#Thanks I was the eldest daughter

[popppyfur]

sometimes when i like characters thisssss much i like drawing unnecessarily complicated comics of them having a normal ass conversation

[oneshotgremlin]

Born to serve ✨cunt✨

Forced to serve the Eggman Empire 😔😔😔

[acrobattack]

throws fankids at you and runs

[serafimo]

Mama, the men she finds! The last one was so old, and he was bald!

Lara Pulver and Liv Andrusier portraying Golde and Tzeitel together in the Regent Park's Open Air Theatre production of Fiddler On The Roof. 🎥 — @mttztrading.

[kashilascorner]

for @queer-ragnelle May Day Parade. May 17-21: Grumpy Month of Kay {Seneschal Celebration}

I have been here since before you became yourself: a collection of Kays (and Arthurs)

Chulhwch and Olwen / Camelot (2011) ep. 1 / Vulgate Cycle: The Story of Merlin / La Morte D'Arthur (Sir Thomas Malory) / The Once and Future King, book 1 The Sword in the Stone (TH White) / Sir Kay's coat of arms / Matthew 16:19 / Under cover of darkness (The Strokes) / Arthur of the Britons (1972) ep. 3 / Vulgate Cycle / Camelot (2011) / Icarus (The Crane Wives) / Idylls of the queen (Phyllis Ann Karr) / Hey Brother (Aviicii) / The High History of the Holy Graal (aka Perlesvaus), trans. Sebastian Evans / Camelot (2011) / Alliterative Morte Arthure, trans. Richard Scott-Robinson / Icarus (The Crane Wives)

[ibyul]

guys uhh small update I am now married 👍🏽💍✨

[celaenaeiln]

Okay, so I've been scouring your blog these past few days, and ughh, it feels so good to find someone who actually seems to understand who Dick is! His eldest daughter complex is something I relate to so much, and was the thing that really drew me in. A lot of people look at the mediation and emotional weight lifting, (and those are huge parts of it, don't get me wrong,) but something else I find very eldest child is the way his own relationship with Bruce has continued to take hits all so Bruce can have better relationships with the others. Like when you're the oldest your parents make so many more mistakes with you. I also can't help but feel like it's got to be so hard as Dick to look at the way Bruce is with Tim/Dami/Cass, and wish that he could have that kind of relationship with his Dad. They want to be jealous of the trust, think he's the golden child, and yet at the same time, he's wishing he had something more resembling the true parent/child relationship the others got. (Idk maybe I'm projecting, but oh lord I go absolutely feral for eldest daughter Dick, it just hurts so good)

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Yes! I'm so glad you brought that up!!

In terms of parenting, and why I don't really write about Bruce being a parent to Dick, is because Dick is kinda a guinea pig, as my engineering teacher put it once.

He was the Bruce's first for everything. First friend, first partner, first son - he just took responsibility for all roles. It makes things even worse because Bruce at the time he took in Dick, he had only been Batman for three years. Three. And he was literally drowning under the weight of the mask until he found Dick. There's a reason why Dick is Bruce's is right hand man and that's because Dick's been with him through everything. When Bruce was struggling and almost giving into his obsession, Dick was there to pull him out of it.

He quite literally mothered Bruce through his feelings, asking if everything was okay, what's wrong, watching him constantly and guaging his mood. This is exhausting work because Dick's mind was always on Bruce's mental state, much like a mother worried constantly about her teenage daughter or a father about his son.

That adoption scene where Dick asks Bruce, "why didn't you adopt me?" That's the realization of eldest daughter syndrome brought up.

Up until then, Dick was completely fine with being the caretaker for Bruce and lifting him up. He parented Bruce for so long and so smoothly, neither fully realized how much Dick was doing for him until he left. When Bruce adopts Jason, that's when Dick realizes there's something wrong with their dynamic.

I don't know if at that time Dick really wanted to be adopted or if he felt neglected because that he's wasn't while another was. But one thing he feels isn't jealousy, he's very clear on that, but Dick feels hurt.

Was there something he did wrong that caused Bruce to do that? What he do differently? What could he have done better? These types of questions constantly cloud his brain because he's gotten so used to taken care of his guardian for two decades now that he must feel hurt on some level even if he never expresses. He wouldn't begrudge his siblings because he feels happy Bruce isn't making the same mistakes to them that he did with Dick but at the same time, it's just exhausting for him.

Bruce might have improved but he isn't the best, so now he's busy taking care of both his brothers and sisters and his father. He also has to take care of his friends too.

He has the weight of the world on his shoulders but the worst part for him isn't the actual the weight - it's the realization that he's holding the weight. Because before he could live on in ignorance and bliss that Bruce was always going to be this way, and taking care of him would naturally just be Dick's job. He's so used to it, he's been doing it since he was eight.

But now, he knows what he's doing, he knows he's not supposed to, but he must. Because they rely on him, but also because that's what Bruce made him into. And I think that hurts the most for him.

He'll feel conflicted about it because on one hand, he loves Bruce. He loves him so much, he'll do anything for him. But also what about all those missed opportunities? Could he have been something different? Maybe he could've hung out with the Titans more if he didn't have to deal with bruce constantly demanding his presence. Maybe he could've joined a new class he never thought he would try.

Dick doesn't regret what he did and if he could go back in time, he would do it all over again but...he probably feels melancholic again. To love a parent so much you sacrifice your happiness over and over again so they can be happy while you're forced to grow up early. Dick's personality itself just lends itself to helping others but constantly taking care of your parent?

He's happy but he feels helpless and sad so he stays silent about it all.

It's said that Eldest Daughter Syndrome can make women feel overburdened, stressed out, and constantly responsible for others.

More signs include having a strong sense of responsibility (leading the batfam and hero teams), feeling a need for control (him fighting for his independence against Bruce and fighting to take care of his own teams), carrying the heavy weight of parents' expectations (his entire monologue in Nightwing 1996 about his feelings towards Bruce), perfectionism (Roy grouching about Dick's perfectionist tendencies to Kori in Outsiders and Roy yelling at Batman for it in Batman Plus), struggling with same-age relationships (dating older), and feeling resentment towards family (his outsiders era was him just resenting Bruce in the beginning).

He's been parenting Bruce for so long he was forced to grow up prematurely. I mentioned in my compartmentalization post when Dick's parents have literally just died. And he's forcing himself to act happy because he doesn't want Bruce to feel guilty and upset about not catching their murderer yet. That's not a responsibility a child should have - pretending everything is fine so as not to worry their family. That's the role of a parent. He's taking parenting his own parent because his actual one is incapable of doing so.

But Bruce's greatest fear is that by taking in Dick, he deprived Dick of opportunities to shine. To live in the limelight. And Dick knows everything about Bruce, so he knows Bruce's worst fears. And for this reason, out of the love that he has in his heart, Dick will never tell Bruce if he's hurt him because this is directly connected to his worst fear.

And that hurts. Because vocally releasing anger and sorrow is cathartic but to have it build up silently inside and letting it sink beneath the waves each time is painful.

[justaz]

immovable object that is my structured thinking that insists on making every fic i write as close to canon as possible vs unstoppable force that is my desire to push every headcanon i have into my writings regardless of whether or not it has a basis in canon

[figzagreus]

zapping zag & mel with the wasian beam

[seygay]

Do you think Perospero and Compote (Big Mom's eldest two) did their best to be there for their younger siblings until it just grew too many

[introspectivememories]

i've been reading a lotta todofam fics recently and i think you guys give fuyumi too much shit for wanting a happy family. she's not delusional or blind or anything like that. she's just an abused girl who wants some semblance of a normal family. which is fine!!!! not once in canon does she ever tell natsu or shou that their feelings aren't valid or that they need to forgive enji. all she ever says is, hey. he says he's changing. can you please be civil with him natsu? also, from what i understand about canon, it's not like enji was beating the shit out of his children the minute they came out of the womb??? he was okay-ish those first few years and it's more than likely that fuyumi remembers that enji!!! natsu probably doesn't have any memories of that enji. of course, she wants a happy family. she remembers when enji was okay-ish!!! like do you think she doesn't know about the abuse????? she's the only sibling who still lives in that house!!!! she was there for all of shouto's abuse!!!! all this to say, if you even look at my girl wrong, i will stomp you to death with my hooves.

[cillyscribbles]

Just want to let you know that I appreciate your public crisis due to your attraction to the rum tum tugger

THANK YOU very much it was actually my public crisis due to my attraction to his cringefail wet meow meow looking older brother but i stand in support of anyone who's ever had these feelings toward tugger as well. we should form like a support group

[rush-the-stars]

hey uh…c-could you tell us more about getou x eldest daughter reader once you get the chance? please? when you’re free? <3

yes. of course i will. OF COURSE I WILL.

getou likes eldest daughters for a variety of reasons but i think one of the biggest ones is the idea of taming and taking care of someone who is very independent and typically accustomed to taking care of everyone else around them.

i think he wants to be the one responsible for them.

i’ve talked about it before but i think getou is like…a very warped caretaker type. and i think he likes flustering you and rendering you disarmed and embarrassed. and often for eldest daughters it’s like…frustrating and embarrassing and disarming to have someone overbearingly care for them and be responsible for them in the way they are for others.

so like just taking care of an eldest daughter!reader flusters and confuses her enough to have him obsessed in my mind ://

i think also bonus points if she has any sort of an attitude.

i think he sorta has this mentality of like.

you poor thing—look how sharp you’ve had to make your claws. look how hardened and responsible you’ve had to become. look how tired you are.

i think he also likes the idea of convincing you to Snap. go Off The Rails lol.

this is all…generalizing eldest daughters and honestly taking from My Own Personal Mind and Personality but. it is a very precious dynamic to me regardless <33

[itsjaywalkers]

OKAY SO i watched 3 eps of the bear so far and i'm LOVING it, i literally can feel my brain chemistry being altered as i watch

anyways i will be liveblogging the whole thing just for ino <3 for now i will say that carmy is a wet rag of a man and i Need him, every time richie opens his mouth my mind goes straight to tarte tatin barty, and sydney is my fav and i'm in love with her

(also this show has already punched me in the gut too many times in only 3 eps, i just know it's gonna destroy me emotionally, also i can't stop thinking about michael's letter to carmy I NEED HIM TO FIND IT ALREADY I'M TOO NOSY FOR THIS SHIT)

[kaurwreck]

is there any creature more stupid for having been both so spoiled and so abandoned than the eldest son.

[daddyjackfrost]

being kind takes so much effort. sometimes i wish i could be anything but kind. bur fruit tastes sweeter when i am