#Your Fave is Problematic

[welcomingdisaster]

i heard from the edain in ossiriand that lord balan is having a mid-life crisis and dating some blond floozy who looks young enough to be his kid. in unrelated news elves in nargothrond tell me that finrod felagund is cradle robbing some human guy like 1/10th his age :/

[carlitosalcaritos]

your fave is problematic - Jannik Sinner edition

- resting bitch face

- ends interviews when he wants (‘that’s it’)

- broke the Rod Laver Arena with a serve

- has beef with his white blood cells (sickly Victorian child)

- can’t decide between Carlos Alcaraz and Jack Draper

- fake Italian accusations (ginger)

- can’t hit a drop shot to save his life

- living in Nick Kyrgios’s head rent free (unbothered, moisturised, in his own lane)

- can’t open champagne bottles

- biggest weakness is the sun (ginger)

- has a personal vendetta against Alex de Minaur (9-0 H2H)

[your-fave-is-forklift-certified]

Lestat de Lioncourt from Interview with the Vampire is Not Forklift Certified!

[harbingerofsoup]

i bet the in universe daniel molloy discourse is a thing of beauty

[theshinysnivy1]

evbo is a class traitor

[detectivethicc]

Dear Writers

It is possible for your characters to have emotional or healing moments that do not lead to sex (LOOKING POINTEDLY)

healthy people do not solve all of their problems with sex (LOOKING POINTEDLY)

[brieserker]

If Iroh resisted the urge to firebend that tea, Jet wouldn't have died.

[darkshrimpemotions]

This article has been out for over a year, but I just heard of it via a youtube video by Princess Weekes (who I highly recommend you check out if you enjoy media analysis from someone who is clearly well-versed in fandom without feeling the need to establish themselves as some condescending authority studying us like creatures in a zoo, unlike some youtubers who post about fandom).

If you've been on tumblr for as long as I have (10+ years), you probably vividly remember the heyday of yourfaveisproblematic, and how that blog's popularity feels even today like one of the major catalysts for a lot of the purity policing on tumblr. In this article, the author of that blog--who was a teenager when it was active--talks about what motivated them at the time, how they feel about the blog now as an adult, how they see similar impulses being acted out across the internet today, and why they have never taken the blog down.

I highly recommend reading the whole thing, but here are a few key lines that really stuck out to me:

"In the years since, I’ve looked back on my blog with shame and regret — about my pettiness, my motivating rage, my hard-and-fast assumptions that people were either good or bad."

"I just wanted to see someone face consequences; no one who’d hurt me ever had."

"There’s something almost quaint about it all now: teenage me, teaching myself about social justice on Tumblr while also posturing as an authority on that very subject, thinking I was making a difference while engaging in a bit of schadenfreude."

"Looking back, I was more of a cop than a social justice warrior, as people on Tumblr had come to think of me."

These quotes remind me vividly of my own fall down the purity police pipeline, and my struggle to claw my way back out. Looking back, it's so easy to see how my pain and helplessness fueled a ruthlessness in my approach to social justice that was less about actually helping anyone and more about feeling like I wasn't so powerless.

Thinking of the friends I had at the time, many of whom I no longer associate with for related reasons, we were all traumatized or marginalized teenagers and twenty-somethings, newly awakened to the idea that the treatment we'd suffered for most of our lives was not in fact our fault and was due to systemic injustice and culturally accepted cruelty.

But we weren't healed enough, or distanced enough ourselves from the power structures causing or enabling that suffering, to think beyond wanting to flip the hierarchy. In a very real way, we weren't ready for the nuance required to give people grace and the opportunity to learn and grow. Despite having needed, and frankly still needing, those things ourselves.

I think we can learn a lot from Your Fave Is Problematic about the motivations and emotions behind purity culture, black and white thinking, and why neither is actually productive in reducing harm, easing suffering, or creating a kinder and more equitable world. And maybe, if we learn to recognize those impulses in ourselves, we can unpack them before they lead us to cause harm in the name of making ourselves feel less powerless.

[mabelfrensky]

Realizing that yourfaveisproblematic launched cancel culture at seventeen and led us into this blood quantum shit makes me thankful that at seventeen the worst things I remember doing was getting the SpongeBob fandom accidentally riled up over a misspoken article and being slightly cringe over a Wreck it Ralph roleplayer/getting caught up in the GamerGate (by the way, follow Brianna Wu, she’s awesome) scandal when it happened and nearly crying because Anita Sarkeesian was on the cover of Time Magazine once.

[carlitosalcaritos]

your fave is problematic - Daniil Medvedev edition

- man you better shut your fuck up ok

- once failed to return a Sara Errani serve

- plays tennis like he’s doing interpretive dance

- beef with umpires (literally all of them)

- incredibly chaotic energy but bitches love him for it because he is funny (it’s me, I’m bitches)

- commitment issues (can’t win a tournament more than once)

- won Rome 2023 and was apparently cursed never to win a title again

- hates clay so much one time he asked the tournament referee to default him because he didn’t want to be there

- daddy issues with Apostolos Tsitsipas (HIS FATHER CAN TALK EVERY POINT?)

- coached by two French guys called Gilles (girl so confusing)

- loves to flop against Jannik Sinner (affectionate)

[your-fave-is-forklift-certified]

Nandor the Relentless from What We Do in the Shadows (2019) is Not Forklift Certified!

[alarrytale]

It's interesting that on Tumblr I always see attacks on H, from "fas" or accounts that are Larrie. But Louis comes through unscathed, and he's done some terrible things in the last 2 years. Anon said that H only treats his fans well when he needs them. Didn't she see Louis in latam? What did he and the team do? That he only changed his stance after the exposure in twitter? lol people just want to criticize H, that's the truth

Hi, anon!

I can only speak for myself, but i criticize them both equally. Neither of them are perfect and they've got different strengths and weaknesses. It should be possible to discuss H's problematic behaviour or his image, or have people vent about H, without people bringing Louis into the conversation and start to compare and contrast. It's comparing apples with oranges either way. The same goes the other way around.

Of course larries will criticize H, who else? Harries won't. A lot of harrie larries won't do that either. They gloss over everything or prefer not to talk about it or bring it up. Just like louies or louie larries tend to do with Louis. That's just how things are. Most people got a favourite who they want to protect from criticism.

I think both H and L should be called out for their bad behaviour. I like to hear from anons who struggle with accepting, or coming to terms with, H or L's problematic behaviour or their shitty images, because i struggle with that too sometimes. I don't like to sweep things under the carpet. I like to talk about what's bothering me, understand why it does, vent, and end up accepting it or moving past it.

Remember the "Your fave is problematic" blog from 2013? I think we need to teach the new generation of fans that everyone has got a problematic fave. The world isn't black and white. H and L both show hypocritical, egotistical, capitalistic and spoiled rich kid behaviour. They're gaslighting and lying to their fans. It's happening and it's going to happen again in the future. So you can either choose to ignore it or you can call them out on it. It doesn’t mean that they are bad people or should be cancelled. It means they should correct their behaviour and do better.

[riondisease]

i love when people post hate about a piece of media in the art/community tags because i just read the first few words, realize its a dumb hate post, and then block them

like what do they think they’re achieving

[kyliafanfiction]

Also, is it wrong that I kinda ship Amanda and Emily a little? There's something so deliciously toxic there. :rofl:

[the-space-junker]

He’s a classic - no one ever said he’s one of the good classics!

[cwdumptruck]

So is the show ever going to address Jordan’s unhealthy fixation with his ex...

Or are we supposed to be rooting for him in his quest to “get the girl™”?