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dude it’s a 3/4/4/3/4 tf else would it be
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i don’t even know what this says but i know for sure it’s a rickroll
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Sometimes it feels like everyone around me is speaking in a secret language and I'm the only one who doesn't know it.
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God made me this way because he knew I'd be too powerful if I had social skills
#social skills#social anxiety#shy#introverted#infp#autism#autistic#social cues#charisma#audh#actually neurodivergent
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One of the reasons I believed I couldn’t be autistic for so long was due to a fundamental misunderstanding of my social struggles. This being that I am not by any means incapable of memorizing social rules. Through observation and direction I can construct a broad framework of ‘socially acceptable or not.’ For example, I’m well aware that making physical contact with someone without consent isn’t acceptable. Or that stating blunt facts in a way that implicates someone negatively isn’t allowed. I know to avoid interrupting others if they’re already talking, to not walk away when I’m in the middle of a conversation. Crying, being unusually quiet and frowning indicates sadness. Someone smiling at laughing at what you’re saying means they probably are enjoying their time with you. An increase in speaking volume indicates excitement- either positive or negative. Sarcasm is often indicated by someone saying something absurd that you know they would never say, or you know to be factually wrong.
The fact that I had learned these broad rules made me think autism wasn’t a possibility for me. But being autistic doesn’t stop you from obtaining and applying information. (I mean that’s why so many interventions that ‘treat’ autism do result in the autistic person being able to pass as neurotypical.)
The difference comes from lacking the subconscious nuances and exceptions that come with those broader rules. For example- when is it okay to actually be honest? Some people will not be bothered by physical intimacy- but how would I know this? How can you tell if a group wants you to join in with their conversation? How to tell if this person is smiling and laughing politely or genuinely? How to tell if someone who you know very little about is being sarcastic?
There are not direct, easy to apply ‘rules’ for this, and yet clearly there are ‘right’ options. When the appropriate reaction must be determined by subtle body language or small shifts in tone of voice, ones that are near impossible to teach- I become completely lost.
That’s something I always find lacking with the general social skills advice given. It’s helpful to a point, but the truth is everyone is an individual. People express themselves differently, and react to your same actions differently due to past circumstances or temperaments. There is no one set of rules you can use for everyone, unfortunately. The majority of neurotypicals, while of course having miscommunications and the like, can rely on their subconscious to parse out any subtle changes they might need to make to their demeanor for a particular situation. My brain is much less adept at focusing down broader experience/rules into unique circumstances. (This is actually something that extends past social cues for me and I might make another post talking about it because I think it’s interesting)
Anyway rant over but yeah this was a huge mental barrier to seeking out a diagnosis for a while because at some level I ( ironically enough) took struggling to understand social cues too literally…
#actually autistic#autism#neurodivergent#neurodiversity#autistic#autistic things#autistic traits#autistic thoughts#low support needs#LSN autistic#social cues#socializing#social skills#asd#neurodivergence#autistic experiences#autism spectrum
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[text: this user struggles to understand social cues]
feel free to reblog/download and use on your profile but keep my username visible ty! :)
#userboxes#this user#this user is#userbox#this user likes#neurodiverse#actually neurodiverse#neurodiverse stuff#neurodivergent#neurodiversity#possibly autistic#autistic things#autistic#actually autistic#autism#audhd#adhd#adhd things#social anxiety#social cues#anxitey#art by ellis
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Screenshot of tweet from ellie middleton (user id: @/@elliemidds) here :
‘one part of being autistic that i never really see spoken about is the loneliness that comes with not being able to read social cues - always feeling out of the loop, like you’re missing something and as though you’re the one that’s kept out of an inside joke’
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PERSONAL EXPERIENCES:
Naturally a direct/straightforward person, regardless of how trained I am to be ‘pleasant’ in social events as I have been socialised as cis woman AND YET STILL being seen as rude when I forgot that my straightforwardness isn’t appreciated / can easily be misconstrued as conceited
Tried to approach people with humour, but is rarely received well and often fell sideway awkwardly compared to neuroconforming colleagues
Still miss any social cues expected in any occasions if they are not directly communicated or laid out before the event + easily become the cause of disappointment, misunderstanding and resentment in others (for being different and for wanting to do things differently).
By the end of the day, I am still autistic. I am still disabled by my ‘autism’ even if I understand sociology perfectly theoretically and script myself perfectly before any events. I would continue to feel lonely when I am continuously expected to neuro-conform AND then punished for missing what I am unable to identify.
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There’s a little interaction between Stede, Olu and Zheng in 203 just prior to the Revenge reappearance. It doesn’t propel the narrative, but rather presents an aspect of Stede’s characterisation. It goes like this:
Olu to Stede: Yeah, the Captain’s [Zheng] got a bit of a packed schedj, mate…
Stede: I’m sure she does (picks up abacus). This is weird, isn’t it? Musical (shakes it).
And this little scene just makes me cry. Stede just does not have the social skills to understand the nuance here, and therefore does not follow up with expected behaviour i.e. leaving! And as someone who is probably a little neurospicy, I might’ve done something similar. Continued to hang around. Probably have played with the abacus too…
It’s such a small scene, but it tells us so much about Stede’s neurodiversity* and lack of understanding of social cues. But he’s also amazingly empathetic and intuitive when it comes to Ed; gets things so right in the 204 couch scene and the 205 YWFTW hand-hold. He also cares deeply for the crew, and is often shown to be the emotionally intelligent character in a situation. He’s so layered and complex. I just want to shout from the rooftops how amazing he is.
He doesn’t always understand social typicality. But Stede Bonnet helped me forgive myself for thinking I ever did anything wrong.**
*If you don’t read Stede as neurodiverse, I’m happy for you. But please don’t come and ‘correct me’. I’m not interested ** I’ve done many things wrong, just not these things
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I complement people a lot. Because I like making them feel good. Because their hair is cool. And because I know what their response will be. complimenting is good. People smile. People think “yay!”. It’s perfect. No one can challenge it. It’s true and correct. It’s kind. It makes sense.
but I also apologize a lot. Because I know how people react to that. Because I know that if you apologize, usually, it fixes at least a little bit. Apologizing is never bad. It works.
I just wish the whole world followed these rules.
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I was talking with my therapist about how I hadn’t realized as a kid that other kids would hang out outside of school for no reason. I thought birthday parties and school projects were the only reason to ever see anyone outside of school. Like you go to each other’s houses? Just because? To “hang out”???
I thought that was just something that teen movies made up
#in my defense#I was very involved in extracurriculars#so I did see a lot of kids a lot#and I assumed that made us friends#bonus points to anyone who can guess WHEN I finally figured it out#neurodiversity#neurodivergent#social cues#actually neurodiverse#autistic things#asd#neurospicy#actually autistic#autistic adult#autism
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autism culture is being so in tune to social cues that you would never consider you’re autistic until you find yourself having a meltdown because you couldn’t keep up with everyone cues.
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#what is with all these confessions being so relatable???#autism culture#autism#autism spectrum disorder#autistic#neurodivergent#neurodiversity#actually autistic#asd#autistic things#nd#social cues#autistic meltdown#meltdown
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She’s actually kind of teaching Tech comfort and to let down his walls. Like showing more emotion and being affectionate, also by physical touch being ok and a part of bonding. (Social Cues.)
#tech bad batch#tech tbb#tbb tech#tech#tech the bad batch#the bad batch spoilers#the bad batch#the bad batch omega#the bad batch phee#phee tbb#phee#tech is learning#social cues#tbh#smart tech#he so cute#tbb spoilers#spoilers#starwars spoilers
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Inktober day 1 - campfire
#my art#ocs#original characters#my ocs#friend grp server made a list so im following that💪#the official one is kinda ass#why is it travel themed#like where are we going 😭#the rhinoceros prompt made me lol#anyway i think i added too many shadows here but o well it#it took me about 3 hours#3 hours too long#inktober#lee#sundae#alden#emerson#umi#christon#adele#social cues
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People I follow keep posting shitty takes so here’s your friendly reminder that a lot of autistic people actually do have communication DEFICITS and it will take us years to learn social cues if we ever do at all.
I can rarely read faces, an allistic person CHOOSING not to communicate with me directly is actually not an asshole move on my part for ‘not learning social cues’. They should put in some damn effort.
And you aren’t one of the ‘good autistics’ for telling people who struggle more than you to just try harder btw.
This also doesn’t change if you’re a grown adult. You don’t magically become less disabled when you get older.
#actually autistic#autism#low support needs#because yeah majority of us LSN are disabled too#disabled#social cues#communication#at least cats are honest about the things they feel#cats better than all of y’all
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It’s really hard for me to tell if someone is mad at me or not. If someone changes the way they interact with me for any reason- even if it’s completely unrelated to me, my first assumption is going to be that they’re upset. And this stresses me out super badly because I don’t know what I did. If I did something to hurt you I want to be confronted with it right away, because chances are it wasn’t intentional. I don’t want that shit to fester.
So this fear means I’ll interpret pretty much anything as being upset with me, especially if I feel like I might have said something stupid recently. I’m overly sensitive to any shifts in socialization , but I’m not able to parse what these changes mean. All I can do is ask “are you mad at me?” To seek reassurance, but I know that’s also not a complete solution. People don’t like it when you constantly pester them about how they’re feeling about you.
#actually autistic#neurodivergent#autistic#autism#social cues#socializing#neurodiversity#autistic things#autistic experiences
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this is how interpreting social cues feels
#svsss#mxtx svsss#scum villian self saving system#scum villain#scumbag system#scumbag self saving system#scumbag villain#social cues
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