#and it's fine

[niuniente]

Why is it that every time I see the most deranged views its always some kind of a cutesy, nature themed adorable blog? I'm yet to see an absolutely deranged blog with deranged takes, although I'm certain they exist.

It's almost like those who have only heard about the Devil's Sacrament, maybe saw a glimpse of it once, are clutching at their pearls screaming about the world's corruption, while the people in the Devil's Sacrament toast with the Devil like "Cheers, mate! Is that a new hoof oil? You think it would work on my dry hair, too?"

[whumpfish]

So, I have been in a very long, very hot shower because I hurt like a bitch, and I think I have narrowed down the basis of my major whump pet peeve, and I'm going to be using my pet fav series Word of Honor to do it.

You cannot survive sustained/chronic/severe pain if you don't develop a relationship with it. The first couple episodes of Word of Honor aren't about Zhou Zishu x Wen Kexing, they're about Zhou Zishu x Zhou Zishu's pain/condition. And that latter relationship continues to evolve and stay at the forefront on a parallel path to the development of the former.

He saddles himself with this thing as penance, because when he makes that decision, he believes that being crippled is "a fate worse than death." And then he goes on living, and discovers that life goes on, so he makes an increasingly-less-guarded peace with it. So when he meets Wen Kexing and Gu Xiang, he's doing his own thing, enjoying the good parts of what remains of his life even though his condition remains at the forefront, and will for the rest of the series. He's integrated it into his life to such an extent that Gu Xiang readily dubs him "Sick Man."*

That's what gets my goat every time: whumpees that aren't allowed to develop a relationship with their pain and are instead thrust into relationships with "caretakers" who don't do much more than provide warm blankets and snuggles and therapy-approved conversation on demand, and be "heartbroken" over how broken and pathetic the whumpee is in their eyes. Because the reality is that the relationship with pain has to be established before any other relationships can go anywhere.

Pain/illness kills relationships. People leave. They just do. It becomes too much of a bother to make changes to their own lives, and they jet.** And it's just you and your pain/condition until you can find the few truly good people who will give you love and reasonable help. You have to develop a relationship with it. It's your new roommate for the rest of your life.

You and your pain are going to be in the wars. You're going to get mad and scream and throw things at it. You're going to resent it for being the only one who's there with you every day. You're going to think about all the shit you can't do anymore, and you'll be frustrated to tears.

But eventually - if you're allowed - you make peace. You stop hating your roommate for holding you back from parties, you just find someone who can drive you home, or stay in with you. You'll find other people who have the same kind of roommate, and then you'll all get along.

And if you are very, very, galactically, fictionally lucky, you find a partner who will help you stand your ground against life and what your roommate pain has made of it. This is what happens in Word of Honor.

Wen Kexing is by no stretch Zhou Zishu's perma-caretaker, or "Caretaker" in the sense that plagues new wave whump. But he cares, and offers what help he can, when he can, without hovering and without kid gloves. He looks for a cure earnestly but without coddling or pitying Zhou Zishu for being a Sick Man. It's a more honest and realistic portrayal of someone ill/disabled and someone not who loves them than I've seen anywhere else.

My relationship with my pain is ongoing and continues to evolve. It takes things from me, but it gives me things, too. My love of whump, the Pain Genre, is one of those things. Whenever my pain spikes like this, my tolerance for fluff in the whump zone plummets, so just know that whenever you get ornery meta from me, my pain and I are sitting around having wine (gingerbeer, can't have wine with the new meds, thanks a lot pain) and bitching.

The reason there's no good chronic pain rep outside of WOH is that characters are not being allowed to develop relationships with their pain, and are only allowed to have relationships with other things and people, and those relationships are inevitably trainwrecks, or insultingly unrealistic and saccharine, because an entire segment of the character's life and personality and identity is being masked or exploited instead of embraced. So let your whumpee have a relationship with their pain/conditions/traumas. Chronic pain/illness havers the world over will thank you.

[pseudophan]

bby ily but thats rich coming from the most negative person ever 😅

oh fully, but i do feel like me being annoying and hyperbolic is different from people deciding before a video is even uploaded that it will definitely be bad. also it just wasn't that deep, i realise people are just trying to manage their expectations, it's just like... there's a difference between saying you don't think the video is gonna provide anything new or exciting and just straight up insisting it's gonna suck and that you're pissed off about it

[bredforloyalty]

the last few years have been a nice detour* but i think it's time to get back to being cringe

*: not that i wasn't cringe recently just that i need to crank it up and lose followers also

[purplelea]

Found an article that was like "BAD NEWS FOR ARCANE FANS" and I went "oh no oh shit what did they do" so I opened it and... dude I already knew we weren't gonna get a third season. We've known that for months now?? Wake up??

[dimensional-bitch]

Ah shit, Mom’s on the CLAMP sauce again:

Some fic I’ve written recently, and some I found on my hard drive, and some I sucked through a hose in a dark alley after midnight:

Title: Never More Beautiful Fandom: Tsubasa Reservoir Chronicle Length: 48,481 words Summary:  Late at night is the universally approved time for grown-ups to talk shit about the kids. A story about parents, children, and the little pieces of ourselves that we tuck away in the service of "Us."

Title: A Bone to Pick Fandom: Tsubasa Reservoir Chronicle Length: 2823 words Summary: Kurogane spends more time in museums than he would like.

Title: V is for Vestiphobia Fandom: XXXHoLic Length: 493 words Summary: Liquor Treat~!

[guhmshuda]

here is what they don't tell you about life... sometimes Sunday evenings look like pepsi from mugs, nazar laya in the bg and cheap pizzas that will probably have such adverse effects on your health in 10 years, remembering lost love and love you lost FOR GOOD, crying and slipping into bed before 9 because you are all sad... but you are doing this with the people you love the most. and that is all that honestly what matters the most.

tomorrow I will wake up and my roommate(s) will have ABBA playing, probably even QUEEN. we are shit late at submitting our essays and assignments but idt any of us care atp.

[wyn-n-tonic]

idk who needs to hear this but harassing somebody until they make a definitive statement on their sexuality is essentially outing somebody without their consent and it's not cool.

and even though people in the LGBTQ community are generally more accepted these days, it is still dangerous for so many of us. it can impact our careers and our familial relationships. and, yeah, you could say 'why would you want to be connected to family that doesn't like queer people?' that's fair. but it's not for anybody but the person in question to decide what is worth it to them.

some of us don't want to come out because we've never really felt at home or welcomed in any community and being rejected by the LGBTQ community would be, essentially, the last straw that we could handle.

if people aren't actively causing harm, just let them be.

tl;dr: it's a personal decision that nobody should feel pressured to make.

[commissionsdarian]

You're doing your best, and we all see it. We appreciate you. I love you.

Thank you, I love you too

[hollandsmoose]

thinking about my taste in men over the last year or so and this is my conclusion

[detective-asshole]

apologies, nines already has those pictures. i am determined to show everyone my silly kitty becasue i love her so much

here are more as compensation

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CCATT

kitty

KIT

KTJKTSKA

[qing-xuan]

ppl who are very vocal about hating qi rong but stan xue yang, go meditate about it

[omegaverse-anesthesiologist]

why is ao3 is blocked on the hospital wifi????

[clonerightsagenda]

I was rambling on the issue of museums and human remains and how certain populations are more likely to have their bodies put on display to be gawked at and then went "well I guess the Pompeii casts were of Europeans. there are bones in there right?" and Googled it to make sure, at which point I confirmed that yes there are bones in there, but more interestingly DNA testing revealed that a cast of an adult holding a child everyone assumed was a mother and child were, in fact, a man and a kid entirely unrelated to him. Honestly that's more moving to me. Maybe they were connected in a way other than blood, but maybe a stranger saw a child when the world was ending and thought the one thing he could do was hold them.

[marisatomay]

People will claim to be a fan of some thing and then hate all of the themes and motifs and story lines and plot lines and protagonists and antagonists like man I don’t think that you actually like it here