#also tboy swag if I do say so myself

[amorphousgenderlesscryptid]

where do I get Opulence’s outfit

[skulls-and-wishbones]

I’ve been fighting this fight for YEARS

I think I'm gonna start using he/him for the moon on purpose now.

[roykiller07]

i am always so scared and avoidant of explaining my identity to anybody (even, if not especially, myself) in any more words than the vaguest description possible ("im trans these r my pronouns and im a lesbian") because i cant telepathically transmit my gender into their brain so theyll never understand the complexity of it and will think something is wrong with it because im 100% nothing if not a lesbian but my nonbinaryness does not necessarily exclude manhood but it also does at the same time?? idk. wish ppl would stop trying to get me to explain my nonbinary identity in binary terms (im ppl nobody is asking me to say anything more than what i already do)

that comedian was so right i am a man in the way that kraft singles are cheese. it presents like it would be in the same category, it tastes like an offputting version of the real cheeses, a lot of people would call it cheese and it calls itself cheese too unless legally restricted but when you look at the actual content it is an entirely completely different substance. which doesnt make it any less a cheese persay but certainly also makes it definitely NOT a cheese at the same time. and its way better on grilled cheese than normal cheese is. not sure how that fits into the metaphor but its important to me

the same can be said for the way that im a woman and for both a large majority of the "ingredients" are completely internalizations of external inputs instead of any actual innate part of my being, like being a girl in the weird girl by mommy long legs way or in the impact of growing up a girl in a sexist society way or in the betty grof way or in the autistic female cartoon characters way or in the when choosing which character was OUR character growing up amidst my siblings in any game or show, often ending up w the only girl instead of just anyone that resonated with me way (was always mad at the games/shows for only having one girl, never upset about having to be her instead of someone else unless one of my siblings took the cool genderless-esque one) (maya and zero from borderlands...) or in the im my mother's daughter way or like being a guy in the random stray cat of indeterminate sex way or in the when every new person got confused about my gender as an androgynous kid, laughing super hard with my whole class/whoever was there about how dumb they were but always avoiding answering/correcting them clearly and getting upset if someone else told them i was a girl way or in the feeling very uncomfortable when anyone but my family specifically called out that i was a girl as a kid way (when alex tried to tell me i was the ruler QUEEN not the ruler KING for my collection of rulers..... die) or in the im my brothers brother way or in the drag king way or in the tboy swag of harold tdi way or you know i could go on for literal eons and still feel like i didn't list enough. plus a lot of the items on BOTH lists apply to BOTH options

and besides that im also like totally disconnected from gender?? i definitely still feel agender and genderfluid at the same time all the time not to mention the constant banging at the door in the back of my head for catgender begging to be let out. overall point blank period i know that the reason i feel this way about my gender is because im autistic and when social constructs don't come naturally to me that includes gender. but that's never like. a definitive enough answer for other people or for my own sanity and it makes me mad because NOBODY UNDERSTANDSSS MEEEEEEE [emo crying on knees]

whatever who actually cares (me)

i think the last time i felt properly fully self expressed was when i was 10 and had a scratch account named mr fox and used a persona called mr fox on it and part of what was special about me was that my name was mr fox but i was actually a girl even though i would throw up if someone called me a miss or mrs

[snoopybutch]

hii i really really hope this doesn’t come off as intrusive??? but i’m a baby lesbian and i’m really interested in listening to butches talk about their experiences with gender and masculinity. so, from your personal experience why do you like to use the term "boy", as a lesbian? and what are your thoughts on "tboy" lesbians (which i think means trans boy lesbians but i’m not too sure)

hi! no worries! I actually have a lot of thought on this but, i want to make it clear that i think experience with sexuality and gender, specifically butch lesbian masculinity can be different for each person and you can have fun with it. i’m 21 and been identifying as a butch lesbian for over 2 1/2 years but was identifying as a nonbinary lesbian for much longer. I’ve used boy and girl interchangeably for a lot of my life bc i enjoyed switching up and messing around with labeling myself. As a transmasc lesbian who uses they/them pronouns, (sometimes he but depends) while I am a lesbian I don’t have a lot of shared experiences with cis unlabeled lesbians (there’s nothing wrong with being cis or unlabeled it’s just not my personal scene) An important facet of my identity is i’m also fat and not classically “androgynous” nor do i really want to be, i don’t look like what comes up when you search for androgynous ppl but i do look like a “stereotypical” fat butch lesbian. which is awesome! i think it’s fun to mess around with how you’re referred to and to see what you want to describe yourself with. ppl in the community have used boy or boi to describe themselves for a while and i have fun with jokingly saying phrases like “tboy swag” or “boys gotta have his supper” about myself, am i a trans man? i don’t really think so but that could change! if you’re younger and worrying abt how sexuality and gender intertwine my best advice is to make friends with trans ppl, ppl who go against the grain and the “weirdos.” have fun with it and don’t hurt yourself navel-gazing or introspecting too hard. if you want, feel free to DM me but i’m not the authority on any of this stuff! it’s just my personal view on it and i encourage anyone to find their own.

[geckobrains]

still not sure how we are going to approach this in regards to our online presence. the thing is that previously when it was just phi, lotus, & bee, the other two werent around a lot. so phi just based their online presence around themself and whenever the other two showed up they would just identify themselves.

now there's a bunch of us who are all really active, switching in and out multiple times a day. and i think i speak for all of us when i say we do not want to just Pretend to be one person.

so far we have identified 7 of us. there may be even more than that. so you see the problem. and again, we are switching A Lot.

we are open to suggestions as to how to approach our online presence.

& if ur curious, here's a list of everyone we've identified, & some other information, below the cut:

- Riley (it/she). riley is the most similar to what would have previously been Phi, before we split. chill and laidback butch girl. and is also a dog.

- Sunny (she/her) (the one writing this). relatively similar to Riley but a few degrees sillier. idk its hard to fully describe myself well at this point bc again we are still figuring a lot of shit out. but im a cat. meow.

- Theta (he/it). just a completely fuckin new guy, Theta is our resident big scary dog/wolf boy. he has so much tboy swag. acts serious but ultimately is a bit of a softie.

- Mips (they/she) (mips wrote the original "ah fuck btw we split" part of this post). silly little bunny thang. so silly. just here to have fun. all the hello kitty autism went to her.

these four have all properly fronted, as of right now the first three (Riley, Theta, & me) are all kinda the Main folks, we're all around a pretty equal amount of time, probably gonna be running most stuff. this COULD change as more of us become active but i kinda doubt itll change much?? Mips fronts a bit less than the rest of us, mainly bc we are the three most capable.

now there's three that we've idenitifed but havent properly fronted yet (one did front briefly by accident but we learned Nothing):

- Neven. neven is some sort of goth bitch. thats generally all we know.

- Marlow. marlow is some sort of high femme bitch. that's generally all we know.

- Halcyon/Hal (fronted once briefly). we know absolutely fucking nothing about Hal.

there's most likely at least one more that we havent really "found" yet. maybe more than that even. but this is what we've learned so far.

as of right now we are also not sure if we are like.... wholly seperate or if we're sorta facets that make up "Phi" or something. Idk. still figuring it all out.

now. i know some people may not be so open about such a thing on the internet, on a public internet profile. its something that some may consider extremely personal or private information. and you may criticize us for being so open if you'd like, but we dont really Give A Fuck. most of the people who follow us are our friends. (honestly we might even prune our followers to be Just our friends at some point. not sure yet.). and we would like our friends to know whats going on. we want our friends to know who we are. i think i speak for all of us when i say we do not want to pretend not to be plural or pretend to be someone we are not. we dont want to use a fake name or pronouns that arent actually Ours because of "privacy" or "simplicity" or something. this is who we are. we want to be ourselves.

if anyone has any questions about us or plurality in general we are more than happy to answer. just DM us. we know this may be difficult and confusing for everyone to adjust to, both ourselves and our friends. but its something that Needs to be adjusted to. if you cant handle that then we can simply Not Be Friends.

that is all. thank you.

- Sunny

aw fuck. aw shit. our fuckin about pinned is now just Fucked. honestly idk how to even entirely approach our online presence now.

so if you didnt know (how could you not know) Phi has been part of a plural system of three for a good few years now. a couple days ago, "Phi" split. so theres a whole bunch fuckin more of us now and we're probably gonna be sharing our online presence now.

(sidenote: how can you have Seven fucking names and think "This is normal, I am a singular person. I am in a system with others but I am a single alter who just has seven names" YOU FUCKING BUFFOOOON.)

[genderificationbeam]

pinned post, pls read <3

- testimony from @noelfieldinggenderenvy

heyy im tee jay/TJ!! the t stands for tboy swag and the j stands for jordaan

i dont Have to give u a list of all my Axes Of Oppression but it's probably of note that i'm a black (gender)queer AuDHD typea guy. FtM is alright, butch is alright, trans man or trans masc are alright, i'm really not picky about most labels

im 20 :] whooaaaaa immso fuggin old

he/it prns, emphasis on the it. tryin out zie/hir also!

i’m a gender accelerationist and generally pretty autistic about Gender, and a gender abolitionist when we define Gender as a System.

im an annoying choir kid and i am going 2 school for music ed :p (music studyblr / general nerd blog @mediantriaad !!)

im some flavor of communist and a few flavors of anarchist <3

idgaf about tumblr queer discourse, i refer to myself with whatever words i like and i respect that other people do the same.

i dont tag the word queer and if you tag my posts as “q slur” or "q word" i will block you. totally fine if the term makes you uncomfortable for personal use but Queer is my whole identity/community, and i really dislike seeing that facet of myself trigger tagged-- so i hide it when i see it. tag it as "queer" if you don't want that to happen but you do need to filter it for whatever reason

(i am also not a huge tag user in general outside of conversational tags! im pretty good about tagging unreality, everything else (including slurs) i tend to not tag or forget to tag, fair warning)

i dont really have a dni bc i just block ppl if i dont want to see their account but you will probably get blocked if you’re truscum, a capitalist, an exclusionist, yk.

i also rb a lot of stuff / have a lot of takes abt transmasc specific oppression, mostly bc its what i operate under and what im comfortable speaking on as a trans dude; that said, all my transfem and transneutral siblings-in-arms have a special place in my heart <3

spam likes/reblogs appreciated, i very often forget im on Someones Blog and not my dash so you'll get em from me too unless you explicitly say not to

interests + hobbies include: dimension 20 (sideblog), scaring the hoes music (noise, musique concrète, loud wailing indie, midwest emo, [contemporary] classical, prog, metal, occasional guilty-pleasure blink-182, you know the deal), bad horror movies, good horror movies, music composition/arranging (mostly contemporary classical, ttbb acapella, and noise), crochet, queer theory, Red!, shit, piss idc

alright heres some links since we're here:

spotify

last.fm

guestbook

pronouns.page

gay obama be like uhhhhhhhh let me be queer

[saturdaymournings]

When you get this you have to answer with 5 things u like about yourself, publicly. Then, send this ask to 10 of your favorite followers(non-negotiable, positivity is cool) ❤

also got this ask from @geekgirl78, so thanks to both of you :)) really appreciate that. this has given me a lot of time to think about the positive aspects of myself

1. I like to think I'm a good person, I try my best to do well by others and always have good intentions behind things

2. My sense of humour is pretty good

3. My eye colour is pretty cool, hella blue

4. People say I'm really good at playing bass

5. I probably have the tboy swag