#and same with they same with neos etc. considering going by any pronouns because i dont KNOW if i care

[dullahandyke]

Brain trotted up to me asking to experiment with pronouns again ... bro I'm 20 I thought I had this shit sorted

[childeproof]

clone high oc + self insert information dump :]

jimmy h, known mostly as jimmy // clone son of jimi hendrix

goes by jimmy not jimi ( same sound, diff spelling to stand out from clone father )

went parachuting because his clone father was a paratrooper in the 101st airborne division at one point ( hated it )

he’s well liked by british clones of musicians from their clone father’s era ( think john lennon, eric clapton, etc )

^^ i think it would be a neat gimmick if british people esp ladies were fond of him in general. brit magnet.

jimmy is a cis man, uses he/they pronouns without preference, sexuality wise i haven’t decided quite yet. I think i’ll leave them unlabeled

^^ one of jimi’s song lyrics was continuously misheard as “‘scuse me as I kiss this guy” fun fact. also he wld sing this incorrect version live on occasion & fllw it with a fake makeout session. did u know? lol

jimmy is a deep sleeper and has interesting dreams similarly to their clone father. i think he keeps a written record of all the dreams he can remember, just for fun

he’s deff the type of guy to go “this reminds me of this one dream i had”

1st gen clone

i do think they’d follow in their clone father’s footsteps as a musician ^_^

richard “richie” pyror // clone son of richard pyror

has a huge soft spot for animals much like his clone father, I think he’d own a dog or two

huge class clown but hasn’t seriously considered a career in comedy. he has a very blunt humor but it’s still clever and it often makes you think to get the joke

2nd gen clone

i think he’d be more of an actor than an actual comedian. deff joined the school’s theater troupe btw. he’s a funny actor but he doesn’t want to do stand up

richie uses he/him pronouns and identifies as straight 🙏 subject to change but i think he’s cishet

he’s a very clever & witty person in general

very expressive in the face

i think he’s actually a chick magnet bc funny guys always get babes it’s a real phenomenon please believe me!!

uses richie as a nickname to stand out from clone father but rlly doesn’t mind being called richard

jean-michel basquiat // clone son of jean-michel basquiat ( second clone high self insert of mine )

fully goes by his clone father’s name, doesn’t mind being viewed as him bc he’s confident in his own character

does go by “johnny” / “johnny-boy” as a nicknames ( jean is pronounced similarly to john so it fits still ) but they’re not necessarily his preferred name

was hit by a car once like his clone father ( too busy on his phone to notice it coming ) ( embarrassing memory )

2nd gen clone

pals with debbie harry ( she likes his art! ) we do not speak of Andy warhol currently.

does street graffiti mostly inspired by the human body, sketch book is full of anatomy and natural poses. rlly big on the beauty of human form

currently speaks french & english; occasionally jots down notes in franglais

there’s probably a clone high friend group consisting of clone children of the infamous 27 club.. and he is a part of it. i am srry. like imagine being a clone and having ur clone father die so young. imagine approaching that age.. that’s gotta be scary, u need a coping group for that.

jean-michel uses he/him prns & probably neos since he’s new gen. i think he’d be queer generally like he wldn’t use any specific labels just queer.

rlly science smart ^_^

ella baker // clone daughter of ella baker

no differentiation between her name and her clone mom’s name

valedictorian of her class :)

sort of unknown, but prefers to be in the “background” of life much like her clone mother; would rather work behind the scenes

friends with harriet & frida even though she’s a 1st gen clone, she finds them to be nice

always “knows a guy” for every situation, i just think that gimmick is funny

i’ll develop more later + I think she’ll get glasses

she/her prns, i think she’d be a lesbian also. but that’s just me.

arthur “artie” ashe // clone son of arthur ashe

cis guy, he/him + “straight”,, rlly bisexual just unaware

has a man crush on Ryan Reynolds n also Nick Jonas don’t ask. me why don’t ask. and also jude bellingham. he thinks it’s normal

2nd gen clone

his adoptive father raises him alone btw no mother

still into tennis like his clone father, i think he’d get agitated whenever ppl make fun of the sport 😭🙏

also talented at soccer! but mostly focused on tennis.

glasses wearer.

pretty chill ^_^ 2nd gen clone

jeanie clisson // clone daughter of jeanne de clisson

works summers on cruise ships!

pirates movies online once new gen clones teach her how ( she’s 1st gen )

her name is jeanie but don’t make genie jokes she’ll actually kill you

i think she’d be a more masculine woman ( i’m not sure if butch is entirely appropriate to use though ) and she’d have muscles & wld work out. cld probably bench press jfk /hj

has an attack dog named smth sweet like “cupcake” lol. & also wrestles for the girl’s wrestling team

she/her pronouns, cis woman, don’t bother talking to her if ur a man ( “my clone mother only pirated because of a man. i pirate because i’m badass” )

it wld be funny if joan or marilyn ( CLONES THE CLONES ) fell for her

thea dexter // clone daughter of timothy dexter

trans woman, she/her, idk her sexuality yet

has insane luck just like her clone father, i think she’d be able to find money on the ground rlly easily

1st gen clone

makes capitalism work for her. a lot of her get rich quick schemes should NOT work but they DO <\3 probably runs a minor pyramid scheme /JOKE maybe. probably. but she does do get rich quick schemes

gandhi wld deff fall for her get rich quick plots n it wldn’t work out for him just for her

topher wld be like “as a cishet white man I recognize my privilege over you, a trans woman” and she’d be like “if you feel so bad just pay me” and it’s a running gag I think. that every time topher sees thea he gives her a dollar or two.

do not let this bitch onto the internet SHE’S GOING TO SCAM PEOPLE. /hj

josephine “josie” baker // clone daughter of josephine baker ( my 1st clone high self insert )

cis woman she/her bisexual

had a thing with frida at one point ( inspired by her clone mother ) ( they’re still friends after the break up and do once a month ex “dates” for fun )

shares a soft spot for animals with richie ^_^ her adoptive mother is a zoologist too, which helps, her adoptive father is a stay at home dad

loves cheetah print ( faux fur ofc )

dating joan hahahahahahaa!

she owns a cat named chiquita.. wld like more pets but can’t have more

more of a actor & singer than a dancer or comedienne, super funny but only situationally, not rlly into stand up. can dance but not rlly a dancer person, her passions rlly lie in singing

2nd gen clone also

[chiefweasel]

So, headcannon I have for Lindsay, but feel free to disagree cause this is probably just me self projecting:

So, I'm not sure if the Wild Wooders or any animal would really be aware of the term or if it would just be considered an unlabeled preference or whatever, but I kinda headcannon Lindsay as a demigirl. Like, for the most part, she doesn't really care too much, but if she was asked, she'd probably say she goes by she/they pronouns, maybe leaning slightly more towards she/her pronouns, but also being perfectly fine with they/them pronouns.

I don't know, like I said, feel free to disagree if you dont like it, that's just me projecting/the vibe I get.

Since I am no longer speaking to Lesser (and have been blocked by him everywhere except like moviestarplanet and have no means of speaking to him even if I wanted to) and I no longer feel the need to go to him for conformation, I'm going to say yes

I feel like Chief is the same way kind of, like, if he was asked his pronouns, he'd just say he/Him cause that's the easy answer and he doesn't rlly care to much, but I imagine the riverbankers refer to Chief as an 'it's sometimes in a really derogatory like "ew, look at it" kind of manner, and I think Chief thinks it's cool

I feel like he'd be he/they/it because those are the pronouns people would use at him and he's okay with it, but he definitely wouldn't accept being called any feminine pronouns and wouldn't understand neos, xenos, nounprns, etc

[shinra-makonoid]

Hey, what do you think of the events so far concerning the trans community?

As a trans man I really feel guilt for being associated with that. I'm not in anyway defending or supporting the anti-LGBT or radical feminist way of thinking, but just recently I've gone through a few old blogs (you also used to argue with sometimes) and that I used to follow and just see how much their opinion changed negatively towards transsexuality. 

And with the amount of "receipts" I don't blame that. The post about "gulags" , the insane packers for babies shop, assault charges against "trans" people (for me seemlingy obvious posing as trans... but then they rightfully raise the question "who can tell anymore?" because although I hated how long and expensive the ID change was it is a burden that could discourage imitators to use it).

More and more it feels like this is already a lost cause. I know you don"t believe in nb. I don"t either. But partly this subgroup, the amount of people who pressure non-trans people to consider them as dating material, or requiring them to address them with neo pronouns or always - changing pronouns, etc... The list of unreasonable requests go on an on and I hate to be associated with that. 

Especially now with the rising disapproval of transsexuality in the US. I mean I'm not an american, I live in Germany but just hearing the news of this "don't say gay bill" and how easy protection laws were changed just scares me. 

Do you ever feel like this and if so how do you deal with that? 

And did any of that stuff ever made you feel guilty of being trans? Because I can't help but feel awful that I want to transition. Even though I feel so much better since I started 2019. I'd even say I'm in a good place for once. After the mastectomy my dysphoria decreased considerably. And even though I'm a little scared of it, I could not be happier that the date for my hysterectomy / metaidoioplasty will soon be announced. But at the same time the stuff some people say about it or I think of myself along the lines "it's unnecessary, just accept it, you're taking ressources away" although ridiculous it hurts.

And I feel especially guilty since when I came out to my family they were for the most part surprisingly supportive (even my father though he probably doesn't believe/really accept it but just wants to be liked by the rest of my family). And my aunt "inspired" by me came out as intersex, thinking I was similar. And that's an added guilt because she was asking about if I did a test and I had to explain the difference between trans and intersex, which I think she understood but like comparing the two and hearing her hardships in life (growing up with it in soviet union with that condition) made me feel like it's not justified to pursue it even though I know it helped me so far and I didn't regret it in a physical/ emotional sense at all.

I'm sorry for that huge ask, I just need some advice on that if you have any

Hi,

It's interesting because recently I saw a video about TERFs in France and it almost made me consider going back on Twitter to watch what was really happening in France in that side, because unfortunately you cannot see it anywhere else on the internet. I talked about a lot about my views, my old views, my more recent but still old views, my less old views, and my views now, and I feel like I did a complete 360° by trying to figure out what was right and what wasn't.

I'll try to reply in chronological order from your message so it's a bit constructed:

I do feel cringe when I hear people who don't know I'm trans, talking about trans stuff. It really tenses me up because I'm not really sure what they're going to say about it, and what it means when they seem to parrot some GC stuff. I do feel guilt, ashamed mostly, when I see that whenever I'll see a doctor about anything, I will be "trans" first, and that means there's "something wrong with me" especially with my ever growing distrust of the psychiatry field. I don't really feel any of that withthe "LGBT community", because I don't feel like I'm a part of it in any way. I don't feel connected to the group, even though I know I have in common with LGBT people and that probably nobody will defend me more than fellow LGBT people. So I'm "associated with it" but I don't feel associated with it. I think I got told too much that I was "unlike other LGBT people" because I "could" discuss things out, and how much I can disagree with "common" LGBT beliefs. I also think TERFs telling me repeatedly that I'm not actually LGB because I'm a straight woman didn't help either. I don't feel like I have the cultural baggage for being part of the "LGBT community" even though I de facto am because I'm trans. So any amount of "receipt" don't really make me feel included, I suppose.

There's another thing I think that is important in regards to "receipt". The way it's spinned to make trans people look bad is pure bigotry. If you look on the internet, you can find countless "receipt" of homeless people who will act out, scam, hurt, do horrible things to children, kill, rape, etc… Does that mean that homeless people are inherently incapable of doing good things and that because some of them do, then we shouldn't help them in any way? No amount of people who "do bad things" will justify hating that group of people. They deserve help and care. We do too. I don't think it matters if there's like 30%, or even 70% of people who do bad things to others from a minority group, it doesn't excuse hurting, insulting or excluding them from society in any way. When I was struggling with GC ideas and seeing all those receipts, I kept thinking of my best friend who's a trans woman, who sheltered me so I wouldn't be homeless and who supported me, and helped me much more than any so called feminists ever did. Even if 99.99999% of trans women were doing bad things all the time, just because SHE wouldn't, I wouldn't start hating on that group of people ever, because she is a part of it and she deserves the world.

The same goes for non-binary. Even though I don't believe in it, people who identify as non-binary still exist, and I have such friends even though we wouldn't agree on those theories. So the same stuff apply. Even if 99.99999% of non-binary people were jackasses pain in the ass, because those friends are dear to me and deserve the world, I will not hate on non-binary people, and they don't do all of that shit. You don't have to be associated with it either, you don't have to say you're trans if you're passing, and you don't have to make unreasonable demand. I've never seen anyone who knew about my trans status thinking I had anything in common with a very prominent non-binary person who became a lolcow in France because of how dumb he was with his demands and constantly offended by people assuming his gender.

In France I don't feel very scared, I admit. I see politics, and I can see the rising of anti-trans debates in France -at least on Twitter, and I'm aware that it will probably have a ripple effect from the UK anti-trans movement mostly, and all it does it making me want to fight them just like I fought them before, using arguments, trying to poke holes in their ideas, showing that it didn't make any sense. Unfortunately because of my views I don't really contact any trans association, but I would probably if it escalate to the political side, because I don't think people would mind my views, if I was standing next to them for the same rights as them.

I used to feel ashamed that the "trans community" was like this, but now I don't. Whether I'm truly a part of the LGBT community or not, whether I would be accepted by my peer or not, I do stand by them and for them and I want the same thing as they do. If someone's gaze tries to make me feel guilt about being part of the "trans community" and guilt for being in the same "team" as ""the worst people"" on the planet, then I will show them that they're wrong, that we, as people, are as colorful as any other minority. That we have beliefs, thoughts, desires, that are all different from one another, that we're more than just "trans", that we're not solely defined by that trait. And you're aren't either. Being trans feels like overpowering and all consumming especially in regards to dysphoria, but it really is actually just a tiny bit of our daily life. There are many accomplishments that I did that have absolutely nothing to do with me being trans, and I'm sure you did too. So there's nothing to feel guilt about. You're not responsible of others people's wrongdoings, you're responsible for your life and your accomplishments. Even if you were the only trans person on the planet who was doing good things, trans people as a group would still deserve care and acceptation in society. I'm not sure if what I'm saying does make any sense but I'm not sure how to actually convey what I want to say.

In any case, you're not taking ressources away for your surgeries, you need them to feel better in your skin. It's always like, that sweater that you have, that is on your skin, but constantly itching you all day everyday in your whole life. It makes you go mad, it hurts, it's itchy, it's uncomfortable all the time even in your sleep. Is it "taking ressources away" if you need someone to help you removing it? No, then you'll be without that awful sweater, and you'll feel like some weight has been lifted. You don't constantly think about your sweater anymore, you don't feel itchy and you don't get mad because of it anymore. You're more comfortable in your life without that sweater. I feel like being trans is like this a bit when you transition. Suddenly, with HRT for example, life is easier in your own skin, it doesn't feel itchy all over all the time. I think it's the same for surgeries, and I think it's worthwhile to seek them. Making your life more comfortable isn't a bad reason for surgery, this is what medcine is for!

For your aunt, I think you did inspire her. Even if it's different, you being so brave did inspire her to show a bit of her and talk about something that is deeply personal that she probably wanted people to know about. I struggle with this too but, just because "someone has it worse" doesn't mean you shouldn't have care and be comfortable in your life and skin. You deserve care, acceptance and being comfortable in your life. As they say, you're valid.

[edwardforkhands]

Asking for help to become not transphobic

This is a long rant, very unorganized. Sometimes I don’t know where I’m going with it. But basically, I’ve been on terfblr in secret for the last 3 years or so, and I’ve become transphobic during that time. I want help to try and change. If anyone could point me to any articles, documentaries, studies, etc to help me get out, I would appreciate it. If you can add in your own two cents, that would be appreciated as well. I’m not sure how much I’ll respond to replies or reblogs on this post, or DMs, as I’m pretty shy and non confrontational (hence why I was on terfblr in secret). But I will read everything!

Basically I agree with a lot of things terf believe, but one thing I want is to find a way to escape the transphobic side of everything. I want to be a radical feminist minus the trans exclusionary part. I’m pretty leftist and progressive, but I hate being bigoted in this way. I almost feel like someone that’s fallen down a neo nazi rabbit hole, in the ways that I have to hide my true beliefs from friends and family. The problem is, I just can’t find a way to for my brain to make peace with a lot of principles of present-day trans activism.

I feel like the only way to make progress is to first just flat out say I’m transphobic. In many ways I’m not, but in a lot of ways I am. That way when I ask my questions, people aren’t just like “that’s really transphobic of you to ask” and shut me down. I want to be kinder, but I need to be able to say what I think. Like how you need to be able to write out your math in order to find any mistakes. But the way things are now, my math looks perfectly fine to me.

So that everyone understands where I’m coming from, here’s a summary of my beliefs:

I agree with terfs/swerfs on a lot of things. I believe there are 2 sexes, gender is a social construct that is not at all innate, women face female-specific oppression, sex work is dehumanizing, there is no such thing as a genital fetish, I think in recent years that some people are transitioning when they not “actually trans,” etc. And there are some more petty things I get annoyed at like saying “uterus owners” or “pregnant people.” I also disagree with the term swerf (though I don’t think terf/swerfs are slurs). I want to protect women and sex workers. To me, this is like calling people who are against child labor “child exclusionary human rights activists.” In my mind I’m trying to do a good thing for them. Sex work is the commodification of consent— which imo can’t be commodified.

But then on the other hand there are a lot of topics on which terfs would disagree with me. I think we should respect peoples’ pronouns, trans people should be able to use what bathroom they want, using someone’s deadname is rude, for many people medical transition is necessary, there are cases where it is appropriate for children to transition, and even if gender roles were totally nonexistent, there would still be trans people.

Here’s where I think I started to get sucked up into “terf” ideology: I think dysphoria is necessary to be trans. I think this was the “gateway drug” that made me into a terf. This stems from my belief that there are two sexes, gender is fake, and your biology is tied to being trans. My understanding of dysphoria is this: It is a state of being dissatisfied with the sex of your body, feeling like it shouldn’t be the way it is. Like how some people feel like a limb shouldn’t exist, and they want to cut it off (I can see how this analogy is a bit transphobic, I just don’t see how else to explain my understanding). Dysphoria is innate, and would exist no matter how men and women are viewed in society. If you don’t have dysphoria, then what is the point of being trans? Is it to change the gender roles you have to/don’t have to adhere to? Could that not be solved by being gnc? And wouldn’t it be more progressive to push to abolish gender? How is transitioning without dysphoria anything other than reinforcing gender roles?

I’m not trying to be bigoted, these are genuine questions and concerns I have that keep me in terf circles.

There are also just so many things my eyes have been opened to on terfblr. Why porn and sex work is harmful to women, why makeup and sexualized clothing is bad, how to read between the lines in advertising targeting women, seeing just how much woman-hate there is everywhere and how acceptable it is in society. These are beliefs I could never see myself abandoning.

Just a heads up: I use the phrase “trans positive” as an antonym to the word “transphobic” (can’t think of a better one atm).

But with the whole trans issue, that’s where I feel like I might have crawled into a hole that I want to get myself out of. I don’t like that in being a terf, many would consider me to be a hateful and bigoted person. I want to be progressive, and on the right side of history. But there are so many things that I see in modern day trans activism that just don’t make sense to me logically, and some that I view as actively harmful. Like reinforcing gender roles, or eliminating the ability to talk about sex-specific and female-specific issues. It seems every few months things that were once considered trans positive to believe are now transphobic. Most of the time, progress like this is wonderful! It’s good when realize they have racist, sexist, homophobic, etc microagressions and work towards becoming better people. That’s great! But a lot of the times the new transphobic things just don’t make sense. For example, I realized saying things like “bitch” or “cunt” casually was sexist, and it made sense. But if I were to say your sexuality is based on someone’s sex, not their gender, that’s transphobic because it implies trans women aren’t real women, or trans men aren’t real men. If they pass, society can see them as being men or women. But biologically, they aren’t. That’s why the word “trans” goes in front of their name. It just doesn’t make sense to me how it’s transphobic to have a sexuality, so having what’s basically a “gender-ality” is the only acceptable thing now. Obviously it would be rude to go around telling every trans person “actually, you’re not a REAL man/woman!” randomly. But when the context permits, like with dating or for female-specific issues, I just don’t see how it’s transphobic to acknowledge a very relevant biological reality.

Trying to say anything relating to feminist issues in a non-transphobic way feels to me like walking on eggshells to escape a maze. It would be easy to give up and just say everything’s related to gender, sex is a social construct yet somehow gender’s innate, and go with the flow but I just can’t if it doesn’t make sense to me. I know I don’t have to understand everything about everyone else’s experiences, especially if it’s not hurting other people, but I feel like in some ways trans activism nowadays is.

I just wish all this made sense to me and I could happily say I support everything trans positive. I don’t want to be transphobic. In some ways I’m not, but in so many ways I am, and I want to change. But I want things to make sense at the same time. Currently it feels like terf beliefs align with common sense, while believing a lot of principles of trans activism takes so much mental gymnastics.

Obviously if you don’t want to respond you don’t have to. It’s not your responsibility to change me— it’s my responsibility to change myself, and fix my beliefs. But if anyone is willing to listen or help, that would be appreciated. I feel like a lot of terfs start out where I did— initially trans positive, but had just one or two issues that brought them to terfblr, and they come out the other side transphobic. Hopefully helping me will help at least one other person down the line.

I feel terrible interacting with trans people, knowing I follow and listen to so many terfs. I have so many conflicting feelings and beliefs and I wish things could balance out the right way.

[hardheadedbighearted]

Since Hayley is dying of no-Covid juice and I don't have any other watermelons stuffed with hamburger meat to chase around my enclosure for enrichment right now, I thought it might be a good chance to talk about some of my characters' relationships with gender.

(eta: Apparently it's non-binary people's day so I'm going to pretend that's why)

So, it doesn't get many opportunities to come up, but while most of my characters use the pronouns given to them by canon, that doesn't mean all of them are binary; it just means they all have binary pronouns (for various reasons, which I'll get into in a second). Along with "not really coming up much", another reason is that the characters themselves aren't really there yet, or because even I don't know what their gender will do once they actually get there.

Anyway, all that said, here are some of the characters that I know are non-binary, or who otherwise lack what we would think of as a traditional relationship with gender (which I'll explain in a minute).

-Neopolitan {Redacted}: Neo is the most obvious example, and the only one I've been able to have come up on screen that wasn't an oc. Neo's gender is "all", and "all your gender are belong to us", and "this gender is mine", and "gender: yes". When it comes to pronouns, her stance is not so much "I use all pronouns" as "all pronouns are equally correct". Most people default (herself included) to she just because she is to all appearances a woman, but if someone were to break out a he or a they or a xe or a hir or etc, she's not going to care or likely even notice unless a big deal is made.

However, Neo does at times take on personas in order to do her job, and her personas will sometimes have very different stances on their genders. Gideon, for example, uses exclusively they; if memory serves, the sphynx cat from the raid was a he, and the black cat with the green eyes that is underneath Neo's many illusions is exclusively a she. (There's a reason for this, but she informs me it's none of your business.)

(In before, the black cat with the green eyes is not Neo's "true" identity; insofar as she thinks of any of her personas as the "true" self, that would be Neo, the black cat with the green eyes is just her natural form. This is why the black cat with the green eyes doesn't have a name and is usually referred to using the name of the strawberry calico. The reasons for this are, again, none of your business.)

-Yang Xiao Long and Weiss Schneebird: I'm listing both of these together because they're both in the camp of "haven't gotten there yet" with a healthy dose of "I don't know what they'll do when they do get there". I know that I, personally, don't see either Yang or Weiss as binary girls, nor do I feel the urge to rub my trans man fingers all over them (that's for Ruby... maybe. we'll see). I think Yang will likely end up somewhere on the Butch side of the Butch/Trans cusp; I've been reading a lot of blogs from trans men and transmasc individuals recently and them talking about their experience, and I feel like Yang will probably settle in somewhere in that arena. Weiss, on the other hand... look, okay. Honesty time: years ago during an event I won't talk about, I threw out "nonbinary Weiss" as a counterexample to a point I shouldn't have even had to make, and that single, throwaway suggestion has lived in my brain rent-free for years. Now that I have finally moved past the part of me that is still bitter about what happened (okay.. I'm still bitter, but not as much as before), I feel safe to explore that without the negative associations. Also, I saw an edit last year of Weiss with short hair, and it unlocked something in my brain. I think Weiss will end up somewhere unadjacent to binary (contrary to Yang moving along the feminine to masculine line), with an attachment to certain specific identity labels as removed from the context of a binary identity. Also given how long this turned out probably I shouldn't have made them the same bullet point. (Side note, this early gender questioning is why Yang took care to ask Neo's pronouns.)

-Qrow and Raven: Okay, so this one is the one I meant when I alluded to "non-traditional relationships with gender". While both twins do exist on what we would think of as a binary axis (while not identifying either as binary or nonbinary man/woman, respectively), they didn't get there in the traditional "assigned at birth" or "transition" way.

See, here's the thing about ravens: they don't have much sexual dimorphism to speak of. Males are typically larger than females, but with such a broad overlap that even size isn't that reliable. From this, I headcanon that in DT society, ravens (and other birds that have matching genitals and no dimorphism) don't really have a concept of "assigned at birth gender". You find out what sex you are once puberty hits, and gender is something that ravens just explore, sometimes settling very quickly into one thing and sometimes trying on lots, sometimes moving fluidly throughout their entire life.

When it comes to their actual sex, we know that Raven is female. Qrow... I genuinely don't know. I know based on certain things coming down the pipeline it's a high probability that he's also female, but those are just loosely based on my assumptions about how those loose ideas will play out, and are irrelevant and unlikely to come up anyway.

As far as their relationship with genders go, Qrow settled into male sometime during childhood, while Raven tried on genders for awhile before deciding sometime in her twenties that female was "close enough". However, for both of them gender is about how they're perceived externally, and doesn't mean much as far as their internal relationship with gender goes (which is basically nonexistent).

Will also say that there was a time when Raven was absolutely prepared to try on male for awhile to see if it would get James into bed with her, but that was more out of horniness than anything else. When it's been awhile and your best friend is hot, just got fitted with a metal dick he should probably take for a test run, and is pining for your identical twin, a girl will consider anything. Apparently.

Note regarding Yang re: raven genders, Yang is half-tanager and appeared more tanager than raven until adolescence, so Raven kind of got vetoed by Tai and Summer (not in a deliberate way, just sort of happened like that). However, both Yang and Ruby were raised to think of their assigned gender as a "default setting" that they could change at any point they so chose.

-Reese Chloris: This one will come up as soon as I get the opening for it; Reese is a transmasculine woman, and is in fact early into hrt (this is why I took care to specify her as a peahen when she first turned up). She is also a straight transmasculine woman, something that she's only recently come to accept about herself, because of course a woman who wants to look like a man to the point of taking hormones to make that happen has to be sapphic, right? Reese is still on a journey when it comes to her gender and identity; the three things she knows for sure positive are: 1, wants to kiss boys, 2, doesn't want to be boys, 3, wants to be mistaken for boys.

-Emerald Sustrai: Listen, Mercury's comment that "Emerald's not a girl, she's Emerald" is easy to dismiss as Mercury not thinking of his partner as a potential romantic pursuit until you remember that Mercury and Emerald share a dreamscape and a mental connection and that Mercury is trans, and you start to wonder if maybe he just knows something we don't.

Anyway, Emerald's not a girl, she's Emerald. What that will mean for her... well, that's actually one of the ones that I already know, but Emerald hasn't gotten there yet. Give her time. :)

-Lie Ren: He's never actually onscreen, but I always sort of envision Ren as menderfluid- never a woman, not always a man. He's also aro-ace, but that's unrelated. I just wanted to put that out there. ("But Theo! What about Renora?!" What about Renora?)

-Neon Katt: Nonbinary woman. There's not much to say about this one; Neon just considers the box of "cis woman" to be too stifling for her taste. Strictly speaking she's a she/they and even has a pin advertising this, but it's never come up outright.

-Roman Torchwick and Robyn Hill: Binary man and woman, just not in the traditional way. Not gonna elaborate, they just belong on the list. Don't worry about it.

[icouldntresistit]

The Problem with 당신 (dangshin/tangshin)

We all remember the now infamous moment when Jeongguk said:

While it is correct to translate this word to mean “you” in various expressions (”you” in an endearing expression, “you” in a rude expression, and “you” in a cold/formal expression), it is equally important to understand the context in which Jeongguk said it to determine which expression was used.

As we all know, kpop idols go on public broadcasts (internet, tv, etc.) all the time. When they go on these shows, their default language is 존댓말 (“jondaemal”) OR formal language. Particularly, they use formal high respect. This entails the use of:

~ㅂ니다 (“~bnida” = formal high respect verb conjugation)

~ㅂ니까 (“~bnikka” = formal high respect verb conjugation, interrogative form)

~십시오 (“~shibsio” = formal high respect verb conjugation, imperative form)

~(으)시다 (“~(eu)shida” = formal high respect verb addition when the subject of a sentence deserves high respect)

~께 ( “~gge”) instead of ~에게/한테 (“~ehge/hante”) = formal high respect particle meaning “to” as in for the benefit of something (e.g. “He gave it to me”)

계시다 (“gyeshida” = to have/be located at), 드리다 (“deurida” = to give),  말씀하다 (“marseumhada” = to say), 당신 (“dangshin” = you), etc. instead of their informal/standard equivalents: 있다 (“eeda” = to have/be located at), 주다 (“juda” = to give), 말하다 (“malhada” = to say), and 너 (“neo” = you)

There’s a lot more rules, conjugations, and words I could go through, but these are probably the most common and used the most in broadcasts. 

With "you” in particular, Koreans rarely use any variations of the word ever, especially between Koreans. Instead, they’d use your name (usually with ~씨 “shi” behind it if they don’t know you well) or title, like: 언니 (“unni” = “older sister” when said by a female), 아주마 (“ajuma” = “older woman/ma’am”), 선생님 (“seonsaengnim” = “Teacher”), 엄머니 (“eomoni” = “mother”), 교장선생님 “gyojangseonsaengnim” = “Principal”), etc.

So, when they do use 당신 it’s usually when they’re talking to a foreigner, complete stranger whilst using formal high respect, or, in the rare case of celebrities, on a public broadcast in front of a large group of spectators (either in studio or watching online/on tv). I want to make this distinction because I’ve heard idols use 당신, particularly in the third scenario of the previous statement. Of course the word has many expressions (as mentioned earlier), but probably the most common expression is “you” in a cold/formal expression. If you combine expression with context, many idols use 당신 in a cold/distant/formal expression in front of large audiences. It’s essentially the same as when the idol uses any honorific in broadcast that they usually wouldn’t with the person they’re speaking with/to.

For example, whenever BTS does a concert or broadcast, they pretty much only speak in formal or informal high respect (haven’t talked about this one but it primarily consists of conjugating sentences by adding suffix “~요”, pronounced “~yo”, behind every final sentence predicate). They almost never speak informally, even to each other. You will rarely hear Jeongguk call Jimin by saying “지민아", pronounced “Jimin-ah”, in these types of broadcasts. He will almost always say: “형" (“hyung”), “지민형”, or if he’s feeling mischievous, he may say “지민씨”. 

[Sidenote: You only ever use the “~아” (“~ah”) suffix when speaking to the person/calling for their attention. You cannot use this when talking about them.] 

Anyway, I say all this to say that while using 당신 can be sweet and endearing, or rude and offensive, it can also just be disconnected/cold/formal, as if you’re talking to a stranger. The expression comes into play when considering the relationship between the two people, and where they are at. In the case pictured above, Jeongguk and Jimin are in the middle of a live broadcast. It would follow that Jeongguk could just be using 당신 because they are on a broadcast. It creates a similar effect to speaking 존댓말 in the same situation. Basically, it’s the effect of not being rude, or overly sweet, just the effect of speaking formally in front of many unknown viewers

That said, I’m about 90% with the crowd that says it was used endearingly, I just wanted to point out this alternative use because people try to make it seem as if it’s a strict dichotomy when in reality 당신 is even used in love songs (sometimes simply because it’s the pronoun that rhymes with other words and fits the intended meaning in front of the intended audience). I also wanted to mention it because I hear other idols (even other BTS members) use this with each other on broadcasts/when they don’t know the other person and didn’t want people to assume it’s all either romantic or extremely rude

[werevulvi]

Okay I feel like I just got very close to what's going on with me genderwise and why I've been spinning in circles about it so much. Especially lately, but also always. Keep in mind most of this text is just me ranting in attempts to try to figure myself out. It’s not definitive or a conclusion. Input is however always welcome. I think I would have been nonbinary if I hadn't become a radfem and no longer identify with gender as a concept. My personality/brain is very androgynous and I literally can't say it's of any specific gender. The question, of course, is does anyone's brain even have a gender? Well I'm no expert but I think it's possible that some people do, or rather that they come to the conclusion that they do. In my world, gender is ideological and belief-based rather than factual. It's a belief that I don't have, but I'm generally fine with others having it. Just like I'm fine with people believing in God, or any other deities. Cause I mean heck, I believe in Satan, so...

But I like and want for general society to be sex-based, not gender-based; just like I want for all societies to be secular. Cause gender hurts people (women, mostly) just like religion does too.

My dysphoria is pretty much telling me I should be partially both male and female (as opposed to neither sex), so from that I could theoretically come to the conclusion that my gender is nonbinary, now in my detransition, if I believed in gender. But since I don't, I simply scratch the concept of gender altogether and only go by my biological sex instead. Which is, transitioned or not, and regardless of what I wanna look like, still female. And it's possible that since my dysphoria is at least half okay with me being female, that could be why I'm also totally fine with seeing myself as a woman, cause even my dysphoria doesn't entirely oppose of that. It just partially wants me to me a man as well. Somehow.

And I've always been much more concerned with my physical/bodily situation than however I'm perceived socially, anyhow. But simply "getting over" being perceived as a man 100% of the time when my brain just goes against that, is not so easy. Sometimes I like it but not by every new person I meet. I want to be consistent, but for unknown reasons I hate neutral terms and the "they" pronouns. I guess ideally I'd be a "he/she" but I'd absolutely hate being such an obnoxious brat as to even kindly ask people to switch around terms and pronouns for me. Like I'd hate myself for it and feel like a complete burden. So I stick to only female terms/pronouns for convenience and consistency.

It's not that I see myself as a man one day and a woman the next, but rather my dysphoria says I'm somehow both a man and a woman at the same time, always, and it doesn't really shift around or change. Although on some days I do connect more or less to one or the other, but always acknowledge both. You know those old depictions of Satan painted as half a man and half a woman? (Usually with a goat head, but ignore that part.) Yeah something like that, but more coherently blended together, like equally mixed on both sides. However I still like and want for my body to be predominantly female, I just also like it having gone through both a female and a male puberty. It's like I connect with both sexes, but I know I'm not actually both. I'm just female. And perhaps I would ideally want to be seen as a "both male and female" person, but I'm also totally fine with being seen as just a medically masculinised woman, cause that's what I literally am. We're back to scientific basics here. What my dysphoria says is a deluded fairytale; what I say is let's be rational. And I don't want to be seen as or consider myself as something I am not. Not anymore. "I want to live in the real world" as Neo says in The Matrix movie when he takes the red pill. But when it comes to labels... yeah, no there really isn't a term for someone like me, who de-/transitions in a nonbinary way but sticks with sex-based terms/words and doesn't agree with gender ideology. FTX, perhaps? No, I hate that one too, cause it looks like I tried to erase my sex instead of enhancing it and making it... merrier. Also, is it just me or don't most nb people who medically transition seem to quite often actually want to look genderless, rather than double the dose? As in wanting to look both male and female at the same time. Well, just thinking about getting anything removed from my body gets me anxious... I can't imagine what it's like to want no sexed traits, and the thought of it makes me a little woozy. Not to judge others' dysphoria, just saying I so can NOT relate to that, what so ever. Cause I guess that's the total opposite of my own dysphoria.

But anyhow, because I don't go by any gender identity, or because I ask to be gendered in accordance with my bio sex, I've little in common with the popular circles of nonbinary people who only seem to be interested in calling out accidental misgendering, making up ridiculous fake genders and neo pronouns, claiming to be "non-dysphoric trans" or whatever the fuck have you. I kinda don't wanna associate myself with that kind of clownery. And let's not even get into what I think of their harmful fake-feminism views that they often drag along with their gender views... Probably the only things I've in common with (some of) those nb people is having atypical dysphoria and wanting more gender neutral bathrooms/locker rooms available. And yeah, less harrassment of gnc people in society, please. Oh well, being part of any pack has never really been my thing. It's always tempting from the outside, but suffocating from the inside. But my real pet peeve is that all trans labels are based on the notion that everything starts with gender identity, rather than gender dysphoria. And I guess that's the thorn in my side. That I don't like how gender-obsessed everything has become. I'd be embarrassed to say "I'm nb" if someone would ask me if I'm a man or a woman. Just like trans isn't a "third gender" I don't think nb is either, but people really do treat it as such. I don't even see transitioning as becoming or transforming myself into something I wasn't born as. I don't see myself as any less female than any women who don't wanna look partially male like I do.

But fact of the matter is a huge reason why I now feel so super comfortable to just go bat shit crazy with my hyper-femininity is because I've got my now additional maleness to balance it out with. I feel very balanced and harmonic with my maleness and femaleness, my femininity and masculinity, or I would if only I also had boobs again. When I imagine that I do (which I do at least several times per day, cause it just happens), I feel so right that there are no words for it... gender euphoria? Those might be the words I'm looking for!

I've been considering possibly just calling myself nonbinary though, for simplicity's sake, even though I don't like that term or associating myself with that community. Cause few outside of radfem circles seem to understand what I am at all, as a dysphoric detrans woman, and I feel desperate for a simple thing to call myself that would make my communication easier. That is why I'm hunting labels, with probably very apparent desperation, cause now I've so thoroughly entangled myself in a web of not being able to communiate my situation to either genderists or normies. Perhaps I could use the slightly incorrect label nb as a crutch or foundational brick, and then explain that despite what my dysphoria is telling me I consider myself a woman, lesbian, she/her, etc because of my female biology.

I dunno, though. I hate it all. Why did I put myself in this situation to begin with?! I want gender abolished yesterday. It's giving me a headache.

[wilderwilderness]

"Cat" can be a gender even if you don't know cus someone can be blind and not know that they're black but still be black. Same thing. And if you need new pronouns to go with your cat IDENTITY then it's definitely a gender no question so why are you questioning it? Genders are identities, "Cat" kin are identities... it's a no liver I mean brainer. STOP! Just because you're wrong doesn't make everyone else wrong. We're right, even, You're wrong.

Ugh, you again. You’re one hell of a persistent troll.

I’m gonna post this to make myself clear to others who may be genuinely confused about this subject, because I know I’d just be preaching to the choir otherwise.

Yes, kintypes and genders both feed into our perceived selves, aka our identity. But they are two different facets of identity, just as race, ethnicity, romantic, and sexual preferences are other parts related to identity, but not the same.

I’m a cat therian, yes, but that doesn’t mean that I think my gender is “cat”. That’s a bit of an absurd notion, considering you don’t see people walking around saying that “human” is their gender identity, etc. I am NONBINARY, that is my gender identity. I use they/them pronouns.

There are people who use “neo pronouns”, and I don’t see any harm in that necessarily. But I won’t stand for people trying to discredit the otherkin/therian/alterhuman community by posing as one of our own and then spreading misinformation.

[pdtonystark]

BYF Mobile Version (+Updates)

(This is updated as of 7/26/2017. I don't police my followers but I do ask that you unfollow if you hit any of the "Don't Follow" criteria. I'm going to try to get this post to work as a link for people who are on mobile as well.)

About Me

Name: Will (he/him pronouns, please!)

Age: Over 21

Diagnoses: AvPD and BPD, related anxiety/depression issues, with assorted other traumas and triggers (I am pro self-dx)

Other Info: Fantasy living and maladaptive daydreaming, particularly with regards to fandoms, are my #1 coping mechanism. Please read about my synpaths below before following. I’m also an alcoholic, although I've started a new sideblog for that (message me for the URL). I am suicidal and post about it frequently, though not necessarily explicitly.

Tagging: Main tags can be found here. I also tag triggers as “#[trigger] //” and will tag anything you ask me to. Occasionally I dump posts in various AvPD tags on tumblr as well.

Reblogging: Assume most posts are okay to reblog as long as they aren’t under a read-more or tagged “don’t reblog”. If a post is obviously about a specific diagnosis, please don't reblog if you don't have that diagnosis!

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Synpath Information

I am not kin. However I have several characters that I consider to be synpaths (i.e. I identify heavily with them but not as them).

Because of my BPD I get very possessive about my synpath characters. They’re a huge part of how I cope with things, and while I recognize the validity of other people being kin/synpath/ID with the same characters as me I’m not always comfortable having certain characters follow me.

If you’re unsure about anything, including whether or not it’s okay for you to follow, please send me a message and I’ll do my best to explain!

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My (Current) Synpaths Are:

Tony Stark

Clint Barton

Foggy Nelson

Matt Murdock

Spider-Gwen

[firemama]

Opinion Meme

Tagged by: anonymous If ur Gunna bitch about my opinions if they don't match yours, don't read. 📂📄 let's begin... 01. Is a legal drinking age of 21 fair? Is it fair, yes, because kids are scientifically stupid until their brain finishes developing and they don't need to fuck up their brain chemistry with alcohol before it's even developed. 02. Is it okay for a 17 year old and an 18 year old to date? What about a 16/18? 16/19? I'm weird with ages and if you know me you know that well. I go more by maturity then actual age. Strictly by number- well that would depend on circumstances. 03. Pro-choice or pro-life? Pro-choice. Everyone should have a choice. If it were illegal, women would just do it themselves unsafely, as they have for most of history. Like sticking coat hangers in their vaginas to try and tear out the baby. 04. In America, is burning the flag okay? Should it be illegal, and if so, how should the act be punished? Personally I don't give a flying fuck. It's cloth. It's litterally a cloth. And if it's your personal property, why the fuck can't you burn it? AND burning is how the military 'decommissions' flags so is burning HONORABLE or not?? 05. Does having a preference for genitals make you transphobic? (i.e. man who will only have sex with dfab people, regardless of gender) Not really? If you like dick you like dick. Vice versa. But just don't be an ass and date someone but dump them when they get the sex change surgery? Have a talk about what they wanna be and if they wanna change ate some point ass hat. 06. Does having depression/anxiety make you neurodivergent? Technically speaking most people have some form of anxiety and depression, but if you have Major Depression or a major anxiety disorder, that would be neurodivergent. 07. Are cis aroace people LGBT? The LGBT is meant to be a safe space for cis/straight divergence and if it won't take everyone, then what's the damn point? Personally I would say yes because they BELONG here but whether they do or not, anyone can say otherwise. 08. Should polygamy be legalized? I have mixed feelings about polygamy as in Christians it leads to very bad families that are male dominated, controlling and strongly abusive, and like to have cult undertones. While I don't know about polygamy (the marriage of many to one), I heavily think polyamory (the marriage of many to one another) should be legal as poly households are stable and healthy and not power/religiously driven. 09. Are neopronouns + nounself pronouns okay? I think pronouns get out of hand when people try too hard to be different by struggling teenagers. I've seen it several times, and I've watched people "grow out of it" in a year's time and sometimes less, so I'm not likely to consider it an actual gender. I don't give a flying fuck about pronouns, honestly, I really fucking dont. But sexually identifying as a tree? This is the same level of that joke "I identify as an attack helicopter". I'll respect you and whatever you want me to call you [as best I can as I'm forgetful] but I neither care nor agree. 10. Should owning guns be allowed or disallowed? Whether it's allowed or not people will get them. Might as well just try and control it safely. 11. What age do you think it's okay for someone to label themselves as asexual? Technically most children are asexual- lacking of sexual attraction to others- until they reach puberty and what not. So stop labeling kids and go get a fucking life, let them figure it out when they're ready? Jesus. 12. Which sex is more privileged, men or women? Hah. 13. Is the acronym LGBT, or is it something else? I personally prefer to different versions. LGBQ, Q for queer as an inclusive of other sexualities like pan or ace. LGBTQ, inclusive of other sexualities AND genders. Transgender isn't quite a sexuality, but certainly should be included, just like gender fluids and neo genders, who fit in the Queer category of gender. LGBQ = sexuality safe zone, LGBTQ = cis/straight divergent. 14. Is reverse oppression real? (i.e. cisphobia, heterophobia, misandry, reverse racism, etc) Hell yes. People are hateful, and every type of person can be hated. Some women hate men for existing. Some people tell cis people to kill themselves. Etc etc. The world's full of hate, pals. 15. Pepsi or coke? Coke m8 16. Telling someone to die or "kys" – is it okay or not? I don't say it but frankly there are worse things to tell someone. It's still despicable. 17. Is it rape if there was consent, but it was coerced, or is it something else? Consent cannot be coerced. You can coerce submission and you can condition acceptance, but consent is the will and wish to do so and that cannot be coerced. If the party doesn't want to participate regardless of what's said, that's rape. You can't change what someone wants even if you make them say yes. 18. Are words like crazy, stupid, and idiot slurs? Stupid and idiot are IQ score categories. Crazy is not the equivalent of mentally ill. Anything is a slur. That's exactly what name calling is: slurs. 19. Is it okay for non-black people to use AAVE if they're being respectful, or is it problematic regardless of context? I honestly don't give a fuck. Nigger has never come to me as a word to say in a conversation nor have others. I don't give a shit what other people use as slang, regardless of their skin. If anything I think keeping special language to select races only is a sort of racism- I'm sure someone would hate that opinion. But again, I don't fucking care about any of it, do i? I don't think racism will go away anytime soon, I'm told I'm culture blind so I don't see a lot of the issues where people cry appropriation, but my thought on a world without racism would be without words only black people or Spanish people can use and where no one cares at all what skin tone or country you're from. 20. Is chivalry okay, or does it imply a power balance/sexism? The idea that only men can be chivalrous is sexist. Everyone be chivalrous. Open doors for each other and shit, is that so hard? 21. Is fat shaming okay? How about shinny shaming? Is any shaming ever okay? No, probably not. I don't see a problem with encouraging someone to lose or gain weight if they are at an unhealthy point or to get to a generally better health, but shaming is just hateful. 22. How do you feel about the tumblr community? I love it here. I'm not saying it's perfect and isn't full of a lot of shitty people who can do you harm and want to, but, it's a community unlike anywhere else on the Internet and certain circles can form that are good- supportive friends with similar interests doing whatever they want be it rp or blogging or art. It lacks many of the restrictions of a website like Twitter, isn't as horrible in a manner I can't explain like facebook, isn't as seedy as 4chan or reddit. It's comfy here. tagging ¦ whoever