#aaw personal prompts

[soapy-soartp]

Day 3 of @whumperless-whump-event

Day:  3 - LIKE A RECORD, BABY

Prompt: Vertigo / Struggling to stand / "Is the room spinning, or is it just me?"

Fandom: Original Story

Characters: unamed oc 1 and unamed oc 2

A annoyingly high pitched giggle and a cloud of black sparkling smoke approaches the find lady sitting just outside of the main ballroom.

“Aaw~ is the room spinning or it just mee!” Comes from the cloud as it twirls around her, yet despite the bubbly and undeniable brash personality the miasma had it still made a point to tone down the volume for her madam.

The lady groans quietly and allows herself to hang her head in a quite undignified manner. Then she straightens, as much as she can anyways and looks unamused at the black miasma.

“What do you want.” It was barely a question, more a statement of annoyance than anything else but it got her point across.

“Hmm someone’s summoned you to the main room again!”

“…” The woman is silent for a moment and lets out a big breath before steeling herself and trying to stand. 

She fails and nearly plummets to the ground but suddenly a pair of thin arms steadying her and big doe like eyes looking straight at her.

“Madam should've known better than to stand without me” The other says with a pout.

The madam sighs and rolls her eyes, “Mm. Yes well you’re fully solid again now, so lets go before thsi gets any worse.”

A familiar giggle rings now, this time instead of coming from a black cloud it comes from a doe eyed girl.

“Yes yes, of course Madam, I'll lead the way!”

[lehthelah]

Day 2 of Aromantic Awareness Week!

This kinda fits the prompt, right? XD Day 2: Write about some of the complications you’ve come across as identifiying or existing on the aromantic spectrum.

Sometimes being aro in such a romance-heavy society can get overwhelming. Here’s an aro girl drowning out the world with her favourite music until she feels better! (which is kinda basically what I do too)

I wanted to do something for every day this week, but this will probably be the last one since I’m just so busy with uni work. I hope everyone has a great week though!

[theonlineidofme]

Embracing My Aro Self

I love having a word for my lack of romantic attraction. I like having an identity that I can point to and go "that's me." I like being able to have a community, even if I'm not strongly vocal or ever present in it. I just...I like being aromantic; I like being myself. And the two aren't mutually exclusive, since one is a part of me.

[theanonymousbooks]

Happy Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week everyone!

I almost didn’t notice it come, but I’m glad I at least caught it on the first day!

I was born with a heart full of love. I loved my family, I loved the beach, I loved books, I loved my friends, I loved the trees, I loved to play. I loved and I loved and I loved and I felt this love bursting from my heart at all times. Sappy, I know. But I loved so much it felt like it consumed my entire being. And it was enough.  It wasn’t till later, that suddenly I felt like maybe all this love consuming me, wasn’t enough, because I didn’t love like that. Heck, I even loved the idea of being in love, like that, for a time anyways, but throughout my teens years romance never danced my way. It wasn’t until my early twenties, when I fell head over heals for this girl that I thought maybe finally- finally!- I had found the kind of love that was supposedly “greater” than all others. But the more I thought about her, the more I realized that while my feelings for her were great, they weren’t those sort of feelings. While I wanted something different than friendship, I knew I definitely didn’t want romance either. I was pretty easy after that to realize I was aromantic, the hard part was accepting and loving that part of myself. I had gotten so close to this girl and in the end, could not give her the type of relationship I thought I was suppose to. For the longest time I thought all this love I had for her, all this love flowing inside me, was not enough. I couldn’t understand why. My love seemed so good and pure, even if it wasn’t romantic love, so why couldn’t it be enough? It didn’t help that at the time that I had a person in my life who made me feel weird and inhuman because I wasn’t going out on dates and had no interest in “talking to the boys.” *Insert eye roll here.* As I read books and poems and experiences by fellow aromantics, however, I felt acceptance. I saw a world where who I was and the love I had to give was good enough. Eventually even, with help of my friends (who may or may not know what a role they played), I realized that the love I had to give could be better than romantic love. Figuring out and accepting my aro identity to me meant that I could not only accept myself for who I am, but also love myself, completely, for who I am. It meant I could celebrate myself and what I had to give the world, because what I had to give was good enough. Heck, sometimes, it’s even better!

[trigger-happy-psycho-blog]

Happy Aro-Spec Awareness Week !!! - Day Two

~ What struggles have I encountered as an Aromantic? ~ As an Aro Ace, there is no lack of struggles I have encountered. It bothers me so much when someone assumes that we undergo no oppression, because this is completely false. 1. My own religious family believes in the holiness of romantic love and sexuality or whatever. Half of them believe that I am faking while the other half thinks I need therapy. This is not enough to bother me, however. 2. What did bother me was the fact that I couldn’t feel romantic love while others could. At first, I thought I did, but after my first and only relationship, I realized that my feelings were never romantic, and I probably would never really like anyone in that way because I never really had any desire to. 3. My friends always liked to tell me how “cute” it would be if I liked someone and they tried to ship me with people. This did nothing but make me uncomfortable. 4. Many people (including myself) considered me a freak or selfish and proud for not ever having a crush. I wish they would have know that I was not being picky, but I just didn’t have the ability to feel like that. 5. Another struggle I encounter is the problem of other people liking me. Although I don’t mind, it makes me feel bad because I have to tell them that they can never really have my love in the way they want. Some people react better than others… Only like three people have liked me though so this isn’t that bad… 6. I also have problems explaining to my friends how important platonic relationships are to me. To them, romantic relationships are everything, but to me, their friendship is even stronger than that. 7. People always ask me “who I like” and “who I think is hot.” Ummm…. Me… I think I’m pretty hot… It’s hard to explain what Aro ace is to someone who doesn’t know what it’s like 8. EVERYTIME I show someone a pride flag for Aromantics or Asexuals they have no idea what it is. Real responses I’ve gotten include “It’s just stripes…” “Is that the straight pride flag?” “It reminds me of MineCraft…” “Wow you must really love Green.” THIS IS WHY WE NEED A VISIBILITY WEEK PEOPLE

This being said, I am still proud of my orientation. Despite the struggles, being Aromantic and Asexual is who I am. But I am not limited to this. And that is my word of advice to you all:

Despite what anyone else may think or say, you are you. You are Aromantic. And that’s okay. In fact, that’s more than okay because it’s all YOU and that’s VERY important. You are valid and you deserve love, even if it isn’t romantic love. Yes, you are Aromantic. And you are so much more. ❤️ ~ Fandom Prompt ~ Aromantic/Allosexual Character: Merida from Brave (I believe she is Allo because she was admiring the strong, handsome man when the Kings were presenting their sons)

[e3khatena]

I almost forgot about Arospec awareness week! Day 1: write about what your aromanticism means for you. For me, it means I'm just not sure yet. I'm not too sure if I want a relationship or not, and have no problem waiting until I know for certain. Just like last year, I'll be taking a photo every day of AAW. As you can tell, I remembered while on my lunch tonight.

[satusepiida]

Aro Spec Awareness Week Personal Prompt Day 1: What my Identity Means to Me

I have gone through various specific labels but just go by aromatic for convenience. Quoiromantic and aroflux/arofluid fit most closely. I have also used recipromantic and demiromantic for specific instances. I don't really grasp the concept of romance. I don't see a huge distinction (not as huge as society makes it out to be) between romance and friendship. Sometimes I get it but usually I don't. I know I have felt romantic attraction once, maybe twice before. Maybe I still feel that way for someone? I know that I love them, that they're a good friend, and that's enough I think. I don't ever want to get married, but that's more for political reasons than anything.

[forever-a-fighter]

AAW Day 3

Write about the things you love about your identity.

An unexpected positive out of all of this is how much I’ve grown as a person! I have a complicated relationship with relationships because of my BPD. After my second major relationship ended I felt like I had dependency issues and didn’t really know how to be single anymore. A little while later I discovered the aro community. Eventually all that positivity and affirmation surrounding being single that I was exposed to helped me be more okay with it. What I love most about this identity is that it’s made me feel more self-sufficient and whole. It’s freeing to realize that you really don’t need to have a partner in order to be content. Sometimes I feel grateful that I’m not caught up in the constant ups and downs of dating. It sounds exhausting tbh. Being arospec has it’s own challenges but it’s comforting knowing you’re not alone. I’m no longer trying to force myself to feel things that aren’t there. I’m living more authentically. 

[a3gender]

AAW personal prompt #3

Write about the things you love about your identity. If you’re struggling to love your identity, what are the things about the aromantic spectrum that resonate with you? How has finding the community helped figure out who you are? Feel free to post as many positive aromantic self-love posts as you see fit.

I love the community and the memes... I love talking about all the things that are better than romance. I love focusing on things other than romantic relationships. I love not worrying about ‘finding someone’. I love spending my money on myself. I love picturing a future with dogs and friends. I love being aro. 

[robocracker]

Arospec Awareness Week: Day 2

Write about some of the complications you’ve come across as identifying or existing on the aromantic spectrum. You can include ways you’ve worked out problems that occur, or things you might still be struggling - it’s all up to you. Feel free to give advice to other people participating if you have any, as long as it’s okay with that tumblr user! (x)

One complication I have found is having an aro romantic orientation in combination with an allo sexual orientation! Not that I struggle with my identity in itself, but I do struggle with how other people perceive it, or how they try and redefine it. I know there’s been a lot of shitty discourse going around lately, and some of it is over the split attraction model. Hearing that it’s always bad, that it’s “mogai nonsense”, it’s nothing more than internalized homophobia and it sexualises all other orientations… it’s difficult hearing that stuff, especially when my own bisexuality and aromanticism feel like such distinct concepts in my mind. Yeah, they’re both equally important when it comes to the relationships I want with people, but they’re still different things, and it’s difficult trying to articulate that to other people when the concept of a split attraction identity is still something so controversial. It especially makes it complicated trying to talk about it to people who have no idea of the split attraction discourse.

It’s a complication I did kind of expect when I realized I was aro, since I know how much widespread ignorance there still is of aro and ace identities in mainstream society - and how even without those specific labels being in mainstream use, the concepts behind them get so much hate from others. It’s still very difficult trying to talk to others about what it means for me to be an aromantic & allosexual person, and I guess that’s a complication to be expected when a lot of it is relatively new language, at least compared to other non-straight identities.

[xxxmikotokittyxxx]

Aro Spec Awareness Week Personal Prompts: Day 6

diffeAmanormativity started showing up in my life around in later middle school, because it such the hot thing to do at that time is date. I have always gotten along better with males, and with the exception of 3 friends, most of my friends have been male. I guess its just the tomboy in me, maybe. Anyway around that time, people start judging everyone for every thing, so I was labeled as boy crazy at my old school. That couldn’t have been farther from the truth, and got me in trouble later on. It started to be awkward because of amanomativity, and people started thinking that I was trying to date any guy I hung out with. The pressure of it made me feel that I wasn’t a kid anymore (I felt like a child is a child if they’re under 18, not necessarily ready for romance, yknow?). Well, the idea of not wanting to be in a relationship made the weird kid for a while, and kind of pressured me into a relationship that I would’ve been content without. For years and years I’ve been told I’m going to find someone.

That I’m going to be so lonely without a romantic partner.

That I’m weird.

That I must be closet gay.

That a sometimes passive-aggressive, sometimes out-front “Your life won’t be complete without a husband and kids”.

“You’ll want kids and husband one day. Everyone does, its normal.”

And the list goes on. The thing I hate is how its enforced that EVERYONE thinks the same, is the same, and will strive for the same things. We tell people to be unique, not be basic, but not be different at the same time? I hate that there are underlying standards of what orientation people should have, and that those impossible standards are at moral status. That i must not be normal for not wanting romance. NOTHING IN SOCIETY IS NORMAL TO EACH AND EVERY PERSON. I still hear the same ol‘ shit, and I just can’t wait for the day when I’m old enough, that just maybe, those people will get the damn message. 

#NOROMO

[aroaceintentions]

Aromantic Awareness Week Day 3 - Things you love about your identity:

I love the community I’ve found. As I mentioned on day one I’ve found a group of mostly aspec people I consider family. Outside that, everyone I’ve met has been super lovely.

All the positivity on tumblr has helped my confidence and I’m now able to stand up to people in situations which are invalidating or uncomfortable for me. It’s still difficult and nerve wracking but hey, I’m an anxious person, so what.

In the past year I’ve gone to my first irl lgbtq+ group, taken the position of lgbt officer (a person who helps improve representation) at college and change the anonymous surveys about student satisfaction to include more options than the usual straight gay and bi and gender options. Myself and the other two lgbt officer spoke to the counsellor, student union president and an other staff member for an hour about different identities and they want us to do the same thing again for other staff.

Other people have noticed the difference it’s made even though I’m not publicly out. An classmate from last year commented that if spoken more to him a few days ago than I did the entirety of last year. I used to hide my photo ID for college, now I don’t (generally).

<3

[tania-terror]

Aro Spec Awareness Week Personal Prompt

Day 2 (February 20, 2017): Write about some of the complications you’ve come across as identifiying or existing on the aromantic spectrum.

Trying to explain to someone what aromanticism is and them saying something along the lines of, “Oh, so you only care about sex?” So, I usually won’t tell someone who likes me romantically that I’m arospec. I’ll tell them I have a boyfriend, which is true anyways. Even if it wasn’t, I’d still go with that. It’s easier, it’s quicker and I wouldn’t/don’t get a headache.

[theonlineidofme]

Uhh...A Title

I couldn’t think of a title. Excuse me.

Anyway, I did touch on some issues I’ve had with my ID as aromantic. There’s also the rampant arophobia that happens (especially on this site), but I’ve not been personally effected.

I’m assuming I haven’t been considered important enough or something, which is fine by me.

But I will talk about what I call the Marriage Argument.

Minor background, first.

So about two summers ago (the summer before I entered college) there were tensions between myself, brother, and mother (not between my brother and I, but us and our mother) and so there were arguments.

This particular argument didn’t start out as anything about marriage, but it ended that way.

Not entirely sure what led me to saying it (I think I know, but not sure), but I basically said I wasn’t going to get married (and I think I also said I wouldn’t fall in love).

My mother told me I would change my mind when I found the “right one.” This absolutely infuriated me.

I started yelling (note I’m already crying because that summer had stressed me out that whenever I started an argument with my mother I cried). I shut her down by telling her I was happy with not falling in love, not getting married, and that there were other people like me (I did not come out, and I’m still not out to her). I shut down that argument, and I later asked my brother her reaction (I was crying, it was hard to tell) and he said she was shocked at my words.

So, yeah, while I haven’t had virulent arophobia thrown at me; it can be the little things like that that really hurt. Or piss someone off, depending on the situation.

[aroneutrois]

Aaw 4 &5

Write about relationships before and after you knew you were on the aromantic spectrum. Notice that this happened also before I knew I was trans! I never was seeking a relationship. I always only wanted to be friends with boys but they only were interested in dating me. So it kinda was the only solution for me to be with a man when I entered into a relationship with him. That this included having sex, well I just went through it. I thought (and got told) that it's like this for every girl and sex was only for men. Since I didn't know that I was aro nor that this exist, I mistook my affection for romance. I identify as aro now for 3 years or so. That's when I learnt the term. All the years I thought something was wrong with me or that it's a side effect of my autism. Anyway I haven't had a relationship for over 10 years so I can't tell anything about that. Just I would like to have a qpp. A strong close friendship with the possibility of sex. Unfortunately guys often confuse this with 'fuckbuddy' what I do not want. I don't want to have a guy for sex; I want a relationship-like friendship. Just without all the romance shit lol

[dimiclaudeblaigan]

Ah, so cool that Rodrigue gets his own week! Well deserved, he was a great addition to the playable cast in Hopes. Already liked him in Houses, but he really won me over completely with his supports and how much he loves to reminisce about his youth with Lambert and Matthias, aaw. That being said, I'm kinda surprised that OP didn't list Matthias as a one of the prompts. I don't ship them but I could see it more likely than... Hanneman or Nader lol, dunno maybe people dislike Matthias too much

Yeah, he was one of my faves in Houses too. Having him in Hopes was really fun with all the lore drops. In general as a character I love him too of course in Hopes, but it was really nice getting more content about the parents.

@recurringwriter MY NONNIE WANTS TO KNOW WHY YOU DIDN'T ADD MATTHIAS IN THE RODRIGUE WEEK! -waves you over with a flag-

Tbh for the most part I see more love for Matthias than hate. It could just be because of the circles I tend to find myself in on Tumblr, but I tend to have to fight to insist I don't hate Matthias simply because I'm critical of him... as I am of any character when needed. People will start defending him like I'm attacking him, like... no lol I don't hate Matthias. I made a half joke tag about it because apparently I had to reiterate it repeatedly at the time so people would stop taking a critical eye as hate.

I can see Nader, but personally I'd like Jeralt more than Hanneman myself. I'm salty we never got the Rodrigue and Jeralt friendship they both deserved. Their soldiers talk so highly about them and we hear about how they like to drink with their soldiers and be personable with them. Put Nader in and they may as well have a friend date to the local bar LOL.

I don't know if I'll end up doing anything for Rodrigue week since I have commissions, my constant dmcl ideas and Miklan weekend booking me, but I'll be happy to see what people come up with. Maybe I'll try to make something small, I dunno.

Inb4 I write a Rodrigue Dads DmCl fic where he dads them constantly and acts like they're his baby boys and embarrasses Claude for marrying his baby boy.

Also though I wanna write something with him and Sylvain bc... Sylvix good. 👁️👄👁️

If all else fails I could just... write some Rodrigue Loves Lambert... even though IS wrote a lot of that already. 😛