#all evidence for this is anecdotal

[friendlycursedspaceotter]

study idea for when your brain is absolutely burnt out and you can't sleep

The Reverse Pomodoro.

You guys with executive function issues may be wondering, "How does this work? Does this work? Won't I get distracted?"

Dear reader, the point is to get distracted. Because if you're tired and can't focus, well, you're tired and can't focus. Add on not being able to sleep and maybe a case of walking pneumonia? Your body is telling you that you have a snowball's chance in hell of being able to write 2 paragraphs by 11:59 PM, do all your homework, and that you should really be prioritizing self-care instead of following a neurotypical schedule that wasn't made for you.

How it Works:

You set a normal pomodoro timer (this one's my favorite: https://pomodorokitty.com/). It helps to have one that doesn't block sites, which might seem counterintuitive. It is, but bear with me. You set the "intention" (I don't know what else to call it) to something like "self-care" or "my brain clocked out for the day." Then, for the length of the normal pomodoro, you take a break.

(My one note for the break would be "don't go on anything with a super obvious algorithm because you will never get out." You can do literally anything else. Just stay away from the algorithms.)

Here's the fun part: for the 5 to 10 minute break, work as much as you physically can on one thing. Type your heart out on the essay that needs to be written. Run as many math problems as possible. Listen to the Animaniacs songs you need to listen to in order to memorize what you need to memorize. Tackle the project one bit at a time. Just work.

As soon as the "work" timer starts, rinse and repeat until you've completed the task and not burnt yourself out in the process.

(sorry about the long post, here's a dancing potato)

[fishing-lesbian-catgirl]

It’s so funny to me that one of the main ways for trans woman to keep our penises functioning is to make sure they’re used very regularly. Effectively, girls who want their cocks fully capable should jack off every day

[chouettecrivaine]

Love's the Only Medicine [Honkai: Star Rail]

Fandom: Honkai: Star Rail

Characters: Dr. Ratio

Notes: SO. First off, those of you waiting on Lyney fic, it is postponed for now because I'm stuck :( but for now I'm working on a Dr. Ratio fic and I'm having a little trouble so these are my headcanons for how a good/healthy relationship with him would actually work because I love to write fluff all the time <3

So, how does one go about romancing the Dr. Veritas Ratio?

∘∙⊱⋅•⋅Have independence. Dr. Ratio is a busy man, and while he'd of course value your relationship (why else would he be in a relationship in the first place?), he wouldn't fare well with someone who is the clingy type. A relationship that would work best for him is one where you share in each other's missions, victories, and defeats as best as you can without melding your lives into one singular identity. With the exception of certain instances where you worked with him prior to the relationship starting/getting serious (though even then, he might drop the idea of separating your work paths a little bit to ensure there is no space for rational, scientific endeavors to be tangled with personal emotions), Dr. Ratio is perfectly content to with a relationship where some aspects of your lives don't always cross. Of course he wants to spend time with you! He just appreciates his own ability to act independently and keep work and personal matters separate. (Plus I feel like he'd find independence kinda attractive anyway :P)

∘∙⊱⋅•⋅Keep him grounded. Dr. Ratio gets lost in his thoughts frequently. He understands that facts and calculations can only go so far in the real world (though they could go MUCH FURTHER in his opinion, hence his cosmic mission to eradicate foolishness) but he loves finding the rational, mathematical answer to things. It'll be up to you to navigate a little bit more expertly on this plane. If he's trying to piece together a solution to a planet's hunger crisis, well, maybe let him sort through his lofty thoughts then. But if he's simply ignoring the world and thinking for the sake of it, you'll be able to get away with poking him out of the stupor and getting him to actually communicate with the world around him.

∘∙⊱⋅•⋅Be the people person, but don't apologize for him. Veritas has a tendency to rub people the wrong way. He's rude, abrasive, and arrogant. When others say such things without realizing you're nearby, you AGREE with them. But these are all things he knows, too. In most cases, how the reception of information makes somebody feel doesn't particularly concern him. But sometimes, especially now that he's actively placing himself in the social situation of being in a relationship, talking with people in a constructive way is necessary. He's fine with defaulting to you in these instances if it makes you feel useful. However, it is simply a matter of leaving a task to the one who knows better. If you start apologizing for his silence or a prior brash attitude, though, then he gets a little prickly. He stands by his behavior! Don't make him out to be someone you should have to apologize for or ashamed of.

∘∙⊱⋅•⋅Have clear communication skills. Listen. Veritas is an eloquent speaker, and he says exactly what he means to. However...good communication is more than just saying words that mean exactly what you want them to. You have to present information in a way that others can receive, and that's where he falls flat. The onus will fall to you to exemplify that sort of skill. Now, you don't have to teach him step-by-step how to talk nicely, but being able to do so yourself and give him a gentle nudge when it really matters will go a long way in ensuring you're talking to each other and not at each other.

∘∙⊱⋅•⋅Argue with him. Like, not actually. Argue with him academically. Veritas has stated that he feels incorrect on a matter if people agree with him. So don't agree with him! Don't spark debate just for the sake of it, but you shouldn't be afraid to voice your opinion when it goes against his. Dissent is the forebear of accuracy, after all. He won't be gentle with his arguments, but he never means to condescending when you're sharing your scholarly ideas. (Plus, this will help you get accustomed to when he is actually trying to argue you in a less casual context)

∘∙⊱⋅•⋅His love language? Quality time. Wanted all across the galaxy to solve this crisis or that, Dr. Ratio is a busy, busy man. So when you come in at the top of his list of priorities, that's how you know he's in deep. If you receive a certain love language particularly well, he can adapt! But his default is both to give and receive quality time. Even just time together that isn't attentive and specifically for each other can mean a lot to him. If you're both busy with work, he can be placated by attending to your duties but staying in the same room as each other. Don't worry about distracting him, either - as of late, he finds himself distracted when you aren't around, and at ease when you are.

∘∙⊱⋅•⋅Have a hunger for knowledge. It can be intimidating to hear him denounce all fools of the universe when he doesn't give many specific answers as to what a fool is. Veritas doesn't care about a lack of knowledge; what he cares about is a lack of awareness and a lack of trying. He'd be a fool himself if he pretended as though everyone had the same access to the same level of education, or that there weren't people who gravitated towards certain skills. After all, he's widely regarded as a genius, but you don't exactly see him releasing academic journals on any musical studies, do you? (Now, could he write one? Probably. But that's not the point.) As tough of a teacher as he is, what he's after is undying tenacity; that you never falter in the face of obstacles, and that you never place your scholarship on a shelf so high it winds up collecting dust, unused. If you don't know something, that's fine - go figure it out! Don't just say 'I don't know' and leave the matter at that. Learning through experience is an incredibly strong way of gathering knowledge. Just...don't expect him to be any nicer about your lack of prior knowledge just because you are close to him or you are trying to remedy that. At the end of the day, you did fall in love with a guy who's just kind of an ass sometimes :/

∘∙⊱⋅•⋅Be honest. This is one that could go for anybody in any relationship, but it is a top priority for Dr. Ratio. He's based his entire life on searching and spreading absolute truth in every corner of the cosmos. Normally, this takes the form of objective, empirically provable fact. But he finds it frustrating if you won't be honest about your feelings or what you want, how is he to know what to do? You'll have him acting like a fool with your refusal to face your own truth! (This is, of course, a roundabout way of saying that he doesn't have it in him to be playing games. Be straightforward with him, please. It'll be much easier for the both of you that way.)

∘∙⊱⋅•⋅Don't be afraid to get a little poetic on him. Veritas is a scientific man. He understands artistic endeavors, of course, but that isn't how his brain is wired. He operates in verifiable conclusions and building hypotheses, not the more abstract patterns of intuition or leading by the heart. He can analyze and understand such things, but if you want him to be able to appreciate the aesthetic beauty of the world, you will probably have to lead by example. You won't change his way of thinking, but maybe if you see a rare bird one day, he'll appreciate the opportunity to see something so rare and beautiful instead of analyzing how far it has deviated from its normal breeding grounds.

∘∙⊱⋅•⋅Flirting is a game, but love isn't. Don't be so dull with him! Dr. Ratio would love an opportunity to subtly ash his wits about yours in a little flirtatious back-and-forth. Both in the early stages and a more established relationship, Dr. Ratio loves a good challenge and could spend all night just trying to out-flirt the other. Regardless of whether or not you're one to get flustered, he loves your reactions anyway. Sheepishness, frustration, no emotion whatsoever - whatever you feel,, he finds how you try to school your expressions into complete apathy amusing. He is hard to fluster himself, but if he continues the same line of teasing in the morning the next day, you can assume he's been thinking about you all night. However! Dr. Ratio often expects people, especially those precious few who he respects, to operate on his level. If he's truly buckling down for the long game, he'll make sure to make his feelings clear. Flirtation is always on the table, but "playing hard to get" or trying to "keep him guessing" as you near a truly established relationship is a turn off. Flirt for fun, not to manipulate his interest in you. Believe him, he would've left by now if he wanted to.

∘∙⊱⋅•⋅Look beyond his scientific approach to matters of the heart. In loving anybody, you'll have to learn how to read between certain lines. Even if you are a pure-blooded emotionally charged person, Veritas can only meet you halfway on the road to compromise. Take the time to study how he speaks and what he means- concise as he is, speaking so straightforwardly all the time often has an opposite affect on his words when he's trying to be romantic. Learn the ways he looks after you and tries to make your life easier without asking; notice how he spends a large portion of his available time with you, even if it means dragging you along to discussing things with people who he feels are completely beneath his IQ; realize that his tone may always be steadfast and dominating, but he never speaks out to shut you down or demean you the way he does to others. If you can translate all the little ways he uses to show you how much he values you, then you may just find yourself in a relationship far more enriching than you'd expect.

[front-facing-pokemon]

[bananonbinary]

god i miss when the internet wasn't garbage. you can't google anything these days without whatever answer you're looking for getting lost under a deluge of seo ai bullshit. cannot wait until the bubble pops and we might get useable search engines again.

[ficoandleo]

Leoo, I got ya some new shoes (From Gucci) so you can change those sandals cuz Jesus Christ. They are so ugly like who scammed you 😭.

"I do not control how the artists drew me I have just as many questions!

"At this point I'm keeping the shoes just because it pisses you guys off so much. I never even wear them! I've worn them once since I got here and that was on a mission. You're bugging out over literally nothing except that your gross little specific footwear fetish hasn't been catered to today. Lemme guess, you're into my house uniform's boots? You like licking mean boys' boots, anon? You gonna say 'thank you, sir' real sweet when I step on your face~♥?

"I will take the shoes though~ I don't think I can wear them much because anything from current gen Lucci is pretty likely to piss Ro-Ro off unless it's really nice. But we'll see. I'll add the box to my gift unboxing pile!"

[curlicuecal]

something you don't know about me is that years ago I got it in my head that SPN stood for a TV drama called Sports News Network and I spent a literal decade thinking all the people using that acronym were writing fanfic about fictional sports newscasters from a show about a fictional sports news network

I never solved this mystery because I don't like sports

[rideroftheoctocorn]

Maybe this is my “I’m from New York so I didn’t choose to live here I was just already here” kicking in but can we actually learn to respect people’s privacy and acknowledge the fact that not everyone who lives in a major city is doing so because they want to be famous or the main character or an influencer or whatnot. I’m so sick of seeing tiktoks go viral that are just plainly stalking or doxxing random people who didn’t ask for attention or fame and are just living their lives. Especially given how many people in NYC are living with a wide variety of mental states, abilities, divergencies, and diversities treating them as a spectacle for your entertainment is deeply dehumanizing. Particularly in the past few years seeing so many content creators move here and gain their fame here it is becoming increasingly frustrating to feel like just existing in my home is not coherent with the burgeoning voyeurism culture that’s growing online. I, nor anyone who lives in a large city, should have to leave their homes every day worrying about the potential of being recorded and ridiculed online for just being a person.

People should be able to live their lives with the right to privacy. This isn’t to say that certain instances of internet activism shouldn’t have happened; for instance the Central Park bird watching incident (google it if you aren’t familiar but a woman was being racist towards a black man bird watching in central Park and his recording on the incident vindicated him). But instances like those are the exception and not the rule and many cases of publishing interpersonal conflicts/interactions is not from good faith activism or even from an activist point at all. Honestly what sparked this for me was that dumb tiktok that blew up of that girl looking for the person who kept writing “monke” on the whiteboard at her gym and the series of videos she made amassed more than 25 million views as she made a very public game out of trying to find the identity of this person. Some of her tactics included staking out at the gym waiting for this person or even asking the employees at the front desk who the person was. Maybe this person didn’t want to be a viral tiktok sensation and just wanted to write something goofy on the whiteboard at their local gym. Instead, this person has millions of strangers online seeking them out using unethical/invasive methods. All over someone who just wanted to write “monke.” Can we not just be a little silly in public without being at risk of it being the next internet sensation? If you live in a busy metropolitan area is it now your responsibility to make yourself as invisible as you can every time you step outside your front door? I genuinely leave for work each day wondering if I’ve maybe picked the wrong outfit, makeup, or maybe there’s an embarrassing stain or issue with my appearance that someone is going to see, record, and share online. I’ve even now seen TikTok’s of people recording through peoples windows commenting on how they’re living in their private lives now as well (the video in question is of a young woman recording a couple dancing through their apartment window). Even the guy who goes around “turning average people into models” initiates these videos by first taking non-consented photos of strangers on the street. Invasion is not flattery as much as people on the internet might like to think it is.

It is deeply unfair to ask human beings to live their lives in an unending panopticon. We should be able to go outside, make a joke, leave a silly note, have a bad day, an embarrassing moment, an emotional outburst, leave the curtains open with the knowledge that these moments belong to ourselves and are not suddenly (and without our consent) just become something for the masses to consume. Small spats that should remain small spats become global debates, a conventionally attractive or unattractive person becomes the internet’s object of desire or disgust. Let people exist. Let them have their dignity.

[timcurry-imgoinghomedotmp4]

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[brbgensokyo]

Thank god all the twitter fanart clout chasers missed edomae elf

[dkettchen]

me: *putting so much effort into covering all my bases, including disclaimers to avoid misunderstandings and prevent damage to myself and others, generally trying to be inoffensive on the internet*

annoying idiots in my comments section:

[starpros-sunshine]

sometimes (often) I think about that translators note in daydream that said that the "bedtime story" could be read as "pillow talk" and that that's actually the more common usage of that kanji and. I can't finish the sentence but I am swept away by a sea of emotions

[caucaxican]

every day i encounter posts that make me say, literally, out loud, "it's really not that deep"

[ask-artsy-oncie]

I mean getting all your info from Twitter is Bad. It’s very Bad. Don’t get me wrong. But getting all your information on a topic or event from one Tumblr post that’s speaking entirely anecdotally is also bad, you guys understand that, right?

[canichangemyblogname]

I first want people to note the date of the article and the original post: 2022. Hindsight tells me, studies can only do so much in the face of bigotry; there is a lot of on-the-ground and legal work that must be done (by us queer people, of course, as who else is up to the task).

Yahoo is a fairly mainstream news site. Most of the users and readers are going to be your average, run-of-the-mill person. It’s not mumsnet or any of those forums that disproportionately attract transphobes. However, this Yahoo comment section is overrun by bigots telling us exactly this: it doesn’t matter what a study says, I won’t change my mind.

The comments section is full of people who love Littman’s work; it is full of people who believe in ROGD. (And— of course— none of them stop to consider the misogyny at the foundation of ROGD: the idea that teen girls are very, if not uniquely, susceptible to hysteria.) “Young minds are susceptible to peer influence and internet trends.” They fully believe this study is junk science and that doctors and teachers are out here to “butcher” and “mutilate” and “brainwash” all our children. One user went as far as to compare pediatricians to the Nazi doctors of Auschwitz.

The comments section is split between them and people arguing that parents need to teach their kids “reality” because kids aren’t mature enough to understand themselves, and are easily manipulated (oft by the predatory LGBT adults, as no child would ever think about crushes or their place in this world without an outside influence “filling” their head with sex). They hold that the social pressure to be queer is what’s driving them to suicide and is what’s behind the rise in depression and anxiety among our youth.

The comments section shows a lot of what is wrong with our culture and society. In the commenter’s world, children are not entitled to bodily autonomy and they do not possess personhood or minds capable of reasoning, rationale, or of perceiving themselves. Children do not have rights (someone literally said this). And experts? They’re never to be trusted. They have devious agendas and secret plans to (destroy the Aryan race) queer your children and cripple their bodies. (Lots of ableism baked into these anti-trans arguments.)

There are a couple of comment-types I’d like to highlight for those who have yet to understand how important solidarity is for progress:

The first vein of commenters are those who believe that young girls thinking they’re a lesbian or bi— or that being LGB at all— is a social contagion. These commenters believe that it’s either “just a phase” or influence from adults, because heterosexuality is what’s “normal” (where homosexuality and “transgenderism” are defective, and unnatural).

The second vein of commenters are those who believe this “issue” stems from a weakened patriarchy and a loss of traditional family & religious dynamics and values. Queerness is a result of children not having a firm patriarchal hand or “masculine force” in their life (lots of low T comments). Queerness is an affront to god and people’s usual way of life.

Bonus personal favorite to roll my eyes at:

This is a reminder that these are the “leopards,” and that their political figures’ hack apart communities to weaken a community’s organizing power, often capitalizing on unlearned biases and existing schisms in a community to be successful.

It’s on us to unlearn and combat harmful ideas, from transphobia to lesbophobia to misogyny to white supremacy & racism (there was a fuck ton of racism in those comments, too) so this cannot work. So many of us have yet to fully understand what “community” really means, and it’s going to take a community to leave behind a better world for queer children.

[stikybug]

liking paranormal shit is so frustrating . because while i still ( believe ) i have my head on my shoulders the community at large is like

mistakes a lense flare for a ghost orb

mistakes obvious mental illness for mediumship

gets memory fade-outs and instead of checking for carbon monoxide poisoning assumes it's a ghost

and or comes to the conclusion a ghost does it instead of the much more horrible possibility that a human did it ( and of course, doesn't put any cameras to catch anything in action )

mistakes an animal suffering for a cryptid

mistakes what is most likely a far off commercial/military craft/balloon/bird/drone for a UFO