#and my dad's death anniversary this month
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one of my favorite ways of inflicting psychic damage upon myself is going onto my blog's art tag and checking how long its been since i last posted anything :)
#it's been 3 weeks#im sorry guys#these past 6 months have been A Struggle mentally for me#between my partner having surgery and catching (latent) tuberculosis from it while having an autoimmune disease#my stepfather getting lung cancer#my uncle getting kidney cancer#and my dad's death anniversary this month#my inspiration and drive to create has been spotty at best#HOPEFULLY this second half of the year will be nothing but good things and good vibes :))))#they speak
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Man I realized 4th of July is always gonna be the Uncle Death holiday (bc he died on July 3rd) while valentine's day will be Dad Death holiday (bc he died on Feb 17th)
Holidays where seeing the decorations reminds me of the times I lost two of the most important people in my life. Sucks, man.
#speculation nation#negative/#post brought to you by me going to the store and seeing 4th of july decorations already#and me being like. ah...#like i already wasnt a big fan of the holiday given. im not a big fan of the USA lol#but. hm.#anyways with both dad and uncle dead i dont think i have anyone in my life that can work a grill#maybe i need to become the grill master. bc man sometimes i do feel the fatal american desire to have a good cookout#wouldve been nice to learn from them. but idk.#i mean i guess my dad's lifelong best friend is still there but i dont tend to see him as regularly as i did my dad or uncle.#and i mean it's about the principle of it ykno? i should have my dad and uncle around to work the grill for us#but theyre both dead now. and in a month it'll be the 4th of july. and my uncle will have been dead for a year.#the year of death is almost over but the anniversaries are only beginning. this sucks.
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just heard about bin ... fuck. i can’t believe this. my heart goes out to everyone who knew him, his family, his group ... and please to all of you who are fans, look after yourselves as well. everyone deserves space & time to grieve.
#april is a grief-stricken month for me anyway. i'm 8 days away from my dad's 6 year death anniversary#and i've been extremely sick this week so i'm just. feeling extra emotional but this is hard hitting and horrid :( and may he rest in peace#kye.txt
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#tonight or tomorrow morning actually is the 4 year anniversary of my dog dying and like surprise surprise lol im still not over it like.#i honest to god dont think i ever will. i honestly dont know how people move on and get other pets and just. keep on living like i#understand it like for some people it's part of the healing process but i just could never do it. like i just cant even fathom#i dont know that's not the point. the point is im having such a hard time because everytime i do anything tonight i keep thinking#4 years ago i still had my dog or 4 years ago in 5 hours i didnt know id be going to the vet at 1am and going home without my dog at 5am#and i just keep reliving it no matter how hard i try to not. and on one hand i want it hurt like i want to remember it just to punish myself#i just i just cant move on like it's just. i went 24 years of my life without ever experiencing death and then 4 years ago today my dog dies#in the most tragic possible way ever and then 11 months later my other dog who i had for 17 years since i was 8 dies and yeah still#not over that one either because i never let myself process that or truly grieve her because i had to shut that up real tight#or i would have lost it for real. and i have the most fucked up miserable tragic dreams about her so many nights a week#because she was old and had been u know. like old dogs do they just decline and that was impossibly hard to watch but at least i kind of#knew it was coming u know but like with my other dog. there was just absolutely no warning it was so sudden and it just ripped me apart and#i honest to god will never be okay again and then 6 months after all that i find out my ex died and only because after 6 years i finally#Finally decide to have the guts to talk to him again and apologize and explain and try to be friends and then nope he's dead#then in between all those deaths a super close family friend died and my grandpa my dad's dad died and like it's just#i had never even experienced death before and then all of a sudden i was engulfed in it and i just dont know how to come back from it.#but tonight is just. painful. like i havent even said his name out loud since it happened. i cant talk about him at all just writing this i#want to cry like it just fucking hurts forever. and it should i guess.#and i feel so stupid because so many times i wonder if my cat even remembers them and i wonder if she misses them too and idk#that makes me feel stupid and emotional and im just a wreck but i should be.
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i always have a rough time as winter sets in but these last two have been extra rough
#just. missing my dad really#I don’t have any family close to me and no grandparents so it’s just me and my mum and my sibling in the house now#we’re 3 months from the second anniversary#and everyone’s talking about birthdays but i haven’t celebrated mine since he passed two days after#it just hurts#he’s supposed to be here for all the milestones yknow#and originally you’re fine till milestones come up and he’s not here#i don’t have. that much family all things considered#and normally im fine but sometimes the ache gets extra strong#I was looking through his book case and it just kinda hit me that there’s so much I want to talk to him about#but I can’t#so im just stuck#vent tw#dead parent#dead dad#death tw
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I forget how much I hate the taste of vodka but the whipped cream vodka is so much better my god
#make a drink sweet enough that you can’t taste it when it’s in ur mouth and then all u get is the whipped cream vodka in the burn#makes drinks more tolerable#also this is the fastest I think I’ve ever chugged an alcoholic drink#we are gonna get fucked up tonight bc we have daddy issues and fought with our mom this morning slayyy#smoked a cigarette at the lake now getting fucked up in my room while home alone#life is so good and it’s all bullshit forever#literally we could all die and it doesn’t matter and life is weird and crazy and I am happy it sucks and I am so fucking thrilled to be aliv#at all#life is good regardless of death but I wish death would just like wait patiently for my family#dad I miss u I hope you had a good four twenty where ever you ended up. im sorry moms acting like this. I hope my brothers okay at school.#I hope he’s having a good time and isn’t completely overwhelmed with everything. I was right and apparently he’s gonna come home after grad#uation and im excited to have him home again but my mothers all upset. I know it sucks that you’re dead but it’s nice knowing in a weird way#that you’re the reason me and hunter got close again. so thanks I guess for that. and smoking made me and mom grow closer. idk. you’ve done#a lot for us and most of it had to do with weed. today hurt worse than my birthday. or the six month anniversary. today sucked. and no one#else seemed to be torn apart by it and it made me feel like I was going crazy and no one could even tell#you would’ve noticed if I was acting different. I love you. wherever you are I still love you. and I’m sorry. I’m sorry I was such a bitch.#and I wish I took better care of you. but you were my father I wasn’t supposed to take care of you. you should’ve been there for me. we shou#have been there for mom and hunter and your parents and I’ve been thinking a lot about grammie actually. I don’t know how I feel. thinking#about her makes me cry now. I don’t have the heart to make her cry talking about my childhood but I miss her. and I miss being young. I miss#you coming to my Father’s Day dance recitals and coming back from bike week in Laconia and bringing me flowers always wearing your grey#Harley Davidson jacket and you’d have flowers in your arms and you’d be bored but so proud and you’d hug me and you’d smell like weed and#your beard was always scratchy when you’d hug me and I just miss you a lot. I miss you and I fucking hate you for it fuck.#note to self. don’t be pmsing and then get drinking and smoking and thinking of your dead father. you will cry
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I love that I went on an hour long fetch quest today to try to get a package only to be told that there is no hold on our mail (then where the fuck IS all of it), the package was left at the mailbox 3 days ago (the tracking said that but I thought it was lying), and that if I don't have it it was probably stolen.
#babble tea (blacklist this for less chatter)#I can't afford to re-purchase it rn because I'm overbudget already for the month but it was worthless to anyone but me#it was just me giving myself a little treat#literally useless to anyone else unless they're my same size#like if it was stolen it was probably immediately binned#I don't know why this is making me so upset but it feels like the universe punishing me for wanting something a little nice#although it's probably also that the 20th anniversary of my dad's death was 2 days ago#and I meant to drive to his grave but it's an hour away and I don't have AC in my car#so I didn't go#so I also feel a little like I DESERVE to be punished by having nice things taken away I guess#my brain is a shitty place to be this week I want a nap
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Am I even truly alive unless I cry for ten minutes before going to bed on Valentine’s Day.
#my mom got me some balloons#my dads death anniversary is this month#I’m super stressed to#and phd program#and I’m tired
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#December seems to be the perfect month for everything to go wrong#on top of having a newborn and figuring out how to adjust to 3 kids in the house#there was a death on my partners side of the family last week- his grandpa- and we’ve spent so much time with family due to that#as well as them still having their Christmas on Sunday#today is the funeral and it’s going to be really difficult#because it’s also almost the one year anniversary of my dad passing and everything to do with that#and I have a ton of facebook memories popping up with updates to family on how he was doing this time last year#and that’s really hard to see#I kept trying to put a positive spin on everything that was happening last year because I had hope that he would come home but now it’s just#painful to see#also our car has decided to break down and I have no idea what’s going on with it#this month has been so much fun#and we still have Christmas with my mom this weekend and I have to put something together for the kids#I’ve been very behind on that
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staring at gifsets of my beloved prince wilhelm and wondering why i never actually finished s3 other than my usual avoidance of endings. and then immediately remembering the whole His Mom Getting Sick plot. right right right. i remember now.
#.txt#jesus i forgot it aired this year though. at least it's not that bad i thought it was last year honestly#but yeah the entire thing. couldn't handle it. character i love love love bc he's also super anxious and handles it badly and got outed#and then. to have his parent get sick. when the episodes were airing in the same month as my dad's first death anniversary. Couldn't Do It!
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i feel like everybody who has been important to me in any capacity has died in march
#i hate this fucking month#it's my dad's 15 year death anniversary today so ive just been ignoring everything today#ugh#vent
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#the fact that I found out about my dad’s diagnosis the same day Sunkyun died#the fact my dad died on the one month anniversary of Sunkyun’s death#dad#can you please?
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#father issues are strong this week#its almost the month of my dad's death anniversary 🫢#joel looks so hot here but also i want him to hug me and tell me ill be ok
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So this isn't the absolute worst week of my life because that title goes to the week my dad died. But this week easily comes in second place
#tore a few ligaments reslly badly in my ankle so im rendered basically useless#my mom had a full on breakdown i had to be there foe her through#bc of stuff w my dad but also bc her sisters bday just passed. her sister died in a fire w her kids before i was born#so that was fucking rough#then my best friend basically announces next year shes leaving and not coming back except for the odd summer#and basically im gonna be losing her so theres that#and thennnn a friend of the family was just rushed to the hospital having seizures#exactly like my dad before he died#OH and also the 3 month anniversary of his death was yesterday#so im fucking. ready to explode tbh#rant tw#death tw#fire tw#and now i gotta be up in 6 hours for work#fuck my life
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Today is Dungeons & Daddies’s 5th Anniversary!
I haven’t been listening for nearly that long but the podcast and all its characters means a lot to me. Happy Anniversary!!!
Throwing the cropped sections under the cut because there’s a lot of stuff going on and I know Tumblr likes to throw half the pixel quality out the window. And also so I can ramble a bit about this piece!!!
This piece has been months in the making, possibly an entire year. And by that I mean I’ve had a sketch of the comp scribbled on my whiteboard for ages because I wanted to save this specifically for 5th anni art. Now onto design stuff!
(First off a random thought: I really love how the garlic knot came out, I kind of want it as an enamel pin.)
I knew I wanted to make this a stained glass piece since the beginning, but I was also going to add flowers at one point but quickly dropped the idea. It felt like too much and I also didn’t want to fuss over flower language assignments for everyone. I was also going to add Doodler tentacles, but also dropped that idea pretty early. Kind of on accident, right at the end, I figured out how to make it even more stained glass-like but taking a duplicated lineart underneath the regular layer and turning the brightness all the way down, then setting it to overlay and adding a guassian blur. It’s very subtle but it adds that tiny bit of depth that makes it look more real. As for shading on the lineart/gold, I tried adding more highlight on the characters who died but once I evened everything out it wasn’t as noticeable anymore so I’m throwing that thought here so the attempt at least known lol.
The order of characters only changed a little bit from my original comp, I flipped the Wilsons and the Oaks so the rainbow could work. As for the anchors, specifically in season 2, I lined them up to the teens since the season 1 anchors lined up with each dad:
Tony —> Scary: his death was the beginning of Scary’s betrayal arc and also Willy killed him.
Guitar Pick —> Taylor: it’s not really aligned with Taylor at all, but the anchor was with Glenn so I put it next to his blunt.
Scroll —> Normal: was only because it was the last left to give him, but there’s the whole scene of him and Hermie in the Green Room so it still works!
Garlic Knot —> Link: one of two that he broke, but the more significant of the two with him telling Grant he never wants to see him again.
Small notes on the season 1 anchors: I put the layer of mold in the overnight oats but you can’t really tell with the overlay. And to make the supper bowl more interesting I added the fantasy sodas mix they dumped into it. The lure of actually drawn before so I just traced my own art lol.
As for the other smaller triangles, it took me a bit to figure out what I wanted to put there. I didn’t even think of adding the vehicles until two days ago but I’m so glad I did. I don’t really have my own take on the mascot version of the Doodler (yet?) so I borrowed the design from one of the stickers in their merch shop. Teeny was terrifying as just a front facing head so I made him cute again.
In the outer circles, I put what I felt was the most significant quotes for each family. I really wanted to use “It’s okay to be angry, it’s not okay to be cruel” but it was just a little too long.
That’s all I can think of! If you read all the way through, thank you for indulging me in my excitement to gush over this piece.
#dndads#dungeons and daddies#dndads fanart#dndads s1#dndads s2#dndads glenn close#darryl wilson#henry oak#ron stampler#jodie foster dndads#nick close#nicholas foster#nicky swift#grant wilson#sparrow oak#lark oak#terry jr#taylor swift dndads#lincoln li wilson#normal oak#scary marlowe#hermie unworthy#bill close#paeden bennetts#barry oak#willy stampler#meryl streep dndads#robert wilson#hildy russet#stud stampler
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turns out the nurse didn't check in with the doctor before scheduling in May, and with the added possible complications she doesn't want to do it at the secondary campus, so I'm now waiting until the last week of August instead (boo) (still better than the last 30 years of no surgery though ig)
plus side, I'm second in line on the waiting list, which she said has pretty good odds of nabbing earlier openings by months, so there's that. so overall an unfortunate miscommunication, but still a light at the end of the tunnel. (and also she called less than 24hrs after the original scheduling, it's not like I got hyped up about it for a month before the date changed)
SURGERY DATE: GET!
#frustrated a bit but like. what you gonna do I suppose?#but also it's the week of Mom's birthday so whoof. she's already really stressed about this as-is#even just the MRI was in the same ward my dad spent months in before he went into hospice.... within a week of the anniversary of his death#and the surgery will also now be at that campus#so like. happy birthday! have some cptsd episodes and then have to care for me for several miserable post-surgery weeks 🥲
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