#and then i go 'is this what im doing ethical? like shouldn't i be hating this thing for what happened in my country?'

[crepegosette]

everyday I wonder to myself If I should make content of that one controversial ship I like, but then I wonder if it'd bring more harm than good, like is it worth it or is it just one of those things that I should enjoy on the back of my head with myself

[emmebearpaw]

i'm going to explode im going to explode im going to explode

[manda-kat]

just curious do you realize how funny it is that youre calling people busybodies for criticizing your engagement in potentially harmful tourist industries while also holding a black and white view of harm about any engagement with the porn industry

like, you think a single person should be able to be reasonable and not engage in the system in a harmful way and shouldn't be to blame for the greater sins of the industry

but you also think that anyone who engages with the porn industry is inherently harmful and also an addict from what ive been seeing you say

im not expecting to change your mind or anything because you obviously wont i just think thats a really funny point of hypocrisy

Buddy, there is a big difference between going on vacation and willfully rewritting your brain to desensitize yourself to sexual violence. Literally do any research.

You can't argue my point, you just make up false accusations and lie about how 'harmless' porn is. Even if you were consuming entirely 'ethical' porn with no real humans involved, you're still getting off watching other people have sex. Porn is proven to have negative side effects on the users mental and physical health. You're proof of that alone with these asks.

So yeah. You won't change my mind. My mind hasn't been corrupted by porn. And it never will be. Your death threats, slurs, hateful language and disgusting fantasies won't affect me. When all porn is banned, maybe you'll find something else to do. I'll be praying for you, but considering you have nothing of value to say to me, this will be the last ask I answer.

[autismvampyre]

https://www.tumblr.com/autismvampyre/741462958593441792/hate-how-its-practically-impossible-to-find-anti?source=share

I saw this post and I couldn't agree more and Im asking anonymously cause I don't want to get judgement and stuff and I know this is going to sound a little dumb but I'm having a crisis about like. Whether or not I should support Taylor anymore like. Im going for the eras tour soon and I'm obviously really really excited but I've been seeing more and more anti swiftie media and it all really makes sense. Your blog was like the only anti swiftie one that didn't say all swifties deserve to die lol (at least from what I could find) but I just wanted to know if you have any advice on like letting go of the music in a way. I love her music, and one of the reasons I'm really scared to let go is that my childhood best friend and I share so many precious memories over her music and I don't want to disappoint her in a way by not listening anymore and her music helped me through really really hard times, which feels kind of dumb to say cause I'm 15, but like it's always really helped me and I don't know if I can or if I want to let go but at the same time I'm huge on ethics and a big part of my life has always been helping people and empathizing, and I just don't know if I want to support an artist who can't seem to publicly do that. Idk I was just wondering if you had advice? Thank you so much :)

P.s. feel free to ignore this ik it's loaded and not related to your blog entirely

hey! thanks for the ask. i wanted to respond to this before i forgot so this might be rushed but i hope i can still help.

i get your dilemma, i really do. i like her music a lot and one of the worst things about the anti swiftie community is how much it relies on the "her music sucks" card. its lazy and just personal taste, and i absolutely hate the puritanical idea that if you enjoy a single taylor song you are in some way morally lesser. people like what they like, and i think it's completely fine to enjoy her music because that isn't really an ethical concern

you can separate the art from the artist. its fine to do so. you shouldn't force yourself to stop listening to music you like unless you feel thats right for you. im very critical of taylor but i still occasionally listen to her music because there are a lot of memories attached to it and those memories are precious to me. art can make you feel so much, and you're not dumb for feeling comforted by it.

i dont think you have to let go of her music unless you want to. i believe the most important thing is to let go of the idea of taylor as a brand. people tend to get attached to her due to clever marketing; to a lot of people she's their friend and they feel very protective over her for that. taylor thrives off the parasocial relationship of her fandom which is financially beneficial to her. the most important thing to remember is that she is a billionaire with more money than you could ever imagine and it is impossible to get that rich without fucking over the poor. the image of taylor in the media is not real, she isn't the girl next door, she isn't your friend, she's an ultra rich celebrity who gets richer by pretending to be your buddy. once you've realized that, you're pretty much done

now, i definitely wouldn't recommend financially supporting her. if you're going to the eras tour don't go alone, be safe, wear earplugs(seriously this one is so important you dont want tinnitus believe me). i know there are a lot of different factors and ethics about the shows but as someone who a) hates live music cause im autistic and just end up overstimulated and b) was never in a financial situation where i could or even would buy eras tickets i feel very under qualified to tackle any of that so i'd recommend talking to someone else who knows about that.

to end, i'll just say piracy isn't theft if buying isn't owning snd there are guides out there so you can listen without paying her dime. sorry if this was incoherent, i am tired. have a good rest of your day/night/whatever time it is and please take care

[hollowslantern]

ohmy god i abandoned you for descent part 2 im so sorry. what the hell was all that about though right? and then what they do in the first contact movie? are you people insane?

would you still love me if I've only seen star trek the motion picture and not any of the other movies 😁

but like yeah WTF WAS ALL THAT!! stupid dumb idiot piece of crap LOSER plot. first of all I felt like "datas ethical subroutine has been turned off so now he's EVIL!!!!!" is dumb as hell and a very shallow understanding of what ethics and morals like, are. "because it would be wrong" is not the sole thing that keeps data from pushing orphanages off of cliffs. you dumb idiots. making him go "yeah I'd kill geordi to feel an emotion again" is crazayyy. if the answer wasn't "no because my ethical subroutine prohibits cold-blooded murder" it would probably be "no because he's my friend" or "no because if i killed someone i would face legal consequences or even be declared too dangerous to be kept alive" like come the fuck on.

and second of all I think it's silly to have data be so precisely manipulated by something so imprecise as being fed certain emotions at certain times. like i don't think it was said anywhere that lore could somehow direct those emotions so how the fuck did that work out the way he wanted it to. it shouldn't have. like... I tell you go kill your bff and i pump you full of rage and hate enough to kill. you kill me because you're really fucking mad all of a sudden and im some jackass who just tried to make you kill your bff. do you see what i mean.

and yeah seriously they just ignored datas entire personality for this one like why would that be how this works. it's not how any of this works. that was not data that was some other guy

[necroangelz]

bleh. vent. lots of self deprecation and acads/academic related stuff

it's actually like fucking disgusting how I've managed to fool everyone, my classmates, teachers, adults, family, etc into thinking I'm some brilliant intelligent prodigy. I'm not. I'm not great at all. i don't like working hard and i hate doing things i don't want to do and I'm stubborn and i cry to make people do what i want them to do and i have no work ethic nor discipline and I'd rather just laze around all day staying in my fucking comfort zone staring at my screens and getting addicted to the internet

i have a test on Wednesday that i didn't study for at all and I'll probably do so mid at it like what's been going on for the past few weeks. people at school shouldn't have expected so highly of me because of first quarter because this is how i really am. i just got really lucky. but what's the point anyway if i never get my desired result?

simple and important or logical things that i should know about fail to enter or retain in my mind

i never finish any cool projects that would actually amaze people. no one understands me or cares for me, for someone to actually know who i am they'd have to get an actual fucking peek at my brain because i fail so hard at showing people who i really am. so far i guess it's just my bf who knows the real me

goddammit it's the 2nd time i cried today. i can't do this

I'm sorry I'm sorry i failed everyone I'm sorry 5-7 people get higher scores than me every time i mean that's how it always was before right? i just can't do anything right and i should have never gone to that school. i think im just wasting everyone's time and resources

i vent on social media instead of people i trust because i don't want them to help me and comfort me, because nothing they tell me ever helps. i never get better and i don't want my pathetic suffering to be on their minds

I'm not deserving of their kind words

i ignore my classmates' chats and i avoid thinking about projects with them because im useless and scared and helpless. i never know what to do and i always need people to tell me what to do or I'll just screw up like this

I'll never do good as an adult, I'm stuck in the past, I'm not like any of my classmates, the people i like are so far away and everyday is so lonely for me I'm lonely all the time but sometimes I'm not lonely on the internet

my mind fucking sucks goodnight.

[misterscarlet]

Ch 1

It was a dark and stormy night

"What went wrong?"

         "I duno sometimes girls just loose interest"

He hated these kinds of things, people were so complicated. why humans couldn't be ones and zeros would be a mystery to him. He thought he was in, he thought they clicked.

"god dammit"

Mary was always great at these kinds of things, she got people. had this personality that could pull you into a hug. 

          "hay, if she's not looking for a relationship rn, then don't"

"?"

          "Just say hay 'wanna fuck tn?' worst comes to worst, you get a 'no' and thats it. ur overthinking things, if she says 'no' then you can just say cool ill see someone else' she'll be the one overthinking things"

The irony of solving his own overthinking by giving it to someone else was much sweeter then an ethical wall he had placed between his identity and mind games of this sort.

so he sent it. 

It was the sheer audacity of it all that surprised him. Impulses like these never worked out. These same passions and spirit of the moment thinking had their place in more passionate acts. Communication though should be orderly and respectful. Good communication in any relationship, platonic, social, or otherwise was more valuable then anything. Even Tinder, sure it was a dating app and people were expecting trashy conversations on it, but that it shouldn't mean that he should continue with that trend. He would be better than this, he would be the port in a storm of crappy fish picks and sexual harassment. When he looked down at his phone, he recalled what he had done. It was shame, shame that washed over him and his soul. Could it be that he was no better then the frat boys and the uncultured emotionally stunted boys who passed as college guys. As he stared into those three 'words' he knew in his soul that, he was better than this, relationships were built, nurtured, enjoyed. Relations were to be connections that you formed with someone, something that lasted as a foundation to build your life on.

Then a text arrived

           "do you have place n can u wear condom" his world had suddenly gotten much smaller. Then he sent "yes and yes". What was once a solid wall in his mind and that was never an option, suddenly had a door; and he was through it already.

           "can u pick me up"

He looked at the keys on the end table, and his response was sent. He had only gone a hair down this rabbit hole and he was

                                                                                                                already

                                                                                                                 falling.

You see, he had to play it cool. "sure, where"

Oh god it was one too may words. he had shit the bed, up shitt's creek without a paddle, killed the goose.

           "where r u by

            im by Lexington Campus"

maybe the goose could be re-alived after all.

"I'm in Lex appts" 

            "oh wtf we're so close".

he was a new man, this might just work?

              "can you give me like 30 min"

What you would do to get ready to get fucked besides take a shower didn't make very much sense to him. He didn't expect it to but, why would you freshen up to get ready for a hot and objectively gross activity? he said none of this...

"sure"

when she sent over her address, "1 Glen Eagle Dr, Piscataway"

Tinder does magical things.

Honestly, why would she do her hair, a brush and a bit of conditioner would do the trick. He was just going to pull i-

          "do u care if im in my pjs [loudly crying face emoji]"

again, these pointless questions

"I'm just going to take them off,

so no"

            "o-"

yep he was in. sure, he had social anxiety and talking to a woman on the street was harder then a brick. He did have one thing though he had a feeling for when he was in a girl's head.

           "LOL ur cute"

*mental Hi-five*

why not lean into it

"Although if you could do your hair, I would like to mess that up"

              "it's done"

where he smiled to the camera (yes he does this in real life, I am sorry) and with a grin that could only say 'if it works, it works, don't question it'

The walk in the rain wasn't terrible, a drizzle fell gave everything a hazy look. Those nights as summer aren't cold, they simply feel so as you think about the season that just moved on without you.

That night he felt warm, because sex.

simply saying 'here' would be too clinical, too strait forward, to average, sex was something special, so the last thing he wanted to text should reflect that. "your carriage has arrived"

[chaotic-queer-disaster]

children have a right not to be used for anything whether thats validation for other autistic people raising awareness complaining etc etc etc whatever. i dont care about the reason, if you post meltdowns on the internet without consent (and kids cannot consent!! they do not understand the permanence of the internet and what people on it might say about them!!!) you're a bad parent

children are KIDS and a young kid can't consent to having their meltdowns on the internet because young kids can't understand the ramifications and most of the kids in these videos are 10 or younger

raising awareness for how autistic people act communicate feel etc does not come from exploiting the emotions of children. meltdowns are a vulnerable state and cannot consent during them because you're panicking and screaming and crying and unable to focus

"But what about autistic people who find it and feel validated because they’ve never seen someone act how they do before?" don't care if a MILLION autistics see it and feel validated, its still wrong

"What about mothers who themselves are autistic and trying to raise awareness about how autistic people act and communicate?" they can film their own fucking selves. they suck too. or you know they can TALK ABOUT IT instead of showing it in action

fact is that parents don't ask they just post and that's not CONSENT and even then young kids don't understand that millions of people could see them and make fun of them and mock them and it will never be gone from the internet so KIDS' MELTDOWNS CAN'T BE ON THE INTERNET ETHICALLY

im a teenager even and if someone ever filmed my meltdown or even threatened to i'd bite scratch kick them so bad i would genuinely actually be violent because thats so incredibly wrong. even the subject's bad. i know i seem like bad grammar probably but literally just trying not to melt down from this subject because its so bad, im a fully verbal person im just. BAD right now i hate this

ADULTS can consent to meltdown videos (though i doubt almost any do). ADULTS can show their own videos (even maybe from the past) online for educational purposes. but kids are kids and kids get to be kids and kids shouldn't ever ever be expected to be used as an example a resource or anything because kids are NOT examples or resources, kids are kids.

"I am also not going to pretend that every footage of an autistic person having a meltdown is the result of a crappy parent." not autistic person in general no, adults/older teens exist and can consent, but yes autistic kids. if you film and post your child in MOST VULNERABLE STATE you're a terrible terrible parent

you dont film neurotypical kids having tantrums and post it (you SHOULDNT anyway) you know you shouldnt film anxiety kids having panic attacks and post it you shouldnt film scared kids being scared and post it so you shouldn't film autistic kids having meltdowns, full stop.

in conclusion study shows children may be closely related to humans and much like humans they deserve not to have their worst moments posted without even actual consent.

im not going to argue about this further ill just block

angry angry angry very very angry at the way not only children but autistic children specifically are treated like just another thing to film

talked to my mom about meltdown videos and she said "well they need to share their struggle" and "its a way to say 'look what i have to deal with! stop making fun of my kid because its hard already'" and "its a way to find other people with the same problem"

problem

quiet part said out loud

fuck. fucking hell

we dont get to be kids we just get to be problems

i dont care if its hard. i dont care at all. i dont care about autism mommies' feelings i dont care if they need support, you dont GET IT by filming your children in their most vulnerable state, i dont care i dont fucking care about autism mommies at all. if youre putting your kids meltdown on the internet you're being a BAD PARENT and should feel like a BAD PERSON because you are

if you want support you go "any tips from adult autistics on managing my kids meldowns?" on facebook and then you listen

you dont film your kids crying in walmart you dont DO that

do you think you deserve to be filmed in your most vulnerable moments and put on the internet to be called a "problem". if you dont then why do you think your kid does.

whys your kid not deserving of basic respect and privacy to you. why dont you think they deserve that