#again to ourselves and each other

[teaboot]

Sometimes at work it's not my place to tell people the things I want to say, and I find I often go home at the end of the rougher days to stand blankly in my shower and tell myself over and over what I wish I could pass on.

This accomplishes very little, and mostly just gives me a tension headache, but through it all I think I've narrowed myself down to a few solid things I'd like to tell people the most.

You can't change people. Not permanently, not for anythig. You can support them, encourage them, love them, give them tools and opportunities and resources, but you can't make them change. They can change themselves if they want to, but they have to want to, and they have to want it for themselves, because they're the only one that's certain to be with them forever.

For better or worse, you make your own choices, and blaming bad choices on others doesn't only work to absolve you of responsibility- it also robs you of control. Because if you say you only did something because I did something, then you arent only shifting blame- you're admitting that you cannot control yourself, that you cannot truly make choices for yourself, that other people can control you- and as long as you truly beleive that, you'll keep facing the same problems over and over. You'll keep letting others dictate your choices, because you'll beleive that they can, and you'll never be free.

White knights on horseback are from fairytales. Nobody can help you if ou're not willing to help yourself. To try, to put the dirty work in, to belive you're worth that effort- Act as though nobody is coming to save you. From a struggle, from pain, from bad relationships, from yourself. And when you do save yourself, because you will, because failure here isn't an option if you want to survive, you'll never find another dragon that can keep you prisoner.

Don't say anything to anyone that you wouldn't want them remembering forever.

Doing the right thing in bad circumstances is hard. It's the hardest thing. But if you make the choice to do that hard thing anyways, despite your fear, you'll go on the rest of your like knowing that you're the sort of person who did something.

The present only seems the hardest because the past I over and the future hasn't happened.

There's so much joy ahead of you, the kind you can't possibly understand until you see it yourself.

The responsibility of consequences is often disguised as the power of permission. "I won't do this if you help me", "I'll work on my anger if you do this for me", "I promised you I'd quit, but can I have just one?". The unspoken question is, "Can it be your fault if this goes badly?"

You cant make someone love you the way you need to be loved. Someone can love you very much and still be bad for you, even if you love them very much in return. Two people can love each other very, very much, and try their very best, and still be wrong for each other.

Sometimes being near to someone changes you, even in good ways, and the people you become don't fit together as well as the people you were.

Caring takes work. Even if it's real. Especially if it's real. And the most important gestures aren't the grand, poetic, songs-and-flowers-and-tears moments; they're getting out of bed even though you don't want to. Paying attention to things you don't enjoy. Scrubbing pans, or opening a window, saying "thank-you", or helping carry groceries into the house. The small things fill the big things- without the small, boring, mediocre things, big things feel hollow.

Thrre is honour and dignity in humble work.

If you are a cruel and spiteful person, then you will find every place you visit to be full of the same cruel, spiteful people. This is not because the world is as cruel as you, but because everywhere you are, you will be disliked. This is the curse that comes with being persistently cruel and spiteful.

If you are a kind and ppsitive person, you will repeatedly encounter kind and positive people, because as they grow familiar with you, they will be happier to have you near. This is the reward of being a kind and positive person.

When splitting paths with loved ones, briefly or forever, aim for your last words to always be "I love you".

[shalom-iamcominghome]

Person with no whimsy: Why are you trying to trick g-d with loopholes? 🙄🙄🙄🙄

[superblysubpar]

Aside from the same glorious reasons above, here's some of mine:

"And what a cool time to be able to make friends from all over the world all because of a couple of dudes named steve and eddie"

^couldn't have said it better if I tried. I'll never be able to wrap my head around the insane friendships I've made all because of this app and these boys and writing 💛

I love reading writing that is so inspiring that it makes me want to write the same.

I love digging into these characters and finding my own voice with them until they feel like my own.

I love that maybe something I write and share sticks with even just one person and they remember it.

I love trying to make people feel so intensely that they have to smile wide, laugh out loud, shed a tear, or hold their breath - I mean how cool is it when you read something that just absolutely makes you feel, makes you immersed in that world?

I love having a no pressure (yes let's all repeat that together) place to share my writing and space to improve, practice, and grow in this hobby.

I love when you're working on something and your group, your people, are helping you flush out ideas and throwing their own out and you all get so fucking excited and it starts flowing and you're all genuinely just the greatest little network of love and support and creativity ❤️

So so so many talented writers already tagged, I'm just going to tag my lovely ladies who listen to me doubt myself daily only to slam their love in my face. @boomhauer @loveshotzz @myobmaya @sweetsweetjellybean

Please check out my fic rec page @superbreblogger for a ton of talented author's as well as the tag #superbly subpars fic recs where I share what I've been reading every Sunday 💛

psa • hi, you're lovely

okay, circle of trust time.

as a writer on this platform – in fucking FANTASTIC company with other writers i might add – i just wanna say, i'm here for you! we're a community, right? it's so easy to get caught up in stats and likes and reblogs and cranking shit out, but don't forget why you're here. here's why i'm here ( you do it too if you reblog this!! ):

i love to write

i love sharing my love of fandoms and characters with others

i love being able to grow a beloved character into something more and give them the attention and detail they so deserve

i love when someone shares the same thoughts and hc's as me

i love nerding out about the details

i love putting music / playlists together to go with my writing

and...i love me some smut. i'm sorry ( i'm not )

but seriously, so many other reasons too and i just think we should all be kinder to ourselves. because at the end of the day? this lil silly space is so special. getting to share our writing and have people read it without having to publish a book ( and if you do SHARE IT! i wanna buy itttt ). and what a cool time to be able to make friends from all over the world all because of a couple of dudes named steve and eddie.

okay. love you, love yourself, love your writing and your craft, and this is your note to be kind to yourself today. cos you're talented and worth it! SMOOOOOCH! ♥️

tagging some bbs, don't feel pressured to re-post! i just want you to know this applies to youuuu xoxo, @upsidedownwithsteve • @familyvideostevie • @loveshotzz • @forevermoreharrington • @roanniom • @plainemmanem • @stvharrngton • @theemporium • @honeymunson • @livingintheupsidedown • @luveline • @1986harrington • @lucasnclair • @stevebabey • @stevestummy • @sattlersquarry • @curiositydooropened • @willowherbal • @annab-nana@acourtofsnakes • @starryeyedstories • @fiveraccoonsinatrenchcoat • @katsu28 • @lovebugism  • @fleurfairie

[marimeeko]

The thing I love about the ending of mha is not only that there's no conclusive "canon ship", but the way he ended it as sort of a new beginning, so anything could start to happen.

And specifically for bkdk, it's not canon but he gave us AN INCREDIBLE AMOUNT TO WORK WITH.

Katsuki leading the project to get Izuku a support suit so he could be a working hero again. Katsuki putting out a hand for izuku to take.

The forgone conclusion that Izuku and Katsuki will now be competing again as they ALWAYS WANTED. Their future could have them jockeying for rankings for the rest of their lives, constantly one upping each other, AND/OR they could become partners, or open their own agency!

The implication that Katsuki wanted a future WITH IZUKU so badly that he contributed a large chunk of his own money and resources to making it happen. That he MOST LIKELY was where they got a lot of the info on how the Quirks worked and how Izuku utilized them. Sure they have battle footage, but katsuki had intimate knowledge as Izukus closest person and sparring partner.

The fact that A PROPOSAL, A RING, AND A WEDDING WOULD HAVE BEEN CHEAPER.

Like there are so many little ideas buzzing around my head and it's not fair that I don't even have enough time to sit down with them for post epilogue fics 😅

And I want to know more about that suit. I hope they animate it more in the anime when the time comes bc I do want a little super suit fanservice.

[vaperarmand]

[da-janela-lateral]

And You and I

[rapidreptile]

it's the dragons' curse I suppose. goodnight

[altruistic-meme]

hi. the fact that my father sent me this unprompted is insane to me. but i want others to see it and to know we aren't alone.

[friendofcars]

amabo te, which is to say please, which is to say i will love you, which is to say i will fight so you will not be alone: "amabo te: an essay on love and begging" by franny marzuki (1, 2, 6, 8, 10, 14) / "adam's ribs" by jensen mcrae (3, 9) / greywaren by maggie stiefvater (4, 12) / howl's moving castle dir. hayao miyazaki (5) / call down the hawk by maggie stiefvater (7, 11) / illustration for "amabo te..." by kerstin stillman (13) / the raven king by maggie stiefvater (15)

[nullians]

It’s actually insane how fandom in general has become so scared of making weird and dark and ugly works. Like I look at myself and see how I have also subconsciously adapted this instinct to self censor and make things “marketable” and it’s making me want to crawl out of my skin. I need to get weirder and worse and more off-putting hello

[hella1975]

there's a very specific kind of vibe that comes with living with your friends in final year that it just does not have in first year or even second year. like as a fresher it's usually the first time any of you have lived away from home let alone with SO MANY people your age and it's terrifying and exciting and randomised to boot so it's generally carnage for a whole year in the best and worst ways, and then second year you pick who you're living with and it feels like for the first time you're doing this adult thing PROPERLY. you have a place of your own now. these are the people you've chosen to live with. studying gets serious etc. but it's still fresh. it's still new. you still don't know how to navigate it. but final year? final year is when you actually get it right. you know how to manage your time better. you know what works for you and what doesn't. studying is the main focus and you've been out in the world for three years now and it's not loud and boisterous like it was in first year and you're not exciteable and awkward like you were in second year. you're comfortable. every single one of my flatmates has their own friend group and we mainly keep to our own social circles, but we'll still meet each other back at the house after a night out and sit in the kitchen or my room to do the debrief. sometimes i'll go days not seeing either of them despite sharing a house but every now and then someone will softly call up the stairs that 'the heating's on!' or one of us will sneeze and the other two will yell 'bless you!' through the walls. the lack of interaction isn't interpreted as dislike in ways it would have been even last year, because we're all just old enough to be past that now and settled enough in our friendship not to worry about it. idk. uni is very loud and unsettling a lot of the time so it's been really sweet to see how almost boringly comfortable final year is.

[thecoolerbrother]

i think something moonage daydream was really good at doing was capturing a vibe

[aastarions]

being married is just having a sleepover every night with ur bestie

[thefabelmans2022]

there's a certain. we'll say comedy group. that i've watched clips of and enjoyed but i refuse to ever actively seek it out bc the fandom feels like a pressure cooker waiting to explode.

[grimmweepers]

i really do self sabotage when it comes to irl dating 😭💀

[supersymmetries]

sometimes i think about how the revolt music video was released in 2016 and depicted the worst-case scenario matt could dream of for 2020, and then 2020 proceeded to look exactly like that. and then i have to stop thinking about it or else i will explode into a thousand tiny bits of shrapnel