#They're obviously included in this but fuck terfs

[rat-rosemary]

Thought of this because I was thinking up silly political stuff for the stickers, but reminder that there is no Other for you to point all your issues to and if anyone, and I mean anyone, tries to convince you otherwise they're probably extreme right wing sewing discourse

[soup-mother]

I feel like a lot of those "if you assume when people talk about women they're not including trans women then that's on you" type posts were made to fucking gaslight trans women while patting themselves on the back for allyship.

you know a lot of the time we can't actually tell when someone is including us right? like yea it's annoying when ppl tack us on after the fact but it's like...... you do understand you need to do more than just "obviously include trans women" right?

now when you say "don't assume someone talking negatively about men is actually talking about trans women" are you even slightly able to understand WHY we might be weary of people doing that? do you even slightly consider what things sound like transmisogynistic dogwhistles? or is this a 'i don't have to consider how anything i could ever say might be confused for crypto terf shit because it should be inherently obvious i support trans women' type thing?

like i feel that point is just straight up fucking lost on people talking on behalf of us, yall would fucking turn your backs on us in a fucking second too, don't pretend you wouldn't.

you KNOW why trans women hear "men" and think trans women, it's because a lot of people say "men" and MEAN trans women. you KNOW you know that, you're not that fucking dense. stop patting yourself on the back for being obtuse about it

[velvetvexations]

I'm being stalked by someone who screams that I can't stop talking about her despite her having it made it clear she wants "no contact" and then screenshots my blog to spread more lies about me in spite of the fact that I have her blocked and block evading is supposed to be one of my grievous sins

like literally the most I have talked about her recently was with a coded name that doesn't even reference her URL in response to her taking a screenshot of my post and calling me pro-American because memes are hilarious but IRL seriously I would have preferred 9/11 not have happened

I am still not using her URL or her fucking name while she goes around saying VELVET VEXATIONS SHOULD DRINK BLEACH BECAUSE SHE SAID DONALD TRUMP DOESN'T BELIEVE TRANS WOMEN ARE WOMEN NOW EXCUSE ME I SAW MY LEAST FAVORITE COLOR AND NEED TO COMPOSE A MELINCHOLY POEM TO PROCESS THE GRIEF IT'S CAUSED ME

every time a transradfem equates discussing how transphobes feel about us is the same as misgendering other trans people, that's fucking pathetic assuming it's a genuine belief and not just something to performatively break into tears over as intoxicatingly self-righteous justification for thinking only the people they fetishize should be allowed to exist

but apparently! this person has another stalker who sends her posts to other people! and that's really interesting to me, you know, because the only post of her's I've ever received from an anon was one in which she was talking about me! And when that person came off anon to say it was them that sent it, she took a screenshot of that admission but did not include me telling them off for stirring shit

too bad I decided to delete the admission due them using her name and can't prove I gave them that dressing down, clearly I shouldn't have fucking bothered since innocence itself is no protection

she seriously can't stop calling me a TERF while actual no-bullshit TERFs are openly calling on one another to email publishers trying to get me canceled for writing a fanfic where it's briefly mentioned a trans teenager wore her sister's clothes without asking, what the fuck does any transradfem know about TERFs when I'm dealing with actual TERFs and all they are to them is an abstract concept used to bludgeon trans men and non-binary people with

these fucking people do not experience actual fucking problems, they do not have any conception of what an actual problem is, they sit around lying about the traitorous Queen of Tee Em Eees, puppet of the completely fictional AFAB patriarchy, because they do not have real problems and have never had one in their entire lives, like all fucking people who can't go five seconds without reminding you they're a communist because they think it's cool and trendy and makes them sound smart to say things like dialetic materialist epistemology transubstantiating within the imperial core of the glocal northsouth without actually engaging in any of the actual ideals that make communism laudable and worthy of sincere pursuit

the temptation is to say that transradfems do it because they feel powerless to do anything about actual social issues on any level and lash out at anyone they can feel good taking a swing at, but I don't give a fuck, I'm not willing to give them that they're just misguided, I don't think there's a single atom in the being of even one transradfem that cares about about anything beyond the clout they can extract from it, at best everything they whine about is less than a fourteen year old on Livejournal writing about how unfair it is when their parents won't let them get a tattoo except usually the the fourteen year old would be relaying actual events that actually happened

and I straight up do not fucking believe anyone gets hate mail over interactions I've had with them either, I fucking do not believe those obviously bullshit lies while I still get anons calling me zipperits and trying to trigger dysphoria on the assumption that works on me for saying I think transmascs aren't cis men

in fact, I kinna half-joked about it before, but I think I now just fully believe it one hundred percent was a fucking trans rad fem - probably even this one in particular! - who sent my published work to that TERF the other day, because I haven't had that pinned or brought it up in months and I've never gotten attention from TERFs before this month outside of one or two comments that went nowhere

motherfucking hellsite

fucking internet

fucking stupid motherfuckers

[olderthannetfic]

I would never defend them - at least not the ones who actually harass people - but I do wonder if there's some antis out there who genuinely come from good intentions.

Super serious and genuinely shameful confession: I'm an ex-radfem. I went into those circles in the first place bc I liked some of Dworkin's works. And while I obviously do not recommend anyone ever get into radical feminism, I will say this: If haven’t been down that very specific rabbit hole of ideology yourself - especially in online settings - you cannot even begin to imagine how fucking INSANELY pervasive the ideas are. Even if you've been a victim of radfem hate, if you haven't been a radfem yourself, I'm truly inclined to think you have no idea what those spaces are actually like. Sorta like how if you've been a victim of fundie hate, that is awful and it fucking sucks, but if you haven't been raised fundie yourself, you really don't know what it's like to be IN those circles, just a VICTIM of those circles.

I hate to throw around words like “hivemind” or “groupthink” but it is that. I went into radfem spaces thinking that I was above believing certain things that they believed but I clearly wasnt, it is so fucking toxic and that’s why i’ll never believe that “TIRF” (trans inclusionary radfem - something I tried and failed to be) can be a real thing. And then these same people have the audacity to call trans rights a cult, but you know, it's whatever.

Obviously terfs are more serious in the "real world" than antis are, but there are some parallels in the way that both groups feel about kink/porn discourse. (No, I'm not saying that antis "believe TERF ideology" or anything, but I do think in the specific context of sex stuff, there ARE alot of parallels.)

I am not defending radfems either, but I will say that I got into it because I was genuinely worried about things such as: PH and how they just steal content from sex workers, the abuse going on in the sex work industry, the phenomenon of young girls who are waiting to turn 18 so they can start an OF account, romance novels that were not marketed as dark but should've been considering they straight up romanticized abuse and rape.

I really do think that most antis are of a similar mindset -- people, typically young traumatized people (not trying to pull the neurodivergent minor card, it's just that statistically speaking, that label CAN describe most antis) who are truly worried that, like, idk, some young girl is gonna watch Twilight or read Reylo fic and think that an overly possessive bf is #goals. Again, I'm NOT trying to defend this ideology or line of thinking at all, I'm just saying that i DO think most of them really don't realize the harm that they're doing, and actually think they're doing good.

I actually kinda feel bad for them, but like my earlier comparisons, I feel bad for them in the same way I feel bad for fundies or evangelicals. I feel bad that they hold such an awful ideology while thinking they're doing good things, but I stop feeling bad once they start ACTUALLY hurting people and I'll always feel worse for the people who they harass and harm.

And like I'd never want to be a radfem again and I hate that I was one once but, between myself and your ~10k (ballpark estimate lol) followers, I think that my time spend in that belief system gave me some really good insight to cult mindsets, which was something I didn't understand before or have much sympathy towards, and I've emerged with a lot of empathy for people who ARE stuck in bad ideologies. I could've been born into a hate group. I could've been preyed on by alt-right people and sucked in that way. Instead, it was reading radblr during quarantine that got me. Before I fell into it, I just mindlessly hated everyone in that group, and now I just feel sorry for them (still without justifying any of their actions).

It's honestly a really, really, complicated thing to try to grapple with. Anyone, yes including you reading this, can be brainwashed into hate. The second you think you're too good for that, you've lost.

This was more of a vent than a discourse ask. I guess my tl;dr is: I hate antis, terfs, fundamentalists, etc, as much as the next guy, but I also recognize that some of those people truly truly do think they're on the right side of history, and some of those people have been sucked into an ideology they never would've believed otherwise if not for xyz factors. While hate groups will never deserve pity, there are some vulnerable people in hate groups who for some reason believe they're doing good, and I wish I could help all of those people.

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Yeah, I assume many antis are perfectly sincere in their desire to protect people. They're just wrong about what will work.

[hummingbird-hunter]

As a trans man I hate hate hate with burning passion people who use trans men as a 'gotcha!' on the topics of feminism or just women talking about their experiences in general

"Ugh, men never listen-" "Oh so you hate MEN?? WELL what about TRANS men?? Do you hate trans men too???"

"One of the problems of patriarchy is that men are raised to-" "WELL what about TRANS men?? They weren't raised like cis men!!!"

You've probably seen some screenshots of maybe someone be like "men are opressors including trans men" which is obviously wrong and stupid and completely erases trans men's lives before transitioning, or trans men who don't transition, or how in the eyes of society we're not actually the same as cis men; but that's not the point I want to make. My point is that those statements are directly answers to the aforementioned question, and it's a fucking question with no answer. "So you think trans men are the same as cis men?" And if they say yes then they believe that trans men are privileged, and if they say no they believe trans men aren't men. "Have you stopped beating your wife already?" ass question.

And some of you are probably thinking now "well they shouldn't be mean to men in the first place, that's terfy!" No it's not. I mean, yeah, if it goes full gender essentialism it can be, but by definition it's not. Guess what, misogyny is still a very real issue, and people are allowed to talk about it! And no, I don't think that if someone wants to talk about men as a privileged group they need to clarify they're talking specifically about Cisgender Cissexual Perisex XY Chromosome Binary Male Man because that's fucking stupid. They know what they mean. You know what they mean. You're just being obtuse on purpose.

And yes of course there need to be conversations specifically including trans men in feminism, such as reproductive care for transmasculine people, and not mentioning us in those conversations is harmful. But simply talking about "men", or misogyny or patriarchy is not actually excluding trans men! It is not harmful to us! (But what about terfs, you cry, to which I say this is not about them and you are being obtuse on purpose again)

The point is, misogyny is a thing. And by screaming WhatAboutTransMen every time it gets brought up, or when a woman god forbid dares to talk or complain about her experiences with men, you are not helping us. By silencing conversations about feminism you are actively harming us because Misogyny Also Affects Us Genius.

[pearwaldorf]

If you've followed me for a while it's pretty clear what my stance on anti/purity wank nonsense is. I was here when I saw the shift towards media consumption and shipping as activism/a proxy for morality, and the way this has been used to lay a veneer of righteousness on what we would have previously described as ship wars or fandom wank.

It's funny because antis/purity wankers have this view of people who enjoy the nasty stuff as genuinely fucked up the same way homo/transphobes view gay and trans people: existential threats to morality, truth, justice, and the American way. Having known a fair amount of them, they're just people in fandom. They just happen to be into stuff that not everybody vibes with, the same way some people are into high school AUs or soulmate tropes and other people aren't. It just requires a little more tagging to make sure people who want to avoid that stuff can.

So of course I was absolutely horrified when I saw people dismissing the revelations about how volunteers were treated in the wake of the CSAM attacks as anti bullshit. People out there have read the information available and blithely dismissed these credible accusations and actions (which have been confirmed by the OTW Board and Legal committees), as some sort of psy-op by groups gunning the OTW/AO3, some of which may include the Russians, TERFs, possibly the Disney corporation.

For a bunch of people who have accused antis of being brainwashed dittoheads, the OTW apologists have done an impressive lack of critical thinking themselves. Even beyond that, why is their impulse, when an organization has been accused of something extremely horrific, to side with the organization rather than the victim?

I would like to think we, as fans, understand that we do the things we do out of love. Certainly there will be annoyances and irritations in the process, but those are not the same as genuine harm. I know for many of us, fandom has been a refuge from extremely awful things in our lives. It fucks me up so much that a thing you do out of love can lead to such a devastating trauma because people who should have given a shit absolutely fucking did not.

--

Um, well then.

When I started this post I intended on doing a witty little rhetorical flip in the conclusion to be like "lol guess what u know who r the real monsters?" And then I started ugly crying. I think this is the thing I've been trying to get a handle on since I learned about what happened.

I thought we loved each other. I thought that would be enough, to be some sort of lifeline to ensure we wouldn't be monsters. Obviously I was wrong, and it was stupid to think that way, but I did not anticpate how much it would hurt to realize.

[bread-and-roses-too]

not to go nuts over a random song that got popular on tik tok but the part of Labour where they go "it's not an act of love if you make her" makes me feel righteous rage. Obviously the immediate thought goes to sex which is of course a good message, but if you take it a step deeper it really starts to fuck with your head. Cooking, cleaning, caring for someone when they're sick, those are all supposed to be acts of love. But because they're so expected that you basically can't avoid them they become chores, and more than chores they become required. I've heard a lot of cishet women, including my own mom, talk about how they can never take a break because their family can't function without them. I love to cook and bake, but I would never show off that love or skill until very late in a relationship with a man. For a long time I didn't cook or bake at all because I was afraid of being seen as "wife material" because "wife material" means "taken advantage of by men who don't want to put in their fair share". I feel like the exploitation of women is so normalized that even if you want to do traditional housewife roles you have to stay out of them to avoid being abused and taken advantage of. It's not an act of love if you make her, so many of us have stopped showing love in the form of housewife tasks to avoid being roped into relationships with men who will make us serve them. I just want to bake my future partner a cake without worrying how they and other people will view it in the framework of gender.

[image id: a banner that says "this post is about misogyny, do not derail" on the first line and "terfs, twerfs, and swerfs dni" on the second line].

[batsarebetterthanpeople]

What do you think lesbians are attracted to in women that we can’t be attracted to in men?

It can’t be anything about femininity or masculinity obviously. That’s both sexist, and cultural so can’t be what drives woman-only attraction.

It can’t be anything about stated identity because someone could lie just as easily as they could tell the truth in such a statement, and it makes no sense because homosexuality and heterosexuality exists in other species with no stated identities. It’s not like other animals without gender are all pan.

Saying idk it’s the vibes or some indescribable trait women have that men can’t but “I can’t explain” is a nonanswer.

Soooooooo what is it? Or do you think any sexuality but bi/pan is just cultural performance or an identity rather than an inborn orientation?

I am a gay man. I neither am a lesbian nor have sex with lesbians. I differ to lesbians on what lesbians are attracted to. Idk why you're in my inbox babe.

But I will say that for me I'm attracted to femininity in men, including trans men but I'm not attracted to women, and I assume it's a similar thing for lesbians but with women instead of men.

Also being attracted to femininity/masculinity isn't sexist, usually that just comes down to preference, which can stem from internalized bias but doesn't always. Like I assume you if you're a lesbian that you have a preference for butches/studs or femmes, or maybe you don't. For example I tend to give all guys a chance regardless of aesthetic, size and gender presentation but my whole life I've only ever been romantically interested in three guys and they were all skinny feminine punk/goth types. I imagine that's a preference that I have.

Anyway logic doesn't have much to do with sexual preference in my experience. Logically I'm a huge bottom so I should be into guys who top but that usually isn't how things work out for me. Logically I prefer the physical act of giving head to people with vaginas and I'd probably have more luck finding someone with that equipment who wants to get eaten out if I was into women but I'm woefully attracted to men and I just have to hope that a trans guy finds me on Grindr, or just eat ass. Logically, I don't want to get pregnant so it would probably be safer for me to be into people who can't do that to me, but again, woefully attracted to men. I look at a woman and I just can't muster any sexual appetite for her. Sorry.

Although to be fair my disinclination toward women does on the rare occasion apply to men. Like for example I might be convinced to KaiKai with a Trixie Mattel type or a Nina Bo'nina Brown type but you could not get me to KaiKai with F1nn5ter. I don't know why he just doesn't register to me the way that most women don't register to me.

So yeah I am giving you a fucking non answer because sexuality isn't about logic or reason. It's words we have to describe sexual attraction, which I hate to tell you this, is a vibe. It's all feelings. Feelings of sexual attraction.

You TERFs are so obsessed with white patriarchal notions of concrete reason that you never realize the very obvious answer that some things just aren't about logic or reason, they're about experiential reality. And then you wanna pretend like you're anti patriarchy.

Feelings don't care about your facts.

[timeisacephalopod]

It really does amaze me that terfs can allegedly give two fucks about sexism while telling trans men they're confused women, telling autistic trans people they're too autistic to know what their own fucking gender is, and I personally experienced being told being non-binary was me trying to "escape misogyny" like being non-binary means Ive suffered no discrimination based on that because I guess terfs live in magical world where being non-binary means you don't face any discrimination at all from anyone up to and including them straight up telling you you don't know your own fucking gender.

Like I'm sorry but if you claim to know anything about sexism you should not need to be told that assuming groups of people are too stupid to determine their own fucking gender and that you know better than them is paternalistic, misogynistic, and unbelievably condescending and insulting. How can anyone claim to care about sexism while employing the exact sexist tools they claim to criticize against other more marginalized groups? Obviously the answer is that terfs are a bunch of conservative shit lickers who want to be at the top of the power wielding pile and view shitting on trans people and leveraging their cis status to win more power with people in power. But like bruv ur the next bug to squash you aren't gaining shit but being used as a tool to further dismantle your own rights too and I have to Laff at the terf who gets mad their rights go Bye Bye like they didn't actively participate in those rights sailing out the window 🤷🏻‍♀️

[sick-thing]

None of this is a lie, there are videos of butches getting kicked out of womens bathrooms because they were mistaken for men, even getting the police called on them, and it's the terfs who peddled the "men are trying to invade womens restrooms" hysteria that led to that, as for the rest. Literally just open your fucking eyes and take a look around? None of this is misinformation and its all easily googlable, i made sure of this when i made the post to try and prevent TERFs and their bootlickers from crying about misinformation but obviously that didnt work. There are laws trying to get passed that'd require genital inspections, there was a terf that flashed a pussy wig at the parliament, where children were present, live on video, they call mastectomies mutilation constantly and say "men" (trans women) shouldn't compete in sports because they're naturally better than women at apparently everything, including video game tournaments now.

If you think this is all misinformation you obviously haven't been paying attention to what TERFs have been doing.

Terfs after they get butch women kicked out of womens bathrooms for looking too much like a man, call cis women men because they don't fit a white western beauty standard, say people who've had mastectomies (which are mostly cancer patients) are mutilated, reduce women down to their anatomy, act like trans men are clueless little girls who can't think for themselves, say women are naturally worse at sports and quiz shows and beauty pageants than men, flash a fake bush in parliament with children present, rile up so much bullshit about trans athletes that now there's laws being made where little girls have to have genital inspections, and throw intersex people under the bus at every opportunity

[enchantrum]

I know I’m not fully versed in the dynamics of a lot of fandoms, but where you say that people will latch onto terf ideology without recognizing it, is so true. I’ve actually been seeing this in my own life. A friend of mine, who’s a straight passing queer, nonbinary man (he/they), recently ended an abusive relationship with his femme partner in which he was the one being abused, and so many former friends, including trans women, have latched onto this idea that he held all the power because he was a man and a bit older. They’re even engaging in victim blaming rhetoric: “if he’s actually being abused then why is he doing this?” Or “why doesn’t he do that?” And calling any boundaries he sets as “leveraging power dynamics.” It’s really gross. Those of us who recognize the abusive dynamics for what they are, are being accused of siding with an abuser just because he’s a friend. And the thing is people do overlook abuse when it challenges their own feelings towards someone they’re close to. That happens all the time. But here you have people shielding a femme partner from any accountability for their abusive behavior (taking advantage of his money, destroying property, putting pets in danger, triangulating, lying, taking away his personal space) and just deciding that the masc straight-passing man must be the abuser.

I don’t know if this is along the lines of what you’re talking about when it comes to terf ideology - I know terfs are very essentialist - but I think it’s so important for everyone to recognize that no one, including themselves, is immune from engaging in or adopting problematic ideology and acting upon it.

pretty much what I'm talking about and probably one of the most harmful forms of it, because it's obviously damaging this person's life. I'm really sorry that's happening to your friend and I hope they're able to establish a support system of reasonable people. men and mascs aren't really seen as needing support which is part of the problem.

it is rooted in TERFy biocentric ideas of anything "male" = predatory and everything "female" = harmless/prey.

though it's evolved a lot from when I first encountered it. the reasoning was basically that if you're born male you'll always be defined by this wrong maleness. more recently it means anything masculine = performing maleness and maleness being defined as predatory, toxic, needlessly aggressive, etc.

I used to encounter a lot of infantilizing of trans men ("the poor misguided butches" etc) and although there's still some of that, there's a lot more of "HRT and transition makes trans men aggressive and crazy and they're just as bad as cis men."

anyone this loose idea of "maleness" touches is under fire.

on a personal level, after I transitioned my abusive mother tried to gaslight me by accusing me of "male abuse". she tried to go behind my back to talk to my doctors and everything lol. but the thing is her gaslighting, interfering and being a control freak wasn't new, it had been going on for 20+ years. she just has the convenient excuse of my masculinity now because men can't possibly be abused.

we've been no contact for a few years now, thank fuck.

so yeah it's good if you can identify TERFy brainrot when it's seeping into the perspective of those around you.

maybe some people still enjoy the edgy catharsis of "lol I hate men" but it's counter productive if we want to progress in gender equality.

[velvetvexations]

This Warless Weekend...I accidentally broke the one rule of Warless Weekend sending "Maya Henry is in fact a trans woman lol" to a TERF. Sigh. Forgive me, Velvet Nation.

The post was discovered because I was once again going through radblr looking for screenshots to prove beyond the shadow of the doubt that radfems hate even cis men, let alone trans men. It's going to be a multi-day affair because I want to include so many examples that when you click "read more" it'll be like unraveling an ancient scroll that drops to the floor and rolls down several flights of stairs in a cartoon.

I've also been debating a radfem who's not...the TERFiest? Hard to classify someone who thinks private spaces should be sex-segregated for now but corrects anons who misgender me and believes radfems shouldn't be so hostile to trans women* because they're "allies of the feminist revolution." My only concern is that my (mostly AFAB trans!) followers would see me interacting with someone who has those radfemmy beliefs in a way that isn't pure hostility and be made to feel unsafe as a result. I have no illusions that his radical feminist beliefs are harmful. But am I being too nice, regardless? I've been personally convinced he sincerely holds beliefs that makes other radfems hate him, thus the anon he got misgendering me and saying he should stop talking to me because I'm a homophobe.** Sometimes good people get praxis wrong.

And TRFs will say "ooh, look at Velvet, being courteous to people who self-identify as radfems, she'd never do that for transfems she slanders as TRFs." First of all, I think a lot of non-transfems are TRFs. Secondly, I do do that for TRFs, all the fucking time! As with anyone else when they're not just horribly cruel I do actually go to extreme lengths to be polite, approaching them as a submissive doormat of a person, offering the most politely worded but in-depth critique of their bullshit you could possibly imagine. I've started several posts of such a nature with "please take this in good faith" and at least once I've DM'd someone after reblogging them to go the extra mile assuring them I'm not trying to take a swing at them.

I think talking to people is good and healthy and should be encouraged, idk. That doesn't go for someone who thinks all trans women are monsters who want to abuse Trve Wymbyn, or that all trans men are deluded victims/fetishisers of cis gay men/escaping into privilege.*** Most radfems, like outright conservatives, are 100% bugfuck evil and do not deserve anything other than mockery and scorn. But if there's a chance you might be able to connect with an intellectually and morally honest person who seems to be going for what they truly believe is best for everyone...I think you should go for it.

I desperately want to believe people when it seems like they're really honestly trying out of sincere moral impulses and are truly capable of treating others with respect rather than it being an enemy psyop. I'm trying to not let my fear of being gullible deter me from offering my hand to people when our differences might be bridgeable.

*and other trans people, plus those who are dysphoric but do not consider themselves trans

**I believe they were referring to when I said homosexuality was also an atypical arousal pattern in response to someone pointing at a basic ass furry to say trans people were ridden with paraphilias

***I just realized how diverse the "explanations" for AFAB trans people are. With how much transphobia relies on being offensive to Trve Wymbyn you have to get creative to explain why it's also bad when one of their own contracts the mind virus and it's so obviously completely incoherent

[cloudsoffire]

i noticed someone did made a post about the person who reblogged my "terfs go straight to hell" picture with a transphobic image. and i appreciate it, i think more people should report then.

however, two issues

1. they included the fucking image fucking why would you do that

2. they're obviously namesearching

ʇᴉnsʇɥƃᴉlɹɐʇspɹɐʍʎɐʍ

that's the blog you should be reporting, just look at it upside down. unless you need to confirm their transphobia, don't scroll too far on their blog.

and don't send hate or anything. they seem to get off on it, when what they really need is to get off the platform.

this is not a callout post, at best this is a response post. again they don't need attention, they need to lose their blog so they can't spout their garbage. i realize i have no following, but it's be appreciated if those who did see this reported the blog mentioned earlier in the post for hate speech.

[walnutbun]

This is something that really isn't focused on enough: if the mere existence of someone else in public is making you uncomfortable, the solution is not for them to leave - it's for *you* to leave. If you're made uncomfortable to the point that you feel someone needs to leave by someone simply using the bathroom stall next to you, first off, you need therapy, and second off, the person who needs to leave is *you*.

Obviously the scenario changes if the hypothetical other person is doing something creepy directed towards you (or others) - staring, following, recording, etc. - but in the absence of that, if they're just minding their own business (as the vast majority of fucking everyone does, including trans people), the solution to you feeling uncomfortable is for you to remove yourself from the situation.

This also ties in with the extreme generalizations TERFs like to use against trans people, insinuating that all trans women are rapists and pedophiles because a handful of rapists and pedophiles happen to ID as trans (whether genuinely or not). First, that's a generalization. Second, nobody wants to stop people who do shit like that from being prosecuted and removed from public spaces if they're committing crimes.

I used to see a lot of TERFs on Xitter try to claim that rapists would ID as women to get out of rape charges - which, at least in the UK, holds a tiny bit of water thanks to their insane legal definition of rape. That said, that is not the fault of trans women - that is the fault of the legal system defining rape as "Person A (with penis) puts his penis in the vagina, butt, or mouth of Person B without their consent".

Hi, I saw one of your latest posts talking about the gender "segregation" where you state that women's only spaces shouldn't exist. So, if that was actually real, do you think me, a cis lesbian woman, should I be using a changing room or a bathroom used also by people with penises?

I would feel very uncomfortable being naked near someone who is biologically a male and I have the right to say no, no matter how they react, cis women's feelings matter too and nobody can tell me when I should be uncomfortable, same thing goes for sports, cis women could get physically hurt if a biological male played against them and this had already happened in a school in the US.

This more confirms how you far left activists don't care about us

I do not care about people's disgust when it comes to means of segregation. Do you think that during the 1960s there was no white person who felt uncomfortable sharing a bathroom with someone with dark skin when desegregation hit bathrooms and locker rooms? Do you think there's no white person who feels that way now (hell, a big reason American suberbs are a thing is that it allows white people to live in white only places post civil rights laws)?

How is your desire to feel comfortable through segregation any diffrent? There is a group you feel uncomfortable with in a space so you want it segregated, I suggest you either not use that space or find a way to be more comfortable. Society may have a responsibility for you to be safe, but there is no responsibility for you to feel safe.

And do you think nobody wants to be segregated away from you? You're literally a queer person, there are people who do not want you in public because of the exact same uncomfortablity with you. You probably have way more in common with trans people than most cis people do. If many people were allowed to remove what makes them uncomfortable from society, you would be forced into the closet. This isn't a hypothetical, the same people pushing for removal of trans people from society have same sex relationships as their next target.

Uncomfortablity is not something society can or should protect you from.

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I've been seeing a ton of "ooo what if MEN got pregnant?? Wouldn't that be scary?? Its like revenge 😈" scenes from movies lately (obviously in response to Roe V Wade). As a transmasc person I find these scenes just kind of ridiculous.

Like I'm sure to an uneducated (*cough* or transphobic *cough) person the idea of a man giving birth is scary or horrifying.

But like. It's not breaking news. Men literally give birth all the fucking time. I know two men who have- one who did it more than once! And so these scenes are just really silly to me because they basically REQUIRE you not to acknowledge trans men as real in order to find the horror entertaining. I see them and I'm just constantly pointing to the trans men and going "I feel like you're being just a little overdramatic about this because you don't want to actually address the relationship between men and pregnancy"

Cis Men are raised to believe that everything is property, including other people- and, most importantly, they're raised to believe that anything they have a hand in is inherently theirs, no matter how little they actually put forth. It all ties back to being TAUGHT that if you are a man, you are "owed" everything you desire, no matter what. Let me stress this: THIS IS ALL *LEARNED* BEHAVIOR, IT IS NOT INHERENTLY NATURAL FOR MEN TO SEE OTHERS IN THIS WAY. (fuck off terfs, get your own post)

And sure, you can use pregnancy to show a "well what if it was you" scenario, but... Trans men already live this life. They already have to be dehumanized, be feminized, be talked down to, have their pain ignored. There are men, right now, who live the experiences these movies are painting as horror stories- they just aren't cis, so it's inconvenient for the disturbing gore porn filmmakers are trying to make.

Like...I want to see one of these "horror" stories actually focus on a trans man's struggle with pregnancy. Give me a gripping psychological thriller that forces the audience to question the relationship between childbearing and feminity, and confronts the real life horror that is being Transgender while needing medical help.

But no, they won't do it, because acknowledging those realities are 1000x more uncomfortable than any gory thing they put on screen.

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Get to know the blog:

So apparently my posts are something worth following for so I guess I'll do a bio and about me thing that definitely won't turn into a random ADHD ramble about shit

✨queer only safe space ✨

About me

I'm Feral, 19 and I never learnt how to read ✌️

^^ I'm leaving this up because I think it's hilarious but I'm 21 now

Living in the UK but not white

demisexual as fuck, preference for women but honestly I'm more interested in how we vibe than any gender. I tend to identify most with lesbian/sapphic labels because I feel most comfortable in this community.

fuck knows my gender either, I mostly present femme atm but I just identify as *all* I'd say I'm more nb/w or nb/nb & t4t but just in love with queer people in general. I am a girl but I'm also a boy, I'm not cis. You aren't straight if you're attracted to me

completely and utterly in love, poly or relationship anarchy

-Dni and more under than the cut-

DNI:

I'm saying this now, I love y'all but minors please get off my page *respectfully*. This includes blank blogs without your age/ age range

Cis men-Age regressors-People who fetishise trans people, s*ssies and cross dressers-Gender/sexuality correction-terfs/homophobes etc-

Oh and PSA this fucking includes people who gatekeep LGBT labels, including but not limited to hating on butch lesbians who transition, nb&he/him lesbians. Just honestly if you aren't accepting of the ✨ENTIRE✨ LGBT+ community and how people choose to identify please leave. No buts no ifs no maybes

How to give attention:

Asks are completely okay, if you want to talk through anon regularly pick an emote and I'll be sure to tag it so they're easy to find. Flirt with me or ask questions, just keep it within my limits please.

Requests are also totally okay along with reblogs of any of my posts. They're always appreciated!

Unless we've interacted before please don't randomly DM me. Mutuals are obviously always welcome to chat, for non moots I prefer asks to start off with

I tend to check out profiles that reblog/follow so if you want to be moots then that's the way to go

I can't believe I have to say this, but if you're only messaging me to sext or roleplay or whatever you call it you can leave. It makes me uncomfortable, and will most likely make me feel weird about talking to you again in the future. I'm happy to flirt but unless we've talked about our limits etc please don't message me with that intention

Safe words and talks about boundaries and limits are non negotiable in kink. If you're not respectful of that you're not a dom, if you don't have complete understanding of how this works and expect to engage in anything sexual with someone without doing proper preparation you're practicing unsafe and frankly dangerous kink. Kink is something serious and you need to know what you're doing

I'm demisexual, with a partner and require actual communication before I engage in anything other than flirting. If you're literally only talking to me bc I'm hot or for sex n stuff you're going to be disappointed because im not either, let's be honest here

I also have a shit tonne of anxiety, so if I don't reply please don't take it personally

About ✨whore✨me:

I'm a sub mostly, total bottom and complete mess irl. thought I was ace for the longest time and basically innocent af (I mean significantly less as of v recently but still fairly shy). Also kinda a hermit so I'm very touch starved.

Short long summary of my kinks.. To be continued..

- Praise and nicknames, specifically cute ones that start with "my"

- Exhibitionism Mostly being uh, fucked in front of people and stuff

- hands and fingersJust god, everything to do with them. In my mouth? Yes, Pulling my hair? Yesss, choking me?? Yesssssssss, hurting tf out of me?? Please

- being manhandled, strength, just be stronger than me and throw me around pls&ty

- being a simp for me and letting me get away with pretty much anything?? Yes

- being controlled and posessiveness Like a lot, like probably more than a healthy amount

- being teased, constantly

- marks.. Just fucking marks feeling owned and having proof of it with collars and stuff

- and also pain, pain and more pain all the hard kinks

- voices, dirty talk, the way they beg, and moan, and call me a good girl, the way their voice drops when they tease me. Everything about voices

- corruption.. 👀 😤

- being free use, letting friends fuuck me, being a whore for everyone. Them sharing my nudes with their friends, them letting their friends fuck me? Yes please

- affectionate domination / soft doms but rough sex

- most of this is just the long way of saying I have a massive kink for my pretty ass girlfriend though.. Just everything about them.. Mostly their hands, and their voice and uh.. Yeah just them

Limits:

-degradation, any way shape or form,I'll most definitely cry. Acting like you don't like me, hurt me because you love me not because you think I'm worthless

- Ddlg and that kind of vibe aren't for me

- I don't quite know how to explain it but the strict af, black suit and tie, academy / high protocol/training style/straight people bdsm. It's just way too nonpersonal for me and not fun

- discipline, punishments and other things that make me think you hate me (see: I'm a big ass baby and sensitive af)

- refering to my uhh *anatomy* just uh it gives me dysphoria like a lot so please don't

- body fluid stuff, incest, feet, tickling, hypnosis

- other things that I'm not perticularly comfortable talking about here, you don't need to know unless we're talking

Tags I use:

Yes I'm insanely bad at tagging things, yes I'm trying, no it's not working. If I forget to, just get mad at me in asks or something. I'm sorry ADHD just kind of does that

#feral asks - all asks that I've answered

#feral music - music recommendations because I have a god complex about music

#feral in love - direct posts about /wife/partner/Dom

#feral tmi - random personal shit about myself and figuring out my body

#feral reblogs - stuff I reblog, I have a separate account where I keep most of my reblogs but sometimes I can't help it

#needy feral - me begging for attention on Tumblr

#feral exposed - photos of me

#tw feral - depressing shit, mute the tag if you don't want to see that shit

#dark feral - hard kink shit, mute if you'd rather not see it

#feral complaints - shit that bothers me

#feral blogs - thoughts, updates and questions for you all about the blog