#aliciadreaming talks

[fandomshatewomen]

ok but like Ria is so meeee

[mcufandomhatespeopleofcolor]

Some Clarification

Hi so I'm mod ali (original blog here: @aliciadreams  and other newer blog is @aliciadreaming I'm also a mod on fhpoc, fhw and several other blogs)

I want to address the fact that a few weeks ago a follower khalifaziz reblogged something we had posted and pointed out that the op was a terf.  Self described lesbian terf. (post is here)

Now when I had replied to this I deleted the first reblog and just kept the one where I addressed khalifaziz.  Then I confronted mod palette who was the one who reblogged it.  I didn't think to take a screenshot but when I brought it up here was the conversation.  But I'll summarize the contents of the screenshots. 

First I asked mod palette to download shinigami eyes and she said she wasn't going to because it was made by a pedophile.  I consulted with other mods from the various blogs and we couldn't find any proof of that and mod palette never submitted proof of it either.  Then mod palette started talking about "her right to being able to reblog who and what she wanted to.”  I told her she she had a choice a) stop reblogging terfs or b) leave the blog. 

And then she doubled down and REALLY started sounding terfy. 

So I told her she sounded like a full blown terf and I wanted her gone. 

She tried to leave on her terms and even though I said i wasn't going to post this conversation I think I have to because of what's happened to our follower count.  We used to have over 2000 followers and now we have 54 followers.  I've tried searching for things tagged with our blogs url but can't find anything.  I know that the options for the blog were turned off here (another screenshot) I turned them on yesterday but it hasn't affected our activity at all. we've got like 0 notes for the past 6 days.  

I want to take this opportunity to reassert that I and mod Laina the only active mods left here are trans inclusive we use shinigami eyes when we're on desktop.   And we want to keep make this an inclusive blog 

[about 8 or 9 screenshots under the cut]

Below that there’s a partial transcription of the screenshots.

Aliciadreams:

hey how are you?

Um I noticed something troubling in our notes today.

there's a post that khalifaziz commented on https://www.tumblr.com/khalifaziz/761253014092873728?source=share

and I didn't reblog it you did. can you please do me a favor and like download shinigami eyes so this doesn't happen again?

Sep 11 9:53 PM

palettesofrenaissance-main:

No, I don't want to download that. And also that thing was made by a pedophile

Sep 12 1:11 AM

Aliciadreams:

I wasn't aware of that do you have proof?

Sep 12 4:53 AM

Heyyyy so how are we going to resolve this? you can't be reblogging terfs.

Sep 12 7:32 PM

palettesofrenaissance-main:

Don't know what happened to the previous DM. I have some time so here goes. About the creator of the browser extension being a pedophile, rapist, or whichever, that was years ago and I believe you can find it if you Google. You can decide on your own about if it's "evil" or not. It's crazy to give your info to one person. One single person

I don't waste energy worrying about posts or act like an obsessed creep looking back at every single thing before I reblog, especially if the post actually means something itself. I don't care about beef between users, whether someone says "I don't like what so and so thinks" That isn't the purpose of running a simple blog for no money that won't actually make any difference. No one's being paid, endorsed, jeopardized, saved, and there's truly no differences being made through this website anyway

What I'm going to do is continue living my life and coming online whenever I choose to, and reblog nice-looking posts just like literally a good sum of users are doing on here. I'm going to keep reblogging things about characters of color and actors of color, and if there's any posts about people of color, and that's it

Today 10:49 AM

Aliciadreams:

OK so we obviously are having a miscommunication here. I'm going to ask for you to choose: 1) you stop reblogging terfs to the blog 2) we part ways and you leave the blog now.

palettesofrenaissance-main:

That boogeyman word means something to you? I've seen it being thrown around at women and lesbians who don't do what you say or like, calling like a dogwhistle for conservative-thinking "liberals" and/or homophobic narcissists using social justice key words and therapy words to demonize. You say one "wrong" thing and now several cronically online users demonize, point fingers like 5 year olds and trying to rally for a women to wear a scarlet A and get a virtual stoning

Thinking back on it, that post was literally just about women in Afghanistan being oppressed as an effect of a political decision. That's something informative and worthwhile to share whether it comes from CNN, ABC, or someone you had beef with online. Thinking an article with valuable information is suddenly "bad" because it happened to be posted by someone on tumblr labeled "bad" is actually pretty telling about actual values and mindsets

And your priorities are to appear socially pure it's apparent

Today 4:40 PM

Aliciadreams:

I think you're talking like a full blown terf. If you really don't see the harm in terf rhetoric and why it's important to reject terfs and their rhetoric then there's nothing else to discuss. Trans women are women and you sound like jk Rowling. These blogs are unpaid you're right but our followers deserve to know who they're following. If you don't leave the blog within the next 48 hours I'm going to post this entire conversation on the blog complete with your username.

palettesofrenaissance-main:

So you're doing the scarlet letter thing too with no proof, trying to sick your dogs on me now because I said something you deem "bad?"

You're literally one of those online people whom others talk about shouting and whining about things that either aren't true or without proof. You've done it to the point it would be concerning if someone cared. I don't know what jk Rowling did or whatever this has to do with trans people, because it doesn't, but you're a heretic and there's something in your head that isn't right. By you sending this, you also show lack the maturity despite your body physically being grown, lack self reflection, and that you revolve yourself around how you appear online by riding whatever is currently being said, like what you accuse me of believing (without proof, albeit). Obviously I don't know what in the world you're on, but I don't want none of it. Therefore, you're only skin deep, a liar, and possibly a narcissist. And you take blogging WAY too seriously for a sane person

Aliciadreams:

I'm giving you the option to get out of this with no one knowing your url or your blatant disregard for spreading transmisogyny. Or are you having trouble reading that part? You have until Monday at 9pm pacific to leave the blog. If you don't leave I will release this entire exchange.

Today 9:56 PM

[end of transcription I didn't get the rest before she blocked me]

[fandomshatewomen]

idek what a post about conner kent has to do with this blog but one that refers to two canon bi males as gay and jokes about them not being gay enough is real crappy and continues a pattern on this blog in the past year or two of reblogging lowkey biphobic posts about bi male rep. At least in the past it was "in defense of" female characters so while f'd up it almost sort of fit the purpose of the blog but now you're basically promoting canon straight men over bi ones. on a blog about misogyny.

I'm so sorry I'm not able to locate the post rn but I do a lot of fast reblogging on my phone and my normal tumblr is @aliciadreaming if you want to talk about this further. Like I'll be sure to explain myself better when I find the post but it's probably my fault.

mod ali

[fandomshatepeoplewdisabilities]

i’m autistic and sometimes when i get stressed i physically cannot talk. and i just wish that when teachers are trying to talk to me and ask me questions in these situations, and see that all i can do is nod/shake my head, they’d think to ask “would it be easier for you to write it down?” because then i would actually be able to communicate with them instead of just sitting there in silence.

(sorry i’m just still slightly upset about something that happened earlier today)

Hey I'm so sorry that you're going through this! I actually think if you can you should have your parents write your teachers an email or call them and explain the situation? I know that when we did my intake session for my college they discussed what kind of accommodations I'd like. And honestly this sounds like a big one that they should be able to do for you.

Here I'll draft a version for you that you could give to your parents could send to your teachers.

"Dear Teachers of my (offspring)

I hope this email finds you well. I had to discuss something our (offspring) was discussing with us lately. Sometimes they go nonverbal for a variety of reasons (stress, overstimulation, etc) and they can't reply to you the teacher because they're temporarily nonverbal. We would really appreciate it if you could employ this accommodation for our (offspring) of writing stuff down for them or letting them reply to your questions in a written response. Please contact us if you have any further questions about this but please know that we appreciate all you've done for our (offspring). Thank you for your consideration and time.

Sincerely,

(your name)"

Let me know if this helps! Or if you'd like to come off anon and talk about this further you can do so at my personal @aliciadreams

mod ali

[fansofcolor]

https://www.reddit.com/r/fansofcolor/

here’s my new subreddit!!!! please help me out with suggestions on how to avoid being banned for spam!

It's weird how Reddit bans fans of color yet repugnant subreddits like r/legalteens and r/ttotm are still there

Hey thanks for this I've got a new strategy (I was going to appeal it but I can't seem to find out how to appeal on desktop) I'm gonna start a new subreddit soonish.

mod ali

[fandomshatepeopleofcolor]

good morning! bit of an odd request here, but i need some help.

my name is ami and i’m an anthropology student. i’m doing a research project on online discussions of race/racism in regards to fantasy media. i need to conduct interviews for this project and i’m reaching out in hopes of one of your mods volunteering for this interview!

it shouldn’t be more than an hour, you can be anonymous, and although it needs to be recorded, the only people who will have access to the transcription will be either me or my professor. i can provide supplementary info if you’re interested but still unsure.

thanks and have a great day!! :)

Hey so right now it's just me my other 2 mods haven't been responding to messages. But I can totally do an interview! Just message me at my personal blog @aliciadreaming and we can talk logistics!

mod ali

[fandomshatewomen]

It's the Sonic fan again. Sorry if I'm spamming. Now that you've worded it like that, it really does feel like I have been denying a very crucial part of myself. Thanks for that! =D

You're not spamming!!! It's quite alright feel free to drop by and talk if you're feeling particularly stressed or lonely. Either here or at my blog @aliciadreaming.

mod Ali

[aliciadreaming]

I would start with something really good and fun like Ms. Marvel.

i kinda fell out of mcu lately how do i get back in and get excited again

[fandomshatewomen]

Shut up! Shut up! Shut up! Shut up! Shut up! Shut up! Shut up! Shut up! Shut up! Shut up! Shut up!...

I want to know just one thing people.  How do we get this page shut down? and will you help me?

[wukodork]

@aliciadreams Hey this is that exchange I was talking about a few days ago (a few weeks? time is an illusion) in ToS that my uncle thinks can read as Spock and Chapel being exes.

STAR TREK (1966–1969) 'The Naked Time'

[fandomshatepeopleofcolor]

Hey!!! I'd be happy to help you out!! We could run the blog together or you can just hmu at my main blog aliciadreams for tips. We can keep talking on messages or discord!

mod ali

This is less of a rant and more of a question but. Im chinese-american, and im really not used to seeing like. Good Chinese rep in popular media. Like. Genshin is the first thing Ive found where you know. Chinese ppl have actual personalities? And theres a very large cn fandom(and a big eng one too!)and its helped me reconnect with my culture in a way I cant ignore. But it's also Racist to a horrible degree. And I dont want to support that. But Genshin has helped me a lot so...What should I do?

OK so like I said to the last nonny that was talking about Genshin Impact... I don't believe this blog is here to like tell you what to do.

I will however suggest that you engage critically with genshin and in the fandom you can keep talking about the antiblackness/ antisemitism and other issues.

I also suggested to the other nonny that you start a blog to be critical of genshin impact. Like ok I've been a life long fan of star wars but it wasn't until oscar isaac that they had a latino in the star wars franchise. and even then I have lots of Opinions and Thoughts about how they made Oscar's character Poe a drug dealer and kinda like... didn't give his character the same weight narratively as Han Solo. Like for example how they gave Poe toxic masculinity traits and such. Like I know we haven't talked about it lately but we have talked about that and the antiblackness against John Boyega in the franchise and the fandom as well as the racialized misogyny of giving daisy ridley such a dark tan in the force awakens when she's really very pale.

Like it isn't enough to declare that a media is problematic and stop engaging with it. if you're going to continue with it you have to give reasons and essays and make your voice heard in the fandom. That's the burden of being a antiracist consumer of media.

mod ali

[fandomshatepeopleofcolor]

why am I getting notes on the star trek rpg but not the pathfinder? also if you want to just talk about your availability you can do that too in the inbox.

also my personal is @aliciadreams​

Ok so I'm thinking of getting these but I need ppl to play them with!!! Send in an ask if you're interested!! I need at least 3 ppl to justify buying these!

mod ali