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werevulvi · 3 years ago

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You know how often I ask myself, why can't I just be normal? It's quite a lot. I wanna talk about something I've never told anyone before, aside from a few strangers online. I've suppressed this my whole life, since childhood. I've acted with anger towards others with the same thing as me, told them how it's offensive and awful. Refused to allow myself to even think about my own urges and desires. It worked for a long time, until I wrote my book this summer, a fiction story about a couple who end up disabled from their dangerous work as assassins. My intentions were just... to try to give good representation and explore something I knew very little about.

So I did a lot of research into my characters' disabilities, and even briefly pretended to have those specific disabilities at home alone, just to get an idea of what it's like to manage daily life with them. It was just a writer's thing, just being a dedicated writer, I told myself, as I researched those disabilities far more in-depth than I did about assassins...

At one point, I would cover my eye with a makeshift eye patch, as one of my main character's loses an eye, and I... it brought forth what I had suppressed my whole life, and I can't suppress it anymore as a result of that. The bottled feelings have escaped and I can't put them back in again.

I think I have Body Integrity Identity Disorder (BIID.) There, I said it.

It's a very rare mental illness that makes you want to become disabled, usually in some very specific way. Most are males, and most desire amputation, but it can pertain to wanting blindness, deafness, or I guess, any conceivable disability. There's only been a few thousand reported cases, but it's also said to be a very secret disorder, so numbers are probably not accurate. It's very poorly researched, poorly understood, and still not recognized as an actual disorder. So you can't be diagnosed with it currently, and there are no set criteria for it. However, it will be in the upcoming ICD-11 (the International Classification of Diseases.) It will then also be re-named to Body Integrity Dysphoria (BID) as it's being recognized as a form of dysphoria, and as a neurological condition.

And now for the obligatory life story:

I don't remember when it started, but as a child, I'd say roughly age 5 or 7, I was obsessed with fictional characters that had a distinct scar over one eye, and either blind in that eye or entirely missing it. I would on occasion play around with a hand covering one eye, and wished I could have that for real. For a long time, I didn't know why I was so obsessed with that. If I was just admiring that kinda physical feature, or wanted it myself, or both. Throughout my teens and adulthood thus far, I've made a lot of drawings of people with only one eye, and scarred faces. I wrote another book back in 2013 with one of the main characters being a woman with a large scar across half her face. I've always been a little too fascinated with facial deformities, having only one eye, and facial assymmetry. And I've tried to express it with assymmetrical makeup looks (not made to look like I'm injured) throughout my teens and 20's.

So it's been with me for a very long time, even though I've tried super hard to suppress it, and tried to tell myself that I should just be happy to have a mostly abled body. But that wish/urge/whatever it is, has never gone away.

When I first heard of BIID, back in 2016 or so, I was angry, and thought of people with it as despicable. I was in deep denial of how much I could relate to them. Didn't want to think of that. But since learning more about the condition, and listening to others who have it, and learning it is actually a real condition... I guess that has helped me eventually come to this point that, well fuck... it me.

Up until recently, I thought it was just a self-harm desire, as I used to be a cutter, but now I understand that the self-harm was not the intention behind what I want with that, but merely the means to achieve it. Kinda like how I wanted to cut my own tits off before I had my double mastectomy. It wasn't about specifically wanting to injure my chest, but to not have tits anymore, and I much preferred the much safer way of doing it, through proper surgery. However, wanting half my face re-arranged is a little bit harder to achieve through elective surgery, even if surgeons were allowed to treat BIID through surgery. So I do not think my desire to get rid of my left eye and surrounding tissues is about wanting to harm myself. It's about wanting to have and live with the result of such an injury. Although I get that might be very unimaginable.

So then, have I ever made any attempts?

Yeah... I have. Once, I think it was when I was 22, I took a blade to my face, but chickened out, and ended up only making a very superficial cut on my cheek, which I was then extremely ashamed of. I didn't want for people to find out I had made it myself. Since then, I've stopped self-harming and have no desire to make a second attempt. I'm scared I'd fuck it up and cause damage I don't want, or... not enough damage. And I'm worried I'd be beyond myself with shame if I would take out my own eye and then other people would show sympathy for my injury, knowing I'd have caused it myself. I just kinda wish it would happen accidentally somehow.

So, to clarify, my BIID targets my left eye and left side of my face. Why left? Honestly because I'm deaf since birth on my left ear, so it would be extremely inconvenient to be deaf on one side and blind on the other. Much more manageable to have one side be blind-deaf and the other fully seeing and hearing. But at first it didn't matter to me so much which side of my face would be affected. I have no desire to become an amputee or fully blind. I also don't have a fetish for disabled people.

Would I date a disabled person?

Yes, but that's because some attractive people just so happen to be disabled, and I wouldn't think I'm particularly judgemental, not that I find their disabilities in and of themselves attractive.

I try to quell this desire, to lose an eye and half my face, by on occasion wearing an eye patch in secrecy. I know it can worsen my vision, but why on Earth would I mind that? It's kinda what I want. But my mom almost caught me wearing it today as she came by for a quick visit, and I have worn it at the grocery store, and out and about in my village. It feels so damn right, yet so fucking wrong...

Let's tackle this question as well: Do I feel like an ass towards disabled people?

Yes and no. Thing is, I'm already disabled myself. I'm not an abled person to begin with. I live on permanent sickness compensation, classified unable to work, for life, with little to no chance at improvement, due to my autism and adhd. I have the energy levels of an old cellphone that drops to 2% battery ten minutes after being fully charged every time. And I hate it. I hate that there's so much in life that I'll probably never be able to do. So disability, is already part of my life, and always has been. So why then would I want to become more disabled, instead of less? Well, yeah that is what I want...

I've faced a shit ton of ableism since childhood, and I actually think that's why I got BIID. Because my actual disability is invisible and not taken seriously in society. And I think that's what I deep down want: to just have my disability be visible and taken seriously. Physical disabilities are taken more seriously. I've even heard that straight from the mouths of people who have both mental and physical disabilities. How often have I not been called lazy for something I've been literally unable to do, just because I "look" capable? How often do I get to hear I "don't seem autistic?" How often do I get told that autism is not even a disability, but merely a personality trait and being socially awkward? How often do I get told I would be able to work if I just tried harder? All. The. Fucking. Time.

I think that's why, ever since I was a child, I've wanted to have a physical disability, which is fully visible, and cannot be ignored. And what's more visible than the face? We interact with it the most. Because I don't really want to be less capable or lose a lot of movement, I just want for my already disabled existence to be visibly disabled.

So that's a big reason for why I think I have BIID. Which is to say, I don't feel like I'm being an ass towards disabled people, because I'm already disabled to begin with, merely wishing I was more disabled and in a more visible way. Had I been abled to begin with, I think that would have been different, but even abled people with BIID don't choose to have this condition. I read a quote from a person with BIID, who got the amputation he wanted, and he said basically that he didn't know what's worse, having BIID or being disabled. I can relate to that. And I think that is the irony here, that simply having BIID is like being disabled in and of itself already.

That said, however, I do understand why disabled people would be greatly offended, angry, or otherwise insulted, by people with BIID. Honestly I cannot understand why they would not be. I'm greatly offended by people who say they wish they were autistic! And I'm offended at myself for wishing I had a facial deformity and only one eye. Why do I want this!? I keep trying to shake sense into myself. It's what's causing my shame and wishing I could just be normal. No disabilities, and no wish for disabilities I don't have. That'd be great.

There is one more aspect I also feel the need to tackle: Transabled.

BIID has recently been rather often labeled as "transabled" in the same vein as "transracial" (wanting to be another race) and transgender. As a transsexual, this comparison is of course something that I have not missed. I'm painfully aware. This is how I see it, alright: Although I do feel like my body integrity dysphoria is incredibly similar to my sex dysphoria, I feel like it would be extremely rude and tone deaf to identify as for example vision impaired, deaf or an amputee, without actually having those disabilities. And I do not know if anyone actually does this. As far as I've seen, some people with BIID may pretend to have the disability they want (like with me walking around with an eye patch despite having no medical need for it) but they don't lie about it, or they try hard to avoid ending up in a situation where they'd feel pressured to lie. So I dunno how much validity there even is in anyone with BIID genuinely identifying as transabled. But regardless of that, I think it's absolutely abhorrent to identify as disabled in ways you are not. And I'd never tell anyone that I'm missing an eye when I do not.

So, I really do not like the term "transabled" and much prefer the BIID and BID terms. I do not like BIID being conflated with being transgender, although I want to very carefully say that the two conditions are so incredibly similar, that... I think that's another big reason I ended up with both. That I've always felt a strong disconnect from my body, which has merely expressed itself in a wide array of ways, ranging from sex dysphoria to body integrity dysphoria, dissociation and even having previously identified as otherkin. I don't think that's a coincidence at all. But then what caused all of that? I don't think there is a simple answer, but a multitude of reasons, and it may even connect with my autism as well as my trauma.

So, I'd say most likely it's caused by a cocktail of neurological and social issues. I was just clearly meant to be a broken person, making the most of my life with the sucky cards I was dealt, and on good days... I guess I'm kinda okay with that. At least it's not boring. Let's end on that not super tragic note. Feel free to ask me anything, if you’ve got any questions.

#biid #body integrity dysphoria #body integrity identity disorder #finally accepting i probably have this #im not happy about it but it is what it is i guess #ok to rb #transabled #im only adding that tag bcos i know many dont know what the condition is actually called

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dumbassscout · 4 years ago

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i see a lot of 13 yr olds on tumblr these days, so id like to share some advice i wish i had known using tumblr at age 13.

this is also probably not an original idea from me lol, someone has got to have done this before. i would usually put this under a cut but ive decided not to for now

be aware that this site is like NOTORIOUSLY harmful. you may think you’re above it or too mature for it to hurt you, but trust me, you aren’t. since you will probably not be stopped by that warning, maybe take some precautions/keep some stuff in mind to stay safe.

i had tumblr savior for my first experiences with the site. im pretty sure it still works and it’s regularly updated, so take a look into that. it blocks posts with certain keywords from being seen on your radar, and can also push/allow posts with other keywords to always be shown. i would advise getting it or a similar extension to custom block triggering/harmful content.

don’t put other/more popular users in your fandom/community on a pedestal. they’re people behind a blog, just like you are. don’t feel intimidated by the people in your own community, they are just people the same way you are a person. they can mess up at times, and so can you.

making friends is a great thing on this site, but keep an eye on new online friends’ behaviors. it is exciting to meet new people, but you want to be aware of toxic friends. same goes for your mutuals. overall, keep people on this site at an arm’s length until you’ve gotten to know them enough personally to know that they’re genuine people. as you get older you can relax on this, but as a young teen it’s better to be hyperaware than to be blissfully ignorant as you get hurt.

onto more broad things, your theme doesn’t have to be perfect. you dont have to make a custom html/edited html website theme for your blog, you can leave it as tumblr default. if you enjoy organizing that, then by all means go ahead! but don’t feel like it is necessary for your blog, most of the time you will get a new theme set up and check on it on a month and find that it actually looks terrible to you. if you’d rather just have it as a basic/default site, then that is perfectly normal.

your blog’s theme/topic is your choice, and can be uniquely you. some people have many blogs for many things, just a few, or just one with everything. it is up to you how you want to do it! the themes you choose, topics, are up to you. fads and trends are cool but finding what works for you personally is way more fun. your blog is supposed to be fun. you are supposed to enjoy using tumblr. don’t compromise that for a trend. make your blog(s) however you want, however it pleases you. it can feel pressuring to have a perfect blog, but it’s better to just make your appearance the way it would make you happy.

also, tag systems are awesome! but they are not necessary unless you’re tagging trigger warnings. always tag those! but i know a lot of people have personal tagging systems to organize their blog, which is totally cool! but again, personal tag systems are not necessary, and if they feel unnecessary to you, don’t use them. but again, tag triggering content, especially if you are asked to.

archiving/deleting/creating new blogs is a whole other process. some people like to start with a clean slate every time they switch to a new fandom, and let their old user be archived or deleted. this is perfectly respectable (and probably the right thing to do) personally, i just switch my blog over to whatever im feeling that month and people can unfollow if they no longer enjoy my blog (i dont have that big of a following on this blog). it’s really a personal decision, and if you want to restart your blog you will know when to/if you want to.

reblog art, but never “repost” it. aka dont take the image and post it on your own blog, just reblog it from the original poster. its common sense but not everyone knows? idk

if you end up having some or many followers, make sure to check yourself. appreciate your followers, respect them. they are people with blogs. just like you. don’t let a high number inflate your ego way out of proportion, it’s easy to fall into that sense of power.

respect people’s pronouns. even if you for some reason have a disagreement with them, or you don’t understand why/how their identity works, just use the correct pronouns that they ask you to. it costs you zero dollars and zero cents, and is incredibly respectful

as a young teen, don’t get involved/let yourself get buried in tumblr-wide discourse. examples of this include the bi vs pan debate, flag discourse etc. most ppl who i know who were attentive to things similar to that at a young age ended up being affected negatively by it. pay some attention to what pertains to you and also pay attention to what you can identify as right or wrong, but don’t let people’s opinions on your dash influence you in times of discourse. go and look at both sides of those kinds of debates if you’re interested, and form an opinion from there.

speaking of which, sometimes people will just post their takes on literally anything and youll come across it. take everything with a grain of salt unless there is links to proof (if applicable, not always needed). sometimes bad takes just havent had someone to reblog and disprove yet.

speaking of discourse, there is always discourse on this site in every fandom, every community. form your own opinions always, but keep your moral compass in mind. don’t compromise your morals and sense of right and wrong to enjoy certain fan-media. if something seems off, it probably is.

people make mistakes, and if someone did something kind of shitty/had a terrible take/belief (not irredemably shitty, those ppl do not need ur attention) and they genuinely apologize for the shit they did and learn from it, move on. leave some shit in the past, holding grudges isnt good for your mental health and people change. but again, always take things with a grain of salt.

you dont need a high follower count to get traction on your posts. it might help, but you can have a low follower count with high interaction or a high follower count with little to know interaction. the best advice i have is to tag what it is relevant to, whether it’s a fandom, aesthetic, etc and people who regularly check those tags will find it.

if you ever get anon hate for some reason, just delete it from ur inbox n move on. ppl who send anon hate want to see you post it and respond to it. if they said some really really MEAN shit though, it may be best to talk to a friend about it for comfort, or take a break from tumblr for a hot min. most importantly, report it, close your ask box/change it to no anonymous asks.

if at some point you choose to voice your opinion about a highly debated topic at the time, be aware that people who disagree might attack you for it. be aware, and be safe about it.

a lot of people swear by xkit. i have never used it in my life, but from the looks of it, it makes using tumblr so much more bearable. it breaks sometimes with tumblr updates, but apparently it’s worth it. again, look into it, but it’s not necessary to use the site.

do niche shit. start sideblogs without a plan in mind. make aus, make art, make writing, or make nothing at all. reblog the things you love wherever you want them to be reblogged. comment on people’s creations if you love them, they probably would love to hear how much you enjoyed it. appreciate how wonderful the better part of this site is, enjoy the free access to view and appreciate others’ creations and ideas.

i would put a lot more on here, but i feel like 20 is probably too much already. if anyone has anything to add, definitely rb with ur addition

overall, do the things you love on here, keep yourself safe, and be respectful of others.

#i dont shut up

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katieelizabeth · 4 years ago

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What would you call your body type? Definitely curvy

Are you a morning person? Yes and no. I’m taking sleep meds for nausea so right now waking up is kinda hard.

Have you ever been to Target? Loveeeeee Target

Do you like iced tea? Iced tea is always my jam

When is the next time you’ll be at work? Hmm it’s kinda up in the air right now. I’m itching to get back tho.

Do you have a savings account? Yes. one for myself, one with my boyfriend

Has anyone ever hacked your accounts before? Only once.

What color bedsheets are currently on your bed? Currently grey

Have you ever been to Disney World? If so, how many times have you been? Yes, I wanna say total like 6 times.

Does grammar and capitalization mean anything to you? It absolutely does.

Are you good at wrapping gifts for others? My boyfriend thinks I'm a terrible wrapper hahah

Do you have a dirty clothes hamper in your room? Yes.

What would you say is your favorite television show? If I had to narrow it down, probably Skins.

Do you enjoy big holiday dinners? Yes and no. I don’t care for holiday dinners with my family but I love holiday dinners with my boyfriends family.

Is there any piece of jewelry you’re constantly wearing? I’m not married or engaged but I do wear a small silver band on my ring finger.

What is one thing you desire as of now? To be able to just go and sit down in a restaurant. This virus has everyone living in fear and I'm tired of it and want to live normally and enjoy my pregnancy

What kind of phone do you have? An iPhone XR.

If you could move anywhere, where would you choose? Canada or London

Do you blog a lot, if at all? No not really. I used to when Xanga was big.

Is your present hair color, natural? Nope.

What makes you the most angry when it comes to people? My boyfriend thinks that anytime my opinion is different than his, then I'm trying to argue with him. It’s so fucking frustrating.

Describe your current outfit? Anaheim Ducks shirt and matching pj pants hahah

What was the last thing you ordered online? Some toothbrushes lol

Have you ever felt as though you were drifting apart from a best friend? Ive had two best friends in my life completely shut me out before. It sucks.

What color are your eyes? Poop brown

Have you ever worn color contacts? I have but I could never wear them because of the astigmatisms in both my eyes. Lasik was the best decision of my life

What’s the best thing about a hug? Right now I miss everything about hugs

Biggest fear? Losing my loved ones, death, never getting better/getting worse, never doing anything with my life....

If you have a significant other, how long have you been together? Just celebrated three years

Do you know any genuinely friendly people? Yes.

Do you buy your friends gifts? I try to when I can

What was the last thing you plugged in? My phone to the charger.

How old are you? 29

What color headphones do you own? They’re black.

Have you ever shopped on Urban Outfitters? No, just a reminder than I'm fat

Where do you buy the majority of your clothing? Amazon, Goodwill

Would you rather wear necklaces or earrings? Necklaces

Do you consider yourself fortunate? Very

Do you enjoy watching fights? Nooo.

Have you ever been in a physical fight? No way

Do you tend to talk badly about people? I try not to but everyone is guilty of that

Where are your parents as of now? Watching tv in the tv room

Does your computer cooperate most of the time? I literally just bought it so yes haha

Does your family have any cheesy traditions? Kind of

When did you last go to a book store? Gosh it’s been a while!

What’s the closest book store where you live? Barnes & Noble.

How much money do you have on you right now? On hand, $20.

Favorite personal feature? my hair and my lips

Are you wearing make up at the moment? Nope.

Favorite television channel? Bravo, E!, ID, HBO

Describe any piercings or tattoos you might have? 6 tattoos no piercings

Have you ever been fired from a job? INope

Are you currently losing a best friend? No.

Describe the worst day of your life: I’m good.

Do you play any video games? Not at the moment

Would you say you hate anyone? I feel hatred towards racists, homophobics, ect.

Do you think freckles are cute? Very cute!

Last time you went to the mall? Gosh its been a really long time

Name something that’s your favorite color: anything teal

Have you been to Red Lobster before? Yesssss. I want seafood

Do you judge by appearances? Anyone who tells you they don't to some degree is a fucking liar.

Do you follow a certain religion? No thank you

Who is your role model, if you had to choose? Im not really sure

Would you rather have nice hair or lips? Hair.

What are you most self conscious about? Pretty much my whole body

Do you have any family members who live out of town? Yeah.

Do you consider yourself short? Nope, I'm average height for a girl

What room are you in? Mine.

Hoodies or jackets? Hoodies.

Are you outside a lot? No not really. The sun doesn’t like my skin haha

Have you ever been dumped via text message? Nope

Do you like dreamcatchers? Not really

What is your favorite letter of the alphabet? I don’t have one.

Do you hate repetitive people and things? Depends on the situation

Do you think autocorrect is a blessing or curse? BOTH

Do you believe in any particular curses? No.

Ever play a Ouija board? Nope, my mom wouldn't let me growing up

What movie scares you the most? The Exorcist. I can watch the movie now no problem but it FUCKED up my childhood.

What was your bedtime as a child? 9. I remember watching Happy Days from 8-9

Reason why your favorite holiday is your favorite: Who doesn't love Christmastime?

Do you work with any close friends? I work with my baby daddy

Do you consider yourself spoiled? I would say in some way I'm probably spoiled

Do you listen to any country music? yes

Favorite high school teacher: I don’t specifically remember any high school teachers I liked. Probably my French teacher. He was super cool!

Do you ever get drunk? Of course. Can’t drink yet tho until after baby

Have you ever had highlights before? Nope

Favorite number: 7,10

Do you still sleep with any stuffed animals? Not anymore. I used to for a a long time

What is your biggest regret in life? Eh I've got a few

Would you say you think you have a mental disorder of some kind? Depression/anxiety. Ive taken meds for it

Are you normally an independent person? I like to think myself as independent but my boyfriend sure takes care of me. I dunno what id do without him

Do you have any paintings? a few

What is one clothing fad you wish never existed? anything from the early 2000s haha

Do you like to be organized? Do I like it? Yes. Am I organized? NO

Have you ever failed a class before? oh yes

Ever been judged because of your weight? All the time. Not so much as an adult tho

What is your favorite breakfast cereal? The sugary bad ones, ha.

Ever had a wish come true? Nope

Do you regret meeting any of your exes? No way

Do you own any coloring books? Yes haha those adult ones

What’s the meanest thing someone’s called you? I can’t think of anything specific. Probably fat

Have you ever bullied someone? I likely have, unfortunately :(

Do you ever watch Lifetime? Only for the reality shows

Ever tried to intentionally sabotage someone’s grade? God no

Do you own any brown clothing? Hmmm I don’t think so

What color are your walls painted? White.

Last thing you drank: I’m drinking decaf coffee

Have you ever seen a tornado in person? Noooo.

Do you have an inground pool at your house? Nope

What is the first digit of your phone number? 9

What’s the prettiest town you’ve been to? Anywhere in England

Do you tend to sleep a lot? yes and no. I’m taking sleeping meds but it’s hard for me to fall asleep

Silver or gold jewelry? Silver

Do you sometimes celebrate holidays early? Not usually. My boyfriends family Is out of state tho

Have you ever been in love? Yes.

What’s the best gift you’ve ever received? My unborn child

When was the last time you showered? Last night

Would you consider yourself attractive? Sometimes yes

Has anyone made you mad today? Nope

Favorite smell: Vanilla

Are you afraid of insects? I wouldn't say afraid

Do you have any children? I’ve got one cookin in the oven haha

If so, what are their names? I’ll tell you when I know the gender

Would ever consider having children in the future? MORE children? Lets see how traumatized this first one is haha

Have you ever lived on a farm? No.

Ever played any sports? Oh yes, played soccer till I was 18

Do both of your parents have jobs? They're both retired from jobs they were at for 40+ years

Where is the best place you’ve been on vacation to? Its a tie between South Africa, London and Colorado

Are you afraid people won’t accept you? Not anymore. Being an adult means getting over that haha

Are you, for the most part, an honest person? I try to be

Did you make prank phone calls as a child? oh yes!

Do you like to make donations? Yeah.

What is your current ringtone? Just the standard apple ringtone

Meet anyone from your past lately? No.

Have you ever called a teen suicide line? No.

Have you ever caught something on fire? Not that I can think of

Ever been obsessed with a show? Ive been obsessed with many shows

What type of perfume or cologne do you use? English Laundry Signature

What’s the last book you read? The book that Ted Bundys girlfriend wrote

Dream career: Zooologist

Have you ever climbed a mountain before? Yes, in Colorado

At what age do you plan to get married? Not sure, we aren't in a rush to marry

Ever been in a car accident? Yes, three

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unproduciblesmackdown · 6 years ago

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so being abused the entire first 2 decades of your life: what’s up with that? Night Posts Edition

- classic when finding some “uh oh relatable!” content abt various Disorderres and there’s some thing like “many symptoms overlap with ptsd” and it’s like ooh which one is applying to me?? i mean spoilers the idea that The Grouping Of Non Nt Traits And Experiences Into Distinct Classifications is not actually...an exact science and for all intents and purposes it makes no difference if i am going “oh god #me” at an informative post about adhd if actually its ptsd acting exactly the same anyways so. but yknow it’s wild n zany being like “am i overstepping my bounds b/c this was caused by coping with trauma possibly? what audacity” and etc when it really....that doesnt matter....

- also ugh @ retaining things that downplay abusers’ responsibility for their actions (in specific things you’re personally dealing with, not like, as a general stance) and shift blame onto yourself like........you have to get so used to treating someone’s Abusive Behavior as something inevitable that you can’t ever expect them to stop doing, and thus pretty much considering someone abusive like a force of nature because they’re just gonna do what they’re gonna do whenever they next get Set Off rather than like.......a person who is responsible for their own behavior and in control of their own choices and like. especially zany when you’re a kid and they’re your parent so there’s the Power Imbalance of them being an adult and the other power imbalance of them being in control of your whole existence. but so like even just the other year i was taking the blame for calmly speaking back to a grownass man close to thrice my age raging at me and saying like, not verbatim but the idea of like “ugh i know it was partly my fault for even saying anything back to him because i knew he’d just continue to yell but unfortunately i just refuse to weather that kind of behavior without standing up for myself at all anymore” but like no!!!! that’s shifting all the responsibility for this other person’s behavior onto myself, like i Made him choose to shout at me at like 4am because he sucks and has some kind of superiority power trip issues. cuz i am well within rights to respond to anyone addressing me and it’s Not my fault at all that he chooses to react the way he reacts.

- also that i was ready to excuse my being blamed for this by others because they were closer to that person than they were to me and i was gonna be like “okay i Get wanting to defend someone who’s closer to you” but no!!!! actually!!!! i may get it but i don’t condone excusing anyone’s horrible behavior in the least just cuz you know them or they’re friends or family or something. in fact that’s terrible. i’m just primed to be Used To It because of the weird situation of parental abuse where there’s other people also trapped in this location and daily life with an abuser and if someone “causes” the abuser to start being shitty then they’ll get blamed / resented for that. me and my siblings seem more like friendly acquaintances b/c we had to be pitted against each other in these kinds of ways for eons until we were all in our teens and got some more Space and kind of realized that we weren’t each others enemies and got closer and my dumb little brother was old enough to stop being a whiny binch and Owed me for helping him with math hw over the phone from 2 hrs drive away lol.....jk, sort of.....we did get along great eventually but then i left thanks to said abuse and us talking via twitter isn’t at all the same as us being able to talk in person :/

- also one thing that sometimes Strikes me is that when i’m like blandly recalling incidents of abuse like “oh yeah, that time” it bothers me less to think about stuff that happened to me specifically than to think about times it was Other people who were being treated that way. the latter was always equally or probably more upsetting and it always felt just as bad in the moment anyways, there was no major distinction in the Abuse In Progress experience if it was directed mostly on you than on other people

- all my life i’ve also been super stubborn which never helped and even Abuse MaGee would have to try to get creative with Disciplinary Systems and there was this golden “punishment” which was eat dinner in your room by yourself and i was like oh my god can i really. the horror of Family Dinner was like, this dark comedic farce playing out in that house for all our lives. christ. speaking of being stubborn this one time my sister cut my toe with a knife (half accidentally) because i refused to stop swinging my legs despite her holding the knife under the table lol and i also refused to tell on her b/c we were All In This Together (that is, Us vs The Abuser, which always took precedence over any internal conflict in our faction lol)

- always remembering how my “’”””””””defining”””””””””” trait was always getting good grades except the only reason i ever felt this pressure was the time my sister caught shit for getting a C, and i wasn’t even getting A - F letter grades yet and was already like jfc guess i can’t like....get a single C ever.....the joke is i’ve always been a godawful student who hates school, i just also managed to get great grades fairly easily, b/c of the devil probably. i’m sorry

- love to wonder what interests i might have been able to explore if i didn’t want to hide anything i was genuinely interested in and other True Thoughts And Feelings from my ‘rents. who knows!!! even now i’m not sure what i like and my vague ideas about it are all mostly In Theory and i don’t have any hopes and dreams b/c of never being able to really consider my own interests and desires and also because when every day of your life is basically spent in survival mode about everything else, that’s not really conducive to having dreams and ambitions. see also: like, being really poor

- The Weird Experience when only one of your parents is abusive and the other parent is also experiencing spousal abuse and so like, even though they’re your parent, you know that they don’t really have equal power as the abusive one because they too are being abused? it’s a complicated thing b/c that’s how every individual experience with abuse is (complicated). and so you’ve got this bizarre situation where maybe someone cares about you but they can’t really protect you from this other person. and like, my dad is crap and in some areas even a crappier person than my abusive mom and also i hate him, but i only hate him for certain things lmao not for being abused or some ways he tried to deal with it. i know what’s trash and what’s not

- the zany experience of No One Will Help You Ever.....lucky for me i eventually figured out on my own that what i’d been living with all the time had actually been abuse for real all along! and yet still i knew that like, there wasn’t much i could immediately do with that information because..........yknow, what do you actually do. i was basically already 18, so. and even if i hadnt been. there’s nothing to do for it!! just sucks to be you, basically. but an exception is that when one day i texted my friend to ask if i might be able to leave my house overnight and crash at their family’s place for a little bit, their parents immediately were like Yes Of Course and they let me stay there for a week and were very nice about all of it. between them and the nice trans lady who gave me some more Housing Assistance by letting me stay in her spare room for like, most of december.....my Allies. plus someone who talked to me via online once i bailed on my ‘rents! if they read this they know who they are and they have continued to be so kind and generous ugh love and appreciate you

- god just individual occasions of “THIS bullshit that i went through this one time” of especially ridiculous incidents.....i could go on for eons

- sort of tangentially related and related to the first point but ugh specific memories of Moments In Which It Continued To Be Revealed To Me That I, Individually, Was Prone To Being Kind Of Socially Ostracized.....like my ass started noticing that shit as soon as i was around other kids aka preschool aka 4 yrs old.......like i’m usually somewhat withdrawn and cautious and quiet in social situations especially what with the association that “misbehaving” = trauma exposure so, yknow, that might be a way that you’re pressured into just keeping to yourself and keeping your head down. but talk about “i don’t really relate to other people my age” lmao like i always preferred interacting with adults really while by and large dealing with the other kids felt like a challenge that i was never gonna actually come out on top of and i still remember individual Efforts i’d make to ~fit in~ and Participate that just fell flat or got me actively excluded....Ugh City........and it’s like, i could make a list of Social Traits i think i have that help make it difficult for people to be interested in interacting with me, or “contribute” to those joyous occasions when you get to sit back and take in the thinly veiled contempt directed at you by various shitheads, but like, even that’s not really the right way to explain it. its kind of more a Greater Than The Sum Of Its Weird Parts sorta combined experience where i guess i just have this kind of Negative Je Ne Sais Quoi that gets ya the social brushoff / rejection. c’est ce que c’est. the joke is i actually like people and socializing In Theory, i just usually don’t get to do it. shoutout to the advanced relatability of alana calling everyone Acquaintances b/c i literally did/do that lmao......like are we friends if we don’t talk all that often? it’s part on me cuz i’m crap at being the person to initiate conversation cuz too often i assume i’d be an annoyance and also b/c conversation with me is like, not great lmao but still......ce’st l’a v’ie

anyways (clip from that fuckin song where it’s like WHO CAN RELATE lmao.mp3)

#long post //////#the entire first quarter (at least lol) of my life being Devastated By Abuse means i get to complain about it whenever i feel like it

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the-lgbt-youth-blog · 7 years ago

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Hi I'm a Catholic teen. I come from a loving family and church. But I really feel like there's something wrong with me. Im pretty sure I'm bi. How do I tell my parents? My realitives? I love my family and religion so so so much but I also like girls and guys. Do I hide it? Or do I tell them? Advice? PLEASE PLEASE HELP. I'm really scared

Xynn says:

Hello there!

Well, there’s a lot to unpack here. As a disclaimer, I’m not catholic myself, so I might not be able to speak about your faith the way a believer would.

First off: being bisexual isn’t wrong. Maybe that’s what you’ve been told all your life, and you might really believe it. But I’m telling you, it’s not. Hitting someone? That’s arguably wrong (and even then, what are the circumstances? self-defense is a thing). Hitting on someone? Liking men and women? Doesn’t break my leg, does it? Who does it hurt? No one! If you’re feeling that way then according to your faith it’s in the grand scheme of things. So it’s good. God made you that way. Jeremiah 1:5, before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee. Who can criticize the making of human creatures? It’s natural. More than your sneakers or your laptop.

I don’t think that religion, in your case catholic christianity, and bisexuality, are irreconciliable. Obviously if you are convinced bisexuality is wrong and evil you might have to do some work on yourself. I was in denial about my sexuality for a great long while and when I came to terms with myself I wasn’t doing ok at all. But it’s accepting that how I felt was real and fine that made me happy.

There are plenty of people out there who connect based on the intersection between their faith and their belonging in the LGBT community. I don’t know where you’re from but I would be very happy to help if you have difficulty finding such groups in your area or online (yet another masterpost huh?). They can probably recommend accepting parishes and the like.

1 Cor 7 literally says that what’s best is celibacy (be it for straight people or gay/bi/pan people), but if you can’t do that, it’s alright as long as everything you do is consensual. Jesus also pushes for acceptance for men who do not have sex with women in Matt 19:11, 12. I personally think that the strongest message of the New Testament is of love and acceptance towards everyone, not of behavior segregated morals and firm religious rules. Actually, historically speaking, strong, unchanging moral and social rules inside the Jewish community (or rather the elite) were actually what he was denouncing. Luke 10, 25-37 is literally about how two men following strong ritual-related rules are unable to follow the most important rule, helping your neighbor, whereas a “pagan”, an “unmoral” person actually does, precisely because they’re not following those black & white rules on what you’re allowed to do.

I invite you to read more on lgbt-friendly interpretation on the Bible here.

So that was the theological part. Now, concerning your family and friends, you have to remember that coming out is never an obligation. It’s your choice. Sexual orientation is both a very personal thing and something that we are used to share with people because it influences greatly our relationships. Which means you can choose to be very open about it or keep it for yourself: there’s no good or bad choice. You seem to have trouble accepting yourself so I think it would be best to first, in a way, come out to yourself, before talking about it with others. It’s important that you feel strong and proud before coming out to people, because that way even if they do not react the way you wish they would, it will not break you.

It sounds like you’re coming from an environment where LGBT people are not presented in a positive light. If you feel scared of coming out, it probably means you’re not ready yet. Pay attention to how your family talks about lgb people. If they use slurs, if they mock us, or if they condemn acting on this type of sexual attraction, I’d rather advise you to stay in closet for the time being. If you don’t feel safe to come out, don’t. Your security is the primary concern here. I know it’s hard to keep this kind of things to yourself, but if your family isn’t being lgbt-friendly and you do not have a plan b if things go sour - another relative’s house, a friend’s place, a job, money - then it’s not a good idea. Wait for the day you have that plan b and/or become financially independant.

On the contrary, if your family members (or some, you can choose to only come out to a few of them) have expressed lgbt-friendly political views (eg. approve of marriage for all, are ok with gay/bi/pan people working for the church or with children...) or support for positive representation in media (eg. they went to watch Love Simon and they liked it), then it might be a bit scary, but it will probably go well!

tdlr; bi is ok. christianity and bisexuality aren’t mutually exclusive. you need to accept yourself before coming out. observe and test the waters with people you want to come out to. if things look bleak, only come out if/once you have external, physical support. if things look good take a deep breath and go for it.

#ask #xynn speaks #anon #christianity #coming out

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galaxa-13 · 7 years ago

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Person here who's barely been on tumblr for a year, asking what the fuck home stuck is and what it did and why it invokes a strange alien fear in me even though I don't know what it is

‘Hoooooooo boy am I glad you asked me. Not because I think I’ll give the best answer, but because I just love talking about Homestuck and how it applies to the internet (and fandom) at large.

O.K., so, first off the simplest explanation of Homestuck is:Homestuck is a webcomic found at mspainadventures.com made by one Andrew Hussie.

Simplest explanation of what it did:Garner a huge fanbase and changed how a lot of people viewed/interacted with fandom.

Simplest explanation of why you’re filled with fear:The fandom has been asleep for a long while, you may have heard whispers of the infamous “homestucks”, suddenly they are everywhere again and those who were around during it’s heyday are worried of things to come (including those that were a part of it).

Now I’m just going to ramble at length. First I’m going to go on about the fandom and then I’ll move on to describing the comic itself. LET ME TELL YOU ABOUT HOMESTUCK.

So as I mentioned earlier the fandom, known as homestucks, is quite infamous. Due to it’s sheer size there were a lot of issues. Some of it being that since there were just so many of us it was hard to go anywhere without running into one. This wasn’t just on the internet either, conventions became so packed with Homestuck cosplayers that convention rules literally changed because of them. Some convention locations no longer allow body paint because too many Homestuck cosplayers didn’t properly (or straight out didn’t) seal their paint and left smudges all over the venue (and people). Photo shoots also became more structured. Before conventions didn’t really get involved with them, people attending set them up and ran them themselves, but there were just too many people dressed as Homestuck characters. They blocked pathways, crowded areas, convention staff needed to start regulating photo shoots even if they were still ran by attendees themselves.

With the size there was also the problem of negative behavior being in more abundance. It’s not that people who like Homestuck are more likely to make bad decisions or be nasty people, there were just more people in general so more of a sample size of events to take note of. Like the afore mentioned body paint. There was also buckets and bike horns. The buckets were a problem because some thought it would be funny to just yell the word or repeat it over and over, which was quite annoying. There was also an incident of people spitting into a bucket and then giving said bucket to Hussie. The horns were noisy, as you can imagine.

There was a lot of porn drawn of Homestuck characters (often known as “homesmut”). Some people are turned off by this since most of the characters in the comic are underage. The argument about porn being drawn of these character is a discussion I’d rather not be having since it is something argued about at quite a length and has often led to really nasty things like doxxing and smear campaigns. The age of the characters wasn’t the only thing people were weirded out by. Tentacles also became a very popular thing within the homesmut community. Gore porn was also pretty common (compared to other fandoms, in my experience), though it wasn’t nearly as big as the “tentabulge”.

Homestucks were ravenously creating fandom content back at its peak. AUs of all kinds were created, just think of a word and add “stuck” on the end and there’s probably a fic for that. Petstuck, Regancystuck, Humanstuck (lots of characters in the comic aren’t human), Zeldastuck, StarTrekStuck, you name it. Homestuck was the AU community. Then there was the cosplay. First, many of the characters had simple designs so it was ridiculously easy to cosplay them, then there was the hoards of characters from which to choose, then there were all the AU variants, and then there were the upd8 cosplays.

Whenever a new page or set of pages was added to the site it was known as an upd8 (or for a really injoke, a papaya) and if a new character or outfit was revealed in such an update then it was a mad race to see who could be the one to cosplay it first. Sometimes you’d find pictures of people in completed cosplays (including styled wigs) within the hour. This even happened at conventions.

Homestucks were everywhere, and they were loud. Many people began to resent them simply for being a thing. Even people who liked the webcomic itself could be cited as fearing/hating the Homestuck fanbase. It became accepted that no one likes homestucks. Then something happened. Homestuck embraced how they were hated. Now I’m not saying they were trying to stick it to the man or anything, homestucks were able to look at all the things they were hated for and go, “yeah, that’s all pretty trash, but I’m still having fun”. It became a thing where you’d see a post bashing Homestuck or the community and you wouldn’t be able to tell if it was a homestuck who wrote it themself or not. “Homestuck trash” is a popular phrase. We’re trash and we’re proud of it. No one hates Homestuck more than homestucks. No one hates homestucks more than homestucks. Yet we’re still one big family.

A couple of years ago 4chan ran a campaign. They were going to inavde tumblr and make all the tumblrites cry and run to their SJW princess mommies. They flooded tags of popular fandoms with horrific images and bashing of their fandoms. People were scared to leave their dashes. Then, 4chan tried to go after the homestucks.

They bashed the comic. They found the most disgusting porn and death art of the characters. Homestucks took one look at that and shrugged. “Yeah, seems about right.” 4chan lost its mind. Why couldn’t they bother this fandom? Nothing they did seemed to work. Other fandoms began to rally behind Homestuck. Maybe they had bashed it themselves before, or they had simply stayed away from it, but now homestucks were the heroes, the wall against this cruelty. Homestucks laughed at 4chan’s pitiful attempts. Eventually 4chan had to throw in the towel, their troll campaign had failed, they just couldn’t outmatch the homestucks.

Along with the horror stories about the fandom in general there was now this. Homestuck couldn’t be taken down by 4chan. The most vile trolls on the internet had no power over them. That in itself was a terrifying thing.

Yet homestucks began to be regarded highly. Partly it was from this event where they were able to stand up to the bullies, partly because the fandom had matured over the years. Many people had grown up. They weren’t the immature children they once were. They set up charity funds, such as the Can Town Project, an organization that donates canned foods to the hungry.

Of course we can’t talk about Homestuck without talking about its creator, Andrew Hussie. Hussie is a strange man, to say the least. He’s been doing webcomics and other online endeavors for years before even starting Homestuck. Sweet Bro and Hella Jeff (SBAHJ), a comic written and drawn to be as terrible as possible while making fun of the “two guys on a couch play video games” style of comic; Problem Sleuth, a noir detective comic full of whacky shenanigans and done like text-based adventure games of old; Whistles: The Starlight Calliope, an unfinished comic about a clown in a dark circus (I really couldn’t begin to properly describe this story without talking about it by itself, but this is about Homestuck and already will be way too long); fancy Santa reviews, sadly I have been unable to find a copy of such reviews; Wizardology graffiti, he simply defaced a copy of a Wizardology book to hilarious effect as a gift to his friend; Olive Garden money, humorous blog posts about how he set out to spend $150 at Olive Garden; I could go on with his zany creations and adventures, but I won’t.

Hussie is a troll. He does things just to mess with people. He has a dark sense of humor and he isn’t above crass humor either. All that and he can weave fantastic tales you could never dream of. He is fairly private and is known to do odd things, which has led the fandom to calling him a real life cryptid. The Hussie experience isn’t really something that can be properly explained, so I’ll just leave you with this gif of the man himself.

Hiveswap is to be a video game tie-in to Homestuck. It was put up on Kickstarter known only as the Homestuck Adventure Game. 700k was asked for. It raised nearly 2.5 million. Hiveswap is currently why the fandom’s seen a resurgence. It’s being released episodically and the first episode was released September 14, 2017 and the second episode is to release Spring, 2018. In the meantime the studio has been releasing previews and extra bits of lore, which has been making the fandom go wild.

*DEEP BREATH*

Homestuck, at its simplest, is about a group of teens playing a video game. It follows the format of the other previous webcomics hosted on mspaintadventures (all written and drawn by Hussie, of course) of looking like it was drawn on MS Paint and acting like a text-based adventure game. Readers would submit actions and Hussie would draw the results, continuing the story. Over time this method proved unwieldy and Hussie did away with the command box, but the comic still acted like it was in such a format. Even without direct reader input Hussie still managed to incorporate a lot of input from the fans. Injokes mostly, but sometimes things fans had done would come back as major plot points.

In the beginning the art style was simple, using sprites and limited colors. One of the more well known things about Homestuck is its characters’ lack of arms in this style. As the comic progresses different art styles are used as well as different artists. Many people have bashed the comic for its simple visuals, but even aside from some of the more complicated visuals used later even the “simple” ones can be breath taking. Here’s some examples of the art.

Yes, these are all images from the same comic. As you can see gifs are used quite a lot in this comic. There are also sound pages, animations, and interactive games. Homestuck uses the fact that it’s on the internet to the fullest degree. It has inspired many other webcomics to experiment in similar manners.

Homestuck goes beyond that, however. Homestuck would not exist without the internet. In a way, Homestuck is about the internet. All the characters communicate over the internet to each other for a majority of the story. Internet subgroups and cultures are referenced, satirized, and incorporated. Real life websites are used and you can find characters’ personal accounts yourself in the real world such a one character’s DeviantArt account.

O.K., back to the story itself. I said it was about some teens playing a game, but obviously it’s more complicated than that. First off the game destroys Earth and sends our first four protagonists (yes, you heard that right, the first four, Homestuck has a lot of characters and a lot of them are protagonists) into a realm known as The Medium which is where the game itself (known as SBURB) will be played.

Part of the draw of Homestuck is SBURB itself. We know a lot of the mechanics involved in the game and if it weren’t for the destruction of our planet loads of people would pay good money to be able to play it. Unfortunately, for some, the story doesn’t really focus on the game, despite spending quite a lot of time in the confines of it. If you’ve ever heard of god tiers, classpects (Class and Aspects), Propsit, or Derse these are all SBURB things that the fandom loves to pour over. This stuff is like Hogwarts houses, you get sorted into them.

Throughout the story you get introduced to a new band of characters that troll our original four. Turns out these guys are all aliens who had previously played the game (their version known as SGRUB). Their race are literally called Trolls and they are another commonly known thing about Homestuck. These are the grey-skinned, black-haired, horned people. Their race has a rainbow of different blood colors they can be born with, which is another thing for readers to sort themselves into (are you a greenblood or an orangeblood?). They also have quite a fascinating romance system known as the quadrants (guess how many different types of love they have) and a society based on violence and no adults on homeworld. If SBURB doesn’t scratch your lore itch then Alternia and the trolls will probably do it for you.

The comic also has time travel and alternate universes. No, not AUs like what fandoms make, actual alternate universes where there are multiples of a single character that led different lives. Homestuck coined the phrase “double mobious reach around” to explain some of its convoluted nature. There are literal graphs and spreadsheets people have made to help keep themselves on track with what is going on in the story.

I could go on to explain the actual plot of Homestuck in more detail buuuuut this is already a grotesquely long answer to your message aaaand I don’t really want to spoil it too much if there’s even a chance you feel like giving it a read for yourself (other than what I’ve already told you and what you will see on the internet in general). Instead I’ll mention one event that happened in comic that affected the real life internet.

There is one flash animation in the comic known as Cascade. The comic had been building up to it for a while and I would say it’s one of the first climaxes of the story (yes, there’s more than one in my opinion). Hussie took a break to work on creating it. I forgot to mention earlier that Hussie updated the comic on a daily basis for years, often multiple times in a day. The insane update schedule was part of the reason the fanbase grew so immense. With this break the fanbase became tense and ravenous.

Cascade dropped and people flooded the site. The flash refused to load because so many people were trying to access it at once. Hussie put the flash on Newgrounds as well, because he knew his website wouldn’t be able to handle the traffic. We crashed Newgrounds. Homestucks. Crashed. Newgrounds. The website designed to host flashes and had loads of people on it daily was crashed by one fandom just to see one flash. It didn’t stop there, though. Livestream crashed as people who were able to get access to the flash streamed it so others who couldn’t get mspa or newgrounds to load could watch it. Megaupload crashed as people ripped the file and tried to share it so others could watch it on their computers without a website. It’s known as the day Homestuck broke the internet. It was absolute chaos. There’s a great image that summarizes this chaos with a collage of #notes that were used at the time and ending with a tweet that Hussie had issued at the time which was “well that didn’t work”. I would link it, but I can’t for the life of me find it right now.

There’s so much more I could talk about, all the different characters, the various hiatuses, shipping, all the wonderful people I’ve been able to meet thanks to Homestuck, my love for this comic and the community surrounding it. If you’ve actually made it all the way through my word vomit then I commend you. Feel free to ask me about anything Homestuck related. As you can see, I do so love to talk about it. Thank you sincerely for asking me about it and giving me a chance to write this huge wall of text.

OH GOD I DIDN’T EVEN TALK ABOUT LYRICSTUCKS AND FANDOMSTUCK.

I’M POSTING THIS NOW BEFORE I THINK OF ANY OTHER THINGS I DIDN’T MENTION BECAUSE BY GOD I’M SURE THERE’S LOADS.

#homestuck #let me tell you about homestuck

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“It’s human nature that we come in our own flavours,” fantasy author NK Jemisin tells the Guardian, “and it doesn’t make any sense to write a monochromatic or monocultural story, unless you’re doing something extremely small – a locked room-style story. But very few fantasy worlds ever do that. In fact, epic fantasy should not do that.”

Jemisin is on the phone from her not-very-epic day job as a university administrator in New York. When she gets off the phone, she says, she’s going to bike to a coffee shop to write her thousand words for the day, a pace that allows her to finish about a novel a year.

Her novels are anything but monochromatic. The first, titled The Killing Moon, is set in a multicultural sort-of alternate Egypt, where a patriarchal monarchy committed to order and peace, and a semi-egalitarian oligarchy, vie for power in a complicated web of shifting alliances and dreams. That story got her an agent, but didn’t sell initially – because, Jemisin says, “a fantasy novel set in something other than medieval Europe featuring an almost entirely black cast, is considered risky”.

Jemisin was undeterred. In 2010 she published her first novel, The Hundred Thousand Kingdoms, a sweeping story about a wide-ranging, heterogenous empire whose ruling family has enslaved the gods – at least for the moment. It was nominated for most of the major laurels in the industry: a Hugo, a Nebula and a World fantasy award.

The success of The Hundred Thousand Kingdoms and its sequels The Inheritance Trilogy enabled Jemisin to publish The Killing Moon and its follow-up in The Dreamblood Duology. Her next novel, The Fifth Season, comes out in early August. It’s an ambitious book, with a shifting point of view, and a protagonist whose full complexity doesn’t become apparent till toward the end of the novel.

Stereotypical fantasy series like, say, The Lord of the Rings, usually present a virtuous status quo threatened by a dark and eventually defeated outsider. But Jemisin’s stories almost always involve a flawed order, and the efforts (also flawed) to overthrow it. That’s certainly the case in The Fifth Season, where one character uses his magic to literally tear the earth apart rather than face enslavement again. “The goal is survival,” Jemisin writes in the novel, “and sometimes survival requires change.”

“As a black woman,” Jemisin tells me, “I have no particular interest in maintaining the status quo. Why would I? The status quo is harmful, the status quo is significantly racist and sexist and a whole bunch of other things that I think need to change. With epic fantasy there is a tendency for it to be quintessentially conservative, in that its job is to restore what is perceived to be out of whack.”

She adds: “I think our society right now is enduring change in a painful and bloody way that is not necessarily a war.” She points to the incident at the McKinney pool in Texas, where police officers manhandled and arrested black teens at a white swimming pool. The white woman who started the incident by yelling racist slurs was quickly identified on Twitter, and lost her job as a teacher.

There’s danger in using Twitter to shame people, Jemisin said, “especially for women. You end up with threats and harassment and so forth.” But in a racist society, she believes, there are few other avenues for holding the woman accountable for traumatising and threatening the lives of black youth. “I see a revolution in that,” Jemisin added. “I see unorthodox change and I see it being effective. And that gives me additional material to possibly write with.”

Jemisin’s work itself is part of a slow but definite change in sci-fi and fantasy. She first got involved in fandom and writing through online forums. “I remember a few times going into bastions of the genre and just fleeing in horror,” she said. “For a while you would go into the Asimov forum and see people openly speculating about the humanity of black people, or women.”

Things are better in some ways, as Jemisin’s own successes demonstrate. But the progress has generated resistance. Earlier this year, a number of writers and sci-fi industry insiders began to organise and protest against the fact that nominees for the Hugo awards have become substantially less white and less male. The disgruntled have formed groups, calling themselves the Sad Puppies and the Rabid Puppies, and have reached out to Gamergate, the similarly reactionary movement protesting feminist criticism of video games.

The Puppies claim to be interested in returning to more entertaining, less ideological sci-fi, but their rhetoric can be startlingly racist. One of the leaders of the Puppies, a fantasy writer named Vox Day, referred to Jemisin in particular, and black people in general, as “half-savages”. (He has also argued that women should not be allowed to vote.) The Puppies managed to game the Hugo awards system this year, getting a slew of reactionary works on the ballot through coordinated voting for their own slate of adamantly less innovative science-fiction.

Jemisin is obviously no fan of the Puppies, but she sees a positive side effect from their crusade. “What I find heartening,” she said, “is the sheer amount of laughter the Puppies are engendering as they demand that what they call ‘affirmative action’ works no longer be considered, but really at the same time, they’re putting only their own friends on the ballot. So they’re actually asking for their form of affirmative action to replace what they think of as affirmative action. And everyone is realising it. People are looking at these authors [like Vox Day and Puppies leader Brad Torgerson], who they once took seriously, and now just pointing and laughing.”

Jemisin herself finds the traditional white male fantasy milieu somewhat laughable, or at least incongruous. “I hear all the excuses: things were just like that back then. There really were 90% men in medieval Europe and they were all white and somehow they magically got silk from East Asia and we don’t know how that happened, we’re not going to talk about that,” she said. “But that makes no sense to me. I don’t really understand why so many fantasy writers choose to focus on worlds that just seem strangely denuded. But to them I guess it doesn’t seem strange. And I guess that’s their privilege. It isn’t mine.”

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Persona 5

Last night, I finally finished Persona 5, and...it wasn’t as good as Persona 4. Now that I have all the available facts, I finally think I can fairly unpack my reasons why. Behind the cut, for anyone else who’s still working on it and doesn’t want spoilers.

The first thing to note is that I am a huge Persona 4 fan. It’s not a perfect game (but then, nothing is); it starts off very slowly, its once-lauded LGBT content is actually not good in the cold light of day when LGBT content is (however slowly) becoming more common in video games, and it has a long, LONG day that is just...awful. Misogynist and transphobic as hell. But overall, it’s a hell of a game that I recommend to almost anyone, even with those caveats. It’s also a game that’s almost 9 years old, so why do I think it’s better than the sequel that came out this year?

Certainly, Persona 5 has a lot of gameplay improvements. There’s more variety in combat, with new types of attacks and status effects you can inflict and have inflicted on you. Adding guns as another piece of equipment gives everyone in your party additional options. Most importantly, the social links the current Persona games rely on for their flavor have added gameplay benefits, as different ranks will grant you useful skills in and out of combat, at a pace that lets you naturally integrate the new options rather than being overwhelmed by them. And the negotiation system with the enemies (imported back from the base SMT series) means that what you fight can matter beyond “this is their weakness/XP gain/possible item drops.” In every measurable way, combat in 5 is better than 4. Even the dungeons are improved, because the set designs stand out better than 4′s randomized crawling. Plus if you do want random dungeon crawls, there’s a whole huge area that calls back to Persona 3′s Tartarus. The best of both worlds, right? The problem is that while combat in 5 is a great improvement, combat is not what I loved in Persona 4 anyway. It was the writing and the story.

If you haven’t played Persona 4, the main plot revolves around a series of murders in a rural Japanese town. After the first two, the main character and his recent friends discover another world, and that it’s connected to the murders so far. When a third person goes missing, they save them, and then decide to work on stopping any further murders and figure out who’s behind them. On its own, this is a workable plot that stands out among JRPGs for being decidedly small scale. You aren’t setting out to stop an evil empire or find your missing father, but it’s a worthy goal, and the fantastical elements explain why you can’t just go to the police about it.

What makes the game sing is the writing for the other members of your group, and for the social links you make to gain power. Your party is a bunch of teenagers, and sometimes they’re, well, shitty in the way teens so often are. They care for each other and stick their necks out, but they’ll also crack inappropriate jokes or be insensitive because they’re still learning how to act like adults. It occasionally goes too far (see Teddy), but mostly it felt believable, as did any of the romance scenes if you choose to date any of your classmates. On top of that, with the exception of the main character, you gain team members by saving them from their own Shadow, which stands for the parts of themselves they don’t want to admit are real. Sure, you beat them when they become the boss, but then the character in question has to accept the parts of themselves they don’t like to admit are there, something that all of us have.

Meanwhile, the social links do the heavy lifting of making the town feel like a real place. Sometimes you’re doing real work to improve someone’s life, sometimes you’re just there for them when they hit a snag and need to process it. But it’s a reminder that outside of the fantasy elements of going into the TV world and fighting weird creatures, you live in a town with “real” people that have real problems. That’s not quite what your team member’s social links are about, but instead it’s about someone who has admitted they have issues...and then you have to help them work through that. Admitting they have a problem is just the first step, not the solution.

If this sounds more like a review of Persona 4 than 5, I can understand that. But I needed to unpack what I love about 4 first, because if I’m going to say 5 isn’t as good, I think it’s only fair to explain what I love about 4 and why. And the main stumbling block for 5 is a combination of writing and, to a lesser degree, a mixed translation job.

The translation isn’t terrible-I don’t think it will spawn any memes online due to particular lines. But some subtlety is lost, and lines that should hit harder lose impact because the sentence structure doesn’t work as it should in English. It’s hard to say if it’s just a case of being too literal or being rushed for time, or some combination.

But even with better translation, the writing just falls flat. 5 raises a lot of questions with its central premise, where your group “steals” the hearts of bad people to make them change and be good, but it’s resolutely uninterested in answering half of them. It will tell you all about the mechanics of how you do it and what happens to the person, but it doesn’t want to deal with the ethics at all for half of the game, and then when it comes up, it’s a half hearted ‘were we doing the right thing?” when people start saying bad stuff about the Phantom Thieves. Are all the villains you take down engaging in truly reprehensible behavior? Yes. Are they largely insulated from official control? Yes, and for reasons beyond general “looking the other way,” since the final human villain is revealed to be covering for everyone you fought before. But there’s never a conversation where your group, the people actually altering people’s personalities, ever ask themselves if it’s okay to be making such radical changes, or asking if you are returning them to normal versus changing a “normal” person into a different version that didn’t exist before. And even the half hearted attempts to question it get shot down by your character’s mouth piece, the fame whore, whose very questionable motivations for wanting to continue are ALSO never questioned, except very briefly near the end. I didn’t need the game to tell me I was wrong for what I was doing, but I at least wanted a discussion, even if it ended with “this may be a bad thing, but we need to do it because no one else can touch them.”

Perhaps the social links would have saved it, but almost all of them outside of the main party ones end the same way. You get up to rank 7 or 8, find out there’s a road block of someone being bad, and then you get a request to change their hearts. Rinse and repeat. This throws the question of how ethical your behavior is into even sharper relief, and adds in the issue of making every resolution to the social links be “I did magic, and then they figured out I was a Phantom Thief, but it’s okay because they said they would keep my secret.” The first few times, I found it charming. The 10nth time, I felt like I might as well stop pretending and just tell anyone who asked “Yeah, I’m one of them. Want me to change some guy’s head? I got my magic gun I can use.”

Most of the party member social links don’t involve that, but most of them also fall flat. Ryuji’s is just there, Ann involves helping her realize other models can be mean and she’ll lose out if she doesn’t put more effort in, Yusuke is having art block, and Haru needs to learn how to manage a corporation she unexpectedly inherited. None of them are offensive, but they’re mostly boring. Only Futaba (trying to reacclimate to society after being a recluse for years) and Makoto (mostly forgettable but she slaps another girl and then challenges a would be pimp to a street fight, which was great) stand out, or seem like you actually do anything to help other than be there as they talk it out on their own.

Then there’s the framing device, where you’ve already been captured and are telling a prosecutor the story of how you came to be the Phantom Thieves. It intrudes every time you hit a certain point in the plot, and whenever you start a new social link. It didn’t take long at all for me to roll my eyes every time it intruded to remind me I wasn’t ACTUALLY in May, I was just RECOUNTING what I did in May. Plus its plot hook of “someone betrayed you to us” was blunted when the person who did it joined my group last and was literally blackmailing us to quit after pulling “one last job.” Gee, wonder who could have sold us out to the cops? The shitty teen detective who talks about people as vermin? I’M SHOCKED.

Now, I will give 5 credit, it has two solid plot twists. The first is when the framing device resolves (assuming you don’t get the bad ending), and Akechi shoots you...only to be revealed that your team was actually paying attention, realized he was lying, and used what they knew about the Metaverse to trick him into shooting a dupe. It wasn’t worth the hassle, but it was nice to see the group not be idiots. The second, that Igor was actually a fake as well and behind all the trouble, was more genuinely surprising, but it did make the voice change that we’d assumed was a weird miscast into a clue that we’d missed.

The final boss fight being about pulling out a giant spirit gun and shooting a god in the head was goofy as hell, but unintentionally so, which is unfortunate.

Would I recommend Persona 5? With reservations. Along with all the issues I’ve noted, the game feels too long for the plot it has; I was close to 150 hours when I finished, and even taking out the grinding I did at different points, I felt like I went through a lot of filler dialogue to get there. Plus the opening to 5 is, if anything, even LONGER than 4. You show up in town on the 9nth, and it’s not until the 18nth that you have full control over your actions, with multiple mandatory tutorial sections.

At least the music is still great.

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31 Fun And Easygoing Date Ideas For Teens

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31 Fun And Easygoing Date Ideas For Teens

31 Fun And Easygoing Date Ideas For Teens Harini Natarajan Hyderabd040-395603080 November 25, 2019

Asking out someone you have always had a crush on feels so exciting. The idea of dating, spending quality time with your partner, and doing new things together is thrilling. However, it is not always easy on the pocket, right?

As a teen, it is natural that your earnings are limited, but the expenditures are indefinite as the pay from your part-time job can only cover so much. But it won’t be fair to drop the idea of going out on a date, would it? What is your ultimate way out? Well, we sure have plenty of tips that will help you in making more out of less while enjoying it to the fullest. Check out 31 insanely fun and affordable date ideas for teens that will make you a hit with your partner without burning a hole in your pocket.

31 Date Ideas For Teens

1. Go Bowling

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This might be borderline cheesy for a date idea, but you can never go wrong with the classic. Not too shabby as a place, and not too expensive either. It can also be the perfect place to break the ice, especially if it’s your first date with your partner-to-be. You can indulge in some friendly competition and celebrate your win later with some burgers and fries at the cafe.

The entire atmosphere is so fun and relaxing that it will keep your date going fun and full of smiles, making it one of the cute date ideas for teens. The best part about going on a date at a bowling alley is that regardless of whether or not you are athletic, you can still enjoy a night or even a day of bowling coupled with great ambiance and some tasteful music instead of just sitting around and chatting. If you happen to drop by late at night, there are colored pop-up lights too. Plus, those shoes increase your funky factor!

2. Visit An Animal Shelter

Nothing spells cute and expresses love better than dogs. Why not choose to take your date to play with puppies for free? To an animal lover, there is nothing better than getting to spend some valuable time surrounded by a bunch of animals, be it dogs, cats, rabbits, or cattle at any time of the day. This is a very thoughtful date to plan for that special someone in your life and makes for one of the best options for cute date ideas for teenage couples.

Additionally, this visit is also a great way to make some animals very happy too. While you don’t necessarily have to be looking for adoption to pay a visit to the shelter, it can get difficult to leave without wanting to take one home.

3. Go To An Arcade

Whether you are 8 or 18, you are never too old for the arcade. Taking your partner to the arcade is a great way to show off your sense of humor and show them that you are absolutely comfortable being goofy. Play some air hockey, skeeball, and collect tickets because it’s all about providing your date with an exciting and interesting experience they’ve never had before.

Plus, a little healthy and flirty competition will strengthen your bond and keep the conversation going smooth and easy. If you happen to be good at these games, you might even be able to win them a plush, oversized, and cute-looking purple dragon!

4. Have Some Carnival Fun

Visiting carnivals, amusement parks, or a fair is always a great option because they are light on the pocket while being extremely fun. Most carnivals and festivals have a number of food stalls, street performers, great finger foods, and many more exciting events.

The entry is usually free; if not, it’ll not be too hefty either. Any teen would love to join their partner on this eventful date where they can let loose and have unlimited fun. What can be more romantic than sharing a corn dog and kissing on top of the Ferris wheel?

5. Have A Picnic

A scenic view, a food basket, and a can of soda with your partner beside you can make any summer morning special. Pick any place where you find a great view – could be a park or a beach – and plan a picnic. Throw some cookies, sandwiches, and sodas into a bag or go all out with a picnic basket and head out for your date.

Accompany your food with other things to indulge in once you are done eating. Fly a kite, play some cards,play ball, or just sit around people-watching. Having a picnic is a great choice for first date ideas for high schoolers and is a cheap and comfortable way to kick off a conversation.

6. Watch Movies And Shows At Home

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In the era of online streaming, it is easier than ever to plug in your TV and stream any movie or show of your choice. Be it a romantic movie you’ve been planning to watch with your partner or binging a show on Netflix for an entire weekend night, both make for beautiful date night ideas for teenagers.

Sometimes, if you are out of budget and need to plan a date but cannot afford to go to the movies, this tip comes in handy. You can just get some popcorn and cold drinks for accompaniments, and you are good to go. You can also use this time to get familiar with each other’s favorite movies or shows and watch them all without having to invest a fortune.

7. Cook Dinner Together

Instead of going out to a fancy restaurant and spending big bucks on food, not to mention the waiting time, how about cooking a whole meal together? It is romantic to stay in and whip up a yummy dinner with your partner.

You don’t need to be a master chef to make this date happening. In fact, it is so much more interesting to try and implement a recipe together. Head out to the grocery store, pick up a few things for your meal, and go back to either of your places to cook together.

8. Hit Up The Mall

This is probably one of the most common high school date ideas. The mall isn’t just a great place to go shopping because there are a million other free things to do there. Walk around to check out some cool store displays, make your way to the food court and fix up a cheap snack, or head to the entertainment or gaming area to indulge in a few easy games. The best part about going to the mall is indulging in some window shopping that literally costs nothing.

9. Spend A Night Stargazing

What can be a better cheap date idea for teenage couples than spending a night simply gazing at the sky full of stars? Choose someplace quiet without a lot of hustle-bustle and a clear sky for this date. It gives you plenty of time to talk, hold hands, maybe sneak in a few snuggles, and it might sound borderline clichéd, but that’s really romantic. Lie down on a bed of grass, indulge in stargazing, and maybe even impress your date with your knowledge of constellations (just a little research will go a long way).

10. Plan A Board Game Night

Board games are a nice way to bring out the child in you and your competitive edge. They are perfect for flirting with your bae, especially during the initial course of your relationship. Since most of the board games are best played with more than two people, try making this one into a double date instead. Pictionary, Taboo, Monopoly, and Twister are a few options to consider.

11. Go To A Concert

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It is rare to find a teenager who doesn’t enjoy music festivals and concerts, so this one will definitely make for one of the nicest date ideas for teens. This date is for older teens of typically 18-19 years because you’ll need a bit of money to attend a concert, but it is still cheaper than a fancy restaurant. Live music makes a great evening indulgence – be it at an intimate bar gathering or an amphitheater concert.

12. Head To The Zoo

The zoo is a great option for going out with someone when you have a low budget. You get to see all sorts of wild animals at almost no expense and walk for hours with your partner. Look up some no-cost zoos in your area and have a lovely evening date.

13. Go To A Museum

Just like zoos, you have plenty of museums in most cities that allow you to experience years of primitive history. Choose some uncommon oddball museums that give you an insight of interesting artifacts rather than the usual boring ones, because that’s where the real fun is at.

14. Go On A Drive

Going on a long drive with your partner is romance done right. Just pop up some good old music while driving out to a beautiful countryside place near your city for totally impeccable views. However, to make this date into a reality, at least one of you will need a valid driving license.

15. Go To A Water Park

Water parks are flooded during summers for a reason. They are a great way to cool off during the summer days and a great excuse to get out of the house, making for one of the most fun date ideas for teenage couples. Water parks also have some fun specials, so there’s another activity that you can indulge in on this date.

16. Take A Walk

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Walks are your best bet for a nice, calm date. You can indulge in the best conversations for hours at an end while burning a few calories. There are a lot of times when you have tons of things on your mind that you wish to share but hardly find the time to do so.

Walking gives you plenty of time to interact, chat, and spend time with your partner. No cash required! Endless interesting communications and an evening filled with epic romance are in store for you.

17. Go Ice Skating

Ice skating is another activity most teens love. It is happening, joyous, and an extraordinary experience for going out to a date. Even if both of you aren’t great at skating, you can help each other up after every fall while learning to skate and sneak in a lot of laughs too.

18. Visit The Botanical Gardens

Don’t ignore it until you’ve tried it. Going to the botanical gardens can sound like a boring option at first, but you can turn it into a fun place to take your date by indulging in some outdoor games, like hide and seek. Huge trees and an extensive area to work with give you the perfect opportunity to play this game. If not, you can do some project together at the botanical garden while submerging yourself in the greenery around you.

19. Solve Puzzles Together

Look over at that dusty corner of your bedroom, and you’ll find your old puzzle games. It is time to bring those out for a good game night with your boyfriend or girlfriend. It is fairly common to find that most people love to solve puzzles as they are an interesting activity.

Once you both start to fit the pieces together, you will end up in some harmless fights where you are fighting over one puzzle piece and where it will fit in the puzzle. There will also be times when you will help each other find the right piece and the right fit. It is a game of harmony, and once completed, you will get to know how good you two are as a team.

20. Karaoke Together

Another interesting activity for your date is karaoking together. This is the epitome of being comfortable with someone because only if you have a level of comfort, you sing in front of someone without the fear of being judged. There are tons of places organizing karaoke nights in most cities, so check to see if they allow teenagers. Or head on to a karaoke room, take up the mic, and start singing your heart away!

21. Go Biking

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Biking is a great way to experience and indulge in nature. Even if you don’t own a bike, it’s pretty cheap to rent one just for your date. However, the one important task that you need to make sure of is choosing the trail that is best suited for biking.

Choose a place on the outskirts of the city that has lovely landscapes that you can enjoy and take beautiful pictures with to commemorate your adventurous day. A route around a lake, a hiking path, or maybe a quiet residential area can also work. Pack a light snack with plenty of water, so you don’t have to stop to look for a place to refresh and rejuvenate. Plan it in a way such that you can head to a good lunch place as the end of your trail arrives.

22. Go Sightseeing

It doesn’t matter if you are a local or someone who has recently shifted, there are always certain nooks and crannies left unexplored. If your partner is new to your city, while you have spent your entire childhood there, or even if you both have grown up in the same place, you can explore some offbeat places in the city as a couple together for the first time. It won’t be too heavy on your pocket and be a fun way to discover your city in its entirety.

23. Try Baking

This is a great option for people who love creating something out of scratch and enjoy doing it. Baking cookies, cupcakes, cakes, or muffins is a good activity to do on a date night. Ask your partner to join in and participate in making baking goodies together.

While you don’t need to be an expert baker, consulting a few recipes online and shopping for some additional baking ingredients definitely helps in ensuring you have tasty treats to eat by the end of it. Brew a hot cup of coffee or tea and enjoy eating them fresh with your boyfriend or girlfriend.

24. Try Swimming

Water sports are fun. If both you and your significant other are water people, swimming should be a good venture to explore. To up the ante, you can challenge each other to push for more by indulging in a light competition. Additionally, swimming is also a form of workout that helps you stay fit. If you have a swimming pool in your society campus, you don’t even need to go out and spend anything on the date and have an unlimited amount of fun.

25. Play Scrabble

Scrabble is one of those games that can bring out the innocent and childlike side of every person and make any date night fun. As a teenager, staying out past curfew can be a difficult thing, so it is a great way to enjoy at your home with your partner. Plus, as students, it can even help you increase your vocabulary. Who knew learning could be this fun, right?

26. Go On A Coffee Shop Date

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Figure out an inexpensive local coffee shop in your area or city that you can sit and hang around with your date while sipping on a delicious hot cup of joe. We are sure it will not be a hard task to find a coffee place that serves some cheap snacks to go with it. You can have many dates at this place in the future too because you won’t have to spend a fortune to enjoy some good coffee.

27. Have A Bookstore Date

This one is for all the bibliophiles out there. Interesting reads, comfy bean bags, and peaceful silence around is a true book lover’s paradise. If you and your bae love reading books more than anything, a bookstore can be the best venue. The most fitting part of this place is that it won’t cost you a penny and is an amazing way to indulge in your favorite activity.

28. Use DIY Videos To Make Stuff For Each Other

These days, DIY videos are quite the craze, and they are pretty much available all over the internet. Both you and your beau can choose one of those videos and come up with something to make for each other that you think they’ll love and all in the comfort of your own home.

Be it a lipstick, deodorant, moisturizer, or a scarf, you can craft just about anything by following the instructions provided in the video. Pop up some music and enjoy crafting with your partner on your date. Once you are done, you can give it to your partner to try it out. Their reaction will definitely be worth all that effort.

29. Enjoy Live Comedy

What is better than being on a date with your favorite person and laughing your heart out? Going to a comedy club in your area is one of the best fun date ideas for teensbecause not only is it cheap, it is also a way to enjoy your time to the fullest.

Some places even offer impressive student discounts, so you can use that to your advantage. If you are someone who loves doing comedy or wants to try it out, you can head to the stage at an open mic night and impress your date by making them laugh.

30. Go On A Cheap Restaurant Date

Teenagers are always on the lookout for some good bakeries, eateries, and coffee shops that offer cheap yet delicious food to eat. If you have found such a place, you can use it for your next date and have a chance to impress your partner with your discovery. There are tons of food truck eateries that serve up tasty meals at a lot less price, which you can check out too.

31. Have A Workout Date

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This isn’t one of the usual date ideasfor teenagers, but having your partner workout with you makes even the most strenuous exercise fun and bearable. Teenagers who are a lot into fitness and follow an active lifestyle will love this idea.

You can sign up for yoga or spinning class, adventure through an indoor rock climbing, or have a Zumba session. Doing something that’s good for your heart health with the person who makes your heart happy is a win-win for all.

Coming up with the perfect date idea can be hard, especially when you are a teenager. You have to make sure that the activity you are zeroing in is not awkward and doesn’t cost a lot. Think out of the box, pick from the above list of best date ideas for teens, and have your best date ever!

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My stationary car was hit by an uninsured driver in March 09. The insurance company made me pay 500 excess and said that this will be fully recoverable as the other driver was at fault. The car was then written off and I was paid the value of the car. In December the other driver was found guilty of driving without insurance, fined and given penalty points. Even though my policy gives me legal cover, it has now been 11 months since the incident and they do not seem to be very active. Also, my policy expires next month and as the claim is still open, the insurers assume that I lost my no claim bonus and quoted me twice as much for the renewal. I'm confused now, is there anything I can do to get my 500 back? I hope you can give me any ideas on what to do. Thanks""

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I am looking for affordable car insurance?

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Question about car insurance?

My parents are buying me my first car soon. My question is that I currently do not have auto insurance so if I drive off the dealership back home in my new BMW, will I get in trouble if I get caught? My brother has insurance on a different car, will it work if he drives it home? Thanks!""

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Will my insurance pay my car?

I have full cover insurance for my car (just got it a month ago). And my car was stolen this morning. Im still paying for it, will the insurance pay it off to B of A? Will i have to keep paying Infinity or what is going to happen? Will my credit get ruined?""

Short term car insurance for driving abroad???? (in france)?

I am 19 years old and heading to france for the day, the yearly car insurance I already have does not cover me abroad, so I need to get insurance for the day. I have looked online but most companies only insure people who are 23 years old+""

What the steps to take if someone doesn't want to use car insurance to pay for accident?

Someone just rear ended me. There are deep scratches on the bumper. He has car insurance, but doesn't want to use it. I got most of his information - driver's license #, car insurance info, ect. What are the steps I should take? My car insurance company said I have to call in and report accidents as soon as they happen. Should I do this in case he doesn't follow through and pay me for repairs? Should I go get an estimate right now, and have him send me a check?""

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Can I buy a car for someone and them pay insurance and registration?

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badfurrynoyiff-blog · 7 years ago

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BF-NY! Issue 1 Hypernormalization is Tearing the Furry World Apart, Not Nazis

Not only is the idea of a “Nazi Furry” absurd, it is an idea that real Neo-Nazis renounce. The real danger comes from violent and divisive tactics from financial interests.

As a young, impressionable teen I thought that this fandom would be a way to meet wonderful people. For a time it, was. Without the community I surely would have taken a dark road in life. Hell, I might have died. If it weren’t for the furs who opened their homes to me, I would still be living in squalor subject to an abusive, addicted family.

I have seen great things from this community. Without it, I wouldn’t have my spouse of five years. I would have never been able to draw like I do now. I wouldn't have found the ability to dance, and voice act. I have never seen this community as anything more than folks who appreciate art. (Also, they like dog dicks) For all the highs the community has given me, it has beaten me down with some of my biggest lows. For the longest time I was able to ignore the shit in the fandom. Slowly, it started to consume my friends as the rampage of the (3rd wave) feminist mind virus took my “second” family. I have often thought to myself that it is just from getting older, or maybe I am a shitty person. As of 2010 the fandom began to look much like my abusive dysfunctional family I left behind. Today, my god, I have no idea how anyone could feel comfortable in this fandom. The sheer amount of back stabbing, negative attitudes, toxic politics. I honestly feel a strange mixture of shame and anxiety when dealing in anything furry.

So, I left. I saw the abuse, I saw the pattern of addiction I was forming with competing to stay “relevant.” No joke. Someone has called me “Irrelevant” for not participating in cringe inducing fads, or agreeing with popular opinion. I think my last straw was when: someone made a website to keep me out of the community; not even minutes after his friend called me irrelevant. Why? I didn’t want to be part of fandom popularity contests, I regularly stood up to bullies.

Jaret Reddick’s voice rings full in my head:

...You still don't have the right look, And you don't have the right friends, Nothing changes but the faces, the names and the trends High school never ends!

So, as of writing this blog there is currently a “furry war” the likes of which has never been seen. Forget The YouTube War, Burned Furs, or the Babyfur War. This has become a war that defies all logic, all reason, it has transcended into mainstream media, and boy howdy! It even barged it’s way right into my life. I thought I put furry behind me, nope. Nah son! It’s time that you lose your gaming friends over fucking furry drama. Cause guess what, your gaming buddies are Anti-Fa, and one of them happens to be a gender-queer babyfur. Whoops!

Pray tell what calamity would tear drama would reach a closet furry all the way in EvE Online? Of all things “Furry Nazis.” I managed to get into a fight about the existence of fucking Nazi furries. I made the fatal mistake of linking a “anti-semetic” video: Shut it Down. I won’t link that one here, but if you are familiar with chan culture, the reference is obvious. Because, RMFC getting shut down by terrorist threats from a Jewish, communist, anti-fa, squat lord is honestly some of the funniest and stereotypical shit I ever heard.

(The answer is no.)

Consider my almonds fully activated

Thank goodness that the Rolling Stone still has some journalistic integrity. They did what many furries fail to do. RS recognized the “Furry Raiders” as a troll group. Something that is very obvious if you aren’t huffing Peggy Mcintosh’s intellectual queefs. If you don’t know who she is the matriarch of “Third Wave Feminism.” She literally wrote the book on Privilege .

“All white people live in a Disney movie!” - Peggy Mcintosh Let’s detract from furries and focus on her assertions first, suspend your personal feelings on this subject matter. As with disproving all manor of intellectual guffaws we can easily break down the falsities of “white male privilege.” In-case you missed it here is the link to “White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack.” I’ll give you a few moments to check your privilege. Done? Good. What you just read is by far one of the most intellectually unsound, racist, misandrist, and presumptuous pieces of collegiate refuse ever to be seen. If you didn't gleam that from what you read, just change some words around. Everyone experiences lack of privilege according to this list. But, racists on either side would have you believe differently. I’m not going to go over all 50 points, (most of them being redundant) rather just the ones that scream "that's racist, Peggy.”

1. I can if I wish arrange to be in the company of people of my race most of the time

By the first bullet point, we are already in “all whites are racist” territory. I am hard pressed to find people who are not hardcore racists who actually care about the race of others. I can not think of the last time I sincerely said “Gee I sure do wish I had more WHITE PEOPLE to hang out with!” Like.... really?

Isn’t this a privilege shared by most people, except white Europeans?

2. I can avoid spending time with people whom I was trained to mistrust and who have learned to mistrust my kind or me.

Honestly, this is what this is all about. Isn’t it? Projecting your insecurities onto others.

7. When I am told about our national heritage or about “civilization,” I am shown that people of my color made it what it is

That’s because they did. The United States was colonized by Anglo-Saxons, who brought disease to the Native Population. They also relied on slave-labor as many undeveloped nations still do today. Slavery is present in every societal history. Industrialization was the end of slavery. Shit, all of civilization is due to people of any color. This statement is to explicitly demonize whites, as the US largely developed under white colonial rule. However, if you looked a Indian, or Chinese history book, it would largely show Indian or Chinese people, correct? Facts are facts. Whitewashing/Blackwashing of history is abhorrent; intellectually and socially.

8. I can be sure that my children will be given curricular materials that testify to the existence of their race.

This is the most obvious one to attack. I don't recall being told of different white heritages/races as a child. In-fact, I was labeled a white supremacist for recognizing more than one race of “white” people. Reasoning: “Culture comes from race! Not the other way around!”

20. I can do well in a challenging situation without being called a credit to my race

This is one of the only every-day racist statements in this entire handout. As a white person I have been called a “credit to my race” by a real Neo-Nazi, in a sarcastic manor. I cant think of any situation where anyone except racists or really ignorant folks would say this.

21. I am never asked to speak for all the people of my racial group

No one asked you to do it, and here you are. Shame on you.

22. I can remain oblivious of the language and customs of persons of color who constitute the world’s majority without feeling in my culture any penalty for such oblivion

Currently, how I live I suffer social penalty for not understanding languages or customs. I am a foodie. I like to cook culturally authentic food. I try to speak as many major languages as possible. I travel. As you can imagine, I have the wealth to support it. In my personal culture; it is damaging to be ignorant.

23. I can criticize our government and talk about how much I fear its policies and behavior without being seen as a cultural outsider.

So you teach people to feel like cultural outsiders... and then tell them its a privilege to not feel that way?

25. If a traffic cop pulls me over or if the IRS audits my tax return, I can be sure I haven’t been singled out because of my race.

This entire essay is racial profiling, but then implies not being racially profiled is a privilege of whites?

27. I can go home from most meetings of organizations I belong to feeling somewhat tied in, rather than isolated, out-of-place, outnumbered, unheard, held at a distance or feared.

So basically the opposite of how, straight, white, right leaning people are treated at college?

28. I can be pretty sure that an argument with a colleague of another race is more likely to jeopardize her/his chances for advancement than to jeopardize mine.

A privilege granted explicitly to non-whites.

31. I can choose to ignore developments in minority writing and minority activist programs, or disparage them, or learn from them, but in any case, I can find ways to be more or less protected from negative consequences of any of these choices.

Uhh, isn’t this the piece of literature responsible for spawning a domestic terrorist group? Is it not that groups sole interest that the construction of a communist anti-white ethnostate? I’m not kidding. AntiFa/BlackBloc/BLM and Nation of Islam are the same movement. Am I not considered “problematic” simply for being white, male, and conservative? Do I not have to fear being “reprimanded” by revolution coming to my home town? “By any means necessary” right AntiFa?

32. My culture gives me little fear about ignoring the perspectives and powers of people of other races.

I’m pretty sure people want to behead me, oven me, hang me, stone me, etc based on my race, sexuality, political stance, and religion. Many of them have the power and will to do so.

34. I can worry about racism without being seen as self-interested or self-seeking.

White folks get the worst when it comes to this. I am not allowed to worry about my culture dying without someone calling me a bigot. Likewise, I can’t be a champion for other races without being seen as a traitor or a SJW.

35. I can take a job with an affirmative action employer without having my co-workers on the job suspect that I got it because of my race.

I can’t take any job without it be attributed to my white male privilege now a days.

36. If my day, week or year is going badly, I need not ask of each negative episode or situation whether it had racial overtones.

You should as that 67 year old woman who got socked for wearing a red cap about that one.

38. I can think over many options, social, political, imaginative or professional, without asking whether a person of my race would be accepted or allowed to do what I want to do.

“CULTURAL APPROPRIATION!” “RACIST!” “NAZI!” “WHITE SUPREMACIST” “PROBLEMATIC!” “ANTISEMITISM!”

42. I can arrange my activities so that I will never have to experience feelings of rejection owing to my race.

If I was in college as a white male, I would be rejected an awful lot right now.

49. My children are given texts and classes which implicitly support our kind of family unit and do not turn them against my choice of domestic partnership.

What about my college students being sucked into a mind virus that teaches them that heterosexuality is abhorrent? “Sex Junk” anyone?

50. I will feel welcomed and “normal” in the usual walks of public life, institutional and social.

Unless you go slapping yourself with a snowflake gender (Outside of he, her, they), or you decide to rock a tail and Tripp Chains to work, I don't imagine sees anyone as abnormal; unless they themselves are.

You get the picture. While reading some of these bullet points did you feel a pang of polarization? You did? That’s the point.

Pictured: My heritage, also a potential hate symbol.

What is hypernormalization, and what does it have to do with White Privilege?

Since the 1970s, right around the “end” of the Cold War, most of the world’s cultures have been under attack by the same forces that fueled the Cold War. This has been detailed by a BBC documentary by the name of “HyperNormalization” likewise I used this to describe the current culture war in the Furry Fandom. This culture war is just a microcosm of current global culture. It is the march of Hypernormaliation.

Just what is this strange buzzword I have never heard before? Well, it is just what it sounds like. It is the hyper-normalization of everything: racism, communism, anarchism, sexuality, gender, furry, pedophilia, tribal conflict, consumerisim, etc. You name it, it is being normalized.

I am not going to go into full crazy territory and tell you that there is a plan to take over everyone (like the documentary suggests). Rather, I think this is a result of ‘primitive’ humans and global communication. Our cultural war is of people clinging to their last vestiges of identity; and the instinct to dominate with their identity. It could be Social, Fiscal, or Theological dominance; the motivator is always power and capital. Very few are capable of altruism, those who believe they are being altruistic, are not. It’s easy to tell when people start using or citing various *isims; and/or minimizing the struggles of others; it is for personal or herd gain, not out of altruism. Internet, public schooling, universities, and mass media have hypernormalized us all. Very few see themselves as a driven gear, rather, they see themselves as the driver gear in the great machine. Rarely do people today form their own opinions. As we are dying as individuals, desperate for identity we fight anyone trying to take that tiny piece of humanity away. Which brings us back to to the truth of #altfurry, Furry Raiders, RMFC, Deo, Leftist, QuQu, “Bronies for Trump” etc; anyone else who is participating in this dumpster fire for anything more than schadenfreude. They are the hypernormalised. Even though #altfurry fights “pedophile” babyfurs, even though the SJWs fight the “nazi furries” neither of them actually exists for anything more than gaining social capital.

So what can you do?

Simple: Ignore them. Just do you. Make your gross porn, wear your Akransas suit, support Trump, but don’t force yourself on others. Don’t force your warped sensitivities on society because you don’t feel recognized. Likewise don’t force your identity on others. Accept them, they will accept you. You can’t hope to change people by ostracizing them, that only breeds more contempt and tribal behavior. Your identity is not unique, you are a human being. Unless you take the human race to Type 3 status, nothing you do actually matters. Neither should the personal tastes and and thoughts of others affect you now.

Pictured: a furry who gives no fucks.

If you have made it this far, congrats.

You most likely care about this fandom, and not warped, self service causes.

Do your part, ex-communicate those who only seek to defend themselves, and only themselves. The thirds side, is always the most moral.

#furries #furry fandom #twitter #rmfc #anti feminism #anti antifa #hypernormalisation

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goddessgardener · 8 years ago

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