#and I don't wanna be a bother

[inkskinned]

what is with men being mad any time a woman raises her voice where did that even come from. someone posted a video of a small electrical explosion, and the top comment was of course the woman screams. the second comment is women try not to scream challenge, level impossible. i had to go back and watch the video again. there is, somewhat fainty, a little gasp emitted off-camera, more of a yelp than a scream. it is mostly lost in the crack of the explosion. afterwards, you hear her voice, shaken, say, are you okay?

i am helping one of my friends train her voice pitch lower, because she wants to be taken seriously at work. she and i do each other's nails and talk about gender roles; and how - due to our appearance - neither of us have ever been able to be "hysterical" in public. we both appear young and sweet and feminine. she is cisgender, and cannot use her natural voice in her profession because people keep saying she appears to be "vapid". we both try to figure out if our purposeful voice lowering is technically sexist. is it promoting something when you are a victim to it?

a storm almost sends a pole through a car window. in the dashcam, you can hear the woman passenger say her partner's name twice, crying out in alarm. she sounds terrified. in the comments, she is lambasted for her lack of calm. how is that even fucking helping?

in high school, i taught myself to have a lower voice. i had been recorded when i was genuinely (and righteously) upset; and i hated how my voice sounded on the phone speakers when it was played back. i was defending my mom, and my voice cracked with emotion. it meant i was no longer winning the argument: i was just shrieking about it.

girls meet each other after a long summer and let out a little joyful scream. this usually stops around 12-14, because people will not tolerate this display of affection (as it has the effect of being passingly annoying). something about the fact that little girls can't ever even be annoying. we are trained to examine each part of our lives (even joy) for anything that could make us upsetting and disgusting. they act like teenage girls are breaking into houses and shrieking you awake at 3 in the morning. speaking as a public school educator: trust me, it's not that bad, you can just roll your eyes and move on. it does not compare to the ways boys end up being annoying: slurs in graffiti, purposefully mocking your body, following you after you said no. you know, just boy things.

there's another video of a man who is not allowed to yell in the house, so he snaps his fingers when he's excited about soccer. the comments are full of angry men, talking about how their brother is unfairly caged. let him express himself and this is terrible to do to someone. eventually the couple has to address it in a second video: they are married with a newborn baby. he was trying not to wake the infant up. there is no comment on the fact women are not allowed to yell indoors. or the fact that it could have been really alarming or triggering for his wife. sometimes i wonder if straight men even like women, if they even enjoy being in relationships with them.

for the longest time, i hated roller coasters because it always felt inappropriate and uncomfortable for me to scream. one of my friends called me on it, said it was unusual i'm so unwilling. i had to go to my therapist about it. i don't like to scream because i was not raised in a safe situation, and raising my voice would have brought unsafe attention towards me. even when i am supposed to scream, it feels shameful, guilty. i was not treated kindly, so i lack a basic form of self-protection. this is not a natural response. it is not good that in a situation of high adrenaline - i shut up about it.

something very bad is happening, i think. in between all the beauty standards and the stuff i've already discussed - this one feels new and cruel in a way i can't quite express. yes, it's scary and silencing. but there's something about how direct it is - that so many men agree with the sentiment that women should never yell, even in an emergency - it feels different.

is the word shriek gendered automatically? how about shrill or screech? in self defense class, one of the first things they tell you is to yell, as loud and as shrilly as you can. they say it will feel rude. most women will not do this. you need to practice overcoming the social pressure and just scream.

most women do not cry out, even when it's bad. we do not report it. we walk faster. we do not make a scene. what would be the point of doing anything else? no matter what we do, we don't get taken seriously. it is a joke to them. an instagram caption punchline. we have to present ourselves as silent, beautiful, captivating - "valuable."

a woman is outside watching her kids when someone throws a firecracker at them. she screams and runs towards her children. in the comments, grown men flock together in the thousands: god. women are so annoying.

[sailing-ever-west]

cover-up tattoos <3

I think she should turn the 6's into butterflies uwu and Judge should cry about it and then die

[elzorton]

She's stealing your stuff

[fennthetalkingdog]

This is a neopronoun/xenopronoun positivity post! If you see this, tell me what your neos are!! >:3

I mostly just go by he/they but I also go by xe/xem/xyr and other canine-themed neos!

[iliothermia]

i would LOVE to see your take on someone who uses a cane!!! as i get older i see myself more in your art and i think i would be brought to tears seeing one of your beautiful men with a cane just like me

This is one of my favorite drawings from last year!! He's a cane user! I'll draw more soon with you in mind 🥰

[erinwantstowrite]

is this a safe space to admit i don't really like jayroy,,,,,,

[solaestial]

russell pixel portrait and some different expressions i drew a few weeks ago for discord emotes

[sillyfeelings]

Had a bad day, just wanna be near my boyfriend, I just wanna snuggle up to it and not talk about what's going on or think about anything, just boooyfriend, that would fix me I think

[elle-prix]

fix me

[the-official-goose-god]

reblog if your ok if I go into yours asks and trick or treat!

[allegedly-human]

I should post thirst traps on main

[a-usernamelol]

HL MC ASK GAME! Reblog and send two or three asks to a friend who doesn't normally get any!

🎂- When is your MCs birthday and why did you pick it?

🌈- What’s your MCs favorite color and why would they love it so much?

🕰️- What’s your MCs backstory?

👨- What’s your MCs relationship with their father (if applicable)?

👩- What’s your MCs relationship with their mother (if applicable)? 

👫- Does your MC have siblings and how do they get along?

🧓- What’s your MCs relationship with their grandparents (if applicable)?

🥰- Does your MC have a partner and if so what are they like together?

🫣- What is your MCs biggest regret?

👨‍⚖️- What is your MCs opinion on the Ministry?

🐉- Is your MC good with beasts?

🌾- Is your MC good at Herbology?

📚- What is your MCs favorite subject?

🧑‍💼- What is your MCs adult job?

👁️- What does your MC value on life?

👯- In their group of friends, what role do they play in their lives? If not applicable, in general what role do they play around others?

😈- What would you say your MCs morality is like?

🧑‍🏫- Who is your MCs favorite teacher?

😎- Who inspires your MC to be better?

🙌- What accomplishments is your MC most proud of?

👀- What is your MC like behind closed doors? 

😵‍💫- What is your MC like drunk?

😵- If your MC suddenly died, how would their loved ones and friends react?

📖- Do you have any non-MC characters, and if so, tell me about them!

👜- What is your MCs most prized possession?

🦇- How does your MCs powers- be that Ancient Magic or otherwise- affect their day to day life?

🦋- Does Ancient Magic work differently for your MC then in the game?

🍴- What is your MCs favorite foods?

👑- Is your MC an enjoyer of fancier, finer things, or do they enjoy simpler things?

🎅- What is your MCs favorite holiday?

👰‍♀️- (if applicable) what was your MCs wedding like?

😭- Most traumatic thing for your MC?

😍- Does your MC have “rizz”?

😶‍🌫️- Is your MC secretive, and if so, what is their biggest secret?

🤡- What is your MCs boggart or biggest fear?

👾- In modern day, what would your MC be like?

💫- What is your MCs zodiac signs?

♟️- Is your MC calculated?

🗡️- What would it take for your MC to betray their closest loved one or allies- if at all?

🪁- What hobbies does your MC practice? 

🏆- What is your MCs biggest goal?

🧸- What was your MCs childhood like?

🩸- What is your MCs opinion on blood status?

🥀- What is your MCs biggest heartbreak?

💀- What is your MCs opinion on the Dark Arts?

💅- How fashionable is your MC?

👳- Is your MC accident prone?

🗣️- Is your MC charismatic?

🫦- Is your MC attractive to other characters?

🚬- Does your MC have bad habits, or how is their mental health?

[worldwright]

childhood books that are so fucked up on the reread part 1 of infinty: septimus heap. our guy was a child soldier from birth. the entire city-state dealt with an oppressive police state for a decade, waiting for the monarchy to resurface. this fucking necromancer will not ever go away. not after the first time he dies and certainly not after the fifth. you'd think he'd be bored by now. some old queen moved a tower to the other side of the palace for no reason. the main character got time-kidnapped for six months and had to live in the same place that all his loved ones had not been born in yet. his best friend was raised by wolverines. his other best friend is named Beetle. the castle is called The Castle. there's a defunct nuclear reactor underneath it. some of the rats can talk and have human levels of intelligence and people still put out rat traps and try to kill them. there's a fuckin time purgatory that some guy thought everyone would love even as an increasing number of random lost travelers got trapped there forever. if you think you know all the secret tunnels under this place no you don't. and you can rent pink paddleboats in the summer

[rjshope]

✌😉

[that-girl-cupid]

*Rosalie sat near the strawberry fields on a blanket, sketch book in her lap, she decided to draw one of her new friends and she was going to surprise them with the drawing later*

@daonedaonlyskh

@apollos-weirdest-child

@the-cool-chaos-kid

@cass-daughter-o-momus

[redysetdare]

for every person who ships aro/ace coded/canon characters I will headcanon said characters as completely romance and sex repulsed. Y'know, to restore balance to the force.