#also i hate groupme

[coldmilkchoices]

is it some sort of unspoken law of the universe that the most active ppl in the groupme are the ones who care the least

[the-starlight-papers]

I’m so tired of my physics lab group because it’s me and then a bunch of guys who went to the same Christian high school in the same town as my university and they just talk about guns all the time.

Today one guy was telling a story about his cousin who’s in Communications so the professors are more liberal so she has to deal with them “talking about pronouns and crap.” Same guy has a sticker on his phone that says “I support FREE SPEECH not ~POLITICAL CORRECTNESS~”

Of course they were all talking about the Citadel shooting in Nashville too and how the shooter was trans.

@the-starlight-papers

[bedsheetghost413]

Nothing more more fucked than learning about

✨️Attachment Styles✨️

In my interpersonal communications class and then realizing that, maybe that's why all of my relationships suck and that might be why I'm not over weezer boy.

[wttcsms]

WTTCSMS EGOIST BIBLE !!

while i'm gone on hiatus, i thought now would be a good time for you all to get to know me! i thought the egoist bible questions were so silly but so good at getting some insight into how a person is, so here are my answers <3 i did change up some questions pertaining to soccer, but for the most part, these are all the questions asked from the egoist bible 🤭

BIRTHDAY ► april 21

AGE ► 21

ZODIAC SIGN ► taurus

BIRTHPLACE ► houston, tx

HOUSEHOLD ► dad, mom, older sister, me, younger brother

HEIGHT ► 5'2

SHOE SIZE ► us women's 6.5, eu 37

BLOOD TYPE ► o negative (i actually really enjoy donating blood)

DOMINANT HAND ► right

AGE YOU STARTED WRITING FANFICTION ► 11

MOTTO ► it's cheesy, but i really like nike's "just do it"

WHAT YOU THINK IS YOUR STRENGTH ► my personality must be pretty agreeable because no matter the setting (different workplaces, school, concerts, waiting in a long line, etc.) people always seem happy to talk to me. i'm happy about that because i love listening to people yap and encourage it.

WHAT YOU THINK IS YOUR WEAKNESS ► i get scammed easily. i don't like saying no when i see people asking for money, even if i know they're feeding me a lie. usually, there's a thought in the back of my mind that goes "what if they're not lying and they really do need the money??" it'll all come back to me, anyway.

FAVORITE FOOD ► a ny strip, cooked rare.

LEAST FAVORITE FOOD ► salmon. i hate it; i dislike most fish, but i gag every time i eat salmon. it doesn't matter how high quality it is, how it's prepared, what dish it is — i can't stand the taste. which is a total bummer because salmon has hella omega-3s, and i #needthat (i buy fish oil vitamins because of this)

BEST SIDE DISH WITH RICE ► not a traditional side dish, but i really like bacon and rice. my uncle opened my eyes to this

HOBBY ► playing nitrotype (my average wpm is 127, with a personal best of 144 wpm)

FAVORITE SEASON ► winter, i love cold weather because i live down south & it's christmas season!!!

FAVORITE SONG ► changes all the time, but my current fixation is "packing it up" by gracie abrams.

FAVORITE MOVIE ► 1917; i watched it once a day for two weeks straight.

FAVORITE MANGA ► blue lock, with haikyuu a close second

CHARACTER COLOR ► baby blue

FAVORITE ANIMAL ► labrador retrievers <3 growing up, we had one

FAVORITE BRAND ► new balance, i swear by their shoes

BEST SUBJECT ► english + history; i was on a full ride scholarship during undergrad and wanted to take advantage, so i maxed out my schedule's credit limit by taking a "history of english language" class. it combined my favorite subjects together & apparently it was a required course for all english majors at my uni. funnily enough, i was the only business major in the course but after silently stalking the groupme & looking at the canvas lowest v highest score scale, it turns out i was doing better than all of them. business majors 1, eng majors 0 😋

WORST SUBJECT ► math. i like it and always made A's. sometimes i regret not majoring in math, but it's one of those subjects that didn't automatically click for me.

MAGAZINES YOU READ OFTEN ► national geographic. i can't help but buy the newest issue whenever i'm in the checkout line of barnes and noble. wall street journal

SOMETHING THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY ► when strangers compliment me

SOMETHING THAT MAKES YOU SAD ► seeing people mock neurodivergent people for their mannerisms.

FETISH ► hands. specifically, guys with big hands. you know when athletes grip the ball with one hand? wooooooow. or when a guy is reversing and has one hand on the steering wheel

YOUR TYPE ► someone driven & disciplined who also makes me laugh (whether it's unintentionally or because he really is just that funny)

FIRST TIME YOU RECEIVED A CONFESSION ► when i was 14. he admitted to liking me since middle school, and suddenly i was aware that i am capable of being perceived which is scary

HOURS OF SLEEP ► 4-5 hours (i stay up late but wake up very early)

WHERE DO YOU WASH FIRST IN THE SHOWER ► my face. i heard you're not supposed to wash your face in the shower, but idc. it's easier that way.

WHAT YOU UNINTENTIONALLY ALWAYS END UP BUYING AT THE CONVENIENCE STORE ► it used to be an energy drink, but now it's those bottled smoothies.

MOST USED APP ► tiktok. im working on that NOT being my top app.

MUSHROOMS OR BAMBOO SHOOTS ► mushrooms

LAST TIME YOU CRIED ► last night, i was watching sad tiktoks

HOW OLD WHEN YOU STOPPED RECEIVING PRESENTS FROM SANTA ► maybe 8? my parents never did the "from santa" schtick, but i stopped believing in him at around 8 years old

WHAT DID YOU ASK FOR AS A CHRISTMAS PRESENT FROM SANTA ► probably dolls. i liked playing with barbies and polly pockets and bratz

WHAT WILL YOU DO ON THE LAST DAY ON EARTH ► spend it with my family

WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU RECEIVED $650,000 ► 10% to my church, 50% in savings, 25% to my brokerage accounts + roth ira, 15% to spending!!!!

HOW DO YOU SPEND YOUR DAY OFF ► play nitrotype, color, clean

WHAT WOULD YOU BE DOING IF YOU HADN'T STARTED WRITING FANFICTION ► probably (definitely) study more, but i feel like i wouldn't be as happy. writing fanfiction makes me more connected to a fandom, and it adds to my overall enjoyment of media. i met really cool people online because of my fanfiction

WHO IS YOUR FAVORITE HISTORICAL FIGURE ► Jesus

IF YOU COULD TAKE ONLY ONE THNG TO A DESERTED ISLAND, WHAT WOULD YOU BRING ► my dad, he'd know what to do. if i can't bring a person, an expensive emergency survival kit (loophole logic; an emergency survival kit is usually sold as one unit).

IF THERE WAS A TIME MACHINE, WOULD YOU WANT TO GO TO THE PAST OR THE FUTURE ► the future. somehow, i don't think i'd get treated right if i went to the past, and besides, i can read a textbook. i can't see into the future.

[darksouls2yuri]

also i hate groupmes like do not send me a groupme invite i will not be clicking it

[twigstarpikachutroll22]

my result:

An Ex-Friend Tries to Get with My Ex-Boyfriend to Spite Me Picture this: you're in a fight with a friend you were really close to, and to get back at you she tries to hook up with your ex the day after the fight started. Little does she know, it backfires, and your ex tells you over lunch while you're both dishing the tea after spring break. Welcome to my life. You know which connections to value, i.e. having your ex as one of your closest friends, but also let some really bad people slip through the walls you have built around your trust. Social cues may be a bit hard for you to read, and you might be a little, or very, mentally ill. Gossiping is your guilty pleasure, and that can be satisfied through talking to others about drama, or even just social media stalking to stay up-to-date on others' lives. You hate text because of the way tone is misconstrued, but you also hate in-person confrontation. Through it all, though, you put yourself first and aren't afraid to acknowledge your own faults. I also have a feeling you're a big partier, and maybe enjoy casual flings. Anyways, take a shot and live your life. YOLO

Actually, I communicate better over text (not phone message app text, I mean like discord messaging). I have time to actually fully think through exactly what I want to say and I don’t have to look at anycreature’s face and get self-conscious. And I don’t do casual flings, I’d rather stab myself than be in any kind of non-platonic relationship at all. The rest checks out though.

my imaginary friend’s result:

Getting Doxxed in a 1300 Person GroupMe Isn't life so fun when revealing photos of yourself get sent to your entire class at school? Isn't it even MORE fun when those photos came from someone who you had a falling out with? But, you see the use in being petty and having revenge. If you're like me, you may have even emailed the kid who did this to you's father, the head of an academic department at this college, to get his child in check. You enjoy slightly manipulative music like "Better Than Revenge" by Taylor Swift, cathartic car rides, and venting on TikTok. But, you also like being holed up in your room to have a wine night and watch a movie, potentially crying alone because emotions are scary to show to people. Maybe you're a Leo or Virgo too, pretending to not like the attention while also eating it up. Either way, you're bad[***] and so strong and don't take any [****]. I <3 you.

She DOES see the use in pettiness and revenge. And she DOES enjoy some music like that. Not venting on tiktok though. And she doesn’t cry alone much. Gemini, not leo or virgo, and she eats up attention without EVER in the LEAST pretending not to like it. Above all else the last part is correct though.

which traumatic college moment are you: me and my best friend edition

https://uquiz.com/quiz/4Wnch5/which-one-of-my-friend-and-is-traumatic-college-moments-are-you

[curlyhairedintrovertsworld]

not me getting kicked out of a groupme for not replying :)

[724fc]

y'all so i'm in African-American psychology and we have a paper due tonight, right? the paper is on this book we're reading is about a fictional African tribe that participates in the slave and how some white soldiers decided to take wives from this village. There's also a P.O.V. from a slave who is the half-sister of a village girl who married a soldier. there's mad graphic scenes and i really do HATE historical fiction like it's trauma p**n. ANYWAYS people are in the groupme for my class asking about the paper, what to write about blase blase. so somebody asked in the groupme how were people liking the book and a couple people were like oh, it's interesting, bc you know, it's a historical fiction, very sensitive. this wh*te girl goes, "i really like it it's really good" and the whole groupme STOPS.

[jay-catsby]

obsessed with groupmates who insist i download groupme so that we can participate in a chat and then ignore my messages in that chat when im asking for confirmation on an important decision

thog DO care. thog pissed off

[goth-oatmilk-latte]

i really hate people who have an incredible amount of audacity.

our exam study guide has been up for a week and a half, and i was kind enough to make it into a google doc and share with my class via our groupme. i mentioned to everyone that they could edit it so the entire guide was a collab between us and not all on me to do it, and that i would be taking a little break from it to work on other things...and this absolute fucking jackass today, THE DAY OF OUR EXAM, comes in the groupme and says he doesn't know what to study and that the googledoc wasn't helpful bc it wasn't 100% completed. okay dawg if u cared that much u would have studied, also u would actually come to class, and not a single mf one of these people did their part on the collab so guess what, now it's locked and y'all can fail, get fucked. don't expect it next time either, im not making something for everyone to help with so we can all help each other, only to be shit on for it. have fun failing kids.

[worstloki]

(1) i'm demiro-ace & i do have fictional/celebrity crushes i am never attracted to all of an actors roles just the ones i like and some times the actor as well if i see enough from them bts or interviews. i told my friend i got into great gatsby b/c tom hiddleston portrays f scott fitzgerald in midnight in paris & i wanted to read some fitzgerald to truly appreciate the film before i watch it & i really like tom's acting. & my friend was basically like "uh huh. you totally did it b/c tom is eye

(2) candy." & this guy doesnt know i'm ace but i've been considering telling him lately b/c i'm good friends w/ him & he's pretty chill abt lgbt stuff. but a bunch of other people were in the chat then & i dont have his number (we were on groupme) so rip me. but i do actually have a crush on tom but it honestly felt so uncomfortable for someone to assume that the reason i like tom's films is because he's sexy/hot/eye candy/etc. call me out on my romantic feelings all you want but it felt so

(3) uncomfortable for someone to assume i only care about tom b/c hes hot. hes very aesthetically pleasing dont get me wrong but man i hate that ppl assume the only thing i see from him is his looks when tom is an amazing actor w/ an amazing career and is such a good and kind person. ive felt uncomfortable in the past when it is implied that i think someone is sexy but this time hit different for some reason. partly its b/c im really tired of ppl assuming girls are only interested in fiction b/c

(4) of hot male actors b/c most girls ive known have cared deeply abt fandom more so than any sexual attraction they may feel to any characters. but also allonormativity is annoying as heck. & i dont like the implication that i read an american classic just for a pretty face. and tom is an amazing actor and so much more eye candy. & just aaaa i hate it but i might come out to this friend tomorrow so wish me luck

It’s assuming that attraction is the sole possible factor in enjoying someone’s work, and then only applying the logic when there’s a large female demographic, and it is, unfortunately, not very nice to be accused of feelings generally, it’s a whole thing that happens. 😔

On the bright side you’re allowed to appreciate people for their looks and still enjoy their work and anyone assuming otherwise shouldn’t be assuming because it’s not their place! A lot of actors are literally there to be eye-candy if that makes you feel any better. They literally present themselves as characters to be viewed on a screen, so there’s that!

It’s always important to remember that even if a majority of people feel one way about something that does not necessitate everyone does, I know loads of people who are both attracted to the character and/or actor and have great meta, as well as people just here for the s*xy, as well as those who couldn’t care less, so you’re not alone in feeling however you do about the actor I’m sure, and if he happened to be playing a character in an adaptation of a book you were interested in then lucky you ;D

I hope the friend apologizes much. Good luck, anon!

[orlamccools]

one thing i hate is that all of my work groupchats are on groupme and like. all of my messages from when i was still a student are there but i also cannot bring myself to delete them because fall 2019 was legitimately one of the best times of my life and a part of me still wants those memories

[quaranbabes]

hi everyone! i forget to come on here all the time but niv’s tweet reminded me!

honestly not much to update on milestone-wise. i finished up my semester with a 3.5 gpa (im v proud), then started my metabolism rotation the week after! been slacking a bit on my research project, but i cant say that’s been all my fault-- my committee has been sorta shitty with responding. i counseled my first ever full session this past wednesday which was terrifying but also boosted my confidence, and i am still feeling pretty good about being a gc!!! i still get these pangs of imposter syndrome here and there, but this summer it’s been nice because i am not in classes with my cohort and so i don’t have anyone to compare myself to other than me! i have also definitely realized that i base so much of my self-worth on what other people think of me or how talented/popular/smart i am in comparison to others. i am working on unlearning this, but it’s hard. looking back, i’ve realized how much of the love i received as a child was conditional-- my mom would only treat me well as long as i was able to provide her something to brag about (whether it be good grades, beating swim team records, winning writing competitions, etc.). i felt that i had to be perfect and work hard in order to earn love, and i think that’s why i struggle so much when i don’t perform up to “standard”. being friends with you all and being with amanda has been an amazing help and honestly helped me revolutionize the way i think about how i deserve love. amanda especially has helped me unlearn this-- she really is the definition of unconditional love, and i cannot wait to get married to her someday.

it’s also been hard this past year trying to balance school and a social life. i see groups hanging out without me or no one likes a groupme message, and my first thought is “damn, i must have done something for them to hate me.” I KNOW this is unrealistic, but i get so damn paranoid. i’m sure it ties into the above paragraph somehow, but im not willing to dive into that today haha. i’ve been trying to get better about making plans v. waiting to be invited, and that has definitely helped, but it still hurts when i see people hanging out without me. my friend lauren has also told me she feels the same way with our cohort, and knowing i’m not alone has helped immensely. i just dont know how i can get out of this thought pattern. it’s always a very conscious and dedicated effort to get out of that headspace, and it’s becoming so tiring. i dont know why i care so deeply about what others think of me-- i also dont know why i assume it’s always something bad. i guess i have always felt this way, even since i was a kid, and i just assumed that with age this feeling would just... go away???? i never realized that adults could be just as clique-y and gossip-y as teenagers. i guess that is pretty naive, but hey a girl can dream!

anyway this was a lot more introspective and sad than i was originally intending so i apologize. i am so excited to see you all and go on our seattle trip!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

p.s. lol i bought a lady dimitrescu costume the other day.. as a treat! i will be a 9 ft tall vampire lady with massive tiddies and no one can stop me >:)

[doughyduo]

What do you study in school Wash?

uhh

tbh i have no clue

i wanted to do medicine, but then i realized that med school probably wasn’t for me despite the fact that i really like the idea of going into medicine and have done a lot of shadowing and research on what its like to be a doctor and all that, but idk if i can do med school with how intense students make it sound and with all of the stress theyre under

i also dropped ochem bc i took it online and that was a mistake because i can’t do online classes (and im doing them rn haha i have an exam tomorrow and wednesday and im worried)

i think i want to do engineering bc like

my college is apparently weird and has a list of general classes for engineering and other majors and then specific classes for specific fields of engineering

anyways i only need like one class and then i can specialize into anything i want to and it wouldn’t take that much time to finish up my degree

but rn im doing business classes because everyone that took them in person  said they were easy but im in several groupmes where people are stressing out just like i am so i hate college a lot rn and i want to take a gap semester and work or something to build my resume

anyways the plan is engineering bc im good at math (kind of bad at physics but oh well), probably industrial and systems, materials engineering, or coastal and oceanographic bc i know a firm in my hometown that does that sort of stuff and pays like

6 figures after a year and good benefits

anyways online school sucks and i hate it so much and i want to never do this ever again in my entire life and will be taking a gap semester or year if i have to at this point bc my life is a fucking mess mentally rn bc of all of this lol

[undecidedpersonality]

Writer’s Month 2020 Day Five: Soulmates

Title: “The Other Types of Soulmates”

By: Nalijah Daniels Word Count: 862 Genre: Flash Fiction - Contemporary

Soul mate

/ˈsōl ˌmāt/

Noun

A person ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic partner.

I believe everyone always skips over the “close friend” part of the definition of soulmates. Every movie that uses it only ever talks about two people (almost always a man and woman) being destined to fall in love, get married, and be together forever. Let’s not forget about the part where their meeting is super problematic because one, or both, of them is already in a relationship when their eyes meet and they can’t stay away from each other. We’ve seen it before and honestly, we don’t need to see it anymore because we should start focusing on the other types of soulmates. Like the ones who met each other in diapers due to their fathers’ soulmate-ship, were the best of friends for 15 years until they let a boy get in between them, and don’t speak to each other again until their second year in college when they work the same on-campus restaurant job.

Welcome to the story of me, Maya, and my ex-best friend Sadie.

We have done everything together since I was born. I’m two months and three days younger than her. Our dads are also soulmates and have been friends since late elementary school. They were each other’s best man and the godfather to each other’s kids. There hasn’t been a milestone that they haven’t hit by each other’s side.

We actually tore our dads’ relationship apart when we got into the argument over Kyle Rimmer and who he wanted to date. Sadie couldn’t stop herself from telling me that Kyle doesn’t like black girls. Sadie’s white. Kyle’s mixed.

My dad, Ramon, couldn’t believe that Sadie’s dad, Nicholas, hadn’t taught her well enough to not put someone down due to their skin color. Nicholas had. With a black man as his best friend, he was extra careful to teach his daughter how to be aware of someone’s physical differences without singling them out for it. Sadie just really wanted to hurt me and knew that would work. Sadie and I stopped speaking after that afternoon. Ramon and Nicholas have only spoken to each since on birthdays and holidays, a tinge of longing coated on their voices.

Now Sadie and I are the only two on the closing shift at the late-night diner on campus. I had no choice to attend this school because it gave me the most scholarship money. It hurt because in middle school Sadie and I dreamed about all the fun things we’d do together in college. We dreamed about figuring out the safe frats to party at, going to a different sunny place every spring break, and taking our graduation pictures together. We’re a year-and-a-half in now, and we’ve done nothing because we avoid each other at all costs. We didn’t even know we had the same job until we were added to the staff GroupMe.

Now we’re silently mopping the floor and wiping off counters, which is almost bearable since we left the radio volume up.

“I’m sorry.” At least I believe that’s what I heard over Katy Perry’s belting. I hate the 2010s playlist. I turn my head to glance at Sadie and she’s standing still, staring at the ground, gripping the mop in her left hand. I scrunch my eyebrows together, waiting for something else, but she remains unmoving. After a couple of seconds, I return to wiping off the corner until I hear it again, louder this time.

“Maya, I’m sorry.” Sadie’s head lifts as she tries to meet my eyes that I now keep downcast. She has to yell over the loud music. “I was a bitch sophomore year and I’ve been a bitch to you ever since and I’m sorry that I ruined our friendship. And our dads’ friendship. It hurt me more than you’ll ever realize. Me hurting you,” she pauses, “I miss you.”

Her eyes are brimming with tears when I finally look up. “It’s pathetic that you think an apology five years later will bring me back to you. You ruined my self-esteem,” I reply, attempting to keep my voice even and smooth. I’ve been waiting for this day. “You don’t just get to apologize for choosing to be racist.” I hope that part stings the most. Nicholas made sure that his daughter loved everyone, but she got too caught up in the popular teenage scene to remember any moral life lessons. “You don’t get pity from me when you ruined our relationship over a boy. We could’ve gotten over it. We could’ve ditched Kyle for Pitch Perfect and a tub of chocolate chunk ice cream but you just had to win, didn’t you?”

Her bottom lip stuck out and shook like a child’s as I threw away my paper towels and hung up my waist apron. Her mouth opens and closes, searching for words I don’t care to hear. When my back is to her I can’t help but smile to myself on the way out of the front door. This moment is more sweet than it is bitter. I guess soulmates aren’t forever after all.

[agaychristian]

I Hate Overthinking...

February 4, 2019

I hate overthinking.... it's got me second guessing and worrying.

Did I make the right decision telling him. I mean I thought I did, but it was the end of our conversation and he had already said he had to go. So we weren't able to talk abt it after I told him.

I need to talk to him more abt it, but I can't just reach out to him that would be weird... also only contact method I got is FB lol since I don't think he checks individual groupme.

That means I gotta wait till Sunday and hope he is at small group or church.

Aaaahhh that means my mind is gonna be overthinking and worrying abt all of this.

And it's only Monday!.....

Is this normal to worry and start second guessing this much?

Like it wasn't an issue all day, but I sit down for dinner and it kinda hits me...

Did I make the right decision?

I need to just remain calm, but I don't know if I can. Still have an entire week to deal with this.