#and starting online drama is petty and stupid

[tomatosoupandpasta]

Oh the things I hold back

[bioethicists]

responding to this with my shitty redaction because i'm not comfortable posting obvious bait with people's names in them (particularly dead names) but i just wanted to point out the ways in which this ask is prototypical bait written to purposefully generate drama or controversy (idk if this is in a kiwifarms trolling with right wing motives sense or an 'i love drama' person) by trying to appeal to online leftist culture/the fear of being 'problematic'. i see ppl fall for this constantly + i need people to start learning to recognize the signs instead of either engaging or using this as evidence that leftists are stupid/petty/hypocritical (which many of us are, but in much less amusing ways, unfortunately)

the implication that there is a single founder of the "neurodiversity movement" + that evoking this movement at all (which i don't do + i think it's actually pretty evident that my politics are distinct from the much more bioessentialist politics of those who prefer that term, which is part of what led me to conclude that this is a copypasta) is supporting the founder. tracing a broad social concept to a single individual, then disparaging that individual as morally unsound (by evoking other explosive, petty pieces of discourse, like baeddalism + transandrophobia) in order to provoke doubt, fear or anger. demonstrates a hope that leftists will flinch away from anything associated with anyone 'problematic' without applying any critical thinking.

misrepresenting complex events (or fabricating them entirely- idk if these things happened + i simply couldn't care enough to find out) in a way that hits the pressure points of performative activism (she's being mean to an autistic person! other people of color agree with me! this other person is anti physically disabled people!) while also betraying reactionary opinions through language use/implications (claiming to care about 'transandrophobia' yet deadnaming someone? claiming to care about specific events at specific autism conferences but using terms like "severely autistic"? saying you have spoken to "Blacks, Asians, Hispanics, American Indians" lmao did you type this out based on census checkboxes from the 70s?). the author of this ask is clearly not a member of the activist communities they claim to be from because they accidentally slip into the speech conventions + opinions of a kiwifarms/4chan loser who does a lot of hatereading. this one did a good job of hitting the bingo card of divisive intracommunity issues rn- great research skills, bud! put them to better use <3

reframing reactionary beliefs using leftist concepts. this works because many of us do not have a foundational politic outside of "well, i want to be good, so I'm going to support the things that other people i trust say are good". which doesn't make you bad (there is no good or bad! learn this now + quick, if you really want to play a part in building a better world) but it makes you easy to manipulate + unlikely to be capable of meaningful change. notice that the claims this ask is asserting are, at their core, "people make up microaggressions to cause problems when really they could easily suck it up" + "people fake disabilities and being trans for attention". these are reactionary concerns, no matter how artfully they are dressed in social justice language. kiwifarms in particular was very, very good at this- they loved finding the people they stalked to be racist, homophobic, ableist, etc, not because they thought those things were wrong (it was their hobby to be these things!) but because they delighted in identifying hypocrisy, stirring up drama, + destroying people's reputations.

this is hard to explain bcuz i blacked out the names, but if you have a passing familiarity with fascist/reactionary online spaces, particularly the history of kiwifarms, you will know that reactionaries have their own 'pet leftists', just like we have our 'pet fascists' (shapiro, alex jones, tucker carlson, etc). that is, ppl they obsessively follow, harass, + scrutinize + come to believe are representative of everything that we believe. these ppl are rarely ppl who are actually prominent in our online spaces but online reactionaries often believe we are just as obsessed with these people as they are, but as unquestioned paragons of virtue + brilliance. namedropping these ppl is often an accidental tip of the hat, particularly when the ppl aren't on tumblr, haven't been a topic of community discussion for quite some time, or run in a different circle than us (reactionaries don't understand that there are actually thousands of leftist social groups which have very little overlap with some others- pronouns in bio does not mean someone knows or cares about contrapoints, for instance)

tl;dr this ask is a fantastic example of the rhetorical features bait that someone might actually take seriously.

[firecrackerhh]

You had a callout post made against you…

And you still think callout posts do anything?

God I wish they did, maybe you’d finally shut the fuck up and touch some fucking grass.

“Some callouts DO need to exist for the betterment of humanity!” Spare me the fucking dramatics! Are you fucking kidding me?

Callouts never do Jack fucking shit! Ever! If you want consequences for someone’s horrible actions, do something IN THE REAL WORLD about it instead of crying online like a goddamn bitch about it for the thousandth time!

I mean, this bitch is still here yapping away regardless of what anyone fucking thinks, clearly the callout on them did fucking nothing, I don’t see how they couldn’t understand this. Callouts. Do. Nothing.

Sure, those posts are good at collecting evidence of awful behavior, but are you gonna do anything after making it? Are you gonna go to the cops? No? Why not? If none of it is actually sue-worthy, if none of you have any fucking balls to do what has to be done so they truly suffer consequences for their awful behavior, then what’s the point?

It at most can ostracize people but they’ll always find other places to be, you cannot possibly get rid of every person online whose a shitty fucking person, the only way to truly get rid of shitty people in the world is to fucking kill them but yknow…that leads to a lot of problems. There’s plenty reasons why a lot of people think the death penalty is barbaric.

Frankly, it sounds a lot to ME like Squid here is more upset that she felt like her callout was completely unwarranted (tho if you really felt that unsafe in the fandom AS A FUCKING MINOR at the time, you should’ve fucking LEFT) more so than the fact that she had a call out on her to begin with.

Like honestly, some people openly share info about themselves online all the time and then act so fucking aggrieved when other people bring it up, bitch if you’re the one that brought it up first, you have no one to blame but your fucking self! It’s not like this rando person “leaking” your info or whatever hacked your fucking computer! I’m betting all that info was already public information that anyone could’ve found anyway.

Like for fucks sake, if this fandom treated you like shit so bad I dunno why you waste your time whining about it instead of ignoring us, Viv. and the shows completely. I’m under the impression the hatedom doesn’t like you much either thanks to your past behavior. The only people who do are probably teenagers who don’t know any better. You aren’t doing anything of value other than being a fucking nuisance, your whining is pathetic.

“Call outs are actually good guys! Not mine tho, even tho the reason why they called me out was because I was obviously in a fandom I shouldn’t be in because I clearly can’t emotionally handle anything about the show and all I ever did was bring attention on myself constantly and start petty drama with people over retarded fucking bullshit and accuse people of doing horrible things with barely any good evidence because I’m an attention whore because no one gives a shit about me irl!!!”-Squidiot if they were brutally honest about themselves.

God please alert this bitch’s parents to their behavior, they clearly can’t help themselves.

Yknow, assuming their parents actually give a shit about them at all. Why else would they be such an attention whore online? Honestly it would be pitiful if they weren’t so obnoxious.

Like god help me if I sound really fucking petty right now but considering this dumb bitch made a stupid call out post on me on her old blog I think I have all the goddamn right in the world to be. Like nothing happened, at all (of fucking course it fucking didn’t) which just proves my point how useless call outs are.

I just can’t stand the fucking self righteousness, like fuck off already, you aren’t better than anyone, you’re just a fucking bitch whose life is shit so you think taking it out on people who you think deserve it will make you fucking feel better. Get the fuck over yourself and grow the fuck up.

“Proshipper logic” Dude…shut up. If you think disliking callouts is exclusively proshipper behavior there’s not enough grass in the world you could touch to make you a well adjusted human being.

“Damn Fire, don’t you think everything you’re saying is a bit hypocritical?” Sure!

Am I saying anything wrong?

I’ll say this much, the difference is simple. They talk shit because they’re delusional enough to think they aren’t and they think they’re spitting facts 24/7, and I talk shit cuz it’s fun. If I’m not bitching about anything, consider me dead.

My whining is just as useless and pathetic as theirs, but I would like to think I have some awareness. I’m not pretending to be 100% morally correct here, I’ve simply never been particularly interested in being kind to people who clearly aren’t kind themselves, no matter how much they bullshit themselves to believe otherwise.

I call out bullshit as I see it. And some people are clearly full of it more than others. A lot of antis are annoying, but some of them are particularly obnoxious where I wonder if they never had to deal with the consequences of being so at a young age.

That or they were treated as such but they were so un-self-aware they legit believe they’ve never actually done anything wrong their whole life and they decide to blame everyone else for their problems because god fucking forbid you take some accountability and take steps to improve yourself in any capacity.

Like I get that there are reasons for why people become who they are but once your actions start affecting other people and causing problems I think at some point you have to face the music and like…I dunno, grow the fuck up?

At least I have the fucking decency to fucking feel bad about how much of a pain in the ass I am sometimes, I don’t think this bitch actually regrets anything they’ve ever done, that would require an ability to self-reflect, which they clearly do not possess. Even if they did apologize…I dunno, I wouldn’t believe it. Then again, I don’t really believe most public apologies. I’m convinced a lot of people apologize more so out of social obligation than actually being sorry.

If you were actually sorry for your shitty behavior you wouldn’t keep doing it. Simple as.

Alright I’ve been rambling for long enough. Y’all get the point.

Call outs do nothing, this bitch should know better, blaming the hatred of cancel culture on proshippers is fucking retard shit, I know that doing the whole “psycho analyzing them like I could actually know anything about them purely from online blog posts” is kinda much I suppose, but they do the same shit to us and Viv herself, so I say it’s fair game.

Just saying, if you don’t want people to talk shit, don’t spread bullshit.

🧨🔥~Firecracker out~🧨🔥

[sable-dream]

controversial opinion but most of the petty stupid drama (ie the “you can’t be a therian unless you know your species exact taxonomy” drama, not serious issues where someone/something is being harmed) in the therian community is caused by the median age of the community being like 15.

I know I know stupid drama is caused by adults too but a lot of that drama originates from the fact that communities of teenagers can be really drama oriented.

I was in a fandom for a while that was mostly made up of teenagers and the drama was all over the place because a lot of the people were actual children.

This is not a dig against younger therians, by the way. Starting drama and engaging in disagreements are parts of childhood and teenage hood and they help develop social skills. It’s completely normal even if it is annoying as fuck.

Anyways if you see someone making a really stupid and chronically online ridiculous take it’s ok to just ignore them.

Also being a good speaker/persuasive does not always equal correct.

[hypnagogics]

hiiii!! for the asks 5, 6, and 25🤫

ALSO NEW THEME EATSSS i’m obsessed <3

HEHEHE THANK YEWWWW!!💚💚 and thanks for asking yay🕺🕺

5. what made you start your blog? people in the comments of ellie edits talking about how delicious tumblr fics are...im being so fr..i wanted to see what it was about..and then got sucked in LMAO

6. what's the best/worst part of being online? best is the community and the friendships that you can make, worst is stupid petty drama and discourse going around like clockwork, especially in the fandoms im in likE GUYSSSSSS PLEASE. it's so annoying lmfao

25. fav season and why? I LOVE SPRING!! it's hopeful and cheerful, and not too hot yet but quite nice, and is like a positive after a gross winter..also like fall <3

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[cresent971]

Two beautiful people that love each other deeply my feelings for them will never change I'm tired of people disrespecting them and making them look bad in general I am actually getting tired of people doing these things this is saying I'm a petty selfish arrogant asshole who gets a rush for no reason at all this makes me question the fact that people these days are straight up delusional and insane and messed up in the head I'm not surprised that people will do these things for a sick and cruel joke this isn't funny anymore I get tired of people disrespecting Michael Jackson and Lisa Marie Presley all the time people need to keep their vile and Digusting and derogatory slurs to themselves I am completely done already people really do know how to screw up badly and cause problems for these two lovebirds in general this is not funny at all this is screaming I'm a self entitled dumbass who gets a twisted way of starting drama online that kind of behavior will get them in serious trouble they think this is funny just wait until they face serious consequences for their actions they will be deepest part or the deepest pit of hell with Satan himself God will not allow those kinds of people in his kingdom if people cannot stop this madness they will face significant consequences immediately this is absolutely uncalled for people have got to stop already them doing this stuff will not help them when that time comes they will be facing serious trouble people need to keep their toxic and vile and repetitive comments to themselves this is the millionth time that people keep disrespecting michael jackson and Lisa Marie Presley on YouTube in the comments sections I'm boiling right now I'm not happy anymore I'm at a loss for words right now my blood has boiled badly I'm actually done with people thinking they can just do these things and not have repercussions for their actions in general yeah that's not how karma works at all they think this is funny none of this is funny they will find out the hard way immediately their actions have detrimental consequences this will land them in serious and severe trouble I'd watch what I say or post on the internet when people do stuff like that about Michael Jackson and Lisa Marie Presley let's just say that their digital footprint is cooked on second thought scratch that off their digital footprint is beyond fried they'll never be able to undo what they have done on the internet I'd watch what I say or do on the internet it will come back and get you immediately if people cannot stop already they will have to face the government and the fbi in general this is why people who do these things deserve to be banished immediately and banned from the internet because they basically cannot stop doing these things all that's doing is getting them in hot water and all they are doing is digging themselves the deepest hole possible that they can't get themselves out of you mess around and you will find out for sure you play stupid games you win stupid prizes don't be an asshole and start causing mayhem on the internet and making Michael Jackson and Lisa Marie Presley look like monsters I'd stop this immediately and quit being a jerk as well

[squidcourse]

Why do you feel that it's appropriate to bring up drama and bash on people that you yourself have started you have not been around for a while? I do not understand your reasoning - what's the point of this, a smear campaign? People are allowed to privately be mad about somebody that is actively harmful to them and their community

You're calling it a smear campaign, even though I have not named what discord server it is or who is directly involved. There is another ask which I could use as an opportunity to bring up what server this is. I just might, considering how this is going.

There is a difference between being privately mad about someone who is indeed harmful; and having a publicly advertised discord server where it is allowed to turn a tumblr user into a meme and openly roleplay as said user pretending to react to situations to mock her.

A recent ask I received and answered from someone currently on the server implies that this is still going on, which doesn't surprise me.

If you really must have a reason why I bring this up, the answer is, I don't know. Honestly, I find it quite weird whenever I see certain users posting under syscourse, and I'm reminded how while there is plenty of intelligent deconstruction of misinformation, there is also a lot of bad-faith bullshit behind the screens. It comes from wanting an easy target to clown on. The easiest thing to do would be to simply block and ignore bullshit while occasionally responding to anything particularly harmful that gets popular.

However, the childish mockery of users on a fairly popular discord server that heavily advertises as being a "mature space" when you read the rules, it is just so gross and hypocritical. Its behavior that just describing will result in the assumption that there must be some kind of targeted smear campaign going on.

I don't care what someone did online, the appropriate response is to fucking block them, and move on. If you want to roleplay as a tumblr user and maker her say funny things to mock her using TupperBox or PluralKit proxies, ok. If you want to bring her up in voice chat as a joke when playing JackBox like she's a hilarious meme, go ahead. It is your decision to do that. However, if you're going to do that on a discord server that's being publicly advertised for anyone on tumblr to join provided that they are an adult and a system... well then you're going to have to deal with someone letting that behavior sit in their brain and think about it and realize how fucked up that is, no matter what absolutely stupid bullshit that person said to make you think that it was appropriate to clown on them like that.

tl;dr - The shit that went down on that server was fucking weird and I didn't like it. No matter how shitty someone is, acting petty is not a mature solution. I'm allowed to talk about what happened if I want to. You calling it a "smear campaign" when I didn't even specify who it was makes me more motivated to share the server (although I forgot exactly who participated directly).

Also, what really motivated me to continue thinking about this was that bracket game which includes both the mocked and the mockees. I don't know who started the bracket game, and I will not claim their intentions, however, it prompted me to think more about how gross that server's vibes were.

[heyharoldsboo]

this percy situation is just so fucking sad. like i cannot believe that there are such malicious and cruel people who are ready to ruin person`s live for some petty hs drama. i don`t know who they think they are with their femcel agenda, but i can say that they`re just a poor excuse of human beings. from one point of view i`m kinda glad that now percy wouldnt let everybody walk over him and welcome every stranger with open arms, but from the other side im sad that he even has to go through such tough times and that these bs probably scarred him for a long run. i`m just really fucking sad for him. as a person who unfortunately feels deeply i really cannot wrap my head around how people can do such terriable things - and it is not only about percy, people like them cause great harm to sa and r*pe survivors. this guy was such a breath of fresh air with his presence, such a free spirit, like really genuinely interesting person and he let us see it, and now probably it`s not gonna happen, but the most important thing is his comfort. i hope the main 4 gets their karmas as well as all those stupid teen haters that clearly have nothing to do. like i trully with them nothing good. thank you for all the work that you`ve been doing! your blog is such a safe space. i hope you eat and sleep well!! also stay hydrated, bestie 🖤

I also feel so sad for him.

Percy with his online presence was a breath of fresh air in a time I desperately needed to see some fun in the world. I’m still healing from these things, and he was a huge part on me not drowning in despair. He’ll probably never know how much he was important, and how nice it was to see him just being himself. I hope he doesn’t let the haters make him lose this part of himself.

I hope karma gets all of these people, and that it has more mercy for them than I currently have.

And thank you, truly! I started this just trying to help Percy in any way I could, and now we have such an incredible small community. I’m forever thankful.

[shinydixon]

Grace was being so petty wjth that “I love making people who already hate me hate me more”…. When she does those things it really makes me think that she loves the drama (which she used to start a lot of petty drama some months ago for no reason, other than her obviously enjoying it)

This is what i never get it.

You can't post "being hated took a toll on me" AND THEN STARTING SHIT AGAIN.

Dear Grace did you also tell Joe what you did while you were online and your fans were harassing a black quinnie for not liking your stupid character because you quoted that tweet word after word ?🥺

[mysterious-dark-shadow]

I think it’s time for me to talk about Jasmine, aka Jasie, aka WonderWitchJasie, aka HellboundWitch, aka @Samhain on Twitter

A warning: This is gonna be super short because I’m not one to mince words.

Jasie has been stalking Felix, trying (and FAILING SO HARD) to get “Sempai” to notice her so she can swoon and brag to her little Skype/discord/tumblr/twitter friends that she PERSONALLY KNOWS THE GREAT DA-AT-ASS. She’s also tried to climb him like a beanpole, whether in TTRPG games, in Skype chats & calls, or by sending him a “*teehee* I’m low key confessing my feelings” Spotify playlist.

Btw, the post I reblogged implies that Felix ran her off tumblr, but she had closed down her blog at least 3 months beforehand. She just conveniently privated/deleted the post before this one announcing the fact she was moving to Twitter.

Now, to address Jasie directly, because I am a petty, petty, obsessive bastard.

Bet you felt really big and brave, crafting all these lies, weaving a sob story about how scared you were and that you couldn’t speak up, cackling over Discord with Rune & whoever else was in that drama chat. (Ohh, I’m very well aware that he had one. Did you ever wonder if he had one about you that you weren’t invited to? Ever think about the fact that he might have one now? Did you ever think about the other users in those chats, who they might be talking to and about? If not, you’re stupider than I thought.)

Newsflash, bitch: I’ve been friends with him online & in-person way, way longer than you; and I’m married to the guy so I think I know a couple more things than you about what he likes/doesn’t like in a person. He was uncomfortable with you from the start: the way you shoved your tits around like they made you the biggest baddest sex witch in the whole place; how you tried to manipulate his IMAGINARY ROLE-PLAYING CHARACTER into a relationship with your IMAGINARY ROLE-PLAYING CHARACTER (his character was HELLA GAY btw); and your general assumption that since your posts got notes and you were once on BOA’s editor list, you were obviously Tumblr Royalty.

Now look at you: Reduced to one very, very outdated callout post on Tumblr, and a protected Twitter. Not such a big fan-base anymore. I’d shed a tear but I’m all out.

I think it's time for me to talk about Felix S. Warren

aka @da-at-ass, @badoccultadvice, @merkvahpartyvan, @felixswarren, among many other names.

A warning: this is going to be long, because A) everything I write is long, I’m really sorry about myself and 2) I knew him for years and a lot happened during that time. That being said, I’m also not going to cover every single wrong Felix ever did to me and mine, so while this is long, it’s also not even close to comprehensive.

In all honesty, I should have said something sooner. Over the past year, I have kept my mouth shut because I was worried that issues about anything I said might be channeled back at my friend Rune, who was already going through enough.

However, my issues with Felix predate his relationship with Rune, much less their breakup. The truth is, I stayed quiet because I’ve been afraid of Felix for years, and when you’re that afraid of someone, your instinct isn’t to post about them all over social media, your instinct is to try and stay under their radar and avoid them at all costs.

Even now, I’m afraid. But at this point I’ve left tumblr, I feel cut off from all of our mutual friends and I know Felix’s behavior well enough to know that he will never stop obsessing over Rune, just like he never stopped obsessing over all of the other villains he’s manufactured in his mind, so I guess I really have nothing to lose by talking about what I personally went through with him and what I’ve seen him do to others.

If it were just his libelous statements about Rune, that would be bad enough, but it’s part of a larger pattern of behavior that I think people need to be warned about before they become his next target.

When Felix and I became friends, I don’t think it took very long to notice a few things.

Firstly: EVERYONE he didn’t like was a narcissist. He could be very good friends with people for years but then one day when they did something he didn’t like? 🎶 It was narcissists all along! 🎶 What are the odds that EVERYONE you meet and don’t like is a narcissist? Not that high!

And his predisposition to diagnose everyone he dislikes with a personality disorder is problematic given that SECONDLY: Felix turns against every single person he’s friends with at some point.

It was like watching a timer run down every time he interacted with someone. It didn’t matter if he knew them in real life, or if he just interacted with them via Skype. Eventually, the effusive praise would give way to constant criticisms, often behind the person’s back. With Felix, you could believe you were good friends up until the point where he didn’t have any use for you anymore except to play the villain in his latest story. He always has to have a villain, and unfortunately the closer you get to him, the more likely it is that it’s going to be you.

And at first, it didn’t seem weird. The people he didn’t like were I people I didn’t like, so if he had something to say, maybe I did too! I did think it was kind of weird that often these were people that he seemed very friendly with in public, but like, sometimes your friends annoy you, or you don’t see the need to be cruel or hostile to someone just because you may have some other issues with them. I get that.

Then the people he started talking about started becoming our mutual friends. One by one he moved through our whole friend group, ostracizing each member, and trying to plant seeds in our minds about all of the terrible things those people did to us. And at first? I agreed. Yeah, they WERE annoying. Yeah maybe they did say that stuff or do that thing.

But it didn’t stop after the first person. And the reasons seemed to get thinner and thinner until it seemed like he’d just wake up that day and decide that someone was out for no reason at all. Honestly? It was terrifying.

There are so many details about this time and his behavior that I’ve tried to write out here, but just remembering all of it is so triggering that I can’t really even bring myself to talk about them now.

Some of my friends at the time can tell you how often I cried on the phone to them, how worried I was that I would be next.

There stopped being any rhyme or reason that I could see as to who Felix would turn against, and at the time I didn’t feel like I could handle it if it were me. Knowing that what was left of the friends Felix had been allowing me to keep would be in a group chat all agreeing that I did whatever horrible thing he decided to accuse me of, whether it really happened or not, was too much for me.

Looking back, I wonder how many of them were scared too, how many of them were agreeing because they didn’t want to be next either. At the time, he had me so in thrall that I didn’t even think of that. I just felt like I had to do whatever I could to please him and keep him happy with me, or he might decide to ruin my life for fun.

I’ve personally apologized to at least one of the people involved in that. I’m sorry I didn’t stick up for you. I’m sorry that I tried to hide or downplay our continued friendship. I was so worried he would see me as a threat that I didn’t act like a good friend and speak out. And I would like to extend that apology to all of our other friends as well because I’m pretty sure by this point I owe it to every single one of you, whether you know it or not.

I’m sure that anyone who thought that I might say something about Felix were expecting most of it to be about Rune. But the truth is that I’ve had issues with Felix since before he and Rune were ever speaking, much less dating.

It’s not that I don’t have any opinions about his treatment of Rune. I mean, his desperation for Rune to be fully under his control (a pattern I had seen him play out with our friends before, attempting to ruin the lives of anyone who got close to the object of his fixation and took away attention that he wanted for himself), and his anger when he couldn’t force Rune to isolate himself from his family and become dependent upon him, not to mention how his narratives about Rune are so obviously inconsistent that the lies within them speak for themselves.

The fact that he would call the cops on a home full of very marginalized people and EVER think that’s a good thing to do, even if he really did believe Rune was being abused? by the way NEVER CALL THE COPS in a domestic abuse situation, like EVER?? Never ever!! You can and WILL get people hurt! Remember kids, ALL COPS ARE BASTARDS and actual abusers will lash out at their victims if you do this!)

It’s my honest opinion at this point that getting close to Felix is dangerous. He’s not a person that you can trust and he’s not someone that it is safe to be around. He will lash out with magic, he will lash out with social manipulation, he will outright lie if it helps paint him as the victim and you as his monster of the week.

If you’re lucky, he’ll stop eventually – once he has someone else to play these games with and maybe if you disappear completely. And even then, he’s still going to be checking your blog, obsessively googling your name, stalking your friends trying to find you, trying to “check up” on you, trying to keep feeding this twisted thing inside of him.

I have never made a “tumblr callout post”, even though there have been plenty of people who deserved it. And this is maybe this is the one I’ve been most afraid of doing, even now, even though I won’t be around for the fallout of it.

All of my other posts on this blog are gone now and when I publish this, I’ll be logging out of this account and I don’t plan to come back. I kind of hate that it has to be like this, but I don’t see any other way I can feel safe talking about this stuff, and I just can’t be silent any longer.

[petitprincess1]

For some anons maybe just like. Don’t go into the critical tag? Or realize that with any show people online are gonna talk about why they don’t like it? I get the harassment can come from both sides, and that sucks, but people are allowed to have problems with the show and discuss them that everyone might not agree on. Your definition of “valid criticism” is completely different than someone else’s. And yeah your allowed to have problems with those criticisms as well. But no matter where you stand going out of your way to start drama between blogs is pointless, like just block people and move on lol calling people antis isn’t gonna make them stop stating their opinions on the show or Viv.

...........I didn't do anything, dude. I literally have not started drama with anyone. If anything, they're beefing with me because I dared to have an opinion on their criticism. Also, I do block people. Majority of these people I don't even know or even remember. How they remember me I have no idea x3 When I say "antis" or "criticals" I mean it in a very general term, not a specific person.

Also, just like they are allowed to give their criticism. I am allowed to give mine. I'm also perfectly allowed to give my opinion on someone else's public post.

And, no. There isn't a different definition of "valid criticism". What valid criticism contains antagonizing words, demonizing a fan base, bringing up hateful crap about the creator, and dredging up old, defaming rumors? None of that has anything to do with the shows. It's not necessary to be brought up. Hell, Vivzie doesn't even write all the eps, yet they still bring her up for no reason other than pettiness.

If you don't want to hear other people disagreeing with you, too fucking bad. That also exists in the real world. Deal with it. Stop labeling shit as harassment and then turn around to do the same thing to those that disagree with you.

Also, the critical tag cannot be avoided. Tumblr's system is stupid. The moment they mention Hazbin Hotel, it ends up on the primary tag. Do you think I'm looking for these posts, anon?

[doberbutts]

I know youve been told this like a million times but I wanted to tell you too: thanks for being a genuine advocate for trans men and standing up for the community. Im a trans man/genderqueer and ive been on Tumblr for a while but recently the blatant hatred and harassment towards trans men for doing nothing more than talking about the oppression we face and inventing words to describe that oppression is insane. Esp with Big Funny Meme blogs picking up those posts just to make fun of trans men and nothing else. Esp big funny meme blogs that are owned by LBGT people... Its really nice to have an oasis of safety in your blog, and learn a lot about dog care and training too!! Thanks so much Jaz 💖

I'm glad you've found refuge here! I have mostly stayed out of the trans community online for much of my life because it's always been filled with stupid petty drama, I think the problem is that right now there are particularly loud individuals who believe themselves untouchable because they have A Sacred Identity and thus any problematic behavior they exhibit cannot be called out because their Identity Is Good Actually.

Completely unrelated (or is it) to the whole thing going down on tumblr, I started being loud about this after two events last summer. The first when a very bad take regarding male SA survivors was reblogged uncritically by a mutual, and the second when I watched a trans masc friend in a LGBT-specific dog group on FB make his own post saying that the "jokes" about all men being bad and being attracted to men is a curse etc contributed to why he stayed in the closet for so long and could we please think of how this may hurt marginalized men when posting in a group that is, statistically, half marginalized men... and he was effectively called an incel and an MRA and told that he personally was responsible for male violence against women. Because he voiced, in a mixed group, that he was not comfortable with all of the jokes at his demographic's expense.

And the admins, two of who are also trans masc, just let it happen. They refused to police the thread and only closed it when two particular cis women started making violent threats against him for stating that their "kill all men including trans men, all men are rapists including trans men, all men are evil including trans men" was hurtful to see in a community that claimed to support everyone. Those two were allowed to stay in the group. He was told to "let it go" or leave. He chose to leave.

I cannot understand why so many within the LGBT community think that trans men and trans mascs aren't on the receiving end of transphobia, misogyny, and more. I don't understand why our words are so heavily policed. People have told me directly to my face that trans men do not experience misogyny because misogyny is "just for women". But then in the same breath they say "misandry isn't real" so trans men can't use that either to describe what happens to them. I've seen people go as far to say that because trans men are frequently erased and abandoned and left isolated until they kill themselves, because trans men go stealth or blend with GNC cis women (or in-betweener gender identities that are neither trans nor cis but no one likes talking about those), because trans men have an "easier" medical transition path (regardless of whether that's true or not), that trans men actually have it easy and that they don't really have any issues and thus do they even experience transphobia at all???

I've seen some real big brain shit takes about how trans men use the F markers on their paperwork to gain privilege, or how trans men "just have to bind and they're done", how trans men are born into privilege, and more. I don't know what world these people are living in. My world is not that clearcut or that easy. I've been transitioning socially for 16 years, fully out for about 8, and have not had a single dose of T but that didn't stop someone of saying I couldn't possibly know what she was going through transitioning "late" (in her mid-20s) because I transitioned as a teen. I'm 29 and have yet to start my medical transition journey. She blocked me when I corrected her.

In any case. I've been around for a long time. This is all cyclical old hat stuff that I saw back in the early/mid 2000s when I was figuring myself out. My best advice to you is to go hang out with LGBT people in real life, a group that's actually a community, loving, supportive, and leave this online bullshit for those who have nothing better to do than to run their mouths about experiences they clearly have no idea what they're talking about.

[des2dream]

Okay, from the moment this happened, I didn't give a damn! Why would I? It was just some anonymous post. I didn't know who this anon was, so why would I let that consume my thoughts? I already knew I wasn't this "creepy writer" so I just turned the other way while making some comments here and there in the Anonymous Confessions blog. I didn't want anything to do with this. I was just being the observer. Not to mention I was handling my own business so online drama or some ridiculously stupid pettiness someone wanted to stir was not gonna be the cherry on the stress cake! However, I did soften up a bit when I noticed how it started affecting the community. It hurt me that everyone else was feeling discouraged and sad. No matter how much fun I wanted to have with the idea that these anon posts could've been from anyone and there was this mystery behind it, it was still causing harm. I'm not gonna sugarcoat it, some people are too sensitive! Maybe some of you are too sensitive! Some people can't handle what anons have to say about them. I understand why you feel that way. If an Anon made a post saying weird things about me, I'd feel some type of way too. But at the end of the day, it's just an opinion. Nothing more. Nothing less. They can say whatever they want about you, but who are you at the end of the day? Who do you see yourself as? What do you want to be? Who do you want to be? I'm sorry to break it to you, but EVERY SINGLE COMMUNITY has at least one twisted person who wants to stir something up no matter how sweet your communities are or seem to be! The world ain't perfect! There's always bullsh@t coming your way! The real question is....how are you gonna deal with it? It's really sweet how much a lot of you care for each other. It makes me happy knowing that the community does have a habit of lifting each other up when something goes down. Everyone will have their own opinions. Sometimes those opinions are even true. Sometimes these opinions will leave you with self-reflection. It happened to me before. Anons can talk all they want. The Anonymous Confessions Ringmaster can post whatever they want. I'll still be writing stories and drowning myself in creativity. What will you be doing?

Regarding The Recent AnonConfessions

To the Tumblr Crumpet Community,

I’m aware that a couple of posts on audioroleplayconfessions have sparked an uproar over the last couple of days, and I think it has been blown way out of proportion, to the extent where I need to write this.

Though I agree that most criticisms about others can be handled in private, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and the confessions blog is a way to publicly post what they want to say while also keeping their anonymity. As a creator, it's unfortunate to see members having issues with other members, but that is also an opinion someone can have. It's impossible for everyone to get along, and inevitably, we are drawn to/repelled by certain people and behaviours.

Just as I agree that the confession author can block those in the community they have a problem with, so can those who have a problem with the confession blog. We all know the purpose of it and what it's used for, and it will likely have opinions/criticisms we don't like or agree with. It is meant to be a place for thoughts that would probably receive backlash/conflict with the majority in said fandom. Still, you are free to comment, and I always advocate for healthy discourse.

I have also seen the community blame Ringmaster for this. As far as I can see, Ringmaster did not break any of their own rules with the first post: it was not hate, nor was it targeted harassment because the member was unnamed. However, I think the second post treads a fine line between being a follow-up of the first post, and fighting with the community directly under the guise of anonymity, fuelling it further.

Again, if the confessions blog irritates/offends you, please block it for your health and your sanity.

The ZSakuVA tag has been filled with this recently. I understand that a lot of you want to defend the community and ensure it remains a safe space for all, and I have tried to keep it that way since the beginning. It's wonderful to see some positive comments stem from this. However, some posts simply reacting to the drama can prove detrimental to the community as a whole and fan the flame, drawing more eyes to the matter when there was no need to, and adding more conflict where there was little. Please do not insult others. Do not seek out the drama and cause more harm than good. And if you have a problem with another member, the best way to resolve it is by either talking to them privately, or blocking them.

I would recommend, before you post about drama like this (which shouldn't have been drama in the first place), ask yourself if it will contribute to the conflict or contribute to the community.

This will be my only post on the matter.

[anti-katsuki-lounge]

As someone whose second favorite character is Shoto. I understand the anon's frustration with his character in the manga. His character only revolves his family nowadays and that's pretty sad. Unless you are interested in his family drama, then reading it would certainly be boring. but I disagree with you on something. I don't think his fight with Inasa was stupid. Shoto learned a lesson from it. How he can't let his hatred and pettiness to get in the way of saving people. But I understand that his character isn't that interesting to people and that's fine as long you're not unnecessarily bashing him for some other characters. He's just unnecessarily hated on.

I personally find his character is something that I do find endearing for some reason. I don't really know how it started, but all I know is I'm only reading My Hero for him and Izuku. I think the reason why I find him charming in sense is because I only focus on his relationship with Izuku and how he acts around him. Also add Iida and family into this. I don't care to remember how he interacts with others. He and Izuku have such a great friendship. They are literally ride or die besties. They are so goofy and especially how Horikoshi portrays them doing weird shit together in his sketches. What I'm trying to say is that Shoto is interesting when he interacts with Izuku. Their relationship itself is entertaining to see. But yeah I'll stop gushing about them.

Now you compare this his relationship with Bakugo and it all falls off. There's literally nothing cute about their friendship. All Bakugo did was yell at him about how he isn't friends with him. Some people take this as Bakugo being tsundere, but it's not true. Bakugou doesn't internally believe that they are friends nor does he wish he is. He just doesn't want to around him. And just because Bakugou said one good thing to Shoot doesn't automatically make them friendship goals. So I guess their now friends in the more recent chapters of the manga. I don't know but it feels like Bakugou is only cooperative because his circumstances forced him to. It's like a mask for his actual personality if that makes sense. It's just that I can't wrap my head around how people can view them as the best of friends.

If what makes this so called friendship interesting to people us how Bakugo is a "tsundere" then people need to have better standards. There are probably so many more friendships based on this concept that are well established and makes sense. There are two characters who start off as enemies, but their development into life and death companion is so good. It's a web novel called Omniscient Reader's Viewpoint. You should check it out, you can find the pdf version online or read the ongoing webtoon. I don't know if it will fit your tastes, but it wouldn't hurt trying it out. I know very shameless plug in.

All of this. And yeah, that’s fair about Inasa. I just kinda wished it was presented a bit differently. Felt like Inasa was being petty but you can also make the argument that Shoto learned a lesson about not bringing himself down to Inasa’s level. Shoto’s a very interesting character but sadly Hori doesn’t really know how to write ongoing arcs or how to prioritize which arcs matter more. Shoto’s arc is super important to the themes of the series. Katsuki’s? Maybe if done well but it ain’t, and even then, Shoto could’ve easily replaced him (powerful dude learns to let go of their pride to become their best possible selves).

[androidsandais]

I really, really debated saying anything about this at all because I HONESTLY do not want to get involved at all. But this whole thing has me sick to my stomach, and I feel like I HAVE to denounce the stuff I’m seeing in the “I have no mouth” tag.

Currently there’s a callout post on the tag. It said to come to your own opinion after reading it. I did, and looked into the allegations, and honestly I disagree with it. Additionally, I personally have just seen a LOT of people arguing about characters in the tag lately. As far as I can tell, most of these people posting are minors, and I think it’s stupid and a waste of time to argue with teens on the internet. Let them be mad or complain. I am not going to get involved.

That said I DESPISE petty fandom drama and I also despise callout posts when they’re mostly just aimed at people the poster just doesn’t like. ESPECIALLY when people in the posts are still teens themselves or only very recently became legal adults. 

On this post, there were really serious accusations made with no evidence, and I really don’t understand the end point of all of this.

This whole thing just seems like drama for drama’s sake. It comes off as bullying to me.

If you disagree, okay. Im not trying to start shit, I just felt extremely frustrated and wanted to say that I denounce all of this stuff. It, and the increase of teens and minors posting in the tag, are reason I’m taking a break from the tag and won’t be posting for a while. Moving forward I’ll be blocking minors from following this blog as well, and will be marking it as having potentially sensitive material to try and deter people under 18 from following me. 

I’m sure there are people who will think I’m a “gross adult” for not agreeing with a callout. And honestly, okay. But as far as I can see, it’s teens/young 20 year olds that are mostly arguing on the tag (independent of the callout) and like…I’m not getting into drama where minors could be involved. I don’t have the energy to care or get any more involved in people arguing online over fiction.

I love literary analysis. I love overanalyzing and overthinking media.

But Y’all. It’s a short story from the 60’s.

It’s not worth this much angst. 

TLDR: there’s too much drama in the tag, and I guess, “community” now, and I’m tired of it. After observing the situation it comes off as really just people acting like bullies to me. Minors will be blocked from this blog when I come back around to posting. 

Don’t try to get me on anyone’s “side” I don’t want to listen to someone argue at me, and I don’t owe you my time. I’m not gonna debate you. 

Absolutely do not UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE contact or argue or bother anyone involved in this. My whole point of this post is to say, I’ve been watching this happen, and I DON’T want to be involved.

Sorry. There’s a lot going on in my life right now, and I can’t deal with this petty fandom shit on top of this. 

[theromanticscrooge]

Rambles About AleHeather and my Fan Stuff

I’ve been thinking about what cartoons and media I’ve watched over the years that stuck with me in a significant way. The one cartoon that’s stuck to me like glue is Total Drama World Tour. Or more specifically, how the characters Alejandro and Heather have been living in my mind rent free for the past 10 years. 

I’ve been embarrassed about admitting that this stupid cartoon was part of my life, but the older I get, the less fucks I give. Everyone has some kind of media they enjoy and significantly engage with, whether it’s geeking out with friends or writing fan fiction about or whatever. There’s so many established authors and artists that got their start writing fan fics or drawing fan art. And it can be a fantastic outlet for self-expression, too. And who cares if that “thing” isn’t an Oscar-winning masterpiece? Not every work of fiction has to meet some high standard to be enjoyable and it’s absolutely okay for someone to enjoy trashy content.

In regards to Total Drama, I like it for the cheesy, ridiculous romp that it is. But there’s only so far the concept of a reality TV show parody can go. Season 1 was the strongest execution for this concept and probably the only season I’d seriously recommend to someone that wasn’t already a fan. Otherwise, AleHeather is about the only reason I revisit Total Drama in any capacity. I LOVE how petty, dramatic, and ridiculous both of them are. I love the soap operatic theatrics. They steal the show with their dumb, fun banter and underhanded schemes. They’re the only fictitious couple I prefer as “rivals to lovers to rivals” vs permanently stable canon. And damn, I had fun playing with or dialing that dynamic to 11 in my own derivative works.

I remember starting a Total Drama High School AU fan fic called “Captivated” on a whim and getting stupid excited when it took off. It was thrilling to read the reviews on fanfiction.net and know that someone was enjoying reading my off-the-rails soap opera as much as I was writing it. It was one part entertaining my childhood dream of being an author and one part wish fulfillment. In high school, I was a meek, overly conscientious nerd with my nose stuck in a book. It was cathartic playing the ridiculously capable charmer Alejandro that could, in theory, get whatever he wanted and seduce whomever he wanted.

I didn’t give Heather as much teeth as I feel like she should have in a proper fic. She’s in a shallow relationship with Justin to bolster her reputation. She’s not popular unless she’s dating a handsome, D-list celebrity. That could be an interesting angle. Heather comes across as mean and unpleasant. In the show, it’s implied if not outright depicted that she tries damn hard to be involved in everything she can but pushes others away because of her attitude. But, my fic doesn’t explore why Heather is so desperate to stay popular and she only maintains her spot because of Alejandro, another handsome face. I wrote Heather as just a love interest.

Then I tried 2 other rewrites in 2014 and 2019 respectively. And there’s my weird attempt at writing my own Total Drama season where it’s competing couples, Chris and Blaineley host, there’s Greek gods, a mad scientist, and supernatural/paranormal creatures. There’s at least two attempts at that one and it started shifting from “If Aleheather were a bad YA novel” to “This is the backstory of my mad scientist OC....”

Besides writing bad fanfiction, I also have a mountain of old AleHeather fanart from between 2010-2014. It’s fluffy. It’s angsty. They’re plugged into weird scenarios as demons, angels, and otherwise. Most of the time I rendered them in the TD art style, but there’s a few in my attempts at a “digital paper cut-out” style, too. I latched onto these two in such a way that...it shaped a huge, significant part of what my art was at that time. So, I have a perpetual soft spot for these idiots as well as online galleries excessively full of ship art, fan art, whatever.

Hell, that part of my life is why I’ll gladly argue in favor of fan fiction and fan art every time.

If I piqued your interest, there’s links to some of the bad fanfiction mentioned and more of my old fanart under the cut.

Captivated (2010): https://www.fanfiction.net/s/6201865/1/Captivated?__cf_chl_jschl_tk__=hADR8nSo8_MbzsgvRSvoqUFgUl73YvCdLhD2yJoxnCY-1636302698-0-gaNycGzNBr0

One Word Revenge (2010) : https://www.fanfiction.net/s/6318851/1/One-Word-REVENGE