#The Compound Effect

[womanlalaboy]

Read More and Give Back with BooKey

Due to the nature of my current job in education and the fact that I live on my own, it has become increasingly difficult to find time to read books. I used to read a lot when I was living with my parents and working in the BPO industry, but now even when I try, it takes me a month just to finish one book. I've tried listening to podcasts while doing chores, but I feel excluded from the conversation. I've also tried audiobooks, but they tend to be slow and they lack emotion. Then, I discovered a mobile application called BooKey.

BooKey is designed to help people read more by offering book summaries, similar to Blinkist. The summaries are concise, capturing the key takeaways from each book and allowing users to quickly and easily digest the information without having to read the entire book. Users can choose to read the summary, browse the mind map, or listen to the summaries. The audio format typically takes only 23-30 minutes. This allows me to listen to multiple BooKeys during commute and while I do household chores.

Bookey's product design and commitment to promoting reading have earned them several recognitions, including "Most Promising Education Innovation" at the Bett Asia Awards, the "Outstanding Mobile Reading App" award at the China Digital Reading Innovation Forum, and a place on HolonIQ's list of "Top 50 EdTech Companies in the World." But what really caught my attention was their 21-Day challenge. Once a user finishes 21 days of reading any book for at least 5 minutes, the user gets to donate a book to children in Africa. This is a great way to motivate myself to read more while also giving back.

Most of BooKey's featured books are on self-improvement which was nice because I am obsessed with Atomic Habits. Through this app, I found a way to unlock related books and understand the key concepts behind them. These self-help books are often written by experts in their respective fields who have conducted extensive research and/or have personal experience with the topic they are discussing. They provide readers with practical advice, tools, and strategies that can be implemented in their daily lives to improve their personal and professional growth. Some of the ones I've read so far are as follows:

I am no stranger to digital tools that offer rewards for continued use. GCash, for example, has their GForest initiative, which has led me to plant four trees virtually (as of checking, they've already been physically planted). This approach has been effective in helping me establish habits, whether it's making paperless transactions or reading more books. Digital tools like BooKey also make it easy to track my progress and stay accountable, which is key to building habits (pun intended).

These models not only work but also inspire. With each tree planted, I know I am helping to promote sustainability. With each book donated, I know I am helping to promote literacy, education, and lifelong learning.

BooKey overall is a great tool for anyone looking to read more books and improve themselves. With its concise summaries and commitment to promoting reading, the app makes it easy to save time and get the most important insights from each book. And with the 21-Day Challenge, you can establish a habit of reading and give back to the community at the same time. So why not give BooKey a try and start establishing a healthy habit today?

[abhijeetblogs]

Motivational books

Here are top 10 best-selling motivational books in English which will help you to make strong thinking in your mind and help you to do something for your parents or your life. Motivational books inspire readers to reach their goals. They often share life lessons, success strategies, and mindset changes through real life stories.

Motivational books to read

Some self motivation books names are given below-

How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie

Atomic Habits by James Clear

The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy

The Mountain Is You by Brianna Wiest

The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy

The Psychology of Money by Morgan Housel

Life's Amazing Secrets by Gaur Gopal Das

Ikigai by Francesc Miralles and Hector Garcia

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Think And Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

[dawiebe]

Get on the Positive Upward Exponential Curve

Nothing is accomplished in a day. We don’t go to the gym one day and expect to have six-pack abs tomorrow. Yet, as artists, we still underestimate the value of consistency in achieving our goals. Successful people track everything they do. So, they’re not deluded about the time, energy, or money they’ve put into anything. They know their numbers through and through. Because they understand one…

[mosqitofood]

The compound effect by darren hardy (there's a lot of editing mistakes in here LOOL)

[dykedvonte]

You ever just see a Mouthwashing take that makes you want to bang your head into a wall? I literally just saw someone claim Curly couldn't have been emotionally abused by Jimmy before the crash because he was in a higher position of power than Jimmy.

-Shrimp Anon

The mouthwashing fandom has shown me that people genuinely do believe that certain types of abuse are not as detrimental as other types especially when they deem those immune/resistant, ergo, believing one is objectively worse no matter how it affects the person nor the intersections of power, history and dynamics at play.

Get ready cause this is a yap session:

Cause like it's heavily implied that Curly and Jimmy's friendship was toxic and abusive, pointedly in the direction of how Jimmy uses Curly's belief/comfort in him. Curly wasn't forced to enable Jimmy but he was emotional and mentally on edge around him in almost every scene in some way. Mental and emotional abuse are not contingent on what positions you have at work. Yeah, he's Jimmy's boss but he was Jimmy's friend first and it's like getting into Psych discussion to talk about how social power tends to overshadow any perceived organizational power in the human mind. People are concerned about their jobs ofc but they tend to hang onto and put more value/investment into their personal relationships, hence why there tends to be laws and restrictions around mixing the two.

I always see the sentiments that "Curly is a grown ass man", "Curly is bigger than Jimmy", "Curly is Jimmy's boss", "He just needed a backbone" as criticisms of Curly and while I do agree that on the surface level all of these to be true and viable ways Curly could've taken more control of the situation, I often look at the parallels of Anya and Curly as victims of Jimmy pre/post crash.

The way Jimmy talks to Anya post crash is how he talked to Curly in the pre-crash segments. It's hard to pin-point mainly because we know he hates and wants nothing to do with Anya compared to his contrary but similarly handled obsessions with Curly. It's a weird sort of "honey-moon" effect of abuse Jimmy does in terms of emotional and mental victimization. He is always horrid to Anya, always talking down or questioning her abilities and thoughts in a situation, this of course includes the harassment and assault. However, he has a moment of attempted gentleness/conditioning when he question her about the mouthwash when she's contemplating drinking it at the table. The key difference is he has no personal investment in Jimmy outside wanting nothing to do with him, meaning there is no sort of romanticized version of him that he can condition her off of. He knows this, hence, why he always reverts to trying to make her to scared to oppose him.

This sort of give and take of "kindness" doesn't work on her because she knows he is just doing it to take more from her than whatever he could possibly give but it reflects even the "softer" scenes between him and Curly where he always rewords or rephrases Curly's sentiments and concerns to sound more shallow. He is feigning a deeper understanding by reworking Curly's emotions into something bad and needing to be hidden. Everything is laced with envy and resentment, an outburst just around the corner, I mean he even slams the table in the birthday party scene, a tactic in emotional manipulation to set the victim on edge and cloud their ability to respond. Even if Curly knows Jimmy won't get physical in that moment, the physical actions is intended to make him back down in the confrontation in case it does. This is something that is just not person specific. It ingrains itself into how you interact with the world and life and it shows in major and minor ways with Curly.

Post-crash, the abusive nature is more in tandem to the physical victimization Anya went through and the stripping of voice and autonomy we see take place. Like the parasite in HFIM, Jimmy speaks for Curly most of the time and puts words in his mouth, similarly to how he takes Anya's plans as his own. He very commonly, with the both of them mind you, supplements the worst aspects of himself into them; pettiness, selfishness, lack of understanding... And tries to cover himself with their best qualities; kindness, planning, initiative, etc...

These parallel are just to say that positional power has little to do with if a person can be abused and how it can even be flipped to further the abuse. There is no doubt that Curly could've picked up on Jimmy's envy of his position hence another reason he never confronted him as a Captain but as a friend as doing so would immediately put Jimmy in a space to be confrontational/combative.

I think the disdain some people have when they talk about the heavily implied if not implicitly stated emotional/mental abuse Curly experienced being Jimmy's friend is when treating it as an excuse to why he didn't do more. I can understand that completely because it is not an excuse to why he didn't do more but is a very real reason people in his position in these scenarios can experience whether in the context of a work or social environment. However, I also think the way people talk about it really does demonstrate a bigger problem when talking about abuse when somehow who is/was abused is either part of the issue or enabled it.

Harkening back to the sentiments about Curly's inaction regarding Jimmy, I think the exact phrases I used/have seen show how there is an inherent belief that it is easier to overpower the effects of emotional/mental abuse that go in tandem with the perception of Curly as someone who should be able to. There is not an age you suddenly stop being susceptible to abuse nor a set point or low where you realize how it has affected you. You don't suddenly know to stand up or put a face on to face your abuser nor admit that you inadvertently enabled them to subjugate someone else to the same treatment. Maybe it's my psych brain but their is this growing belief that direct action is somehow easy or always the best method with the game shows you instances where it is not always the case. In real life that rings true too. He should have done more, but it's not impossible to see why he struggled to find a way or didn't even if it makes us mad.

It's not easy to suddenly gain a "back-bone". You don't immediately want to resort to aggression, especially if it mirrors the type you were a victim to. You don't want to believe you allowed yourself to be treated this bad, let it get that bad or allowed something bad to happen to someone else. It is easy to be in denial, to retreat to your thoughts or make excuses to avoid the painful truth. It's frustrating but in a way we know is relatable. It why we both hate and love Curly for it. We know we'd be better, we think we'd be better, we like to think we wouldn't falter in the same ways but it's always easier to say that from the outside looking in. It's easy to see what he was doing wrong because we are seeing it, not him, but the game really does make you picture what you would do if this was your raw reality and it's why this debate about Curly seems so never ending/contradictory. We can all say what we'd do but bottom line is that's much different when you're in the moment with all the emotions and human feelings attached.

I personally think Mouthwashing tackles the themes of rape culture, enabling, toxic masculinity, types of abuse and patriarchy in ways that are meant to deconstruct the typical straightforward views we mostly have of these concepts and how little subtilities of them are just as, if not more, detrimental than the overt/obvious parts. The game deals with the idea of little details and bigger picture in a way to show that sometimes the bigger picture is not the issue but the little details that make it up. It's why I have a personal dislike of depictions of Jimmy as the typical horrible person who would of course do something like this because the game is about noticing the little warning signs, the foreshadowing and foresight.

It's why I dislike the typical discussion of "bro code" and "boys will be boys" for the game because the game makes a point to avoid the standard depictions of such. It is about the type of men who still enable despite not condoning, agreeing or even perpetuating harmful beliefs because they can't see the little details or the ways it seeps into their everyday. The severity is not obvious to them as it was not obvious to Curly, Swansea or even Daisuke the way it was to a woman like Anya. There are little details about Jimmy that should ring alarms but if you are too naive like Daisuke, too distant like Swansea or too conditioned like Curly, they are just off markers.

There is 100% more constructive/concise ways to say "Curly was a victim of Jimmy's abuse on an emotional and mental aspect that clouded his judgements and perceptions in the scenario" while also critiquing on the side of "Curly still had a responsibility to protect Anya as a crew mate and Captain that he failed to do due to biases and stigma's he failed to surpass" without the weird condemnation people give him about should've knowing better than to let himself be manipulated by a person he considered a close, if not family/best-friend and had his own reasons to trust initially. Also stop being weird about victims of abuse in general with this fandom, like sorry not everyone has a like social epiphany the moment someone's nasty to them. People are treating it like you immediately know when you are in a toxic relationship immediately or comprehend when a person is actively dangerous and either it's your fault for not knowing how to leave/cut them off or you deserve it. Like the hypocrisy of people believing how certain fans treat the story reflect their irl views but not their own is crazy.

End statement is: I honestly don't even know man, I've been writing this too long and just like no man on that ship was perfect or really helped Anya when it mattered and I feel like pitting them against each other in discussion on who did the least or most or how it was justified sucks cause in the end Anya always did the most and best thing for herself.

[athina-blaine]

for my money, labru is head and shoulders above other ships involving them simply due to the unmatched yap potential, i imagine them feeding off each other's energy like they're slipstreaming in mario kart until they start going fast enough to break the sound barrier

[geodethecrow]

Lord help me I'm falling in love with my friends

[amazingspider-z]

a quick sketch page i like to call: what if eyes but fucked up ft. my continued saga of trying (and. ahem. not succeeding) of drawing fire

[reapersmarch]

remember what the dormouse said.

[softcuddledrone]

SOFTIE thinks that maybe being cuddled/held/grabbed in realspace while in VR would make its brain melt (good)

Who wants to help simulate the VR equivalent of SOFTIE being Handled by ghost hands

[kanerallels]

I have this unfortunate inability to post about the Wingfeather Saga whenever I read it. That said I'm trying to get better at it, so! I just finished rereading the first book and I am stricken by an undefinable need to either cry or create something

[drumlincountry]

Aaaaa one of my coworkers recommended me a plantposting instagram cause she knows I love botany and its all.....misinformation lmao

[redysetdare]

Blue fire is the hottest fire; averaging between 1,400°C and 1,650°C.

[journey-to-the-attic]

i need u to think abt lucifer and zhao (in the das in the devildom au) bringing IK to her first day of school idk!! lucifer packing her bag before she starts. zhao is probably a lil tears in eye (lucifer dosent cry until he gets home bc he sees a lil photo of IK and he has to excuse himself). idk just lucifer being IK’s dad and being referred to as such…idk….makes my heart go smdndmc

well!! i can always think MORE

i think lucifer would have to be restrained from just fully giving ik the magical equivalent of a taser just in case any of the other three year olds in her class attempt to kill her. if he can't be there to protect his little kid then the next best thing is a magical gun wielding his powers

he gets better over time, but then one day ik starts feeling poorly so they call zhao and lucifer is RICOCHETING off the walls out of worry (having a small daughter just brings out all completely different sides of him)

for his own peace of mind lucifer goes to pick her up and when the school secretary is like "ah so you're her father" he has a Moment because it's the first time someone else has referred to him as such and he's just like !!!!!! YES I AM (much more outwardly calmly of course)

(it makes zhao very emotional as well so once ik's busy playing with her uncles him and lucifer just have to like. sit and silently hold each other about it)

also on ik's first day at school lucifer spent like two hours sitting in his room like this

[hollowslantern]

if i could get memory leak recorded onto vhs I think I would become a crazy person. guy who doesn't know anything about technology

[dansidoon]

homie needs therapy.

there. I spoke the truth.

Bold of you to assume his emotional support Ryan won't patch that brain