#also I have been on T so I’m fairly transitioned

[hideyourautumn-milkteeth]

google diy hrt wiki

it’s safe and accessible, please consider starting testosterone ❤️

This anon is bait btw. Only posting it to let y’all know to pls don’t post about DIY T if that’s smth you’re interested in.

While I don’t recommend doing it, if you plan on doing so you NEED to be as private as possible and you need to keep that shit to yourself.

T is a federally controlled substance so if you’re found distributing it or recreating it yourself you could be sentenced to serious jail time and I’m not exaggerating.

Pls stay safe and don’t fall for bait. Especially rn. People are gunning for us rn, we gotta make sure we stay safe and keep things secure.

[beaft]

hiiii I’m real sorry to hear you’re experiencing the doom. the feeling you’re describing can of course be intense anxiety, but it’s also a medical symptom that can arise for a variety of reasons, including hormonal changes. since you describe the anxiety does not have a specific trigger, it may be medical. that doesn’t mean you are ill, i want to underline that to avoid re-spiking your anxiety. it could be transitive as your body adapts to some change, or it could be something to check out with your doctor. have you started any new medications lately, or changed a dosage? particularly medications that may affect your hormones or blood health. if it persists, you may want to consult with a sympathetic doctor.

double sorry if you already know all this.

i'm actually not on any meds at all at the moment aside from my regular T-shots, so i'm fairly sure that's not it - though having my bloods checked couldn't hurt. i've been putting off registering with a GP in my new city for reasons related to trans healthcare (folks in the UK will likely know what i mean), but at some point i'm gonna need to grit my teeth and Just Do It, so maybe now is a good time

[hyper-jam]

My SecurityWaiter/DreamTheory gender+sexuality head canons because they’re giving me brainrot and queer identities is one of my SpIns 🫶🫶🫶

+some like general love life sorta stuff ig lol

Mike:

-AroAce (spectrum) and gay (or at LEAST achillean/mlm in some way that man is a BOY KISSER)

-Ness is one of if not the only person he’s liked/been attracted to

-he always just assumed he was straight cause yk it’s the “default” and prior to Ness he was never attracted to guys/masc people (at least not that he realized), but after catching feelings for Ness and talking to Ness abt gender and sexuality and all that, he realized he wasn’t really ever attracted to women either, then Ness explained the whole AroAce thing to him and he was like “oh damn yeah ig so huh”

-was literally so confused when he first started liking Ness because 1: he found them VERY annoying at first and 2: again he’s never really fallen for anybody before this so he was like ???

-he never really comes out to anyone he just kinda does whatever and is either generally private/quiet abt it or just doesn’t say anything until someone asks

-trans man :)) maybe like a few years on T, binds and packs because let’s be real that man is not affording any sort of surgery, HRT alone idk how he’s managing. I imagine he probably came out/started transitioning in his late teens-early twenties and is pretty stealth (he’s in his mid-late twenties, so is Ness in my mind, just for the general record lol)

-kinda insecure abt his gender and sexuality. It’s a mix of internalized stuff, dysphoria, generally always having felt awkward when it comes to that stuff, etc. Ness is the only person he’s really talked openly abt it with

-Abby would’ve been fairly young when he came out, and their parents were already out of the picture, so she’s never really known any different, plus he doesn’t talk about it much so frankly she may not even know he’s trans. If/when she finds/found out, she’s probably very curious about it and then became a HUGE ally. Also definitely questioned some stuff (briefly and privately but I headcanon she may have come out as non-binary when she’s older)

-is one of those trans guys who’s like a bit paranoid abt misgendering just cause he’s so insecure abt it. He hasn’t been misgendered in YEARS but every now and then he’ll overhear people talking about literally anyone with she/her pronouns and he gets a little anxious abt it

-tries so hard not to be anywhere close to naked around anyone because he hasn’t gotten any surgeries. Wears a shirt to the pool (if he even goes in the first place), wears layers in the summer, anything sexual’s never been a problem cause he’s chronically bitchless, but you get the idea

-definitely binds an unhealthy amount (someone please stop him)

-uses masculine looking/smelling 2n1/3n1 cause it’s the “man soap” (yeah he’s one of those trans mascs /lh, Ness definitely helps him get into more of a proper hygiene routine)

-has never slept anywhere that’s not home or let anyone sleep over because he has to take his binder off to sleep (dysphoria attacks often ensue)

-first few times he’s not binded or has been any amount of naked around Ness, he was understandably nervous and uncomfortable, but after a while he gets so perfectly reassured by Ness that his body is perfect the way it is and he’s a man PERIOD that my brother in Christ SOBS in their arms :33 (I feel like I sound so cringe but guys I’m literally transmasc let me have this)

-k I dunno what else to say about him but I love him dearly, moving on

Ness:

-Non-Binary and queer, uses all pronouns (I mainly use they/he for them but they use all pronouns)

-fairly open abt his queerness, especially compared to Mike (don’t tell me that it’s unrealistic for the era or anything like that I completely ignore the concept of time in all of my headcanons ever)

-teaches Mike a lot of stuff abt sexuality and gender since Mike never really looked much into it past realizing he was trans. Definitely helps him unpack some things 💔💔💔

-literally just a silly little malewife femalehubby themboss

-really doesn’t care much abt labels for themself specifically, but he’s one of those “I need to know and understand EVERYTHING” autistics so he learns abt that sort of stuff for other people

-has dated a handful of people before, all across the gender spectrum, so they’re pretty comfortable in their love life and such

-is good at flirting but like in an autistic theater kid kinda way (gay and silly)

-loves to experiment with presentation and style in all sorts of ways. Has definitely done drag at least once

-they’re too silly for binaries idek what else to say abt it that’s kinda just the overall consensus

-was very supportive when Mike came out to them as trans (obviously) it doesn’t matter what they said, Mike would feel awkward no matter what, but they were glad Mike trusted them with that sort of thing and Mike was relieved that literally just SOMEONE knew (specifically someone he trusts and cares abt)

-would wear so many pins related to all sorts of things but yes that includes pride flags and pronouns bro LOVES pins their silliness cannot be contained

Ok that’s all I feel cringe but from what I can tell that’s what tumblrs for so yeah. I will definitely yap more abt them in the future

[yaoi-hate-machine]

transgender vent sesh re: misgendering from family. i would very much appreciate thoughts/solidarity/advice from any non-cis moots

so i have a good relationship w my bio dad, i love him a lot and i try to see him fairly regularly. he’s been very supportive of my transition. but the past several times i’ve seen him, he’s misgendered me, and at first i just brushed it off. but tonight it made me start crying and i feel like it affects me a lot more than i’d like to admit.

i can tell that he just doesn’t think about it. and i know it’s largely bc i’m his kid—both of my other parents are also always misgendering me. but also i feel like this is kind of a shit excuse? like my uncle (his brother) and aunt who i’ve been staying with for the past month have been using my pronouns flawlessly and they’ve also both known me my entire life. And they’re both older than any of my parents, too, so the boomer + memory loss excuses don’t track.

ig i don’t need to determine Why this happens. i’m mainly posting abt this bc it just hit me how much it fucks me up emotionally. and then there’s this part of me that goes “Evan you’re being a baby about this. Him using a word to refer to you doesn’t mean anything abt your gender or presentation. It’s not a big deal, you should just be thankful that you have a supportive parent.” and i am Very thankful. and also it just feels like getting stabbed every time it happens and then the knife gets twisted around for hours afterwards as i think about and process it in the back of my mind.

i think it also just made me emotional tonight bc it made me realize that no amount of medical transition or “passing” will make some people gender you correctly? like i have a deep ass voice and facial hair and i specifically chose more masc glasses frames and i wear a binder every time i see him. and it just doesn’t matter. i could go back on T despite wanting to stop just so that i’d pass better and it still wouldn’t matter. i could get top surgery and it still wouldn’t matter. it’s partially a positive bc it’s like. do whatever tf you want, transition based on Your wants and needs. but it’s also depressing and frustrating bc it’s like What’s the fucking point? even though i get gendered in public as a guy 90% of the time and i’ve been out for like 7 years, All of my parents still misgender me. and they’re all “supportive.” it’s hard not to feel like they are intentionally not seeing me.

other relevant thoughts:

he, like my mom, has cancer and i’m kind of terrified of the thought of him never truly seeing me for who i am before he dies/never having a truly genuine relationship w him

it makes me So fucking frustrated with cis ppl. like i get that it can be difficult to use different pronouns and/or a different name for someone you’ve known forever. it requires Effort. you have to Think about it and actively change the way you think about that person. cis ppl will be like “ough i’m So sorry it’s just so hard!!!” and not have put in an ounce of fucking effort. my brother in christ you have not done any of the hard part, you just don’t like being wrong and called out for misgendering/deadnaming. cis ppl will straight up be like “ok i hear you saying that being misgendered/deadnamed is hard. but have you thought abt how hard it is for Me to be called out for misgendering/deadnaming you?”

[transmasc-advice-blog]

So I'm genderfluid but also trans masc. As such I have more masc days than I do fem ones. At the end if the day I'm fairly certain that I want to go on T and get top surgery. Problem is there's this lady who comes into my place of work and she's detrans. She's very open about this. But because of this my coworkers are super comfortable telling me their opinions on trans people (somehow always missing my pronouns on my name tag). I know I shouldn't let this affect my transition goals and such, but part of me worries that I'm going to make a mistake? I can't even pinpoint what exactly I'm so worried about? I just know I need another trans person to give some advice. How did you figure out what transition goals you had? Dis you ever have doubts? Surely I can't be the only person to doubt myself? Any advice would be appreciated!

i had doubts. that’s completely normal! transitioning is a huge step. i had doubts because when i was kid i liked feminine things. i had doubts because i saw other trans people saying they didn’t have any doubts at all. i had doubts because i liked some aspects of being a girl, because most of my friends are girls, because i thought i might not like all the side effects of testosterone, or that i would never be satisfied with my transition so why would i even bother. but then i realized, i was never truly happy as a girl and i was never going to be. no matter what i told myself, i knew one fact was true: after a transitioned socially i was infinitely more happier. no matter how much i tried to tell myself that my dysphoria “isn’t actually dysphoria” i couldn’t deny that i experience euphoria from dressing as, being perceived as, etc. a guy. and of course a lot of my doubts came from what my (then) unsupportive family was telling me. i had to realize that if they hadn’t been spouting their nonsense at me, would i even be this unsure? it was so hard to get passed those doubts. i still have doubts in the back of my mind and they will probably always be there until i transition medically. so my advice: take some time to think about the pros and cons. how do you feel you will be happier after T and top surgery? are there any ways you would be unhappy with the results? think about the ways you experience dysphoria as well as euphoria: what causes those feelings? try to pinpoint the root of your doubts. is it actually mostly what you’re hearing from your transphobic coworkers? do some more research on T and top surgery, even if you feel you know all there is to know. learn about other people’s experiences and try to find one close to your own or one that you hope for in the future.

when taking a big step like medical transition, it is normal to worry it might be a mistake. that’s why there are steps you are required to take beforehand. like talking to a therapist. i know some places require a year of therapy before you’re allowed to start hormones.

hope this helps! so sorry if i don’t make sense, i’m a bit tired right now!

[i-am-still-bb]

No. 17

“I tend to deflect when I’m feeling threatened.” | Blindfold | Tortured For Information | “Hit them harder.”

Character(s): Kili Rating: T Words: 1147

Fast Car (formerly Dead Batteries) AU (Tumblr / Ao3)

Takes place before Dead Batteries

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Warnings: blackmail, revenge porn, felonies, escorts

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A/N: There is some Kili/OMC, but it is in the past.

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Kili tucked his keys into his bag after he locked up the employee entrance. The alarm was armed and he was tired. He wanted to get back to his apartment, make something to eat that had never been frozen and was not deep fried, and go to bed and sleep like the dead until he woke up at 5:15am to do it all again. 

He was too tired to do anything else. And that was the point. He was up at 5:15 every single morning to hit the gym. The express purpose of this was to be too tired to get into trouble later in the day. 

And it was working. 

It had been working for months. 

He had not called the number that he had deleted from his phone and tried to forget, but he still knew by heart. Getting on the El he checked his pockets out of habit, just to make sure he had everything. This line of the El was fairly empty this late on a Thursday night so Kili took one of the empty seats and pulled out his phone to scroll mindlessly. So he did not notice when someone he knew got in the car until they sat in the spot immediately next to Kili, far too close for comfort. Kili pulled his leg in, crossing it over the other, making himself take up less space, but not looking. 

Kili had learned the rules of riding public transit early on. You did not look at the other people, and if you were looking around, you kept your gaze unfocused. It was always best to have a book or your phone. 

Only when the other person spoke did Kili look up.

“Do I know you?” Kili asked. He was certain he would remember this person. He had light blonde hair, and a couple very obvious facial scars. His forearms bulged under dark and blurry tattoos. Kili recognized a couple and pointedly stopped looking.

“We have a mutual friend.”

“I highly doubt that.” Kili stood up. He tucked his phone into the pocket of his jeans and moved to stand near the door, one hand gripping the pole. He watched the board waiting for the train to pull into the next stop. It was not his stop. But he was going to get off. He would rather walk an extra few blocks than stay in this car.

“Oh, but we do,” the man said sweetly. He did not stand, but he did move down the bench. “Otherwise I wouldn’t have these.” He turned his phone so that Kili could see the screen. .

Kili knew he should not look, but he did. On the screen were some very private photographs. Without turning the screen back to face him the man swiped to the next photo. Then another. And another. Kili with leather handcuffs around his wrists and ankles, oil glistening on his skin, naked except for the wide bands of blue leather, a blindfold, and another man’s hand on his cock. 

Kili remembered that night. He remembered the guy he had been with; dark hair and eyes, tattoos in a script Kili could not read swirling on one leg. There had hardly been a spot of bare flesh on that limb. He had not known that pictures were being taken. 

Kili could not pull his eyes away from the screen.

The man swiped a finger across the screen. “I also have a video,” he said before tapping the white triangle on the screen. Kili’s heavy breathing came through the small speakers, tinny, tawdry. It left him feeling ashamed and angry. 

“Stop. I believe you.”

The man paused the video. “I thought you would,” he said with a smirk. 

“Why do you have those?” Kili demanded. He sounds more sure of himself than he feels. The El came to a stop. The bell rang. The door opened. No one got on. The man had not moved to block Kili from getting off. He looked quite relaxed and showed no inclination to jump up to stop Kili if he chose to leave.

The doors closed. And the train started off again. 

“That young man owed us some money. And he offered up you instead of cash.”

“So I’m here because I wanted to get off? That’s one hell of a consequence. Next time I’ll keep it in my pants. Can I go now?” His tone was dismissive.

“Deflection,” the man chided. 

“I tend to deflect when I’m feeling threatened,” Kili snapped. 

“You’re not being threatened, yet.”

Kili said nothing. He had learned the value of well placed silences in college. 

“Don’t you want to know why I’m here talking to you at this particular juncture?” The man drawled. He had one arm flung over the back of the empty bench. 

“Not really,” Kili said shortly. “I just want to know what I’m going to eat for dinner.” He was back to watching the announcement board. 

“You should be interested.”

“And why’s that?”

“Do you think your employer would like it if they found out that you like to hire boys for sex?”

“Past tense,” Kili snapped. “And they were men. The youngest was 23.” He saw too late that the man was recording the conversation. He shut his mouth tightly.

“I really don’t think they’d like it, do you?” He had a conspiratorial expression on his face, like the two of them had something in common. 

Kili kept his mouth shut.

“I assume that you like your job and would like to keep it? And I’m going to need an answer, otherwise I will assume that the answer is no and I will send these images, that video, a few others, and an edited version of this conversation to them tomorrow morning.”

“Yes,” Kili gritted out.

“Yes, you like your job?”

Kili’s voice was sharp, “Yes.”

“And you’d just love to know what you have to do to keep these… special… items private?”

“Sure.” Kili’s tone was sarcastic now.

“Don’t sound so enthusiastic,” the man teased with a laugh. “It’s nothing too terribly hard.”

“What is it.”

“We just need a few medicines.” He held out a yellow post-it with a few words scrawled on it in pencil between two fingers. “For our own private use, you see.”

Kili snatched the paper and  looked at the list. All controlled substances. All monitored. He would lose more than just his job if he took these items. “When do you need them?” he asked tightly.

“By Friday.”

“And how will I get them to you?” 

“I’ll find you,” the man said. 

“And this is it?”

“For now.”

The train pulled into the next station and the man was out the door and gone. The doors closed again. Kili stood there holding the sallow piece of paper with a sinking feeling in the pit of his stomach.

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Taglist Everything: @silvermoon-scrolls @metztlilua Fili/Kili: @dubhlachen

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[cleverhottubmiracle]

Uh oh, last year I made it two weeks into the New Year and what on earth happened to my resolutions? I was holding strong until the end of the first week when, mysteriously, I found myself reaching for the Pinot Noir instead of the Pilates mat. Hey, don’t judge – when you’re working from the kitchen table, it’s a fairly seamless transition from the “Home Barista” group (yes, that’s a thing) to the “It’s-5-o’clock-Somewhere” club! So, this year I am seriously reviewing my last year’s list of New Year resolutions: Cut Out Carbs, Be Tidier, Drink More Water, Organize Spice Rack Alphabetically, Join Book Club, Write My Memoirs…OMG! STOP! Recycling is important, yes – but in what life am I going Create Macrame Plant Hangers from my old T-Shirts? This is just a long list of chores. I’m setting myself up to fail miserably again! What I actually need to do is put notes on my calendar such as “It’s Twizzlers Tuesday” and “Yay, French Fries Friday” as well as pop-up reminders like “Don’t Forget the Chardonnay is in the Freezer” and “Your Monthly Pedicure’s at 3pm, Dragon Lady” and so on… Lesson learned. With the world in turmoil, let’s set goals that are fun, projects that will make us happier, and a “to-do” list that doesn’t feel like work. We still must get dressed every day (usually) so we should buy clothing that helps us avoid the ‘nothing-to-wear” meltdown and make us feel and look great. With this in mind, here are my suggestions for a new set of resolutions for 2022 – resolutions that you can actually keep! Top of this list has to be Buying New Underwear! New Year, New You! 12 Resolutions You Can Actually Keep! Share on X New Year Resolution #1 – Up the Ante on Your Panties …be honest, did we gain a few pounds this year? And, woe, they all settled right around the mid-section, amirite? I’m all for body positive but even Bridget Jones would agree that any sexy outfit can be ruined by unsightly muffin-tops. As she memorably said, “If I actually do, by some terrible chance, end up in flagrante surely these…tiny knickers…would be most attractive at crucial moment. However, chances of reaching crucial moment greatly increased by wearing these scary stomach-holding-in pants very popular with grannies the world over.” That’s why I’ve been taking a more active interest in shapewear- of course only until I start my New Year diet and exercise regimen (fingers crossed)! And currently I’m eyeing the 14-day Rapid Fat Loss Diet. In the meantime, there is no shortage of Bridget Jones granny panties on the market! The selection is in fact so vast that one might suspect there has been a conspiracy afoot – so I’m narrowing it down for you. Maidenform utilizes their “Cool Comfort” fabric which gives stretch and coverage of troublesome spots. Also, Wacoal’s high-waisted brief in Pima cotton helps eliminate muffin tops, visible panty lines, and “wedgies” as well as hiding unsightly lumps and bumps. New Year Resolution #2 – release your inner artist! Some people go to art school and spend years learning how make cool stuff. For the rest of us, just wandering down the aisles in the art supply store can be the toughest part of DIY projects. Luckily, we don’t have to toil away in the wilderness like Van Gogh, we can use the kitchen table – and BONUS, as previously discussed, the Chardonnay is chillin’ nearby. Hey, why buy a print from Ikea or the museum when you can splash some paint on a canvas? Our projects may not always turn out perfectly but in the words of the immortal Bob Ross, “There are no mistakes, only happy accidents.” Craftsy is a good place to start your budding art career because they’re giving away a one-year premium membership for $2.49! On the other hand, you can have a lot of fun with Generative Art using some online platforms like ArtSpace Release your inner artist with Generative Art programs! New Year Resolution #3 – Learn to Cook There is no excuse for a ho-hum cooking, and I KNOW you’re spending way too much with Uber Eats! But how to start upping your kitchen game? Why not put the cost of one order of lukewarm Drunkman Noodles towards a cooking class and learn to cook real Italian food? Nonna Live is an online live cooking experience taught exclusively by Italian grandmothers! January’s class is Big Ravioli Cacio and Pepe with egg yolk – yum! New Year Resolution #4 – Spend more time at the beach! Maybe you can’t jump on a plane and fly to your favorite all-inclusive getaway in the Caribbean or sail to the tropics on a cruise ship. But that’s no excuse not to spend a lovely day with your toes in the sand – get in the car or on the Jitney and head to beaches before the summer when there are no crowds and stop at the local clam shack for a bowl of steamers and a basket of fried shrimp! You’ll return home tired and happy. Don’t forget your bikini from Solid and Striped! Don’t forget to wear sunscreen.New Year Resolution #5 – Take more Me-Time! If there was one benefit to pandemic life, it had to be the ability to take a cat nap after that three hour zoom meeting. After all, you had your pajamas on already. But you felt guilty, I know you did. This year put it on your daily “to do” list and give yourself permission for a little extra “me time”. Don’t forget your Bunny Hop vibrator. Me-time!New Year Resolution #6 – Buy yourself flowers every week! I’ve seen you lingering at the local flower stand with that wistful look on your face. From now on, buy yourself that little bouquet of daisies or roses! Weekly! Brighten your day with daisies!New Year Resolution #7 – Cooking healthy stuff! Every week I get a recipe in my in-box from Nigella Lawson for a delicious looking Pavlova or strawberry filled Angel Food Cake. Last year I scratched “No Carbs” off my list and clearly turned out to be a bad idea (hence the aforementioned granny panties). This year, it’s time to transform my kitchen into a guilt-free zone! Crispy, delicious meals with a fraction of the calories—yep, my taste buds AND waistline will thank me! You might say that I’m pulling a 180 and becoming a Kitchen Ninja! Get out the air-fryer! New Year Resolution #8 – Up your hostess game! Martha Stewart didn’t become successful by serving guests drinks with ice that smelled like five-year-old frozen vegetables. You might not have the skills to become a legendary hostess, but you can still impress your guests with thoughtful hostess details like fancy ice-cubes! Make a splash with fancy ice cubes. New Year Resolution #9 – Create your own signature cocktail! This is one situation when “practice makes perfect” is not a problem. Step one, learn how to make your own signature cocktail. Step two, teach your local bartender to make it and happy hour will be so much fun. It’s so YOU! New Year Resolution #10 – Leave a little sparkle wherever you go. Good vibes, baby. The power of positivity and kindness goes a long way. Glitter toes New Year Resolution #11 – Drink rosé all winter long It’s such a cheerful sip, why does it have to be only enjoyed in the summer? I am putting my foot down and drinking it all year round. Speaking of guilt free and low calorie…I have even been enjoying the non-alcoholic version, too! Rosé is not just for the summer! New Year, New You Resolution #12 – Accept good advice… Nana was right – as usual. Thank you, Nana. Read Next: 10 Factories to Make Your Lingerie Collection. Source link

[norajworld]

Uh oh, last year I made it two weeks into the New Year and what on earth happened to my resolutions? I was holding strong until the end of the first week when, mysteriously, I found myself reaching for the Pinot Noir instead of the Pilates mat. Hey, don’t judge – when you’re working from the kitchen table, it’s a fairly seamless transition from the “Home Barista” group (yes, that’s a thing) to the “It’s-5-o’clock-Somewhere” club! So, this year I am seriously reviewing my last year’s list of New Year resolutions: Cut Out Carbs, Be Tidier, Drink More Water, Organize Spice Rack Alphabetically, Join Book Club, Write My Memoirs…OMG! STOP! Recycling is important, yes – but in what life am I going Create Macrame Plant Hangers from my old T-Shirts? This is just a long list of chores. I’m setting myself up to fail miserably again! What I actually need to do is put notes on my calendar such as “It’s Twizzlers Tuesday” and “Yay, French Fries Friday” as well as pop-up reminders like “Don’t Forget the Chardonnay is in the Freezer” and “Your Monthly Pedicure’s at 3pm, Dragon Lady” and so on… Lesson learned. With the world in turmoil, let’s set goals that are fun, projects that will make us happier, and a “to-do” list that doesn’t feel like work. We still must get dressed every day (usually) so we should buy clothing that helps us avoid the ‘nothing-to-wear” meltdown and make us feel and look great. With this in mind, here are my suggestions for a new set of resolutions for 2022 – resolutions that you can actually keep! Top of this list has to be Buying New Underwear! New Year, New You! 12 Resolutions You Can Actually Keep! Share on X New Year Resolution #1 – Up the Ante on Your Panties …be honest, did we gain a few pounds this year? And, woe, they all settled right around the mid-section, amirite? I’m all for body positive but even Bridget Jones would agree that any sexy outfit can be ruined by unsightly muffin-tops. As she memorably said, “If I actually do, by some terrible chance, end up in flagrante surely these…tiny knickers…would be most attractive at crucial moment. However, chances of reaching crucial moment greatly increased by wearing these scary stomach-holding-in pants very popular with grannies the world over.” That’s why I’ve been taking a more active interest in shapewear- of course only until I start my New Year diet and exercise regimen (fingers crossed)! And currently I’m eyeing the 14-day Rapid Fat Loss Diet. In the meantime, there is no shortage of Bridget Jones granny panties on the market! The selection is in fact so vast that one might suspect there has been a conspiracy afoot – so I’m narrowing it down for you. Maidenform utilizes their “Cool Comfort” fabric which gives stretch and coverage of troublesome spots. Also, Wacoal’s high-waisted brief in Pima cotton helps eliminate muffin tops, visible panty lines, and “wedgies” as well as hiding unsightly lumps and bumps. New Year Resolution #2 – release your inner artist! Some people go to art school and spend years learning how make cool stuff. For the rest of us, just wandering down the aisles in the art supply store can be the toughest part of DIY projects. Luckily, we don’t have to toil away in the wilderness like Van Gogh, we can use the kitchen table – and BONUS, as previously discussed, the Chardonnay is chillin’ nearby. Hey, why buy a print from Ikea or the museum when you can splash some paint on a canvas? Our projects may not always turn out perfectly but in the words of the immortal Bob Ross, “There are no mistakes, only happy accidents.” Craftsy is a good place to start your budding art career because they’re giving away a one-year premium membership for $2.49! On the other hand, you can have a lot of fun with Generative Art using some online platforms like ArtSpace Release your inner artist with Generative Art programs! New Year Resolution #3 – Learn to Cook There is no excuse for a ho-hum cooking, and I KNOW you’re spending way too much with Uber Eats! But how to start upping your kitchen game? Why not put the cost of one order of lukewarm Drunkman Noodles towards a cooking class and learn to cook real Italian food? Nonna Live is an online live cooking experience taught exclusively by Italian grandmothers! January’s class is Big Ravioli Cacio and Pepe with egg yolk – yum! New Year Resolution #4 – Spend more time at the beach! Maybe you can’t jump on a plane and fly to your favorite all-inclusive getaway in the Caribbean or sail to the tropics on a cruise ship. But that’s no excuse not to spend a lovely day with your toes in the sand – get in the car or on the Jitney and head to beaches before the summer when there are no crowds and stop at the local clam shack for a bowl of steamers and a basket of fried shrimp! You’ll return home tired and happy. Don’t forget your bikini from Solid and Striped! Don’t forget to wear sunscreen.New Year Resolution #5 – Take more Me-Time! If there was one benefit to pandemic life, it had to be the ability to take a cat nap after that three hour zoom meeting. After all, you had your pajamas on already. But you felt guilty, I know you did. This year put it on your daily “to do” list and give yourself permission for a little extra “me time”. Don’t forget your Bunny Hop vibrator. Me-time!New Year Resolution #6 – Buy yourself flowers every week! I’ve seen you lingering at the local flower stand with that wistful look on your face. From now on, buy yourself that little bouquet of daisies or roses! Weekly! Brighten your day with daisies!New Year Resolution #7 – Cooking healthy stuff! Every week I get a recipe in my in-box from Nigella Lawson for a delicious looking Pavlova or strawberry filled Angel Food Cake. Last year I scratched “No Carbs” off my list and clearly turned out to be a bad idea (hence the aforementioned granny panties). This year, it’s time to transform my kitchen into a guilt-free zone! Crispy, delicious meals with a fraction of the calories—yep, my taste buds AND waistline will thank me! You might say that I’m pulling a 180 and becoming a Kitchen Ninja! Get out the air-fryer! New Year Resolution #8 – Up your hostess game! Martha Stewart didn’t become successful by serving guests drinks with ice that smelled like five-year-old frozen vegetables. You might not have the skills to become a legendary hostess, but you can still impress your guests with thoughtful hostess details like fancy ice-cubes! Make a splash with fancy ice cubes. New Year Resolution #9 – Create your own signature cocktail! This is one situation when “practice makes perfect” is not a problem. Step one, learn how to make your own signature cocktail. Step two, teach your local bartender to make it and happy hour will be so much fun. It’s so YOU! New Year Resolution #10 – Leave a little sparkle wherever you go. Good vibes, baby. The power of positivity and kindness goes a long way. Glitter toes New Year Resolution #11 – Drink rosé all winter long It’s such a cheerful sip, why does it have to be only enjoyed in the summer? I am putting my foot down and drinking it all year round. Speaking of guilt free and low calorie…I have even been enjoying the non-alcoholic version, too! Rosé is not just for the summer! New Year, New You Resolution #12 – Accept good advice… Nana was right – as usual. Thank you, Nana. Read Next: 10 Factories to Make Your Lingerie Collection. Source link

[ellajme0]

Uh oh, last year I made it two weeks into the New Year and what on earth happened to my resolutions? I was holding strong until the end of the first week when, mysteriously, I found myself reaching for the Pinot Noir instead of the Pilates mat. Hey, don’t judge – when you’re working from the kitchen table, it’s a fairly seamless transition from the “Home Barista” group (yes, that’s a thing) to the “It’s-5-o’clock-Somewhere” club! So, this year I am seriously reviewing my last year’s list of New Year resolutions: Cut Out Carbs, Be Tidier, Drink More Water, Organize Spice Rack Alphabetically, Join Book Club, Write My Memoirs…OMG! STOP! Recycling is important, yes – but in what life am I going Create Macrame Plant Hangers from my old T-Shirts? This is just a long list of chores. I’m setting myself up to fail miserably again! What I actually need to do is put notes on my calendar such as “It’s Twizzlers Tuesday” and “Yay, French Fries Friday” as well as pop-up reminders like “Don’t Forget the Chardonnay is in the Freezer” and “Your Monthly Pedicure’s at 3pm, Dragon Lady” and so on… Lesson learned. With the world in turmoil, let’s set goals that are fun, projects that will make us happier, and a “to-do” list that doesn’t feel like work. We still must get dressed every day (usually) so we should buy clothing that helps us avoid the ‘nothing-to-wear” meltdown and make us feel and look great. With this in mind, here are my suggestions for a new set of resolutions for 2022 – resolutions that you can actually keep! Top of this list has to be Buying New Underwear! New Year, New You! 12 Resolutions You Can Actually Keep! Share on X New Year Resolution #1 – Up the Ante on Your Panties …be honest, did we gain a few pounds this year? And, woe, they all settled right around the mid-section, amirite? I’m all for body positive but even Bridget Jones would agree that any sexy outfit can be ruined by unsightly muffin-tops. As she memorably said, “If I actually do, by some terrible chance, end up in flagrante surely these…tiny knickers…would be most attractive at crucial moment. However, chances of reaching crucial moment greatly increased by wearing these scary stomach-holding-in pants very popular with grannies the world over.” That’s why I’ve been taking a more active interest in shapewear- of course only until I start my New Year diet and exercise regimen (fingers crossed)! And currently I’m eyeing the 14-day Rapid Fat Loss Diet. In the meantime, there is no shortage of Bridget Jones granny panties on the market! The selection is in fact so vast that one might suspect there has been a conspiracy afoot – so I’m narrowing it down for you. Maidenform utilizes their “Cool Comfort” fabric which gives stretch and coverage of troublesome spots. Also, Wacoal’s high-waisted brief in Pima cotton helps eliminate muffin tops, visible panty lines, and “wedgies” as well as hiding unsightly lumps and bumps. New Year Resolution #2 – release your inner artist! Some people go to art school and spend years learning how make cool stuff. For the rest of us, just wandering down the aisles in the art supply store can be the toughest part of DIY projects. Luckily, we don’t have to toil away in the wilderness like Van Gogh, we can use the kitchen table – and BONUS, as previously discussed, the Chardonnay is chillin’ nearby. Hey, why buy a print from Ikea or the museum when you can splash some paint on a canvas? Our projects may not always turn out perfectly but in the words of the immortal Bob Ross, “There are no mistakes, only happy accidents.” Craftsy is a good place to start your budding art career because they’re giving away a one-year premium membership for $2.49! On the other hand, you can have a lot of fun with Generative Art using some online platforms like ArtSpace Release your inner artist with Generative Art programs! New Year Resolution #3 – Learn to Cook There is no excuse for a ho-hum cooking, and I KNOW you’re spending way too much with Uber Eats! But how to start upping your kitchen game? Why not put the cost of one order of lukewarm Drunkman Noodles towards a cooking class and learn to cook real Italian food? Nonna Live is an online live cooking experience taught exclusively by Italian grandmothers! January’s class is Big Ravioli Cacio and Pepe with egg yolk – yum! New Year Resolution #4 – Spend more time at the beach! Maybe you can’t jump on a plane and fly to your favorite all-inclusive getaway in the Caribbean or sail to the tropics on a cruise ship. But that’s no excuse not to spend a lovely day with your toes in the sand – get in the car or on the Jitney and head to beaches before the summer when there are no crowds and stop at the local clam shack for a bowl of steamers and a basket of fried shrimp! You’ll return home tired and happy. Don’t forget your bikini from Solid and Striped! Don’t forget to wear sunscreen.New Year Resolution #5 – Take more Me-Time! If there was one benefit to pandemic life, it had to be the ability to take a cat nap after that three hour zoom meeting. After all, you had your pajamas on already. But you felt guilty, I know you did. This year put it on your daily “to do” list and give yourself permission for a little extra “me time”. Don’t forget your Bunny Hop vibrator. Me-time!New Year Resolution #6 – Buy yourself flowers every week! I’ve seen you lingering at the local flower stand with that wistful look on your face. From now on, buy yourself that little bouquet of daisies or roses! Weekly! Brighten your day with daisies!New Year Resolution #7 – Cooking healthy stuff! Every week I get a recipe in my in-box from Nigella Lawson for a delicious looking Pavlova or strawberry filled Angel Food Cake. Last year I scratched “No Carbs” off my list and clearly turned out to be a bad idea (hence the aforementioned granny panties). This year, it’s time to transform my kitchen into a guilt-free zone! Crispy, delicious meals with a fraction of the calories—yep, my taste buds AND waistline will thank me! You might say that I’m pulling a 180 and becoming a Kitchen Ninja! Get out the air-fryer! New Year Resolution #8 – Up your hostess game! Martha Stewart didn’t become successful by serving guests drinks with ice that smelled like five-year-old frozen vegetables. You might not have the skills to become a legendary hostess, but you can still impress your guests with thoughtful hostess details like fancy ice-cubes! Make a splash with fancy ice cubes. New Year Resolution #9 – Create your own signature cocktail! This is one situation when “practice makes perfect” is not a problem. Step one, learn how to make your own signature cocktail. Step two, teach your local bartender to make it and happy hour will be so much fun. It’s so YOU! New Year Resolution #10 – Leave a little sparkle wherever you go. Good vibes, baby. The power of positivity and kindness goes a long way. Glitter toes New Year Resolution #11 – Drink rosé all winter long It’s such a cheerful sip, why does it have to be only enjoyed in the summer? I am putting my foot down and drinking it all year round. Speaking of guilt free and low calorie…I have even been enjoying the non-alcoholic version, too! Rosé is not just for the summer! New Year, New You Resolution #12 – Accept good advice… Nana was right – as usual. Thank you, Nana. Read Next: 10 Factories to Make Your Lingerie Collection. Source link

[chilimili212]

Uh oh, last year I made it two weeks into the New Year and what on earth happened to my resolutions? I was holding strong until the end of the first week when, mysteriously, I found myself reaching for the Pinot Noir instead of the Pilates mat. Hey, don’t judge – when you’re working from the kitchen table, it’s a fairly seamless transition from the “Home Barista” group (yes, that’s a thing) to the “It’s-5-o’clock-Somewhere” club! So, this year I am seriously reviewing my last year’s list of New Year resolutions: Cut Out Carbs, Be Tidier, Drink More Water, Organize Spice Rack Alphabetically, Join Book Club, Write My Memoirs…OMG! STOP! Recycling is important, yes – but in what life am I going Create Macrame Plant Hangers from my old T-Shirts? This is just a long list of chores. I’m setting myself up to fail miserably again! What I actually need to do is put notes on my calendar such as “It’s Twizzlers Tuesday” and “Yay, French Fries Friday” as well as pop-up reminders like “Don’t Forget the Chardonnay is in the Freezer” and “Your Monthly Pedicure’s at 3pm, Dragon Lady” and so on… Lesson learned. With the world in turmoil, let’s set goals that are fun, projects that will make us happier, and a “to-do” list that doesn’t feel like work. We still must get dressed every day (usually) so we should buy clothing that helps us avoid the ‘nothing-to-wear” meltdown and make us feel and look great. With this in mind, here are my suggestions for a new set of resolutions for 2022 – resolutions that you can actually keep! Top of this list has to be Buying New Underwear! New Year, New You! 12 Resolutions You Can Actually Keep! Share on X New Year Resolution #1 – Up the Ante on Your Panties …be honest, did we gain a few pounds this year? And, woe, they all settled right around the mid-section, amirite? I’m all for body positive but even Bridget Jones would agree that any sexy outfit can be ruined by unsightly muffin-tops. As she memorably said, “If I actually do, by some terrible chance, end up in flagrante surely these…tiny knickers…would be most attractive at crucial moment. However, chances of reaching crucial moment greatly increased by wearing these scary stomach-holding-in pants very popular with grannies the world over.” That’s why I’ve been taking a more active interest in shapewear- of course only until I start my New Year diet and exercise regimen (fingers crossed)! And currently I’m eyeing the 14-day Rapid Fat Loss Diet. In the meantime, there is no shortage of Bridget Jones granny panties on the market! The selection is in fact so vast that one might suspect there has been a conspiracy afoot – so I’m narrowing it down for you. Maidenform utilizes their “Cool Comfort” fabric which gives stretch and coverage of troublesome spots. Also, Wacoal’s high-waisted brief in Pima cotton helps eliminate muffin tops, visible panty lines, and “wedgies” as well as hiding unsightly lumps and bumps. New Year Resolution #2 – release your inner artist! Some people go to art school and spend years learning how make cool stuff. For the rest of us, just wandering down the aisles in the art supply store can be the toughest part of DIY projects. Luckily, we don’t have to toil away in the wilderness like Van Gogh, we can use the kitchen table – and BONUS, as previously discussed, the Chardonnay is chillin’ nearby. Hey, why buy a print from Ikea or the museum when you can splash some paint on a canvas? Our projects may not always turn out perfectly but in the words of the immortal Bob Ross, “There are no mistakes, only happy accidents.” Craftsy is a good place to start your budding art career because they’re giving away a one-year premium membership for $2.49! On the other hand, you can have a lot of fun with Generative Art using some online platforms like ArtSpace Release your inner artist with Generative Art programs! New Year Resolution #3 – Learn to Cook There is no excuse for a ho-hum cooking, and I KNOW you’re spending way too much with Uber Eats! But how to start upping your kitchen game? Why not put the cost of one order of lukewarm Drunkman Noodles towards a cooking class and learn to cook real Italian food? Nonna Live is an online live cooking experience taught exclusively by Italian grandmothers! January’s class is Big Ravioli Cacio and Pepe with egg yolk – yum! New Year Resolution #4 – Spend more time at the beach! Maybe you can’t jump on a plane and fly to your favorite all-inclusive getaway in the Caribbean or sail to the tropics on a cruise ship. But that’s no excuse not to spend a lovely day with your toes in the sand – get in the car or on the Jitney and head to beaches before the summer when there are no crowds and stop at the local clam shack for a bowl of steamers and a basket of fried shrimp! You’ll return home tired and happy. Don’t forget your bikini from Solid and Striped! Don’t forget to wear sunscreen.New Year Resolution #5 – Take more Me-Time! If there was one benefit to pandemic life, it had to be the ability to take a cat nap after that three hour zoom meeting. After all, you had your pajamas on already. But you felt guilty, I know you did. This year put it on your daily “to do” list and give yourself permission for a little extra “me time”. Don’t forget your Bunny Hop vibrator. Me-time!New Year Resolution #6 – Buy yourself flowers every week! I’ve seen you lingering at the local flower stand with that wistful look on your face. From now on, buy yourself that little bouquet of daisies or roses! Weekly! Brighten your day with daisies!New Year Resolution #7 – Cooking healthy stuff! Every week I get a recipe in my in-box from Nigella Lawson for a delicious looking Pavlova or strawberry filled Angel Food Cake. Last year I scratched “No Carbs” off my list and clearly turned out to be a bad idea (hence the aforementioned granny panties). This year, it’s time to transform my kitchen into a guilt-free zone! Crispy, delicious meals with a fraction of the calories—yep, my taste buds AND waistline will thank me! You might say that I’m pulling a 180 and becoming a Kitchen Ninja! Get out the air-fryer! New Year Resolution #8 – Up your hostess game! Martha Stewart didn’t become successful by serving guests drinks with ice that smelled like five-year-old frozen vegetables. You might not have the skills to become a legendary hostess, but you can still impress your guests with thoughtful hostess details like fancy ice-cubes! Make a splash with fancy ice cubes. New Year Resolution #9 – Create your own signature cocktail! This is one situation when “practice makes perfect” is not a problem. Step one, learn how to make your own signature cocktail. Step two, teach your local bartender to make it and happy hour will be so much fun. It’s so YOU! New Year Resolution #10 – Leave a little sparkle wherever you go. Good vibes, baby. The power of positivity and kindness goes a long way. Glitter toes New Year Resolution #11 – Drink rosé all winter long It’s such a cheerful sip, why does it have to be only enjoyed in the summer? I am putting my foot down and drinking it all year round. Speaking of guilt free and low calorie…I have even been enjoying the non-alcoholic version, too! Rosé is not just for the summer! New Year, New You Resolution #12 – Accept good advice… Nana was right – as usual. Thank you, Nana. Read Next: 10 Factories to Make Your Lingerie Collection. Source link

[oliviajoyice21]

Uh oh, last year I made it two weeks into the New Year and what on earth happened to my resolutions? I was holding strong until the end of the first week when, mysteriously, I found myself reaching for the Pinot Noir instead of the Pilates mat. Hey, don’t judge – when you’re working from the kitchen table, it’s a fairly seamless transition from the “Home Barista” group (yes, that’s a thing) to the “It’s-5-o’clock-Somewhere” club! So, this year I am seriously reviewing my last year’s list of New Year resolutions: Cut Out Carbs, Be Tidier, Drink More Water, Organize Spice Rack Alphabetically, Join Book Club, Write My Memoirs…OMG! STOP! Recycling is important, yes – but in what life am I going Create Macrame Plant Hangers from my old T-Shirts? This is just a long list of chores. I’m setting myself up to fail miserably again! What I actually need to do is put notes on my calendar such as “It’s Twizzlers Tuesday” and “Yay, French Fries Friday” as well as pop-up reminders like “Don’t Forget the Chardonnay is in the Freezer” and “Your Monthly Pedicure’s at 3pm, Dragon Lady” and so on… Lesson learned. With the world in turmoil, let’s set goals that are fun, projects that will make us happier, and a “to-do” list that doesn’t feel like work. We still must get dressed every day (usually) so we should buy clothing that helps us avoid the ‘nothing-to-wear” meltdown and make us feel and look great. With this in mind, here are my suggestions for a new set of resolutions for 2022 – resolutions that you can actually keep! Top of this list has to be Buying New Underwear! New Year, New You! 12 Resolutions You Can Actually Keep! Share on X New Year Resolution #1 – Up the Ante on Your Panties …be honest, did we gain a few pounds this year? And, woe, they all settled right around the mid-section, amirite? I’m all for body positive but even Bridget Jones would agree that any sexy outfit can be ruined by unsightly muffin-tops. As she memorably said, “If I actually do, by some terrible chance, end up in flagrante surely these…tiny knickers…would be most attractive at crucial moment. However, chances of reaching crucial moment greatly increased by wearing these scary stomach-holding-in pants very popular with grannies the world over.” That’s why I’ve been taking a more active interest in shapewear- of course only until I start my New Year diet and exercise regimen (fingers crossed)! And currently I’m eyeing the 14-day Rapid Fat Loss Diet. In the meantime, there is no shortage of Bridget Jones granny panties on the market! The selection is in fact so vast that one might suspect there has been a conspiracy afoot – so I’m narrowing it down for you. Maidenform utilizes their “Cool Comfort” fabric which gives stretch and coverage of troublesome spots. Also, Wacoal’s high-waisted brief in Pima cotton helps eliminate muffin tops, visible panty lines, and “wedgies” as well as hiding unsightly lumps and bumps. New Year Resolution #2 – release your inner artist! Some people go to art school and spend years learning how make cool stuff. For the rest of us, just wandering down the aisles in the art supply store can be the toughest part of DIY projects. Luckily, we don’t have to toil away in the wilderness like Van Gogh, we can use the kitchen table – and BONUS, as previously discussed, the Chardonnay is chillin’ nearby. Hey, why buy a print from Ikea or the museum when you can splash some paint on a canvas? Our projects may not always turn out perfectly but in the words of the immortal Bob Ross, “There are no mistakes, only happy accidents.” Craftsy is a good place to start your budding art career because they’re giving away a one-year premium membership for $2.49! On the other hand, you can have a lot of fun with Generative Art using some online platforms like ArtSpace Release your inner artist with Generative Art programs! New Year Resolution #3 – Learn to Cook There is no excuse for a ho-hum cooking, and I KNOW you’re spending way too much with Uber Eats! But how to start upping your kitchen game? Why not put the cost of one order of lukewarm Drunkman Noodles towards a cooking class and learn to cook real Italian food? Nonna Live is an online live cooking experience taught exclusively by Italian grandmothers! January’s class is Big Ravioli Cacio and Pepe with egg yolk – yum! New Year Resolution #4 – Spend more time at the beach! Maybe you can’t jump on a plane and fly to your favorite all-inclusive getaway in the Caribbean or sail to the tropics on a cruise ship. But that’s no excuse not to spend a lovely day with your toes in the sand – get in the car or on the Jitney and head to beaches before the summer when there are no crowds and stop at the local clam shack for a bowl of steamers and a basket of fried shrimp! You’ll return home tired and happy. Don’t forget your bikini from Solid and Striped! Don’t forget to wear sunscreen.New Year Resolution #5 – Take more Me-Time! If there was one benefit to pandemic life, it had to be the ability to take a cat nap after that three hour zoom meeting. After all, you had your pajamas on already. But you felt guilty, I know you did. This year put it on your daily “to do” list and give yourself permission for a little extra “me time”. Don’t forget your Bunny Hop vibrator. Me-time!New Year Resolution #6 – Buy yourself flowers every week! I’ve seen you lingering at the local flower stand with that wistful look on your face. From now on, buy yourself that little bouquet of daisies or roses! Weekly! Brighten your day with daisies!New Year Resolution #7 – Cooking healthy stuff! Every week I get a recipe in my in-box from Nigella Lawson for a delicious looking Pavlova or strawberry filled Angel Food Cake. Last year I scratched “No Carbs” off my list and clearly turned out to be a bad idea (hence the aforementioned granny panties). This year, it’s time to transform my kitchen into a guilt-free zone! Crispy, delicious meals with a fraction of the calories—yep, my taste buds AND waistline will thank me! You might say that I’m pulling a 180 and becoming a Kitchen Ninja! Get out the air-fryer! New Year Resolution #8 – Up your hostess game! Martha Stewart didn’t become successful by serving guests drinks with ice that smelled like five-year-old frozen vegetables. You might not have the skills to become a legendary hostess, but you can still impress your guests with thoughtful hostess details like fancy ice-cubes! Make a splash with fancy ice cubes. New Year Resolution #9 – Create your own signature cocktail! This is one situation when “practice makes perfect” is not a problem. Step one, learn how to make your own signature cocktail. Step two, teach your local bartender to make it and happy hour will be so much fun. It’s so YOU! New Year Resolution #10 – Leave a little sparkle wherever you go. Good vibes, baby. The power of positivity and kindness goes a long way. Glitter toes New Year Resolution #11 – Drink rosé all winter long It’s such a cheerful sip, why does it have to be only enjoyed in the summer? I am putting my foot down and drinking it all year round. Speaking of guilt free and low calorie…I have even been enjoying the non-alcoholic version, too! Rosé is not just for the summer! New Year, New You Resolution #12 – Accept good advice… Nana was right – as usual. Thank you, Nana. Read Next: 10 Factories to Make Your Lingerie Collection. Source link

[taystarotoverload]

What Their Siblings Will Think of You

• thank you so much anon for the suggestion! i actually never thought of that!! <3

PILE 1

three of pentacles - the hierophant - six of swords - the empress - five of swords - two of cups - temperance

so for pile 1, i feel like their sibling won’t be so open with you in the beginning. this moment is all about expectations, they will want to see who you are as a person before warming up to you. they will notice your confidence and independence and this will reel them in. they will really enjoy your calming energy and may even be impressed by you in a way. they seem to be the divine feminine, and so they have this confidence to themselves as well that balances with your energy. you both will have a close bond with each other and will just seem to match each other’s energy well. i see that they will notice the love and admiration you and your person have for each other, and they will be fully supportive. they will also seem to be close to you as well and really enjoy your company. in all, they will think very highly of you and you both will have a very balancing and caring friendship.

PILE 2

the moon - king of wands - ace of wands - five of cups - page of swords - seven of wands - six of cups

so i feel like pile 2 your persons sibling won’t be so quick with the idea of starting a connection with you. so im seeing the beginning of your first impression you will come off as very loving and a good person, but i feel like it won’t be good enough for pile 2. i sort of sympathize for them because they’re very lonely. im seeing that your person and their family has dealt with many burdens and backstabbings in their past that they seemed to have been largely affected. im also seeing that their sibling is fairly young and easily influenced. they have. even brought up to not trust people so easily since others have made the mistake. this pile is super protective of your person and their family which is why they won’t be into the idea so much. im also seeing they may be a bit jealous of you. i see this is because they feel like they’re letting go of your person too easily and your person is sort of replacing them with you. this can be where they start to feel lonely since they seem to have a close relationship with your fs. i’m just seeing lots of anxiety with their sibling. don’t get me wrong; this person isn’t a bad person. they have just been brought up to not let people into their life so easily, im seeing that the first impression with them will leave them not interested in you and maybe even disliking you. but there will be a second impression where they really get to know your character, personality, mindset and quirks and may open up a little bit more. i see this won’t be something that happens easily and through the years your friendship will get closer, but it will take a bit.

PILE 3

ten of pentacles - the hierophant - knight of cups - death - three of cups - ace of cups - knight of wands

i feel like pile 3 will begin this relationship with a transition. two transitions to be exact. pile 3 you may meet your fs at a time when things aren’t the best or aren’t going well, this person will wash away those negative feelings and provide you with courage. but then! you will meet their family who will be… pretty much your family too. they will LOVE you. pile 3 i’m getting the vibe that your persons sibling is older than you. they have a very mature mindset and may even be very spiritual. or a witch perhaps? they seem to be very in tune with peoples emotions and are able to match peoples energy’s well. i’m seeing that this person heals and has a calming aura. they are someone you can go to at any time. they will love you so much. i see that they will be someone who gifts you many things physically and spiritually. they often cleanse you of your negative energy and provide you with protection, while also nourishing you in good thoughts and affirmations. this person is very balanced and just very down to earth… but also up in the clouds? i’m seeing that they will make time for anyone (that includes you!) i’m seeing they just like your energy a lot and are very mature. also one more thing to add, i see that with your fs they seem to bicker with them a lot like normal siblings and just “fight” but then they’ll turn around and be like “oh ___ i love you so much heres a loaf of bread perfectly cooked for you!” like they’re just fun to be around.

[staringdownabarrel]

I feel like the problem with Section 31 as a concept is that they never really spent a lot of time differentiating it from regular Starfleet Intelligence, except for the vague notion that S31 is the “edgy” one because they’ll “get their hands dirty” (RE: commit genocide).

The actual difference in operations is an important point, though. Because the DS9 writers never got around to making that distinction, every Star Trek writing team since has gone with Section 31 when they’ve wanted a Federation intelligence service involved in their story. They’ve got a cooler name than Starfleet Intelligence which is more in line with their adversarial counterparts (e.g., the Tal Shiar and the Obsidian Order), and they’re already established as having a dark, edgy aesthetic.

The thing is that regular Starfleet Intelligence was already established as a good intelligence service. They were able to bring back pictures of Spock on Romulus, despite the Romulans being a notorious police state (TNG: Unification, Part I), they had sources within the Klingon military (DS9: Apocalypse Rising), and their methods were sophisticated enough to be able to fake Cardassian transit documents (DS9: Second Skin). At least in the TOS era, they also apparently had sources in the Romulan military, too (TOS: The Enterprise Incident).

They may not have been seen to be active in Starfleet’s military maneuvers the same way the Obsidian Order were often front and centre in the Cardassian Union’s or the Tal Shiar were in the Romulan Empire’s, but they clearly were there. The fact that Starfleet was able to generally keep pace with the Romulans and the Klingons in a military sense during the 23rd and 24th centuries is evidence of that. I think the fact that Starfleet Intelligence wasn’t portrayed as having this hugely integral role in every single Starfleet operation is a good reflection of their preference for being discreet, but also an even better reflection of the fact that Starfleet’s mission also focuses heavily on science and exploration, which is the aspect they’re (rightfully) more proud of.

But for the most part, Starfleet Intelligence’s role in any given story isn’t really focused on heavily. It’s usually given a throwaway line like, “Yeah, and we got this report from Starfleet Intelligence that said this,” and then cut to the main cast doing something about it. The only time Star Trek really had a story where Starfleet Intelligence was heavily involved for the entire episode was The Pegasus, and that also doubles as an evil admiral episode.

That being said, I feel like the known difference between Starfleet Intelligence and Section 31 is quite telling. The one time we know for sure that regular Starfleet Intelligence had an intelligence failure was in Chain of Command, which required the Cardassian Union to actively be running their own operation to get that far. The time we know Section 31 failed was in Extreme Measures, which basically involved Bashir and O’Brien moonlighting an operation.

Because of that, it would have made a lot of sense if Section 31 had have had a “mask off” moment where it was revealed Sloan didn’t really have authorisation for Section 31, but had enough dirt on everyone else that they kinda had to let him go with it. This would have explained why Section 31 seemed to be such a small operation that they had to recruit frontier doctors who liked to play spy games on the holodeck, but also maintained the veneer of authority and could occasionally pull off fairly complicated, if one and done and hugely destructive, operations.

It also would have played into the idea that war can make monsters of people who otherwise have good reputations. This is an idea that gets played around with a lot in DS9, but also in Star Trek more broadly--I’m thinking of episodes like TNG’s The Wounded, where Captain Maxwell seemed to have been generally well liked before he went on his own personal vendetta, or The Undiscovered Country, where Kirk was so used to having shooting matches with the Klingons that the idea of a peace treaty was genuinely offensive to him. It’s also not like Star Trek admirals aren’t sometimes unhinged villains, either.

I think it also would have provided an easy way of locking Section 31 out of the canon afterwards. When Sloan told Bashir that Section 31 was a part of the original Starfleet charter in Inquisition, it was the kind of comment he could get away with because Bashir wasn’t necessarily the best versed in Starfleet history. Don’t forget that Bashir’s knowledge of Starfleet’s history was basic enough that the uniform colour switch stumped him in Trials and Tribble-ations. While this assertion about the original Starfleet charter, it might not have worked on someone who focused a lot on history or even someone who had a dedicated background in security or espionage.

My solution would be to have it so that Section 31 really was in the original charter as a leftover from whatever preceded Starfleet. However, a few decades later, it would have been replaced with an organisation seen to be more in line with Starfleet’s ongoing mission and ideals, or because its reputation had been sufficiently tarnished due to a major fuck up that it had to be replaced with a newly minted Starfleet Intelligence. Sloan’s new Section 31 could be a copy of the original, named in a way to spark images of Starfleet winning the Earth-Romulan War or something.

Having Section 31 locked out of the canon in this specific way would have forced newer writing teams to flesh out Starfleet Intelligence in newer shows and movies. This would have provided a good opportunity to show what the differences look like in practice, and I think it also would have forced writers to consider if they were doing certain things just to be edgy like a pizza cutter or if they actually had a point they wanted to make.

[kagrenacs]

This pride month I wanted to discuss my transition a bit, I’ve had a couple people thinking about going on hrt wondering about what testosterone therapy is like. Up front I wanna say I wasn’t on it for very long at all, voice dysphoria was my problem, so I only needed to go on for 8 months until I was happy. I also messed up my dosing for four of those months, instead of 0.5ml I took 0.05 ml of T -_-

I’m lucky to have had a fairly easy time going on T. There’s a few doctors who have sacrificed so much for our community. The woman I saw was fired twice for providing a legal medical service to trans people. When going through the system, it can take up to five years to get referred T, pre-Covid. (I was going to DIY it if they denied me, at the time I had found a supplier of T gel, unfortunately it seems down though)

We discussed risks, namely being the production of too many red blood cells which can lead to stroke and tissue damage, however the risk is small, (one study says 11%) less than that of smokers. Your primary care provider usually monitors your hemoglobin levels because of this. Our main concern was the fact that I have premenstral dysphoric disorder, and have really struggled with really severe depressive episodes before my periods. Unfortunately there isn’t too resources or much discussion on pmdd and it’s interaction with HRT, beyond women undergoing feminizing hormone therapy potentially having pmdd symptoms. Ultimately though I don’t think I noticed any significant impact on my mood, and I don’t have periods.

I found this chart really helpful as a general guideline to what changes happened when. Everything is dependant on your genetics, looking at cis male relatives can be a good pointer to how your puberty will be.

I noticed skin oiliness first, even with my T micro-micro dose. (However there’s prescriptions to help with acne). I’d get acne around where chin hairs were coming in, near the 3 month of proper dosing, 6 months total mark. The thicker, coarser hair sticks around, I’m not sure if mine is growing as fast, or if i’m just not noticing more hair come in. But it still grows and I still like to shave it back a bit. I never got too much body hair besides leg hair, I have a little bit of belly hair and some slightly longer arm and breast hairs. I believe this is a genetic thing though, my brother isn’t particularly hairy yet either.

I saw a bit of changed patterns of fat distribution around month 4/7, I also increased T by .10 mL at this time. The veins in my arms and hands became much more prominent, I had less round cheeks, though nothing really noticeable. I’ve been off T for 3 months now and everything has returned to pre-t patterns.

A little after the fat redistribution I saw increased strength in small ways, especially in my hands. I was skeptical of that being real, but I managed to cut through some pork so well I cut right through an old plastic plate D: Bottom growth also happened around that time.

It took about 16 weeks total, about 4 weeks proper dosing to first hear the start of the voice changes. I tapered by dose off around 25 weeks, doing it every 2 weeks to slowly inch to where I wanted, and I was happy by 30 weeks. I was starting to grow moustache hairs around then, won’t lie that’s partly why I stopped T, I don’t like moustaches. My voice did change afterwards, I have the ability to pitch it a bit higher now, but it didn’t go to my pre-T voice. I think this snippet I found on google beautifully sums it up.

[kimabutch]

On a more positive note, it still astounds me that HRT works.

Not talking about the fact that it changes your body — although, for the record, that is fucking miraculous — but how it actually helps with the dysphoria and makes me feel a lot better in my own skin.

Like, after being exposed to so much transphobia both online and in person, I've heard every variation of "medical transition doesn't actually reduce dysphoria or improve mental health, it'll just [change what you're dysphoric about/make you more self-conscious/hurt your body/etc.]". I've also read lots of studies that say that it does help, and listened to doctors and therapists say the same, and known many trans people who've said that about their own personal experience — but I still had doubts for myself, you know? Like, what if all of those assholes were right?

So I started T with extremely low expectations, more than aware that it's not a quick-fix to my life's problems and in fact ready for it to potentially cause problems, because that's the kind of pessimist I am. I didn't want to get my hopes up even as I was excited for the changes. I was ready to give it a shot (heh) because I was fairly sure I could at least cope with all the permanent changes, but thought there was a reasonable possibility of not continuing for very long.

And then! It's made me feel like, wildly better! Not perfect, not 100% non-dysphoric, and certainly it hasn't solved any of my life problems that weren't caused by dysphoria, but like! There's a gap where my voice dysphoria used to be, and I'm filling that gap with self-love. The unsettling Wrongness that I felt when I caught sight of my silhouette in a passing mirror is replaced with neutrality or appreciation, felt for moments before I register that that's different from what I've felt since adolescence. It's just better, not having to deal with that discomfort every single day. It's so much better than I could have ever let myself hoped for.

And I know transphobes would say that it's still only been 7 months for me, and Everyone Regrets It In The End, Just You Wait, but like, even if this happiness doesn't last forever? It's been a good 7 months and I'm so grateful to experience any length of time where my dysphoria is quieter and I can hear the rest of my life better.

[lavenderfeminist]

Hello. I have a question and I don’t know if you’ve talked about this before because I’m fairly new to your blog. I also haven’t heard other people talk about it either, but until pretty recently I wouldn’t really use social media so it’s possible people have talked about it and I just don’t know. I’m also curious as to what you have to say. Anyway I don’t know why I’m giving such a long introduction lmao it’s a simple question.

So, you know how gender isn’t real (in an innate biological way) and I’ve recently become quite critical of what it means to be trans if gender is not this innate thing. But something that I can’t wrap my head around is how when people transition, they discover that their sexuality is different. Like there will be lesbians who were like 100% certain of their homosexuality and then they transition and find that they are attracted to men. Sometimes they’ll even quit being attracted to women entirely. And they’ll say stuff like “testosterone makes you gay”. Before, I wouldn’t think too much of it, I would think about that episode in The L Word where Max is transitioning and realizing he likes men when he was a butch lesbian before and he says something along the lines of “it’s not about wether you’re attracted to men or women specifically, it’s about same-sex attraction” sort of stating that since he’s a man now he likes men because he’s same-sex attracted. But now that I’m thinking about how the concept of having a gender identity doesn’t make sense, there’s just male and female, and being same-sex attracted is liking one or the other forever, I’m confused. Does this mean that people like Max were bisexual after all? Does this mean that how you identify with your gender has some sort of impact on your attractions? What does that mean for people who wish for the abolition of gender? How does that explain former lesbians who now aren’t even attracted to women? I doubt they were straight all along. I have never been attracted to men (nor have I ever had the desire to transition), but if I went on T, would I magically start liking men? This is so confusing!!!

Anyway I said it was a simple question and then followed with a whole bunch lmao but thanks for reading anyway✨. No pressure to answer by the way, just curious on what you think.

I wrote my entire response to this and then tumblr deleted it 😭 Here we go again.

The first thing I want to point out is that male homosexuality and female homosexuality are two separate entities. Yes, I relate to and connect with gay men on a social level over our shared experience of homosexuality, but that doesn’t necessarily mean we’re homosexual through the same biological mechanisms. For example, there’s no female counterpart to the fraternal birth order effect. A man’s statistical likelihood of being homosexual increases with his number of older brothers, but there’s currently no recognized phenomenon where a woman’s likelihood of being homosexual is linked in any way to her number of older siblings or their sex. That’s because the hormone they believe is responsible for the fraternal birth order effect influences the development of attraction to males; in a woman, that’s not going to make her a lesbian. I personally believe there are unrecognized phenomena related to the development of lesbianism specifically, which obviously would not have the same effect in males. Of course, there are also some mechanisms that affect both sexes, such as the genes that might be responsible for high instances of both female and male homosexuals in certain families. I don’t think I’m homosexual only as a matter of genes, and that’s not concerning to me. There are no other instances of homosexuality in my family that I know of, so it makes sense to me that I developed this way through mechanisms beyond the genetic material I received from my parents. That doesn’t mean I wasn’t born this way.

Why am I saying all this? Well, because I think Max from The L Word is full of shit. First of all, Max is a character: a representation of a human being, not a human being who actually exists in the world. What that means is that Max was created by living breathing human beings, who have their own beliefs and biases towards homosexuality that are inevitably reflected in her character (hint hint). Second of all, cross-sex hormones…don’t change your sex. A female on testosterone is still female. So even if we believe there are some mechanisms which result in same-sex attraction (rather than male attraction or female attraction), they’re not going to change their presentation in one person, because humans can’t change sex. Max is materially bisexual; she was seemingly attracted to just women for a long time, and now seemingly just men. We’ve all heard of the “bi-cycle” before, where a bisexual person can experience attraction to just one sex for a stretch of time, and then just the other for a stretch of time. This is not uncommon among bisexuals, and that’s in cases where they’re not taking a cross-sex hormone that has the known effect of *drum roll* increasing your sex drive.

Once, when going for a walk with my (to my knowledge at that time, lesbian) ex girlfriend, she lightheartedly confessed to me that she “only fantasize[d] about men when [she was] really, really horny.” If you imagine that I was taken aback, you’d be correct. That is the farthest thing from my experience. Being turned on doesn’t make me more receptive to thoughts of men, it makes me more disgusted by any thought of them. I’m never more hot and bothered for women (and repulsed by men) than when I’m ovulating (which happens to be when women’s testosterone levels increase). It’s not a far-fetched idea to me that if you’re a bisexual woman with a much more significant attraction to women, testosterone is going make you pay more attention to your less-apparent attraction to men. And without getting controversial, if you’re the kind of person to dismiss your attraction to men and call yourself a lesbian, it’s utterly unsurprising to me that once you’re paying more attention to men you’re going to jump right over to calling yourself a gay man. That’s far more believable to me than that testosterone can literally turn a lesbian straight.

Conclusion? No, gender identity doesn’t influence sexuality. No, the abolition of gender does not mean the abolition of homosexuality. Yes, I consider people like Max bisexual. No, testosterone doesn’t turn lesbians straight; bisexuals exist, and they’re very comfortable claiming labels that don’t fit them even before adding in a regressive belief in gender identity.