#also lots of other things. i think exposing minors to suggestive/nsfw content

[sycamorality]

saw a bitch ass motherfucker (wolfs42)'s art earlier today. Did not expect to ever see that fucker again

[hvrbinqer]

𝐖𝐀𝐍𝐓 𝐓𝐎 𝐑𝐄𝐐𝐔𝐄𝐒𝐓 𝐒𝐎𝐌𝐄𝐓𝐇𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐓𝐑𝐀𝐕𝐄𝐋𝐄𝐑 ? ✧

safe for work ONLY

be specific/descriptive with your request

angst to fluff, comfort, maybe suggestive

make sure to write in detail what it is you want

𝐒𝐂𝐄𝐍𝐀𝐑𝐈𝐎𝐒 | 𝐎𝐍𝐄𝐒𝐇𝐎𝐓𝐒 | 𝐃𝐑𝐀𝐁𝐁𝐋𝐄𝐒

one character per request in this format

be specific ; what character do you want? female/male or gender neutral? any special events or occurrences?

you can also send me a prompt and i will go off of that, with other specifics or a starting line

𝐇𝐄𝐀𝐃𝐂𝐀𝐍𝐎𝐍𝐒

five characters is the maximum

what is the scenario/topic ; how they react to xyz? doing a certain activity together? this character is most likely to __

𝐂𝐀𝐍 𝐈 𝐑𝐄𝐐𝐔𝐄𝐒𝐓 𝐓𝐑𝐈𝐆𝐆𝐄𝐑𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐂𝐎𝐍𝐓𝐄𝐍𝐓 ?

no, i will write for depression + anxiety, comfort and angst content but no dark content

i do not write ; non-con, yandere, nsfw content, abuse, shaming of characters, or making a character toxic

these are very serious issues, i refuse to write any trope where character a is suffering from xyz (above) but then character b comes into their life and everything is suddenly okay. these are serious issues that require professional help. i don’t want to romanticize these issues or use them as a convenient plot device.

𝐖𝐇𝐀𝐓 𝐄𝐋𝐒𝐄—

refrain from sending any negativity into my inbox—it will be deleted. do not plagiarize any of my fics! i also have the right to refuse any requests. if i don’t feel comfortable with it or don’t have the inspiration i will let you know

remember it is YOUR responsibility to filter out and block content you don’t want to see. you are on the internet so you will be exposed to a lot of different content. be mature and do not hate on others who write something you don’t like. (i always try to tag things appropriately altho i don’t write any nsfw or dark content) i have a tag system in place on my blog for these reasons!

𝐃𝐎 𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐈𝐍𝐓𝐄𝐑𝐀𝐂𝐓 | 𝐁𝐄𝐅𝐎𝐑𝐄 𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐅𝐎𝐋𝐋𝐎𝐖

racist, homophobic, transphobic, misogynist, islamophobic/hate on any religion, supporter of all lives matter, support trump, support pedophilia, bash on people

send hate/negativity to others on any platform. any negativity sent into my inbox will be deleted and you will be blocked.

if you are in the mha fandom i don’t really mind you interacting with me, but if you write nsfw or consume nsfw for mha i would prefer if you did not interact for reasons.

if you support those who start discourse, plagiarize, steal others artwork/edits, bash on others and the characters they like or attack nsfw/dark content blogs.

if you write nsfw content that sexualizes minors, do not interact with me. i don’t care if you use the weak excuse of ‘age up’ —it is just an excuse to write sexualized content about them. i would prefer if you did not interact or follow me, i’ve had to block a few people in the past that do, i will not hesitate to hard block you if you do this. it makes me super uncomfortable.

hate on scaramouche and childe! i don’t care if you dislike them or not—but DO NOT come into my inbox or message me just to deliberately hate on them or bash me for liking scaramouche! and please do not villainize these two if you request for them, i love them both and they are my comfort characters.

request characters as toxic (i will not shape or form a certain character as toxic or cruel to others—characters to the extreme or out of their character personality)

if you ship kae/luc, make racist jokes about the characters or make ginger jokes about childe. sexualize klee, diona, and qiqi—please do not interact with me or come into my inbox requesting for this, please.

i don’t care if you are a proshipper or an x reader, but please be mindful of others and what they like. don’t force your ship onto others or on my blog. i think a lot of the ships are cute but i am an x reader blog only

—i don’t write character x character

𝐡𝐯𝐫𝐛𝐢𝐧𝐪𝐞𝐫 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐞𝐫𝐯𝐞𝐝. do not plagiarize my work.

[interact-if]

Welcome to Mod Appreciation Month!

This event is a lowkey one, designed for us to take some time to catch up on asks, rec lists, and other blog pages that happen mostly in the background such as the masterlists, database, and post tagging.

This blog is a lot of work! And we're happy to help out with promoting authors and exposing readers to new and interesting stories based on their interests!

That being said, we need a break!

This is why we are closing the inbox for July.

Please refrain from sending asks for rec lists through submissions. We’re leaving that line open specifically for new authors to submit their projects.

We are going to utilize this time to try and clear out our inbox--we have over 100 messages, most of them asking for rec lists, which take a few weeks at a time to properly curate, tag, and put in the queue.

We will also be working behind the scenes on other projects we hope to show off soon!

We're thrilled y'all are eager to read more, and we'll be back in August for sure. For now, if you need to get in contact with us, feel free to reply to posts, DM one of the mods, or get in contact with us over on our discord.

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Below the cut are our rules, guidelines, and FAQ for recommending or suggesting games as well as general practice and etiquette.

We'll be back in August! <3

Now, to get into some of the details. (This applies regardless of the event to every ask sent, even if the inbox is currently closed.)

RULES WHEN SENDING ASKS

If you can and it is relevant, please tag your asks with content warnings in the beginning. Such as (cw violence) or (cw death), this is an extra precaution to keep both our mods and our readers safe and well-advised. This will also make tagging easier!

Please keep your asks as brief as you can! Any asks that are more than two asks long may get eaten by the Tumblr machine and/or may not be answered due to length.

If your ask hasn't been answered, it may be because it already has been! Be sure to search the tags and FAQ before sending in an ask.

Please don't spam! We won't respond to inappropriate asks or asks that have already been answered.

Recommendation lists

If you are submitting an ask for a rec list please be aware that these lists take a lot of time and effort to make! In average, it might take us up to two weeks to fully finish and queue a rec list, sometimes even longer. We’re happy to put them together but we ask for patience and understanding.

With that in mind, here are some guidelines:

Please look through the #interact-if asks and #if: rec list tags before sending and ask.

Constantly looking out and keeping track of IF projects takes a good chunk of our time among our other responsibilities as mods. For this reason, we came up with a tagging system that makes it easy for our audience to look through the blog. Unfortunately, it gets overlooked most of the time.

And for this reason, we get repetitive asks, which we ignore and delete.

The tagging system is there for your and our convenience. If you’re not sure whether you’re asking for a rec list of the same theme/genre that has already been posted, please consider looking through the aforementioned tags before sending an ask.

As much as we love entertaining the rec list asks, it does tend to be bothersome having to constantly reblog and link new asks to the posted rec lists, as well as reminding people to use the tagging system.

Please make your ask neither too broad nor specific.

This isn’t to sound finicky we promise! If an ask is looking for fantasy IFs without specifics we cannot properly curate a list of what you’re looking for. Is it modern fantasy? Medieval? Non-Eurocentric? Do you want fae fantasy? Supernatural? Fantasy is one of the most popular genres and asks like this example we cannot properly answer.

This is why we ask for rec list requests to be not too broad.

As for narrow–too narrow an ask will likely return a very short or non-existent list! At the end of the day there are only so many IFs and very specific niches may not be filled. We will try our best to answer, but likely your list will result in games adjacent to your request that we think best kind of sort of fit your request. We’re doing our best with the IFs that are out there.

Please be patient!

We often spend several days working on a single list. If your ask hasn’t been answered yet it may still be in the works or in our queue! If it’s been a long while and it still has not been answered, it may have been ignored for a variety of reasons including: Too broad an ask, too similar to previous rec lists, contains NSFW or offensive materials, etc. Please refrain from sending multiple check up asks

On the topic of NSFW asks/content…

We have received some inquiries regarding NSFW (like smutty scenes) recommendations in IF recently, and believe it best to clarify the stance Interact IF has on the matter.

We will be refraining from answering questions about explicit sexual content in IF. We as a team do not feel we have the expertise to help with this, nor have we been on the lookout for explicitly sexual IFs.

As well, it is not entirely suitable for the blog, as Interact IF is for all ages and there may be minors following it.

We would like this blog to remain as SFW as we can manage, with games properly tagged for their age groups and limiting asks and rec lists to non-sexually-explicit content.

With that in mind, feel free to get in contact with us anytime and we’ll do our best to find what you’re looking for!

Game Recommendations

Before sending in a game, please keep these aspects in mind:

DO

The game must be interactive fiction–the reader plays a character (either customizable or pre-determined) and makes choices that influence the game in some way.

The game can be text-based or a visual novel.

The game does NOT violate copyright (i.e. A published for-profit IF that is using the Star Wars universe. If it is not-for-profit (it’s free to play) then this is fine)

DON’T

If you play a character and can physically move them (walk, run, jump, attack), we consider this a video game and isn’t currently a niche we are supporting.

Recommend a game produced by a company–we are here to support individual authors or games written collaboratively by a group of authors/artists/etc.

Don’t recommend games that glorify violence, sexual violence, racism, sexism, and so on. Or which has (an) author(s) who also have a history of having engaged In aspects like these.

If your rec is good to go, here’s what you have to do! If you are able please provide a link to the post to reblog - this makes it a lot easier on us!If the game is 18+What language/program the game is in (Twine, Choicescript, Ren'py, etc.)If the game has a currently playable demo. If you would like your game reblogged/recc'ed, let us know with the same info/more if you like!

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

Can you recommend games that are finished or complete?

We have a tag for that! Check out #status: complete, though you can also check out COG, Hosted Games, and search for complete games on Itch.io.

I can’t find a game and can’t remember the title, help!

If you’re struggling to find a beloved game and can’t remember the title–go to our Reddit and see if it’s there at the Lost & Found! If not, you can ask our community on the Reddit to help find it, or join our discord and ask there!

I noticed you failed to include x game on a list, so I will inform the author about it.

Please, don’t. The mods here are nothing but human, so we do our best to include as many games as we can remember, and frequently ask other people for help. However, this doesn’t mean we will include every single game in existence. We will forget, things will slip, so the least we ask of you is to leave a reply or send an ask and we will add it in. We promise we always keep a close eye on those.

The extra step of informing the author about this is unnecessary. The only thing you’re causing is either making the author feel left out or having them reach out to us to be added, which is essentially the same thing we ask of you to do. There’s no need to get a third party involved within something that can be easily tackled, so please respect us instead of putting our blog in a bad light.

The only suggestions we ignore and might erase are the ones we realize don’t fit the theme of the ask, or ones that don’t fit the guidelines specified in the question right below this.

What we do not promote.

Trans-exclusive radical feminism

Gratuitous sexual violence (This includes pedophilia, domestic abuse, r*pe, etc.)

Racism, including cultural appropriation, stereotyping, whitewashing, brown face, etc.

Any and all versions of sexism

Religious phobic rhetoric (Islamophobia, belittling indigenous religions, etc.)

And so on.

We also do not promote authors who have aligned themselves with these rhetorics, whether or not they are exhibited in the author's playable content.

[boyfhee]

cael as one of the older kids (i’m assuming 🤧) on sfw enhablr (not saying ur old !! 😭😭 it’s just that there’s a lot of minors on here) how do you feel abt the current content for the maknae line? like ik it’s not always super sexualized or anything but sometimes i see stuff that’s just the way it’s worded really rubs me the wrong way ☹️ esp bc some of the kids on here are so young it makes me feel like if they see stuff like that , they might start think it’s okay for others to treat them the same or vice verse … whenever i see edits of niki on tiktok , i have to avoid the comments bc there’s almost always like a “daddy” , “how is he 16” or “you don’t know what you do to me” like wtf he’s a literal child ?? it makes me so mad and honestly so uncomfortable :( and i saw an article on kboo today too that said niki apparently has around 200 explicit or mature fics written abt him on ao3 … sometimes even the fboi trope (usually when it’s written abt minors) bothers me bc i see minors writing abt it (like 13-15 y/o) and i don’t understand why they don’t just use the term player or smtg … bc they’ll go out of their way to mention how the character has sex a lot an whatnot , even that feels way too suggestive for me personally for a minor too write let aline abt a minor too , sorry for the rant,, i was just wondering how you felt … omg also though tbh i noticed that some of the minors on here / blogs in gen seem way too comfy on here like they’ll be sharing where they live , their actual names and sometimes like giving a lot of personal info … like did they not learn abt internet safety or do they just no care? as one of the older kids , i kind of worry abt them :( i really hope everybody stays safe on here <3 & some reminders: never be afraid to block anyone ! bc i’ve seen a lot of minors on here get sent stuff from the p*rn bots or just weird dms :( & u don’t need to force yourself to interact with someone , make sure ur comfy with them first !

HELP THIS IS SO LONG I THOUGHT I WAS GETTING CANCELLED OR SMN 💀 and pls there's not a single day i dont feel old on kpopblr, it's just that the general community here holds an average age of 13-15 years :/ ALSO PLS DONT APOLOGIZE FOR RANTING IT'S FINE !!

TW : mentions of nsfw and all yeah .

as for your question, i'm sorry if my response isn't what you expected because i rarely read for maknae lines. first of all, the only 4th gen group i read for is enha, so i don't know how bad things are in other fandoms ( and i've heard abt nct blr being nothing but a pit of smuts— no offence to the writers— but i agree ) about niki though, i personally haven't encountered any such comments but some of my friends have reported seeing nsfw accounts for enha maknae lines, which is straight up disgusting because they're minors. probably one of the main reasons why i don't read for maknae line because i legit can't trust minors here, except a few that i have known for a while. the thing about minors ( 13-15 y/o as you said ) writing nsfw / borderline nsfw, whether for minors or adults, is so messed up because that's straight up wrong. i don't care if you were exposed to such topics at the age of 10 or whatever, if i spot you, a minor, writing nsfw i'm going to block you.

and smut about minors is even more messed up because it's like a gate to tell people that yeah, you can have sex at 16 it's fine, completely normal— which it isn't. moreover, how would you feel if someone wrote a smut about you when you're just 16? and not even smut, i think some people tend to see niki the way they see heeseung, which is also depicted in fiction. the point here is that heeseung is an adult while niki is not, and creating a line between how you write the two of them is very important. you can make suggestive jokes, go on, but not a suggestive work. that's weird, it's messed up.

honestly, i just don't read for maknae line in general lmao. sunoo is fine at times, but you'll rarely spot me reading a jungwon fic, and reading for riki is even rarer; same with writing. like, i know i have riki fics in works but they don't revolve around romance or whatever. i simply don't feel comfortable bcz jungwon is like, just a few months older and niki is younger than me. i think it's just a personal preference but as an adult, i prefer writing for hyung line over everyone else in the group. besides, i once saw someone writing a make out scene with niki and it was so descriptive, i scrolled so fast lmao 🏃‍♀️💨 i mean ok if you're dying to writing a kissing scene but there's a limit ??? he's a minor and you're writing about grinding i ????? also the kboo article im 💀 it's funny because if someone would sexualise a minor irl people would go off but suddenly it's all normal in fictions ( and i just don't mean kpop fics. it's wrong even if you're writing for fictional characters who are canonically minors ) and, i've seen MANY users posting nsfw right on the day an idol turns adult ( like i knew a sunoo one pls ) as if they were waiting for him to turn legal, only to write smut ?? which is so disgusting. fortunately, the user got called out for their actions.

yeah long story short : if i spot you writing inappropriate stuff for minors, i will call you out on your bs i don't care if it ends up with you deactivating or whatever

ALSO YEAH IVE SEEN MANY KIDS DISCLOSE THEIR PERSONAL INFO PLSS, like yawll have an alias for 'privacy' but would give away your school's name to one person you met online like three days ago 🧍‍♀️ there's a reason why people warn you about internet safety and honestly, if stuff hasn't happened to you doesn't mean it can't in future.

you need to watch out for yourself especially if you're on a website which is rated for users above your age ( like tumblr ) since you would be the only one responsible for your actions. btw im so tired of porn bots like a few days ago i had one send me link to her nudes ???? it was 7 in the morning . AND IVE SEEN PEOPLE POST ABOUT THOSE BOTS AND GATHER ATTENTION ffs just block them and move on there's no need to inform your moots.

THIS IS SO LONG I AM SORRY i hope this was Okay like i don't know what to say except this whole issue is fucked up so badly and i can't believe people are so hungry for porn, they're involving minors in it :/

[nanamis-bigtie]

Hi! How are you doing? I hope you're doing well! I was wondering if you could possibly tell us about what is the drama on twitter you mentioned when other Anon asked you for the link to the nsfw twitter? I'm sorry if it's too nosy and it's 100% okay, if you don't want to answer! I'm just curious! Sorry, if I made you uncomfortable!

Alright. So.

Before I start, I would like to clearly state one thing: this is the first and the last time I am mentioning anything related to the proshipping discourse. I won’t answer questions and takes on this topic, I won’t take any side and I will block anyone who won’t get the implication and gonna pester me despite my silence. I am doing it only because the Anon here is curious AND polite and I would rather clarify some things in a pleasant atmosphere than in front of a pissed mob.

Twitter in general is... a very toxic place. VERY. TOXIC. If you were on tumblr in 2012 era or so, then multiply it by like ten. Some echoes of this drama reached tumblr, but never got treated seriously besides rather narrow group of very young people. Who probably spend most of their social media time on twitter anyway. 

Clear? Clear.

Discourse under the cut, there are mentions of dark content, r*pe and minor nsfw content.

There’s a very disturbing trend among young people (especially young people from rich “white” countries, such as US, Canada, western Europe, Australia etc. etc.), which originated from criticism of dark content. Don’t get me wrong, criticism is needed also in fandom - and “problematic” content needs to be more or less monitored because, unfortunately, it’s a fucking soil for creepos and people who do real life time harm. It’s also a myth that the fiction doesn’t influence the reality. (It does! however... not like a lot of people like to think about it.) Such things as fetishizing rape, fetishizing abuse, fetishizing incest need to be referred and discussed and adressed.

However, the cancel culture and so called antis took said statements and carried them far, far away from their origin. For them, ANYTHING touching the dark content is by definition same evil as real life harm. And it doesn’t matter, if someone writes a real pedo fantasy or just ships two teenagers and dares to draw a suggestive fanart with them - for them it’s the same.

And lately, said circles on twitter made another step: harassing, bullying and even doxxing authors who produce dark content. A popular queer fanartist was outed to their family because of the topic of their art - outed to conservative family in Iraq. You know, one of those countries where for being queer you can even get killed.

Unfortunately, similar fate happened to a popular One Piece fanartist from Japan. You might know about whom I’m talking about, if you ever saw a very suggestive zosan or solo Sanji fanarts with very tight clothes, especially on Sanji. Very characteristic style. Said fanartist also shared on their twitter links to their ns.fw content. With tons of trigger warnings, both in tweets and in said links. To see them, not only you have to read warnings on twitter, but also read warnings on the external platform AND confirm that you read them by typing a code word. There’s no way you could see said heavy, disturbing content WITHOUT your consent for it. Believe me, I was there, I went through all those steps.

And yes, the content there was really heavy. R*pe fantasy among the lightest things included. But once again: there were warnings. There. Were. Warnings.

Meanwhile, some idiot downloaded those fanarts and reposted them without a warning, exposing them to minors. And it came across antis. People harassed and bullied the author for something they didn’t even do (once again, they tagged their content and hid it from innocent eyes), until they deleted their twitter. 

EDIT: turned out they temporarily hid twitter instead of deleting it, I saw a new fanart from them today, 2nd May.

As a result, a huge shitstorm has started and the whole discourse basically turned into two sides barking at each other, where one side thinks it’s a human right to harm dark content enjoyers and the other one thinks it’s a human right to enjoy disturbing porn. (In a huge simplification but yes, it’s more or less that radical.) A lot of nsfw artists hid their accounts because they don’t want to be approached by an angry mob. And I’m talking about people who have never drawn anything problematic in their life, like the lawlu fanartist I mentioned yesterday and what stirred the requests to share the link.

TL;DR twitter is a toxic hell where you can step into drama easier than catching covid in a crowded bus. Please, be careful when approaching it right now and please, think twice about things you post there. 

[talkwithmarcy]

Youtubers, step away from the underage fans!

Ok, before I start this post, I just wanna say first, in no way am I judging or telling someone how to make a living or their interest in what type of job their in. What I’m going to be critiquing in this post is a youtuber or an influencers’ way of INTERACTING with their fans.

Now this is suppose to be a simple concept, right? You either give them a picture, autograph, fulfill a commission, etc. However some people overstep that boundary, and it led them to utter shit. I’m talking about people who interacts sexually with their fans. And considering how big the internet is, some of these fans are underage, and interacting with them in such a way led to these influencers to be called a groomer or predator, whether they know a fan is underage or not.

This topic came around when I made a youtube video about a va (voice acting) youtuber, he was accused of doing some horrible stuff with his fans and friends, and one of them was manipulating and grooming underage girls. However, after doing an interview with this guy, me and my friend found some closure to some cases, open to new arguments for the unsolved ones and also find possibilities that some of the cases could be untrue. What I see as the main reason for the majority of the cases was because this youtuber was not very careful when it comes to interacting with his fans or providing fan-service.

This led to broken promises, mistreatment towards discord mods and closer friends, and then the grooming accusations. The youtuber admitted to being irresponsible and lazy when it comes to fulfilling tasks, and he admitted to being quite arrogant and boastful about being a huge youtuber.

But here I’m talking specifically about the grooming accusations. This is all because he was so full of himself of being a player and irresistible with his fans, he had no problem fooling around with them. His channel is composed of quite provocative content, and the audios are just straight up audio porn in his patreon. There’s no secret that some of the fans are heavily into that sort of stuff and they have no problem having a closer relationship with the youtuber if he initiates it. And because some fans are underage, I think the interactions can count as illegal.

All of this could’ve been avoided if he didn’t interact sexually on a personal level with his fans. I’m not gonna judge him for making provocative content because 1). he is an adult, he can make non-kid friendly content if he wants to, as long as it’s not hurting and disrespecting anyone, 2). if making these type of content is the more popular way for him to make a living in youtube, go ahead. The problem is that he brings this to a personal level with his fans, instead of keeping it on a business level. 

I understand if you want to make your fans happy, but there is a more responsible and appropriate way to interact with them. And if you say, “well, they are not happy with it, they like talking about no-nos and that kind of stuff, otherwise, they are not interested in me”, then tell them to screw off. Especially if they are underage and you are an adult, you should know better, and have some self-respect.

A good example of this is an incident of where I communicated with a youtuber named Aramin Audios. To bring you up to speed, there was another va youtuber, let’s call him Pink, who was accused of being a groomer to his girlfriend, but after researching a bit, me and my friends found that this is false and the people who accused him of so made the accusations out of anger and jumping to conclusions.

Now in response to this, Aramin wants to avoid this accusations to happen to him and he wants his community to be safer for his younger audience. That seems like a great thing to do, right? BUT, he thinks the best way to achieve that is to delete his discord server and build a new one, where it is reserved for patreons only, where he will discuss the nsfw content they want in their patreon requests. Me and my friend were confused by this because, in a way, it’s like a punishment for the underage fans for the youtubers’ irresponsible way of interacting with them. And the way he announced that he was gonna do this is as if he is putting the blame on Pink, this made us worried whether upset fans are gonna went after Pink or not after this.

However, we were more confused on his WAY of fixing this problem. I guess people will have a different opinion on this, but based on what Aramin wants and how he worded his request for his community, it seems like he was trying really hard to make it safe for the younger audience. So we asked him, if he was so worried about effecting kids with his provocative content, why not just age-restrict his videos? Of course, the answer is because he still wants to make a living and the content in his channel is still sfw, so it shouldn’t be age-restricted.

We also questioned on the new server he was planning to make because 1). from what I know, he is not that active in his old server anyways, so what’s the point? 2). from what he says, it will be no different, they will just discuss more r18 topics with his patrons and 3). this can be upsetting for fans who are JUST as loyal as the patreon fans. He explains that he thinks that it will be safer because minors lie in the internet, and it’s more secure when people make an account on patreon. True, maybe patreon is more strict but it is proven that people can still lie about their age in patreon. So me and my friend suggested to him, why not just age-restrict your videos or try to change your content a bit, because sfw that’s not automatically mean kid-friendly and from the way he was acting, this was his main worry.

The weird thing that happened was that my friend, let’s call her Lady, is a bit more closer to Aramin, because she was also a youtuber and he watches her stuff before. However, when Lady tried to explain how Aramin’s way of achieving all this didn’t make sense, the fans there agreed. But as soon as Aramin came, they did a complete 180. And of course, I’m not close with Aramin, right? there’s nothing wrong if he gets a bit defensive, but when me and Lady asked him the questions and give him suggestions for a better way to achieve he wants. He became demeaning to the point where he acts like he didn’t know who Lady is, and he treated her as if she is too young and too dumb to understand what he was saying. And they were roughly the same age.

Also, in that chat, some fans told me to scroll to reread what they were talking about, but the thing is I want to hear from Aramin’s word. However, after some exchange, it seems like Aramin doesn’t actually want his community to be minor-free, and he mostly blame that it’s the kids fault for lying about their age and parents are not monitoring they’re kids. So I asked him, “But you’re the one who wants to make your channel minor-free, this is based on what you want, so why won’t you yourself actually take the precautions?” and he responded with, “I’m not gonna entertain this, because you won’t scroll up, you obviously don’t care.” Good defense, Aramin.

So he may say he wants his community to be safer for minors, and he did this because of other youtubers who are exposed as groomers and predators, but he doesn’t actually practice what he preach. He just wants to be seen as taking action for the better.

But anyways, it seems like he didn’t wanna budge or give any good reason anytime soon, so me and Lady gave up. Lady told me after that conversation, he immediately deleted the server XD and the cherry on top is that he made a response to this in twitter and oh boy, there is so many things wrong with this tweet.

Where do I start with this?

First off, we’re talking about what he is doing with his server, so when he says he wants to protect minors from predators that could join his server, Aramin, that just brings the question, what kind of people you allow to reside in your server and how do you act with your fans? And it says a lot when you felt the NEED to make an r18 server with your fans.

Second, apparently Aramin was badly injured when I told him sfw does not mean kid-friendly. I wasn’t trying to make a ‘gotcha’ moment, Aramin, I was just stating something. But since you are so heavily affected by that, sorry I hurt your feelings I guess.

Third, I agree to scolding kids for lying about their age online and watching what they’re not suppose to watch. However, recommending that kids should just stay in Youtube Kids is just not right. Youtube Kids is specifically for kids who are at the age of 4-12, so a minor as young as 13-15 can watch your stuff. And it is also known that there’s still inappropriate content that is still posted in Youtube Kids, because they were fooled by the kid-friendly thumbnail and Youtube doesn’t actually check if the content is safe or not. And to just say, “well, they should just stay in Youtube Kids”, that’s an ignorant thing to say. Tell me guys, how young were you when you first watch or witness something that is not considered kid-friendly? Whether by accident or on purpose.

Fourth, what nice thing of him to say, “it is the parents’ fault for not monitoring what their children sees on the internet 24/7.” Yeah, it’s the parents fault, guys, it’s not like they have jobs or any house activities they have to do to take care of their kids. It’s their fault for not breathing down on their children’s neck every time they see a screen. And from him saying he doesn’t wanna stop his source of income because of the parents, Aramin, you’re basically saying, “I don’t support and I would never recommend minors watching my videos and I want my community to be safer for minors.....but I’ll still make money from minors watching my shit anyways, thank you very much.”

And finally, keep in mind, me and my friend did not bash nor insult Aramin while we were talking to him. We did not call him a predator, bad person, or whatever. But apparently something as simple as asking questions, even though you are confused for a good reason, counts as attacking or tearing someone down according to Aramin.

So yeah, overall, Aramin just comes off as a whiny brat, and this response just comes off as him going

“These people are confused, and they’re asking questions and giving me suggestions! It’s the worse thing ever, WHY CAN’T THEY SEE I’M A GOOD PERSON?”

Anyways, at the end of this post, I want to make this clear, whether your content is inappropriate or not, or your patreon is 18+ or not, I don’t care. The problem is if you actually interact with your fans in such a way. It’s asking for trouble and even if you don’t mean to interact with underage fans in such a way, it is still YOUR irresponsibility to act that way AT ALL with any age with your fans, who are also mostly complete strangers to you, especially when you are aware that minors might watch your stuff.

Just because you act in a certain way in your channel, does not mean you should act the same in person to your fans. We may saw Dakota Johnson’s boobs in Fifty Shades of Grey, but that wouldn’t mean it would be acceptable for her to flash her fans during a meet-and-greet.

Yes, it is the fault of the kids for lying about their age online or if they watch something they’re not suppose to, but in the end, YOU’RE the influencer. You are the one with the channel, you are the one who can fix what they watch or at the very least, make the situation a little more appropriate.

[crayons-and-cartoons]

The Ultimate Guide To The Age Regression Community

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#1 - What is age regression? What’s the difference between age regression and CGL?

(Definitions by urban dictionary)

Age regression is a psychological state in which someone's mindset will go into a previous state for a period of time. They will feel, think, and behave younger, most commonly as a toddler or little kid. Age regression is a coping mechanism and can be involuntary or voluntary. It can be used to cope with past/current trauma, mental or physical illnesses, general stress, and so on. It can also be used as a coping mechanism for those who've had missed or bad childhoods or who experienced forced maturity as a way to positively relive or reclaim that part of their life. This type of coping mechanism is suggested by some therapists, and accepted or encouraged by many others. Some regressors also have caregivers who take care of them when regressed and this relationship is referred to as CGLRE (caregiver and little regressor)

CGL, or cg/l, is a power exchange relationship in which one person is the caregiver or "daddy/mommy" and the other is childlike. It is NOT a relationship between an actual parent and child or any minor (if sexual). This is a type of BDSM relationship that may or may not involve sex, but often involves play with child-like things, such as stuffed animals, bed-time stories, and spankings. The little part of the relationship is often called the "little one."

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#2 - What tags you should and shouldn’t use when posting on a agere account

Tags to use for regression:

#ageregression

#regression

#sfwlittlespace

#agere - short for age regression

#agereg - short for age regression

#babyre - tag for regressors who regress ages 0-2

#toddlerre - for regressors who regress ages 3-6

#kidre - regressors who regress 6+

#teenre - regressors who regress ages 12+

#cglre - a tag for regressors and their caregivers

#dxlg - daddy and little girl regressor

#mxlg - mommy and little girl regressor

#dxlb - daddy and little boy regressor

#mxlg - mommy and little girl regressor

#sfwageregression - just another general regression tags

#diaperre - regressors who use diapers

Tags NOT to use for age regression:

Ddlg - daddy little girl kink

Mdlg- mommy little girl kink

Mdlb - mommy little boy kink

Ddlb - daddy little boy kink

Cgl - gender neutral kink

Ageplay - Similar to cgl

Subspace - kink headspace

Domspace - kink headspace

And then anything with the word nsfw or kink in it.

#littlespace is used by both the kink and agere community, it’s the only word both kink and regressors use, so some use it and some don’t like it because it’s also used by kink but it’s your decision to use it or not but it’s not directly kink or regression it’s both

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#3 - What is crosstagging? Why is it bad?

Crosstagging is when you use both nsfw/kink tags and sfw/age regression tags on the same post and account.

Crosstagging is bad for both the age regression community and the kink community.

It exposes minors to kink and leaves them vulnerable to being harassed and sexualized. Exposing anyone to nsfw content without consent is not good, especially minors.

A lot of regressors are also recovering and coping and do not want to sexual things in their safe space because it can make them super uncomfortable and could even trigger them.

It also brings minors into adult communities and invades their sexual safe space.

In general crosstagging isn’t good because something therapeutic and kid friendly shouldn’t be mixed with sexual content.

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#4 - What is a DNI? Why are they important?

DNI means Do Not Interact and interacting is anything like following, liking posts, messaging, commenting, etc.

So a DNI is a list of people that the accounts creator doesn’t want on their account.

The reason people have them is that regressors are on their age regression account to feel safe and so they can be open about their regression and want to feel secure on their account and having a DNI keeps out unwanted people!

Sometimes people have them so they don’t accidentally see something that could trigger them since a lot of regressors are extremely vulnerable and could be coping from trauma which is very sensitive. So if you follow age regression accounts you should always read their DNI out of respect and just to make sure your keeping their safe space safe!

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[throwitawayokay]

Predators around every corner

This is confusing. A lot of your favorite fandom creators, out of nowhere, are being accused of endangering minors and others for making nsfw content or following/being-friends-with people who do; that is a serious claim, and a frightening one, and no one would say such a thing if they weren’t 100% sure they were correct about it, right? After all, to say something about someone is an awful thing to say, and needs proof and reason, or else it is libel and grounds for a defamation lawsuit and would, morally, be an absolutely terrible thing to accuse a person of if it was not true.

Obviously, they must have reason. Obviously, these accusations are founded and must eventually prove to be true, even if they cannot now, or maybe they can, maybe the accusations would hold up in a court of law, but for some reason the same people making these accusations... won’t come out directly and accuse these people and don’t have any evidence besides what they ‘think’ this other person is thinking.

Someone has made an argument, somewhere, that writing nsfw of aged up minor characters in atla is predatory behavior and endangering to minors. Is it?

1. Is it legal?

   Easy answer, yes. It’s legal. By definition it is smut of adult characters, regardless of where it originates. None of it is on tumblr, where it would not be allowed, but instead on a web site where it is clearly tagged and behind an age limit. In fact, this argument would be laughed out of court. Because no law is protecting the nsfw depictions of fictional characters, who are not real, regardless of age, besides potentially copyright.

If the stories are about underage fictional characters? It still, at least by USofA law, still not illegal. Yes. That’s correct. Stories depicting underage fictional characters in sexual situations does not follow under the definition of child porn and is allowed in publication and law. To see proof of that, besides reading the actual law which you are free to do, simply note the fact that Stephen King’s It is not only still in print but recently had two film adaptations.

So that, would in fact, be allowed; however what is being called into question is depicting adult fictional characters in nsfw situations. A completely different thing that is, actually, very different from the other. But, to simply answer the question of legality, it’s all legal.

2. When is it endangering to minors?

   This content can, in fact, be endangering to minors when they are exposed to it either without warning, in a search, or if they are sent this content by another person. Ways that this could happen are if nsfw images appear google searches (where such content can be reported and taken down) or if nsfw writing is not properly tagged or accompanied by archive warnings (posted on ffnet for example or not properly rated on ao3). If this is happening, it is a good idea to go to the website to report it properly, or have someone contact the artist/author about the lack of tagging - the content itself is irregardless, the problem that exists here is the lack of warning.

Nsfw art is also not allowed by the tumblr guidelines; feel free to report it if seen. Please, however, take a step back to remember than an image of a person in their underwear is not, in fact, pornography. If you’ve ever walked past a billboard for a clothing company or seen a Victoria’s Secret catalogue you should know this. There is, in fact, an actual parameter for what sets apart sfw and nsfw.

If this content, however, has been properly tagged and is behind a proper age limit, with warnings and the like, it is not endangering toward minors. Clicking on a nsfw art or writing with clear warnings for what it is does not make the creator of that content responsible; a porn star is not responsible for endangering minors if a minor answers falsely to a website agreement stating they are 18 and views their content. The responsibility lies with the minor as well as the guardians of that minor for not teaching them how to responsibly search the internet and recognize what they should or should not be viewing.

If you are not mature enough to recognize this, you should not be online.

3. But I disagree?

   You are within your rights to have a difference of opinion or feel uncomfortable if a person posts links to their nsfw content, or mentions that they make nsfw content. In fact, nsfw content makes many people uncomfortable. There are many ways to avoid seeing this.

First, go to the filter on your blog and filter all nsfw related tags you can think of, some starting points I would suggest are: nsfw, nsfw tw, nsfw mention, adult content, adult content tw, adult content mention (feel free to keep going, be as thorough as makes you comfortable). Next, block the blogs you do not personally like; feel free to block as many blogs, for any reason, that you like. This is absolutely fine and no explanation is needed. If you feel uncomfortable having your blog followed by any adults at all, you can also take steps to make the blog unsearchable and only follow as few people as you like.

What you should not do is harass people for making content that you personally do not like. This includes nsfw content. Making such incredibly serious claims as to state someone is a predator who endangers minors for making nsfw content in your fandom is unfounded, dangerous, and entirely irresponsible. Adults participating in this rhetoric need to take a very good look at themselves, and minors who have been experiencing anxiety as a result of this claim, I am very sorry.

4. What was the aunt-suki thing?

   Where did this whole thing start? No one was making this point only a few months ago, did it just pop up out of nowhere?

^ this blog, since deleted [also goes formerly by tumble-dump (nowlil-baby-man) as well as jetru(deleted) safe-for-atla, and dennis-quaid] spearheaded this opinion after accusing one of the largest creators in the fandom, an adult poc, of endangering minors for an image posted to tumblr with possible suggestive themes (Tumblr does not allow nsfw art, it was not nsfw). Aunt-Suki is a 23 year old, self-described “titanium white” woman. She stated directly that anyone who posted nsfw content behind age limit barriers was predatory and that nsfw artwork of atla characters was rampant on this website without evidence.

After curating a blocklist, and admittedly receiving hate for doing so (despite oddly enough asking for anon hate on several occasions) aunt-suki did in fact create a first draft blocklist including fandom creators who make nsfw content, who are follow or are friends with those who make nsfw content despite not doing it themselves, and people who specifically asked her to be on the blocklist. This, in itself, was fine. A list of creators making nsfw content could, in fact, be helpful and good for those who do not want to see such content to have a handy resource of who to block and avoid. Unfortunately, the rhetoric of “they are all predators” was something aunt-suki fostered and continued to repeat, getting a lot of people to also feel the same way. This invited harassment, much of which directly done and targeted at others by aunt-suki. She repeatedly stated on her blog ‘I am safe, no one else is unless I say so, in order to keep yourself safe you must ask me who is bad [paraphrase, not direct quote]’ insisting that anyone who wished to know who was a predator on the website had to privately DM her for the information. Aunt-Suki used this to gain followers of minors and to specifically foster friendships with them.

We know this because aunt-suki made a post exposing herself. An anon asked her to defend the way she interacted with minors and she defended herself with phrases such as “I love kids so much more than grown ups”[quote], stating she runs a server of 13+ wlw and they all “care a lot about each other”; she also admitted she takes it upon herself to “expose kids to [heavy topics]” including race, sexism, queer issues, mental health, politics, etc. Aunt-Suki is not a trained professional for these issues and admits in the same post that she does not understand there could be any difference in power dynamics between her and these teenagers.

In addition, while defending these close relationships with minors that she specifically admits to reaching out for, Aunt-Suki also divulged her past at 18 years old of saying the n-word (excused by explaining she has a black friend); saying that this is the reason why she should, as a 23 year old white adult, be allowed to discuss “heavy topics” with minors.

This most certainly calls into question the fact that it was, with one exception, non-white creators that aunt-suki chose to publicly call out by name.

After being asked to defend herself for these actions she admitted to, Aunt-Suki deleted her blog but has continued to go online on her others blogs and discords, dm’ing others and making posts accusing people who called her out of being predators, asking for sympathy, blaming her actions on her adhd, and refusing to answer any of the messages sent to her. Other large creators have made posts about this, very rarely using her name to allow her some anonymity or time to explain her actions which she has not done. She choose instead to send anonymous messages further accusing these creators.

5. Why did you tell me that?

   This directly illustrates the problem with presenting an issue such as nsfw art/writing in the fandom without pointing out why others might disagree with it; and jumping past logic to decry those who don’t agree with extremely serious accusations. Someone with actual ill (or misguided) attentions may take advantage, deliberately isolating minors and portraying themselves as ‘good and safe’ while slowly whittling down who the minors can and cannot follow until no one able to call them out when they are the one participating in actual behavior that is inappropriate to minors.

6. I still don’t agree with the first points.

   That’s fine. Please call out actual predators if you see them. Do not, however, do so without any evidence or for reasons that simply are not, and never would be, considered basis for doing so in any legal or reasonable capacity.

[olderthannetfic]

Pillowfort: Clueless

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“In Pillowfort's terms when they say NSFW of minors is not allowed are...”

I don't know if they've changed it, but when I read the TOS it went on to say that they meant it to only apply to really blatant child/barely-pubescent appearances, just that "really 700 years old in canon" wasn't going to create an exemption. That said, even if they're completely sincere with that, they've bought their staff quite a headache.

Really? I’m not seeing that.

The current ToS say:

“Sexual or sexually-suggestive content that appears to involve minors. This includes (but is in no way limited to) visual content such as illustrations, drawings, paintings, comics, digitally-generated images, and related visual content that (1) shows a minor engaged in sexual conduct or (2) shows a minor with exposed genitalia and lacks any legitimate medical or scientific purpose.“

First off, they’re a bit suspect since they kicked somebody off for loli art before that was in the ToS. Now, I dislike loli art, and I don’t mind not sharing a space with it, but this was a huge red flag that they are not competent or reputable to run any site, including one with strict content policies.

It smacks of a “Well, we thought everyone would just know that wasn’t okay!” attitude. Having lived through plenty of eras where any depiction of queerness was not okay on plenty of platforms, this makes me deeply wary. You can’t assume. You have to spell out. And if someone does something you dislike, you have to change the rules first, then have them remove the problem content. You don’t just ban them without a word.

So starting from that place of already not trusting them--because they’ve amply shown they don’t deserve trust--I look at this ToS and it strikes me that they’re completely clueless.

They’ve used the word ‘minor’ without clarifying in any way. That’s a legal term with a legal definition. If they mean puberty, that’s a huge problem! If they do mean legal minors, they still need to clarify what age that is because it varies by country. Also, people can be legal minors while being over the age of consent or over the age of consent with a similar-aged partner.

Are they saying that art of 16-year-old Harry Potter characters making out is banned or not? It’s legitimately not clear from these ToS.

What AO3 says, in contrast, is:

“The Archive of Our Own is a place for fanworks. Content may not be uploaded to OTW's servers if it contains or links to child pornography (images of real children); warez, cracks, hacks or other executable files and their associated utilities; trade secrets, restricted technologies, or classified information;...

This makes it blatantly clear that actual child pornography laws are the arbiter of what is allowed. And we know which laws because the ToS also say:

“You and the OTW agree to submit to the personal and exclusive jurisdiction of the courts located within New York County (Manhattan), New York, and to waive any objection to the laying of venue there.”

In the ToS FAQ, it further clarifies:

“What do you mean by "underage" in the Archive tags?

Underage refers to descriptions or depictions of sexual activity by characters under the age of eighteen (18). In general, we rely on authors to use their judgment about the line between reference and description or depiction. Sexual activity does not include dating activity such as kissing, but again, we rely on authors to use their judgment about what is generally understood to be sexual activity. An author may always specify the age of the characters.“

AO3′s policies state extremely blatantly which age is the cutoff for “underage” and what the actual restrictions are (nothing that is legally child pornography in New York). AO3 also clarifies to some degree what counts as sexual activity.

I get that this is all a big gray area, and I don’t necessarily dislike what Pillowfort appears to be trying to go for. What I think they’re after is a situation where fairly tame art of same-age teenagers getting it on is fine but loli and shota are not. That’s fine. Lots of people agree with that stance. There’s an audience for a site with that stance.

But that is not a stance they’ve put in the rules in a clear way that will be hard to exploit.

What is going to happen is that some organized group will see these rules and realize they’re the perfect way to bully. Literate Union on FFN and antis on AO3 love to set up mass-reporting campaigns for stuff they don’t like.

On FFN, LU gets away with it because lots of things posters see as “normal” are actually against the rules. But LU doesn’t just report any rules violation. There are far too many for them to catch them all. Instead, they catch rules violations for ships or fandoms they already dislike. In practice, groups like them normally “clean up” fandoms like Twilight and m/m ships. It’s a very disproportionate attack.

On AO3, in contrast, most content is allowed, so very few things can be legitimately reported. Mass organized reporting on spurious grounds is itself considered harassment. When antis try their bullshit, they get told where to stick it.

The AO3 rules look like that because I proposed them specifically to head off LU-style behavior.

Pillowfort is waving a red flag to every bully on the internet. They probably do have good intentions.

Those intentions do not matter.

They are setting themselves up for disaster. I think it’s a good bit worse than just a headache for the staff. This is split-the-userbase-down-the-middle mass exodus level stuff. This is targeted harassment enabled by site rules level stuff.

[nmik-agere]

Wouldn’t people who age play that aren’t involved in kink and bdsm be considered SFW littles?

Long post ahead!

First and foremost Ageplay is a Kink! There is no difference between Ageplay and Cgl in the sense that they are both not appropriate for minors. The distinction between ageplay and cgl is that not all littles roleplay as a younger age than their biological age but it is subcategory of bdsm just as much as cgl is. It requires a bdsm power exchange. It is a kink.

Secondly

There is no such thing as a sfw little!

A little can only be non-kink and non associated to kink if you have dissociative identity disorder or other specified dissociative disorder and you have an alter that is a little. Even then, it is debatable whether it’s safe for work because although it may be okay to view information about littles in dissociative disorders in the workplace, it is not safe for a system’s (someone that has a dissociative disorder) little to front while they’re at work. (In other words it’s not safe for them to dissociate into their child alter in the workplace.)

Before Cglre, no age regressors or ageplayers outside of the Cgl community called themselves Littles.

People only begun calling themselves SFW Littles after minors and what’s known to be a few legal adults decided it was a good idea to make a community called CGLRE (Caregiver Little Regression) together in July of 2016, which was described as a branch or in other words a subdivision of Cgl.

Some people who made this community thought that Cgl wasn’t a kink because it specifically doesn’t have the word dominant in it. In reality Cgl is just a sex, gender, or role neutral acronym of ddlg and it’s variants. This is not to be mistaken with the acronym cgdl. No one calls cgl cgdl. That is terminology that someone made up that is only known here on tumblr by a small group of people. Even without the acronym Cgl having the d for dominant in it the acronym Cgl was coined by those within the BDSM community. A caregiver in itself in bdsm is a dominant.

This means that CGLRE can be considered a subcategory of Kink.

Since cgl is a kink community with both nonsexual and sexual members the nonsexual members decided to move into their own space while still holding on to terms that they were used to. They used the same term cgl nonsexually being nonsexual participants of it because that was the only term being used for age playing; having a caregiver to take care of them in a fatherly matter at the time. (and it still is) They decided to move away from the blended nsfw and “sfw” community tag that was cgl and create a community without any suggestive, lewd, or pornographic content for those who wanted it. 

*the reason some kinksters thought that part of the cgl tag was sfw was because of their misunderstanding of what a kink was and because the cgl tag was not as deeply involved in explicit activity at that time. The activities and content that is incorporated in Cgl isn’t inherently a kink. (An example of this is what you see on social media concerning the term littlespace and what’s in that tag.)

People in Cgl at the time also used to use the childhood nostalgia and aesthetic tags like Kidcore, babycore, and toywave. Both content in each tag looked the same at the time which caused confusion.

This is why tags like kidzspace, babyzspace, babyre, and toyre exists in the cglre community. Many people using the childhood nostalgia and aesthetic tags realized that Cgl was a kink and felt uncomfortable that their tags were being mixed with kink content where children and non consenting individuals were. They also didn’t like that those tags were being associated to bdsm. In turn, many people who used these tags started not wanting interaction from Cgl and started making banners that said things like “do not interact if you’re nsfw or kink, this includes cgl and ddlg and it’s variants.”

After all of this became the chire community and after the chire community cglre was created.

Cglre was not made to be a kink. The purpose of cglre is to be 100% nonsexual, non-kink, and non associated to kink since age regression is. This is why minors were okayed to create this community with adults and participate in this community with adults.

They wanted a place where acting younger and having a caregiver in nonsexual and non-kink ways would be acceptable despite what people still in cgl, chire, or kidcore+ would say as people in these communities and groups (cgl and chire specifically) were against minors having caregivers especially in the same way littles do in cgl. (which is how cglre was targeted.)

The problem with this is as mentioned as before. Cglre is associated to kink in its name and it can be considered as a subcategory of kink.

A little outside of DID or OSDD is a (childlike) submissive: a person that wants to partake in the unconventional practice of conforming to the authority of another person to heighten their sexuality, sensuality, or their relationship in a way that goes against society’s predetermined norm. Littles crave dominance in a more nurturing and softer way compared to the average D/S or M/S relationship.

Another problem with this is people who created this community had a misunderstanding of what age regression is. They believed that just because they acted younger than their biological age and because they indulged in practices geared towards children that they were reverting back to an earlier and less developed state when you can only do that unconsciously.

The entire cglre community was created without fully thinking about the consequences of jeopardizing safety. This community also lacked and still lacks education because as you can see there was a lot of research that wasn’t throughly done.

The majority of people in this community today are minors.

This most likely is because adults who didn’t create the cglre community or see the cglre community take place realize that CGL itself can already be nonsexual. They realize that when it’s nonsexual the only thing that makes it a Kink apart of BDSM is the D/S power exchange and they see danger and faults in cglre.

Plus there is a tag for people 18 and older who participate in nonsexual cgl now that don’t want to see suggestive, lewd, or pornographic content or don’t want to run a blog with suggestive, lewd, or pornographic content. This tag is labeled nscgl / nscgl18

Sadly since Cglre exist it has stigmatized the Cgl community making it seem as if Cgl is inherently sexual at all times. This stigmatization has made some adults stay away from the Cgl community so they don’t receive backlash or judgement from others especially if they participate in this to recover from trauma.

On social media there is no difference between nonsexual cgl and cglre. Cglre go’s beyond minors just having a crave for nostalgia and having childlike personalities and tendencies. A lot of people in Cglre are trying to implement the same dynamics as those in kink adding regression in as a way to make it okay for minors to participate in the 18+ Cgl community when no regression is taking place.

It is unethical to want to participate in kink while still wanting to label yourself as non-kink. Usually people do this because they have a lack of understanding of what the entire basis of a kink implies.

It also is unethical to tell an entire community that has established something that certain actions or terminology isn’t theirs anymore just because you want what they have. BDSM is a culture and what we have and share is inherented for our groups.

Being naturally childish doesn’t mean you are a little. It just means you’re naturally childish. You don’t need a label for that. Do not label yourself with a BDSM term then decide you don’t want the attention from the kink community. Do not steal the term and try to make up a different meaning to justify your presence in the community/tags.

The point is anything involving CGL is associated with BDSM/Kink because CGL is a subcategory of BDSM and BDSM is an interchangeable umbrella term of Kink.

In no way, shape, or form is it okay to mix adults and children in an environment like this exposing them and influencing them in adult themes; a kink and fetish centered space that can potentially give minors access to their own sexual kinks and fetishes and put them in danger.

It’s also not appropriate for minors to be having dedicated social media accounts and post that can be misconstrued as a kink for their safety.

Look at this roughly good video for further information on this: https://youtu.be/5_A0a6bc_tQ

Disclaimer: I am not saying cglre completely is a kink because not every member of cglre is unknowingly participating in Cgl (Kink) by engaging in a power dynamic. I am aware that age regressors cant give the required consent to be in a d/s power imbalance and that the caregivers they have are needed because they are not capable of caring for themselves.

Links that explain more:

https://nmiktea.tumblr.com/post/180992475656/what-are-your-thoughts-on-underage-age-regressors

https://nmiktea.tumblr.com/post/180997829686/the-big-page-here-that-dont-have-an-age

https://nmiktea.tumblr.com/post/189082298846/how-come-youre-against-with-people-calling

Things can be related without being the same. Words do not make something a kink, Motivation, Action, and Content is what will make something specifically a kink.

Today so many individuals call themselves certain terminology while being something completely different which in turn sets people up to misinterpretation, confusion, and conversations like these.

[getdestroyed-staydestroyed]

F.A.Q

Why didn’t you draw an answer for the ask I sent you?

It’s important to understand that while asks are a fun thing for me to do occasionally, and a fun thing for yall to see: this is not an ask blog. Ideally I want there to be more pictures/comics/other content than ask answers at any given time on here. The thing is I get a LOT of them, often every time I answer one or post art of a character people send in 2-3 more. Between that I get a steady trickle of them constantly even when I don’t post. I could potentially spend all my time drawing ask answers but that’s not what I need to use my time for. If you send it off anon I’ll try to think of a verbal response at least if I don’t draw a response. If it’s on anon, your rolling the dice for the chance of a picture, I’ll just be honest with you here.  

Can’t you just make a separate ask blog then?

I do not have nearly enough time to further split up between running this main, and a potential competently new art blog. It wouldn’t be a smart use of my energy. I’m sorry.

Do you do art trades/requests?

I’m usually really stretched for time outside of my full-time job and other family/life obligations so it’s rare that I find the time to do trades. Usually I feel bad about them since I’m always getting my half done way later. I appreciate the genuine interest, but it’s just not really a feasible thing for me for the most part. As far as requests go I rarely ever do them, even if they have to do with my own characters. You’re welcome to send an ask suggesting something but there is ZERO guarantee I’ll draw it, just understand that. 

Are you open for commissions?

I currently am not. Usually when I open I do a quick “heads up” post with a hard date, followed on that date by the official opening post with all the info. You’ll have plenty of forewarning before I do. I also do substantial warnings before I close.

What art materials do you work with?

I actually answered already that in a previous ask right [here]!

What digital program(s) do you use?

Photoshop Creative Suite 3 (CS3) is the only one I use. It’s what I use to do my coloring, digital screen-tones, and sometimes text and speech bubbles. 

Could you do a tutorial on how you do [insert technique here]?

I’m flattered that you think my techniques or style are something worth emulating or trying to learn from, but at the moment I don’t really have the time to put together a comprehensive step-by-step of my artistic process. This is exacerbated by the fact that half of said process is done traditionally instead of digitally anyway so I couldn’t really screen cap stuff. Thanks for asking though, who knows, I might have time to try and slap something together in the future! 

Can I tag your artwork/characters as “kin” or “me”?

Sure, that’s fine. It’s always important to ask though since not everyone is OK with it, so thanks for doing that. It doesn’t bother me at all though, so go ahead and tag away. 

I really like your art and you seem like a nice person; could we be friends?

I’m very grateful that through my art and my interactions on here that I come across as a kind and friendly person. Unfortunately I’m also a very strong introvert and I can gas out on the energy to talk to folks very easily. I’m grateful and so happy for the friends I have but I also have a LOT already too hahaha. It should also be stated that for anyone; introvert or extrovert, making friends completely depends on how you and the person connect or “click”. Some people you grow close to naturally and well...some you just don’t. There’s no way to force it, and there’s no way to just decide it. If I decline a request to share messenger info or to chat with you please don’t take it as offense. 

Do you accept fan art?

Yes I do! I only ask that you don’t involve my characters with any NSFW scenarios that have minors (under the age of 18), or any scenarios that involve or employ elements of racism, sexism, or transphobia. You better show me when you finish it though!

Can I make my own fan character from one of your races/worlds?

Go for it. I don’t have any hard rules or locks on any of my races since fan characters aren’t really canon within my stories anyway. Just like with the fanart, I only ask to see them when they’re done!

What are your inspirations?

There’s nothing wrong with that question in itself, but I don’t really know where to even start in answering it. Without being too long winded: it was mainly a beginning base of anime when i was younger that later evolved into several amateur/semi-pro/pro artists on this website and others. I don’t have too many published/professional American/European folks I could rattle off the top of my head. If you want a starters guide on who some of those online people are you can slog through the icons of people that I follow to the right on my blogs main page. 

How do I get a style like yours? / How did you get your art style?

It is absolutely imperative to understand as an artist that style is less of an aesthetic object, like a shirt that you put on and wear around, and is more like the personality of the person wearing the shirt. An artists style is inseparable from their identity. It’s a result of thousands of hours of absorbing media subconsciously, integrating what they like, and discarding what they don’t. It’s shaped by what they see, what they have access to, and what they don’t. It’s shaped by their surroundings, and upbringing. Explaining to you how I got my current style is as daunting as answering the question “How did you become the person you are today?”

My style will not be the same tomorrow as it is today. It’s something that’s organic and constantly growing and slowly changing (as it should be). As long as you keep exposing yourself to new things, new experiences, places, people, techniques, concepts, media, ect. you will in time have your own style.  

When are you going to do some actual comics and where are you gonna post them?

GOOD QUESTION, AND I DON’T BLAME YOU FOR ASKING. Ever since I finally finished commissions at the end of 2017 and got some owed art out of the way during the first month of January, I’m working on clearing out some of these asks with some answers. After that I’ll be refocusing on finishing Step-Monster Vol. II first which will probably get put up on my Deviantart (Don’t worry. I’ll put up a link here to it when it’s done). I don’t have a hard date for it right now but I’m aiming for late summer possibly, since I’m trying to do the entire last Volume II with all it’s chapters in one big go. 

After that I wanna start tackling small one-shorts at first before moving on to longer-form stories. By that point I plan to have a dedicated website for them up and a Patreon going maybe too! 

Pineapple on pizza: yes or no?

Yes, and if you say I’m wrong we’re gonna fight. 

[not-ciel]

FAQ that's actually just pre-emptive clarifications and no one actually asked me shit:

🐺 How old are you?

I'm a legal adult.

🖤 Why don't you specify?

Because no one is entitled to that information. It's rather suspicious that people want to know specifics actually. Half the time it smells like sweaty sickos chasing barely legals and I'd rather be assumed to be a 67 year old creep than give out info I'm not comfortable sharing. Even when it's not sweaty sickos prying I find it intrusive, entitled and suspicious to demand personal information from strangers. All I will say is that I'm legally an adult and that should be good enough. That statement is solely for the purpose of transparency for minors on this hellsite.

🐺 Are minors allowed to interact?

Sure. I don't mind as long as they're aware I'm an adult and they themselves are okay with that.

🖤 Why Ciel?

Because he's the only fictional character that I can truly relate to, and I find comfort in taking him as my alias; both due to privacy and familiarity. He's also entangled into part of my trauma so he's something of a comfort character/safe haven for me. I don't pay any attention to the fandom and never have, nor do I have plans to involve myself.

🐺 Do you ship—

No.

🖤 Are you an anti or an anti-anti?

I'll do you one better —I'm an anti-anti-anti, plus however many more times I need to repeat the word anti to express that I just want to be left alone. Don't draft me into wars I want nothing to do with. Keep your ships on your blog and out of mine, I don't want to hear it.

🐺 But—

No! Talking about ships and/or the discourse surrounding any of them makes me so so uncomfortable.

🖤 Why do you post about trauma alongside agere content?

Because I can. Also because this is a blog meant to help me cope, and I honestly don't think I could stand to talk about it if I didn't have nice things here, which would defeat the whole purpose of using this blog. I tag things accordingly and with quite a heavy hand to protect anyone who may stumble in here, so what's the issue? Any negative content I engage with here is also fairly tame. I would estimate that this blog is 95% agere/sfw content and 5% trauma related, the latter of which is predominantly expressed through my own text posts (which are tagged to the nines).

🐺 Is there NSFW content on this blog?

Honestly depends on what you classify as nsfw. I have religious trauma, amongst other things, which admittedly skews my perspective quite a bit and there's a lot of work to be done in terms of rewiring my brain to not find the human body inherently sexual due to religious guilt and shame. The nsfw tag consists predominantly of exposed skin and anything I read as even mildly suggestive. I don't know how to answer this, because by normal standards probably no??

🖤 Is this a DDLB/MDLG/CGL(RE) blog?

No. Also, whoever thinks CGL and CGLRE are the same is probably ableist, though likely due to being uninformed so I suggest doing some research. I'm not opposed to (sfw) CGLRE.

🐺 Why don't you list your triggers?

Because the idea of giving random strangers on the internet ammunition should they ever decide to attack me for whatever reason is the stupidest thing I've ever heard. I value my well-being and want to protect myself. Furthermore, I don't personally blacklist any tags because I actually want to run the risk of exposure to content I find triggering. I tag for other people though, because what works for me doesn't work for everyone, and I understand the value of content/trigger warnings and take them seriously and do my best to tag. I'm always willing to add more tw/cw tags by request.

🖤 Why don't you have a dni?

Because I don't really pay attention to who interacts with my blog, and on the rare occasion that I do it's their life, not mine. I have enough things to worry about between my own life and the things I consider important, and adding the burden of policing who can and cannot interact with my blog is very low on my list of properties. I get why other people do it, but I don't have the time nor energy to bother. The block button is right there and I use it liberally.

🐺 But Ciel, how will people be able to tell if you're against homophobia, racism, misogyny, etc. if you don't list the ones you deem evil in a dni?

By assuming the best and going about their lives as normal. Or assuming the worst and blocking me. Really, what difference does it make? I really don't need to be worrying about how other people perceive me when I barely want to be perceived to begin with. And no amount of reassuring the masses that I am against x y or z will actually prove anything because words are empty. If this mentality makes someone uncomfortable I respect that and they can choose to not interact with me and/or block me.

🖤 But, Ciel—

No, really, the only thing people should know is that I try my best to interact with the world around me with as much compassion and understanding as possible and seek to learn more every day. My intention is to let the flowers bloom and not step on them.

🐺 What age range is your regression?

Between 5-15, give or take.

🖤 Do you have a caregiver and/or regressor siblings?

I don't have a caregiver, no. I do have a little sibling, though. Not really looking for a caregiver atm, but I'm always willing to be an older brother/babysitter for others.

// This will be edited and added to at a later date.

[littlecubbie]

Hi!!♥ I was wondering if sfw little blogs should allow minors or not. All the "rules" are kind of confusing. I just want to be sure no one is going to yell at me for doing something wrong.

Hello, cutie pie!

Well, that’s a toughie. Because the thing is, if it is completely SFW (including no “naughty” text posts), you are not doing anything wrong. The rest of the Internet says so, Tumblr itself says so (I was flagged myself so I contacted Tumblr, explained what my blog is, obviously they looked through it. They said it was indeed wrongfully flagged and they apologized for it happening and promptly unflagged it)

However, there are people who feel like they get to decide what is right and wrong, that they can make up their own versions of laws, and attempt to impose their beliefs on others. They believe that you’re exposing minors to k*nk, even if your blog is completely sfw, even if your little space itself is non-sexual or you’re an age regressor who uses the terms “little” and “little space” (which you have every right to do).

Some will also claim that being a little is inherently k*nk, ignoring the fact that, by definition, there has to be something sexual involved for it to be so. Also neglecting the fact that language borrows from itself *all the time*, that definitions change and expand (we are the ones who define words and give them their power. “Fleek” was not a word until a girl, looking at her eyebrows in a car mirror, created it 😋) that groups can divide and expand, etc. can you imagine if the LGBTQ+ community said “no, you’re different from the core four! You can’t be in our community!” (Before I get poop, I know that being a little and being LGBT are not at all the same thing. Simply an example of a community that changed and expanded to include others that are not the same as the original “members”) or if sports, that were historically for males, didn’t allow any women to play because they’re different from men? It’s also ignored that no one has the right to define what you feel and who you are. They go off of the assumption that they are taking the moral high ground but, frankly, it reeks of bigotry as what they believe is their opinion, not fact, and feel justified in harassing and harming people based on what *they* believe is correct. There is zero evidence to back up their assertion that SFW little blogs are harmful to minors. I know one of their beliefs is that it opens teens up to talking to fake d0ms but, well, find me anyone in their right mind that would ever support a minor being sexual, having a sexual blog or seeking a sexual relationship outside of a predator. And, if that predator contacts a minor, it is solely the fault of said predator, no one else. They do not seem to believe in individual responsibility. They also ignore that minors are preyed on outside of this community, outside of Tumblr (most of the stories I’ve seen of despicable child abusers come from Facebook). They fail to realize that, on average, by the time kids are 11 (some researchers say as young as 8, but 11-12 is the most widely cited average) they have been exposed to pornography that winds up being far more harmful for them in the long run with continued use, which is more and more likely with each passing year (and there IS actual research and evidence to back that up. Here’s just 29 examples, which I personally believe to be a useful read: http://goo.gl/giDLzv ). However, that doesn’t stop a HUGE amount of them from posting it, knowing full well how painfully easy it is for minors to then access it. Which is their right. It’s how Tumblr is set up, they aren’t breaking any rules provides the don’t upload their own videos and it’s absolutely okay and allowed, so long as they flag their blogs. But flagging doesn’t mean minors can’t see it and won’t look for it. And they also don’t seem to care to go after people with unflagged pornographic blogs, of which there are thousands.All people with 18+ blogs can and absolutely should do is flag their blogs, of course block any minors you see following or posting their own NSFW content, and, if they feel more comfortable, put “18+ only” in their bio. If a minor looks at it, they’re breaching an implied contract, the contract being that flagged blogs are 18+, you are not willfully, forcefully exposing them by legal definition. However, if your blog genuinely has only SFW content, no adult photos or sexually suggestive stuff, you are not breaking any rules or laws, despite what they may believe. Exposing minors to k*nk can only be done through exposing them to sexual content, not, for example, calling your boyfriend daddy.Until they come up with actual, documented evidence to the contrary, not “the cousin of a friend of a friend got arrested!” (which won’t happen), they’re impossible to believe. They are just barking but have no teeth with which to bite. Unfortunately, since they will only ever listen to people who agree with them, they’ll never actually do the legwork to find out that they’re incorrect, nor do I think they would accept that answer if they did. Then they have nothing with which to harass and harm others. And I know it is done just to harass because they survive only on scare tactics and fearmongering. Just look at the amount of littles who say they’re harassed; A LOT. How many daddies and mommies have been harassed in comparison? They go after the “weaker” ones that will be more afraid of them and non-existent trouble. They scare people by throwing around words like “illegal” and “exposing minors” so that people feel like they have to flag their blogs, no matter how SFW, just for being a little. They caused 100 splits in the community and are, by proxy, and sometimes directly, responsible for the infighting that resulted from all the division. And, can *anyone* really argue that the often very serious harassment minors face (too often including death threats, submissions of gore, and suicide wishes) is better for minors that SFW blogs? Of course, not all anti-minors do that. Many are just doing what they do because believe what they’re told, they believe they’re helping. But, they unfortunately open them up to people who do want to harm minors and anyone who doesn’t despise them by “calling them out”.So, while I can’t promise you you won’t be yelled at (there’s still people who hate littles and, well, it’s Tumblr), I can promise you that as long as your blog is genuinely SFW, the only rules you’d be breaking are the ones made up by those people. Allowing minors on your non sexual, SFW blog DOES NOT mean you support them in k*nk. Anyone who says otherwise feels they have the right to define who other people are, what they feel, and what their blogs are. Personally, I have alway and will always report and block ANY minor I see posting any adult content, including text (which I haven’t seen much of), and don’t know anyone who doesn’t, including other minors. But I won’t go around treating anyone with indignity, disrespect and bullying people just for being minors. I was actually anti-minor myself when I got here (though I never bothered minors, just blocked) because I believed what those people said and I was afraid of them because of all the awful stories. That was until I met and understood age regressors and why they are the way they are, listened, observed and really thought about it, formed my own opinion instead of caving to someone else’s. Through them, I even realized that my own little space might be regression. I don’t put a label on it but, as I say in my bio, “my little space itself is non sexual and what I do in my bedroom with my husband is my business and my business only”. However, if you do choose to go 18+, that’s okay. It doesn’t mean you hate minors. I know a ton of 18+ bloggers that support non sexual minors and are just too afraid to say so. It’s truly up to you. I will tell you that if you (or anyone else reading this) is truly wrongfully flagged, please let me know. Tumblr does not view SFW little blogs as 18+ just because some of it’s users do, just as I’m sure they don’t appreciate having people waste their time on wrongful flagging, but it’s tough to figure out where and how to contact them about it. Once I figured out how to properly contact them, my blog was unflagged by the next morning. If your blog is truly SFW, they’ll unflag it right away.If I can help someone else, I’d at least like to take the power derived from harm done to blogs/bloggers through wrongful flagging away from those bullies.

Remember, this is your blog. You have EVERY right to define your blog the way you want. If you are a SFW little blog and don’t want minors interacting, you have that right and that’s okay. If you are a genuinely SFW little blog and you don’t mind *non sexual* minors interacting, that’s your right and that’s okay. What is not right or okay is bullying and attempting to strong arm people into kowtowing to personal opinion. This is patent authoritarianism, fascism.

I know I don’t normally post even slightly negative stuff and I apologize; this will definitely not become the norm (back to the happies!). I just can’t sit by and not defend people who are clearly being abused; non sexual minors, any little who doesn’t openly hate them, and *anyone* who has been bullied, harassed, manipulated, lied to or scared into doing what these people want, even if they don’t truly agree. Again, I know many of my followers have no issue with minors but are scared for anyone to find out because they know what these people do. But, I also know people who don’t encounter any problem because it’s directly tied to visibility within the community.Whatever you decide to do, I wish you a lot of happiness and, if you wish, a lot of new friends!Have a super duper beautiful life!🤗💕🤗

[throwitawayokay]

This is confusing. A lot of your favorite fandom creators, out of nowhere, are being accused of endangering minors and others for making n*fw content or following/being-friends-with people who do; that is a serious claim, and a frightening one, and no one would say such a thing if they weren’t 100% sure they were correct about it, right? After all, to say something about someone is an awful thing to say, and needs proof and reason, or else it is libel and grounds for a defamation lawsuit and would, morally, be an absolutely terrible thing to accuse a person of if it was not true.

Obviously, they must have reason. Obviously, these accusations are founded and must eventually prove to be true, even if they cannot now, or maybe they can, maybe the accusations would hold up in a court of law, but for some reason the same people making these accusations... won’t come out directly and accuse these people and don’t have any evidence besides what they ‘think’ this other person is thinking.

Someone has made an argument, somewhere, that writing n*fw of aged up minor characters in atla is predatory behavior and endangering to minors. Is it?

1. Is it legal?

  Easy answer, yes. It’s legal. By definition it is p*rn of adult characters, regardless of where it originates. None of it is on tumblr, where it would not be allowed, but instead on a web site where it is clearly tagged and behind an age limit. In fact, this argument would be laughed out of court. Because no law is protecting the n*fw depictions of fictional characters, who are not real, regardless of age, besides potentially copyright.

If the stories are about underage fictional characters? It still, at least by USofA law, still not illegal. Yes. That’s correct. Stories depicting underage fictional characters in s*xual situations does not follow under the definition of child p*rn and is allowed in publication and law. To see proof of that, besides reading the actual law which you are free to do, simply note the fact that Stephen King’s It is not only still in print but recently had two film adaptations.

So that, would in fact, be allowed; however what is being called into question is depicting adult fictional characters in n*fw situations. A completely different thing that is, actually, very different from the other. But, to simply answer the question of legality, it’s all legal.

2. When is it endangering to minors?

  This content can, in fact, be endangering to minors when they are exposed to it either without warning, in a search, or if they are sent this content by another person. Ways that this could happen are if n*fw images appear google searches (where such content can be reported and taken down) or if n*fw writing is not properly tagged or accompanied by archive warnings (posted on ffnet for example or not properly rated on ao3). If this is happening, it is a good idea to go to the website to report it properly, or have someone contact the artist/author about the lack of tagging - the content itself is irregardless, the problem that exists here is the lack of warning.

N*fw art is also not allowed by the tumblr guidelines; feel free to report it if seen. Please, however, take a step back to remember than an image of a person in their underwear is not, in fact, p*rnography. If you’ve ever walked past a billboard for a clothing company or seen a Victoria’s Secret catalogue you should know this. There is, in fact, an actual parameter for what sets apart sfw and n*fw.

If this content, however, has been properly tagged and is behind a proper age limit, with warnings and the like, it is not endangering toward minors. Clicking on a n*fw art or writing with clear warnings for what it is does not make the creator of that content responsible; a p*rn star is not responsible for endangering minors if a minor answers falsely to a website agreement stating they are 18 and views their content. The responsibility lies with the minor as well as the guardians of that minor for not teaching them how to responsibly search the internet and recognize what they should or should not be viewing.

If you are not mature enough to recognize this, you should not be online.

3. But I disagree?

  You are within your rights to have a difference of opinion or feel uncomfortable if a person posts links to their n*fw content, or mentions that they make n*fw content. In fact, n*fw content makes many people uncomfortable. There are many ways to avoid seeing this.

First, go to the filter on your blog and filter all n*fw related tags you can think of. Next, block the blogs you do not personally like; feel free to block as many blogs, for any reason, that you like. This is absolutely fine and no explanation is needed. If you feel uncomfortable having your blog followed by any adults at all, you can also take steps to make the blog unsearchable and only follow as few people as you like.

What you should not do is harass people for making content that you personally do not like. This includes n*fw content. Making such incredibly serious claims as to state someone is a predator who endangers minors for making n*fw content in your fandom is unfounded, dangerous, and entirely irresponsible. Adults participating in this rhetoric need to take a very good look at themselves, and minors who have been experiencing anxiety as a result of this claim, I am very sorry.

4. What was the aunt-suki thing?

  Where did this whole thing start? No one was making this point only a few months ago, did it just pop up out of nowhere?

^ this blog, since deleted [also goes formerly by tumble-dump (now lil-baby-man) as well as jetru(deleted) safe-for-atla, and dennis-quaid] spearheaded this opinion after accusing one of the largest creators in the fandom, an adult doc (relevant later), of endangering minors for an image posted to tumblr with possible suggestive themes (Tumblr does not allow n*fw art, it was not n*fw). Aunt-Suki is a 23 year old, self-described “titanium white” woman. She stated directly that anyone who posted n*fw content behind age limit barriers was predatory and that n*fw artwork of atla characters was rampant on this website without evidence.

After curating a blocklist, and admittedly receiving hate for doing so (despite oddly enough asking for anon hate on several occasions) aunt-suki did in fact create a first draft blocklist including fandom creators who make n*fw content, who are follow or are friends with those who make nsfw content despite not doing it themselves, and people who specifically asked her to be on the blocklist. This, in itself, was fine. A list of creators making n*fw content could, in fact, be helpful and good for those who do not want to see such content to have a handy resource of who to block and avoid. Unfortunately, the rhetoric of “they are all predators” was something aunt-suki fostered and continued to repeat, getting a lot of people to also feel the same way. This invited harassment, much of which directly done and targeted at others by aunt-suki. She repeatedly stated on her blog ‘I am safe, no one else is unless I say so, in order to keep yourself safe you must ask me who is bad [paraphrase, not direct quote]’ insisting that anyone who wished to know who was a predator on the website had to privately DM her for the information. Aunt-Suki used this to gain followers of minors and to specifically foster friendships with them.

We know this because aunt-suki made a post exposing herself. An anon asked her to defend the way she interacted with minors and she defended herself with phrases such as “I love kids so much more than grown ups”[quote], stating she runs a server of 13+ wlw and they all “care a lot about each other”; she also admitted she takes it upon herself to “expose kids to [heavy topics]” including race, sexism, queer issues, mental health, politics, etc. Aunt-Suki is not a trained professional for these issues and admits in the same post that she does not understand how there could be any difference in power dynamics between her and these teenagers.

In addition, while defending these close relationships with minors that she specifically admits to reaching out for, Aunt-Suki also divulged her past at 18 years old of saying the n-word (excused by explaining she has a black friend); somehow stating that this is the reason why she should, as a 23 year old white adult, be allowed to discuss “heavy topics” with minors.

This most certainly calls into question the fact that it was, with one exception, non-white creators that aunt-suki chose to publicly call out by name.

After being asked to defend herself for these actions she admitted to, Aunt-Suki deleted her blog but has continued to go online on her others blogs and discords, dm’ing others and making posts accusing people who called her out of being predators, asking for sympathy, blaming her actions on her adhd, and refusing to answer any of the messages sent to her. Other large creators have made posts about this, very rarely using her name to allow her some anonymity or time to explain her actions, which she has not done. She choose instead to send anonymous messages further accusing these creators.

5. Why did you tell me that?

  This directly illustrates the problem with presenting an issue such as n*fw art/writing in the fandom without pointing out why others might disagree with it; and jumping past logic to decry those who don’t agree with extremely serious accusations. Someone with actual ill (or misguided) attentions may take advantage, deliberately isolating minors and portraying themselves as ‘good and safe’ while slowly whittling down who the minors can and cannot follow until no one able to call them out when they are the one participating in actual behavior that is inappropriate to minors.

6. I still don’t agree with the first points.

  That’s fine. Please call out actual predators if you see them. Do not, however, do so without any evidence or for reasons that simply are not, and never would be, considered basis for doing so in any legal or reasonable capacity.