#a fan who is the exact opposite of chronically online

[wakeupthemembersofbylernation]

It’s wild how so many people are fundamentally incapable of recognizing queer characters unless they explicitly say the words, “I’m gay” on screen

[the-most-humble-blog]

Female Hypergamy 101: Why Women Go for the “Misogynists” They Claim to Despise

It’s not misogyny if she’s into it.

Modern feminism has a huge problem—and it’s not misogynists.

It’s the women who secretly (or blatantly) want them.

For all the outrage, pearl-clutching, and Twitter thread dissertations about men like Andrew Tate being “dangerous,” women keep proving, time and time again, that they want exactly this type of man.

And not just want. Chase. Obsess over. Fight for.

Because here’s the truth they don’t want to admit:

👉 Hypergamy runs the show.

👉 Women date up, not down.

👉 And they don’t give a fuck if that "up" comes wrapped in a leather jacket of blatant, unapologetic misogyny.

📌 The Hypergamy Effect: Women Date Up, Not Down

First, let’s define hypergamy for the chronically uneducated.

💡 Hypergamy is the biological and social tendency of women to seek men who outrank them in status, power, and resources.

It’s not a choice. It’s not a conspiracy. It’s evolution.

��� David Buss, a leading evolutionary psychologist, found in his 2019 study that across all cultures, women overwhelmingly prefer men with: ✔ More money ✔ More social dominance ✔ More ambition ✔ More physical presence

Not "equal." More.

Sound familiar?

Why do you think women flood Tate’s DMs despite his reputation?

Why do you think feminists cry about him online while secretly watching his videos in the dark like it’s porn?

It’s because hypergamy doesn’t give a fuck about ideology.

It only cares about status.

📌 The Data: Women Are Attracted to “High-Status” Men—Even If They Hate Them

If hypergamy wasn’t real, we wouldn’t have study after study proving it.

📊 A 2012 study by Fieder & Huber analyzed the dating preferences of thousands of women and found that:

✔ Women consistently rated men with high status, wealth, and dominance as more attractive—even if their personalities were “problematic.” ✔ They found high-status "assholes" more desirable than low-status "nice guys." ✔ Women repeatedly rejected men who had lower incomes or weaker social positions.

Translation? They can call it misogyny all they want. Their biology doesn’t care.

Even better? They are sexually aroused by it.

🧠 A 2008 study by Rupp & Wallen found that when exposed to dominant, "socially aggressive" men, women experienced higher physiological arousal than when exposed to "kind, nurturing" men.

You read that right.

They get turned on by the men they claim to despise.

📌 Tate’s DMs: The Leaked Receipts of Female Hypergamy

Still skeptical? Let’s talk about the actual receipts.

📂 Leaked screenshots from Tate’s personal messages—while he was actively being accused of misogyny and human trafficking—showed women flooding his inbox begging for attention.

Not just fans. Not just “lost, brainwashed” women.

We’re talking: ✔ Self-proclaimed feminists asking for his approval. ✔ "Anti-Tate" women secretly flirting with him. ✔ Women offering themselves up, unprompted, despite “hating” him.

So tell me again how “no woman wants a misogynist?”

Because Tate’s inbox tells a different story.

📌 Why Women Love What They “Hate”

💡 Women don’t actually want equality in dating.

They want status, power, and the thrill of dominance.

✔ They call Tate misogynistic, yet can’t stop talking about him. ✔ They say they want a “nice, emotionally available man” while chasing the very men they complain about. ✔ They "despise" male arrogance while drooling over men who treat them like an afterthought.

Hypergamy is undefeated.

And every outraged feminist tweet about Tate? Every think-piece about why he’s "problematic?"

It’s just free advertising for the exact type of man they can’t resist.

📌 Final Thought: The Lie of "Nice Guys Finish First"

Feminists say they want a world where men are gentle, kind, and respectful.

Yet they date the opposite.

They hate the men they want.

They date the men they claim to hate.

And when the receipts come out? They scramble for excuses.

Because no woman wants to admit that biology will always outrank ideology.

💀 REBLOG if the truth burns. 🔥 LIKE if you see hypergamy play out in real life. 💬 COMMENT if you’ve watched women contradict themselves like Olympic-level gymnasts. 🚀 FOLLOW for brutal, fact-driven breakdowns that hurt the weak.

[akajustmerry]

putting aside tayloring swifters history of pettiness, white feminism and racism - i wanna say from the bottom of my heart that her lyrics and craft have never really evolved or grown from the level of "insecure teenager with some potential but still feels the need to overexplain their metaphors" and it's so.......sad??? like you can really tell this woman dropped out of high school and became famous and never matured beyond that point in any way. even her "best" music is full of this over-exposition that's so childish. ppl will write thinkpiece after thinkpiece about how she manages to stay popular with teens because she reinvents her image but the opposite is true. it's because you listen to this 30+-year-old woman's music and she's still writing the exact same way she did when she was a teenager and the coat of paint they put over it might change, but she's the same person, musically, now at 30+ as she was at 16 and I don't necessarily mean that as a compliment. and its fine I guess if you're into an artist whose whole MO is validating the idea that who you were as a teenager was the most valid and raw version of you and you're really the "main character" of your life, but personally, after 15 years of listening to swift sing on and on about secret crushes and meetings and enemies, it's tired. we get it taylor, you're a high school dropout who never grew past that. like i don't think it's a coincidence that hardcore ts fans are people who think being able to spot repetition is peak literary analysis. i don't think it's a coincidence that her fans are chronically immature people online. i don't think its a coincidence that so much of her behaviour feels like a high school popular girl and i don't think it's a coincidence that so much of her fanbase are still teenagers! because she presents herself, musically, as someone who refuses to grow up.

[bigskydreaming]

Continuing on that observation because I forgot to add this part, as a gen z I'm glad you understand that we or young people don't invent new ways to be evil, but it's not completely true. You aren't seeing new forms of online abuse in every platform, I doubt second hand information is going into details as well. Also the fact that you are a white man, there are things being said and done to poc in various online communities that I don't expect you to be privy to. Harassing fans of color and poc media has become a lot more common and normalized which parts of the fandom at large will never see. I don't know if anon did all of the thinking before saying "gen z bad" but they're not completely wrong looking at the kind of mass bullying behavior literal kids are exhibiting. They are learning from or being encouraged by older people but that shouldn't take the focus away from them to blame only the older people.

And my ask regarding Barbara, you assumed I hadn't thought about if my disdain for the character could have come from ableism. I had tho, granted you couldn't have known that and it was surely a possibility, so I'm not saying I'm mad about it, I was at that time a little bit. But you could perhaps give your anons a little more credit sometimes. Sometimes people know what they're talking about, you don't need to explain other possibilities to them each time.

Once again, sorry if this came off as very rude I just needed to share that observation and among many other instances these two were really highlights and kept bothering me. My issue with Barbara goes in a different direction than anything to do with her appearance and I've personally faced online abuse from people younger than me in ways that technologically, even politically, wasn't possible or as easy a few years ago, so you can maybe see why...

Please keep in mind that whatever context you have for yourself or your ask when you come into my inbox on anon......I have none of that. You have an awareness of yourself relative to whatever you asked me. I literally only know an anon by the words they put into my inbox and nothing else.

Also please keep in mind that every anon I answer, I do so in the larger context of my own interactions with tumblr overall. I have a lot of precedent with things I say being taken out of context, misrepresented or even just me not conveying myself as well as I like.

So the combination of those two things is that a) I literally just don't KNOW what any anon does or doesn't know and b) If I'm going to answer an anon, I tend to want to answer as fully and clearly as possible.

I can understand it coming across as being talked down to, so I'll work on that, but I would ask people to remember the above and keep that in context too when weighing my responses.....am I actually being condescending in every case, or does it simply feel that way because I'm including stuff you already know in my response? And if its the latter, is THAT something I COULD know about you without knowing who you are or you as a person and not just a paragraph sent in anonymously?

I'd rather be safe than sorry, and so from my POV since there's no harm in somebody seeing someone cover information they already know as PART of their overall answer or response, like, there's no reason for me not to include whatever I think is relevant and just expect readers to decide for themselves what about my response, if anything, is helpful, and like....just ignore the rest, y'know?

Also, just for the record, I am ADHD and I save my medication for when I'm working or writing or have stuff I absolutely need to get done, which doesn't include my usual blogging. So I'm usually posting while not on my ADHD meds at all, hence the rambling tendencies and the length. Another aspect of ADHD that doesn't get talked about much ime is we tend to over-explain, part out of just excitement/interest in whatever it is that has our attention, and also in part because we're used to people not necessarily following the leaps our minds take when jumping around rather than proceeding in an orderly thought pattern.....so, part of why I break things down so incrementally is I literally just don't know where my way of looking at things diverges from the way neurotypical thinking views things, so I want to draw as detailed a map as possible in order to ensure the most people possible can follow my thought process, just in case.

(And again see, this is something you might already know, and hell, you could have ADHD yourself, I just literally have no way of knowing that so rather than just mention it and be like "oh and also I have ADHD and so that's something to keep in mind" I'd rather explain WHY I feel that's particularly relevant to your question, since I'm kinda like, why not answer as fully as I have the spoons for? People can stop reading at any time if I go on too long. Its fine).

As for the specific asks you're referencing - my response to the gen z anon was not meant to convey that the sort of things you're describing don't occur among gen z, so sorry for giving that impression. Its actually the opposite of my point, which was simply that I don't think its a generational thing, or that anything is gained by treating it as a generational thing. This kind of behavior exists in gen z, yes, but it also existed before gen z. Its not gen z SPECIFIC, or limited to just that generation. That's all.

And the other ask, the one you made about Barbara - to be honest, I don't have anyway of knowing for sure which one you meant, and there are a couple it could have been, but if its the one I THINK you're referencing, I believe you asked how to stop people from assuming you dislike Barbara for reasons rooted in ableism when its because of other things? If that's the one, then I mean, the thing is....I DID answer your question, in as much as anyone could. I addressed the perceptions other people might have of your stance there, but basically - there IS no way to ever ensure people take you at your word or any kind of guarantee you can present your POV in a way that won't be misrepresented or misunderstood. So ultimately, I just had no real useful advice for that?

And so I expanded into the only thing I think anyone CAN control, aka their own thoughts and words, and suggested that you just double check to be sure of your own possible biases that others might read into your words without you being aware you were putting them in there. That wasn't meant as an insult or to suggest you hadn't already examined yourself for possible ableism - it was simply saying it never hurts to check again, y'know? We don't always catch everything every time we do a self-review, and internal biases are inherently tricky to pick up on ourselves. And it just loops back into the fact that I really had no way to know what you had and hadn't already considered, you're essentially a blank cipher to me....and in my experience, a lot of people are a lot more ableist than they realize.

And this isn't an insult either! It applies to me and I'M physically disabled! I'm constantly to this day unpacking new realizations about how I still have more ableist views and opinions than even I realize, even after about five years of living with chronic pain, vertigo, nerve issues and associated problems stemming from only half a working mouth lol. I'm not trying to insult people by asking them to just do what I do every day and just like....make sure I'm not the problem when other people have a problem with me. Because sometimes, even after reflecting as fully and genuinely as I can, I think they're still wrong! I don't have to agree with their conclusions! But that doesn't mean that they're never right.

And for the record, I do think its still worth examining on your end, because I don't love that you said your issues with Barbara have nothing to do with her appearance, when we're talking about ableism specifically. It very well could be just a poor word choice on your part and not a reflection of your actual views, but it could also be a suggestion that you tend to think of physical disability as something that's limited to there being a visual sign of, and there's a lot of invisible symptoms and changes to the ways a disabled person interacts with society and society with them that don't alter a disabled person's appearance in anyway...and many of these things are the exact stuff a lot of unacknowledged ableism revolves around.

So I'd like to give you and other anons more credit and the benefit of the doubt and assume you know what you're talking about and don't need things broken down as much as I tend to break them down to - but keep in mind I don't OWE you that, and its a lot to ask someone to take you on faith when you've already made the conscious choice to present yourself to them anonymously, and deliberately limit how much a person even CAN know about you before answering, when you have an equal opportunity to present yourself by name, allowing someone the full context afforded by your blog, that they can use to familiarize themselves with you and what you likely do or don't know before answering. I don't think its entirely reasonable to anonymize YOURSELF and then expect people to still give you the benefit of the doubt.

Especially when not giving you the benefit of the doubt only really results in me over-explaining something you don't think you need explained in certain ways or in as much depth. Its not hurting anyone, and you're not going to be the only one reading this response and maybe that over-explanation ISN'T something other people know and it could still be of use to someone else, y'know?

But lastly, please keep in mind that you came to me, and I just answered in the way that made the most sense to me. If that didn't work for you or wasn't what you're looking for, that's fine, but like. You knew way more about me going into this interaction than I could possibly know about you, and assuming good faith of you and your interest in my response and giving you as much of a response as I did in the first place, let alone now, IS giving you the benefit of the doubt in the sense that I'm assuming you can find some way in which these responses are of use to you.

And if not, like....just don't send me more asks? LOL. I kinda feel like you just didn't expect the answer you got, and that's sitting weirdly with you. Which I get, to be honest, but I don't particularly think that's a me problem, because that has nothing to do with anything I can control.

I can only give the answer that occurs to me when I read and think about an ask. I can't guarantee it'll ever be the answer the asker actually WANTS.

[lovemesomesurveys]

Do you get nervous before “meeting the parents”? Yes! Especially meeting Ty’s family. He invited me over for dinner one time and I met his mom and couple of their close family friends. These were people closest to him, so the fact he wanted to introduce me to them in the first place meant a lot and I obviously wanted them to like me. What do you think of your friends? I don’t have any anymore cause I’m a mess. What do you prefer to drink in the morning? Coffee, of course. Have you ever done ecstacy? No. Do you like painkillers? I’m on them for chronic pain.

What is your secret weapon to lure in the opposite sex? Ha. Nothing. I’m alluring at all. Do you own a knife? We have butcher knives and butter knives. I don’t have a pocket knife or anything, though. Top 3 thoughts at this exact moment: My head hurts. I’m tired. I want Ramen. Name five drinks you regularly drink: Water Coffee That’s it. What time did you wake up today? 8AM at first, but then I fell asleep again until 930. Current hair? It’s a mess and badly needs to be dyed again. Current worry? Same things as always that I’m constantly worrying about. Current hate? My health. Favorite place to be? My bed or the beach. Least favorite place to be? Outdoors, except for the beach. Where would you like to go? Somewhere nice and relaxing. What do you think you’ll be in 10 yrs? Buddy, I gotta just take things day by day, hour by hour okay. Last thing you ate? A Lean Cuisine Margherita pizza, which was really small and thin and not a whole lot to it, so I had a slice of leftover Digiorno pizza I had from yesterday. Last time you had an alcoholic drink? Like 6 years ago. What songs do you sing in the shower? I have a whole shower playlist. Who is your loudest friend? What song do you want played at your funeral? Free Bird by Lynyrd Skynyrd. What were you doing 12AM last night? I was making Ramen. Do people get shocked by how old you are? Yeah, they’re surprised I’m almost 30. Do you have any features that people notice right away? As in a mole on your cheek, or a big nose, big teeth, etc? My hair gets complimented on a lot after its been recently dyed. What are you considered at your school or in general? As in a stereotype, and why? Do you have a iHome? Not anymore. I do have a bluetooth speaker, though. Don’t you just love pooping after holding it for a long time? Whats a compliment that gets annoying? Oh ya know I just get sooooo many compliments all the time, it’s just so exhausting. Whats the last compliment you received? I don’t remember. Whats the meanest insult you have received? I’m the only one who says mean things to myself (that I’m aware of). Do you like hanging out at your house, or your friends? I’m definitely a homebody. Unless you’re talking about where I like to hang out when with friends, in which case I’d say their house. Where is the last person you kissed at this moment? I have no idea. Will tomorrow be better then today? Today was okay. Have you ever fallen asleep with the last person you kissed? No. Do you have any empty alcohol bottles hidden? No. I’d have no reason to hide them anyway. Have you ever kissed someone whose name started with a: J, M, C, L, B, A? J. Do you think you’re wasting your time on the person you like? I don’t like anyone that way currently. Ever kissed a brown eyed and brown haired person? Yes. Are you a player? No. Is there something you want to tell someone? Ehhh. What are you excited for? Nothing at the moment. Is something bothering you? Of course. Do you like the town you are living in? No. Does your best friend approve of the last person you kissed? She didn’t have a problem with him. Do you have any friends with kids? On Facebook, yes. Who was the last person you talked to before you went to bed last night? My brother. Do you miss someone right now? Always. Do you hate when people smoke around you? Cigarettes, yes. Blech. Have you held hands with anyone in the past 24 hours? No. Think a lot before you fall asleep? Yes. What was the last thing you spent your money on? Food. Be honest, who is the easiest person in your life to talk to? These surveys? ha. Your last kiss, were you dating that person at the time? We had something complicated. Do you have a best friend of the opposite sex you tell everything to? No. Were you single last summer? Yes. What’s the weather like outside? It’s cool out. Is the last person you kissed older than you? No. Where did you first kiss the last person you kissed? It was outside a restaurant as we were leaving. Name three things you did or are going to do today: I’m going to listen to some ASMR videos, do some surveys, and do my Bible study. Are you currently frustrated with anyone or anything? Myself and my health. Let’s say you were ten years old again, what would be a typical day for you? I’d be playing outside or playing Barbies. Last place you went besides your house? The movie theater. Is there someone you’d really like to hang out with and just talk about stuff? I miss talking to Ty. We had great talks. What was the worst feeling you last felt? Bleh. How long have you been sober? I haven’t drank or smoked weed in like 6 years. I’m on a prescription narcotic; though, so I don’t know if that counts as being sober or not. Last sexual experience? How often do you talk on the phone? Very, very rarely. Do you have a significant other at the moment? No. If no, do you want one? Part of me does, but it’s best that I don’t. Do you “go out” a lot? Nope. Do you work a lot? No job. What are your plans this evening? I’ve been through this. What did you do last night? Same things I’ll be doing tonight, which I already described. When the phone rings who do you want it to be? No one. Do you still talk to your exes? No. It’s been a few years since I lasted talked to Joseph, and even longer since I last talked to my first ex. What is your current favorite song? I don’t have a current particular favorite at the moment. Current Best Friend? My mom. Whats the BEST part of your life right now? My family. Favorite store to shop at: I do a lot of my shopping online. Are you a good girlfriend/boyfriend? I don’t feel like I would be right now. Current cell phone ringer? One of the ones that comes on the phone to choose from. Your weakness? Coffee. What happened at 10:00 AM? I was doing my Bible study. Biggest annoyance in your life right now? My health. Have you ever taken someone back after they hurt you? Yes. Are you happy with your life at the moment? No. Who was the first person you talked to today? My dad. Will you be in bed within twenty minutes? I’m sitting on my bed now. When will be the next time you text someone? *shrug* How do you feel about your hair right now? I really hate it right now. Who do you currently have texts in your inbox from? My parents, younger brother, my Nana, and the home nurse. What color was the last pill you took? White. How many windows are open on your computer? Just 1 window is open currently. What are you doing after this? Perhaps another survey. *shrug* Where did you buy the shirt you are wearing? It was a Christmas present. Are you cold, warm or just right at the moment? I was really warm, but I just turned on my ceiling fan. Why did you last cry? Life. Are you happier single or in a relationship? I’m just not happy. Miss anything from your past? Yes, a lot of things.

[szopenhauer]

Do you usually take blame or blame others? ugh...

Have you ever seen 50 First Dates? nope but I heard about this movie and I might see it someday

Have you ever read any of John Green’s books? one at least and I don’t like him

Are you a protective person? would say so

Does your license plate number contain the number 8? I don’t have a car

Were you ever a ghost on Halloween? no but I could

Are you a fan of penguins? they’re fine

Are you a good painter? nope

Have you ever written a poem and then read it aloud? yes...

Have you and your best friend ever liked the same person? for one day? XD

Do you have an older brother? hyhy

Are you a fan of art? some

Did you watch Teen Wolf on MTV? no but Sterek forever as friends, not lovers 

When it was on, did you watch Cory In The House on Disney? I didn’t

Do you have any blackheads? obvi

Do you have a movie that you have to watch during the summer every year? meh

Agree or disagree: You like Adam Sandler movies. I dislike most of them

How would you describe your relationship with your hair over the years? oh my...

How do you practice truly living in the moment? pfft

Do you think most abusers know they’re being abusive? tbh? I do not

How do you feel about your SO daily/regularly checking up on a couple of his exes on social media? wtf

What perfume of yours does your SO love on you? I don’t use perfume

Have you made any (at least semi-) permanent alterations to your appearance? If so, how did you find the experience and do you regret it? nothing permanent

Women with disabilities/anxiety/depression/other mental health issues/chronic illnesses, how do you get it across to your SO/friends that sometimes you just can’t do something? it’s hard...

What was the turning point that led you to decide for or against having children? it was a long way, I learned about biology, sex, my orientation, environment, consequences, good and bad sides, my own abilities, costs etc.

Is having your “dream” wedding really that important to have? it’s not THAT important but I like to dream, there are some things that’d ruin big moment for me tho

What would your reaction be if your SO wanted the opposite type of wedding than you did? hell no, we don’t have to agree on everything but if exact opposite/what I hate then I don’t even want to date them :x

What kind if body type do you find attractive and unattractive (for your preferred sex)? was into short chubby girls with dark eyes and now am engaged to a tall gal with light eyes lmfao

How do you feel about strangers approaching you with compliments? hmm...

Would you be more offended if your [wo]man cheated on you with a guy or a girl? guy :(

Do you like your personality? which one, hahaha

Have you ever stolen someone’s boyfriend/girlfriend? it seems...

Tell me the date of your first kiss. 2011?

Tell me the date of your last kiss. days ago

Are your legs long or short? short

How many phobias do you have? shitload

Do you like beer? eww, gross

Do you feel tired for no reason? I have plenty of reasons

Ever taken an at home pregnancy test? what for?

Turn to your left…is there a lamp? on the street :P

Have you seen The Blind Side? yep

What’s the most beautiful thing you’ve seen in the last week? lots

How many people have you kissed over all in 2020? one

When was the last time you felt like throwing up? today

Have you ever ordered pizza online? via phone only

What color was the last candle you lit? znicze też się liczą?...

Have you ever read in the bathtub? no way, I’m gonna kill Nat for using our cell in the bathtub

What day of the week does the laundry usually get done? no specific day, when it’s necessary

Do you use the Facebook chat often? constantly

Where is your mom at? her room watching tv

Did the last type of shoes you wore have laces? no

What genre is your favorite movie? sci-fi

Are you texting anybody right now? I am indeed

Do you like the picture on your license/I.D. card? it’s not the worst

Do you own a map of the world? not interested in owning one

Is the light on in the room you’re in? too early for that

Who did you last spoon with? M. Are you currently watching TV? it’s on, I can hear it but it’s in another room

Have you ever had surgery or stitches? neither yet

Does your family eat dinner together? at times

Have you met the last person you kissed’s parents? mhm

Who is the first person you see in the mornings? parent

When was the last time a member of the opposite sex hugged you? today, my father

Is the last person you kissed more than 2 years older than you? she’s 2 months younger

Do you think anyone has feelings for you? I know she does

If you got married to the last person you messaged, what would your initials be? if I changed surnames that is but I won’t

When is the next time you will kiss someone? tomorrow?

So, the last person you kissed just happens to arrive at your door at 3AM, do you let them in? omg what happened :o

Can you commit to one person and one person only? even in this poly fam we have I chose just one

Are you planning on going anywhere with someone, some time today? I came back