#and I think me feeling a disconnection towards my headmates as well as the harassment is taking its toll

[awastulpatafi]

a lil rant

general TW before reading, it's a bit of a sob story but I need to get it out

It's very hurtful to see SO many anti-endos say "I dislike endos because they are always xyz" and generalizing this entire group saying we take away resources for traumatized systems, invade their safe spaces, and tell them hurtful things (like threatening or insulting)

because a lot of us don't do any of those things, but it seems like quite a few anti-endos feel the need to call out endos on these things they assumed they have done simply because they are an endo system

This generalizing needs to stop, especially for systems like mine who are mixed origins. No, we do need our trauma resources, we are traumatized and we aren't taking up your resources, we are using the resources that we need too

We have OSDD-1b and understand the crippling difficultly that comes with our disorder and how important having resources, but telling people that are trying to find ways to cope with their situations that they are not valid and not worthy of trying to help themselves is not helpful for anyone

Having DID/OSDD exclusive spaces is awesome and can be super helpful for many different reasons like sharing struggles and resources, but we don't see how anti-endo spaces are at all helpful

Like we said before, we have OSDD-1b, however I myself am an endogenic headmate, I was NOT formed from the systems trauma and was instead formed by an alter within our system with a role to help us better function

Excluding our system, other mixed origins system, and pro-endo traumagenic systems from these DID/OSDD spaces is restricting their access to these resources that they need too!

Not understanding endos or questioning endos is a normal thought process for one who isn't endogenic or educated on endogenic systems, and in fact it's great to do your own research and come to your own conclusion rather than conform to what everyone around you thinks

However to conclude within your head that endos are all terrible people who "steal" resources and invade safe spaces is jumping to a very big conclusion

Again, it's ok to be endo neutral or to question/not understand, but to attack, demonize, slander, and harass endo systems, endo safe spaces, and endo supporters isn't a positive thing

Nobody is perfect, not everyone agrees with everyone, but by no means is bullying acceptable