#and i tend to unfollow people for this sometimes lmao sorry. it just makes me uncomfortable. and i see it frequently.
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i'm sorry but as someone who is always trying to understand most things and most people, the reaction a lot of folks have of immediately dismissing something or jumping to an outrage without having a second to try to reflect on a situation or process empathy is something that i will never relate to and i consider to be a bad mentality to have if left unchecked actually
#not a response to any specific situations that might or might not be the topic of conversation today on tumblr dot com#it's just a general thought that i always have.#and i tend to unfollow people for this sometimes lmao sorry. it just makes me uncomfortable. and i see it frequently.#i've said this before but#i feel like often you can kinda see who has had life experiences that were unfair to them and being angry was their way out into freedom#(which does make sense in the transgender and gay website)#so they default to applying that state to most things because it is What Feels Right To Me Actually and i can't blame them for doing so.#but then there's people like me who like. my life experiences have led me into the Guilt Pit#where i am trying extremely hard to be measured and understanding because i have been very emotionally reactive in the past#or have witnessed things where very emotionally reactive people have caused horrible things to others around them#and i hate that actually and i try as hard as i can not to be that.#which is why i also feel like whenever i see it in other people i'm like. oh boy. i would not get along with you lmao.#and i feel like these are two opposite mentalities that are definitely detrimental to you if gone too far into either direction#so i don't necessarily think either is bad or anything. as long as you're able to pull yourself back and realize that like#you Should dedicate some thought to the rest of the world actually and not default to just ''what i feel is correct always''#and on the other end realize that sometimes you just have to Let Go#because caring about Everything is unrealistic and you will go Insane and lose your own self if you try to feel for too many other things#which is what i had to learn the hard way.#and also like. sometimes the immediate ''fuck you'' reaction Is super valid. and it's important to learn when that is the case.#but yeah. anyway. mentality. ways of seeing the world. people being different. wooooo.#rambling again in tags sorry.
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Time to stop procrastinating and finally do this lmao
Introduction post ig
Idk how to make text colorful, I'll fix this later (':
Hi hello! You can call me Ana! I'm from Brazil and I go by any pronouns!
I mostly enjoy supporting others content, but I will likely post my drawings and Vulture Culture taxidermy here as well!
Important
I'm pretty new to the open web so I don't know any social media "etiquette", sorry if I sound weird or dumb sometimes, for example idk if I should add a bunch of hashtags, or if I should compliment people's art on the comments or their "ask boxes", so yeah aksbakab sorry if I am of nuisance at any moment.
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- I'm here just for fun
My whimsical little self just enjoys frolicking around this place, I'm not trying to get my ideas out there, so I will likely not post often, but I'll be around!
- I don't function properly lmao
I struggle interpreting an expressing tones a LOT, I also get a bit anxious when replying to people, sorry if at any moment I sound dry, weird or rude, it is most likely not my intention, and please let me know if that happens. I tend to use tone tags sometimes
- Brain fog and co.
I have constant episodes of brain fog/dissociation, along with other personal issues, so I may accidentally forget to respond, if I have pending messages with you for too long, feel free to send me a "hey", I'll appreciate!
- Sensitive content
As said on the beginning, I do VC taxidermy, my main focus is on bug pinning, bone cleaning and mummification, I will add hashtags so people who are uncomfortable can block this content, but feel free to block/unfollow me if that makes you overall uncomfortable
That's all ig! It is nice to meet you anonymous person reading this post!
Oh also, if you have ocs I will very likely get hyped and ask questions (when requested), feel free to dump lore on my dms, I love reading oc lore
For more info or access to my other socials feel free to check the carrd link on my desc!
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GET TO KNOW ME TAG GAME
Before I start I would just like to say (tw alcohol for now and question 19) sorry for any spelling mistakes or if I ramble a little. To cut a long fuckin story short I mis read the measurements of my shot glasses and so instead of having two cocktails I’ve had the equivalent of four in the space of an hour and a half. Being british, im not gonna let a good drink go to waste either so im onto my third/sixth now.
Tagged by @clints-lucky-arrow (an actual goddess among us mortals)
1. Why did you choose your URL?
So this reason is two-fold. One, I didn’t watch star wars growing up because I was dumb and didn’t understand the politics (it wasn’t until my boyfriend sat me down and explained it literally in January of this year that I actually got it) but I loved Sci-fi and space so the next best thing was Treasure Planet (2003 film, Available on didney+) My favourite scene is the ending when Long John Silver (spoilers) is about leave before he can be arrested and Jim confronts him. Seeing how much his character has grown, Silver says to Jim, “Look at you, glowing like a silver fire. You’re something special, Jim. You’re gonna rattle the stars, you are.” It literally makes me tear up every single time I watch it and its one of my favourite lines of all time. Second, this was actually quoted in one of my favourite book series ‘Throne of glass’ by Sarah J Maas. I adore the character of Celeana and again one of my favourite quotes from TOG is when Queen Elena says to Celeana“ You could rattle the stars. You could do anything, if only you dared.” Every time I read that line I literally get chills and I actually have plans to get this tattooed on me lmao
2. Any side blogs?
Yes my fanfic blog @second-stars-totheright (I like puns and I used to love peter pan)
3. How long have you been on tumblr?
I joined when I was 13 for the fanfiction and lurked for a very long time, just reblogging and liking things until I deleted it when I was 17. Re downloaded the app and got my account back back around February of this year (when I was 19, now 20) and since then I’ve found it much friendlier and actually interacted with people this time around, and actually started posting my work on here!
4. Do you have a queueue tag?
No. This is my general postings blog so I just kind of stick anything funny or worth keeping here, but I probably should make one!
5. Why did you start your blog in the first place?
As I said to read fanfiction (anyone wondering it was 5 seconds of summer fanfiction. Anyone who judges me in the comments its fair game 🥺) but I re-downloaded it this year because I noticed with my work on Wattpad, while I had some do really well (one has gotten 130k+ views) its very difficult to actually interact with readers and get feedback. I’ve only accumulated that high of a number after 5 years of it being on there, and so tumblr is just so much more personal!
6. Why did you choose your icon/pfp?
I did it this morning as I was getting tagged in this lmao. I wanted a cartoon girl who looked like me but because I had a specific colouring (ie my hair is black with a blonde streak at the front & my eyes have both blue and green segments because I have heterochromia) I couldn’t find any that looked like me so I recoloured a cartoon girl I found on pinterest.
7. Why did you choose you header?
The white clouds fit the stars theme and it looks pretty with the purple. ✨💜
8. Whats your post with the most notes?
“That girl is a problem | Javier Pena x Agent!Reader part 1” with 105 notes on my fanfic blog.
9. How many mutuals do you have?
I am still a little tumblr idiot when it comes to this so if someone could tell me how to find out I'll edit this
10. How many followers do you have?
72 on here, 107 on my fanfic blog (AND I LOVE ALL OF YOU ACROSS BOTH OF THEM MWAH, MWAH KISSES FOR YOU ALL 💜💜💜)
11. How many people do you follow?
165 (it was 700+ but the other day I unfollowed a bunch of accounts that haven’t been active since I followed them when I was 13. There were LOTS)
12. Have you ever made a shit post?
I mean all you have to do is look at the Nomad memes I make (UNAPOLOGETICALLY I might add 😤) for @clints-lucky-arrow to know I absolutely have. That series has a hold over me im telling you. I black out when I start reading and I awake with a bunch of meme editing apps open and my feelings tugged at from her amazing writing.
13. How often do you use Tumblr each day?
If I’m with my boyfriend which is like two days a week, rarely, but now I’ve finished uni, I’m on here all the god damn time. I feel so comfy and safe interacting with you all, not to mention some of you guys are funny as hell.
14. Did you have a fight with a blog once?
Not really on here, I haven’t received any hate luckily but I prefer not to spoil how comfy I am here with arguing.
15. How do you feel about ‘you need to re-blog this’ posts?
I’m a little confused by this I dunno whether I’ve just never come across any like this or if Stars is being a bimbo on the tl again. However, I only reblog things I’d like to keep for future reference or if something deserves to be shared to everyone else like a fic rec or a piece of art. (As Mack said, I’ve re-blogged so many in the past promising me money or luck and I am still broke as shit so what does that tell you).
16. Do you like tag games?
Yes!! I love reading everyone elses and getting to know my mutals better!
17. Do you like ask games?
Again yesss because it means I get to send love to my mutuals and get to know them better! I tend to not participate though just read their responses because I sometimes feel like I’m bugging people clogging their inboxes even though I know that’s the point idk I’m a hell of an over thinker sometimes 🥳
18. Which of your mutuals do you think is tumblr famous?
It’s been said before but @clints-lucky-arrow (wow you rlly owning this post bby girl) but I just remember lurking on Nomad early February and liking and reblogging her chapters so I could keep them to re-read cause that’s how much I instantly loved it and when she followed me I realised who she was and lowkey had a starstruck moment bcus id been ciaght up in her work for weeks and too nervous to make contact. Also @arduadastra, I saw her work all over the pedro tags for so long and now I’ve gotten to know her she is the sweetest girl!! We usually fan over Javier Pena gifs together, she’s solely responsible for ‘That girl is a problem’ bcus of her gif sending at 1am giving me Javi thots and now it’s my most successful one on my blog. And most recently @pedrosgirlx followed me this morning and her work is genuinely some of the best I've seen on here, as I said this morning it is the Sistine Chapel ceiling of Mando art it is actually jaw dropping!! I cant believe all these creators are rlly giving us this content for free and yet being so talented AND the nicest people I’ve ever met!!
19. Do you have a crush on a mutual?
No, although I hold a lot of them dearly as friends. 15/10 would treat you lovelies to a drink of your choice if we ever met (any of you from the uk who drink I’d get you a pitcher from Whetherspoons)
20. Absolutely no pressure tags:
anyone who wants to join! a lot of people I would have tagged have already posted theirs so go for it if you like the look of it!
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Love when people reveal themselves as being so obviously online and insulated in leftist/progressive circles that they seem to forget that the rest of the world is not nearly as accepting or supportive of not conforming of gender roles as these spaces are. Like when did you say the reason anyone likes femsub or the reason it's popular at all is because they're young or don't know anything about sex? To me it's pretty clear you were talking about it as a larger trend and why it's so much popular than everything else overall. And to be completely frank, what is the reason femsub is so much popular than anything else OVERALL (not why any individual person likes it or it has any kind of appeal), if not gender roles? Are women just naturally more submissive than men (not saying you think this)? Because I have seen people say this, yes even so-called "feminist" men and women, that my preferences are unnatural because men evolved to be sexually dominant and women evolved to be sexually submissive, and that I'll never be in a happy or satisfying relationship unless I make myself more submissive and change my preferences because men just naturally don't like dominant women. I'm pretty sure you would not like if I took those hurtful and negative experiences and said any woman is submissive is that way is because they're misogynists who just think it's all women's nature to be submissive. And I'm pretty sure of this cause of the way that you freaked out when you even THOUGHT somebody might be implying that when they weren't. So why the fuck is it okay for you to say dom women are the way that we are because we think we're "enlightened" or more strong or better than everyone else and only like what we like because we want to be ~not like other girls~ for attention because of your negative experiences? And I like how they only talk about submissive or vanilla women getting shamed, so true bestie, dom type women, sexually or otherwise, never get shamed for their preferences. Nope, never ever. It's not like people always joke about women "wearing the pants" in the relationship and how it means she doesn't respect her partner. It's not like assertive or aggressive women are called a "bitch" but when men act that way it's sexy. It's not like religion teaches women they have to submit to men or no man will ever love them or they'll never be happy. It's not like people say that women that want to be dominant are "acting like men" or "want to be men" and therefore are unattractive, as if dominance is inherently masculine thing. It's not like a lot of men genuinely believe that all/most women want to be dominated in bed and so they don't even have to ask, they just do things to you and try to dominate you without your permission or consent or without ever having talked about that kind of thing before. Nope, we must have it sooo easy because we've got grrrrllll powerrr on our side, all women love us cause they think we're such cool independent and empowered women, and all men love us cause they think we're just so cool and not like the other girls. Like honestly, I don't assume to know what they experience of submissive women is like or that they must have it so easy because they're preferences are in line with gender roles, because I'm not one and i know they don't always have it easy because I've heard of women in the irl bdsm community being treated badly by shitty men who think it's okay to abuse them or do whatever they want to them because they're sub identified (or sometimes just because they're women). So why is it okay for you to assume what are experience is like?
I'm not involved in any real life bdsm community because corona and I'm anti-social bitch but I do like to lurk on online communities for fun (something I should probably stop doing cause it's not good for my mento health luv lmao). This whole thing reminds me of these weird ass screeds I sometimes come across by straight male doms on reddit where they go on and on trying to reconcile their desires with feminist politics either because a) they're genuinely a misogynistic piece of shit and people call them out on it or b) they're genuinely progressive/humanist men who have some difficulty reconciling their desire to be dominant with feminism for whatever reason. And so they do this weird thing where they project these worries and insecurities outwards, and manufacture a situation where anyone who criticises gender roles at all is against them personally, and it would be so much easier if they were just a female dom instead, everyone would apparently have no problem at all with them then, cause grrrrllll powerrr.
I don't like to engage in armchair psychology but the follow-up ask from that anon made it pretty clear to me that they have some insecurities around reconciling their preference for submission with feminism because of some negative and hurtful experiences, and so they deal with it by projecting it onto anyone that suggests that gender roles might be why SOME people gravitate more towards it and why it's so much more popular than everything else. I'm sorry that those people said those things to you anon, they're wrong, but a) most of those people tend to be against all bdsm in general, not just femsub and b) you need to work out those insecurities by yourself. You can't lash out at anyone who tries to talk about the relationship between societal norms and preferences at all, it's not helpful or productive.
Also how do they know those people unfollowed you for that reason? Is that an assumption or a verifiable fact? I'm not necessarily saying they didn't either, I'm not a mind reader, but like, some people are just sexist and think women are naturally submissive, sexually or otherwise. I've met them before.
to quote my therapist: that was alot to unpack.
i'm gonna give a longer reply under the cut but i just want to state here i'm not posting this ask to offend or hurt, or even "one-up", the original anon who sent that ask regarding sub!females. i have no issue with them and, again, think they're in every right to send their original ask. i'm posting it because i do think this anon made some very interesting points and brought up alot of worthy of being discussed topics.
let me also put a disclaimer here that i am not a genius nor someone very well-versed in gender politics, i'm simply a twat on the internet with a negative mindset.
"Love when people reveal themselves as being so obviously online and insulated in leftist/progressive circles that they seem to forget that the rest of the world is not nearly as accepting or supportive of not conforming of gender roles as these spaces are."
this. omfg, t h i s. i see this so much, especially in my younger cousins/relatives who are just now beginning to develop their own political opinions. let's take the conversation away from dom/sub for one second and just focus on gender in society. one of the clearest examples of gender affecting the way someone is treated/viewed is something i've experienced first-hand: i was misdiagnosed four times before i was correctly given my diagnosis for ASD, because most of the studies regarding it center around boys and, therefore, most women go undiagnosed. in fact, for years it was believed only men could have it which is why there has been such a surgence in the past few years of adult women being diagnosed with autism. i remember hitting high school, experiencing academic burn-out (thanks to everything moving too fast + my classmates catching up to me intellectually) and having my teachers treat me like i was an imbecile, or i was lazy, rather than just someone with neurodivergence. (this isn't me implying tjat men with ASD have it easy or that society accepts them anymore than women, it's only easier for them to get diagnosed.)
"it's not like people always joke about women wearing the pants."
this applies to both the shaming of dom women and sub men. the amount of men who get treated like they're "losing their manhood" for letting a women(or anyone else) dom them is ridiculous.
honestly, I think at the end of the day (and to close up this whole issue-that's-not-really-an-issue), we're unfortunately always going to live in a world where people have opinions against either side of the dom/sub spectrum, or the whole bdsm community in general. the best thing we can do is try lessen the internal conflict, especially between dom and sub women. we gotta stop treating each other like the enemy when all we really are is people with a differing preference. at the end of the day, what someone chooses to do in their bedroom is no one else's business (unless it harms anyone) and we need to take away the importance we seem to put on it. we're on a floating rock in space, who cares if becky likes to peg her boyfriend on a sunday morning or if stacy likes to be tied up on a thursday evening?
also, anon, i like the way you worded this whole ask. despite it being long, it was easy to read and you made some great points. sorry my reply isn't more exciting, i just in general agree with most of what you've said.
#again i don't have any issue with the original anon who sent that ask#we all act on impulse when our enotions overwhelm us and i respect them for even thinking they needed to apologise#also have you guys noticed yet that i'm a little bitch who's afraud of confrontation???#we love to see it 🤸♀️#🎐: message board#anon asks
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omg i’m so sorry for the late reply, this got buried under simblreen stuff 😭 because mikaela is a nurse, she has that pragmatic side of her (similar to beth), but she also believes there are things that can’t be explained with our current knowledge. she tends to believe more in the miracle idea than... ghostly influence lmao. but for the most part, she tries to just support everyone & make things easier for them with all the medical speak. she doesn’t have as strong of an opinion about it as cara or beth do, she just wants to keep everyone calm ;-;
@astrifurious thank you!!! yeah i don’t take it personally when people follow/unfollow me just for cc, but i feel like i make it very clear that my main priority is & always will be my story fjksjd anyway thank you for being here!! 💖
@fairybarn ahhhhh thank you so much!! i’m so happy you liked it!! 💖💖💖
awww i was literally just looking at that post 😭 and same, i know sometimes things get in the way or people just lose interest, but it’s so sad when you’re invested in something and then it just ends with no resolution whatsoever :’(
@forgotten-pixels ugh i know!! sometimes i just look through my own archive for inspiration and it always makes me emo to see how long ago some things are ;-; thank you for sticking around, it means a lot to me!! 💖💖
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HOW I RUN MY BLOG —
SPEED.
slow !!! i’m .... honestly very slow ( on any blog i have ) and i do apologize about that. i think its just my attention span now has diverted elsewhere from time-to-time. (ง ื▿ ื)ว i like to take breaks and just let my brain mellow out, cause tbh my writing skills and creative process has slowed now that i’m a bit older and it’s hard to write with other stuff on my mind and i’m just like, fuck. i do work / am finishing up school so my time varies, but i tend to procrastinate on everything so it’s also that too !!! i promise i’m not purposefully forgetting anyone; i hoard everything in my drafts !!!
REPLIES.
it depends based on hinata’s mood + what kind of structure it is. one-liners can die off quickly, or progress into something more !!! sometimes i feed off of my partner and if i can write and vibe with them and their muse, writing comes a lot easier to me. there will be some days where i can crank out replies if i’m on a good roll; other times not so much. but, even with the same partner, i get too into my head and wonder if this is what she would say + what she would do, etc, so that often slows down my process, causing me to save it in my drafts and reply later. again, it’s never my partner’s doing that makes me slow or that i’m ignoring anyone; it’s all in my drafts and i just want it to be good enough !!!
STARTERS.
i’m not the biggest fan of writing one-liners only cause i wonder if ..... people actually want to write with me ...... and then i’m like ah maybe not .... throws it away lmao. but if i see someone with a one-liner, sometimes i’ll jump the gun and reply ( i’m just a nervous person and again, get in my head a lot !!! ) but i’ll do my best and try to get t out of my comfort zone to leave one-liners out in case my mutuals are interested !!!
INBOX.
always always always open !!! give hinata ( or rose if you follow me there too ! ) random questions or one-liners or whatever and i’ll do my best to reply !! some of it is saved, but if it’s been sitting there for months and my muse is lacking for it, sometimes i will have to delete it because i just can’t .... seem to answer it. o(TヘTo) pls don’t let that deter you from reaching out !! chances are i wanna still interact and talk !!
SELECTIVITY.
i’ll admit it, i’m quite selective with who i follow and unfollow and want on my dash. sometimes, even if we don’t interact, i really just like your writing and i wanna read what you have got going on ( is that creepy ?? i’m sorry !!! ) but i think just due to being overwhelmed, i keep my writing circle small or circles already have people in them &i feel weird kinda inserting myself in. it’s not that i’m not open to new people / friends / writing partners, cause i’d love to write and talk and see what happens. it’s more so can our muses vibe, cause not knowing where your character is from can hinder that ( at least for me !! ) and i’m low key lost as to how to approach or talk with them. so yes, sometimes it’s easier to follow muses based on shows i’ve seen. sometimes oc’s are good too, i’ve rarely had any issues with oc’s whenever writing. please don’t take personal offense to this !! and please if you feel the need to unfollow me for any reason, go ahead and do so !!
WISHLIST.
i’m basic af when it comes to my wishlist. i’m honestly open to whatever ! i hope you don’t mind me bothering you with questions cause they will come up !!
HONEST NOTE.
i am honestly so blessed &so thankful to have the friends i have, after all this time. like, i honestly couldn’t ask for more. thank you for staying, for supporting me, for dealing with my slow self. thank you for loving hinata as much as i do. thank you to everyone who follows me and likes what i do, even if it’s not much !! i’m feeling super sentimental, but i really appreciate you guys wholeheartedly. you’re all wonderful and deserve so much !! (´,,•ω•,,)♡
tagged by: @thatdamnreno ( ilysm ♡ ) !!! tagging: if you see this omg take &let us get to know you !!
#‣ ✽ author’s thoughts. / OOC.#......... i hope this explains ....... why i'm so slow ......#crawls into a hole
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Hey, I've been your follower for years now and recently I've been through a breakup and I saw your post about it and I feel really sad I don't know how to move on and I just wanted to ask could u give some tips 😢❤❤❤ Love you and your blog so much!!! Sending you much love
Omg hi angel!!! 💕 im really sorry to hear that :( It sucks but we gonna get thru this baby
This will be a long post but also for anyone whos going thru a breakup rn, I'll type out everything that I wish someone told me before 😂
HOW TO WIN A BREAKUP
Ok so im gonna put shit that I know from expierence and as a psychology major so we have some gold hacks here on getting over a breakup 😏 First, I've personally had like quiete few breakups and honestly that FIRST ONE is ALWAYS the worst. If this is ur first breakup im rly sorry but its gonna suck for a while LMAO just remember that first one is the most painful but once you get over it its like antidote for life. No breakup will hurt that much as far as I know. Now lets start. U broke up youre sad, alone, crying, now what?
1. Call your friends. ALL OF THEM. I always felt my breakups before they happened and with this recent one I summoned all of my friends and they were all there with me before and after it happened. Venting helps and emotional support will be the first thing here. You are very vulnerable and sensitive right now and your emotions are all over the place probably. You're sad, angry, confused you wanna kill him all of that shit and having people there with who you can let out all those emotions is SO SO SO important i cant stress it enough. Dont bottle emotions D O N T its tempting but its toxic as fuck and it prolongs the healing. Buy junk food, have girls night, cry to your friends and talk about it until you don't feel need to anymore, cry more. Use all emotional support u can get, ur girls got u. BONUS TIP therapy helps alot. Ive been to therapy to help me sort my emotions out and its been super helpful. Remember also friends arent therapists, sometimes a professional help to guide thru emotions is the good choice too.
2. DELETE EVERYTHING you have that reminds you on them. I personally dont have hard time with it I know some people do but its also one of the most toxic things. Delete the pictures, chats, unfollow them block them even if u have to, mute, delete the songs that remind u of them. Literally erase their existence from your life. Due our brain not knowing difference between someone breaking up w us and someone dying pain we feel is intense and gets to point we feel physical pain. Memories trigger emotional responses and keep opening the wound. You need to heal. Patch it and let it heal. Dont poke it by seeing still things that remind u of them.
3. dO NOT STALK THEIR SOCIAL MEDIA. DONT DONT DONT. ITS LIKE DRINKING POISON EXPECTING THEM TO DIE??? What you could possibly find that will make u feel better??? Them posting that they miss you and want u back??? Nah sis, social media presence of people is so biased and its SO EASY to fake anything. You can misinterpret alot and you might also see stuff that will hurt u. Some of my exes (idk abt this last one tho bc I never stalked his social media since we broke up and im super proud on it) would post stuff that they know would hurt me or make me jealous or just some shady shit and you dont want to go in a place where u know someone just wants to hurt u. You are better than that. Protect your mental peace at all costs.
4. Journal. With this recent breakup I wrote like alot about it, i took my emotions and wrote paaaages. Let it all out. Draw abt it. Find ways to turn your pain in art.
5. DONT TEXT YOUR EX. CUT THEM OFF. its the best for you. You cant heal in a place you got hurt. If you wanna text them handle phone to ur best friend. I know whenever you are alone u will feel so lonely but trust me better call your friend than hit up ur ex LMAO We all still think we want our ex back even some time after breakup. We tend to idealize our exes in our heads and remember only the good times and stuff and then its just painful illusion. I know i did that alot with my exes so with this last one i decided to prevent it. Best way for that was to make a list of all the things he did that would hurt me, make me sad or mad and that i just didnt like abt him. Whenever I would feel im thinking I miss him I would read that list and see he wasnt so good and there was a reason that relationship ended. It will come to point u will see you werent happy and you will be slowly letting it go. He aint shit trust me.
6. Usually it takes 3 weeks for the worst symptoms of breakup to subdue bc our neurotransmitters need to balance again. Love is a drug and breakup is like withdrawal from cocaine addiction. Your body and mind will go through symptoms same as cocaine addict. Remember to be kind to yourself. Take care of yourself. I know for me issue was I would be like "get over it" and not allow myself to be hurt abt it. Be kind, you are going though huge emotional trauma and you deserve all the time and space to be hurt and feel it. Feelings are like visitors, you just have to accept them with out resistance and let them pass. Acceptance is the key.
7. Focus on yourself. You were so used on putting effort and energy into that person. Take all of that energy and put it back in YOU. Be selfish. Treat yourself. Date yourself. Write things you love about yourself. Rediscover your passions. Focus on school. On your beauty. dYE UR HAIR DO A TATTOO DO UR NAILS DO A FACEMASK PLAY SONGS SINGING HOW EXES AINT SHIT Fall in love with yourself. This is something that you will be ready to do when you processed all the emotions in healthy way.
8. Idk did i forget something but just to add this. "This too shall pass". You will heal. You will mend. Never close your heart to love again. You deserve love and one day you will have it. Dont let your pain make you push love away. Breakups are extremely good for self growth and be grateful for it because trust me you will grow so much and you will learn so much about yourself.
I hope I helped at least a bit 💕 I keep feeling like I forgot something but know that you and anyone can always hit me up in DMs and ask for help. Im always open to help anyone and dont hold back. Im sending you so much love honey 💖💖💖💖💖
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Before I continue I must say: excuse the awful graphic. Lmao. Anyway! I’ve realised that I have never done a Follow Forever or anything like this in my life?? So I decided that now I should hop on the bandwagon and spread some of the love. Not because I’ve reached a follower milestone but so I can give you all a quick thanks for putting up with me really. I know I have never been the best in replying to drafts at a reasonable speed, that I ramble too much and take twenty-odd years to reply to a single message and yet you guys still talk, follow me and want to interact with me and my muses? Honestly, I’m blessed. :’) Just know I love you all and wish you the Happiest of New Years. Alright let’s go --
SOME SPECIAL MENTIONS:
☼ @floires ;; Becky, oh Becky. You’re my sister so I guess you have to be on top of this list?? lmao. You don’t realise what an amazing writer you are. Like so good that Tumblr made us both unfollow each other? Like what was that all about? Haha! We have stupid arguments over nothing and over everything but know that I love you regardless of those. We need to write together also! Your muses are the cutest and I could honestly go on forever but I don’t want to make your head bigger than it already is. You’re the best sister anyone could ever ask for or want etc etc and no matter the idiotic things that leave my mouth sometimes, you just so happen to be one of my favourite people on this planet. Ew, I’m getting cheesy now. How gross is that. And one day I will persuade you with my almighty powers to edit a theme because you always end up making the finished product so good and like SHARE YOUR TALENT PLEASE. ALSO THIS IS RANDOM BUT JUST KNOW YOU CAN SING GREAT. (If you E V E R say you sound like Celine Dion though...I may just start laughing. You know exactly what I’m talking about here.) Never change for anyone or anything and I sincerely hope that 2019 is kind to us because 2018 was the most Evil. And besides, 2018 was so last year lmfao. All my love to you sis. P.S: you smell. xx
☼ @brokenbcys ☼ @dreamxcatchcr ;; Emma and Dani! I’ve put you both here because I know I’ll end up repeating myself lmao. Where do I start with you both? You’re two of the best friends anyone could ever ask for; both on the internet and in real life. You’ve been there for me for so many years and you know -- I think this year it will be like...9 or 10 years since we’ve been friends? That’s gone so fast! We’ve had many laughs together and honestly I never would have survived the hell that is school if it weren’t for you two. Thanks for putting up with me when I take ten years to reply to a simple message dkjlsdgsd. And I also love how no matter which characters we throw at each other, they all end up being bezzie mates. I have such a good writing chemistry with you two it’s just so easy :’) Our friendship must have been reflected on our characters haha. We’ve been in some hilarious RPs together though -- like the twins one! Our TMR RP (groupc) will always be one of my favourite rps (Not because we ran it pfft) because I’ll always treasure our Glader Trio. One day I will persuade you both to watch all of AOS and not just the first episode hehe. Here’s to many more years of friendship! I love you both sm and I know I can come to you about anything and yeah :-) xx
☼ @wckdfortressx ;; Hannah! I know you’re not really on the RP scene anymore but I couldn’t do a Follow Forever without including you! We’ve been friends for goodness knows how long now -- it’s definitely been a good few years. And I love that you love Agents of SHIELD as much as I do :’) AND ULTIMATES IS THIS YEAR!!! So the fact I might finally get the chance to meet you irl is so exciting! You’re a lovely person and you’re always fun to talk to even if I take a billion years to reply to a simple message lmao. I’ve always loved every single one of your characters and I think you’re an amazing writer. And if you ever decide to return to RP know that I’m always willing to throw any and every one of my muses at you. <33 You’re an awesome person and I hope this year treats you well!
☼ @ravenousdiaster ;; Your URL popped up before I even typed ‘r’! I think Tumblr knows how much I lav you hehe. :’) I’m so happy that we started writing together! I always get so happy when I see you’ve replied to a thing or tagged me in something. And we can spend ages and ages just headcanoning and it’s beautiful <3 You’re an absolute pleasure to write with and Dougie/Dahlia are precious babies who I love sososooo much. We love putting them through Shit because we are angst fiends ;) but I wouldn’t have it any other way because I’m terrible. I always love when I see I have a message from you and you’re so lovely to talk to OOC as well. Thank you for being you and carry on being your amazing self. I lav youuu. <3
☼ @strawberryxwrites ;; You have legit got to be one of the most patient people I know, omg. When I always take a lifetime to reply to a single message or poof randomly in the middle of a conversation, you’re still more than happy to have a chat and??? I am ever so grateful for that. I know I can be a pain in the arse when it comes to reply speeds but I’m so glad to have the chance to write with you :) I love your characters dearly and I love writing our threads as well. I hope you have a fab year in general and just know I enjoy writing with you and talking to you and thanks so much for your awesome self and wanting to write with me.
☼ @valplum ;; Every time you reply to our thread or I see you on the dash I am honestly just???? floored by your writing because it’s just beautiful and HOW DO YOU ENGLISH??? Every time I have a notification from you I’m like !!!!!!! I know I’ve had trouble with my muse for Logan recently but know that I love Logan and Bardot so much and I’m also excited to write with your other muses at some point to :) And you’re such a wonderful person to talk to I’m <3 I don’t know how to English so just know I love you okay ♥
☼ @heroxwithxdreams ;; remember that time we tried plotting and I ended up completely forgetting to reply to the message? ahh. I’m so happy that the second time around worked out. Because I always did want to reach out because I thought ‘ahh they seem so nice! I’d love to write with them’ and then I got lucky :) You’re so sweet to talk to even if we haven’t spoke for a while but I know that’s because you’ve had a break from Tumblr which I completely understand since I’m technically I’m on a semi hiatus haha! but just know when you’re back I’m ready to love you. <3
☼ @faerietaled ;; My motivational fairy! I’m so sorry I tend to forget to reply to my messages ah but you always seem to appear in my messages at just the right time :) Whenever I’m not feeling so great or stuck in a pickle you always reach out and say hey. Honestly you have no idea how much that means to me. <3 The fact you take some time out of your day and listen to my rambles; you’re an awesome bean. I hope this year treats you brilliantly because you deserve nothing less than the best. ♥
THE REST OF THE BEST:
Whether you’ve been following me for months or for hours, whether we’ve written 500 threads together or only one or even not at all yet, whether we’ve spoke to each other or haven’t interacted yet, thank you all for ever giving me a second glance, for being so patient and understanding when I forget to reply to messages or my snail’s pace of reply speeds. You’re all such lovely people and without you my indie rping experience wouldn’t be what it’s like today :) Thanks for lighting up my dashboard with your greatness every day! Keep on doing you and know that if you ever need anything I’m here for you. And if you ever wanna start a new thing then I would be completely down with that!! Happy New Year! xx
☼ @domuslux ☼ @finalisms ☼ @heartonanoose ☼ @merryxchaos ☼ @ferociousrex ☼ @disapprcve ☼ @inechoingsilence ☼ @thefangedman ☼ @ofbookshelves ☼ @ofxmuse ☼ @caringspirit ☼ @evcrlasting ☼ @mnemxsyne-writes ☼ @darkwinterwinds ☼ @dramaqxeenbitch ☼ @thexnyctophiliacs ☼ @the-red-red-rose ☼ @anatcmies ☼ @swordsandmagic ☼ @kingxfmischief ☼ @pseudonyist ☼ @poignantisms ☼ @novusorbus ☼ @futureofnothing ☼ @svimmingfools ☼ @shewritcsx ☼ @ofstrangevariety ☼ @lavenderrpages ☼ @cheapxseats ☼ @scinglives ☼
(If I’ve missed you please do not take offence and know it was not my intention. My brain never remembers to reply to my messages let alone remember everyone for my first follow forever. I don’t love you any less so please don’t think that. )
#ooc ;; jade talks for england#follow forever#happy new year guys :]#it's now i realise i need to follow more people as there are so many blogs that haven't been active in well over 3 months lmaooo#it was deffo tough remembering people and i feel like some of you will be like 'why am i on this' LMAOOOO but just know you're all great xxx#ooc ;; jade does a thing
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Hey! I'm having trouble figuring out whether I use Fe or Fi. I know I'm a feeler, and I know I'm on the Ne-Si axis, so I'm either an xNFP or an xSFJ (leaning E for both of them). But there are certain things I do that are correlated with Fe, and certain with Fi, and it just gets confusing. So, I don't have much of a problem befriending people with different beliefs than me. Actually, I have no problem with it whatsoever. I would never in my life end a relationship or unfollow someone, even, (1)
Just because they have a different moral standing than me on something. I'd never TELL someone to unfollow me for something like that, either - which is something I've seen Fi users do a ton. It's just annoying to me. I don't think people are defined through who they're friends with. Another thing about me is that I tend to not get involved in things related to morality/feelings unless they affect me directly. If I feel someone (besides me) is being treated unfairly, I prefer not to step in (2)
Or get worked up about the situation, because 1) I might not know the full story, 2) it isn't my problem and I don't want to make it my problem, and 3) I really don't care if someone is offended as long as it isn't me lmao. Or as long as the reason they're offended can't be tied back to me. I have a pretty strong focus on authenticity. I can easily tell when someone's being fake/acting like someone they aren't, and this can easily push me away from people. I have a strong focus on people's (3)
perceptions of me and I always feel the need to live up to people's standards of how I'm expected to be (or sometimes I like to behave in an unexpected manner to confuse them haha). A lot of my self-perception comes from what people have told me about myself, and I tend to seek out help from others to tell me about myself a LOT. I'm bad at figuring out who I am without others telling me. And I seek a lot of general social interaction due to this, too. I like to figure myself out through (4)
How I interact with other people. I get nearly nowhere sitting in my room thinking about who I am unless I go out and actually experience stuff. It just helps me figure it out better. I know you don't like statements like these lol, but I would say I do have a good sense of how other people are reacting to what I'm saying and I can tell when people don't wanna talk to me anymore. I guess it's having good emotional intelligence? It's helpful bc I usually know when I'm getting cringy and (5)
When people are getting annoyed with me. Whether I choose to keep going after that or not is very dependent on the situation and I actually often tend to keep going. But I always kind of -know- when I SHOULD stop, and I just don't always choose to stop. Another thing about me is that I always have some sort of level of discomfort expressing my emotions outwardly. Like, I would NEVER cry in front of someone I'm not super close to. Or even the ones I am close to. I like to imagine people's (6)
Reactions when I'm alone in my room, crying, but I never really muster the courage to actually EXPRESS stuff and I like to use indirect ways of expressing the way I'm feeling (passive-aggression is my go-to, but I also like ignoring people, acting differently around them, etc). Anyways, sorry if this was long haha! I LOVE your blog and feel free to ask me if you need any sort of clarification on anything!
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Hi anon,
Short answer: ESFJ
Going through:
No difficulty befriending people with different beliefs tends to be Fe in that high Fi users tend to strive for consistency; specifically telling people to unfollow is more Fi and usually high Fi (high Te users may want to break of contact for said beliefs but they’ll typically either unfollow themselves or block depending on the situation).
Not stepping in seems like a young Fe user response, namely “I don’t want to rock the boat and get involved in this conflict if I’m not already involved,” whereas Fi users are more likely to see things as being applicable to themselves, even if indirectly.
For authenticity, Fi users are primarily concerned with their own authenticity, not that of others (they are sensitive to hypocrisy in others which has some overlap, but isn’t the same).
The fact that your understanding tends to come from other people is also a good sign of having Fe rather than Fi; getting nowhere without actual interaction also provides some evidence for you learning through experience and therefore being a high Si user.
I appreciate that you actually used a different statement than “Good at reading people” because what you said is valuable - Fe users are typically better good at understanding how the audience is reacting and when to leave. The reason I dislike the term “good at reading people” is because that’s such a general term - you get Fi users who are good at understanding very specific motivations but have no idea that the person they’re talking to is bored out of their mind and has been trying to leave for 20 minutes or that they’ve spilled information that makes other people uncomfortable; you also can get Fe users who are great at picking up social cues from their audience but aren’t good at understanding when someone is an exception (someone else, and I can’t remember who, said that Fe users are good at providing the general ‘comforting’ behavior, but if someone doesn’t respond well to whatever form of comfort they provide, or is upset about something strange, it all falls apart).
The more I see it the more I think emotional openness, while more correlated with feelers, has a lot to do with confounding information like enneagram and cultural background and upbringing as well so I try not to type off that.
The rest is the negative side of immature Fe, namely passive-aggressive behavior and behaving in a manipulative manner, rather than honest confrontation. Which isn’t to say Fi users can’t engage in these behaviors but they tend towards extended callouts rather than hinting towards the problem without communicating it.
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all of the munday meme questions!
Munday Meme WELL THEN | AnonymousAccepting But this is all of them LOL
♻ Any advice on improving Tumblr RP experience?
I think my advice for this question has always been the same for everyone. Just don’t stress about things here. You haven’t written in weeks? Doing one more OOC post? Haven’t replied to someone in a month? That’s okay. I want to advise everyone that this is suppose to be our fun space, where we can sit here and talk and enjoy the things we love together. I know that it’s easier said than done but everyone stresses SO MUCH over this stuff when really it’s stress that you can easily avoid. Just take in a deep breath and have fun, it’s as easy as that. And if anyone gives you issues ever, just unfollow, block, and blacklist.
Simple. But saves you so much more stress.
⛅ Do you believe aesthetics are another form of expression?
I love the form of aesthetics. I really do. I think it’s fun to find something that screams your muse, to see aesthetic boards, with images that all represent one thing or person and more often than not you can tell what it means. It’s fun interpreting it and figuring out how each would fit a muse or person. It’s very much like an individual representation on on a poetic level, except it’s like poetry in a visual representation. And I personally, am always a sucker for symbolism and aspects that mean so much to muses.
☮ Are you feeling happy and inspired right now?
Well. I’m listening to music, I feel asleep for 3 hours, and I’m bundled up. I enjoy my muse and I enjoy her general time period. So in a sense of muse yes, I am feeling inspired. Now whether or not I’m responsible with that is a completely different matter.
☄ Has someone ever admitted to being inspired by you?
Yes, @kingslaying actually started up an RP blog because of me. She is my anon’s HERE , HERE , & HERE and is now my Main Jaime because she has a dedication and love for him that is always poetic and so true to his character. She has quickly become one of my most cherished friends next to @cerseilionesslannister and our triplet verse is one of the best things that has ever happened on my blog.
⚌ Who inspires you?
Wow this might be such a long list. @cerseilionesslannister @kingslaying , @starkmatriarch , @handofhonor , @killthebxy , @taintedblccd , @princessbcrn , @mistressmxleficent , @watcherandshield , @phaesm , @neitherknightnorlady , @iniziare, @kingwhocared / @fadetogrey, @undeadcersei , @boltxnbastard . @decthsentence , @royalsadist-hiatus (sorry but I STILL ADORE YOU REN!!!) , @rainbowguard , @scarredhound , @predative / @conduicive , @willbeshot (listen- we don’t talk but my dash would seriously be less without you in it) , @wildmoored , @thecodekeeper , @hangtherules , @trickstercaptain , @obdurare , @obuljagon , @queenlannistertyrell , @theeldestsun , @thesellsword , @womenwritten (we don’t talk but heavens you’re quality ) , @twiicetheheart , @podstye , @aloneinmycage , @dxdger , @drdumaurier , @donapirata , @flxbber (adorable bean ) , @goldenhaircd , @godsiwasstrong , @hydrophobiic , @needlcd @mithraiic , @lynchthedove , @akingslayerx
♋ Are there any FC’s you believe should be used more? Why?
I honestly have zero complaints about FC’s aside from the point that I am UNCARING of the popular fancast of younger Cersei. That one from Reign.
☸ Do you reblog from the source when someone practices reblog karma or do you follow it?
I am really respective of someone’s rules if they wish for someone to send, or if i feel like they’d be more comfortable with me sending one in, I do it. Sometimes it’ difficult because while Cersei is fake nice, when true colors are shown she doesn’t like very many people so I have to go through the options with a very meticulous thought process. I personally never require people to practice reblog karma and would never mind being someone’s meme source.
☯ Do you believe you’re a forgiving person?
I honestly am always willing to work through conflicts and do what is best for the sake of peace but I have to work at it. I’m not an automatically forgiving person, and I can be pretty petty. But I’m always willing to let bygones be bygones if necessary. I suppose it depends on the situation.
⚑ Have you been forgiven for a mistake you’ve made?
Yes, I have. Thankfully. And I have made mistakes, plenty of them. I’ve accidentally jumped the gun on some people, I’ve made wrong assumptions, and I’ve lightly confronted and came out completely wrong. And each time I apologize I never expect someone to automatically forgive me always keeping in mind that if they don’t and they wish to unfollow me. I make it clear that it is okay and I will not respect the many less. Thankfully, I’ve been forgiven and am always as honest as I can be.
♛ Have you ever seen drama be maturely sorted out?
Yes, I’ve seen it and experienced it . And thankfully it has led to a peaceful existence between both parties. And thus far, so long as each party, [myself included] remain a 100% honest and communicate wholly when it comes t our feelings. It’s a relaxing and honest partnership.
♞ Do you tend to ignore drama?
Ignoring it, solving it, and not feeding it are three different things and more often than not they mix together. Ignoring it to solve it is actually the biggest and best way to solve it, because you are actively not feeding it. Because 90% of the things that I have witnessed lately have done nothing but feed the drama instead of solving it. (this is where I always say to block if it becomes too much. People always think that unfollowing and/or blocking are the ultimate taboos of tumblr. which they aren’t. The whole reason that these two options exist is to make YOU more comfortable in your space and once you realize there literally is no shame in using it then your dash is a 100% stress free space in true.)
I also highly believe and always recommend solving issues privately. If there is a user that you have an issue with or a concern or a question concerning an issue. Just go right to their PM’s and talk it all out in a civil matter, and if it doesn’t work that’s okay. Just unfollow and/or block by both parties. And if the said person doesn’t wish to talk and ends up being rude, then end the conversation and again, block and ignore.
So I don’t ignore it, so much as I prefer to settle things privately without a show on the dash and the wrong kind of attention brought to both parties. You know I’m not the type to play white knight in my valor armor and my sword of justice. No I’m more like the average jane wrapped in leather climbing over walls with my slingshot because I want to face an issue directly instead of making a show for dozens of people.
☾ Have you ever tried to bring peace to a situation?
Always. I always recommend peace to all situations. That, or just parting ways and going on their way. There are often times that so many different people confide in me and always advise the best course of action to get them to come to a form of peace. (often times I would be the confidante of both parties working it out for the best)
And in situations like that I always ALWAYS stress how much I will not utter a word of the other’s conversation and I haven’t. (unfortunately it drove one in one of the situations to try and guilt and lie to me to make it sound like the other party turned against me. And then proceeded to lie to OTHERS about the situation and continuously vagues like crazy about it today; but I won’t go into too much detail)
☻ Have you ever made someone a promo or a positive shoutout?
Plenty of times actually. My most recent promo, i suck at them, was for @kingslaying , and I’m always doing some sort of positive shoutout for someone.
☎ What do you think about bias lists?
I enjoy them so much , and they’re so fun to make edit wise. But when it comes to trying not to forget someone I’m ALWAYS so paranoid. I cherish all of the ones I do get tagged in and am always thankful and humbed because I know how hard it is to remember so I’m honored alone by simply being remembered? I also enjoy them because they’re convenient for those of us who don’t have any photoshop or the skill for it, to do any proper giveaways.
☈ How many people would you say likes you?
Enough for me to respond to hate with ‘bitch everyone loves me’ LMAO. No but I get along with enough people to safely assume that a fair amount of people do like me? I’m annoying half the time in my own opinion but the most common word that is used for me is ‘cute’ so I suppose that says something? :)
♡ How many people do you like? Are there any people in particular that pop up?
I LOVE EVERYONE!! But my squad is definitely consisting of @cerseilionesslannister , @kingslaying , @princessbcrn , @iniziare , @neitherknightnorlady , @phaesm , @kingwhocared , @taintedblccd
☢ What calms you down after negativity?
I try my best to stay away from negativity but you all know how much salt I have and how littler my tolerance for bullshit and illogical stupids are. So when I’m overwhelmed I liked to leave my computer to watch a movie, or play a game, or lay down on my bed and sleep for a few minutes. Or even ALL of these. Now there is a puppy I have, his name is Hector, who I take outside for a walk or lay with, or play with. For someone who is equally chill, I am actually NOT so chill.
☠ What keeps you happy?
Writing, music, my love for @cerseilionesslannister and @kingslaying and everything that is Cersei Lannister.
☘ Is there anything that makes you instantly want to follow someone?
Respect. Respect for my Muse. Respect for her family, respect for her characterization. Whether the mun seems nice, the muse works, I am wanting to write with them, or even the smallest thing as I am a pure fan of their work or their muses. There are somethings that I am extremely picky over but, there is that.
☕ Is it often you hear people complimenting your blog? Characters, writing, theme, icons, etc.
YES. I’ve actually come to meet a LOT of people who enjoy Cersei Lannister and everything that she is. But a lot of the times I get compliments on my theme which was made by the beautiful @iniziare . Same with some of my icons, and even my URL. I appreciate all of the positivity and I am more often than not unsure of what I’m doing . So positivity. always helps me get back on my feet and I always appreciate it whenever it comes.
☂ What’s your best RP experience?
You know I’ve seen so much crack wars and angsty things, and different verses. But nothing has ever, EVER, come close to the craziness that was the FIRST MINT WAR. I remember that 4th of July. I just got home smelling like gun powder and ash because it was my nieces first firework day. And I LITERALLLY come online and make one dash commentary post because the dash is dying. LOL. And everything just spiraled out of COMPLETE control. Ironically it was also the first time I met @predative
⚈ What sweet things tend to happen to you from time to time RP wise?
When Cersei’s children come and love on her and show how much they cherish her as their mother. I’m looking at you @princessbcrn . And when she does just small family things that speak volumes and that just make Cersei’s heart MELT to bits and pieces because Cersei just loves her children so much.
☐ What trends are you currently into?
I try not to be a trendy person but I will always love 100x200 icons. I don’t CARE. I love them so much. I know some people find them annoying but I love the added piece of scenery and mood to the icon.
★ What fandom do you consider welcoming?
I haven’t really been dabbling too much in any other fandoms but our little corner here ins the ASOIAF/GOT is known to be quite welcoming to new people. That and the WestWorld fandom. When I made @sanguissanguini every single person there has been nothing but nice to me.
☆ What are some the perks with the fandom you’re currently in?
Well as stated above we are infamously welcoming to new people. We look out for each other and we cherish one another. Everyone is seriously SUPER super nice and more often than not if you IM’s one of us you’ll find that we’re always here willing to talk about anything, chat on life, or just listen to you talk about things.
Of course we have our bad corner, you know, the bullies, the ones who send themselves fake hate to get attention, or the ones hell bent of stirring the pot to cause drama, the thievy bullies. You know. Problematic corner. But every fandom has one. But all in all, most of use are GENUINELY good at just keeping the peace, and minding our own business, and being honest, all the while being sure to RESPECT one another.
☉ What fandom do you believe needs improvement? What could you do to do that?
I have heard nothing but BAD things of the Marvel Fandom. I myself really REALLY enjoy Marvel things and the Avengers, and Tony Stark, and Peter Quill, and the Hulk. But again, I’ve heard nothing but baaadd things about the Marvel Fandom. If there is any fandom that needs improving; i’d say that one.
I’d say that people genuinely need to start respecting one another and respecting the fact that people DO and are ALLOWED to have differing opinions on things. Learn to separate muse form mun, fantasy from fiction, and a joke from seriousness. All in all; just chill. Have fun. Be nice. Treat people how you want to be treated. Easy.
♦ How has roleplaying on Tumblr improved since you started out?
I actually DON’T know the answer to this question because I was largely unaware of the trends when I started out with Cersei and I literally had nothing but a cheap gifted theme from octomoosey and a few images off google. BUT I do know that I have learned since than wit ha fair amount of trial and error. But I’d like to say that people are more respectful of one another, thankfully.
♨ Have you ever roleplayed with someone that has been problematic but offered critique and then watched them improve?
With people I have had problems with that don’t work out I usually end up blocking. Once I had someone who is actually pretty hugely Anti-Cersei who was more or less TELLING me how bad Cersei was to one of her kids and made me feel wrong for disagreeing. THAT one was a problematic one that I tried to work with that just ended up with me blocking for the sake of my own comfort.
⚓ Are there any small details you tend to like in roleplays?
Well that’s just it. I love attention to DETAIL in the first place. I’m always so thoughtful and meticulous about the smallest of things when it comes to Cersei and how I portray what she does and why she does what she does. When I see someone else pay that much attention and CARE as much as I do. I like it.
⚡ What are the good sides with duplicates?
I actually enjoy duplicates ! SO MUCH! And I always promote duplicate love because it’s so much funner this way than having competitions and long standing paranoia over ‘who is better’ because I imagine that is exhausting. I actually have a longstanding ship with one, the lovely and perfect blessing incarnate @cerseilionesslannister . We have so many things built into our verse that they’ve become their own form of canon.
Plus it’s always nice to have someone else to scream over when it comes to loving our muse. And it’s amazing how we’re both true to our muse but in our different ways? I love her too so much, and duplicate things are fun and are honestly my favorite.
☀ What’s the best thing about roleplaying? (tagging @handofhonor for these two)
Being able to write and get into the heads of the characters selected to write, and being able to meet some of the nicest people along the way. I know it’s cheesy but it’s honestly the best experience for me. I’ve also fallen in love with a fictional character and I hold ZERO regrets for it because I would honestly die for Cersei.
⛵ What genres do you like writing the most?
It’s not really a genre that I enjoy but more like a topic? I love the dynamics between Cersei and her family so whenever I have threads explaining different aspects of it I am really happy. Whether it’s Cersei and Myrcella having ANOTHER fight, or when Myrcella is being there for Cersei. Or Cersei and Jaime wanting to be with each other but can’t, or THEIR fighting, or THEIR loving, or loving while fight and vice verse. Or even Cersei and Tywin, Cersei and Tommen and that dynamic. Cersei and Joffrey, and how each dynamic affects the other. Family things. THOSE are my favorite.
That and things that challenge Cersei as a character, challenges her beliefs, challenges the way she thinks or the way that she believes. Things that give Cersei a run for her money basically. (and she always in every verse has a LOT of money.)
☺ What tends to bring out your muse the most? What inspires you?
Music, music has always ALWAYS been an inspirational thing for me when I want to write a certain mood. That and certain fan videos that put my mentality in the mood that I want. I have no idea why this is, I only know that it’s always been this way. When I hear something, and sometimes it will give me a certain emotion. [ I even have select songs that scream Cersei for me that I throw on.] Either she wants to kill something, love someone, or step on someone. It’s always a mix of them but- music brings out the most emotion.
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3, 6, 8, 12, 18, 19? (so many questions sorry not sorry; i like it when u talk about things!) 😘
thank you!!
3. have you ever unfollowed someone over a fandom opinion?
lol yes, all the time. i don’t mind it when people have different opinions (a lot of people that i really like to follow often have different opinions from me. but sometimes there’s just unnecessary vitriol or exhausting incessant negativity, or just a really annoying way of presenting those opinions (e.g. people presenting their interpretations as fact, people assuming that people who disagree with them are morally reprehensible in some way, bullying, etc. etc.), and so eventually i just have to be like......bye
to be fair, i rarely break mutual-ships. but i’ve had mutuals who’ve unfollowed me (some of whom i cant believe i ever used to be friendly with lmao tbh)
6. has fandom ever made you enjoy a pairing you previously hated?
hmmm i don’t actually think so? fandom usually makes me hate things, because fandom is the worst. oh, actually, way back in the day i didn’t used to like shipping non-canon ships from harry potter (bear in mind that this was many many years ago in my first fandom) but more exposure to fandom led me to enjoy the wonders of many different fanon ships eventually.
i think sometimes shitty fandoms can make me ship a ship i already like just a bit more, like out of pure defiance or stubbornness lmao, especially when that pairing is maybe not the most popular or gets hated on. like the more people began to hate on clace, the more i was like.......hey u know what’s a really great ship that i really love.......even though before when people liked/tolerated clace, i was not quite as enthusiastic towards it. idk man. i’m the worst lol.
8. have you received anon hate? what about?
lol yes i have. i sometimes post opinions that have just a little bit more nuance than “x thing is 100% good” and “y thing is 100% bad” but unfortunately that seems to be rather unpalatable in this fandom, i guess?
overall though it’s not a big problem, i usually only get it pretty rarely, and then i get like 6 lovely anons telling me nice things right after, and 9 times out of 10 it just makes me laugh. like that one time someone called me a race traitor (i still laugh about that) or that one time someone was like “u dont deserve to meet matt and harry bc u ship clace” lmao
12. already answered! :)
18. does not shipping something ‘popular’ mean you’re in denial and/or biased?
huh, that’s an interesting question. i don’t think so. i feel like, lately, people have forced the idea of “shipping” to be “something you believe to be canon”, which....i don’t really think that’s the motivation behind shipping for people who don’t ship the big canon ships (or in some cases, big fanon ships too). a lot of the times, people ship something just because they like the dynamic and want to explore it purely in a fanon sense, i.e. through fanworks. which doesn’t mean that they think it’s canon, or even that they think it should be canon. people don’t always get that these days because the “focus” of shipping has changed from “exploring in fanworks” to “exerting onto the canon work” - which then (wrongly) influences how people perceive shippers of different ships. whether that’s good or bad is of course a conversation for another day lol.
but that being said, i think shipping inherently, especially when it comes down to fanon ships, is all about interpretation of the work and the characters, and of course personal biases will tend to influence the way we look at a work and interpret it. i don’t necessarily think it has to be “denial” but rather just a different way of looking at things.
19. what is the one thing you hate the most about your fandom?
oh man there’s a lot. i guess the thing i hate the most is probably the mean-spiritedness? like disagreements will happen in fandom but the way that people interact with each other and especially the creators behind the works is not just “disagreement” or “criticism” or whatever people so innocently claim that they do lol. it’s just....worthless, counterproductive meanness, sometimes. and look, i’m not the nicest girl in the world by any stretch of the imagination, but it gets exhausting even to me lol. and sometimes it’s literally just complaining for complaining’s sake. like someone once sent me a screenshot of someone on twitter tweeting todd going “oh hey why hasn’t alec ever had a beard on the show when other characters have hmm???” like. what. lmao
and that’s coupled with this very curious attitude of morally condemning any people who disagree with you - like it’s not just being mean, it’s being mean and being self-righteous about being mean which is of course such a lovely combination. like i said before, people will be downright nasty, and then turn around and say that it’s for some higher, noble purpose and anyone calling out their nastiness is bad and shouldn’t do that. again, there’s a different between vitriol and criticism or disagreement, and it’s a line that a lot of people can’t see that they’ve crossed a loooong while back.
also, the idea of personal, subjective interpretation of a text being passed off as incontrovertible fact, and the general lack of critical thinking that often goes into those (subjective, non-factual) interpretations. and really just the utter lack of nuance or even acknowledgment that other interpretations can exist, or that things don’t have to be “good” and “bad” - like, things can be a little more complicated than that.
also, people who have their “favourite” things (ships, characters, actors) and then think it’s cool or funny or whatever to insult and hate on their non-favourite things for literally no reason other than they don’t like it, or to make their favourite thing look better or whatever the motivation is. like ive seen people insulting how a particular actor looks for literally no reason other than to compare him unfavourably to their favourite, which is. okay. whatever.
i mean, i could go on but i think i’ll just stop it there. thank you for asking!!
#i hope i was vague enough#the last thing i want is for people to know who i specifically hate lol#i was gonna write a little thing about ugly gifs but that was a bit rude#and wouldn't that be hypocritical#i've probably been hypocritical in this at some point#sorry im working on it#boldbiscuit#mavra answers
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Fullmetal Alchemist for the salty ask meme
dammit ray how did you manage to pick the fandom that i’m probably the least salty about (which is in part because i watched it after it had already been out for a while and the fandom was largely dead)
also bro ur supposed to send me specific numbers jfc oh well we’ll see how this goes
What OTPs in your fandom(s) do you just not get?*
Are there any popular fandom OTPs you only BroTP?*
answering these together because it’s the same one: RoyEd. Age differences tend to squick me and even when they changed the ages in fics i could never get over it lol
Have you ever unfollowed someone over a fandom opinion?
not for this one, no–again because I was never very involved. what are the controversial fandom opinions here even?
Do you have a NoTP in your fandom? Are they a popular OTP?*
again, RoyEd. Platonic or bust.
Has fandom ever ruined a pairing for you?*
not this particular fandom, no
Has fandom ever made you enjoy a pairing you previously hated?*
i actually didn’t like EdWinry much (i didn’t dislike it, i just mostly saw it as platonic) until i read some fics with it
Is there anything you used to like but can’t stand now?*
i mean. a lot of the 2003 show lmao if that counts
Have you received anon hate? What about?*
i mean, i’ve definitely received anon hate, but thats always been about discourse or the fact that pidge in voltron is 0% cis or that one time i said that i kinda shipped zutara, never about FMA lmao
Most disliked character(s)? Why?
ahhhhhhhh, envy probably? he always kinda annoyed me lmao
Most disliked arc? Why?
hm idk i mostly dislike arcs that i feel are both unnecessary and annoying and FMA is so tightly controlled that there really isn’t anything i feel is unnecessary so i don’t know that i dislike much of anything–though i did always hate that brief moment where Al like. thinks Ed created him to be a puppet or something?? like jfc Al why are you putting so much trust in a serial killer here
Is there an unpopular character you like that the fandom doesn’t? Why?
i liked Rose, and I feel like a lot of the fanbase doesnt, but i could also be wrong about that *shrug* but idk, i just thought she was an interesting and likable and realistic character and tbh i didn’t get why so many people hated her
Is there an unpopular arc that you like that the fandom doesn’t? Why?
again, are there any unpopular arcs? i mean, i still have some measure of fondness for parts of the 2003 anime, even though most people hate it (which i really don’t blame them for, i just have fondness anyway)
Unpopular opinion about XXX character?
YOU DIDNT SPECIFY A CHARACTER SHITDICK but uh, edward elric is ace as fuck sorry i don’t make the rules
Unpopular opinion about your fandom?
????? idk bruh
Unpopular opinion about the manga/show?
??????? idk bruh
If you could change anything in the show, what would you change?
give a little bit more closure, i guess, regarding ed and al’s relationships with the military folk. we don’t really see them interact again after al gets his body back and i want to see that
Instead of XYZ happening, I would have made ABC happen…
man i dont know the show’s pretty great. OH YEAH LETS NOT KILL NINA AND HUGHES THERE YOU GO
Does not shipping something ‘popular’ mean you’re in denial and/or biased?
no?? never has and never will i can’t believe this i even a question tbh different people have different tastes jfc
What is the one thing you hate most about your fandom?
idk, the lack of focus on platonic relationships sometimes? but that’s me in every fandom
What is the purest ship in the fandom?
idfk probably AlMei if we’re being real
What are your thoughts on crack ships?
g o f o r i t
Popular character you hate?
ENVY THE FUCKING ASSFUCK
Unpopular character you love?
i mean, she’s not my fave, but again, rose?
Would you recommend XXX to a friend? Why or why not?
HELL FUCKING YEAH IVE DONE IT BEFORE AND I’LL DO IT AGAIN
How would you end XXX/Would you change the ending of XXX?
i mean, again, a little more closure on ed and al’s relationships with the military guys
Most shippable character?
tbh i don’t think much about FMA ships but maybe Roy? there’s a lot of other military folks i’d ship him with. Also Winry ships well with like every lady she comes into contact with if you think about it
Least shippable character?
Olivier Armstrong because she’s aroace as fuck fight me
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