#and I'm going to choose to be kind and positive rather than letting myself constantly stew in bitterness | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

weird-adlen-queen · 1 year ago

Text

Would you be so kind as to read the rules, please? Thank you:

I will allow:

Violence, blood, mild or moderate gore, mentions of abuse, angst, and cursing

I won't allow:

Pedophilia, zoophilia, fetishism, kinks, and NSFW of any kind

Please note: If you choose to block me, please let me know the reason why because it'll make me feel very bewildered and very neurotic if you don't. If you don't like my OC or something in my OC info makes you feel unpleasant, please let me know, and I'll change anything about her to make you feel pleasant. Just please don't block me yet. We can figure things out together, yes? Blocking hurts worse than confronting me about the issue(s) that we can address and figure things out together so we can both joyfully rp together without any unpleasantness. I believe that every problem has a solution, yes?

Mun info:

Name: Debbie

Current and legal age: 21

Gender: Female

Pronouns: she/her

Note: I'm mentally stunted in growth, and I constantly go through age regression. I also have autism, ADHD, and Alexithymia. I also have narcissistic behavior, so if I start to argue about something, please let me know because I can never realize it. I don't know a lot of things that most people know, including a lot of simple things. I am very passive-aggressive. I was raised in a household where everyone screams threats at each other with misery combined with a lot of anger issues. I probably have BPD and/or bipolar. My brain doesn't function normally. I suffer from the effects of sleep deprivation, such as: Memory lapses, impaired moral judgment, cognitive impairment, and irritability. I have noticed that I suffer a great amount of memory lapses. I don't know how severe it is, but it's bad. I am severely neurotic. I have nothing positive to say about myself because I believe that I don't deserve it. I am very mentally unwell and mentally unstable, and I'm a desperate people pleaser. I only have a few friends, and my social skills are very terrible. I don't mean to scare or freak people out, I just don't know how to talk to people in a normal manner.

Question: "Why are you giving out concerning info about yourself?"

Answer: Honesty is the best policy, am I correct? I do this so people can learn some info about me. This is a good thing, right?

About my OC:

Debbie Jung has many different versions depending on the fandom. There is only one currently in this edition:

1. General OC info for most fandoms Light-hearted edition (mainly for those who feel uncomfortable about heavy morbid topics)

Fun facts about Debbie Jung and her relatives

Debbie Jung Murder Drones universe variation short info

Click/tap to read info

General OC info for most fandoms Light-hearted edition (mainly for those who feel uncomfortable about heavy morbid topics):

Name: Debbie Jung

Age: 7

Height: 3ft 9in

Sexuality: Ace, Greyro, and sex-repulsive

Species: Human/witch hybrid

Hair color: brown

Eye color: brown

Style of clothes: she wears an oversized purple hoodie over an oversized pastel purple T-shirt, white sweatpants, purple and white slip-on shoes, glasses, and a purple and white hat with the Anarcha-feminism symbol on it.

An image of her appearance:

An image of her appearance without her hoodie:

Another fun fact: She hates wearing dresses. She would rather wear a tuxedo to an event or her regular attire

Short info about her parents:

Her mother, Susan Mary (formerly Susan Jung) is a very narcissistic and sociopathic witch. She also does witchcraft

Her father, Oscar Jung, was a mad scientist (he was also a normal human) who worked in a lot of fields and secretly killed a lot of people. He loved Debbie, and he would always try to protect her from Susan until Susan killed him. Despite his immoral actions in his laboratory, he tried to prevent Debbie from going down the same path that he went, but he knows that it runs in the family. Susan killed him because she was tired of him trying to protect Debbie from corruption. Susan killed him by messing with a machine that he was working on for it to electorate him to death

More info about Debbie Jung:

personality: Despite her age, she has a somewhat mature mindset. She is smart, and she knows wrong from right (sometimes). She can be both innocent and morbid-minded (she won't kill anyone, but she will act spooky. Like for example: she'll make a crown out of bugs or she'll say cryptid words) She considers herself a duality, a balance, a mixture of both good and evil, a mixture of both positive and negative. One minute, she's a wholesome little people pleaser. Next minute, she's a weird, morbid-minded creepy child. It's like Jekyll and Hyde, but they share the same identity. A lot of times, her neuroticism takes over her to the point that she's very self-doubting, anxious, and even depressed. There are times when she'll actually have some will to be protective of the people that she cares about, and she is a strong believer in anarcha-feminism and justice to achieve what she believes is true freedom. Despite her somewhat mature mindset she still has some of her childish traits, usually when she's in a good or playful mood, she can be mischievous, playful, somewhat childish, she absolutely craves comfort, long hugs, and to be held in someone's arms (most likely because she is starved of affection), she can also be a silly, goofy moron, and she doesn't often throw tantrums but when she does, she'll apologize for it after she calms down. She can be eery and kind of creepy at times as well. She can feel empathy for certain people. Usually her neuroticism takes over whenever she's reminded of her parents (even when she randomly thinks of her parents), she breaks mirrors whenever she looks at her reflection (mainly because of her PTSD), and she is smart with only certain things but she is stupid (and/or ignorant) with a lot of things. I consider her stupidity as comedy somewhat (like for example: whenever she's mixing chemicals together, she thinks she's mixing the correct ones until they explode in her face, or when she's skating in town, she won't look where she's going and she'll hit a sign. She also has a great lack of self-awareness sometimes. She is also very needy, passive, clinging, and has an extreme fear of being abandoned.

neurodivergent: Autism, ADHD, and maybe bipolar and/or BPD

Other disorders and disabilities: visual disability, visually impaired (she is blind in one eye, specifically her right eye), mentally stunted in growth, and PTSD

Powers and abilities: She has telekinesis, duplicating objects, she can teleport herself, other people, and objects, portal creation (she can travel to other dimensions through portals that she can create), eternal youth (she can't physically age. She is stuck at 7 years old), heart reading (she can read peoples’ hearts to discover their true feelings, what they're hiding, what their fears are, and if they're telling the truth or telling lies. It's not 100% accurate because she hasn't mastered it yet. It's 60% accurate), give people hallucinations, invading People's minds to control their dreams (she can only control their dreams when they're asleep), and she can steal peoples’ souls right after killing them and she can put them into the dolls that she enjoys making. It's like an inescapable prison for the souls she captured

Hobbies: playing Retro game consoles, drawing, reading science books, reading articles, and she enjoys making things (Little trinkets, machines, weapons [traditional, hi-tech, and low-tech], dolls, music boxes, clocks, wind-up things, little toy figures, and contraptions (decent-looking and ridiculous-looking), automatons, and mosty clockwork objects and some modern and futuristic objects as well), etc. She's also surprisingly very skilled at sword fighting despite her lack of physical strength.

She has special glasses that help her see far away. Her father created them for Her before he died. Her glasses can also do some neat stuff such as analyzing people, x-ray vision, heat detecting, data storage, etc.

Interests: Learning, reading, supernatural, paranormal, witchcraft, playing video games, morbid topics, comfort, pleasing people (she likes to see people smile and feel positive emotions), Anarcha-feminism, being silly, acting stupid (on purpose), being a goofball, and inflicting pain on other people who she believes truly deserves it. She also enjoys circuses, carnivals, looking at neon lights and intricate details, and she enjoys music. She also enjoys singing whenever she's happily making something (she only decides to sing whenever she's in a very positive mood)

Her backstory: She suffered severe mental abuse from her mother constantly ever since she was born. The only person who cared about her was her father, but that was short-lived because he died from a ‘freak accident’ while working in his laboratory when she was 4. Her mother would yell insults at her 24/7, she would make her cook and clean, and she would lock her in the basement (her father's laboratory) as a form of punishment. Her mother (who does witchcraft) cursed her with eternal youth so she could never physically age or get physically strong. She eventually discovered that she has telekinesis (probably a side effect from the Eternal Youth Curse, or perhaps she was born with these now discovered abilities). Debbie secretly practiced her abilities while she was locked in the basement for 2 months. She was gonna make her escape. She broke through the door in the middle of the night while her mother was asleep, and she then ran out of the house towards the city in the distance beyond the large cornfield that surrounded her mother's house.

Favorite food and drinks: Salame, pepperoni, slim jims, beef jerky, blue Kool-Aid, orange juice, Gatorade, and Propel water

Most hated food and drinks: Vegetables and fruits by themselves (she only likes fruit flavored things, not including chucks of fruits in yogurt. But she does like bananas by themselves), and she despises seafood of all kinds

0 notes

bittersweetmorality · 4 years ago

Text

— aizawa boyfriend headcannons

☾ genre: headcannons

☾ pairing: aizawa shota x gn!reader

☾ warnings: none !! all fluff ! (hints at manga spoilers, but no details or anything about it is actually said)

☾ a/n: HIHI ! i have like 9 other drafts that i’m working on and they’re all for Bungou Stray Dogs 😁 but enjoy this Aizawa brainrot i love him gn.

☾ ALSO ! NSFW headcannons for aizawa will be coming soon as a separate post !!

☾ W/C: 1,373

— SFW

okay i’m sick of all the mfs that say that aizawa is just an emotionless asshole

HE. IS. NOT.

ON MY MAMA HE IS A SWEETHEART DEEP DOWN. IN HIS OWN WAY.

he’s not really outwardly affectionate— especially not at first

mostly because his love language is acts of service and words of affirmation

no i will not take criticism because i am right

HOWEVER of course i shall elaborate 😁

he is a bitter man because of his past (if y’all read the MHA manga... you know 😐.)

but he would not insult someone he genuinely cares about

and obviously he cares about you bae

so words of affirmation is a constant with him— and honestly it just comes out naturally, he doesn’t even force it

and it’s a lot of reassurance too— reminding you that he does care about you despite the fact that he isn’t very good at expressing it

he also doesn’t explicitly say that he loves you most of the time, just ‘cause he’s afraid of the term yaknow

he kinda plays around with words that basically mean the same thing tho 😁

“i’m very proud of you”

“you’re the only one i want”

“how are you feeling?”

“do you need anything from me? are you tired?”

speaking of which

his love language of acts of service said HELLOOOO

he just wants you to be happy and comfortable

but he’s also pretty lazy 😐

so it’s kinda acts of service but in the back of his mind he hopes that the things that make you happy n comfy are easily attainable 🧍

but when i say he’s lazy and that isn’t gunna change for ANYONE .

🧍.

yeah sorry

my mans wants his naps regardless if you want attention like just nap with him

he’s very very okay with that

AND UHHH CUDDLING .

he isn’t big on like hugs or pda or holding hands when it comes to physical affection

but CUDDLING WHILE NAPPING AND SLEEPING?? YES.

he loves that so much omg

like he knows that you’re alone and he’s allowed to be vulnerable around you, and no one is around except the two of you

and your cats

but we’ll get that later

he’s always the big spoon

not because he’s embarrassed or anything he doesn’t really give a fuck about shame in this situation

he just finds it more comfy to hold you rather than the other way around

because he cuddled his pillow for so long that’s just his natural sleeping position

you can tear that headcannon from my cold dead hands and i don’t want to hear it outta any of you

anyway

he’s such a heavy sleeper that he does NOT move an INCH at night

so if you ever have to get up to pee or just generally move around a lot while you sleep he doesn’t care

it literally cannot bother him 😐 he is dead to the world

also he doesn’t dream at all he just 😐 he sleep

he likes to hear about your dreams though if you have them ^_^ you guys talk all about it in the morning and the way he looks at you when you talk ☹️🥺

like in any situation ☹️🥺 he just listening to you talk about things you enjoy— he could listen to your voice all day

he doesn’t really reply much, but you know he’s listening

ANYWAY back to the CATS !!

you have two cats

one cat favors aizawa and one favors you

it’s no surprise that the cat that likes aizawa more has the same personality as you, and the cat that has the same personality as aizawa likes you more

obviously they love you both but like, if they had to choose a lap while you’re both on the couch, you can guess what happens

he loves the cats so much

genuinely he worries for them all the time

the only time he calls you is to check on the cats when he randomly gets anxious about them

“hi. are you home right now?”

“yes hun, i’m on my lunch break,”

“are the cats okay?”

“...yes they’re with me right now?”

“are you sure.”

“.....do you want me to put them up to the phone?”

“yes.”

anyway DATES.

they’re mostly lazy dates (obviously)

he likes the casual aspect of relationships, so that extravagant shit is wasted on him, especially when it comes to dates

he likes to order in, or cook (preferably with you) and watch a movie with the cats

the cats are in fact a requirement

and yes he will cuddle you on the couch while the movie plays, and honestly sometimes he finds himself barely focusing on the movie, just looking down at you laying on his chest and simply admiring you

he's a softie deep down

a big fat softie

also kisses with aizawa???

soft. so Soft™

he's just a very delicate person at heart, so kisses are just the same

he cups your cheeks and plants kisses on your lips and nose all. the. time.

he loves kisses but usually he doesn't initiate them, so you better grow some BALLS and kiss your man

he will kiss you right back instantly

he also isn't very private about his life

but also?? kind of??

like he definitely doesn't make any effort to hide his relationship with you from the rest of the UA staff and students, but obviously he isn't parading you around and shouting from the rooftops

he finds it really stupid for someone to actively hide their significant other from people

like??? make sure to tell people they're yours?? why would you hide that you dumbass

speaking of which aizawa is super protective

he DEF isn't possessive, like "don't you dare talk to that guy or i will kill him" type like some of y'all make him out to be

i see you and i hate you .

he just wants to keep you safe, so he looks out for you constantly

he trusts you not to be possessive, but his natural instincts from past trauma (again, manga reader know) make him look out for people he cares about

and that always includes you

OVERALL

100/10 boyfriend someone kiss him for me </3

"shota?" you called from the kitchen, trying to gather all of the snacks you had organized onto the counter in your arms. there were too many bags, so many that it would definitely be impossible for you to carry them all in one go-- and that was obvious, since every attempt to gather everything was futile. you groaned as the items tumbled out of your grasp for the umpteenth time, "shota, hun can you help?"

"hm? what's wrong?" you heard a monotonous grunt from the living room.

"i can't carry everything myself, and i really don't feel like taking multiple trips," there was no response. you sighed, "pleeeaaase??"

"i'm busy. my hands are full too."

"ugh, he's sitting on the couch, what could he possibly be busy with?" you mutter to yourself through your teeth.

finally, you decide to simply create a makeshift bag out of your shirt, flipping it up inside-out. you quickly place all of your snacks, and speed to where your lazy boyfriend sat in the other room to stop anything from falling.

you aimlessly let everything tumble out of your grasp, the sounds of plastic hitting your wooden coffee table in front of the couch.

"see? you didn't need my help," you could hear the smug smile on his face even if you weren't looking.

"well, you know how much easier it would've been if y-" you begin to whine, but as you look up to face aizawa completely, you realize why he refused to get up. two little cats were curled up on his blanket-covered lap, their bellies rising and falling gently. you tentatively made your way to sit beside him, carefully plopping onto the cushion.

"so you really were busy then, huh?"

he wraps an arm around your shoulders, pulling you close to lean your head into the crook of his neck, careful not to move his lap in the process, "well, you know i wouldn't lie to you."

masterlist

286 notes · View notes

funkymbtifiction · 3 years ago

Note

How do you feel about your tritype being 629? Is "Stockholm Syndrome" a bit too much for a nickname? How do you "find yourself" after relating w people so much all the time?

I'm sorry if this comes off as intrusive or rude, I'm just curious. You do a great job on here, thank you so much for your work

Hah. The rude nickname fits, because 269s are too nice for their own good, and wind up tolerating people who aren't worth their time much longer than any other type. We'd be the kind inclined to try and see the good in our "captors" which explains a LOT about the fictional characters I'm drawn to and how I want to understand even the villains and get annoyed if they are two-dimensional.

I don't really lose myself in other people, being a 6 first. It's more that I feel a constant pressure from my ego types (mostly 2) to do nice things for other people that I don't always want to do. Like, this person doesn't interest me much, but they are eager to talk, and going through a hard time, and it makes me feel guilty not to answer them immediately. That sort of thing. I just automatically think about what other people might need or want and include it as a legitimate part of my decision process. But whenever I do this halfheartedly, it's quite obvious that I'm just doing it out of duty.

Like yesterday, I had a chat with my dad in which he said I wind up doing things out of duty a lot, and when it's optional, it's not always required, that sometimes I should just let go of it. I'm not the caretaker of the world, I'm not here to provide unpaid counseling to all my friends, I don't need to be a workaholic all the time, and I shouldn't feel guilt for doing otherwise. But I can't just shut it off, because those things are hard-wired into me. They're an automatic response. You help whether or not you want to. You keep the peace and be polite and considerate of other people's stupidity. And you rationalize away the reasons to rebel as selfishness.

I also struggle a lot with not always knowing what I want -- or maybe I do, but it's just hidden under a 6 core layer of self-doubt and 9 fixed confusion, like instead of feeling my feelings, I think about my feelings and come up with rational explanations for my feelings. I try to "figure them out" rather than just going inward to sit with them. I look for some sort of explanation for them, when they make no sense to me. AKA, I parted amicably from this person a year ago and now I'm feeling lonely and wondering if I made the right choice, but this can't be just missing them, it's taken too long, is this my 7 wing missing the FUN we had instead of THEM as a person?? That sets off a spiral of THOUGHTS that slips me out of my emotions. I constantly distance myself from emotions to choose to do the rational thing, or the mature thing, or the responsible thing, or the right thing, and they become my focus more than "what I want/what I feel." It probably comes from the double 1 wings, but I'm one of the most dutiful people you will ever meet, and I feel somewhat resentful of the fact that I can't ever slip out of it and just be irresponsible, just abandon things when I lose interest in them, just be selfish without feeling guilt, just make mistakes without berating myself for them, just assume someone else is the problem when things go wrong instead of blaming myself first, etc.

That's where the nickname comes in, because instead of writing ex's off as assholes, 269s continue agonizing for months over "what I did wrong." They are looking for explanations for others' behaviors, they are trying to think the best of them, they are angry about the times their 9 said nothing instead of making a scene or being directly confrontational, they are thinking about the mistakes they made and beating themselves up about it, and they are endlessly cycling through this like a loop that won't shut off, because 6 and 9 play off each other to create a haze of doubting whatever conclusions 6 just came up with, but 6 needs to understand EVERYTHING intellectually, rather than just having a feeling. Feelings you can't trust. Feelings lead you astray. You have to be smart. Logical. Rational. Look for reasons. Explanations. It's exhausting being me.

Me being a 692 is probably the most over-thinking combination of this type, a 269 would be less amenable and a 962 wouldn't over-think to this extent. But your tritype is a public broadcast of everything that's messy and annoying about yourself. Once you really understand what it's doing to you on a daily basis, and how it's controlling you through your automatic reactions, it's less fun to put it on your profile, because just looking at it makes you cringe. "Stockholm Syndrome" is very apt, because it really slaps you across the face with what you're doing that isn't good for you, as reminder to be less passively accepting.

You can't trust an over-positive description of the tritype, because Enneagram doesn't exist to flatter your ego and make you brag about being X, it exists to tear it apart and force you to face yourself. Only when you feel the "deep cringe" can you start working on it.

#question #enneagram #269 #tritype

48 notes · View notes

sword-brainrot · 4 years ago

Note

Oh, um! May I request a matchup? I know these can be draining to do so feel free to skip me if you want!!

So, um hi! Im a 19 yo translation student! Everyone uses she/her when talking to me, but you can use whatever you like, I dont mind pronouns! Im really shy and kinda anxious when talking to people, but I'm completely see-through ;; cant tell a lie to save my life haha Im super curious abt practically anything and I love to learn new things! When I have to get work done, I make sure it looks shiny and perfect! (even tough I procastinate on it until there's almost no time left,,,,) I prefer indoors because loud sounds make me somewhat panicky??;;;; and in my free time I play games, learn useless stuff and sleep... y'know, the usual ^^;

As for what I'd like in a parter.... I want someone who cares about me ;; I know it may be a bit too much but I guess I can dream right? :') As for myself,,,, idk id be a completely mess ;; Im good at listening I think! but when it comes to affection Im at a loss and I just get embarrassed,,,, I blush at everything and when Im put in a spot I try to laugh it off ;;

Um, also... Im sure you already noticed but I have some self issues so you may want to take this into consideration???? maybe???? Im sorry I had to bring this up;;; i tought it could help you get a better picture of myself haha???? uuu;; (um also i apologize for this huge wall of text, i know its all over the place.... dont know how to organize it;;;;)

Oh, and I don't care about sword types nor I have a preference! I love all the slashy boys equally ♡

Thank you for taking the time to read this, I really appreciate it 💖💖

Oh I would never skip your request! If I ever get drained, I would take a small break. I wanna do your requests dear! Feel free to request as much as you want, I have a blast whenever I can write and make someone smile because of it. Don't worry about bothering me or anything, seeing requests always makes me smile and excited to write 💖🌺

I Match You With...

🌸 Ishikirimaru 🌸

♡ Ishikirimaru is a very calm and friendly guy, he would understand very well how scary social interaction can be for some people. He would never push you too far and make sure he knows your limits. He would offer you to have tea with him or help him clean just so you both can bond together and let you know what he does want to be around you. He doesn't mind if you don't talk much because you are shy! Ishikirimaru doesn't talk too much in general but doesn't mind starting the conversation and having a short discussion about things that may interest you or your thoughts on things.

♡ Don't worry about ever making him angry or annoyed, it is very hard to do that. He is very easy going and cares a lot about other people. The only way he would ever get actually angry at you is if you say something insensitive about how people's lives in war don't matter or something along those lines. He was a sword kept in a temple that often got prayed to for healing the warriors who came back from battle with deadly wounds. That is the only thing that would actually get under his skin. He cares a lot about the people around him and even the people he doesn't know, he prays for all of their well beings. Even yours. He cares about you a lot as well and will tell you often that you matter to everyone. He is aware that you would never say something to upset him on purpose. As long as the two of you talk it out and apologize to each other, he will forget it even happened. He wouldn't let one slip of the tongue to ruin the relationship.

♡ He tries hard to make sure he never upsets anyone and thinks over his words carefully, but even he makes mistakes and words don't come out how they planned. He will make the most effort to apologize and make sure his words didn't hurt you badly. If they did, he would spend hours on end talking it out and making sure you know that he would never mean anything that would hurt you. He cares about you a lot and your smile is his favorite.

♡ Ishikirimaru might be a little pushy when you talk badly about yourself. He loves everything about you and it hurts him when you think you are lesser than everyone. He will often try to stop you before you go too far with talking down upon yourself and give you plenty of compliments, even if they embarrass you. He wants you to know that you are deserving of love and that you are much better than you give yourself credit for. You have your own talents and people cherish you for being you. They want you in their life because you are you.

♡ "Aruji, I haven't been human long but I understand that being human is a complicated task. The mind can be a cruel one and the deadliest thing to our souls. My words may not mean much but please trust me when I say that you like you for you. You will see things you do not like about yourself because you are stuck with yourself constantly so you will pick up things that others will not. We are all hard on ourselves. Life is even worse on us. So take a deep breath and let yourself receive a little kindness. You deserve it. You give out so much to everyone so you need to know that it is okay to love things about yourself and be proud of who you are. You will make mistakes and not everyone will be your friend but that is okay, because you are human and you have your own life. Surround yourself with people that will love and appreciate you for who you are now. I love and appreciate you for who you are, aruji. So.. Don't be so hard on yourself, alright? It hurts my fragile heart when I see you beat yourself up for small mistakes. It's okay to stumble at times, just get up again... okay? I'll lend you my hand as well."

♡ As you can tell, Ishikirimaru is a very good listener. His whole life as a sword was to listen to those of the pained and give guidance. Even if he couldn't exactly do that in his sword form, he can do that now! He will listen to everything you have to say. Don't be shy to ramble to him. He will give you a happy smile as he listens. Tell him about the things that make you happy, what make you angry, what makes you laugh, and what makes you sad. Ishikirimaru will be right by your side, offering tea and a shoulder if you need it. You aren't alone and he will make sure you know that you don't have to face these thoughts alone.

♡ Just as how you are see through and can't lie, Ishikirimaru has a similar issue. He has a very hard time ever lying and chooses to never lie. The only time he will lie is if it is to protect others. He will often put himself in the painful position in missions so others don't have to face the hardship. He tries to not do it often because he knows that people care about him and he doesn't have to face things alone, but he would rather not see anyone sad if he can help it!

♡ He finds your embarrassed face the cutest thing in the world. Don't be scared to tell him to stop if the compliments become too much for you to handle! He will laugh it off and apologize for going too far with his comments. As stated above, he doesn't lie. So just know that every compliment he gives you is a very sincere comment that he means with his whole heart. Ishikirimaru doesn't need much affection, as long as you show that you simply care about him, he is happy. He would like to hold your hand from time to time but otherwise, he wouldn't force you to do anything you don't wish to do. Go at your own pace in the relationship, he won't rush you!

♡ Ishikirimaru will tell you anything you wish to learn! He might not have a library of knowledge of the past due to being stuck in a shrine for most of his life but he had also studied and learned about the history he came from. If you take an interest in his prayers and religion, he would gladly tell you all the tales he is aware of and teach you the cleansing sermon he often does to give positive spiritual energy. It is something that brings him peace of mind and makes him happy to talk about, so if you are willing to learn about what makes him who he is today and what makes him happy, he would be overjoyed to share all his knowledge to you.

♡ He understands very well the appeal of getting work done to the best of your ability and making it look the best you can. He wouldn't label himself a perfectionist but he does want to do the best he can. Often with cleaning. You will often see him stuck in a room all day because he wants to make sure it is spotless before he comes out and continues work else where. Though... by the time he is done... It is dinner time. Perhaps the two of you could work together and get work done to the point you are both happy with it.

♡ Ishikirimaru is also someone who happens to stay inside for the most part. The only time he goes outside would be to enjoy tea in the sun or if he has to work the field/horse keeping. Ishikirimaru is a very soft spoken and gentle man so you don't have to worry about him every raising his voice and scaring you. If there is ever a loud noise, whether it is other swords or a storm outside, he will gently hold your hand and try to calm you down. He will assure you that it's okay to not like loud noises but he will make sure that nothing hurts you. He will even try to lead you away to somewhere that may be a little more quiet. Giving you a distraction to get your mind off the noise. He wants nothing more than you to feel comfortable and safe.

♡ Depending on the game, he may want to play with you! He tends to like card games even though he is very easy to read and often loses. He tends to laugh about it after when he realizes that he was accidentally showing his hand every time he set down his cards to get a sip of tea. If it's video games, he would prefer to just watch you play and talk to you while you enjoy the game. He isn't the biggest fan but still enjoys to watch! Ishikirimaru is a pretty good teacher! So if you wish to study with him, he would be flattered that you wished to study with him out of everyone. He is very understanding that some material is hard to memorize out of no where. He would just softly correct you and tell you to work on it a little more. He rewards you with sweets every time you do really well on any test he gives you to test how much you remember.

♡ Ishikirimaru would be the most understanding and gentle partner. He wants nothing more than you being comfortable and happy. He would work hard on you slowly forgiving yourself when you make a mistake and love yourself a little more. He would never give up on you and be there if you ever needed.

#Matchups #Touken Ranbu #Touken Danshi #Tourabu #Touken Ranbu Headcanons #Touken Ranbu Imagines #Touken Ranbu x Reader #TKRB #TKRB Headcanons #TKRB Imagines #TKRB x Reader #Ishikirimaru #Ishikirimaru x Reader

8 notes · View notes

eddie-redmayne-italian-blog · 4 years ago

Text

Eddie's interview from Style Magazine

By Valentina Ravizza

Photo: Boo George

Styling by Fabio Immediato.

Translate by me from Italian to English

HE WOULD HAVE had to spend the holiday in Italy,” I have a real obsession for your country “,Eddie Redmayne responds from a gray London,” more suited to my pale complexion”, and tells for the first time (and I try to collect my own thoughts) of his next character, the American activist Tom Hayden, protagonist of the protests against the Vietnam war in 1968 and 77e trial of the Chicago 7, the new film by Aaron Sorkin, arriving on Netflix from October 16. "Democracy is something extraordinarily beautiful and complex, nothing comes easily, we must defend our freedoms if we don't want them to be taken away from us."

It can be risky for an actor to take a public position, Aren't you afraid to undermine your popularity?

“The truth is, I'm not afraid to take sides, we all should. I feel a social responsibility as a human being: today more than ever we should ask politicians certain questions. I'm not one who particularly likes to take risks unless it's for something I deeply believe in.”

For exemple?

To play Stephen Hawking in The Theory of Everything I met several people affected by ALS and doctors who helped me to learn more about the disease, and now I am among the supporters of the Motor Neurone Disease Association. During the lockdown in Britain was made a list of vulnerable people and I found it shocking that patients with motor neuron disease were not part of it, so I spoke to several politicians and went to help them. As an actor my voice has more chances to be heard and I can bring more light on this topics, I have to do it.

Also politicians as in the case of The Trial of Chicago 7?

This film tells how we got rights by changing wrong laws and remember that progress could have gone in one direction rather than another.

Is there any similarity between the protests of the 1960s and those of movements such as Black Lives Matter ?

There are moments in history when people ask for society to really represent them and that's exactly what happened then and what many people are doing in these months. The demonstrations mentioned in the movie were against the Vietnam war, but also supported the claims of the civil rights and feminist movements, the one against which they are protesting today has it’s roots in systemic racism, so the similarities are many.And there are also several other parallels between the two political situations: at the 1968 Democratic convention there was a former vice president, Hubert H. Humphrey, right-hand man of Lyndon Johnson, who ran for the White House, as today former Vice President Joe Biden is in running, and there was a Republican candidate for president who was betting for “law and order” , then it was Richard Nixon, now the same campaign is being carried out by Donald Trump.

Today there is social media, what would have happened if Tom Hayden and the others from Chicago had it?

Hard to say, myself I don't use them . While they represent a great tool of democracy that gives everyone a voice from the shore to power, they also contribute to exacerbate and amplify the falsehoods and prejudices of those who listen only to what they want to hear, in a sort of echo chamber, and they can be used to manipulate things in a very pervasive way.

Is it more difficult to play a figure you esteem like Hayden or one you despise?

I try not to judge, to dissociate my sense of reality to recreate hers. I do as much research as possible, accumulating a lot of information and then throwing everything away and play only what's in the script, hoping that all the prep work has been absorbed somehow into my body, And knowing that that movie will never be. a documentary: I am creating a painting, not a photograph. For this I must accept that I will never be able to be exactly that person, that in something I will necessarily fail.

And when the character is a pure author’s Fantasy product?

It’s like when you were told at school to make a free written essay: I hated it, I said “please, give me a lead!”, In these cases I try first of all to understand what the boundaries are, to find some elements of truth: for example, in the saga of the Fantastic Beasts to become the "Magizoologist" Newt Scamander I started by observing the work of zoologists.

How is it divided between entertainment and committed movies?

In my choices I have always let myself be guided by instinct: I read a script that my body reacts, I get excited, I laugh, I am touched to the point of seeing myself in the role of that and than understand that I really have to do it.

Did the same happen with Tom Hayden?

They first told me about it three years ago while I was on vacation in Morocco, when told me it was Sorkin who wanted me it was like a dream come true. I read the script and it not only ran , but it had a kind of syncopated rhythm I immediately loved it. Then when I got better informed about the project, I found out that it had been written years ago and I couldn't believe he hadn't seen the light yet.

In fact, the first draft is from 2007.

We wondered if this movie had an audience, if it was current enough.Instead with what’s going it has become more and more pressing

So much so that in order to release it this year, given the health emergency Paramount Pictures has decided to sell the film to Netflix (56 millions of dollars) to be distributed directly via streaming.

There could be no better way than Netflix to reach as many people as possible. And I say this as a passionate cinemas’ lover . Unfortunately in the last 20 years I have witnessed a general loss of attention span: there is always a new story to know, we are constantly being pulled in different directions, and instead find ourselves in a cinema hall being forced to sit there for two hours and half even when our attention tries to escape, it’s a kind of pleasant claustrophobia.

And theater, is it still part of your life?

I know that more years go by without me returning to the stage more what I’ll say l’ll sound insincere, but yes, my career started from there, I spent 5 o 6 years working in London theaters. I knew almost nothing about cinema until that world began to open its doors to me, I had to learn a lot on the set. I’ve been looking for a theatrical project, but so far what has been proposed to me are works by the greatest authors, and instead I’d like do something new, fresh. Maybe I found it, but I still can't say anything.

Have you ever thought of letting yourself be taken one day by another passion besides acting?

My other great love is art, but if I ever have to work on it, I imagine myself more as a curator than as a co-worker. But I honestly think that being an actor is extraordinary: whatever part you encounter on your path continues to grow:although sure it’s a wild life and it's a drug.

Are you a workaholic?

In the beginning I was because I had no alternative: I was constantly auditioning and once I got a part immediately got to work, Until in this unfair world of acting there came a moment when I was suddenly successful and overnight I finally had the opportunity to choose. Many people are looking forward to retirement, I hope I’m offered roles even when I’m 80 years old.

At that age maybe you will also be behind the camera?

I'm a bit of a control freak,so yes, I could potentially one day go directing, even just out of curiosity But only if I had to find the right project, something in which I feel safe,

55 notes · View notes

merakiaes · 4 years ago

Note

To begin with, I'm full of contradictions, utterly boring, very insecure and highly complicated. I would say my strongest personality traits are my kindness, calmness and sympathy. It's almost impossible to scare or upset me, because I always see the good in a person and recognize where anger, frustration and despair come from. There's no cruelty in me at all. I'm open and impartial towards everything and everyone, without any judgment or prejudice. I also have a calming/grounding effect on other people and animals, which is great because I honestly love all sorts of animals (I'm also a vegetarian because I refuse to intentionally hurt any animal). I'm always well-meaning and there to help others. I despise people who enjoy the suffering of others, just because they have the 'power' to. I'm very open-minded and I think that every opinion matters and that whatever someone has to say is important, at least to them and therefore for me. I will never ignore someone's sorrows and suffering and I try my hardest to help and comfort as best I can. But, even though I see the good in everything, I'm very insecure myself and have little love and understanding for myself. I have a very bad self-esteem and not a particularly positive self-perception, which mostly defines my actions. It makes me believe that I'm a burden to others and that I annoy them. I feel like I'm not "worthy" of love/there's nothing lovable about me, that there are too many problems in contrast to the little good things. Nevertheless, I would never change myself for anything or anyone, I am who I am. This is one of many reasons why I try to stay away and distance myself from others. For me, dealing and interacting with people is really difficult, because I'm so clumsy and nervous around them and easily feel like I'm making a fool out of myself. Another reason is that I fear to be rejected and thrown aside when someone sees how boring, problematic and annoying I actually am. It's also hard for me and incredible frustrating that I'm unable to articulate myself the way I want to, so that I mostly stay silent. And, since I'm a very quiet and rather shy person, I prefer people who initiate the contact and talk a lot/like to talk, who do the talking instead of me, but without intending to suppress myself. You would be surprised how timid and reserved I am, I'm sure you wouln't notice me in a room full of people if it wouldn't be for my different appearance (I'm always wearing only black, have dyed my hair a little and two ear piercings). Because I'm easily sad and not a funny/joking person, I like and enjoy people who are not too serious themselves. And I'm the most loyal person you'll ever find, once you earn my trust, I'll always be on/by your side, no matter what. I've always felt alienated from my surroundings, like I don't belong anywhere, like I'm the only cat in a room full of dogs. That's probably why I have a soft spot for the weirdos, outcasts, loners and "crazy" ones. Though, in my opinion, the definition of normal, crazy and real are very subjective. My whole life I've felt kinda judged, misunderstood and unwanted. People often falsely think that my unassuming nature is naivity and take my social-insecurity for aloofness and coldness. I'm also quite opinionated and aware of what I want, how I feel and who I am. I'm often questioning my surroundings, the traditions and rules and if I believe that something is wrong, I have absolutely no problem challenging others, even authority. I'm a perfectionist, which often leads me to overthinking and that can be equally good and bad. I'm absolutely clueless in romance and totally oblivious to flirting because I'm 100% inexperienced in this stuff, but I'm a bit of a hopeless romantic.

I crave physical touch and am literally melting into and bathing in any sort of touch, but I'm way too reluctant to initiate it. I'm rather sentimental with things given to me by people who I deeply care for, no matter how small or insignificant they may seem. Sadly, I'm not good with words to repeat how much someone means to me and I never know how to show/act on it either. I'm lazy, forgetful and sleepy most of the time and too much people, noise and light is exhausting for me. That's why I prefer to cozy up at home, watching a movie or TV show and listen to music. Music is my greatest passion, even if I can't sing or play an instrument. It's the most calming and therapeutic when it comes to my anxiety and depression and I could never live a day without it. When no one is around, I even sing along really loudly and off-tune. The meaning music has for me is hard to put into words, but it's my sanctuary for when I feel like my thoughts and feelings are suffocating me. You will never see me in the street without headphones in my ears and even when I'm at home there's music playing almost all the time. I could talk for hours about music and what it means to me. My taste in movies is more horror, fantasy and drama and in music it's rock, punk and pop, but for both I enjoy when it's themed around mental illness and real-life problems and when it's from the 80s and 90s. I like vintage things and would love to live in the 80's. I love the feeling of freedom and liveliness. My favourite weather is when it's gloomy and more cold, when it's pouring big fat drops and the air smells like rain and my favourite season is autumn because of the weather, colors, temperatures, flavors and overall aesthetic. I'm on the curvy-side and incredible insecure about it, although I really don't want to be. Once I trust you, I would love to talk for hours about music, movies, dreams, fears or anything alike and life in general, no matter how silly it may seems. I have a fascination for dark and macabre things. I also love to take late-night strolls, to gaze at the nightsky and literally feeling the freedom and infinity. My favourite colours are dark green, black, dark purple and gold. I love the scent of peppermint, cinnamon and the forest. I love plants and would love to decorate my home with them, but unfortunately I don't have a green thumb at all. I like ivy, lavender and roses the most. I wish I could live peacefully in a cottage, surrounded by a forest and many animals. I feel little conected to where I lwas born/am living and I'm deeply convinced that my soul belongs in the UK, always has.

+ Could I please request a male matchup for Stranger Things and Peaky Blinders? I'm female, she/her. (I know you said that no amount is too much, but I still hope that I didn't exaggerate here - and I'm sorry for any spelling and grammatical errors, english isn't my first language)

STRANGER THINGS

I ship you with Billy Hargrove!

This is somewhat of a controversial ship that can be both good and bad depending on the circumstances. I’m choosing to look at it from a positive perspective so bear with me.

Kindness, calmness and sympathy are your strongest personality traits and that is just what Billy Hargrove needs to bring him back to reality, because it is my opinion that the Billy we’ve gotten to see is only the version of himself that he has allowed us to see.

Billy’s automatic response when someone tries to help him by digging into his emotions is to get angry and defensive. Why? Because he’s put so much time and effort into building up walls around himself in order to not have to feel all his pain over and over again, and every time someone comes and pokes holes in those walls, he snaps.

He’s so used to not being loved and being abandoned that he automatically assumes that people who come off as supportive are going to leave eventually, too. So in his mind, he might as well scare people away at once so that he doesn’t get his hopes up and ruins the walls that he’s put so much into. That’s just easier for everyone.

But although he succeeds in pushing people away by getting angry and therefore succeeding in protecting himself from more heartbreak, he still feels a subconscious guilt when seeing how much he scares people, because that’s how scared he is of his dad. He treats people like his dad treats him and it destroys him to live with that, but he just doesn’t know how to do anything else at this point because his only purpose in life now is to uphold those walls, by whatever means necessary, so while I don’t condone his behavior, nor do I support mentally abusive relationships, I do from a psychological standpoint, think that it would help Billy that you don’t get scared easily.

Seeing people get so scared, even if it’s by his own doing, breaks him down more and more every time, a little at a time, and it would change everything for him to be met by something else than that immediate fear. He would be faced with an outcome he hasn’t experienced before, which is being seen as something more than a monster; or more specifically to him, being seen as something other than a replica of his dad, because I can guarantee you that that’s something that keeps him up at night.

Anyone can say that they understand, that they know where someone is coming from, that even if they don’t understand, they can see a persons reasons. But a lot of the times, this is just a case of empty words. Billy knows this and that’s another reason that he doesn’t let people in when they try to get closer, and he proves his point by getting angry at them and seeing the way they react. All of them get scared and leave. Rightfully so, but it also does proves the point in his logic.

You say that you have a calming and grounding effect on people which is something he’d really benefit from, as well. He naturally surrounds himself with people who match his energy; impulsive, wild, preferably illegal, with little to no thought of consequences. That’s his form of self-harm - to constantly surround himself with things and people that are bad for him, who likes his bad boy-image and encourages his bad behavior.

What he needs is something else entirely; and that is to be in a calm environment. He needs silence, peace, and even if just for a while, just anything but excitement. He needs someone who won’t encourage his chaotic and reckless lifestyle like most of the people he hangs out with do, in order to bring himself back down to earth and find himself again.

Once he actually meets someone genuine and like-minded and realizes that they’re there to stay, he’d most likely accept the help he’s offered. And after that, he would be so loving toward his significant other because he’d never want her to feel like he does. He would want her to be the happiest person on the planet and if there’s something I’ve learned, myself, it’s that the people who love the hardest are usually the ones who have been loved the least. So if you were feeling insecure, he would lift you up and compliment you constantly, always let you know how beautiful and amazing he finds you, and how lucky he is to have you. He’d be so overly loving and appreciative toward you and everything you do that you’d rarely even have the time to get stuck with your self-doubt.

He, too, feels like he’s undeserving of love, because when has he ever been shown differently? So I also think it would give him somewhat of a wake-up call to see someone he cares about, or just such a kind, genuine person in general, feeling like that. At the same time, I also think he’d react strongly to the way you accept yourself and refuse to change for anyone despite all the self-doubt you have, because that requires an insane amount of strength. It would probably inspire him a lot to be better, himself.

Billy would, most definitely, be the one to initiate contact with you just like he does every other female in his presence. Maybe it’s my mind being too mushed together by all the fanfiction I’ve read over the years, but I feel that once he got to know you, he would just fall for you on the spot. Not just “fall”, either. He’d trip on his shoelaces, fall on his face and roll down a flight of stairs once he finally managed to wrap his head around the fact that you understand, that you care and that you’re not going anywhere.

After initiating contact and coming to that realization, he wouldn’t mind just spending time with you in silence. All that talking he does is nothing more than a façade he’s put up to feel less out of place, less pathetic about being so weak around his dad, but it’s not the real him at all. Billy has been cold and guarded for so long that he, just like you, no longer knows how to communicate his feelings through words, either. Instead, he tends to show his emotions through his actions, so I can imagine there being a lot of silence. Mutual silence.

Would he still enjoy having genuine conversations with you? Yes, absolutely. As would he never hesitate to joke around if you felt down and needed to laugh. But he would also feel safe enough with you to be silent and vulnerable, without feeling that pressure to always keep talking and acting like he does when he’s with other people. He pretends to be comfortable, pretends to fit in, but in reality, he feels out of place, too. He’s felt unwanted, judged and misunderstood for most of his life just like you describe yourself to have done.

He has fooled around with a lot of girls but he’s still touch-starved, because no-strings-attached relations doesn’t do anything for him other than provide a temporary distraction. It never gives him the emotional, sentimental, meaningful proximity that he needs, so you have in common to crave physical touch and it would be a mutual thing for the two of you to show your emotions through touch rather than words.

You also have your love for music in common, and it’s so fitting because you like the same genres, which would only give him another way to be free around you. I can just imagine the two of you belting out your highest notes, totally off-key, while blaring rock music in his car.

To finish it off, loyalty is something he values above everything which is why he can never really hold on to long-term relationships or friendships. The only person who has ever been truly loyal to him was his mom, and even she made the active choice to leave him in the end, which is where his commitment issues stem from. So the fact that you’re genuinely loyal will be a complete game-changer.

He, too, loves the feeling of being free, and I have no doubt in my mind that the two of you would find ways to feel that way together without him going back to his old, problematic methods.

Like I’ve mentioned before, I definitely don’t condone his behavior nor do I encourage anyone to stay in a toxic and abusive relationship, whether it be mental, emotional, or physical abuse. I don’t like savior-complexes and I don’t encourage anyone to get together with a “bad boy” because they think they can “cHaNgE HiM”.

But I feel like Billy is one of those cases that has certain circumstances that makes him a bit of an exception. He’s made some reaaaally bad choices and treated people very badly which he still has to be held accountable for, but going forward, he could be an amazing person if only he got reminded of what it feels like to be loved. Because at this point, he’s probably completely forgotten it, and living without love for so long will drive any person into madness.

I still wouldn’t recommend someone heading into a relationship with him solely for the purpose of “changing him”, but I do think that, if the right person came along on random, these changes wouldn’t at all be impossible.

The way he behaves toward people can’t be excused and he still needs to own up to his behavior and mistakes, but I think we’ve gotten it proven at the end of last season that he actually does want to be better and that all he needed toward the end was to be shown some genuine love in order to be able to make that change.

PEAKY BLINDERS

I ship you with Arthur Shelby!

Arthur is like Billy in a lot of ways, so this is a controversial one too for the same reasons, but Arthur is also very different.

While Billy has built up tall, strong, practically non-penetrable walls around himself to avoid having to feel anything, Arthur is much more emotional and aware of his mistakes since he never really managed to use his trauma to build up a protective wall, but rather just let them pile up without knowing how to properly process them so that he’s now stuck having to feel it all at once with no way out.

He was left really vulnerable after his dad left which, I think, made him more open for the trauma he experienced during the war. It is my honest opinion that, had his dad still been in the picture, he would’ve been a lot less unstable today. But, as we know, his dad left him and his siblings, and that was the first trigger to a long line of domino bricks.

At this point, he’s so damaged that he has no sense of self-worth, whatsoever. He doesn’t feel worthy of love or a good life even though he wishes and dreams of it, so once he actually finds someone who wants to be with him, he falls hard, and would do anything in his power to be the best possible partner.

He’d be so romantic, so loving, so eager to please that he’d agree to pretty much anything requested of him. He’d abandon all of his other responsibilities to just live a happy life with you so living peacefully in a secluded area in a cottage with lots of animals is not something he would be opposed to at all. Nor would taking late-night strolls or staying in with you when everyone else goes out to drink be, because I’m certain that the only reason he drinks is because being sober on his own is too painful.

His way of acting out with anger and violence is nothing more than a product of his environment. Every day, every sound, every smell, every person he surrounds himself with, are triggers to his multiple traumas and the longer he surrounds himself with chaos, the more he’s going to lose himself to his anger – because anger is the only emotion through which he knows how to handle his trauma, as no one has ever tried helping him onto a healthier road of recovery but rather just told him to “suck it up”.

So the fact that you’re so kind, calm, sympathetic and understanding, and that you’re recognize where anger, frustration and despair comes from, that you’re open and impartial toward everyone without any judgment or prejudice, and also have a calming and grounding effect on people would just help him so much. Everyone else that he frequently surrounds himself with are big parts of the problem that is his mental illnesses and aggressive and violent tendencies. They do nothing to help but rather encourages it and fuels the fire so they can use his anger for their own winning.

He’s just constantly told to suck it up, be a man, have a drink or three, snort a line of cocaine, blah blah blah. The way his mental instability is treated by his inner circle is the literal embodiment of toxic masculinity and does nothing to help his case, because then he starts hating himself even more for feeling all the emotions that he does.

So, once given the correct support that he needs, he would pay you right back by making sure you never go a day without being told how amazing you are and how lucky he is to have you. He would throw, or at least try to his absolute best ability to do so, all of your insecurities out the window before they’d even gotten the chance to get through the door. He would literally adore you and, metaphorically speaking, be ready to eat straight out of your palm if told to do so.

All he needs is kindness, understanding and most of all patience, because while he is a work in progress, he is trying.

6 notes · View notes

valkerymillenia · 4 years ago

Text

Umbrella Academy

season 2, episode 7

More thoughts and live blogged reactions.

1982. I'm assuming Five used a briefcase... But in s1 we saw that the briefcase travels are tracked (Hazel and Cha-Cha got reprimanded for Klaus's Vietnam trip) so I'm not sure how the board doesn't know someone is coming... I might be overthinking.

Five being creepy.

Is that a Fudge Nutter like Handler mentioned in season 1? Oh, it is.

Jesus, Five! Anger management for you, old man.

AAHH! THEY LET FIVE SAY FUCK! Fucking finally! 🤣

How did nobody notice that destruction? 😆

Oh, the axe! Is Five going to go all American psycho? Because I'd love to see that.

HOLY SHIT!

That smile!

HOLY SHIT!!!!!!

Is he using tiny time travel bursts like Reggie said? Or a briefcase? Or is he just that fast?

AJ hiding under the table 😆

Pausing to drink water and grin, what a psycho, I love him.

He's definitely using time jumps but they are so controlled that I'm guessing briefcase or Handler little time stopping trick. I'm so proud of my mass murder baby.

... Vending machine? Lady, you have interesting priorities.

CRICKET BAT!

Wait! AJ's human body feels pain? How?

Please make Five swallow the fish like in the comics! Please, please, please, please.

The dancers are just like

I LOVE FIVE! The lengths this little killer will go for his family are unbelievable, nobody should ever doubt his love and devotion for them ever again.

This whole murder scene was incredible and Five's obvious glee made it even better. FEAR HIM!

Jesus, Klaus is so afraid of being possessed that he's afraid to sleep and Ben just mocks him? 😘💋 I get that this is supposed to be a funny 'brothers messing with each other' kind of thing but Klaus feels so unsafe that it makes me uncomfortable. What happened to you, Ben, when did you become so dark? You were the nice one!

Ben just getting closer and closer every time Klaus closes his eyes just gave me Doctor Who flashbacks.

"I hate your face" "I hate all of you" - Don't say that boys! You know you love each other.

Ok, Ben has a point. I'm actually liking this conversation. And I'm liking that Klaus is starting to understand his brother.

Ok, this is such a brother conversation. And Klaus constantly pretending not to know who Jill is 😆

Ground rules... Well, at least it's consensual now. That's something. See? Communication works.

Damn, the tension at the lunch table cut be cut with a knife. I'm scared what Carl is going to do.

Ray and Allison have a lovely relationship but I finally identified the problem, the tension I was feeling between since them a few eps back. It's not about Allison's secrets at all, is about Ray being so obsessed with his crusade that he completely overlooks Allison's feelings, he only pays attention to her when they are on the page about the mission. He sees her powers and his first thought is 'we could use this for the cause', Allison is clearly distressed and sad and even says she doesn't feel well and all he can think about is the damn JFK meeting. He's not a bad person and he's not doing it on purpose but he has a workaholic one-track mind that could easy turn into neglect for Allison. He clearly loves her and I'm rooting for them so much but I know that if asked to choose between Allison and his cause, he'll pick his cause.

So Five is done with the killing. I figured this might weigh on his conscience, it's one thing to kill for a greater good or survival, coldly and detached, it's another thing to slaughter for selfish reasons (even if his selfish reasons are a greater good).

Handler going all mom on him and wiping his face. 😆

"What I did today, I did for my family" -we know, baby, and they better respect you for it. You love then so much.

90 minutes??? Wtf, I knew Handler would try to screw Five over but that's just cruel, she's forcing him to uproot the family without even giving them time to say goodbye and that's even IF he can get to all of them on time.

It's not a name, you idiots. Also, that's Olga, not öga.

Don't harass the poor woman... Oh God, you guys are such morons... Diego, you dramatic little bitch...

"Wrong number. Have a lovely day" 🤣🤣🤣

I love the new dumbass buddy cop dynamic between Diego and Luther. This is the sort of positive brotherly dynamic they always should have had instead of being pitted against each other all their lives.

"you have some blood on you" "a lot of blood, actually. Five, what did you do?" -the casual, mildly annoyed way they ask is hilarious, if they knew what he did they'd be horrified (and possibly impressed).

Handler's militaristic chic dress is fabulous. I personally don't like it very much (or the message it sends) but it's haute couture and incredibly designed. Also, the bleached hair is back!

"any questions?" And then she leaves without listening. Power move 😏

Luther trying to comfort Diego like the dork he is. 🤣

Really though, I feel bad for Diego, and Five is under so much pressure that I don't blame him for snapping.

"I'm shy" -are you, Klaus? Are you really? You keep walking around in underwear in front of dozens of people, you're not shy.

So is Klaus lactose intolerant?

Ok, so far the possession thing is not as bad as some people were claiming. So far.

"stay focused" *giggle* -oh Ben, you dork 😆

Ahah, Ben enjoying all the different sensory stimuli. Adorable. He's just so happy, poor boy.

Dirt angels. SO CUTE ❤️

I know this all supposed to be cute and all but it would also be a perfect moment for Ben for experience Klaus's powers (the constant hauntings) as well as his addiction and the claustrophobic expectations of the cult. It would be an excellent chance to make Ben understand why Klaus is the way he is, seeing as Klaus is making a huge effort (and sacrifice) to do the same for Ben. Unfortunately, I don't see that happening because I think they want to keep this part about Ben.

By end of season 1 Klaus cried that people still didn't take him seriously, his compassion despite all his suffering made him likeable and deep, but this season he's back to being the family joke, I don't like that there's no resolution to that. But let's see where this goes, I'm getting ahead of myself.

Oh God, Carl's talk is freaking me out.

"who I am is not a disease" -very powerful LGBT+ statement considering it's the 60s!!!!

Oh, the blackmail...

Everybody keeps expecting Vanya to explode every time she gets emotional but this scene proves how much control she truly has. Respect!

Oh, finally Claire is mentioned! I've been rather upset that Allison hasn't mentioned her daughter even once this season (does Ray even know he has a stepdaughter?) seeing as most of her arc in season 1 revolved around her love and guilt over Claire.

Luther is right when he says they don't get live formal lives because they are special but Allison is even more right when she says that's not fair. This is why this family needs to stick together and love each other, they are the only ones that can really understand each other's struggles.

"hope" -Luther, you really are such a sweet summer child.

OH! I CAN FINALLY SEE ALLISON'S SCAR! The lighting in this scene makes it really obvious. Finally.

Ben and the strawberry. 🤣

"you're different today. You're dorkier" ah! First time anyone called Ben 'Sassy' Hargreeves dorky.

Oh Ben, you're adorable... Wait, "smell your hair"? What the fuck, Ben? You weirdo.

Holy crap! Jill is really forward, isn't she? Hippies, man.

Ben stuttering! 😆🤣 He died a virgin, didn't he?

It's funny but please tell me he isn't actually considering that in his brother's body...

Wait, did Klaus slap him because he doesn't want to have sex or because he's trying to stop Ben from ruining his own chance by saying too much?

Actually, I'm almost sure it's the second one, Klaus is playing wingman on his own body!

WHAT????

Ok so Ben IS a virgin but "you, me and Keechie"? What the fuck, Klaus? You slept with the fanatical crybaby and your brother's crush????

"Klaus, you're so filthy!" "Yes, you are, daddy." -Ben, this girl is not right for you. Run, boy!

AHAHAHAH ASDFGDDGGHSGSGASFHDBKDIS 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 DIEGO CALLING HIM DADDY!

Wait, AJ can speak without the body/suit/whatever?

Handler is going a little bit fascist dictator, isn't she?

Gotta admit, Handler really is such a mom in her own twisted way.

Ben giggling when he talks to Diego. Cute.

"Luther sniffs Dad's underwear" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

AWWWWWWWW, BEN AND DIEGO! THE CHILDHOOD HIJINKS! THE HUG!

GOD, THE HUG! ❤️

I need all the siblings hugging Ben now!

"you stay in this body, we need someone responsible behind the wheel" -Diego, I understand what you mean given the situation, but you playing obvious favorites between your brothers when free will and body autonomy are on the line is a little creepy.

"no one is insignificant" -that line is so loaded when used on Vanya.

Oh no, Vanya and Five playing the blame game is so bad... They used to be so close... They are both under so much pressure, this won't end well.

Oh boy, Five looks like he's on the verge of crying and Vanya sees that! I bet that's why she backed down. 😲😢

The Lila and Diego conversation is heartbreaking without even trying...

Is that Elliot? Is Diego burying Elliot because nobody else will? Diego really does have a heart of gold.

Don't drinkit! I'm pretty sure Lila is drugging you.

Yup, there it is.

What is she planning?

Once again, it's all about the movement with Ray.

"I would take my one year with you over a lifetime with anybody else." 😭 Oh Ray ❤️

But I get the feeling this won't end so easily.

There it is, the Swedes just arrived. And the smart assholes went right for Allison's throat.

You don't need the coffee can, Sissy. The Hargreeves are loaded.

Sissy, hurry up.

BEN, YOU ARE SUCH A 90s KID!!! So the Backstreet Boys are Ben's fault, God, I love this dork 🤣

Come on, Allison, you can fight better than this!

Good girl!

Klaus and Ben running and fighting each other at the same time 😆

Holy shit, that is some Exorcist level vomiting!

Poor Klaus, I totally get Ben's side in this (pretty sure he was trying to save Klaus by getting him to Five ASAP) but this whole thing made me mildly uncomfortable. Klaus just keeps sacrificing for everyone and nobody respects his boundaries.

Holy shit, Allison! That is so cruel! I like it though, so ruthless and vicious. 😈

Problem- Allison can't just leave Ray with a white corpse in the house. Especially not in Texas, death penalty and all.

Oh Sissy, you dumbass. You're a sweetheart but also a dumbass.

Ok, Lila is pretty insane. That's for sure.

Five:

"I don't want to hurt you" - well, Vanya warned them.

My baby is getting really good with her powers.

I hope that hit to the head doesn't give Vanya her memory back, that's so cliché and convenient, or would be really bad writing.

SHIT IS HITTING THE FAN. I'm dying to see more!!!!!!

#tua #tua s2 #tua s2 spoilers

6 notes · View notes

lizzybeth1986 · 6 years ago

Note

I can see what Hana is going through, but I'm disappointed that she never gets to be her own person. She never grows up to be a completely independent character. She puts everyone's need before her own. I'm not even sure if she has her own dreams and desires. If she does, she hasn't shared them with my MC. The scenes I’ve played were all about the things she couldn’t do when she was a child and hot chocolate dates are not exactly my idea of having fun.

Content Warning: I will talk of extremely controlling parenting and the aftereffects to some extent. If this feels like it might not be safe for you to read, I’d like to warn you of it at this juncture.

I don’t know if you’re the same anon who has been sending me multiple asks regarding Olivia (with comparisons to Hana that were, frankly, unnecessary), but at this point I’m quite positive you are.

You say you “can see what Hana has been through”…but I’m not sure you can. I’m not sure you understand at all.

I don’t know if you understand what a wide gap of difference there lies in “being your own person” when you’re a child who grows up a result of extremely controlling parenting, and someone who doesn’t. The statements you make after you claim to understand tell me as much.

I’m not sure you realize how deep the repercussions of going through that really go. But I owe it to myself, and individuals like me, and a character whose journey I have experienced in my own life, to openly tell you what it does to a person. Because it is so damn easy, in this seemingly open-minded fandom, to reduce people like Hana (also Liam) to just “fluffy-clingy-bland-dependent”, when the evidence that she’s been fighting a losing battle her whole life has been there in the books all along.

I could post a hundred articles, a thousand thinkpieces, and numerous papers on the long-term damage “helicopter parenting” - of the kind that Lorelai and Xinghai engage in - involves, but I will stick to just this definition and back up with evidence from the books, that

1. Hana doesn’t have the luxury of figuring out what she wants for most of her life. 2. Despite her own nature and the way her parents have brought her up, she fights for her own autonomy and still struggles with the long-term effects of her parents’ choices in parenting.

This is not about just you, Anon. This is a trend I’ve been noticing for a while now, ergo this is to those in the fandom that use similar arguments as well.

–

Put quite simply, “helicopter parents” are referred to, as parents who are overly involved in their children’s life and decisions to an extreme. They are called so because they practically “hover” over every movement or action the child takes. Often such parents provide their children very little opportunities to explore what they want or what they would like to do, control every aspect of the child’s life, and at times shame the child for trying to step out of the boundaries they have set.

The long term effects of such parenting may result in (among other things) severe emotional dependence on parental/adult authority figures, extreme risk-avoidance/risk-taking behaviour, lowered self-esteem, a constant fear of failure. Having family breathing down your neck every minute to follow their ways and methods and rules without any scope for independence is damaging. It forces you into a state where you’re constantly measuring your every deed to see if it matches up with the expectations your parents push forward on you.

Often it is emphasized to you, in words and in action, that your choices do not matter. You’re told by your parents that you aren’t capable of acting independently, and then not allowed to cultivate that independence. You’re pressurized into aiming for success, except that success is constantly determined on someone else’s terms. Where, in such an environment, is the scope to develop this “independent character” you speak so highly of? To actually believe that you even have the right to dream? Do you expect it to emerge out of thin air?

Now that I’ve established what that kind of environment can do to a person in general, let us explore what it does to Hana in particular. You speak of Hana only in terms of “things she wasn’t allowed to do as a child”, and “hot chocolate dates”, which sounds like an extremely shallow exploration of her journey to me. I mean, I think even the writers who have done such a poor job of her seem to have fared a little better than that. This is what you’ve missed:

Hana as An Individual

1. She was a lonely child, who nonetheless used her imagination to create imaginary friends for herself (Princess Snickerdoodle and Miss Lemon Curd).

2. Her imagination also led her to embrace the joys of reading, imagining her in the place of the people in the books. At a time when she didn’t even know what fanfiction was, this girl was writing her own stories. The freedom she couldn’t find in her own life, she explored through her imagination and her music.

3. She was often rushed into forming alliances rather than friends, and later on had to navigate through an engagement even before she had the words to articulate what appealed to her romantically.

4. I agree that she steps forward to help people more than she does anything for herself, but I don’t see why this is a problem if that is something she likes to do. Such people exist, unbelievable as it may sound.

Control and Submission

1. In both of the above cases, Hana followed through because she had no other options really, and in both cases she couldn’t find it within herself to actually refuse outright. One of the consequences of very controlling parenting is that you have a hard time saying “no”. Yet during the engagement tour, she recognizes she CAN and MUST refuse things she is uncomfortable with, and does so even though she doubts her actions later

2. This controlling environment involves different tactics - especially from Lorelai - to maneuver her into their way of thinking. One very obvious example of this is in Book 1, where she argues with her mother over the phone. Lorelai alternates between affection, criticism and “your talent doesn’t matter if you’re not delivering the required results”. The moment Hana actually attempts to fight back (in the same conversation), it doesn’t take too long to escalate to threats.

3. Hana is made to be dependent on her parents in every way possible, but especially emotional and financial. She is made to believe that nothing - not even the things she has lovingly made with her own hands - belongs to her, that she is completely at the mercy of her parents. One may say she could leave, but can you? When you’re brought up to be that dependent on your authority figures, can you really?

4. Disownment seems to directly refer mostly to loss of money and property, but in Hana’s case it also means she loses the only family, the only life she has ever known. You mention “hot chocolate dates”, so I’m surprised you didn’t catch the fact that her parents were threatening to throw her out if she didn’t do exactly as they said. And we saw what Lorelai’s version of disownment looked like: it meant taking away even her clothes. I’m surprised that it escaped your notice that she returned to Cordonia to protect the MC while keeping up her ruse of conforming, even with these fears.

5. Let’s look at this point again: nothing belongs to her, not even her belongings. We’re talking about material things that most children would take for granted. If she’s grown up with the impression that even the roof above her head and the clothes in her closet aren’t her own, that she is incapable of surviving without her parent…where and how is she going to even THINK about complete autonomy without another person’s help?? If she isn’t allowed to even enjoy the things she likes on her own, if interests and activities are forced upon her, if the focus is forever on what you can gain with these skills rather than if you like doing them, how is she going to have any idea what she likes?

6. The most telling proof of the long term effects her parents’ conditioning have had on her, lies in Hana herself. She perceives their tactics, behaviour and criticism of her as normal. So normal, in fact, that she views Olivia’s jibes about her being “damaged goods” as the truth. It takes her being outside their immediate control and the help of someone who has lived an independent life to see how messed up her upbringing is. Let’s also not ignore that Cordonia is the first time she has stayed long term outside of her parents’ influence.

7. Even after she has broken ties with them, she still shows some level of wanting them to be involved in her life. Her engagement shoot has her secretly arrange to send her pictures to them through Ana, and even when Lorelai doesn’t seem to have learned her lesson, she seems to accept her apologies and start over. Some may call this being a pushover, but you can say that only if you forget the complexity of such relationships. Many adults in such relationships find it hard to completely break away, and often a lot of time is spent trying to either work around this or to educate the parent, until they’re too exhausted to do any more. She knows in her heart that on some level her parents want what they think is best for her, and think they’re doing their job as parents. It’s why she chooses to take the emotional labour of educating Lorelai over and over, why she doesn’t cut them off completely, why when her mother apologizes she will reiterate that she doesn’t want them out of her life, she just wants them to respect her and her boundaries.

8. The repercussions of what her parents did her live on even after she has left them. She is so affected by their poor treatment that if you are marrying her - she stresses over wanting her own dream wedding, frets over whether she is turning into her parents if she finally decides to do what she wants. She overcompensates, struggles to understand how to set boundaries, has trouble figuring out what constitutes a healthy amount of control. The entire book shows her still trying to navigate this, even though they abandoned this plot line later on.

How Does Hana Fight For Autonomy?

Surprisingly enough, she does so early on in her life. She doesn’t do it in what you may call major ways, but in small ways.

1. Like I mentioned earlier, when there are things she genuinely likes, she goes all out to pursue them. That’s the difference between her attitude towards activities like ice skating and wine tasting, and her love for flowers and books and music.

2. She develops a sensibility early on, of recognizing that things she enjoys need to be done for herself first, not paraded for other people’s entertainment. Her piano scene in Book 1 is a perfect example of this. She knew why she had a problem with constantly performing for others, she figured out at that early age why she felt so uncomfortable.

3. Not only that, she actively works against them when she does recognize this. Telling them no doesn’t work for her, so she screws up her performance on purpose so they will never ask her again. She’s learned early on that what she wants won’t be taken into account, so she finds other ways to work against it until she can keep the one thing she loves most for herself.

4. With reference to the previous point, I’d like to point out that she recognizes how sacred her art is to her, and goes to extremes to make it her own. She has the foresight to understand that this parading will make her love her art less.

5. In her adult life, she only volunteers to play piano if she finds someone she CAN trust. Someone who will value the integrity of her music and respect her boundaries. It’s not easy to understand the level of courage that takes. Her final scene shows her setting boundaries with her parents and standing by them.

6. When an outsider advises her to “say something snappy” back, she responds that that simply isn’t her way of doing things. This is something she stays firm about throughout the series. When she does take the initiative to fight back, she does it on her own terms, in her own way. She does it with Olivia, she does it towards the end with Madeleine, she goes the extra mile with Neville because he’s acting like an ass both to her and her friend Drake.

7. She reads forbidden literature (in her mind, that’s Wuthering Heights). She chooses her own reading material and is involved in engaging with it critically and creatively. She essentially took an activity her parents made her do, and made it her own.

8. This is a woman happy doing domestic activities, and she genuinely enjoys doing them for other people. She chooses the people she does it for.

9. In her first scene in Book 3, Hana speaks to us about planning her dream wedding from the time she was a child. She mentions making hundreds of PinStop boards just for this purpose, at the same time telling us she knew back then that with her parents she wasn’t going to have much of a say in her own wedding. She knew her choices didn’t count. She still worked on it!

This is just a small sample of the things she does to affirm that she, indeed, has a voice and an identity independent of her parents and even friends - no matter how small and invisible it may seem. To some this might not count for much. But for someone who has had to grow up under this level of control, the amount of pushing back she has already done on her own is PHENOMENAL.

Pushing back from this level of parenting never happens in one go. You don’t wake up one morning and suddenly realize this in a flash of light. It takes time. It takes effort. It takes some level of distance before a person with that kind of familial background can even contemplate that what they’ve experienced so far is not normal.

We need to remember that the core of Hana’s journey lies in enjoying her uncertainty, in basking in the knowledge that she doesn’t know yet where she is headed. Especially if you don’t marry her…she finds that for the first time in her life there is no set plan she needs to follow, no final goal she must use all her skills for. Let us remember the patisserie scene in Book 2. The pastries she is shown represent the directions she could go in and she finds a surprising sense of freedom in recognizing that she doesn’t need to overthink this.

In the Book 2 Lake scene, if Hana isn’t your LI she joyfully replies that she doesn’t know when asked what’s next for her. She is happy about not knowing - she is ecstatic that she has a wide range of options to choose from. If you are marrying her, she trusts you enough to know that while she now has a path to follow, she is secure in the knowledge that she is free to explore who she is within that path. I think that’s as good a proof of independence as anything.

–

Where TRR went wrong, was in choosing not to center Hana in her own story. Half her diamond scenes in Book 1 explored everything else BUT her. The Shanghai portion of the book itself took a mere two chapters compared to Paris and Italy, and we learned next to nothing about her background. We know about her parents but it’s a pity that even while we spend time in her city we know next to nothing about her environment or how she was brought up. But to decide without adequate evidence that she has no life, no dreams, no individuality just because she doesn’t bury weapons in her ballgown is grossly inaccurate.

@grapecaseschoices did a phenomenal post regarding the things about Hana that many tend to overlook, and I would suggest anyone who considers her one dimensional or a mere clingy pushover, to read it at least once. Here’s the link: https://grapecaseschoices.tumblr.com/post/178004874932/playchoicesconfessions-sent-by-anonymous-hana

I’ve been seeing quite a bit of Hana hate, and a lot of unfair comparisons to Olivia. I really like Olivia, I think she’s awesome and I understand if Hana’s character type doesn’t appeal to you. But there is a difference between that and making judgements on a character that aren’t backed up by the text. This isn’t just about the anon, this is about a huge number of people who clearly don’t know about the character yet act like they do. And I think that needs to stop.

Note: @callmetippytumbles is awesome. And helped me immensely with getting my jumbled thoughts on this in some order. And awesome. That is all.

–

49 notes · View notes

exceptionallyyours98-blog · 6 years ago

Text

Why Building A Great Friendship Is So Important to Your Success: 6 Ways I'm Focused on Making Mine Great

A deep, strong friendship just might be a double edged sword. A friendship that bolsters your confidence when it’s low and gives you support and connection but also someone who can recognize when you are off track and call you on it. A great friendship is an investment of the heart and soul, an emotional connection as well as physical and it requires both to be active participants.

The Wrong Way To Do It

Just a week ago I returned from an over 8000 mile road trip with my boys Ryder (11) and Dax (8). We made it to all the way to Knoxville, TN where I finally got to meet my very best friend – in person.

Planning for this road trip had been in the works for over a year. While I was deep in the building of my business after opening a physical studio location last year, I knew I would need a “life line”. This road trip would be that line.

It was my beacon of light at the end of the 16 hour days.

But while I worked for days, weeks, months, holding this plan in sight, I neglected my best friend and the basic essentials of a happy life. I neglected her so much that I feared I lost one of the best gifts a human could possess.

I was so focused on getting through the day and checking off actions items, I became nearly a hermit to a healthy daily life. I felt I only had the capacity to care for my clients and my children. I’d get up at 4 and go to bed at 10 repeating this over and over until I finally broke.

By the time I came out of my self inflicted turmoil, I finally reached out to my best friend, only to find that I had broken her heart.

Barbara Bush:

“You don’t just luck into things as much as you’d like to think you do. You build them step by step, whether it’s friendships or opportunities”

Cultivating Great Friendships

1. Friendship is about sharing openly in the good times and the bad. You don’t have to always get into deep, meaningful conversations but cutting off connection when things get tough isn’t the way to go. Laughing often, playing regularly and trusting always, that’s most important. It’s about caring deeply, both how the other person feels as well as allowing to be cared for deeply. Playfulness of friendship is an integral part of a great relationship so when the serious business of needing a trusting shoulder occurs, it’s been built on a firm foundation.

I breathed a song into the air: it fell to earth, I know not where…. and the song, from beginning to end, I found again in the heart of a friend.

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

2. Do not dilute or pollute your friendship with unnecessary drama. But do be willing to share authentically what is happening. While I don’t think a mission statement is needed for a friendship, we do need to be intentional in what we need and want in a friendship and invest wisely through our words and actions. Constant complaining isn’t what builds great friendship. It doesn’t mean you can’t share your frustrations but a great friendship isn’t about taming the shrew.

3. Keep the communication lines open. Learn to speak empathically. Instead of saying “You…” use “I feel…” If you are feeling scared or misunderstood or ignored, say “I feel…”, rather than – “you make me feel…”. Be willing to hear from your heart rather than your head what is being shared or not shared. Instead of cutting off communication, open up about what you are needing – even if it’s time and space. Remember, it’s a two way street – communication flows both ways. Listening is one of the greatest qualities of a great friend. But keep it balanced.

4. Let your actions speak louder than your words. There is a big virtual world out there. I actually met my best friend on line a few years ago and we’d not met in person until recently. Yet we formed a truly great friendship; caring, genuine, supportive all through the internet and phone. In my business I am on social media daily, and I have a policy to keep things positive. Anything intimately related to the ups and downs of life, I work to spare the moment by moment drama and wait until the lessons are learned to share insight. So if I didn’t specifically communicate with my friend how I was doing, all she would know is the snap shot of the moments of connection with my clients whom I adore, and the joy or success I choose to celebrate publicly.

But when I did reach out after months, I find out I had hurt her deeply by cutting off communication. A pattern I have used my entire life as a way to stay “safe” (more on this lesson later).

Luckily for me, my best friend is the most understanding, forgiving and gracious women I know. After spending a week with her in person in her home being lovingly cared for and supported, actions bolstered us both. This lesson is an important one I intend to keep in practice.

Little actions like sending a handwritten card, calling instead of an emails all the time to big actions like connecting in person and making plans to connect in person if you do not live in the same city.

There is something basic about friendship. It is like the structure that holds up a building. It is mostly hidden and absolutely essential.

Emilie Barnes

5. Don’t have only transactional friendships, instead build a deep and meaningful friendship. I’ve had lots of transactional “friendships” and am working on building better relationships in general. This is like never allowing roots to deepen enough for the fruits of a true friendship to blossom. For me, that was a pattern, I believe it stems from self worth issues. Constantly judging myself. So when there are “bad” days and I’m not “perfect” the gremlins take me under letting me know I don’t deserve to be loved.

6. Seek professional help for issues that warrant such help. Your best friend is not your counselor nor a door mat.

Constantly dumping your marital, parental, business, personal issues on your best friend is like emptying out the air in your camp mattress. You are left with a hard, bumpy surface, poor sleep and a bad back in the morning. And that’s not pleasant for anyone (first hand experience analogy from our camping trips to Knoxville!)

Being aware that you need professional help is not a bad thing. Sometimes we do need that counselor or the right homeopathic remedy or big time intervention. Do NOT be afraid to get that help. Just get the RIGHT kind 😉

And sometimes we just need the deep and meaningful connection of a beloved great friend.

I believe that building a great friendship is one of the most valuable uses of our time. It’s revenue is endless. But it’s not passive.

Blessed are the ones God sends to show His love for us…our friends.

Questions: Do you have a deep and meaningful friendship? How does it affect your life? What special things do you do to cultivate a deep and meaningful friendship? You can leave a comment below.

Stephana works with Powerhouse Leaders who want more results with less BS, for themselves, their team and their bottom line. Contact Stephana at [email protected] 360-936-3374 or visit http://www.powerhouseleaders.comPowerhouse Leaders.

#friendship #success #love #self care #self love #relationship

1 note · View note

montgomerylvbe010-blog · 5 years ago

Text

I'm talking about the racing game Farm Expert 2017 Free

As a child, did you actually dream of extending up to become a farmer, spending the period charging near your rear yard with the toy tractor and trying to capture sheep in the nearby field to bring home with you? No, right us? Anyway never mind, even when that became the childhood ambition, Farm Expert 17 provides the opportunity to held also process the very own farm! The sport is nicely varied, with you having to fully prepare fields before plants can be extended, to ensuring you go livestock or they receive too older and fail, this activity will undoubtedly boost your organisational skills.

Farm Expert 2017's been buried, cultivated and produced by Silden and sold on the local produce market with PlayWay S.A.,FE17 definitely gives a few initial appeal for those who have a good simulation game. The game boasts some fairly clear impression as far as the weather is concerned, a right soundtrack when you hop in your tractor and plenty of to do and keep you tiling away for hours on end.

However, all these pieces are allowed overcome next to certain unfortunate and chronic bugs, together with some fairly horrendous curb and physics for the automobiles. And it is very varied, it goes through from the lack of depth which could leave a little underwhelmed. There is besides a multiplayer side to the game, though moving this to run remains much more akin to brown magic than computer games.

With no tale to talk about let's walk right into the nitty-gritty of what you can do from the entertainment. Since there is quite a bit. Now earlier I right start, I first want to come clean up then influence that was the primary ever really farming sim game (unless I could count Stardew Valley?) so I just want to step early then articulate sorry for any really noob-like comments. Push with…

Setting up is rather cool, after pack in you're satisfied with a menu asking to produce a report which is just a material of making a brand then go away from there. FE17 control a couple of modes you can choose from entering Free Journey and Multiplayer (I'll speak more about the multiplayer in a time). For me, however, the first go-to space lived the Article. There's somewhat of the language screen with some incorrect period and grammar, but after you move history to that all pretty straightforward. It worked out, still, carry everyone almost twenty seconds to figure out the way to help repeal since I stupidly thought it was a clean WASD setup rather than having to press Z first in order to change course. But following these hiccups, I did get myself enjoying the game. There's something strangely satisfying about having to undergo the motions of reversing up to a piece of equipment, hitching it in place, folding this left and then merrily tootling together toward the subject for a day's work.

After I had learned the basics of really turn and farming, I jumped even in work my own fully-fledged farm. You get several options to take from, basically ranging from Easy to Hard. Naturally, as a great amateur, I indicated the Simple option. Thanks to our choice I started off with a great total of currency and a good healthy sum of procedures already in my possession, so I could push right on with believe our former field, gathering a few plants and dealing with work. I found myself rather having my time as a farmer, finally achieving the target of determination a tractor.

Yet, I slowly started to notice a few mechanisms. For starters, the naming of the devices is just not up to scratch, specifically on the route that you'd think will be even but for some ungodly reason cause your vehicles to bump along constantly. The game and makes seem to factor in the swollen weight of things which you hitch upon your tractor, allowing you to accelerate in much the same time as you normally would. After a while, I discovered that the physics from the entertainment might produce some pretty horrendous cock-ups.

And later on, I too discovered that the farmsimulator.eu/farming-simulator-2013-titanium-edition-download/ ground actually took no influence on the swiftness of your car, allowing you to charge full speed up high mountains then carry on your own mini-adventure…

youtube

So of course, the true physics of the competition give something to be needed. But the real gameplay is beautiful varied. So if you don't want to really need in yard and collecting crops all the time, then no worries! You can go into animal husbandry having a couple of different options that animals to keep and ensuring that to hold them fed as well as selling them for meat just before they die of other age. Before you may grow orchards to make your delicious fruit, having to fertilize and obtain the products yourself, and even have to carry the pack to the trailer! But you do want to remain with clear old-fashioned crop farming, in which case you have to take your crops depending on the season, carefully cultivate fields properly and then make sure not to help process them over or otherwise they'll be destroyed!

There's also vehicle preservation with attention to take into consideration, so that you have to cram up your own tractor with fuel and keep that working, make sure it's good and fresh (as apparently, that is chief for tractors?) as well as repair or increase that right away also over again to make life easier.

Pretty varied, just? Right. Unfortunately, that class does not translate to power or order. So sure, you can strengthen the plants, care for being and multiply fruit orchards. But there's no form in charge in the looks, so there's no need to research for improved accept or trade rates like every shop will give the same results. That lack of economy frankly lets down the main practice. Your dogs do need food, but not any run or time away from their pens. You don't still have to feed them yourself so something you buy gets automatically transferred to the pencils plus the beast somehow gain admission to the food themselves. And with orchards, after place and fertilizing them there's nobody more you really need to do until they're ready to be gathered. That lack of depth turns the game into more of an calendar watching experience.

You can hire a staff to help you out, watching them go about the job is vaguely interesting at first, but soon loses the novelty. Other NPCs in the sport don't provide any connection and generally, action to truly hear and give the world a resemblance of lifetime. Without success, I must tell.

There is too supposed to be a multiplayer element to the activity, but lord only gets how we may actually meet people. I've trawled many forums with news say similar problems with no resolution forthcoming. Multiplayer is there a little that is created last minute, so perhaps it will be improved in the future?

The first thing I'd state is how the game does not really have the most impressive image, with some of the textures looking pretty bitter and a significant few popping issues going on. But I'd consider the vehicles looked quite decent generally, and the weather effects were fairly well done. There's something oddly fascinating about watching puddles form with a subject while that raining.

It also gain several terra-forming effects as well, so when you're making the take some of the machines you use actually kind trenches and other alterations from the ground, which changes how the vehicle can operate over them, that is pretty nice. And also since what I understand by making a bit of examining, something that doesn't take place now Farming Simulator activity or different competitors. Character styles are fairly bland and forgettable, but aside from the unnecessary NPCs, there's not really enough characters around to take much notice.

I personally achieved the soundtrack really enjoyable. There was something a little entertaining about the music starting up when you shot in your own tractor. The fact that the thud of the engine changes counting at whether the within or outside of the vehicle was sweet cool too. However, once you noticed the cycling positive make, that begin as a bit annoying. And, when you got out of the tractor your individual would for some reason believe they were leap and reach the appropriate sound. As well as this a handful of the vehicles which got no doors still played the door shut sound each time you got off. A problem for me, but still a virus.

Due to the lack of exposure to previous farming sim games, I found myself enjoying Farm Expert 17 at first, but after I had partaken to all the varied tasks I found myself getting bored fairly swiftly. With eventually a number of the germ can attest to be significantly frustrating. If that match survived a little more developed then obtained selected degree put into it, i would indeed rate it higher. The multiplayer certainly feels tacked upon then the main experience just becomes somewhat of a drag eventually.

0 notes

askanautistic · 8 years ago

Note

Hi I'm allistic but I work with a young autistic boy. I'm a private aide for him during the school day. I want to help teach him coping skills and self-management to understand when he needs sensory input or a break from the activity, and I don't want to use ABA b/c I've seen that it can be so harmful. However, when he gets mad, frustrated, or overwhelmed he tends to punch and kick, and it's usually me. His anger escalates quickly and I don't usually have time to talk him through coping (1/2)

(2/2 about allistic with autistic student) coping and calming strategies and he begins to scream, punch, and kick. When I ask other teachers and my supervisors for input, they tell me it’s all for attention. Anyways, can you give me any ideas about potential coping and self-management skills for kids who get angry quickly and can’t or don’t verbalized it? And when to work on it so that it can become a habit when he starts to get angry/frustrated? Thanks in advance!- Try to work out if there’s a pattern. Particular tasks that frustrate him, a particular time of day when he starts to get more prone to anger, or even if it’s potentially something he’s eating, as some children are more sensitive to additives in food and it has a dramatic effect on their behaviour.- Find alternative ways for him to communicate (even if he’s usually verbal or has communication methods in place). It might be that he’s losing the ability to communicate before he’s losing his temper, without anyone noticing. So having alternatives and encouraging their use will mean he’s less likely to lose that ability and grow frustrated (if that is the case).- Encourage breaks and the use of sensory toys/input consistently, rather than as a last resort to help calm him. Perhaps utilising these things throughout the day will help prevent his frustration/anger from escalating.- Try to model some self-evaluation/coping skills, as this will demonstrate coping skills and also take some of the focus off of him (instead of everything being about how he feels and what he needs, which can be quite a lot of pressure and overwhelming focus, you could say, “I’m getting a bit sleepy, I just need to get up and stretch,” or if you can see he’s stuck, “I’m finding this a bit confusing and I’m getting a bit annoyed at myself, so can we take a break?” Or depending on how he communicates, you could use the same method (showing him a card, pointing to a picture, something that demonstrates how you feel and/or what you need).- Give him breaks from you. It’s quite intense having to spend the whole day with a single person, or constantly having adults with you (even if you get on with that person). You might need to just supervise from a distance sometimes, or get other staff members to spend time with him sometimes. I work with kids and the majority of the kids in my class could get away with doing things like talking when they should be working or have some opportunity to slack off a bit or be silly without someone noticing, and kids aren’t always going to be focused or perfectly behaved (neither are adults for that matter!) but kids who are constantly 1:1 don’t have that freedom. So it’s good to be mindful of that. - If he’s able to/has a reliable communication method that he does use at the moment, discuss his anger with him when he’s calm. Find out whether there’s anything you can do that would help (for example, if he starts to show signs of getting angry, would it be better if you moved away from him to give him space). Try to come up with agreed was of him managing and then put up reminders. Perhaps then when he gets angry he’ll know he can take himself off to a different area to calm down (and the agreement would be that you understand that he needs to go and will let him without trying to talk to him about it until he’s returned). Or there might be a cushion or even an actual punching bag that he can use (and having a reminder of that and knowing that that item has that purpose might help him direct his aggression towards that instead of you).- Create activities to help you come up with ways for him to tell you what bothers him and what he needs when he is angry. You could talk about it and write lists or you could use pictures and cut and paste options. For example make up mood boards with cut and paste or the option to stick on options for ways to cope (for example on an ‘anger’ board, the option to shout into a pillow, to go to a quiet space, to punch a punching bag, to run around, to be alone or to be with a different member of staff, and let him choose which things he would like to do when he gets angry). You could also try the same thing to give him a way to show you what kind of things make him angry. Rather than singling him out if this makes him uncomfortable, you could make one for yourself to model, or you could ask other children to make them too.- Simplify communication as much as possible for times when he’s already past the point of being able to communicate as he usually would. For example, having a colour chart or a few faces where he works will give him the opportunity to just stick a marker on the appropriate emotion/colour, so that he can very quickly and easily show you that he’s angry. You could encourage him to use it throughout the day, and even have your own one to model with.- Sometimes it helps to acknowledge that feeling that way is horrible for the child/person themselves. Being angry and out of control os scary, and having other people reacting to you can make you feel even worse. For a kid, realising that they’re not the only one and it’s normal to get angry can (in some cases) help alleviate some of that stress so that they can better manage things.- It can make a huge difference to model things yourself and to make the effort to relate. It might not work in all situations but I’ve frequently had children exhibit better coping skills through copying me (for example, children who would get upset at the sound of the alarm seeing me covering my ears and then doing that themselves and also seeming to be reassured by the fact that I don’t like the noise either). I’ve also had children with anger problems recover quicker from the post-rage downer when I’ve explained that I get angry too and I know it’s horrible when you get angry and then other people get angry and upset with you and everything just gets worse and worse. - Try to get other staff on board with any methods you are using. This means that they won’t question him (or you in front of him), make any remarks, or comment on his behaviour when he is angry as any negative comments are likely to fuel it. Positive feedback when he has calmed down might be okay (he might not like to be reminded, but he might respond well to being praised for using coping skills).- Angry outbursts are basically meltdowns (assuming he is incapable of calming down rather than that he calms down as soon as he gets his own way - those are tantrums) so by that point he has lost some cognitive ability so talking to him or touching him might exacerbate matters. - Meltdowns are also not about the attention, meaning having attention can cause more embarrassment and distress and exacerbate things. So it might help having everyone ignore him, and giving him a private space to retreat to (even if it’s a tent or just a small area that’s sectioned off from view).- Make sure he is getting some kind of exercise. Some children who are often supervised 1:1 end up not really having the opportunity to run around and play properly (depending on who is responsible for them during those times, or the layout of the school, and some children might have motor difficulties that make it difficult to play in the ways that the other children generally play. Engaging with him, or finding alternative ways for him to get rid of any anxious energy or frustration might help (if he doesn’t really run or understand or enjoy games like tag, for example, and struggles to run for or catch balls, find out if there are other things you can do like use trampolines, or a bike, or climbing frame - even if these items are not in his regular play area perhaps he can have some time to engage in these activities).

#anger #meltdowns

22 notes · View notes

mllemaenad · 8 years ago

Note

Personally... I feel that WEaWH tries to remove itself from TME because it realizes that TME is fucking irredeemable garbage, and tries to make its WLW representation less appalling. So I'm entirely willing to overlook continuity errors for the sake of one relationship between women in the entire series that can go well.

I’m sorry, but I don’t believe that. I’m not going to argue with you on the merits of The Masked Empire, as you’re entitled to like or dislike any media you choose, but I don’t think Bioware is trying to distance itself from the novel. I also don’t think their motive is positive representation, or that they’re seriously suggesting a happy ending. However, even if they were I would call the choice to reunite Celene and Briala without any serious examination of the issues that drove them apart … disquieting.

1) On distancing themselves from the novel.

To begin with the obvious, several of the Dragon Age novels provide not only context for the quests in Inquisition, but also promotional material maintaining audience interest between games.

It’s hardly an accident that Asunder is a prequel to In Hushed Whispers/Champions of the Just, The Masked Empire is a prequel to Wicked Eyes and Wicked Hearts (as well as giving you a roundabout introduction to Solas) and Last Flight provides you with some context on why Weisshaupt is just no help at all during Here Lies the Abyss.

They do kind of want you to buy all their stuff. And if you started with Inquisition and liked what you saw, they want you to run back and buy all the earlier stuff for context. Video game tie-in novels aren’t generally considered high art, so they’d need serious reasons to want to reject the novel as part of their canon. Just in case, I checked The Masked Empire’s Amazon page, and it’s currently got 4.4 stars – so it doesn’t look like something they’d be particularly desperate to ignore. They’d rather you bought it and gave them money.

To move more to the specific, the game references the novel constantly. In addition to devoting a whole main quest to resolving its plot, it also includes cameos from Mihris, Michel and Imshael, which really serve no other purpose than to provide a bit of closure to the people who read the novel and wondered what became of them. This is actually more than it provides for, say, the characters of Asunder: Rhys and Evangeline appear only in a war table mission, Adrian doesn’t appear at all – and who knows where Shale has wandered off to.

It also references the murder of Briala’s parents directly:

Cole: She’s still behind the curtains in the reading room, watching the blood pool on the floor.

Briala pulled the red velvet curtain aside. Her hands shook as she did. There was a pool of red on the floor of the reading room, staining the rich Nevarran carpet. It had spread almost to the curtain.

At the other end of the pool were Briala’s parents.

– The Masked Empire

If they really wanted to distance themselves from The Masked Empire, they wouldn’t put that in there. If they wanted to say that that this didn’t happen, they’d have retconned the story – or at the very least not mentioned it.

In fact, the choice of words is particularly distressing. Cole senses pain. When he says Briala is ‘still behind the curtains’ he’s emphasising that the trauma and anguish are still very much with her, making a reconciliation, particularly a reconciliation that utterly fails to address a thing that they have confirmed happened, even stranger.

I would say that one motive for their choice to reconcile the two characters is simplicity. I like parts of Inquisition, but honestly it’s over ambitious. They set up a series of continent-wide catastrophes, each one intensely political: the mage rebellion, the Orlesian civil war, the collapse of the Chantry.

Each one probably requires its own game for a satisfactory solution. I realise they were probably going for something similar to the galaxy-wide political collapse in Mass Effect 3, but the Dragon Age games are at a serious disadvantage because they lack continuity of characters.

Mass Effect 3 had its own problems, of course, but for example – I think most people have fun curing the genophage for the krogan. But what they remember is Mordin Solus and ‘There’s a reaper in my way, Wrex!’ When it worked it was able to build on characters who were present across the series.

Inquisition is faced with trying to find resolutions for groups of people that have no direct connection to each other, and whom the protagonist has never seen before (even if they player has). This is hardly the only time their attempt to fix everything in a single quest ends up making no sense.

2) On positive representation

I’m afraid I don’t think what we get in Wicked Eyes and Wicked Hearts is especially positive. I think it’s … kind of infantilising, really, and has a whiff of sexism about it. I mean – again, I’m not asking you to like The Masked Empire. But this:

“It would have been a locked suite in the palace for a few years, nothing more!” Celene kept her voice low, aware that Michel and Felassan had stopped planning and were looking their way. “It would have changed nothing for us.”

“Your hair still stinks of the smoke from the people you burned,” Briala said. “That is a change.”

The dead leaves crackled under Celene’s feet as she stepped forward. “How many wars can our empire survive in such a short time? I wanted my legacy to be the university, the beauty and culture that made us the envy of the world. Instead I may be known as the empress under whom Orlais fell. You have the luxury of mourning Halamshiral’s elves and holding my heart hostage. Sitting on my throne, I see every city in the empire. If I must burn one to save the rest, I will weep, but I will light the torch.”

Briala swallowed. “You’re not weeping, as far as I can tell. Nor are you sitting on your throne. She stepped away, her movements fast and jerky. “With your permission, Your Radiance, I shall go indulge myself in my luxury.”

– The Masked Empire

… is at least an argument between adults, with the details of what they believe laid out. Celene honestly believes that the empire and her legacy are worth 'a few thousand elven lives’: she believes that maintaining the strength of Orlais is worth thousands of lives in sacrifice, as is the vision she has for the country’s future. Briala is facing up to the fact that this is the bargain she’s made: stay with Celene and she might see an elven scholar graduate from the university – but she’ll likely also see elves burn every time there’s a crisis, because elves are the most expendable people in the empire.

Briala wavers throughout the novel, obviously, because there is genuine feeling between herself and Celene. But the discovery that this has all happened before, that this is not the first time Celene has shed elven blood to impress her rivals and gain power, and that her own parents were among the victims, brings her to a decision.

You don’t have to like it, but these women are serious about what they want and believe.

But in Wicked Eyes and Wicked Hearts we get stuff like this:

Sera: Elves-elves-elves, but it’s really a pissing match with an old lover. Don’t know the rest but that explains a lot.

It’s hardly coincidental that they chose Sera to say this. Sera the commoner, who despises the nobility. Sera the Red Jenny, with contacts in every corner of Thedas. True, Sera’s background has led her to reject a lot of elven culture, but her biggest objection is usually to ‘moping’ about the past. This:

Briala thought for a moment. “Celene and Gaspard saw an army, but that would be fighting their fight. With the paths, I could get food to alienages where elves would otherwise starve. They would let me move ahead of an oncoming army and warn the target, or move behind them and attack their supply lines.”

– The Masked Empire

… sounds more like the practical stuff she favours: she’s said getting revenge would be a preferable option, and this is getting food to the poor, terrorising the nobility and giving little people a shot at being part of something bigger. But now we can’t take it seriously, because Sera has reduced it to a lovers’ tiff.

That isn’t meant as a criticism of Sera, to be clear. They do this when they want a mouthpiece. This is the equivalent of having Cole approve of Cullen.

And as for it going well, this is their epilogue slide:

Where once war raged, there is now a shaky peace. Orlais is resurgent, the empress a patron of arts and culture.

Many attribute this recovery to her lady love, though others wonder how long their reunion will truly last.

– Epilogue (Inquisition)

I mean – maybe they’ll forget about this. They have been known to forget their epilogue slides. But it doesn’t read as though the intent was to write a strong and loving partnership. Rather it looks as though they are selling the relationship as tempestuous.

That’s one place where I am very uncomfortable. This is the revolt of an oppressed people, and the politics an empire. And there’s a sense that they’re saying ‘Oh, those women and their emotions! Today they love each other; tomorrow they’ll hate each other; the day after they’ll probably love each other again. You never know, with women.’

I appreciate that Bioware is fairly progressive, for a game company: the character choices, the romance options, the NPCs – they are trying to represent a variety of races, genders and sexualities. But it doesn’t mean they never fuck up. I mean, there’s a bit in Mark of the Assassin where Isabela tells Hawke that Gamlen has been sexually harassing her and two responses blame her (You find something inappropriate?/Break him. And wear pants.).

Given that they are already struggling to resolve a massive plotline in a ridiculous amount of time, I’m not surprised they fell back on this. It’s narrative shorthand, and that can be handy for desperate situations. But it’s still sexist shorthand, and I very much wish they hadn’t done it.

3) Removing The Masked Empire from the equation doesn’t solve the problem

I mean, it makes some of the bigger issues like Briala’s dead parents a little easier to miss, sure, but it doesn’t make the problems go away.

I appreciate that representation is important. I do. But romantic relationships between women are not the only representation issue at stake, here. There’s no single source for the elven people, of course, but it’s easy enough to see that Bioware has borrowed from the experiences of Jewish, Romani and aboriginal peoples living under empires and/or colonialism.

And have we ever established that it is shit to be an elf. The city elf origin story in Origins is an abduction/rape/murder combo. The Dalish clans in Origins and DA2 can be slaughtered. It’s terrifyingly easy to kill off clan Lavellan in war table missions, and even though this is the protagonist’s family the game doesn’t make a thing of it. There’s a whole side quest in DA2 about a serial killer who targets elves, and who keeps getting away with it because no one gives a shit. We are up to our eyeballs in codex entries on the treatment of elves.

And here we have Briala, the leader of a rebellion in Orlais – one of the nations best known for oppressing the fuck out of the elves and trying to destroy their culture.

Even without The Masked Empire this is:

a) providing only the most minimal description of the nature of her rebellion and what she hopes to achieve.

b)allowing her to be dismissed as primarily involved in a lovers’ tiff.

c) pairing her with a woman the game actually says massacred the Halamshiral elves.

d) using the massacre as evidence against her because she was sleeping with Celene, rather than as evidence against the woman who actually committed it.

That’s … all pretty shitty, even at the simplest level. The game doesn’t address any of this. It doesn’t even force the characters to discuss what happened before throwing them back together. It spends as much time tsking at Briala for destabilising Orlais as it does Celene and Gaspard. It loves the idea that they’re all as bad as each other – which allows the player to justify just about any ending.

And this is a thing they do repeatedly: they tsk at the mage rebellion as well. They seem to be very good at describing the sufferings of the elves, the mages, the casteless dwarves … but don’t approve of them actually doing anything about their oppression. At least not anything more forceful than writing a stern letter of complaint (for those lucky literate characters!) to the local lord or revered mother.

And so minimising the problems of Celene and Briala’s relationship, and waving a locket around (which, even out of context, does not seem like a forceful enough declaration of love to startle Briala) does … not strike me as very respectful of peoples who have suffered under empires, and who have had to fight tooth and nail for every sliver of justice.

It’s not that I want to exclude a healthy, positive romance between two women in order to have Awesome Revolutionary Briala. I just don’t understand why we couldn’t have both.

Couldn’t Briala show up with a new girlfriend? Do it properly: give her a codex entry and make her active and important in the quest. Show the two of them both being affectionate and working together for the cause. Make sure that at least some of the possible quest endings leave them alive, together and continuing to better the lot of the elves.

I can understand that you may not like The Masked Empire and may want to exclude it from your personal headcanon. That’s absolutely fine, obviously. But I do not believe that was Bioware’s intent in writing the the Briala-and-Celene reconciliation, and I still have serious issues with it.

#Anonymous #dragon age #dai #briala #empress celene #celene critical

125 notes · View notes