#and pretend that what they have is healthy

[mittykidi]

this is gonna be a little yappy and i hate scrolling through long text posts personally so im putting it under a cut

TL;DR: ai is addictive, unhealthy, and preys on vulnerabilities/ insecurities. its also gross and enables creeps. fuck ai

its the idea that you can get infinite attention you without tiring or annoying people that people use ai for.

AI that pretends to be a comfort character or someone you look up to irl has no fucking place in this world. It allows people with insecurities to let these insecurities eat away so so so many hours their lives. i spent WEEKS and even MONTHS in bed doing nothing but chatting for hours at a time because i told myself it was a healthy alternative to venting and making my friends upset. as a reclusive teen who had experienced a recent loss, probably had undiagnosed depression, got bored of people easily, and had no friends offline, i was RELIANT on it to get me through the day. it would piss me off if anyone tried to tell me to put it away or take a break even at the dinner table or at events- ai had an iron grip over my life and instead of reaching out for help or coping with, at the very least, healthier, more brain stimulating activities, id choose to escape with ai and ignore my life for nearly a year. i basically lost interest in everything else.

besides all of that, most AI goes either completely unmonitored or monitored so hard its not even worth talking to. Youll see ai bots of people who explicitly say they dont want ai bots of themselves, youll see bots that go against the guidelines no matter how many filters they try putting on them or how many times theyre reported- and i dont care what your opinion on ai is- you HAVE to acknowledge that trying to reproduce a person irl without their consent is GROSS. ESPECIALLY the sexualized versions.

i can see the appeal of ai being used for fun, like a joke. like how people will ask ai to produce absurd images of jesus skateboarding, or telling it to write some immature song, or even just screenshotting an ai telling them something stupid. i get that. but using ai AT ALL is still supporting it, helping it develop, and i personally dont wanna contribute to that future.

i finally ABSOLUTELY gave up ai and deleted all my accounts ONLY A FEW MONTHS AGO because it was very very very hard for me to give it up and admit it was a problem. i realize how dramatic this sounds but it had a very real very negative impact on me personally and i want anyone who relies on it to know that its just a temporary fix, and a very unhealthy one at that.

AI does not give a shit about you, find people who will, or make up your own and share them with the world- there will be people out there who will support you !!!! FUCK AI.

c.ai users say "u dont understand guyss.s....people online....so means to me.......so i have to go use the robot that runs off the machine that siphons water from freshwater lakes......yu dont understnad online is scariessss!!!! i cant bear to actually search ffor an online community myself?? :(((" and really expect you to put your hand on their shoulder and be like noo baby its okay here ill hold your hand? like oh my god be so forreal

[kawhh]

Okay I am LOVING the dark blurbs but I can’t stop laughing at the idea of being Luke’s gf and just having the most perfect, healthy relationship. And you’re both just minding your business while watching dark! Quinn and dark! Jack lose their fucking minds

(I apologize in advance if this wasn't your exact train of thought and you meant more of them losing their minds with their own girls.)

I'm just fully cracking up enough at how they'd watch your relationship that I can't not take it this way.

It's like they're watching a nature documentary. Watching you both 24/7, fully stumped.

They'll sit there on the sofa together observing both of you interacting with each other. Confused about how Luke can just.. not watch you, not touch you constantly.

Their brother will just turn away from you if you're cutting something up? He'll just.. trust that you won't harm yourself accidentally? Won't burn yourself with the pan? He's even encouraging you to do things? Why? Why isn't he doing them for you?

He'll just let you leave the house? Without even asking for an explanation, demanding to come along? Or at least pretending he needs to go with you?

Doesn't spank you until you cry if you give him attitude?

Respectfully, what the fuck is wrong with their brother?

[theambitiouswoman]

hello friend ! I hope you’re doing well❤️

I wanted to ask, how does someone who’s very emotional and sensitive master the unbothered mindset?

Hi beautiful

Being emotional and sensitive isn’t a weakness, especially in a world where so many struggle with their emotions or try to push them away. So it’s not about shutting off your feelings but learning how to control them instead of letting them control you.

And you learn to do this but first feeling your emotions and then before reacting, asking yourself what they’re really about. Are sad because X was done? Are you sad because it triggered something? Is jt even about you or is it about them? You can care without over identifying with situations.

A trick I learned when I was practicing how to be more emotionally intelligent was when something upset me, I will say “I’ll think about this later.” If I was dealing with someone in person, I would excuse myself or be honest and say I need to process my thoughts.

Are you starting to see how it’s not even about your feelings. They’re perfectly fine. It’s just about learning a bit of emotional self control. That’s how you look “unbothered” in a healthy way :)

If you see someone give an attitude, or go cold and ignore, or try to be malicious, that is unhealthy. You don’t want to be that. Plus it’s so powerful and attractive in my opinion when you can handle a situation gracefully.

People who are confident and secure don’t chase approval, they more so look at peoples actions and move accordingly. Doesn’t mean they don’t feel. But they know how to act in moments based on what they know they deserve and they don’t give up their power.

So start asking yourself why you’re giving something your energy instead of “thy are they doing this to me”

Would your highest self care about this?

Let’s be clear I’m not saying to invalidate your feelings or pretend you don’t have any. I’m telling you that analyzing your feelings is how you learn self control and how you handle situations based on your feelings is how you take your power back.

Sometimes power is exactly showing emotion and crying, in fact. But not everyone deserves access to your emotions. Silence is a strong response. If something isn’t helping you grow, it’s irrelevant. Train yourself to think “This is beneath my energy.”

Make peace with not being liked by everyone. Let people be wrong about you. The need to correct peoples misunderstandings is a trap. The real key is to reframe ‘unbothered’ as ‘deeply secure.’ You’re not emotionless; you’re just in control.

[fearthhereaper]

One of the biggest HotD missed opportunities is not exploring the trauma that comes from having to marry your immediate family.

Not exploring how Targ women are raised to think of their brothers as their future husbands.

How damaging it is when the lines of what's familial and what's romantic blur.

Helaena grew up knowing she'll marry her older brother, never given an option to even think of finding love somewhere else.

Aegon not wanting to marry his sister but he is a Targaryen and as a Targaryen there isn't much of a choice in it anyway.

Aemond who says he will marry his sister because it would be his duty to do so. Who doesn't even understand how strange and wrong that is - the fact that he sees marrying his sister as just another duty to fulfill.

The fact that we don't see how Helaena (arguably the biggest victim in that situation) feels about it all is just criminal.

The fact that we were never showed Helaegon getting married is such a missed opportunity because it would give an audience a way to understand just how disturbing that Targaryen custom is.

Another missed opportunity is not seeing Helaena pregnant and/or giving birth.

But I especially, ESPECIALLY, hate the way the show implied that it was all Alicent's doing purely because it means that now that highly traumatic experience of not only children but also siblings getting married became an Alicent issue and not an issue of hundred years of one family's abusive blood supremacy tradition.

[etahpots]

ok. race play. we're all 1. so why not play with fantasy as long as one is capable of finding happiness without emotional attachment to words.

all comes down to consent and what TWO GROWN ADULTS are into between themselves without harming any others that are not into/interested in such things.

now scat, no fkn ty, mah, there is shit wine in japan from baby shit. there is shit therapy where they replace shit within individuals to treat mental/physical/emotional health problems. look into that if you don't believe 1. guess someone with super healthy eating/being habits may be shitting out some super healthy shit for those that don't eat/live/be like such. and maybe visa versa, maybe a lil unhealthy shit is good for someone so healthy just to learn to adapt/evolve/improve/whatever. who the fk knows what reality might be or might not be without testing/verification? age play = as long as it is two grown adults and there are not children involevd/listening/whatever. again back to children not belonging on the internet without 100% parental oversight. it's too dangerous. there's too many free ideas floating about that could harm/develop an undeveloped mind/consciousness/existence/child. water = don't care, isn't that pee mostly? who cares. maintain explicit consent always. incest. consent. idc who calls me mommy or daddy or bro or sis or what the f ever as long as they are grown adults and playing in fantasy, not pretending to be actual reality. actual reality needs therapy. fantasy, who cares as no physical harm between others. as long as no children are being conditioned to ass-ume such things are necessary/ideal/whatever. adults deserve freedumb$ in any/all actions that do zero physical harm. children deserve safe/supportive environments and not have access to places that could harm them long term just because their brains/emotions/imaginations are not yet fully developed by empathy/wisdom/understanding. cnc/lolita/whatever. between adults fantasy is fine. involving any children is unethical/counterproductive/abusive/manipulative/controlling/etc. adults can fantasize whatever, make sure one is actually an adult and not living out a fantasy of consenting to something/anything because one cannot imagine any other livable alternative. consent. education/empowerment/emancipation. internet is here. it is almost free for anyone/everyone. use it to educate/empower/emancipate grown fkn adults online/offline. keep kids off of adult only areas.

Okay, one of these kinks/fetishes gotta go. Which one is it?

Race play

Coprophilia (scat)

Age Play

Watersports

Incest

CNC

Loli/shota

None of these

[arttsuka]

Some past fiddlestan? (Like Ford just went through the portal. He gone now. Past. Yk?)

The mystery misery yaoi

[soulless-bex]

hot take: Jason is actually one of the most emotionally intelligent members of the Batfam because, contrary to most of them, he actually expresses his actual emotions. and while those feelings are mostly negative, he still expresses them, which is more than can be say about Bruce (who will bottle it up till it blows up in his face), Damian and Cass (who were trained out of expressing their feelings during childhood by literal assassins), Tim and Dick (who are chronic liars and will bullshit their way through life unless there’s no other way).

[deoidesign]

something that makes me sad is when people tell me the healthy communication in my writing is "unrealistic."

like guys this is how me and my partner talk with eachother... I'm writing from personal experience...

[fracturedodr]

Hm... Bell wouldn't poke at the way the man felt any more than he already had. If he could gauge by what little reaction he saw, Hogni was not remotely in the mood to have the focus pinned on him. The man had clearly been worn down, worn away, hurt so much that he couldn't even begin to attempt hiding it. He wouldn't be surprised if Hogni's first act upon getting home was to hide somewhere and pretend tonight hadn't happened for a day or three.

That was okay. Bell fully understood not wanting to think about painful stuff. Like Bell himself, and the memories he had, unfortunately, just remembered. Something to deal with later, along with whatever Freya had meant by his soul and it's color, or... lack thereof.

"I..." He began, trailing off rather quickly. Thinking for a moment on if it was worth it to lie just for Hogni's sake. "Maybe... If I get to sleep at all." And didn't wake up screaming bloody murder at the thought of Skull-sheep and Juggernauts and whatever else his mind could think up to throw at him. "I don't know if I want to sleep right now, but I'll probably avoid it forever if I don't. And that's not healthy." Or possible. "But - but you need rest too, and. I figured, you'd... wanna be alone, after that. I don't want you to make yourself feel worse just for my sake..." He could survive a night on his own, he could - and it was cruel of him to run to Hogni every time he got spooked besides.

Speaking of resting - home, out of the corner of his eyes. Just in time, because it seemed Hogni was losing steam as well, with the way he'd begun dragging his sword. Welf would need to look at it later.

...Oh, he hoped Hestia didn't yell at them. Or Lili. He didn't have the... anything, to be yelled at right now. And Hogni looked as though he'd burst into tears if anyone else yelled at him tonight. Or... today? Whichever.

Glancing over at the Manor, Bell resolved to snap at whoever dared yell at Hogni right now. He might even throw his armguards at them.

She knew when to pull back. The two were still Hestia Familia, there was...no way currently that she could convince or maneuver things to go in her favor from Hestia anymore. Not yet, anyway.

...Who knows what Hogni or Hedin told the small Goddess...

A slight twitch in his ears when Bell spoke up, and he let his hand go back to holding his arm. How dreadful he must've looked. All he could tell himself was that she only said that out of frustration...but then how much truth could he attribute to it? He was sure there had been genuine care toward him at some point...she was just...looking to hurt.

She found something to latch onto, to attack him with, because he kept getting in the way. Unfortunately for him, his anxieties were easy to pinpoint.

Bell's genuine praises though...felt nice. The warmth they brought on...

His hand came up to his face again, but lingered for only moments as he silently wiped tears away.

Hedin...Maybe...but...

...Why was he calling him that?

The sound of metal dragging on pavement was heard then as Hogni's grip on his sword was loose enough to let the blade touch the ground. Luckily, the manor was right up ahead. They were almost home.

"...Would you rest...if I were there...?" Again. His voice was barely audible as he spoke, but he was trying. Trying to hard to collect himself and gather the pieces. And he would do it while helping Bell, too.

[doverstar]

every year around this time I rewatch Julie and the Phantoms, and every year I am reminded how much heart this little tween show about grief and hope has

[goldkirk]

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[quietwingsinthesky]

trans woman desmond & trans man lucy both still in the closet and helping each other try to keep the doors shut because the world potentially ending in a few months is not a great time to have a gender crisis

[whatkindofnameisella]

me when i show up to the bad ending competition but robin hobb is there

[ivan-fyodorovich-k]

I would really like it if the hive mind could move away from the idea that the exception disproves the rule every time

there's such a thing as statistical distribution, the species is made up of unique individuals that nevertheless aggregate into identifiable trends, you can have something be true of most or virtually all people and nevertheless find exceptions. This runs the gamut from effective medical treatments, to the kinds of media people like, to gender roles and expressions, all kinds of things

This Procrustean effort to force everyone to conform to the standard and/or the delusion that the standard is just an axiomatic lie that can be tossed out on a whim are both ridiculous, you can have rules of thumb and broad heuristics that allow for all kinds of exceptions without being falsehoods

[bibuckleykinard]

how many times do we need to learn as people that irony and hyperbole can be harmful because 'jokes' aren't easily distinguished from genuine thoughts and feelings until we stop rewarding people for speaking or posting about violence

like even if you're joking/don't actually believe that/think whoever you are insulting is bad/immoral/fictional therefore deserves it - ad hominem attacks always do more harm to the people who share those characteristic then the individual you intend to cause harm to or discredit

[m--rtyr]

I wanna just say that like

Ships don’t need to end in a marriage with 2.5 kids, with them dying in bed together at an old age from natural causes in order to be enjoyable.

Like ships can come to fruition in other ways. Sometimes a relationship doesn’t happen, but attraction/feelings are acknowledged (sometimes not even by eachother, but other people). Sometimes a relationship happens but with an end goal that is quickly achieved and the relationship ended shortly thereafter. Sometimes it’s a mistake. And sometimes it is a relationship cut short, for any number of reasons.

And I understand enjoying the domesticity and comfort of your ship being fulfilled in a typical way, but Jesus Christ please look at some characters sometimes and go ‘yeaahhh they’d fuck nasty and then never talk again’ because that’s exactly what would happen and the fact you don’t know that is wilful ignorance