to trigger defensiveness, but seriously I have NO IDEA where you got this idea or how to explain why it's wrong given the circumstances], or even "You Are Talking About Yourself In Ways That I And Many Other Disabled People Have Resisted As Oppressive Infantilization For Decades And Trying To Have This Conversation Makes Me Feel Like Armand In The Birdcage When His Son Asks Him to Go Back In The Closet For A Night So He Can Avoid Confronting His In-Laws' Bigotry" [true, my feelings on this are not your fault and you should not have to be accountable for them, but the grief and rage are hard to swallow, even when I can see how hard you are trying to have this conversation yourself. Like Armand, time will pass and I will settle into the reality that loving others means swallowing my own pain sometimes and being there for them in ways that are hard on me. This is one of those times. It is worthwhile to me to do. But I can still hear the last words Armand and Val say to each other when Armand finally gives in. "I love you Val, please don't talk to me for a while". I love you Val, but what you have asked of me is almost more pain than I can bear and just because I love you enough to do this for you doesn't mean I have forgiven you for asking.]. You may notice that none of these are helpful things to say, for you OR me Anon.

So. Let's get down to brass tacks. When I was growing up, we were poor enough that my mother often struggled to keep us fed and housed. Here are the ways she taught me to cope with this:

Grow your own. My mom grew tea flowers, edible cactus, and kitchen herbs in tiny standing pots in our driveway. When all you have is beans and rice, a nice kit of dried herbs can help you keep the recipes varied more easily. You can use window boxes, grow tents, or even indoor hydroponics stands to grow herbs, edible flowers, and even some fruits like tomatoes and strawberries. Many of these smaller scale growing set ups are perfectly manageable from a wheel chair as long as the stands, sills, or tablea your pots are set on are accessible to you from your chair. You do not need to be able to do the most intense version of a thing for it to be worth doing and not everyone will need/be able to build a greenhouse and drying racks like I am doing. There is still value in setting up any amount of home growth or forage you can. There were a lot of "fasting days" in our household where my mother made teas from the native honeysuckle and wildflowers and grasses because it was all she had to feed us. On days when we had nothing but our teas, she kept chewable tablets of vitamin c, fiber, and B-12 vitamins, multivits too if she could, and we popped them throughout the day to bridge the nutritional gap, and she always made sure we never did it more than 3 days in a row no matter what it took.

Barter and trade. Others will have larger gardens with bumper crops they can afford to share. You have SOMETHING to trade even if you don't think you do. And even if you don't, seed packs are cheap and can often be purchased using food stamps/ebt/snap/wic and I have supplied other farmers/gardeners with the resources to plant more in exchange for them including these crops in their existing plans and providing me with some pre-negotiated portion of it.

Food banks and food fridges are going to be under seige, yes, but please understand this Is Not New even if the scale and intensity has escalated. These programs will survive. They will continue to provide for their communities. Do not deny yourself their aid before even showing up to learn from them directly how they are tackling this period. My local food banks are still in full operation, and while they have had to reduce how many monthly pick ups a single family can make, they are still supplying about 10lbs of food per household per week, which can absolutely make or break community nourishment rates. Plus, the more service they can prove they are still offering, the easier it is for them to get funding elsewhere. No one in the mutual aid or not for profit world relies EXCLUSIVELY on government resources, even the foster care agency I worked for had two yearly funding drives and a yearly holiday gift drive to round out the financials. These programs know what efforts they'll need to ramp up to survive, but they only know HOW MUCH THEY NEED TO RAMP UP if people are actually showing up for services. Please god show up for the services.

Local, family owned, and co-op grocers and restaurants will sometimes be willing to give away the food they need to pull out of the supplies at the end of each day. When I was growing up my mom made friends with someone at every shop like this she could so they could help her ensure this happened. When I was working in grocery stocking, there was a cart we had to purge things into every single shift, and we all worked together to ensure the cart only ever had genuinely rotten or unsafe food in it. The staff all split the rest between us if it was still edible because none of us were paid enough to feed our families. When management put up cameras to find out where the purged stock was going, we made sure they were always blocked by shelving or damaged beyond functionality so that we could continue. If you know enough other people doing this at their stores, you can pool resources even further and start your own food distribution networks within the community food source employees.

Trapping and hunting isn't as difficult as you might think, and it is still legal in many places. If you're willing and able to set up a small wheel-up butchering station, you can ask people to bring you meat carcasses and butcher them in exchange for a cut of the meat or some stew bones. That way even if you aren't able to trap or hunt, you can still barter and trade a service for it.

Farmshare programs are common, and while most have a "pick your own at a discount" version of their service, most also have a crate drop off or pick up option as well, including those priced on a sliding scale for people who lack the finances to fully enroll. Check out (or have a caregiver/friend check out) local farmer's markets until they find where these programs are doing their pick up and sign up outreach.

I'm sure there are other ways to survive a USA socially-engineered famine. Other people who have their own inherited approaches for surviving subsistence lives here should prolly add theirs in the comments. My experience is limited to what I have lived through and find accessible so I may not have a full view of the options. As always though, my advice on how to get involved is to start using the service as much as you are able and little by little learn about what support and participation the program actually needs. Eventually something will turn up that works for you, at least for a while. Just keep doing that and doing the things that are feasible and moving on without guilt from the ones that aren't.

A freeze survival reaction is easy to have right now. Momentum will matter. Find yours, however it needs to look.

[probably-catherine-clover]

Hey. I’m sorry to be a bother, I just don’t want to let this go without saying something. I’m a trans, gay Christian. I’m very uncomfortable by Sophie’s posts about God being plural, personally, but I don’t really care about “heresy” or anything like that. It just makes me feel wildly uncomfortable for a self described atheist to “headcanon” things about my religion in order to make anti-endos more upset.

I get how fun it is to poke fun at the assholes who are being stupid, but please keep in mind that some of us out here are just legitimately uncomfortable. I’m really tired of the assumption that I’m a homophobic bigot who hates plurals, just because I’m a Christian who’s uncomfortable with this comparison.

It’s not to make fun of antiendos. I mean, it’s useful in that way, sure, but Sophie is far from the first person to have this take. I first saw it about a year ago (in a space unrelated to plurality, even) and I’m sure most Christian plurals have at least considered it at some point.

God being plural is a lot more than a headcanon. It’s an (in my opinion completely valid) interpretation of already established canon; really just a slight reframing, some added context. I’d argue it has more legs than the Rapture, but it’s definitely a few steps up from “Peter’s favorite food was fish sandwich”.

Do you have any actual arguments for why it’s incorrect? Saying “God is [newishly public identity]” is well tired at this point, sure, but saying “God is singlet” is unambiguously heresy under any version of the Trinity.

[fandomite]

SPOILERS FOR A BALLAD OF SONGBIRDS AND SNAKES

Just want to preface this by saying I have yet to read the book (I had been given many [inaccurate] reviews of the book that put me off, so I refused to read it, I will be reading it now immediately now that I know those reviews were wildly incorrect), so I went into the movie with only the barest of bones of an idea of what it was about, having only read/watched the original Hunger Games trilogy years ago.

ANYWAY

One of the things that hit me like a train by the ending of the movie was the context switch up from the title itself.

“Songbirds and Snakes” and I’m sure we all made the same assumption of well obviously Lucy Gray is the Songbird and Snow is the Snake. Lucy Gray is literally referred to as “songbird” by others (usually in a derogatory way), obviously because she’s a singer and sang on the stage of her reaping. Snow is part of the Capitol where backstabbing is second nature, and most everyone is just poison and venom dressed in fine clothes. Lucy Gray is the colorfully dressed creature who lives life vibrantly while Snow is the sharp eyed student clad in blood red in a greedy world where friends just don’t happen. We see Snow literally cheat twice in the Games for Lucy Gray while she herself works to avoid the conflict and hide and wait it all out. Snow backstabs his only friend while we see Lucy Gray continue her life of performing onstage.

But then the third act of the movie happens. The ending happens. And the whole context of this dichotomy shifts.

Lucy Gray is the Snake. And Snow is the Songbird.

We see Snow get shipped off to District 12 as punishment for cheating. His clothing becomes grayed out, he himself looking washed out, his hair trimmed short, his wings clipped. Lucy however is seen thriving, singing, out in the open while performing, and back to living quietly but vibrantly with her troupe/family, a bracelet resembling a snake is on her wrist but not easily visibly. Snow becomes the songbird as he chooses to use the jabberjays, as he chooses to sing to Dr. Gaul of his friend’s plans that he sees as treason because he’ll never leave his nest. He acts on a hair trigger, only thinking it through after the fact, flies immediately into actions. We see him flit from place to place throughout the whole film, with urgency, and seemingly making things up as he goes, and they work out for the most part. He is eventually caught, like the jabberjays. Like a jabberjay, he’s constantly repeating the rhetoric of the Capitol that he’s grown up learning, and believes it, throwing it back at his companions with repetition and intensity, like the birds screaming the finals words of the Hanging Trees victims.

Lucy Gray meanwhile goes back to keeping to herself, only striking back or reacting if provoked. Her clothing is unusually colorful and keeps drawing people in, either being called a clown or having several people ask after it. It her mother’s and she admits to wearing it like armor, like a second skin, as protection for herself while in the Games, and finally sheds it when she returns home to the safety of her troupe and people. But her other outfits are just as colorful, just as eye-catching. Like venomous animals utilize as a warning. She uses poison in the Games rather than outright combat, she hides and waits out the majority if the danger until she can’t any longer, and is unaffected by the snakes as if she were one of them, due to them knowing her scent. She swerves and almost dances through the start of the Games and escapes death by inches. After she clues into Snow’s true nature, she lures him out to the cabin, where she slips through his fingers and escapes death once again, after loosing a snake on him and messing with his mind, and eventually disappears. Dr. Gaul calls her tank of snakes “a rainbow of destruction”, and Lucy Gray is quite literally a walking rainbow for the whole film.

Whether it was meant to be like this or not, neither character is blatantly cut-and-dry either a songbird or a snake, they’re both. But there’s a clear shift in their assigned role from the start of the film to the end of the film, and it’s so subtle and well done.

Sidenote: Dr. Gaul’s “blood” outfit is just a VISCERALLY excellently crafted piece that is perfect to getting her character across immediately, holy fucking hell. The red fade in from the top, to the white on the bottom half, as if she’s had her neck sliced and is bleeding out, to the wet leather red gloves and if her hands are coated in fresh blood. FUCK, DUDE—

[windsfavored]

anonymous &&. said... I absolutely love the thought and deepness you put into your headcanons, both the major and minor ones. Regardless if they're recently posted or from months ago, I feel giddy to see and read your posts, your Ren is very much fleshed out and full of depth! Thank you for being on my dash!

SJKDFK  THANK  YOU  FOR  THE  KIND  MESSAGE,  ANON!

wanderer  is  quite  literally  my  favorite  fictional  character  of  all  time  —  the  entire  reason  why  i  even  got  into  genshin  to  begin  with  was  through  unreconciled  stars.  i've  always  had  a  huge  soft  spot  for  characters  people  tend  to  perceive  as  mean  and  bratty  because  i  just  find  their  antics  more  entertaining  than  anything  else  and  scaramouche  scratched  that  itch  in  my  brain  perfectly.  couple  that  with  the  inherent  mystery  of  his  character  and  just  how  little  screentime  we  actually  had  to  work  with  at  first  and  i  was  sold  completely.  i  had  a  google  doc  filled  with  every  scrap  of  dialogue  and  artifact  set  description  so  i  could  analyze  them  for  clues  about  his  personality,  lore  and  speech  patterns.  i  woke  up  at  6am  to  check  twitter  the  day  his  drip  marketing  was  rumored  to  come  out.  my  original  url  was  based  on  a  leak  of  what  his  constellation  might  be.  (  it  was  wrong!  but  i  kept  it  because  i  thought  it  was  funny.  )  i  saved  enough  through  welkins  and  playing  daily  to  get  his  c6  the  moment  his  banner  actually  dropped.  writing  him  reignited  my  motivation  for  roleplaying  and  allowed  me  to  meet  my  closest  friends.  he  is  just  such  a  cool  and  important  character  to  me  and  i  think  he's  very  neat.  ✨

i  also  just  love  writing  muses  that  aren't  human?  i  used  to  also  write  albedo,  though  that  was  predominantly  on  discord  —  and  a  lot  of  my  non-genshin  muses  tend  not  to  be  entirely  human  either.  i  find  it  lends  itself  to  really  fun  headcanons  and  worldbuilding  —  i  like  looking  at  some  funky  little  guy  and  going  "huh.  how  do  you  work?"  and  kind  of  building  on  the  lore  from  there.  but  honestly,  i  think  ren  strikes  a  really  good  balance  where  delving  into  his  psychology  is  equally  as  fascinating.  his  brain  is  such  a  wild  place  —  he's  very  logical  and  methodical  but  also  deeply,  DEEPLY  emotional  and  so  many  of  his  actions  are  warped  by  past  experience.  he  makes  wildly  incorrect  assumptions.  he  lies  by  omission.  he's  unapologetically  blunt  —  but  he  really  does  mean  it  when  he  says  he  holds  everyone  to  the  same  standards,  himself  included.  he's  just  a  deeply  flawed  character  and  all  around  not  the  most  pleasant  person  to  be  around,  but  i  enjoy  portraying  his  negative  qualities  as  much  as  i  do  his  positive  ones.

unfortunately  for  everyone,  i  can  yap  about  this  menace  for  ages  when  i  feel  so  inclined.  SVSVJKD  tl;dr  thank  you  again  for  the  ask,  anon!  i  have  a  ton  of  fun  writing  ren,  and  it's  really  wonderful  knowing  other  people  are  enjoying  my  babbling  too!

[anxiousotters]

WIP Ask Game

I have a ton of WIPs and I desperately want to talk about them, so send me some asks! (I’m hoping this will force me to finish some of them)

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where the spirit meets the bones (series, four parts)

Canon-divergent “Concord Dawn happens differently” AU. Mainly Codywan with a side of JasTor

Part I (JasTor, Jaster Mereel & Arla Fett & Jango Fett): passed down like folk songs (the love lasts so long)

Part II (Jango Fett & Clones): tried to pick my battles 'til the battle picked me

Part III (Pre-relationship Codywan): in the cracks of light, i dreamed of you

Part IV (Codywan): one single thread of gold tied me to you

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Last Name: Kenobi (stand alone, oneshot)

No Order-66 AU. Codywan crack & fluff focused around Cody making a wildly incorrect assumption

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It’s, it’s— By God, it’s Cody with the Vigilante Shit Chair! (stand alone, oneshot)

Now finished!

Semi-Modern AU. Codywan crack & fluff, athlete x pop star

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everywhere, everything (stand alone, multi chapter)

Dark, (mostly) canon-compliant Order-66 AU. Set right before Tup’s chip malfunctions. Eventual Codywan, angst, hurt/ comfort

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the old therebefore (undetermined length)

Codywan x The Hunger Games crossover AU

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Marriage of Inconvenience (stand alone, undetermined length)

Canon-divergent arranged marriage AU. Set after Korda VI. JasTor, enemies to lovers

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Making War, Making Peace, Making Love (series, two parts)

Canon-divergent AU. Set before Korda VI. JasTor, focuses around a ritual challenge for the Darksaber/ mantle of Mand’alor— with a twist

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Parental Pandemonium (stand alone, oneshot)

Canon-divergent AU. Set after Korda VI. JasTor crack & fluff with a side of kid/ teen fic (Jango Fett & Pre Vizsla)

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[toskarin]

Dear toskarini would like to ask you is it okay for me to call myself a visual novel fan when everything I've ever played comes from itchio or the play store (or youtube??) I very frankly have no money and am an avid enjoyed of easy acess things I can play on my phone before going to bed but I've already called myself a visual novel fan in front of my friends and I don't want to be a liar in case what I've played doesn't count.

With kindest regards

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that's fine! they're still visual novels

when I rant about people not playing [insert game here], it's mostly just because I've seen them make some wildly incorrect assumptions about what it must be like

but also I'm not an authority and you don't need your passport stamped by me to call yourself something

[awellboiledicicle]

My problem is that, largely, I am prone to definitional misunderstandings.

Because most the things I learned speech wise was from reading a dictionary like 12 times for fun once I learned how reading worked with my dyslexia. But a good chunk is also "this is how this word is used in contexts I'm often in, so this is the default meaning to me". Which is a problem many people have, but many people also don't have the kind of autism that's says Words Mean Things One Way Forever until I have fully shoved the nuance into my brain. Which can take a while.

So when a concept is linked to a word initially and this usage is new to me, I have to make myself look at context a lot longer. Because if I don't, I run off pure internal definitions and those can be wildly incorrect. Not helping this is sometimes my brain and mouth decide they're not on the same page and something five feet removed comes out.

All this to say that I'm very glad my partners and friends got to me first because if I was just on my own trying to learn about like. Queer shit and being a chill human being to other people? I'd probably get there eventually but I'd spend a long time not realizing there were words for how people treated me or how certain ideas are rooted in things. Because my sphere wouldn't naturally have demanded I look for those words.

Basically I'm just pondering on like. If a lot of people are Like That because they never learned that things can mean many things and, when informed of that, react poorly because they knee jerk assume they're being told they're stupid for not being correct instantly. And then once they did it, they just keep doubling down because then its "well i can't admit I'm wrong or I'm Very Very stupid."

Which is interesting because like. Not knowing stuff is the natural state of a person. The learning and reframing is kinda the point once you get a hold on breathing, eating, drinking, and how to excrete. Like yeah learning how not to excrete all over yourself is in there too, but that generally falls later in the timeline than recognizing things and finding things out. But people stop giving themselves leeway to be learning things after a certain point and it gets frustrating for all involved. They also at some point learn that curiosity is a passive thing you do when no one is looking in case the observer has opinions on what they're curious about. Certainly not when being told you're wrong-- because being wrong means you failed the knowledge test and are meant to assume the other person pointing it out is doing so to be superior. Which is wild on paper but oddly common for an assumption.

I try to remember that it's a common reaction bc personally I love being told I am incorrect. Not because I like being wrong, I like knowing things and understanding. But because being told means the other person decided it was worth their time to explain it. That in some cases it was safe to do so, because the read on me was "oh they missed context hard" and not "this is a bigot being ignorant on purpose". Which is a calculation a lot of people are running pretty much every second for safety.

Idk I'm pondering what causes people to lean so deep into a refusal response over even low stakes things.

[chaosisorderao3]

You make a lot of wildly incorrect assumptions about me. I think the Israeli government in power are vile cretins, especially Bibi. Not just him, but especially him.

You also don't know what Zionism means. Yes, I'm a Zionist in that I believe that my people deserve self determination. That's literally what Zionism is. I'm quite vigorously opposed to forms of Zionism that don't ensure land rights to Jews and Palestinians alike, or cause oppression for Palestinian people.

It's not at all antisemitic to call out the Israeli government. I will call them out for so much all the time. The way most leftist goyim call out the Israeli government is, however, antisemitic because none of you have done the work to deal with the antisemitism you already carry.

And you'll just slander my character for reblogging a post because you think that if I reblog something I agree with every little bit of it. You don't even understand what Judaism is at its core clearly, because central to Jewish culture is the fact that we discuss and debate and exchange ideas whether we agree with each other or not.

You've got some work to do, my friend.

And hey, the partition could have gone better if the fucking Brits weren't in there messing everything up. Nobody should have been expelled from their homes, and there should have been no war. Palestinians shouldn't have had to refuse the partition offer because any offer presented should have been substantially more fair and respectful and cooperative. But don't make the assumption that Palestinians were free of responsibility for violence at that time or before.

It's not good enough to just say antisemitism won't be tolerated in your pro Palestinian activism. You have to actually do the work to unpack shit and stop being antisemitic and so many people in leftist spaces need to listen and hear that right now.

[prokopetz]

More favourite villainous tropes:

1. When the villain’s rationale for their bizarre scheme is perfectly reasonable right up until one very specific leap of logic that leaves both the hero and the audience going “wait, what?”.

2. When the villain hits the hero with a “join me” ultimatum that reveals they’re operating under wildly incorrect assumptions about why the hero is opposing them in the first place.

3. When the villain doesn’t recognise the hero because the thing the hero is trying to get revenge for totally fails to narrow it down.

3b. When the villain doesn’t recognise the hero because the thing the hero is trying to get revenge for is some unanticipated second-order consequence of the villain’s actions and they honestly have no idea what the hero is talking about.

4. When the hero thwarts the villain’s plan and the villain tries to play it off like they’re not angry at the hero, they’re just disappointed.

5. When the villain rescues the hero from some peril not because they particularly care whether the hero lives or dies, but because the villain is trying to make some obscure ideological point, and ultimately being successful is less important to them than being right.

[veliseraptor]

Okay, but consider: Groundhog Day Yi City, a tragic-comedy of repeated errors with drama sprinkles on top (results vary depending on who’s Bill Murray)

a secret that I have never seen the actual groundhog day movie. I feel like I should admit that, as a big fan of time loop stuff, I have not seen the trope namer. I just feel like that should be out there.

also if you saw me post this before it was finished: no you didn't

but to the substance of your ask: yes, I have considered this, I have considered this a lot and I actually technically have a fic in progress for it from xiao xingchen's pov but I might need to start it over, we'll see. and it is so much fun! because the success states vary wildly for each character, like:

xue yang: xiao xingchen alive, himself alive, nice domestic life preserved

song lan: xiao xingchen alive, himself alive, xue yang not alive, xiao xingchen never knowing about who he was living with

xiao xingchen: song lan alive, a-qing alive, doesn't even know what he wants with xue yang??? ahhhhh

a-qing: xiao xingchen alive, all else optional and only relevant inasmuch as it serves that end

so there are three of them aligned on the "xiao xingchen alive" goal, at least (xiao xingchen's a little more wobbly on that one), and only one person actively invested in xue yang being dead, and nobody actually putting as a definitive condition song lan being dead (though xue yang operates on a low key assumption, most of the time, that the win condition of "himself alive" depends on the condition "song lan dead"; he is not necessarily right about this but he tends to assume it's the case. however, it's not something that's necessary; I think if xue yang knew how badly things could go, he would be fine with letting song lan live if it didn't ruin the other stuff).

however, these points of agreement come into conflict with each other in several key places. I feel like I'm also thinking about these in order of priority (i.e. what's most important to least important) in which case it looks like:

xue yang: xiao xingchen/himself alive (either/or is not acceptable, has to be both), nice domestic life preserved (terms and conditions may apply, he'll make it work), song lan dead (possible condition but not required, particularly the longer he has to go on trying)

song lan: xiao xingchen alive, xue yang dead (at least initially, though I think it might eventually swap places with), xiao xingchen never knowing about who he was living with, himself alive

xiao xingchen: a-qing alive/song lan alive (I don't think he could deal with either not being true), still doesn't know what he wants to do with xue yang (affectionate/derogatory/deeply confused)

a-qing: she's got a very clear single priority and she's sticking to it.

so how this fic looks, and what the resolution is, could go any number of ways depending on who is trying to "fix" it and what the individual author decided a fix-it looked like (someone who is not me might think that just killing xue yang fixes the problem, but they would sadly be incorrect. common misconception! but inaccurate.). which is why my favorite version of this, I realized as I've been writing this post, is a version where all of them are time looping but none of them knows anybody else is, and every time one of anybody's primary win conditions are violated it starts over (i.e. if xue yang dies, even though it's only his win condition that stipulates his survival first and foremost, it still cycles back to the beginning).

just please consider with me the mutual frustration both song lan and xue yang in particular experience on discovering that they cannot, in fact, fix the problem by just murdering the other person in the right way. I feel like that alone makes this entire concept worth it.

also a-qing just getting xiao xingchen the heck out of dodge and being like "GREAT DODGED THAT BULLET" only to end up cycled back because one of the other two died. she didn't sign up for this