#and I 100% believe if I was still in those discords and still trying to do what all those other people were doing and trying to like get an

[chronichlesofnillory]

Very much the same! I tend to explain it as everything I do comes and goes like seasons and sometimes you need to let certain things rest so you can bring new things to it later. I'm very much like this with pretty much every aspect of my life from crafting to cooking and baking to my magic.

The three things that worked for me were:

+ Make sure you have magic that isn't all ritual and isn't all buried in steps and things that you have to remember. I know there's that timeless sort of shitpost sort of serious "is stirring intention in your coffee magic?" but yes, if that's what gets you doing magic it's magic. Doing magic for me is talking to things, it's "oh I keep having this dream or image pop into my head, maybe that's something I should sort of just go with and see where it ends up". There's a lot of people who get a lot out of studying and reading and taking notes and treating their magic like a college class and if that works for you that's great (seriously! It is great to find what works for you) but I need breaks.

+ If you want to write stuff down for later treat it like you would a recipe you would find by one of those bloggers who has the 15 paragraphs about their grandma's favorite porcelain frog in their frog collection, and they write every step to the meal like you've never cooked a day in your life. It might feel weird or silly writing why you're using basil instead of rosemary in the margins or whatever, but if it means that it somehow jogs your memory or re-teaches you something do it. If you need to remember where the spell came from and what mindset you were in and the life events that were taking place, write it down. You could have audio files you link in a digital grimoire, or link the youtube videos or instagram posts or whatever that inspired you. Sometimes taking notes that actually link all the pieces together make you remember more.

+ When you do "study" or get super in the moment into magic, do the stuff that you actually like because you're more likely to keep up with it or remember it when you come back to it. I always have to re-teach myself crochet every 3 years because I dislike doing it, but I still want some crochet things so I just save it all up until I huff and puff and go "okay fine, it's now." But sewing both hand and machine I remember no matter how much time, same with embroidery or clay or chain maille or playing certain video games or making certain recipes. Because I have little youtube playlists or websites that act as "refreshers" and I like doing those things, if I haven't done chain maille in 5 years I can watch one video and instantly be able to make you a Byzantine bracelet or dragonscale piece. So if you're spending your time reading or doing magic that is just meh to you and you're not excited about it, not only will you burn out fast but you're not going to remember it. If you don't like energy work or working with crystals or wicca or traditional magic or only doing protection magic just do other stuff!

I really wanna engage with my practice more, I tend to get phases where I’m really into something and then drop it and forget anything I learned by the time I come back, it makes me feel like a perpetual beginner

Surely I’m not the only one?

[directdogman]

Hi, I hope you're having a decent day! I'm sorry if this is an invasive set of questions - feel free not to answer - but do you still actively like DSaF as your own creation, or is it more of a "it was fun while it lasted but i outgrew it and it's for the best to leave it behind" kind of project? Do you ever regret making the games? If you knew they would get so popular, is there anything you would have changed about them? Is there anywhere I could read more of your writing.

It fluctuates a bit. These last couple of years, I've really just been sorta nostalgic for it. I've seen a lot of people discuss those games being a source of comfort during bad times in their lives, people talking about how much the characters mean to them and it's hard not to smile when you see that.

It's a funny thing for close friends of yours to see people WITH fanmade DSaF merch out in the wild, or to watch a random youtube video and being hit with a DSaF reference outta nowhere. It happens from time to time, even today. On a few occasions, I've even had a person reference my work to me in real life and not realize who they were talking to, believe it or not. It's really fun to play dumb and get someone to explain your work to you like you don't know what it is.

I certainly didn't think any of that would happen when I first made the series, or even during development. I think the normal assumption would be to look at DSaF as it exists now and assume its release was a peak for it, but believe it or not, the official discord only had 30 people in it shortly before 3 dropped! The archive listing of the series (reposted to a single page after the series ended) is now sitting at over 1.1 MILLION downloads.

People kinda assume the true heyday of something is when it's new, when it's fresh and novel. For instance, some people look back at when FNaF itself was new and see that time as its peak because it had a lot of internet cultural relevance as big new indie thing on the block. But, raw numbers don't lie. The series has been continually growing since its conception and that growth has similarly bled over to its fan projects. This explains why DSaF, despite not having a new series release in almost 6 years, seems to be inexplicably growing.

Just recently, I saw someone post footage of a scene from DSaF 2 on Twitter, which got over 16k likes. People praised its writing and largely celebrated the scene. The ironic thing about that particular scene is that I remembered being unsure if it was good or not, so I showed it off in one of the FNaF community hubs. The response was broadly lukewarm to negative. Now, it's held up as one of the best scenes in those games. That's kind of the point I'm trying to make, my thoughts on the series have certainly changed with everyone's else with years of hindsight.

Heh. I'm not sure if I've talked about this in a long time, but y'know, the very first scene I implemented in-game was actually the very first Phone Guy scene in DSaF 1, more or less exactly how it appears in-game today. This was before I'd even written the bulk of the game. I was pretty unfamiliar with visual novels as a whole, pretty unsure if something like this would be palatable to a fandom that was really just used to sit 'n' survive stuff that were far more gameplay than text. I mean, there wasn't any FNaF fangames really LIKE DSaF before that point. Closest was FNaFb, a jokey turn based RPG made in the same engine.

The engine I made the game in is also not exactly fit for VNs out of the box either, and I wasn't 100% sure the idea would actually work. But, the very first time I added the image of the prize corner, Phone Guy, the audio of that iconic cheesy stock track and booted up a test screen, I had a little moment where I said "Oh. I think I'm onto something interesting here." I kinda remembering instantly realizing in that single moment how much potential the idea had. Over 8 years later, I still remember that moment like it was yesterday.

I think lately, that's the sort of stuff I think of when I see people coming to me and asking about the series. Yes, it's really rough around the edges, yes, there's jokes that've aged poorly. But, it is a source of comfort for people and entertains tens of thousands of people each month. And that's gotta count for something, right?

[reallyrandomtj]

MUN PSA

Before I mention the results of the tests the doctors did from my Hysterectomy PLEASE be aware they contacted me and said I HAD not I HAVE cancer. The Hysterectomy worked I am CANCER FREE but I will need a few sessions of Chemotherapy/Radiation therapy to make ABSOLUTELY sure it is all GONE due to my families history of cancer making a return trip!

Going under READ MORE to not explode the dash!

What I believed was Grade 1 Cancer ended up being Stage 3 Endometrial ( Uterus ) cancer. According to my doctor the main cancer was 25mm and in my Uterus while another 'smaller patch' tried to grow in ONE of my ovaries. The IUD method I was trying to use merely slowed its progress but clearly did not eradicate it!

My fight is not over yet as I do not know how many chemo/radiation sessions I will need to be fully free from this hell. Technically I have been fighting cancer from AUGUST 23RD 2023 to FEBRUARY 3RD 2025 and still not 100% confident that it will leave me alone!

Once again. Apologies for sounding like a broken record. I would like to THANK ( and wish I could give you all a hug ) everyone who has supported me so far. Be it commenting or liking my MUN PSAs to those who allowed me to VENT over Discord or helped distract me by talking about something or plotting potential rps for us to start once I have recovered enough from my Hysterectomy to sit at my computer.

These things you may consider 'small' or 'not a big deal' is very much appreciated and a big deal to me! Should you need to vent or have a 'shoulder' to lean on for something I do hope you will allow me to return the kindness that you showed me!

ANYWAY. To end this I would like to add that my recovery has been slow but progress has been made which I am happy about. My doctor is happy with my progress so far and the stage of my recovery is normal for those who are ONE week out of hospital so with all of that out of the way I can FINALLY relax and fully focus on my recovery.

[radioradio]

If it's stupid but it works, it isn't stupid.

So I've been literally chasing shadows.

I've got the SB-910 off to the left as a remote flash, 45 degrees to the subject, 45 degree up angle, and diffuser cap on. Pop-up flash on the camera is acting commander. LED panel in the upper right quadrant. f/8, 1/60 sec, ISO 100.

I moved the panel all around trying to get rid of those shadows, but nothing helped. Trying 1/125 sec actually made them worse.

Until... wait. No. It can't be that simple can it?

You won't believe this one neat trick!

I stuck my hand in front of the pop-up flash.

Remote still fired, LED panel still helping off to the right.

Can't help but laugh at what a simple fix it was. As a discord friend said, a hands-on approach.

@sirfrogsworth you're right. Light is neat.

EDIT: a couple of hours later me here. A different discord friend told me to check commander mode settings. There's a '--' setting where the flash will still emit pre-flashes, but not fire for the shot itself.

It does exactly the same thing.

I'm still leaving the post as is, because I feel like it, even it is me not RTFM.

[millieueu]

Meet The Artist! (Remake) || millieueu

(Had to repost it, cause it didn’t do well last time. Blame Tumblr’s automatic “mature” label for this 💀)

Finally remade my old “Meet the artist”/introduction post from 2023!

To anyone new here, hello there! My name’s millieueu (pronounced “mill-lulu”). You can just call me “Millie”. I’m a 15 year old artist who’s obsessed with the color Purple and loves cartoons! I mainly post Danny Phantom related artworks because it’s my favorite show of all time, but I hope I get to branch out to other fandoms I’m passionate about this year.

I’m mostly active only on Thursdays, Fridays and Saturdays because of school. But if I do post outside of those days, then that means I either have a short amount of free time or I have a long holiday.

I have a slight preference for canon over fanon, but I still appreciate the Phandom wholeheartedly because of so many inspiring and amazing artists/writers! 🩷💗 (Liking the canon ≠ supporting everything it does. I’m aware of the show’s flaws and understand the Phandom’s frustration with it, but it still has a special place in my heart 💚👻)

The only DP fanfic I’ve ever actually read was “Reflections” by The Last Letter on Fanfiction. Shocking, I know. I’m more of a fanart person than a fanfic reader tbh, sorry. But if you do have any cool DP fanfics you want me to read, lmk by DMing me or commenting on this post. Just make sure it’s PG-13. Thanks

My ultimate goal is to completely banish my unhealthy habits of self doubt. I wasn’t very kind to myself 2 years ago and it only worsened in 2024. But I hope I can change that and see myself in a better light. I also would like to let go of my jealousy. I had a very toxic view of the Phandom 2 years ago and it really wrecked my self esteem. I’m glad that’s no longer a part of me though.

If you came across any of my old rants/toxicity from any social media last year, then I’m truly sorry. I was a short tempered immature jerk back then and didn’t really think before I speak. I no longer have the energy to talk about ships I hate, it’s exhausting. I promise that I’m trying to change myself and maintain a more positive attitude 💔💔

There will no longer be a blacklist to avoid harassment and unnecessary drama unless the person being blacklisted is causing genuine harm. There will also be no DNI list this time (There was a video that opened my eyes on how useless it is, but I forgot the title 💔). I will soft block anyone that makes me uncomfortable without any warning.

Here are my goals for 2025 :

Here is the old “Meet The Artist” artwork from 2023 :

Some of my artworks :

You can find my socials on my carrd :3 (The only social I’m inactive on is Discord. I have been blocked access from it, so don’t think I’m ignoring your messages. Believe me, I would 100% respond, but I can’t access it anymore :()

If you wanna ask to be friends/mutuals, then go right ahead! I’m happy to make new friends here! You are also free to ask me any questions as long as it isn’t personal or covers anything sensitive (politics, religion, etc..)

Yes! You are free to make fanart of my persona! Just don’t make it inappropriate, thanks!! ^^

I hope you get to enjoy your stay here! Your support means a lot to me! 💜✨

[vladdyissues]

I need some advice. I really want to try my hand at writing pompep but I'm hesitant because I've written several fics in a different fandom and no one seems interested in them anymore. I'm so discouraged I've considered giving up writing altogether. What should I do?

The "success" of a fanfic is typically dependent on the following, in order of importance:

The size (popularity) of the fandom

The age of the fandom*

The popularity of whatever ships you're writing

The actual writing

*Naturally there are outliers like the Danny Phantom fandom, which went 19 years without any new canon media and was still incredibly popular.

Three out of four of these options are completely out of your control (because I believe our fandoms and ships choose us, not the other way around). Don't let yourself be discouraged by the capricious nature of popular culture.

You can be a master wordsmith with 20+ years' experience and writing degrees all over your wall, but if you're only writing rarepairs (100 works or fewer on AO3) with an unpopular trope for a teeny tiny fandom that saw its last heyday in 1988, it's going to be a lonely experience. It's not your fault, and it doesn't mean your works are worthless. All it means is fewer people are seeing them.

This is the formula for a "successful" fanfic:

Write for a popular fandom or ship

Self-advertise on other social media sites

Update regularly

But none of that matters if you aren't having fun. So here's my personal advice to you, anon:

Write for your own joy. Or sick amusement. We don't judge here. But do it because you want to. Don't force it out of a need for approval, validation, or engagement. None of those things is guaranteed to us when we publish something.

Talk about your work on other sites. Make it accessible. Post links and snippets and headcanons and "behind the scenes" stuff. Add a "comments and feedback welcome" line in your author's notes to encourage people to share their thoughts.

Tag often and tag correctly. If you're on AO3, try to use Canonical Tags (tags that are already in the system; these yield more favorable search results).

Become part of the community. Follow fellow fans, join a Discord server, reblog others' works, read their fics, leave comments. (You may already be doing this. If so, keep it up!) Mingle and enjoy yourself. Fandom is community. Elevating others also elevates you.

Update as often as you can, but be careful not to turn it into a chore. If working on a multi-chapter fic becomes an agony, take a break. The motivation will return. (This is where having friends really helps. You can share your writing woes and get unexpected morale boosts.)

Another tip: Try not to focus too much on the numbers. I'm guilty of this myself, and every time I catch myself getting a little too preoccupied with my hits-to-kudos ratio, I have to remind myself that it's not all about numbers. Multi-chapter works have especially poor HTK ratios because people re-read chapters but can only leave one (1) kudo.

Final tip: As with embarking on any new journey, it helps to know the landscape. Be sure to get your hands on all the canon material you can. (Then you can ignore it as you wish lol.)

Happy writing, anon! Best of luck to you 💗⭐🍀🌈🎈

[lovejoyupdate]

I'm hesitant to send this off anon, and I'm not sure if this is a particular kind of discussion this blog is for (I know it's an update blog, but you've engaged in discussion about the whole situation previously. Still, no hard feelings if you just delete this or respond privately). I guess I wanted to toss my own irrelevant two cents in. Wilbur and LoveJoy's music has helped me through a lot, especially with processing my own feelings about certain things. I won't be specific, but I struggle with mental health and my personality disorder a lot. And as a victim of abuse that constantly feels like an abuser, and truthfully has hurt others, Wilbur's music really resonated with me in a way no other music has. And when this all came to light, I did feel betrayed. Recently I've been listening to Wilbur/LVJY again, and it's kind of made me realize that it just doesn't matter as much? I do believe him when he says he's in therapy and trying to be a better person. Even if he was the abusive one, is it wrong for me to want to see him do better? That someone like me who's hurt others and wants to stop causing harm don't deserve to exist or create art? It's complicated. I wish there was more open room for nuance and discussion. Even from WSS I have felt a very hostile air about stigmatized mental disorders, and... lots of misogynistic comments.

It is not wrong of you in the slightest to want that. You're not the only one who felt betrayed, trust me. When it first started, the Wilbur and Lovejoy discord servers were chaos. And in a way, yeah, you are correct for thinking it doesn't matter that much. As I said in the past, bad people can make good music (Melanie Martinez, MSI, Orion Express, etc.)

If what Shubble says is true, I'm still glad that Wilbur goes to therapy. "Once an abuser, always an abuser" is not true 100% of the time. Those WSS members were, unfortunately, from the toxic side of our squad. I really don't understand how Wilbur fans can be misogynistic, honestly.

If you wish to talk about this more, you can always go to my other blog, @soot-support where I talk and post stuff against Shubble (No, I am not anti-SSS, it's just so I don't flood this blog with it)

It's a tiny edit, but this goes to everyone; please don't be afraid to go off anon to tell me your opinions! SSS, WSS, or neutral, I will not judge you unless you interact with hate towards me or a group.

[wind-up-thancred]

Hey I saw ur Thancred face mod and wanted to say…thank you so much!!!! And I miss his old face 🥺 do you think it’s possible to ever get it back? I’m tempted to learn modding just to fix up my boy bc they really massacred him 💀

hi anon! im glad you like the mod. yeah i dont blame you for missing the old face lol, i took one look at it in textools when the patch dropped and went "wtf did they do to my boy... 😢" i think it depends on what you mean by "getting his old face back":

-if you want to start with the 7.0 base face, you could probably open it up in blender next to his old face and use the sculpt tool to physically sculpt his mesh to be closer to what it used to be, but i think past the lips there isn't too much else on the actual geometry to change— maybe his nose and jawline? but to me it feels like a lot of the change also happened to his normal maps, which are the textures that add extra shading detail and volume to the face. the old textures cant be ported over because the new mesh isn't laid out for them, buuuut im aware of a tool being developed currently in the ffxiv loose texture compiler for automatically transforming the old textures to match the new mesh layout. will that work for thancred's unique face? i'm not sure, but it could be worth a try— im fairly certain his unique sculpt is an edited version of one of the male midlander faces, so once that specific face is supported in the tool, it might work. if not, you can always manually adjust the new normal map while referencing the other one. -if you want to start with the OLD 6.58 base face, i believe there is a blender script going around (i saw it in the textools discord last iirc?) for converting old face sculpts to new ones. this is necessary because the new faces have QUITE a few new bones in them that need to be rigged, or else the face will not animate. from there, you MIGHT have to convert some of the old textures as well, but i'm not 100% sure, i think it depends on how well they work at baseline for 7.0. i know there's still a legacy skin shader in the game for older faces since not all of them have been updated yet, so you might be able to switch it to that so that the old textures still work. if that sounds like A Lot, uh... i dont blame you 😅ive been learning xiv modding for about two years ish now so ive got a lil bit of know-how under my belt, but if you want somewhere good to start, i would recommend joining the textools discord, there are multiple channels there for people to ask questions about how modding works, how to mod specific things, lots of tutorials, etc, and im sure therell be something in there to help you along. buuuuut in the meantime, i HAVE seen two other existing mods so far on XMA that do both of the things i mentioned before: https://www.xivmodarchive.com/modid/109670 this one seems to be a very good version of the first fix, where they went in and sculpted his new 7.0 face to be closer to the old one to a higher extent than i did, with his lips, jaw, and nose tweaked. it doesnt have heterochromia or scruff like mine does but i think you should theoretically be able to do that easily— feel free to send another ask if you want me to explain how i did it on my mod. https://www.xivmodarchive.com/modid/109665 this one, meanwhile, is the second fix— they ported the old face model over the new one. it has stubble and no heterochromia but again, if you want to change either of those, id be happy to explain how i did it. i have not tested either of these myself so i have no clue how well these work in-game but im sure they work fine!! i hope either of those help you out and if not i wish you good luck on your modding journey.... esp learning blender ^^" its a pain in the ass at first but trust me it feels really really good once youve figured stuff out!

[mysticpink]

Interdiction!

I believe it’s long gone overdo for an introduction!

Hey! I am Mystic Pink! You can call me Pink or Cookie. Either I don’t mind. I am 18 years old and I am an inspiring animator and official writer with my own manga and anime. I enjoy editing, writing fanfics and chatting!

Some stuff I don’t tolerate on my page is racism, homophobia, bulling, sexism, transphobia, any ai art, ai writing, etc. if you try to push this stuff on my page, you will be blocked.

I have accounts on wattpad, Quotev and AO3. Some stories you may have seen form me are:

Goddess in Naruto?!

Plot: after the events of chapter 10 three of three houses. Sothis woke up in a new world. Making new allies and enemies while also meeting old enemies and allies in this strange world.

Where you can read it?: on Wattpad, Quotev and AO3.

Complete?: no, it’s still ongoing

Fire emblem fates x (brother/sister) reader

Plot: (Y/n) was in Nohr (his/her) life, with (his/her) twin brother Kamui. They left Nohr and they learned the hard truth

Where you can read it?: Wattpad, Quotev and AO3

Complete?: the main story is, yes. But I am still working on the child unit chapters and it’s under edits.

Fire Emblem Engage: Veyle edition

Plot: What is Lumera adopted Veyle instead of Alear? What is Veyle becomes a Divine Dragon? How much will the story change if Veyle was the main character? Follow this story to reveal the answers to these and many more questions!

Where can you read it?: Wattpad, Quotev and A03

Complete?: Still ongoing

Some Fandoms I am in:

Poppy playtime, Fire emblem, Marvel, DC, The 100s, Tmnt, demon slayer, Helluva verse, miraculous ladybug, pokemon

Here are my links to those accounts if you wish to give me a follow there or just want to see what I have already wrote:

Wattpad

Quotev

AO3

Other places you can find me on:

TikTok: Firecookiewolf

YouTube: Mystic Pink

Instagram: mystic_pinkz3

Here is my masterlist for stuff I already posted here.

I also do have a discord server if anyone is interested in joining. I can send a dm to you if you want the link to the server!

Anyways, this is about it for my interaction post. Will probably update it someday. Thanks for taking a read!

[prince-liest]

This may be an odd question, but I believe you mentioned you got into writing because of rp(or at least into fanfiction?) And I was wondering how you transitioned into writing solo? Most of my writing is/was with a partner, but I've been trying to write on my own, and I've found it incredibly difficult. I'm told that what I write is still good regardless, but I've a hard time both finding enthusiasm for it without a partner to bounce off of or finishing whatever I'm working on.

This might just be a me thing and more to do with being self-critical, but if you have any advice, I'd really appreciate it. I just want to figure out how to enjoy writing again without jumping through weird hoops for motivation.

(You may have already been comfortable writing even before rp and if that's the case, feel free to disregard this question.)

I'd tried to write a bit of fanfic before my RP days with limited success motivating myself, so it really was very much RP that got me the skills and ability to be able to write full-form fics!

But more than mechanical skill, mostly I think the issue you face is very similar to what I struggled with for a while when swapping to writing fanfic, which is that a lot of the reason RP is so easy and rewarding is because it's such a profoundly social activity. You write a few paragraphs and then you get social feedback immediately from your RP partner in the form of chatting about it and/or the RP response you get! With fanfiction, you have to write a whole damn piece or chapter, post it, and then hope that you get comments if you want engagement - and then those comments are inevitably going to be a little bit less personal if, like me, you RP OCs that you put a lot of yourself into rather than pre-existing characters!

The problem with doing things for the sake of extrinsic motivation is that it kills your intrinsic motivation to do those things. This isn't a moral flaw, it's a documented psychological effect! Nowadays I write primarily because I want to see the things I put into the world, but that's fucking easy for me to say when I also have a large reader base and really enthusiastic commentors, isn't it? And it took me a hot minute to figure out how to transition to motivating myself that way rather than because I wanted interaction.

My suggestion is, honestly, to find folks that hype you up! I kinda crested that barrier by getting possessed by writing demons and pounding out like 60k words of insane Hawks-centric character study in one month during the 2020 quarantine, and I was lucky enough that people really liked it and immediately flooded my notifications with the kind of really lovely, long-form comments that my writing style encourages, which isn't really a typical experience. Those folks that hype you up, it is LOVELY if they are your friends, but sometimes what you really need to do is find the small social circle of freaks that are really into whatever niche thing it is that you are writing, and infiltrate their Discord. Ship-specific groups are really good for this! (Especially for rarepairs.)

But a lot of it is really going to be finding the balance of finding supportive people who will feed into your excitement, and also finding that part of yourself that finds the process of writing to be fun. Social activity is still 100% just a necessary part of the human experience, and I myself post snippets of my writing online and on Discord all the time for the little dopamine hit of "Yay! We're enjoying this together!" but it's become something I do because I want to share the joy I already get from writing, not because I'm writing to share it!

Which also means that you should write things that you enjoy writing. ;) Write things you are actually excited about - not just things you want to read, but things you think would be fun to write, and if there are boring parts that you're getting stuck on? Fucking skip them! I am not kidding! You think anybody thought it was a loss that I literally never even mentioned how radiostatic got together for the first time in 666? If they did, nobody's mentioned it, because it wasn't necessary to the story I actually wanted to tell. Literally so goddamn many of my fics start with cold opens because I don't like to bother with exposition until things have already gotten rolling. Fanfiction especially is GREAT for this because people are already familiar with the world you're writing in!

You are writing to entertain yourself! If it's not entertaining, don't fucking write it! Or figure out what about it is boring you, and then write it differently. This will have the splendid side effect of teaching you how to write transitions and also making a fic that is more fun to read. >:)

Anyway, this has gotten quite long, so: I'm sorry that I wasn't able to offer a great deal of advice, because I relate deeply to what you're experiencing but I basically got to speedrun the transition phase. I hope that it was at least a little bit helpful!

[glowwithlinaurelia]

Breaking Free: How Societal Stereotypes Limit Young Women and How to Reframe Those Beliefs

Let's talk about something real: societal stereotypes. From a young age, women are constantly told throughout our lives about who we're supposed to be. We're supposed to be quiet, agreeable, nurturing, and perfect. These stereotypes not only shape how others see us, but they also shape how we see ourselves. These stereotypes can create fixed mindset beliefs that limit our sense of identity and potential.

Think about it:

“I’m not good at math or science.”

“I shouldn’t be too ambitious or assertive.”

“I need to prioritize being liked over being heard.”

Sound familiar? These beliefs aren’t just harmless thoughts. They’re barriers. They tell us what we can’t do, who we shouldn’t be, and where we don’t belong. But here’s the truth: you are not defined by stereotypes.

How Stereotypes Create Limiting Beliefs

Internalization: We absorb societal expectations and start believing they’re true.

Fear of Failure: Stereotypes make us afraid to step outside the box, so we avoid risks.

Imposter Syndrome: We doubt our abilities, feeling like we don’t deserve success.

How to Break Free and Reframe Those Beliefs

Challenge the Narrative

Ask yourself: Who told me I can’t? Why do I believe that?

Replace limiting beliefs with empowering ones: “I am capable of learning and growing in any field I choose.”

Embrace a Growth Mindset

Believe that your abilities aren’t fixed. You can develop skills, overcome challenges, and redefine your identity.

Celebrate effort, not just results. Progress is progress, no matter how small. Even if it's 1%, it still counts towards the 100%.

Surround Yourself with Support

Find mentors, friends, and communities that uplift and inspire you. You can join communities on Tumblr or search for Discord servers you align with.

Share your goals and struggles with people who believe in your potential.

Redefine Success on Your Terms

Success doesn’t have to look like what society says it should. What matters is what you value. This is your life after all.

Do not be scared to take up space. Be bold. Be unapologetically yourself. Live in your authenticity. It is what makes you you.

Take Action, Even When It’s Scary

Start small. Apply for that opportunity, speak up in that meeting, or try something new.

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You Are More Than a Stereotype

Your potential is limitless, but it’s up to you to claim it. Reframe those beliefs, challenge the status quo, and step into the person you’re meant to be. The world needs your voice, your ideas, and your brilliance. Don’t let anyone (including yourself) tell you otherwise.

Homework time!📝

What’s one limiting belief you’re ready to let go of? Let’s cheer each other on in the comments! ✨

[kidflashimpulse]

Finally got to read the new chapter and oh my goodness. So many moments that just made me go ‘awwww.’

I love the way you write Barry and Bart’s dynamic. Obviously we’ve seen a bit of the tension the two of them can have with one another, but this time we got to see some of that sweetness (and humor). Bart trying not to grin when Barry tells him he did good was so sweet. Then there was that part of them talking with the kid, and the mention of Bart helping out at Barry’s job (and bringing donuts! I love when people bring donuts to work… best coworkers for the day).

Then there’s a bit of Bart and Ed. Poor Bart- he should’ve just woken Ed up, he’s about to go a long while without him and his maaaaasive… heart :) (Barry’s borderline horrified reaction hahaha). Also the bit about Bart saying he can’t quit Ed- that’s so sweet dude omg. HELP AND BART SPREADING GAY RUMORS ABOUT HIMSELF? Who would’ve thought the public took him for a straight man… poor Bart.

Lastly the mentions of Jay. God, if Bart doesn’t see him before he leaves that’s gonna make it even more soul crushing. And man, you really laid it on thick this chapter. The but about him tucking Bart in sometimes- I don’t even have words that’s just the sweetest thing I may have ever read.

Overall, 100/10 as usual. Incredible work; thank you for sharing your art with us. I know you mentioned a new story about Bart being missing in space, but nonetheless I don’t know what I will do with myself when this one finishes. New chapters have been something I look forward to for… goodness, over a year now? Anyways, thank you again. I hope you have a good day/night whenever you’re reading this <33

u would not believe how hungry i was for donuts when writing that in like i’m still craving them as we speak when will i get my goddamn donuts damnit

it’s so important to me to try to remember to flesh out the good moments between bart and barry, especially since i’m such a fan of them beefing and having tension/discord, i feel like if anything it contributes to the “stakes” of their relationship so i’m really glad to hear that from u :) <33

this is probably way too serious of an answer to smn that doesn’t warrant it lol but hey, what the heck 😂 so of course ppl perceive queerness in all sorts of different ways considering it’s such a spectrum but to me bart’s appeal as a gay guy (in both the comics and the show) is that he’s just such a guy (i have no other way of expressing this 😭) but then he can also so easily slip into having more neutral traits and insights that r just really refreshing in gender expression (not necessarily wrt to his identity, just his overall sense of being), i don’t know, obviously a massive chunk of my interpretation lies in my subjectivity, but the way i see him, i could see “media” perceiving him superficially as straight + combining that with what i feel like is a “speedster reputation” (atleast in YJA) just results in a bunch of moments that allude to those things, that scene included, whether it be for laughs or a very low-key social commentary 😂 but ultimately i just enjoyed writing those scenes cause they cracked me up so i’m glad u enjoyed them too 😂😂

can u imagine bart jetting off into space without resolving anything with jay? that would actually be so funny, don’t tempt me 🫡

regarding that new story of bart in space, yes it largely revolves around the time of his disappearance during YJ phantoms because i’ve been kind of dying to write that (it’s been 84 years and i still can’t believe the episodes ended up like that) but it’s my least developed drafted story so even though “chronologically” its a Part 2 in the series of fics that AAIT is a part of, Retrocausality is the current sequel to AAIT, that hopefully, once AAIT is finished, you might be able to look forward to <3

it’s actually so bizarre that it’s been over a year now with AAIT (possibly even two at this point ??? i have no idea lol), i never imagined it to turn out the way it has and i have to say, it exceeded my expectations (just purely based on the writing journey and experience) by so much, and that’s 100% because of the feedback i managed to get from it. I know i say this time and time again but it’s just so true, i really mean it so much, the response to the fic has really added so much life to it ! and honestly i probably wouldn’t have been anywhere close to finishing it if it weren’t for all the support throughout it. Truly incredible stuff that I will never forget !!

so THANK YOU for ur continued support and joining the journey, i can’t put to words how much i appreciate it truly ! Thank you again for reading and I really hope I continue to write stuff that u can enjoy 💛💛

[ufo-ikawa]

hi, this is me ari.

you��ll have seen that i deactivated my accounts, both my main and my personal. i ran away from everything as fast as i could which was cowardly, and i don’t expect forgiveness at all, but this is an attempt at exposing everything. please share with everyone who read the fics and/or interacted with me.

in november 2021, i opened up ufo-ikawa. i had originally started with writing my own works, because i just wanted to write and join a fandom i really liked— then it snowballed. i have always felt my own writing was bad, and could never live up to others so i did what any pathetic person would do. i stole works from people who’s writing i admired and wanted to be like. (i also had another blog onigiri-mia which was deactivated due to death threats i was receiving daily regarding old drama, and stolen works were also posted there). instead of gaining inspiration, and reaching out to the writers themselves for any meaninful conversations on how to learn to write, i stole them, rewrote them and claimed them as my own.

and as i did, i slowly started to believe in everything i was saying or doing. i did it so much i felt like i was performing an act whenever i did and convinced myself that it was right. in real life, i am just a person who wanted attention so bad, to be liked so bad, to be part of something that i did one of the worst things just to gain it. i guess in a way, identity theft, and then plagiarism.

which i know is absolutely wrong of me. i have also reached out to the creators separately and said my apologies, except for nine3rds who i have been unable to message. i can’t make them accept any apologies and i take 100% accountability, and it doesn’t lessen any guilt i have now that the truth is out or all the wrongs i did, but i thought that was the first step.

the second step is owning up to it and cutting through all the bullshit lies i’ve told myself. this year, one of my goals was to achieve something good for myself. idk about you, but i truly do believe in karma. i will of course get it no doubt, because of all the bad i’ve put out, but i’m also hoping that by being honest and righting my wrongs that even if i’m at rock bottom right now, i can still start somehow. not relevant but something i just wanted to say.

i just wanted to apologise to everyone who i’ve talked to here personally or formed close friendships with. it’s hard to believe me, but just know that when we were talking about our lives that was all real and not fake. i am still just a person, a shitty one at that, but those irl experiences and thoughts i talked about were real. I’m genuinely so sorry for deceiving you in some way. i will never interact again, i will stay off of this site for good, and i will also never try to write and post anything again, so i hope u get some peace of mind out of that. i’ve tried to apologise as best as i could to the close friends i made on discord— i have also disabled that account to let them see, and will eventually be deleting it. thank you for talking to me and making me laugh and just listening to me, even if i didn’t deserve it.

if you’re angry at me and resent me, i completely understand and will not try to speak further. i’ve tried my best to explain it all above, but i won’t open my asks because i hope this post explains it all enough. you can say anything you’d like under this post if it helps.

i’ve deactivated my account but i know the fics stay there so please delete any reblogs and unlike any fic. i am genuinely sorry for deceiving everybody for selfish reasons (that absolutely do not excuse anything). i have a lot of work to put into myself to try and fix things, but i hope this is a start.

now for the most imporant part, i wanted to link the original writers’ work. they are all incredible, and if you liked what i stole then of course you will like them even better as the original. please give them the love they rightfully deserve but please also respect their rules on who interacts:

AO3 lovelanguages

AO3 softbeoms

AO3 nine3rds

that’s all i have to say. thank you, and please share.

[torchmlp]

Quarry ask! Which of the counselors do you think can cook, and which do you think are so bad at it, they could burn water?

Oooh this is a fun ask!

The obvious one who can cook would be Nick since he worked in the kitchen all summer. And I think he'd be really good at it. Obviously his ingredient choices would be limited at camp, but I bet he has a spice rack at home with everything in it, including those spices that no one has ever heard of. Whenever the counselors get together (I fully believe they would have potluck style get togethers), everyone always devours whatever Nick brings. In other words, get that boy a Kiss The Cook apron.

Abi I think would have a basic understanding of cooking. She can make most meals and can follow recipes without issue. I don't think she'd be into any of the real fancy stuff, though, preferring to make simpler meals. She cooks in bulk and then has a lot of leftovers so she doesn't have to worry about cooking every day.

Emma also has basic cooking skills, but I think she'd be more willing to experiment with different things, like looking up recipes online to try if they sound interesting. And then maybe she records it for her followers.

I think for Jacob and Kaitlyn (childhood bffs my beloved) it'd be really funny if Jacob was the one who could cook out of the two of them. And like, he's surprisingly good at it, not Nick levels of good, but still really good. Maybe he had to learn how to make healthy meals for himself when he was in sports because nutrition is important (it's not gonna stop him from splurging on peanut butter butterpops, though). He can also bake really well.

Kaitlyn, if left to her own devices, would eat cheap ramen every day. Could she learn how to cook? Yes. Does she care to learn how to cook? No. I do think she'd know how to make some traditional Chinese meals, but doesn't really bother cooking most days.

I fully subscribe to @ghostradiodylan's headcannon that Dylan is a disaster cook due to his ADHD. He would get distracted and forget that he was heating something until he'd smell smoke and by then it's burnt to a crisp. He just doesn't have the attention span to focus on cooking, especially with recipes that require waiting for something to boil or heat up. Maybe he could do crockpot meals where you just throw the ingredients in, turn it on, and forget about it until the end of the day. But mostly I think he would stick with easy microwave meals (just throw it in the microwave and heat it for however long and then it's ready. No other prep work) as long as he could hear the timer go off when it was ready.

Ryan can definitely cook. He probably learned more out of necessity than anything since he had to help take care of his sister. Maybe he finds it relaxing. I could see him learning some skills from his grandmother for his cooking.

I don't remember who said it in the quarry brainrot discord (come join us!) but Laura is definitely a grill master and has a Grill Daddy apron. The girl can make a mean steak/burger/ribs. I bet she even has her own smoker.

Max straight up can't cook. He's a kitchen disaster. One time he wanted to surprise Laura with breakfast in bed and it ended in him spilling pancake batter everywhere, burning the eggs, undercooking the bacon, and nearly causing a kitchen fire when the toaster short-circuited (he was saved by Laura waking up to the sound of the fire alarm going off and using the extinguisher on the poor toaster. She still said it was one of the best breakfasts she had ever had). He can't cook, but boy can he bake. @itscomingupaces said that Max can make a mean cheesecake and that's 100% true.

Thank you for the ask! What's everyone else's headcannons?

[somenamewithepineapple]

✨G’day, mate! It’s ya buddy, HEX anon again!✨

Thank you for your amazin’ reply to my previous message. Am I right to believe that Silrah being (like) a married couple is your headcanon as well as how you view their relationship? I kind of put two questions in one but got one answer for those, so I’m not entirely sure I understood that correctly 😅.

Now, I got some new questions for ya:

Could you tell me your top 3 in fic genres?

Would you prefer a fic with just Farah and Saul, or could I potentially add some side characters? If I can, are there any you wouldn't want in there?

What are your feelings about Farah’s nap? Are you a “fixing it with a resurrection” gal, or a “she’s been alive all this time” gal?

How do you think Christmas is celebrated in the Other World? Is it still called Christmas? And which member of our beloved Silrah pair would be most likely to act like a Scrooge? Or would neither of them?

Please be as elaborate as you'd like, I’m here to get to know you and figure out what would be the best present for you, so I need all the information I can get! Give me aaaaall the brain rot, don’t hold back 😀

Just for fun: Tea or coffee? Fairy lights or candles? Paper book or ebook?

See ya! Yeehaw! 🤠

I see someone is checking the event channel on discord. Blink twice if you're currently online :D

Yes. you're right. I mean I also did give one answer to two questions so I'd say I definitely see their relationship in the show as something like a soulmate bond (ugh this is so cheesy but whatever) and my headcanon would be that while they're not married, they basically have been behaving like a married couple for the last 30 or so years. They themselves probably don't even know if they're married or not because you know it's been so long and who knows what they signed when they got drunk at the campfire together? They certainly don't.

My top 3 are: (no particular order btw, I don't have a favourite child)

Enemies to Lovers babey whoohooo (is that a genre? I don't think so but I am also known for interpreting questions however the fuck I want so I'm sorry for misinterpreting your question to tell everyone how much I love this kind of fanfic lol)

AUs (the possibilities as well as the "I will love you in every life" gooooodness how beautiful is this? Am I right??)

Angst (but not the sad ending please don't kill anyone it's Christmas!!! however I'm always in for some drama and I'm 1000% certain Farah tried to hide all her severe injuries from Saul because there were more important matters according to her which resulted in Saul trying to gently tell her that a stab wound is in fact a matter of importance)

You can totally add however many side characters you want as long as it is not Dane (who the fuck is Dane anyway?)

Farah's nap... honestly I can do both, although I'd rather lean towards "She's been alive all along" because I refuse to believe in stupid/boring deaths. Also S2-Saul's non-reaction supports my theory

I know I know Christmas is a first-world holiday but what about mulled wine and fairy lights and christmas trees? So while I think they probably don't celebrate Christmas (or maybe became a thing some years ago) I always pictured the otherworld having some sort of winter solstice and new year's celebration with loads of cringe family dinners and gift-panicking and kissing under the mistletoe. What should I say, I'm a romantic. And speaking of romantics, I can picture Farah as an accidental Scrooge-Grinch but without the "messing up the holiday for everyone else" part. Of course our dear Saul would make it his mission to make her enjoy the days.

I hope my brain rot was helpful!

And:

Tea and coffee, depending on my mood and sometimes both at once

Fairy lights probably, mostly because I don't have to get a lighter for them but I want both on my Christmas tree! Because real candles are the real deal!

Paper books 100% except for when I'm travelling because that's when ebooks are more convenient.

Hasta the next time, HEX anon 😊☄️

[lackingworth]

Why I am so great 

by lackingworth

In a world where man can bend fate to their will. A world with men that make something out of nothing. A world where those men are referred to as wizards. Then who am I in such a world? IM A FUCKING WIZARD.

Why spend your life wishing for a miracle when you can create one? Why live your life trying to change when you can cast a spell that changes the world for you? Why give up on looking for the lost left sock when you can cast a spell to find it? 

Sadly being a wizard isn't the perfect life. Because even as a wizard, I legally still have to look like a normal human. Which means that I have to constantly remind people of how great I am. How do I do that you may ask? Well, there isn't one single best way of showing off my wizardry powers. But I can at least tell you about some of my favorite ways. Sometimes I like turning water into wine in front of old people who don't understand magic yet. And tell them that I am Jesus. But that got me arrested twice so I stopped doing that. Other times I just read people's brains. Which is illegal but they can never tell the cops. I already got so much dirt on them. You wouldn't believe just how fucked up some people are. They are lucky I don't report them to the cops after what I read in their heads.

Lastly, sometimes I like to give people a cold for no reason. Just for fun 

Huh? You think I am an asshole for doing these things? Well, that just means that you're listening well.

As a wizard, I can cast a lot of spells such as teleportation, fireball, and “depression curing”.

Other than depression curing I mostly use teleportation. It's really convenient. Teleporting to the kitchen to take a look in the fridge. Teleporting out of a party without anyone noticing. Teleporting to my neighbor's kitchen to take a look in their fridge. It is a great spell that I recommend to all new wizards. Just make sure not to teleport your arms where your ears are. Happens way more often than you might think.

But other than all of that there really isn't much more to being a wizard. I mean other than not having to pay for the electric or water bill. And being able to duplicate money. The government hasn't really put much regulation on that yet. Seeing how most current wizards are “respectable individuals that wouldn't do such petty crimes”. Honestly, that's just stupid. My cousin is a wizard and he fucking cooks meth.

Anyway, I am happy that you now know of my greatness. You can always show your gratitude by giving me money. If you're a fan of me now or have even fallen for my greatness here is my discord "lackingworth". Don't worry I will 100% ignore you. But you trying to reach out to me would fuel my confidence.